Doctor REACTS to Heartstopper #3 (Anorexia or OCD)

[@16poetisa]

I actually think that James knowing about aromanticism through a book character is a really good example of why representation matters so much!

[@efoxkitsune9493]

Great point!

[@MilesMilesCrocodiles]

Hahaha. Your eyes bulging at the pic of Jonathan Bailey was the most delightful moment of the whole video😅

[@lunatic5162]

every gay man`s dream man haha

[@Emma-LynnDavis]

Joe does a good job of representing OCD and Anorexia

[@rjcarter2904]

I think your analysis, as usual, is excellent. I've been a psychiatrist for 45 years and ran an eating disorders program for a few years early in my career. They're a challenging group of illnesses. You did a nice job analyzing Charlie's problems.

[@ellesaaltjejenneke5400]

I’d loved a series like this when I was a teenager, cheesy or not. I’m aroace and when I was a teenager (and part of my twenties) internet didn’t exist yet and tv had 3 channels. I had a gay teacher in primary school. He was out in the seventies, which I thought was normal, but really wasn’t at the time, and I knew about lesbians too, but asexuality wasn’t known or mentioned. I thought something was wrong with me and I felt really lonely. I didn’t understand the people around me, which affected my mental health. Yes, I do need connections just not romantic ones.❤

[@georgiesuffell]

Octopi? That's a jellyfish. (and they do reproduce asexually, yes!)

[@efoxkitsune9493]

God, this is too relatable. Honestly, if I had had Heartstopper when I was in high school, I might have dealt with my own issues a lot sooner and better. I'm so glad it exists for kids now. I was in Nick's position for most of my high school years (14-19 yo). I was like all of my friends' "therapist" - you know, that friend people confide in. Obviously, I wasn't equipped for any of it. At least three of my friends were having s•icidal thoughts, one also struggled with drugs, there was even a pregnancy at one point, self harm, and eventually a s•icide attempt... as well as other stuff. I held on to all of that for them, and I was paralyzed in this state of: do I betray their trust and tell someone (and who would I even tell?), or do I honour their wishes and keep it a secret as they made me promise...? It's an awful position to be in for anyone, let alone a teenager. Friends are everything at that age. You're so scared that betraying them will just make things worse for them, maybe they have horrible families and it would be hell for them if the family found out, and perhaps you know you're their only confidant and so you're terrified that if you betray their trust, they'll stop talking to even you, and thus lose even that last outlet/place of support, and then they'll be all on their own, which would make them so much more vulnerable... so you try to "save" them on your own... Which is obviously far outside of your competence. I think that's why it felt a bit iffy to me when Nick basically forbade Tao from talking to Charlie and asking him what was wrong. It felt like Nick taking all the responsibility upon himself and almost forcefully keeping it all for himself, if that makes sense (not in a malicious way, he meant well and was just trying to look out for Charlie, but there's also almost this feeling of: "you can't help him like I can, so better leave it to me and stay out of it", wasn't there...? Or maybe that's just my projection.). Idk if I'm explaining it well. But yeah. I honestly still don't think it was quite the right choice, tbh. Or at least, not one I'd make. If I was in Nick's place now, I would probably tell Tao something along the lines of: "You know, if you're worried about Charlie, I can't tell you _not_ to ask him about it. Just please be very gentle about it, and don't push. He has a really hard time talking about it, so please respect it if he doesn't want to. Just make sure you express to him how much you care about him and that you're just worried. And that you're there for him no matter what, whether he decides to tell you or not; and that you're there to listen in case he changes his mind." I feel like by holding onto it all alone, Nick is causing a ton more stress to himself - it's a really slippery slope, as described above. And he might even be unwittingly hurting Charlie by it, shielding him from other potential sources of support; he can't make that decision _for_ Charlie. He knows him pretty well, but Tao has also known him for far longer, and you never know, some things might just be easier to talk to a best friend about... It just felt wrong to sort of take that option away without Charlie's say. Again, I know there was no malice in it, just worry. Nick did the best he knew to do. But I just wanted to share my perspective. (Wow, I originally meant to make this comment about something else entirely, but here we go lol Guess this was more pressing)

[@amyseaden9069]

Agree that is the sanitized oversimplified version of an ED. Not shown is how treatment resistant ED sufferers can be, manipulations around especially around food but other things, etc. Like that parents are shown as clueless which is often the case. Literally had a family member tell me that EDs are not truly about food while we have been dealing with a family member with various forms of EDs over the past 30 years. I have been telling them that since year 1 when I was a teenager.

[@juliagans4067]

I’m so looking forward to seeing your reaction to episode 4. It is by far my favorite!

[@rubysmolen5155]

one of the hardest things to do when you have a mental health disorder is to have the courage to come clean to a loved one and ask for help and hope that that loved one will believe you and work on getting you help. Admitting to yourself alone that you need help can be so difficult but telling a loved one is just as scary and challenging- will this person actively listen to me and help me find the right supports without judgement or fear that they might think you are making a big deal out of nothing- and this is still very true when you have a good relationship with the person you are trying to confide in- they did a great job depicting the worry and hesitancy of coming clean

[@Callimachus33]

Octopus is Greek, not Latin. It literally means "Eight Legs". So the original plural would be "octopodes", but in English octopuses is most commonly used.

[@efoxkitsune9493]

...although it was in fact a jellyfish lol

[@mylittlepeonies8693]

I have not watched a single reaction to this season where people aren’t thirsting over Jonathan Bailey😂

[@sandramatras8345]

I also think maybe Charlie touching his arm like that could have something to do with his self harm. Wounds that are healing tend to itch.

[@Catherine25x]

Could you react to waterloo road and prestons ed?

[@vip7955]

I’m wondering for how many more videos we’ll get to see the not at all distracting (but certainly very interesting) white something on the otherwise very black turtleneck 👉🏼👈🏼

[@GirliestMammy]

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[@patrickkyteler5585]

Kit Connor said that episode 4 is his favorite because of the acting challenges. I know episodes 1-3 have been getting increasingly hard, but they are essential to understand the characters journey. This season is just so rich in story. Oh and yes, Jonathan Bailey, mmmmmm...

[@its19.19pmrightnow]

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