Do This and Your Long Distance Relationship Will Thrive | Relationship Theory

Are you in the middle or about to start a period of doing long distance with your partner? Are you worried communication will break down and the relationship is at risk of ending during this time? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they reveal exactly what you must do to ensure your long distance relationship not only survives, but thrives. They discuss the unique challenges you’ll face while doing long-distance, why communication is key, how to make your time together special, and how to give the gift they want.
SHOW NOTES:
Distance | Lisa and Tom discuss the unique challenges of long-distance relationships. [1:12]
Communicate | Lisa and Tom discuss how communicating your needs is key. [5:20]
Special | Tom and Lisa talk about making the time you have together be special. [7:28]
Giving | Tom and Lisa discuss why you should give the gift they want. [12:18]
QUOTES:
“When we were living apart at times for a month or two months, I just had to really, like - I would always think about you and write to you and write, just like, a lot, a lot, a lot to feel like I was talking to you, and to feel that connection, and to keep fanning those flames and that really worked…” [4:36]
“…give the gift that person wants, not the gift you would want.” [12:29]
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[@aarush2507]

Loved it. Most of the time couples loose spark in long distance relationship and things get boring quickly. Luckily we found a fun way to have new topics to talk about everyday, with a couple questions game - lovify. Thanks for giving such great insightful video :)

[@von-marieoliva4827]

Back after watching this almost 2 years ago when my partner and I began long distance because I still resonate so deeply with the advice. I identify a lot with Lisa’s POV so it’s great to hear Tom’s advice which helps me understand my partner a lot better, too. I love this channel!!

[@matthewwebb5070]

Me and my girl met through a penpal site while I was incarcerated. We’ve been a couple for about three years now and I’m out of prison. She’s from Scandinavia, 9 hr time difference. She came to visit for two and a half month. We had good times and bad times while she was here. She’s been back home for about 3 months now(In Svergie) and it’s even harder now to be away from her now that we’ve been physical…we text and FaceTime everyday. It’s hard , so hard, to trust and feel content. Long distance can really hurt , depending on how much your “in love”. If the true desire is there, to have a loyal , loving relationship, then it’s possible…but not w/o sacrifice and some suffering. Make sure your BOTH equally committed and loyal.

[@catcatoushki5279]

Went off on a tangent there eh? lol I do enjoy these topics because they are very relevant. Can you add a section for actionable tips? For example, while you answered the question “stay obsessed etc...” there really weren’t examples or actions we can take. I.e what does “stay obsessed” look like on both sides? Especially with today’s technology, it can also get too much right?

[@SolMex64]

Tom thank you , for expressing your feelings as a man on being apart that it hurts , I thot it was just me over emotional, thank you I am ok

[@LoveMoneySecretsTV]

I love you Lisa and Tom, you guys are so authentic and genuine and really from the heart. Thanks you for doing shows like this. I so appreciate it. And Tom you make so much sense to me. Lisa you are so profound. I always look forward to your shows.

[@user-ps4lc5xv5j]

How do u deal with negative thoughts, they kinda stay in ur mind and u don't want them there and its just irritating to have those thoughts

[@evelynaolaira2752]

ill try many times i wish i can find ,its my desire now to have before its too late,if im deserving to find

[@Srishtiiiiiiiiiii]

Great

[@Mmclark33]

I’m so confused, it says to this, a long distance relationship, but then nothing was talked about other than not asking if they want olives…

[@rowenagarcia7664]

I beleive in LDR as long both of you are honest and have faith in god nothing is imposible

[@evelynaolaira2752]

hello im 56 yrs old ,i dont know every relationship is not working,actually i have no experiences much when im young,so i feel hard to handle..im inlove quickly now at my age,there so many guys like me,but were have a month of two or more then suddenly he lost,

[@perbertilsson3241]

I give this 3 years

[@glam0r0us]

My sweetheart says he cant live without me. But he blocks me everyday when he leavess. Am i stupid? Im afraid hes living a double life. I wish someone could clue me in.

[@Jennifo007]

I’m in a long distance relationship. He lives 2 hours away from me. The last time was when he was trying to take me home but his van died. I haven’t seen him in like a month or two. He misses me a lot, he misses looking at me. I feel unsure of my feelings but I don’t know why. Maybe it’s the distance

[@saaddhillxn]

2 hours is nothing though? Maybe meet each other on the weekend?

[@Jennifo007]

@@saaddhillxn I work most weekends. It’s hard being in a long distance relationship. Like sometimes I question my feelings a lot but I don’t know why maybe it’s the distance

[@travelandtash]

Hahaha 🤣 you guys are awesome and cute. ☺️☺️

[@OfficalHoneySingh]

Hey

[@miguelcruz2682]

The only word I kept hearing from this guy was the word "LIKE" that's IT!!.🧐🤔😂🤣💥👊

[@l_p8242]

I’m heading for a 4+ year LDR Gonna be so tough but we are determined to make it work I think if your also heading for that make sure you guys are gonna see each other every other months whenever you can I’ll be in Switzerland and her in Netherlands Not too far but our unis are rlly strict on holidays but idk wish us luck 😅

[@nadineharrison751]

I feel you, going to do long distance now 9hrs apart but it’s not the first time and we’ve been together for 7years we will try to make this work , I hope yours works out 🙌just stay connected !

[@l_p8242]

@@nadineharrison751 congratulations for the 7 years! I’m sure no matter the distance you guys will make it if u managed to already do 7 years it’s meant to be Goodluck and thank you so much we got this ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@emilyabernethy2422]

Did anyone else notice how she listens so respectfully but unfortunately the guy is quite bad at interrupting.

[@maggiemeade580]

Me and my S.O. spend up to 3 months apart. And hes bad at communication. I def just turn it off and work on myself harder. The only thing thats helped is receiving a promise ring. I like the "slaying dragons" quote. ❤❤❤

[@andreamassaro6916]

Me and my partner play question card games

[@FINALLYOUTAFTER7]

6:30 it’s been 18 months since I’ve seen her. I deployed. Trust me.

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Gonsal- ves.

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[@adrianrobison]

He totally forgot her name in the intro 😂😂😂

[@pilaoist]

Hi guys, I'd like to ask - is porn cheating? Thank you both a ton for what you guys do.

[@JK-wj1es]

Yes, yes.

[@RatherFatJewishMan]

No

[@mbelazizi5952]

It depends on whether or not your partner is okay with it. If they are, then it's all good. If not, try to avoid it. But honesty & talking about it is key.

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Only if it's affecting your relationship.

[@TaviRenaeReveiws]

😂 🤣

[@PARTYManagementARG]

if you need to work on your "couple" after 20 years of relationship, then is a forced relationship. Forced relationships, are socially constructed, but not healthy, what drives people to be "working so much time" is deep fear to be alone, not real connection. Working on a forced couple, goes against individual development. Get free from forced couples, develop yourself, and correct partners will arrive.

[@SX-sv6vo]

Dating long distance? No. Let's be honest. We all need closeness...emotional and physical. The physical is the hardest. Especially for men. It's not ideal obviously and it's not worth it. If you are settled where you are with your job,family, and friends...it's best to find someone in town.

[@LoveMoneySecretsTV]

True, that is definitely ideal

[@charlesdial7152]

Women can do it for way longer than men because we need to be close, now if he had some friend with benefits until u can see the other girl when she is ready. U won't be all pressed for it

[@amremnant]

Watch 90 day fiancé. Some of these couples are mind-boggling, but inspiring.

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Speak for yourself

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