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A woman who recently learned her husband is cheating on her
A woman who’s ashamed of her behavior at a funeral
A man whose guilt is holding him back from committing to new relationships
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[@edithgarcelon5142]

Oh yes! When it gets quiet after the funeral. That's when you really appreciate the ones who reach out!

[@leahcompton2522]

Yes. Yes everything is going wrong and I can't fix it. I'm so very tired of trying. I'm so very tired of being tired.

[@brennanleyen]

You can do it. Rest and then keep trying.❤

[@michaeladove7337]

You can do it. You can make it. Keep going. God is there for you.

[@the1only17]

Yeah when you’re tired of being tired you know you’re in deep. Been there but keep pushing through the tiredness it will give way before you do.

[@nikkita1688]

Cast all your anxiety on God because he cares for you.

[@seminole111]

From *my* experience, THAT is when the heavy helps comes rushing in. It may not feel it now. It may not look it now. But it will. I lost both my parents in a year, my remaining sister to suicide between those two parents' death, lost two jobs because I couldn't appropriately grieve any of my losses, and add a beyond- rancid-divorce to tie it all up into one nasty heart-stomping package...and it spells, "I am D O N E." I came as close as close can be to permanently resolving my grief for good. My dog, my cat, and my God convinced me that was a bad plan. Grab on to the right kind of support. You will make it through this. I never thought I ever would. But I did. My heart and thoughts are with you.

[@andreaarias2085]

Went through my son's death by suicide, my brother 's death 9 days later, my sister 's death 10 days after that. My close friends have gotten together a few times. My community group and church helped amazingly. Afterwards I have experienced such lonliness panic attacks, claustrophobia, and overwhelming grief. Some people have immediately wanted to go out and eat, and do barbeques. The people I invested 13 years of my life in are for the most part nowhere to be seen. I am still invited weekly to group. But what I need and have needed was to be visited, and sat with. What ever happened to visiting the widow in her affliction?

[@Whosonthird]

I feel you ❤I also went through similar losses in quick succession. First a son 3 weeks later granddaughter then 4 parents within 1 years time..only we my immediate family remained in super tight closeness every single other family and friend continued on with their lives as was appropriate. But we “immediate” family were lucky that we had each other. Support groups are vital for those going through grief and loss. Sending you love and understanding 😘

[@confusedwhynot]

I feel your grief!! I have struggled in my grief alone for a long time. Feeling alone is the worst feeling. When the quiet sets in your grief becomes unbearable. It is so hard when you have no support group. You need a shoulder to cry on and yet you don't want to burden others.

[@DeeLee-p8c]

All my family died last year.

[@nnylasoR]

((((HUGS))))

[@blueseptember2174]

The ex-wife, who raises the kids and was devastated to her core, gets a ring side seat to him being an actual partner to someone else. 😢 As someone cheated on, we forgive to not stay stuck in the sadness, but we are never at "peace with the situation" as John said.

[@KarriSimone]

I am just bawling FOR HER.😢😢 LETS HOLD HER HAND IN SPIRIT.

[@autumnlange1220]

I absolutely love it when Delony has the high sing-song voice he adds in occasionally 😂

[@Whosonthird]

I was kinda okay with him sending out pictures of himself that he said no one would ever be wanting…just saying

[@butterflysandrainbows4444]

Put a recurring reminder on your calendar to check in on your grieving friend. Grieving never stops. It changes but never stops.

[@megalopolis2015]

Very True.

[@kellybalcer891]

Yes. Not just at the 6 months out but much much longer than that please

[@butterflysandrainbows4444]

Yes. 5 years ago Iost my son at 20. Regular check ins even after months or a year helps the griever.

[@wendyswift706]

A digital reminder is such a great idea!

[@wiscyhunter4597]

Thank you for telling the first caller it doesn’t have to end in divorce. It seemed she only saw 1 path, and I am not sure she really heard you say it, but I appreciate that you did.

[@anthill1510]

It`s pretty clear, that her husband didn`t "just" cheat, but lied and betrayed her far more than that and she said he continues to lie. I mean live with a partner like that if you want to, but I was very happy whe she said she wants a divorce. She sounded so numbed out, I had the urge to slap her out of it.

[@starlingswallow]

Kaylin, I am so sorry that your father is in validating your traumatic experience. It is one of the most heartbreaking things when a parent doesn't back you up and see the damage that even an emotional abusive affair can cause! I know this journey is going to be hard for you, but no, there are so many who understand what you're going through because we've been through it! my father kept working with my ex-husband after I left. I was severely abused during that marriage, 13 years! In my mind, I kept rationalizing the whole thing, the business was in my name, so my dad was continuing to work there to bring in funds for my ex, and for myself? it still hurt like hell! You have got to tell your dad how you feel and that by him supporting your ex, because that is what he is doing, it will severely affect your relationship with your dad.

[@bonniejw]

As someone who’s addicted spouse left after two decades of waiting for healing this was nice to hear. It’s something I don’t know if I could handle, if he finally healed and then gave the nice version of himself to someone else. It’s nice to hear that it registered with this man. Good for him. Facing guilt so openly shows he’s really done the hard work.

[@LordBass]

Some powerful calls here. Walking my own horrible grief walk and needed to hear today that I'm not alone. Peace and calm to you all.

[@megalopolis2015]

Much Love and many prayers to you. I'm going through it, too.

[@LordBass]

@@megalopolis2015 And the same for you. They say time makes it easier to cope. One foot in front of the other. 🦉🌙

[@blueseptember2174]

​@@LordBasshugs! I'm crying tonight. Thank you for your words.

[@joannlemancik9302]

J​@@LordBass

[@blueseptember2174]

Some wait till after kids to cheat because they think your stuck now and theyll take you back. Its disturbing how often it happens. Be sad, Kaylyn. You can be there for your kids while being depressed. I told my kids in an age appropriate way to help them get why i was so sad. "Daddy wanted to 'date' other women(like DJ dated on full house) and that is not right to mommy"

[@anthill1510]

I think that`s a good way to tell children.

[@amycoonce2134]

I think a better thing to say to the dads in these kinds of situations is, “when your daughters come to you, CHOOSE them.”

[@leslienelson438]

My husband of 40 years passed away and no family members ever followed up with me especially during Christmas which was 6 months after he passed away. My step son came down to spend Christmas with my brother in law who is about 15 miles from and never invited me. I was sad-real sad.

[@JacquelineEstrada-d3m]

Sounds like my ex in laws of 15 years when we broke up they gave two shots about our 3 kids When his mom passed away I was led by the holy spirit to go pray w his family who hated me the whole time, Do u know how hard that was I was like Lord!! Really??? He said yes really 😮 I know they felt lava on they're heads

[@juliaknight6544]

This woman I’m seeing this video I think six months after it’s airing I hope to God that things have changed for her. She sounds like she’s so passive and good hearted. She’ll take anything. She deserves much better than what she’s getting her husband‘s horses ass and her dad‘s a horses assfor not standing up for her shame on both of them for letting her down

[@sackettfamily4685]

I watching it delayed and he's completely right. The importance of being believed and validated after divulging sexual assault is crucial. My parents chose not to and as a result of their choices and beliefs, I can barely talk to them. I can only talk about light fluffy things. And I only have contact for my family and having a familiar place to go. My dad was openly sympathizing with my sexual predator. There's no coming back from that. Especially when I know the apologies are facades.

[@DorothyM45]

The caller that "got loud" at the wake, she obviously hasn't been to enough because wakes/funerals are a place people reunite. She will learn it's ok over time.

[@France149]

They have always been on a walk through hi/by basis of acknowledgement of immediate kin, too short of time 🙌 unsure if i can even remember speaking once, LFW with all with all the tears. I'm sad usually , remembering good times.... Well any/all services 🫥🤔 if I remember correctly on the few we have attended thus far , 😢🙏 Herewhere digital faster than ever, a nice email 📨 via online/apps or something like a sweet 🧁 telegram is individually personal and seemingly most effective request to receive or set 📆 events simply or basic coffee invites without over-pressuring and genuinely easy to accept/respond professionally 😊🙏📨💯 God bless your heart and condolences to you and your family dear. Happy holiday season 💟 💐

[@alienblackgoo_gle]

I agree somewhat, but this was in the visitation room with the deceased relative so I think that demands utmost silent respect for the deceased and respect for their relatives / close friends who are at the height of unbearable grief together with the build-up to the funeral after the loss of their loved one. After the funeral, when people gather for a drink and food, then the atmosphere relaxes somewhat and is expected to give way to a more social gathering and catch ups. If you imagine it was your close relative lying in a coffin before you say goodbye forever and guests were laughing.

[@harrietbaker4484]

Those stories at the end literally gave me chills! Stories are real people...I am speechless! Thanks for the reminder to be available to the nudge to say or do something or just be quietly present

[@nedawilmhoff3599]

Took the test and had yellow in all areas but green on freedom. There was a time when they would have been red. I’m getting into your book.

[@anonymoususer855]

Poor woman. You can hear the pain in her voice.

[@CHrisPetE056]

I don’t know if I have ever been “not anxious”. Even as a kid. Now I am just tired. Tired. Tired. As the time changed forward yesterday and this morning getting up for work…was a big, huge struggle. 😢😢

[@sp192x]

I hate cheaters with everything in my being. I hope they get exactly what they deserve.

[@maiaheiss2991]

Same here.

[@JacquelineEstrada-d3m]

Geez ur not bitter!!!!!😂

[@juliaknight6544]

I hear you I was cheated on for two years by my husband I had three children and the tramp he left me for ended up, leaving him and screwing his best friend to try and find a place to live these women/men whatever the situation they don’t stick around their disgusting pieces of trash and they will get what they deserve

[@maiaheiss2991]

Still invite her. Keep inviting her. And also drop by and bring her food or help her clean up, make sure she’s ok.

[@juliestevens0426]

Kaylin....you will still be processing the situation in 10 years!

[@blueseptember2174]

See,😅 i still need to do work on myself because all i heard was: They will get you pregnant 5 times and still treat the next one better.

[@megalopolis2015]

One day at a time. :0)

[@aprilwashington3150]

I think her dad is secretly cheating or has cheated and the husband knows it and the dad doesn't want to open that can of worms.That's why he hasn't fired the husband. It has nothing to do with the season of agriculture that the business is in. Or Maybe the dad knows his daughter will stay in the marriage (probably like her mom did), and for that reason there is no need to fire the husband. Just my 2 cents 😊

[@anthill1510]

That`s a possibility, for sure. But wanting to get the harvest in is a logical reason, too.

[@aprilwashington3150]

​@@anthill1510Agreed. I was just giving other reasons since harvesting wasn't a good enough reason for John. 😊

[@laurao8099]

That occurred to me as well

[@sirgalalot88]

I have a friend. Female. Lives in my country in the Caribbean. If I told you all her story over the last year every motivational speaker would simple shake their head. Every single thing just went wrong.

[@megalopolis2015]

So much tragedy and hardship these days. Praying for your friend, whatever they are going through.

[@rachelgooden9981]

This lady sounds numbed out.

[@catherineottilio3273]

adult brother x husband physical.violence lies stealing 15 years emotionally physically devestating trying protect reputation dying inside!

[@aaronbushue499]

Marry a lady with a bunch of farmland then cheat on her...talk about costing yourself millions

[@samarashumate1024]

I react with laughter at inappropriate times. If anyone else does too, I recommend the episode "Chuckles Bites the Dust" from The Mary Tyler Moore Show. It is great!

[@melanieb2132]

Oof.. man, from the position of the father.. finding this out in sept in the agricultural world is the worst possible timing! No time to find decent help at all.

[@flowersforme375]

Women go through a lot in relationships. How come the guy gets to have an 11 year affair, an escape from responsibilities and now that he’s caught wants to work it out? How unfair to everyone! I’m sure she wanted to have fun too for 11 years but they made a commitment.

[@lovingfailure]

Ah yes, good ol rumination. Or as it's known by it's brand name: Ruminol. Comes in 2.5mg, 5mg, and 10mg. It's always a tapering dose

[@IFBBProYeo]

27:55 omg stop being silly and call your friend. How is that so hard??? How is it even a question!! Just apologize & check on her! If you feel like you screwed up, which it does sound accidentally rude, apologize.

[@bilbobaggins4403]

Rumination is a mother

[@msjoby89]

The second call….do you really need to call a podcast to figure out if you need to apologize to a friend…..

[@aprilniedzwiedz9988]

Yes! From the moment I was born!

[@heatherkimler7607]

Yeah! Be nice

[@toomignon]

Dad is sketch. What’s he been up to?

[@nedawilmhoff3599]

The laughing in the back shouldn’t have happened the gathering would have better in a different room maybe. I always think this is better elsewhere.

[@blueseptember2174]

"Why hasnt your father thrown him out?" Um, john, how would he pay child support? They got three kids. Bills and groceries still need to be gotten. John, out of touch on how cheating works. Sometimes the cheater doesn't get their consequences till way after the victims mourning is done.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

The guy could go pick up a job at a grocery store or work for somewhere else agriculture because apparently it’s “busy season” so they should be hiring right? . How dare any father continue employing someone who cheated on his baby girl. Don’t excuse this behavior! It’s not even like the father wants to throw him out… he doesn’t believe his own daughter! 😡

[@blueseptember2174]

​@@flashthecorgi2053not excusing him at all. I've been the victim of this. If my ex had dropped a good job for a grocery store(yes his pay would suffer which he deserves) but his kids and wife would suffer financially more. For now, they are linked financially 😢

[@blueseptember2174]

​@@flashthecorgi2053we can only hope. If he can get an on par paying job then that would be good.

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@blueseptember2174​​⁠I didn’t just say grocery store. If it’s so “busy” in agriculture shouldn’t other people be hiring? My point is the dad should throw the husband out immediately and defend his baby girl and granddaughters not be all buddy buddy with a man who has zero integrity!

[@blueseptember2174]

​@@flashthecorgi2053I agree with the dad should be on his daughter side too.

[@Alisha-nl9qh]

I wish I could have said those words to Robin Williams.

[@DeeLee-p8c]

DR JOHN: Yes it has. Now whats yall houshold income?

[@jeradkiester698]

John is hilarious. Why would his father in law fire his son in law? That would take food out of his daughter's mouth and his grandchildren's mouth. What an emotional, knee jerk response.

[@elkforests]

From her saying the dad doesn't think it's cheating, you can tell he's not just keeping him around from the goodness of his heart. If the dad felt that he needs to help them out and their kids by providing money in exchange for services, he would have told the daughter.

[@jonbonart7191]

A) the guy can get another job. He's an adult who (clearly) can make his own choices. B) for a season, her dad could have financially supported her on some level... Of course that's only if he was a father who cared about and valued his daughter.

[@nedawilmhoff3599]

Her dad should be on her side but men think strangely. I’m sure though that her dad needs the help on the farm and not so easy to find a job in that area. He does need to support her and the girls. For me, it would be easier to work through it if there had not been physical contact.

[@kimberlysmith7625]

Why isn't she asking/ demanding her husband quit the family business and find another job? The last thing a troubled marriage needs is having extended family all up in your personal, private business.

[@blueseptember2174]

Cause John is not poor and had never been cheated on so he can't relate in a realistic way

[@jeradkiester698]

Cheating spouses are often driven that way. Doesn't make it right, but she stopped saying she loved her husband... when there's no love in your relationship, you can make a shocked pikachu face when they seek love elsewhere.

[@sfappetrupavelandrei]

Well in her defense she had 3 little girls to take care of. That is not easy at all. And I suspect that the dude didn't hurry up after work to help the wife with kids and house chores.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

It takes serious work and constant communication to keep a marriage exciting. I’d say it was less about her saying she loves him, and more about him wanting to feel attractive and special. The source is his own lack of confidence and insecurity. He can’t look in the mirror and feel good about himself. Probably in more than one way. Not her job.

[@jeradkiester698]

She doesn't take care of them alone. She still demands her husband come over at certain times to help with the kids. Having children is a reason for decreased love, but it isn't an excuse. Too many people use their spouse as a breeding means to their narcissistic end, yet refuse to cherish their partner once they get what they want. I hope he can find the love his soul craves.

[@megalopolis2015]

@@jeradkiester698 Cheating is a bigger deal than his insecurity. They needed to have deep and meaningful conversation and do the work to make their relationship better, but once one of them goes outside of the relationship, that makes it darn dear impossible, because the trust and intimacy is totally eroded.

[@jamieharknett9620]

My question is: did she deny him intimacy? And if so why is she shocked that he went elsewhere? It’s not excusable but it is understandable if that’s what happened?

[@ilovetosingx3]

I wasn’t my enemy God .

[@sammysue21]

That quiz was a at too long!! Is that ADHD?

[@megalopolis2015]

Could be. :0)

[@arikneuwirth3162]

John and team. Are you all going to address the war in Israel? Not politically related just to address the heartbreaking loss of innocent lives in Israel. There are many Jewish followers of the Ramsey network and I am certain it will be appreciated.

[@jamieharknett9620]

With the first caller.. honest question.. did you turn off the taps of intimacy with your husband? What did you do? Not saying what he did was right because people Need to communicate but John has to do better and ask those questions. A lot of times women aren’t as innocent as they make themselves out to be.

[@blueseptember2174]

P*rn is a big problem with men today. Feeds lust and chaos.

[@laurao8099]

I am pretty sure the reason why John did not mention that is because first of all she said they're on marriage counseling and second of all the lack of support that she has and third of all because really the time to be looking at what she did wrong if the husband was feeling like their relationship was lacking intimacy that was his responsibility to communicate that. The caller I did say that they have a little little one I'm not sure how young that is but definitely sounds like the child is at least infant may be even a newborn

[@bobreed414]

Stop taking pictures or videos and actually help someone