I spent a day with ASEXUALS

I spent a day with asexuals to learn the truth about this often overlooked sexual orientation.
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⚠️ NOTE: when it was written that the A in LGBTQAI+ stands for “ally”, it was meant to reflect what some people have assumed to represent “allies”, while many have corrected to stand for “asexuals”. this was not intended to segregate asexuals away from the LGBTQAI+ community. ORIGINAL POST: come back next week for *I spent a day with AUTISTIC PEOPLE* -- thank you so much for supporting me and this series :) luv, anthony padildo ps: shoutout to everyone who has turned on notifications 🔔 and directly support me in continuing this series.

[@dreaminq2389]

Alphabet people

[@ytminipokemon5660]

Love you❤

[@PinkpandaEdits]

Hi uwu👌👌

[@AnoxmoosOG]

Hi

[@AnoxmoosOG]

Spend a day with people that have OCD

[@goddesszorza]

The fact so many men tried to challenge the girls' consent. Ew.

[@rettasrandomuniverse7005]

Toxic masculinity being instilled in males who?

[@miamazingness]

so true!

[@pitycircle4599]

it happens a lot to me, too, I'm asexual myself. ppl like these are just gross - I'm glad anthony makes videos like these and spreads the word

[@inu3786]

I have one friend who is ace and she is constantly being pressured to have sex or relationship by some of her friends

[@waffleboi8147]

I’m lucky to be a male asexual. I don’t get pressured like some of the females do to have intercourse.

[@happykaeya]

"Asexuals: unlike the government, we wont screw you" Im dead 😂😂🤣

[@imribbit8850]

LunaPotato UwU ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@azimuth7421]

I mean, it's true

[@burntcheerio18]

I love it 😆

[@happykaeya]

@@burntcheerio18 hello fellow potato

[@unknown_bitch6734]

Technically the truth

[@toxicDEATHwish]

My favorite quote from another asexual “You do you just don’t do me” - a wise redditor

[@womslay]

I'm using this!

[@sorenskousen7468]

@@thetrickster9885 I mean, technically it just means somebody who uses reddit, not necessarily the stereotype.

[@Coolgirl_ig_]

I’ve said this to people as ace before as well. Also why does everyone assume that redditors are not wise It’s probably Cus I only spend time on the queer subs

[@sweetlikemilkAMSR]

Love it

[@MorbiusBlueBalls]

i mean it is possible to be a wise redditor if you strictly stick to good subreddits.

[@SuchitaBhattacharya]

Aphobic Christians: Don't have sex until marriage. Sex is sinful. Asexuals: Okay Aphobic Christians: WAIT NO NOT LIKE THAT. Edit: can y’all please stop having mini-wars in the replies. There’s a reason why i specifically said “APHOBIC Christians.”

[@ethandollarhide7943]

I think somebody should tell them that their Lord and Savior would qualify as an Asexual.

[@abbieamavi]

I grew up conservative Christian, and yes. Exactly 😂

[@luisshorts.]

@@ethandollarhide7943 the god is just a god, they have no sex with no one so I guess yeah he is asexual good job on kinda coming out god

[@idontreadorreply]

no need for aphobic. theyre phobic generally, very misogynistic mostly

[@trumpetpunk42]

Where is this caricature coming from!? 1 Corinthians 7 basically says "If you want to get married, go for it. If you want to stay celibate, that's fine too." I find it hard to believe that anyone is actually hating on these people.

[@lolasum_sumi_san]

Am I the only asexual who doesn't think of 'kissing' as sexual? I would kiss someone but nothing more.

[@jasminewelland2521]

When I kiss, I feel like I'd do it to a friend, like there's nothing significant. It's something for fun I guess. I hate making out though I feel disgusted.

[@lolasum_sumi_san]

@@jasminewelland2521 Yes, thats what I mean. Although I might kiss to show affection as well. Not a smooch or french, just a peck a simple kiss. I do not like the idea of swapping saliva and suffocating LOL.

[@ashal7482]

i like a kiss like a peck but making out is just 🤢🤢

[@alansmithee419]

@@ashal7482 Same. It's like one is a nice little display of affection and the other is "hope neither of us have diseases! Or a need to breathe!"

[@notasovietspy8008]

I think it's more of a romantic action

[@truetravesty9080]

Asexuality, when you'd rather sleep, than sleep with someone.

[@yeetbigly5827]

Yeah basically lol

[@mariafausti3128]

ikr😂😂😂

[@user-ef5nd3ho3n]

lol

[@childoficarus5334]

my literal idea of a perfect date is, go out to a movie or something similar, go home and eat pizza in bed, and then, so are we taking a nap together or what.

[@thunderwolf234]

But you still can """"sleep"""" together without actually sleeping together

[@fuzzyzombielove]

"When ever we do intimate stuff, it's more like an invasive medical exam." That hits home.

[@emiliacanet9960]

Lol

[@jh9391]

Yuuuuuup!!

[@GayleenFroese]

YEP.

[@Half_Baked]

That’s probably one of the most relatable things I ever heard in my entire life

[@lenaduchannes8952]

This, plus Lauren's other comment about bisexuality vs asexuality honestly is the first time I've understood this topic.

[@trishareddy6240]

I came out to my mom as ace almost a year ago and after I explained what it meant she said "doesn't everyone feel like that?" And I'm like .......

[@kyo2383]

Snapp plot twist

[@njrom2975]

@@kyo2383 maybe your mom is an ace and just married for social pressure

[@kyo2383]

@@njrom2975 nope definitely not LMAO

[@Oukow]

🫢

[@lav-kitty]

I actually can imagine that happening with me

[@take67806]

"Sex does not make us whole. So how could you ever be broken?" My favourite perspective on asexuality

[@coffiecat05]

Oh *gasp* thats deep

[@allisonhogarth2983]

sex education???

[@klaraottosson1461]

Sex education right?

[@take67806]

@@klaraottosson1461 yes. That sentence stuck with me

[@painland]

i just binged all of it its SOOO fucking good

[@Mari-hb5do]

‘I’m more scared of the pregnancy than the children’ - mood

[@gdjokerreject2068]

Mari IKR

[@curlyf4253]

Bro people are astonished when I've mentioned that like do you even know the risks. More so the fact that it's painful like hell nah

[@brisacruz4593]

Sample

[@scottyspagett121]

Honestly me

[@evelyneisenhower8338]

Me omg

[@hootyhoothoot7]

It' so weird how our society is so focused on having sex. My friend asked me if I'm ace because having sex doesn't sound really appealing to me right now I'm 15

[@MarjorieMcWiggles]

Yes!! My old friend tried to tell me when I was 12 that I might be asexual. She was one of those people who made her sexuality her entire personality, and still does to this day. I was pretty vocal towards her about the fact that I’m a minor and shouldn’t be having sex at all.

[@margaretcorfield9891]

Don't think the concept of sex even entered my head at 15. I lost my virginity at 21, because I wanted to get the sex bit out of the way. I can't stand slobbery sexual kissing, but am okay with other kinds of kiss. I had a wonderful sexual relationship with my husband, we had 3 children, but neither of us ever felt that it was an important aspect of our relationship. We loved each other for many other reasons and in many other ways. I was 35 before I found him and lost him 10 years later. I never felt the need to have sex with someone else ever again. It's easy enough to give yourself an orgasm or more if you want to, easier than fumbling around with someone else for hours and getting nowhere, because you'd rather be eating cake!

[@FoxInnaHat]

@@margaretcorfield9891 uuuhhh.... You did in fact read the part were they said they were 15 right? i dont think they needed to hear all of that. hell im 21 and even *I* didnt need to hear all of that.....

[@iisle]

Because sex/reproduction is the most important feature humans have

[@FoxInnaHat]

@@iisle incorrect, the most important feature is obviously the ability to drink coffee while playing Animal Crossing

[@sailorenthusiast]

When I was in high school, I was geniunely confused why it was necessary for my sex ed classes to keep preaching abstinence, as I wasn't at all interested in having sex with anyone. Little did I know that the vast majority of people actual did want to have sex, and that I was in fact a weirdo for not wanting to do that.

[@christinewalker7242]

My sex Ed teacher said I needed to continue to attend classes because "everyone has sex". Well, almost a decade on and I still never want to participate in that activity.

[@FoxInnaHat]

I still try not to think about it too much. it hurts my brain to think about any sexuality at all. As an Aro/Ace i would think that anyone would probably have the potential to love one another in the right circumstances right? Like realistically speaking wouldn't there still be niche situations where straight men could be romantically and sexually attracted to other men in the right situations? idk.... i feel like sexualities and preferences are less important than people make it seem to be. as for my Aro/Ace identity, there is no telling what kind of Game of Thrones level plot twist might happen to get me to be in a relationship, but i dont say its 100% impossible cuz nothing is impossible.

[@emmareyes7459]

😂😂

[@LootFragg]

Listen, kids. Here's a list of all the germs you can contract from eating feces and the diseases you can get from them. Do not consume large quantities of fecal matter. I know we all look at a pile of poop and go: "Damn, that shit delicious." But you need to understand that you cannot follow your intrinsic impulse of jamming that poop into your mouth. Yes it's something we all crave but the consequences of eating three poops a day or more are dire! You need to abstain from eating that!! STOP NODDING, I KNOW YOU WANT IT!!

[@Alexa-so4jh]

@@FoxInnaHata straight man would have little to no sexual or romantic attraction to another man, making a relationship impossible even in “niche” situations. That’s the whole definition of being straight- you are not attracted to the same sex. There’s something called attraction. You are drawn to certain people. I cannot possibly imagine myself with a woman or imagine even being romantically interested in a woman. It’s repulsive to me just like sex may be repulsive to you.

[@mixzoe6228]

asexual is like the atheist of the sexuality

[@isabellaoreo]

This is it. This is the comment. It wins, everyone go home.

[@mavilli658]

when im ace and an athest-

[@nautilus5817]

yeah like some atheists are cool with reading about and learning about religion, some aren't, some will sit down and talk with mormons, some won't

[@nautilus5817]

@All might even science doesn't have all the answers yet, so i dont blame people for coming up with their own, even if to me it seems far fetched.We don't know where we came from, not entirely, so if that makes people anxious so they want to come up with their own answer, im okay with that too :)

[@SeIfishmachines]

@All mightNone knows what happens when you die. So it’s fine for them to believe.

[@milostarglowwsoldaccount7719]

one of my friends is asexual and aromatic. her birthday is on Valentine's day.

[@matthewcox7985]

Ouch.

[@SeptemberHQ]

The irony 😂😭

[@crypticduck2574]

Lmao

[@barkingmadfordogs5128]

Oof

[@OkOk-sz8wn]

oh that poor girl- it’s probably so awkward😭

[@Hepheat75]

As an asexual, I agree that you don't need sex to have a good relationship.

[@OddSwiftGoose]

I agree as fellow ace. we just need a supporting person that we can be with forever

[@Hepheat75]

@@OddSwiftGoose True

[@trilobite3120]

Relationship as in friendship-y or romantic-y

[@kosviik9584]

@@infinitesingularity2023 No. No it is not. Stop saying nonsense things just because YOU feel a certain way. It is not black and white as in 'something is extra' and 'something is a must'. Its like a diner where you pick and choose the parts of your meal together. Just because you don't like potato, doesn't mean some people cannot love it and need it every meal. Just because some people don't need sex, doesn't mean that nobody else needs it and it is universally just an extra. Everyone has different preferences. Some people like verbal affection, compliments, being told 'I love you'. Others value touch, intimacy (not necessarily sex but it is also in this category). Again others like spending time together, talking a lot. Some like getting gifts, not because they are materialistic but because to them it says 'I care about you'. And for every such person there is another that doesn't need these. Same with sex. Just because it is an 'extra' for some (you), it doesn't mean it is an extra for everyone. Some people straight up need it, not because they need their genitals rubbed, but because to them sex is a great way to be vulnerable, to show and share trust with their partner.

[@Cyru.s.]

@@kosviik9584 I don't think they meant it in a bad way, I think that they meant it as "it's just something extra that isn't required in a relationship" (coming from an asexual)

[@mercymunoz1408]

“Asexuals unlike the government won’t screw you” I love that one so much

[@am_ppe4899]

"asexuals unlike the government, we wont screw you" the truth has been spoken.

[@moopyboi5679]

I LIV THAT PART LOLL WE ALL KNOW WERE GETTIN F****** LETS DO SOMETHING ABOUT ALTOGETHER AS ONE !!!

[@xxxacu]

😭😭😭

[@freyamiles3718]

there's a reason "ace" is the shortened term

[@00imz]

LMFAO

[@adeola_63]

Asexuals for goverment!

[@JuanPablodelaTorre]

If you haven't noticed yet, asexuals can be straight/gay/bi/none. Romantic attraction is also a thing.

[@bluemoon2384]

Yes! Im a Heteroromantic Asexual :D

[@lapislazuli06]

@@bluemoon2384 yeah, I think I am too

[@salem_ness]

JP de la Torre exactly! I’m a bi-romantic asexual

[@SoulSlugArts]

I'm biromantic demisexual

[@noa8497]

THANK YOU

[@the_glitter_is]

Being aroace is like visiting a museum. Sure, some pieces are nice to look at, but I'm not interested in taking any home & mounting them. 😂

[@bigmanmccheez5342]

Fantastic description. I have spent literal years trying to explain to thick skulled "friends" that I find people aesthetically nice but I don't want to get with them. I don't understand how it's so hard for people to understand.

[@mazzy_ivy]

Nice metaphor, i agree

[@laranadesign4764]

YES! It's like a straight woman who is "girl crushing" on a beautiful and confident woman. I recognize her beauty, I just don't see her in a sexual way.

[@Xeroph-5]

I need to remember this. This is exactly how I feel.

[@abcdefzhij]

Im not even asexual (I am a virgin though) but I feel like this video helped me. This idea in society that you have to have sex and that it’s a necessary part of being a human always makes me feel really bad and cynical about things, and like there’s just something fundamentally wrong with me for not prioritizing or experiencing that. This really just shows how arbitrary all that really is.

[@stannosaurus]

Fuck yeah you're just fine with or without. It is simply a thing that happens sometimes

[@sunsetskye483]

It’s a running inside joke in the ace community that most asexuals love cake and/or garlic bread, for anyone that doesn’t know.

[@sophiam.krager3815]

I am ace and ive always loved cake...seems right

[@hafsahossain1394]

I've never really liked cake or sweet things that much but I surely love garlic bread a lot and I'm an asexual.But I still don't believe asexuality has anything to do with food lmao

[@sophiam.krager3815]

@@hafsahossain1394 it's more like a joke that came from things like "i would rather have cake than a lover" And similar things, it's more like a meme

[@sunsetskye483]

@@hafsahossain1394 It doesn't, dw, it's just an inside joke

[@notasovietspy8008]

Damn I fit in a little to much

[@lilalane8738]

it's actually laughable how some people don't think that asexuality is real.

[@rainingdewdrops]

@Ludimeel Sorbo I'm a heterosexual but my sexuality hit me really late (I was a late bloomer in general and I went through puberty quite late so might be the reason why), before that I felt very odd watching everyone around me being so 'sex-obessed', my friends would talk about their crushes and I couldn't relate, I wasn't interested in any of that and the idea of sex was off putting. This is how I imagine some asexuals might feel? Not sure if it's accurate but it helps me to understand it a bit better.

[@nenemauu2]

Cause its not that normal, I can understand it now tho

[@liaammm396]

rainingdewdrops yeah that’s basically how we feel. Some of us who are not aros can have romantic attraction though, so we can see someone (more gravitating towards the face) and want to have a nonsexual relationship with them almost like in Disney movies

[@thereisnofinishline5773]

@@liaammm396 a nonsexual relationship is a lot to ask from a person tho, I imagine it being hard to find someone

[@prnst4r]

It's fucken weird

[@astrizettep2597]

I realized I was asexual when I saw a pattern in everyone one I dated . They all complained about me never making the first step to get physical or kissing. And it made them feel like I didn’t love them but that was not true . Just didn’t like being too physical or sexual .

[@muniaisworthit]

Ikr! Same but I like hugs That's about it

[@moonysversionn]

@@muniaisworthit this made me "oh-" Out loud because thos was my problem for every relationship aswell. I was always too nervous to make the first move for anything. Thank you this helped a lot

[@ThaneOfLichen]

My ex would complain about not being able to have sex with me and would talk about how his parents thought it was weird too. On our last date he joked "they keep asking me 'when are you going to have sex?' I tell them 'it would be REALLY COOL *eyebrow raises* if she did but I don't think she will'" *expectant smile*. It made me feel like a horrible partner and in all a trash person. Glad I listened to my gut and got away from the relationship, we're still friends but that's all we are now

[@jenniferheard1360]

I've been there.

[@terriflatt]

This is sad im a guy and i have to make the first move in kissing or whatever and i just cant bro like😭

[@hobijobi4328]

as an aroace person, I've had so many people question if im even human. it sucks

[@JediPlays0309]

It's alright, you're totally valid and totally human dont worry! 💖/p

[@lav-kitty]

honestly, at this point I just say i'm not human and wouldn't want to be anyway

[@gslTM]

​@@lav-kittyYeah humans suck fr

[@shootingsmilla1239]

Yeah, they always think romance and sex are the things that make you alive, while the things that make me feel alive are friends and family, because they don’t leave you after discovering your flaws

[@richardchen7062]

It’s not even like you’re devoid of empathy and humanity…like what was wrong with them

[@NotJustMadeleine]

So many people have said to me, "Oh, you'll like it once you've done it." I don't want to do it! I'd rather have cake.

[@unknown_bitch6734]

Ikr... To them I say 'I never got stabbed either, but Im sure I wouldnt like it... And being stabbed / stabbing somebody and sex are basically the same thing when you think about it... '

[@laulaushouse]

Yes totally me ! Or a cookie 🍪😂

[@Anna-yk3kn]

I’m not asexual but I do know it’s not going to be good if you don’t want it so even saying that doesn’t make sense and kind of contradicts itself 😅

[@unaverse6965]

I‘ve done it several times- thinking I might finally like it. Well- I was wrong. It‘s annoying :‘)

[@scrooge1913]

I don't consider myself asexual, but I had my first time this last year and it was pretty underwhelming. If you don't want to do it, don't do it, it's overhyped.

[@Camimalm7]

Heterosexual: door swings one way Homosexual: the door swings the other way Bisexual: door swings both ways Pansexual: it’s a revolving door Demisexual: the door is locked and only one person has the key Asexual: the door is actually a wall Edit: I’m aware I didn’t make this analogy up you can’t post pics on KZbin comments and it’s fitting so I wrote it down in the comments because it’s a good easy and funny way to explain it. I’m not trying to take credit lol

[@julietjones756]

This is actually a really good comparison omg

[@azumarill964]

Asexual is the door Drake drew on the treehouse episode of Drake and Josh.

[@abigailw7146]

omnisexual: its a revolving door but it goes this way the most

[@nickyhanssen9853]

The bi door is also revolving, it includes trans, nb, and intersex too

[@rocketcoulson460]

@@nickyhanssen9853 agreed. there would be no door for pan people maybe?

[@KITTIES514]

I have been battling with my asexuality with years. I got a boyfriend in college, and I realized it was exactly as they said: I was kissing a wall. I remember feeling anxious, dreading the moment when we would be intimate during our dates. I broke up with him once I realized it wasn't just dating jitters, and I was simply repulsed by physical intimacy. I've realized I'm asexual this past year, and quite frankly, I hate it. I hate myself for being asexual. I feel as though every person I will ever have a crush on is out of my league, because who would want someone who won't ever be intimate with them? I feel like my life will never be fulfilled, that I'm always going to be left unsatisfied. I worry I'll disappoint my parents, as I'll never have a wedding day, because no one will marry me if they can't have me on the wedding night. Watching videos like these give me some hope and reassurances that maybe my fears will all be proven wrong, and I hope one day I can love and accept myself like they do.

[@pimmylouspimmy1391]

I completely understand how you feel. I really feel like no one will ever accept me in the long term. One of my exes said that the issue with me was that I was ace. From then on I turned down every person that confessed to me, because I knew they were allo and I felt like I would just be selfishly restricting their desires in the long term. I recently remembered though that my older exes were fine with me being ace. So I have faith that there are accepting people out there. I’m sure there will be someone who is completely welcoming and happy with how you are. I wish all the best for you, fellow ace buddy :D

[@musicandpoetry_8]

Ugh I’ve always had that wall kissing feeling too but I thought it was cuz I was kissing someone I had no connection with whatsoever..idk this stuff drives me insane ..I get how you feel though with everything you said

[@musicandpoetry_8]

I feel like I’m fluctuating between being asexual and demisexual

[@Noname-yg5op]

If someone truly loves you then they won't leave you for simply who you are. Like if someone left you because of your race or religion or something similar. Being ace or any identity you have is simply who you are as a person and if someone loves you they love you overall as a person and wouldn't leave you for something like this. It's tough but please keep trying to love yourself and have a good friend/support group with you. It gets better. - sincerely a fellow ace

[@Hugs218]

Hi! Kittiess514, You are fine....You are no different then one of a married couple who's 'Sex Flame' has burnt out. But, the relationship is important. So, that individual just goes through the 'mechanics' of the various 'agreed' sex activities to maintain at least some respectful balance. Intercourse is not the 'be it all'. Manual & Oral or massage can all be suitable & pleasing alternatives to satisfy the needs of both. Just sayin'. You are fine. Now 'Find' the right partner. Take care.

[@BlessedGJ]

“Children are scary.” 😂😂 As a mom of 3 boys I get you.

[@KSPetshops]

Calling it a “debut” and not “coming out” is the new move

[@sarahwithanh9758]

Until you make friends with a bunch of kpop stans, and then they are all like "...what?"

[@chickenqueen3251]

Iconic

[@felix.mp3639]

Sarah With An H lmao Ima debut as a new girl and boy group called bisexuals

[@jj-og9nl]

Sarah With An H so true 😂

[@johnwerner69]

Sarah With An H I don’t get it?

[@akanksha2281]

*Start having sex before marriage* Society: that's a sin. You're not supposed to have sex *don't have sex at all* Society: that's a sin. You're supposed to be having sex

[@eshal]

Winter Bear LMAO-

[@cethlikestf]

@Mepha disown your mom

[@em_xie]

@Mepha of course! Know that God has a plan for you that may not require you getting married and having kids. You can reach out to others who are experiencing the same thing as you and shine God’s grace by doing so. Don’t ever let it get you down!

[@smilytrashbag1secago117]

@Mepha has ur mother mentioned that jesus dint have any sexual energy

[@infofox9785]

Ok i'm sorry, it's off topic but Tae in ur pfp is too cute to ignore

[@-shiloh]

For the longest I was just so confused with myself Bc I had sexual attraction but the actual having sex with ppl scared the shit outta me and so seeing someone in the interviews who wasn’t “fully asexual” but still identified with it made me feel a million times better

[@zzzzomb]

Me TOOOO omg I've been questioning sm and it's been so confusing but hearing about ppl that feel the same way and still identify as ace makes me feel valid

[@keerahh2378]

I'm glad I'm not the only one confused. I came out as bisexual about a year ago to my mom. But overtime, I questioned it because I could never see myself having sex with a man or woman, like the thought makes me cringe. However, I have a high libido and was concerned I wouldn't really be asexual either because I get horny, I masturbate, I watch porn (mainly fantasizing). But sex still isn't something I'm sure I would want to do or am even interested in.

[@peterstoric6560]

Just going to put a comment here to see what others have to say. Don’t know why but I just want to here more

[@LayneJane1999]

​@@keerahh2378 I am similar to this, I found the term aegosexual a while ago and I think it fits this!

[@keerahh2378]

@Layne Jane same here! I recently discovered that aegosexual fits me too and I couldn't be happier 😊

[@abielaird]

I used to think I was asexual, and when I did it felt so validating to know there was a sexuality that really felt right. That personally changed for me, I discovered I was just demisexual (when you're only sexuality attracted to people you have an emotional connection with) for me I could find someone appealing but I simply cannot actually want to have sex unless I love AND really like the person. And I'm very repulsed by people I don't like, no matter how conventionally attractive they might be. The fact that people have the ability to feel sexual attraction to people without liking them as a person seems extremely strange to me. Thanks for shedding a light on this!

[@musicandpoetry_8]

I feel like that too and when I used to identify as a straight girl, I always felt so pressured by men to sleep with them and it felt so sickening..I feel like they just want sex right away with no romance or connection before..this isn’t really exactly on topic with your comment but it’s always how I’ve felt with men..sometimes I feel like I need a way deeper emotional connection with someone moreso than I ever realized..I’ve had so many vapid one night stands with guys at bars where I feel used after ughh 🤢

[@lurklingX]

same!!

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

“Scientist have only found asexuality around 120 years ago” Me looking at my girls Artemis, Hestia and Athena.

[@SeptemberHQ]

LMAOOOO 😹

[@RobertoRodriguez-ev1tt]

I dont get it. Can you explain

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

Roberto Rodriguez All the scientist say the first sign of ase’s existing is from 120 years ago, However in the greek myths, Thise three were Well know for not being giveing a crap about sex, aka They were ace, and are more then 2000 years old

[@littlemoon8081]

I always saw Artemis as a lesbian. Like, she literally was in a relationship with Callisto

[@deargodwhatamidoing1122]

Keira Moorhead I didn’t know that. Isn’t it great how mytholigy and religion Can be seen in diffrent ways. I wouldnt be surprised if some from that time saw her as lesbian, and others saw her as ase.

[@smelly4498]

My biggest asexual pet peeve is when people assume we’re not mature enough and if we grow up then we’ll like/want sex.

[@jessica_mantei]

I’ll be 41 years old this year and I’m definitely still asexual. It’s not something we grow out of, and it’s definitely not a choice. The majority of people just can’t grasp the possibility.

[@smelly4498]

MexicanTacos 07 asexual is different from aromantic. Aromantics don’t experience romantic attraction, while asexuals don’t experience sexual attraction. You can be one without the other. Asexuals don’t hate sex (generally but it’s on a spectrum) and most just don’t feel an attraction to someone. Hope this helped !

[@smelly4498]

MexicanTacos 07 asexuality is not from trauma or a bad experience. It’s just not what we like. You don’t think every person you see is attractive, right? We just see all people as not attractive sexually (again not necessarily aesthetically or romantically) celibacy is different from asexuality.

[@jessica_mantei]

MexicanTacos 07 I’m actually happily married. Just not interested in sex. It’s not a choice, I wish I was more like “normal” people, but I’m not.

[@jessica_mantei]

MexicanTacos 07 it’s ok! I don’t mind answering. Yes, I saw many doctors about it when I was in my 20’s. They couldn’t find any reason for it. Even psychiatrists found nothing unusual (no past trauma or anything). So, for us, it’s like our heads aren’t connected to our genitals... I have had deep emotional connections with people (I’m married to one), and that’s enough for me. I have never been a fan of masturbation either because there’s just no enjoyment in it. 🤷‍♀️ I totally get why you’re confused, it doesn’t make sense to the average person, who just automatically feels those things. I do wish I had that!

[@cassiecake4851]

Whenever I feel bad about my asexuality and feel like im broken, I come back to this video and it makes me feel slightly better

[@OddSwiftGoose]

same here

[@Chuyizzle4]

Sir, don’t listen to the ‘norms’ and simply be yourself no matter what people think of you. There’s a good chance you can find your own group of people that will accept you for who you are, you just need to keep trying to look for it.

[@icantdecideaname60]

Asexuality is a constant battle of feeling broken, the missing out on what’s being constantly put on the pedestal as the best thing in the entire world and vital to the human experience and looking for answers where there are none. It’s good to know that there’s other people in the same boat and at least I’m finally in the one percent

[@kkk-gf6sj]

Nah not really I'm chilling

[@lilliat4590]

I’m straight but I literally don’t understand why its so hard for some people to accept other people just because of their sexuality or gender smh

[@childofgod759]

ikr? It sucks ;(

[@sy-zu4uz]

Someone is gonna bring up god and tell us how everyone and everything is wrong and he is coming or something. Like damn ok.

[@jobansand]

Yup

[@keig2457]

Ikr! Especially when your pan and you explain what it us to others and they're like tHaTs Bi, and your like no bi is 2 pan is all

[@twicesendmeasignal5863]

As an asexual I am happy to read these kind of comments. Thank you😊

[@Epixle]

Me: I'm asexual My friend: No, you just can't get a girlfriend

[@CGM_Raiden]

Piss off

[@kellanmeyers4715]

Is your friend right though? Lol

[@SLAY0Ml]

@@CGM_Raiden Calm down

[@aft0n_858]

@@kellanmeyers4715 ayy we both have Alastor pfps

[@diharaj5358]

I mean in my case, both lol

[@Winterlude_Music]

As an aroace born a day after Valentine’s, videos like this honestly just make me feel validated, especially since I’ve been put down just for my sexuality. Also, fun fact, we asexuals tend to like garlic bread and dragons.

[@someoneontheinternet072]

Cool thing, the day after valentines is single’s awareness day!

[@Iamcompletelysane]

Oh man one day after valentine’s 😭 im a february born as well, when i found out that valentines was on february i was like 😦 “the thing i hate the most.. what kind of luck is this” lmao (i was a kid when i found out tho, i obv no longer care what goes on in the feb calendar apart from my bday)

[@richardchen7062]

Love this ❤ Also how about garlic breath

[@user-ug2fu8mj2j]

Someone should have told me I was ace when I wacthed HTTYD 2 and wanted Toothless insteed of Hiccup like most girls. Lol.

[@loreteller.]

We also love cake lmao

[@helpotters]

My girlfriend and I have been together for five years. She's ace, I'm allo. It's all about communication and acceptance. I love her to bits.

[@sharinistic]

this comment needs more likes, thank you

[@helpotters]

@@sharinistic edit: six years

[@sharinistic]

@@helpotters !!! congratulations !!! manifesting that kind of love for myself as well afsh

[@happyishness.]

Hello, I am just curious, please dont get me wrong. I cant exactly understand your relationship since you do feel sexual attraction and she doesnt so in case of any sexual activity, wouldnt you feel guilty doing something she doesnt get pleasure from? Or if you dont perform any kind of sexual activities at all, isn't it so frustrating/boring for you? because sex is an important part for people who are not ace. I mean it is an instinctive urge. I'm guessing that you both make some sacrifices and meet in the middle though

[@helpotters]

@@happyishness. I love her, and it's heartbreaking thought to end a perfect life with her just because of something she can't control. Sexuality isn't cut and dry on either part. It takes a lot of mutual respect, communication, and validation.

[@byakuyatogamistumblr5958]

Fun little reminder: Asexual people don't need to "look" asexual. People can dress however they want. Edit: This also goes for aromantic people!

[@Diamond_Doodles]

Does ace even have a "look"?

[@se6777]

Just like nonbinary, lesbian, gay, bi, pan, Demi, het

[@helpineedsleep2101]

Ikr I told someone I was ace and they literally looked at me and said no

[@zivion]

How would someone even “look” asexual? 🤔 Wearing a chastity belt on the outside of your clothes? LOL

[@cazhmonii]

@@zivion literally do you dress like a nun or something? What does dressing asexually even mean??

[@potatofairy8535]

Well I just figured out there's nothing wrong with me; I'm asexual.

[@thefandomfish3071]

hell yeah!!! good for you!!!

[@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115]

Woo yas Queen!! (Or king, or royalty, not to assume gender)

[@potatofairy8535]

@@rioisnotokay-ipromise-6115 Thank you, and I'm a girl. :)

[@mintyy5105]

v proud of you! as an ace person it is SUPER cool when people find out that they are actually just ace!! I swear I thought I was broken or I had problems when I really was just ace, and lemme tell you, finding out ace stuff was actually amazing for me. I hope you have a fantastic day!

[@potatofairy8535]

@@mintyy5105 I felt the same way, I thought maybe I just hadn't matured in some way or something was very wrong because I didn't feel the same way about relationships as everyone else around me.

[@firbolg]

Being demisexual, I can relate! I felt broken for most of my life. From feeling violated by girls advances to being unsure about my sexual orientation... it's been a rollercoaster. "Am I gay, bisexual, straight... what the hell am I? I don't fit any moulds!" And then a year ago, at the young age of 42 :) , I discovered demisexuality and it was an eureka type moment and everything made a lot more sense. That helped a lot but having CPTSD, I still struggle to believe I'm worthy of being in a relationship and fight everyday to counteract my inner thoughts that say I'm just broken and weird and deserve to be alone.

[@musicandpoetry_8]

This might not make sense but sometimes I feel like I’m definitely demisexual but I also need to figure out if I’m gay or straight too or am I just broadly demisexual for each gender? I analyze way too much and have ocd, like I need to know everything specifically

[@musicandpoetry_8]

This is definitely ocd though isn’t it? I keep ruminating

[@musicandpoetry_8]

Lol sorry for all the comments

[@firbolg]

@@musicandpoetry_8 No worries! Sorry I could answer quicker! And although I'm boringly heterosexual, doesn't mean you are! So keep an open spirit and you'll figure it out! :)

[@lurklingX]

so relatable. also the 'what the hell am i?'. i describe myself as "could be bi, but...." because once it gets to actual equipment, i can't with dudes. odd since stuff up till that can be fine. might be some events in early life that fkkd that up. anyway, i could still feel romantic love for either. so i guess it's all just a complicated thing. i ID as gay, though, based on account of not being able to go full hog with the other gender. GUH. even just imagining..... it's like full body cringe, anxiety, and violence. so, yeah. gay, it is. (also, no offense to dudes. like i said, some stuff happened way early on and it think it sparked this reaction. it'd be easier if this wasn't the case and dudes were fine. dating would be easier. and i'm not girly at all, and get along better with my guy friends. frankly, there's a lot of girls i wouldn't wanna date on account of interests and impending boredom.) i had the same eureka moment on hearing about demisexual. HOWEVER, it wasn't till this vid that i realized it's on the ACE spectrum. well, shit. :\

[@nda123full]

If someone doesn't feel like having sex is totally fine. You don't have to agree understand it, just respect it.

[@sadlittleghost8346]

“Don’t have sex till marriage.” Me: What, like it’s hard??

[@offishelly]

That’s what she said

[@AbrylGr]

DUDE, SAME.

[@monicass3409]

Exactly!!

[@montgomerymontgomery2681]

That’s difficult?

[@ThatOneGuy-gb7td]

I’m not asexual but I still don’t think it’s hard to wait

[@scarlettrose2065]

"Its like kissing a wall" Me : *kisses the wall to see what it's like*

[@cosingcharleslamberts.4339]

Bacteria: *Yo Wassup*

[@JimTheKid]

Not half bad

[@alexlepanpan65]

I’ve kissed a wall before :D

[@droma-ev9kh]

Thank you for giving this amazing idea😼😼😼😼

[@sensationstars8365]

@@alexlepanpan65 same xD

[@AlastairFlane]

As an asexual, I seriously thought people were just exaggerating how much they liked things before I realized I was different. When I realized I was ace, everything suddenly made a lot more sense.

[@_angel_flyhightwee]

I am happy that I can live without someone who might do stuff to me. I have no feelings for that. To me I really enjoy life rn. And it’s sad Society is making little kids believe that you HAVE to love someone.

[@christinewalker7242]

I am so lucky in that my parents, without knowing aro ace were things, have always preached if you don't romantically love someone ever, there is nothing wrong with you and you don't ever have to get married, do the stuff and have kids if you don't want that life cause it's your life, not society's life. But my church kept invalidating me, saying stuff like someday I will get married and have lovely kids. Like I want to participate in that activity, then have to have a parasite in me for 9 months, then need to sacrifice huge amounts of time and money for 18+ years for something I never wanted from the get go. I can only imagine the pressure on someone if their parents were putting the pressure on them in their home lives too and it's no wonder why so many people have kids when they don't really want kids.

[@_angel_flyhightwee]

@@christinewalker7242 yeah. I am glad my parents do to :)

[@celestialphoenixqueen9258]

hahaha love ... what a load of shit and crap not every girl needs a man and not every man needs a girl , i don't need a man to be happy or feel anything for any of em . single and free

[@snowy3618]

“Asexual” no likey sexy “Gray Asexual” sorta likey sexy

[@notverynice5238]

As a gray asexual, this is the easiest way to explain this to my friends. Attraction is a once in a blue moon thing for me.

[@Strawberrypersonoffixial]

@@notverynice5238 right?!

[@thatsgrim4309]

@@notverynice5238 your name is my response whenever my friends try to convince me about the "wonders of sex"

[@notverynice5238]

Ocean Marie it be like that.

[@isetmfriendsofire]

No, asexual = sexual attraction gray asexual = sorta sexual attraction It is definitely a difference.

[@morningboy_]

“Don’t have sex before marriage!!” “Ok, I won’t have sex at all” “NO THATS A SINNNNNNNNN”

[@ellie4668]

People who are forever alone: "*I am living in a life of sin*"

[@lailaauto33]

My family smh

[@cassadyr.1853]

Literally my mom-😳

[@thrawnboy4320]

I mean paul (one of the main early church influences in the bible) didn't have sex at all (he actually cut of his down below in some procedure) and it was never accounted against him as a sin in the bible so I mean......

[@Notme811_you]

You don’t have to have sex when do think there is nuns and priests

[@fluffypotatocow8490]

Is that shubble? This aged interestingly

[@isabelcore]

Yes it is

[@ilovefictionalmen69]

Watching this 4 years later only for shelby ❤

[@Joebama87]

Didn't even realize it was her until you said something

[@shift267]

This aged well

[@ChrisPTY507]

Why? what happened to her??

[@shift267]

@@ChrisPTY507 search up "wilbur soot allegations"

[@Joebama87]

@@ChrisPTY507 Shelby also talked about it on a live stream I think

[@LizzyWithAWhy]

"if your having sex and you'd rather be eating cake, you may be asexual" for such a goofy sentence this was surprisingly helpful.

[@queenofanon9972]

Depends on one’s definition of “cake”

[@cybernaab]

@@queenofanon9972 haha yeah

[@akwala__]

@@queenofanon9972 🤨😭💀

[@humourlessjester3584]

@@queenofanon9972 your username somehow made this even better.

[@mellar5864]

And inaccurate

[@Juauka]

I’m not asexual but I’m a baker and I’d be happy to provide you all with cake, garlic bread and unconditional support

[@Skrill99]

Good, you can provide sustenance for when we invade Norway. Allies are always welcome. :)

[@Juauka]

@@Skrill99 Thank you, I assure yo I will be of great use to your army, on a side note do you prefer any particular flavor of cake?

[@nikosvoulgaris7234]

Aww, thanks! I really appreciate your cake- uhh support! Yes support!

[@thisisepic3052]

GARLIC BREEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAADDDDDDDSSDDDSKWMSNQOPOQPQLWNFNEJDHF

[@HexenkoeniginVonAngmar]

@@Juauka Idk if there's any distinction between the two kinds of cake but in German there's "Kuchen" and "Torte" (in turn "pie" doesn't have an extra word in German) which are dry and creamy cake respectively. I personally love the latter with tiramisu flavour, so if you could bring something like that, it would be greatly appreciated!

[@TadanoCandy]

While I grew up, I didn’t understand why people felt like abstinence was such a hard thing to do lol

[@hearmeout1767]

I never understood that and I still don't

[@yellow-roses]

omg ur so real. what, like its hard? lmao. no hate to them, this is just how i saw it

[@SableFane]

I'm not asexual but one thing I've learned from the asexual community is the importance of platonic intimacy. Obviously this is important whether you're ace or not, but with romantic relationships being societally placed as the most important relationship in your life and your deepest source of intimacy, it's easy to mistake a deep friendship as a romantic relationship, or to feel that certain levels of significance and intimacy to that relationship mean that your feelings must be romantic. And I've met a lot of ace/aro people whose intimate friendships change the way I think about what a friendship has to look like.

[@codyrogers9582]

not going to lie, this entire "spent a day with..." series has given me a new found respect for Anthony and his approach as well as general respect and just chill nature towards literally everyone he interviews, no underlying judgement just pure 'help me and people understand what you do and who you are' and wholeheartedly i love that.

[@sparky082]

Could not have put it better myself so thanks for saving me the typing time!

[@garfieldfan420]

Especially with his role in stranger things (that is him right)

[@kroniktp7119]

from fighting with food to that

[@madisonlongeuay9005]

But like those Adult babies tho

[@RealMevelleRealMevelle]

Totally agree

[@vixtion9180]

NOTE: Asexuals lack sexual attraction or sex drive! Aromantics lack romantic attraction! There are differences!

[@fishbutler6170]

yes! except that aces can still have a sex drive and libido! not all of them but some of us do!

[@kittycatgirl1139]

@@fishbutler6170 wait that doesn’t make sense- can u explain further?!

[@k9wolf07]

​@@kittycatgirl1139 It's hard to describe, and I can only explain it from my experience. You can be Ace and still have a normal libido and experience arousal, find something sexy have a kink ect... it's not like you have ED or a hormone imbalance, all the plumbing still works properly. The best way I can describe it is have you ever experienced one of those days when your stomach is growling like crazy but you have no desire to eat anything, the thought of eating anything might even seem kinda gross, you might wait a whole day or maybe two and the only reason you finally eat something is so you can fall asleep, Its kinda like that. I don't know if that was helpful or made sense at all and other Aces probably experience it differently, I don't have any desire to have sex at all with anyone "I'm even repulsed by it" but I do experience arousal its just not connected at all with the desire or need to have sex, its just a biological function/state of being like being hungry or tired.

[@fishbutler6170]

@kittycat girl yea for sure thanks for asking! basically asexuality is a spectrum so not everyone is going to experience it the same way. Some asexuals may have libido which means they still want to have sex, they just aren’t sexually attracted to anyone. other asexuals may be sex repulsed which means they don’t want to have sex at all. what all asexuals have in common is that we don’t find people sexually attractive! it doesn’t have to do with being celibate or just not wanting sex. hope that clears things up:)

[@basicallycow3676]

Thx :D

[@witchofredwoods8963]

Great video, as always! Just a one thing I wanted to point out. Sex-positive ≠ sex-favorable. You can be sex-repulsed and still be sex-positive. Sex-favorable refers to your enjoyment of sex. Sex-favorable asexuals enjoy having sex but don't experience sexual attraction. Sex-indifferent people don't care about sex. Sex-repulsed people don't want to have sex. In contrast, sex-positive refers to your opinion on sex as a whole. People who are sex-positive view sex as an overall positive or beneficial experience and are generally open about talking about it. People who are sex-negative view sex as inherently immoral or wrong, though exceptions are usually made for sex after marriage. ~~~ "The cake." Naw, it's GARLIC BREAD. (It's both.) "Have societal pressures ever made you question your own sexual desires or lack thereof?" Oh _absolutely._ I initially felt like I didn't belong in the a-spec community because I felt like _maybe_ in the future, I'll find the right person or _maybe_ that's not my orientation, that's just my values. Then, after I'd accepted the a-spec umbrella label, I initially thought that I was cupiosexual _and_ cupioromantic. Now, I realize that I'm actually not cupiosexual, that that was just parental and societal pressures telling me that I _should_ desire a relationship, one that is both romantic and sexual in nature.

[@Solar_Lunar]

Thank you for pointing that out I am a sex repulsed sex positive Ace so we exist

[@polteargeist]

I feel that way too tbh but i keep forgetting that being graysexual is a totally real thing too that feels easier to identify with than calling myself completely asexual. These spectrums tho sheeesh 😓

[@BugsyBugYT]

I kept getting recommended this video but was worried it would be about "Debunking" Asexuality so I was pleasantly surprised by the amazing video that you created.

[@Sentient-potato]

Anthony tends to just lean away from controversy

[@BugsyBugYT]

@@Sentient-potato he seems like a nice dude

[@user-wz1jh3rh7z]

just a note: you can be asexual and still like people... i dont feel like enough people realize this

[@chunkymonkey4975]

IKR!! I’m Lesbian Ace and I keep seeing all these things like “if love was a door Ace is a wall” or other things implying that all Aces don’t feel Romantic love! It makes me so mad cuz I feel, less than but still, romantic feelings :/

[@laysthechip3356]

Yeah I’ve seen quite the amount of people saying asexuals don’t have relationships and that we just don’t like anybody, it pains me to see. I’m aro/ace and that isn’t gonna stop me from liking people nor will it stop me from wanting to have a partner. We don’t need sex or romance to love

[@dolphinbluefire]

@@laysthechip3356 could you elaborate more on this? I can understand asexuals who want a romantic relationship, but I'm a little confused on the aro ace perspective, forgive my ignorance, but could you please explain what is appealing about a "romantic" relationship, for lack of a better term, to someone who has neither romantic or sexual desire? I understand some asexuals are fully capable of having and even liking sex under the right circumstances, so is it the same for romance for you? Or do you just want a close platonic relationship with someone, purely because you like their personality? Again, apologies for my ignorance, I'm just curious

[@solistri]

@@dolphinbluefire hi! I'm not lays the chip, but I'm also aromantic, so I'll try to explain :) Most aromantic people don't want to be in a romantic relationship, but some who are romance positive (or romance favorable) can enjoy the concept of romance and/or romantic activities (like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc), therefore seek for a romantic partner even though they don't feel romantically attracted to them (and the partner should be aware of that, obviously). Aromantic is also a spectrum, so there are demiromantic, grayromantic, etc. People who actually feel romantic attraction, but under certain circumstances or with low frequency. Some of them may want a romantic relationship. Basically, anyone who doesn't feel romantic attraction like alloromantic people fit in the spectrum. (In the aro and ace community, there's also a type of relationship called queerplatonic relationship, that isn't sexual or romantic, but has a more intense level of commitment, companionship, and/or love than a platonic friendship. It's truly fascinating, if you're interested, I totally recommend reading more about it!)

[@dolphinbluefire]

@@solistri thank you for the reply, its pretty fascinating to think about, I've struggled with figuring out why I wasn't like other people around me since early high-school, many years ago and just recently learnt about asexuality and in particular demisexuals, which is what seems to fit me the most, however, I consider myself to be very much a hopeless romantic, so the aromatic aspect seemed a little confusing, however your explanation has cleared things up wonderfully, makes tons more sense actually, so thank you very much, not sure why I found it so difficult to grasp when its basically the same with sexual attraction

[@hugogamboas.5550]

This always starts like “Are these freaks!?” And all the time it ends like “These are lovely people”

[@genomerc]

Yeah, from what many people in society think to what is actually going on

[@Tailionis]

They are still freaks

[@skydude221]

@@Tailionis who asked

[@trainosaurousrex4472]

Chihuahua Crew gee thanks mate

[@hannahmorningstar8334]

Except on the paparazzi one lol

[@arielsong1289]

Just to show some support for this demonetized serious. I love when Anthony pointed out the fact that the society tend to tell people what's normal to feel and if people don't feel that way, there's something wrong. I mean, I always believe that human diversity is an art created by god (or whatever entity designed human being), and social norm is a collective ideology of the contemporary society, which can be limited. Feelings are the most genuine human experiences that we should always appreciate as arts, instead of judging them.

[@The_Bishop_Chess]

Even watching this years later as a person who recently found out to myself as a demisexual pansexual. I just love watching these because they help me learn more about the community and such.

[@angiet9003]

I love how Anthony is respectful, he’s not making fun of them he’s hearing them out. I really love that and I think that’s why so many people like his channel, it’s all very genuine

[@Z5Z5Z5]

Anthony grew up on KZbin. Hes experienced alot. Of course he is a respectful man.

[@Beeba10]

Yes! Even when he laughs at something they've said, you can tell he's laughing **with** them, not **at** them. As an asexual myself, it warms my heart that Anthony is so accepting and this has made me love him (**cough** platonically **cough** lol) even more. I always imagined he'd be accepting and respectful of all sexualities, but to have confirmation that he feels so about my own sexuality makes it even better.

[@angiet9003]

Omg he loved my comment I’m crying I LOVE YOU ANTHONY AMSHSKHAHABAHS

[@kelamo7067]

アンジェラANGELA Wow! People actually make fun of asexuals? That’s crazy! Well, I guess ANYONE who doesn’t find sexual desires in the opposite gender is considered weird by society also. Damn, that sucks!!!

[@angiet9003]

I just meant in general... I just thought that about his overall channel and commented it here... I didn’t imply that asexuals are weird you made that up yourself

[@ary2382]

Why does being in a relationship demand sex? Like not everyone needs to have sex to have a working relationship.

[@alexandra311993]

Yet here we are ♥️

[@blackforest_fairy]

Not everyone, yes... But Most people do need it...

[@ladyg6164]

Because people are stupid

[@AmazingZelgius]

Most people do. If you're asexual, find an asexual partner and it'll be perfect. If you couple up with a sexual person you can't ask of them not to be sexual (the same way they can't ask you to be)

[@mylife-23]

@@AmazingZelgius my bf isn't asexual and he's fine with me being a sex repulsed asexual.

[@sooju7935]

I'm ace and around two years ago I got out of a very very toxic relationship in which my partner tried to literally force me to have sexual activities with him. It was hell of a ride and extremely mentally draining because I tried to explain to him, week after week, that I am ace and that I am just absolutely terrified about... The thing. Yk. I am shit loaded scared of pregnancy and accidents which might occur during the act and my mental health just wouldn't deal with it. I would become paranoid and absolutely delusional about suddenly having to raise a child, even tho I might not even be pregnant. I am not taking the pill and my ex begged and explained to me, dozens of times, that a condome is enough and I literally snapped at him at some point. After crying and standing up for myself for months at this point I reached a point in which I couldn't take anything anymore. He could have said the tiniest thing about this topic and it would trigger me so hard, I would just break down. SA happened and two days afterwards he broke up with me, bc, I quote: "If you're not breaking up then I will. If you don't wanna have Sex then I don't see the use in this relationship because Sex is extremely important to me and I need it." It was new years eve, January, 2021. Even weeks after I still felt the urge to throw up and beat myself up for not being normal. It left scars and nowadays I am super... Like... Super scared of getting into a relationship because of the exact same reason this idiot left me years ago. I am scared of the concept of not being able to receive love without doing the thing. And it breaks my heart. I am 20, almost 21, and I feel like something is wrong with me...

[@lovelymonkeys7366]

I feel the same way not about the pregnancy scares but about the ex trying to hurt you and the feeling alone. I am in high school, tho people might say it's wayyyy too early to start putting labels on, I know what I feel inside, and people can't change my opinion. Anyways, that's enough about me. You are not alone. Look at all the comments, and you'll see all of these people who understand your struggles. I want you to know that you are not broken. You are totally fine. Nothing is wrong with you. I hope you have a good night.

[@unstoppablevii]

hey i am so sorry that happened to you i know it's difficult to find a partner as an asexual because many people totally deny our experiences but trust me there's nothing wrong with you okay, as mentioned in this video 1% of the people of our population is asexual that indicates that it is real having asexual experiences so don't think there's something wrong with you pls you are normal and you are valid

[@haraheartless4717]

I had a few asexual friends and they all told me they wish someone told them about asexuality growing up. When my nephew was old enough to understand, I told him about all the identities and stuff. And he perked right up and said "That's what I am!" About asexuality. He seemed really happy he wasn't the only one. Now he could change later in life, which is fine, but I guess I'm really glad I told him.

[@parkerlovett763]

My sister: I’m an asexual (has been for 30 years) My family: you just haven’t found the right man yet! My sister: ummmm.... no.

[@Traumatised311]

Same as your sister but i am 23

[@roshna8971]

lol kinda weird that she needs to inform her family that she doesnt like sex lol

[@ChristinaMoralesMindfuqed]

@@roshna8971 Maybe it's to let them know that she wont be having kids lmao

[@roshna8971]

Central Elegance good point

[@Bob-dt5ip]

Is it really your sister though🤔

[@briesullivan537]

bruh they need asexual dating sites

[@pearlescen]

YES! THAT WOULD BE AWESOME! I’m aromantic and I think that would be great for others

[@digitalcatto]

There's an app but it sux

[@eoghank9978]

We need to get Todd Chavez to set one up

[@teresamesa]

what for?? why do people need to date?

[@AnAceBrit]

Damn, if only all about that ace was a thing

[@mxt4907]

It’s absolutely wild there was an anti trans documentary ad before this video

[@amphibiousanimations7721]

As bad at that is, at least they’re wasting their money showing their vile ads to people who won’t fall for it

[@froggo7215]

As a sis straight girl I'm really invested to know about lgbtq+ society, asexuality is really hard for me to comprehend and by no means, I'm not judging it, I just have a lot of questions. Like what clarifies the line between friendship and a relationship for them. I have a lot of questions of trans people too but I'm always afraid that my questions bother them. I really wanna know enough so I can support yall. Yall should talk more about the harassments and obstacles. You should inform people. Knowledge is power.

[@larisacuciureanu9103]

hi!!! as an aceflux enby person who is also omni, i would love to discuss some things with you and respond to your questions

[@larisacuciureanu9103]

ace people still feel romantic atraction. they just dont feel sexual atraction. we can form some romantic conections and even long term relationships. the line between friendship and a relationship for 2 partners(one-or both, why not?-being ace) is exactly the same between 2 people that are not ace. the romantic attraction plays the role

[@larisacuciureanu9103]

you also said that you have questions for trans people. me being one, i can 100% assure you that no question could bother me

[@larisacuciureanu9103]

and another thing. i can tell you that most of the people in my community aren t offended by the questions from allies, just like you said-knowledge is power and we support this!!!

[@froggo7215]

@@larisacuciureanu9103 wow thank you sweetheart 💗 This means a lot to me. Tnx for all the explaining. I get it now. About the trans part I had a trans friend whom I tried to support emotionally through their change, I never dared to ask anything because they were so sensetive (understandably) and I fear that I said sth wrong cause one day she cut all connections with me. But I never fully understood how people know they should transition, cause we have some tomboy girls and femboys, when do you know you should do the transition? And does the sexual orientation change after surgery. I mean hypothetically, if you are a straight girl will you be a gay man afterward? And I'm mostly interested in that changed view point after the surgery. Specially f to m. Must be interesting being a man in this world :P And generally what questions upsets trans people so I avoid asking.

[@nicholasnolan2086]

This series went from being a joke where you talk to flat earthers and alien believes to just straight up bringing light to topics that aren't usually discussed. I'm actually like proud.

[@suoopt6698]

Anthony is a king 👑

[@Teddy_k847]

He went from interviewing crazy people to interviewing crazy people

[@yunkimin97]

Joe Eversman girl shut up

[@fenrix155]

Hold on there. It is very possible that aliens do exist (not that I believe they do). Flat earth is likely fake, but also could be true. These asexual people make more sense than those who feel sexual attraction toward the opposite gender. It’s like being given the option to eat 💩 or to eat nothing, and choosing to eat nothing.

[@realone86_49]

Joe Eversman dumbass how is anything scary first of all flat erthers belive that the goverment tricked us all to control us wich could be very easily done and how the fuck should you know aliens don‘t exist???

[@Claego]

So glad Anthony has decided to go this way with his solo career as a sort of internet journalist

[@k9carry-gabriel-803]

Without drama aswell, just serious subjects but not cringey and mixed with a bit of comedy.

[@rosemaryflower1946]

K9Carry -Gabriel- you got a point

[@britwit2335]

as a grey asexual it is really scary honestly

[@mubashshirifrad1728]

K9Carry -Gabriel- it’s super cringe though . I basically watch his vids whenever I want to cringe . Like who the fuck thinks that “otherkins “ aren’t cringe .

[@ii_chiffoncake4434]

Yeah, but i miss the emo hair tho~

[@lovelessmejia1833]

When Anthony was talking about the demonetization problem, I started to cry because I was queer asexual and needed more insight on the matter; this video helped me understand myself more. I'm glad I was able to watch this. thank you, Anthony for bringing insight into all matters of the psyche

[@dmaxwell910901]

As an asexual guy, I felt like I was just a weirdo with a broken brain before I knew fully what asexual meant, since I have always still felt romantic attraction.

[@inshabuttinshabutt9148]

Same here

[@selin7481]

MY MİND: Two asexuals sıttıng ın a tree S-I-T-T-I-N-G . Plase call the fire department. We are stuck. lol

[@dectectivegoose]

Selin I don’t know how I got up here help

[@vanessamillwood9710]

loooool

[@shaquan9893]

I'm stealing this lmao

[@edenmac7751]

i love this omg💀😂😂

[@huangrenjunism]

the fact that the lowercase i’s in your comment have no dots make me uncomfortable

[@sadeeznutz]

Parents: no dating!! no sex!1! no physical contact until 20

[@roseinskyrim]

RIGHT!? So true. >..

[@bk-bx2mi]

Some people, tell they're parents they are ace and then get told: "Date, Date, Date!!1!1!1!!!11" Or "(insert grown up adult thing only adults do)!1!!1!1"

[@Cute3lla]

My dad: DO NOT DATE, DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL AFTER COLLEGE My mom: NEVER BE LGBTQ+ (she’s very religious) Me: But I’m asexual My parents: *visible confusion*

[@Kazoo_Itchy]

This is true lmao

[@dec0mposiex]

Rosehj LITERALLY- I told my mom and she was like “why becaus your frIeNdS aRe” bitch no I-

[@PaulFJarnes]

"Sex doesn't make us complete, so how could you be broken without it?" ~ Jean Milburn, Sex Education (2019)

[@avikazak655]

Sex is the root of all evil

[@helpmemyspaghettiistryingt959]

As an ace I can feel so much love and happiness hugging and cuddling but not sexually… basically it doesn’t turn me on

[@owl3191984]

*Wanders into a room of asexuals* "I'm here for the cake"

[@TheHolyDuck]

And dragons🐉

[@omepomme4585]

DOn't touch the cake, or dragon, or bread sticks and just to prevent, never, never, never touch an assexual person garlic bread never x')

[@omepomme4585]

@@The_Riss I don't, don't touch my garlic bread x')

[@M4S4life]

What kind of cake would you like?

[@RaspberryV3]

I don’t like cake, I brought breadsticks and ice cream though

[@beelzebubbles6031]

As an asexual, the day I found out that not every single human is ace was a truly dark day

[@YACHIHANNAH]

You’re a weak beta person. Depending on labels to define you because you’re too weak and ignorant to define yourself

[@gremleyn]

I had the same realization recently thats why I am watching this

[@chloemacdonald1892]

Same! Once I figured out what sex actually was (growing up mormon plus having no sexual desire anyway, it took a while to reach that point), I could not wrap my head around the fact that almost all couples I knew had sex. And they enjoyed it? wtf?

[@SouthPark333Gaming]

Same

[@justagoofygenderbender6853]

Well, think about it. If all of the allos were ace, there'd be no garlic bread left.

[@katiecrowley9527]

I had one guy ask if being asexual meant i could walk around naked … he legit thought it meant i didn’t have genitalia…

[@Sentient-potato]

Ayo, that’s intersex 💀

[@jessicab831]

​@@Sentient-potato I don't think so. There is an even rarer condition where someone can be born without genitalia at all, but that's definitely not intersex. Intersex is when a person has both sex characteristics.

[@Sentient-potato]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@jessicab831Blud idk what you’re on, but that isn’t the only type of intersex condition 💀. If you google intersex this comes up: general term used for a variety of situations in which a person is born with reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't fit the boxes of “female” or “male.” (It doesn’t include chromasomes for some reason, but that’s well regularised as intersex conditions) an example of an intersex person is me with 45x 46 xy mosaicism. I don’t have both male and female organs , but it’s still regarded as an intersex condition, don’t believe me? Look slightly further than the first result on google, or ask my endocrinologist :)

[@jessicab831]

@@Sentient-potato Okay. I thought a person being born with no genitals or being born in another different way would have a different term for it. Thanks for the education. 👍🏻

[@Waffles4903]

This video helped me shatter personal assumptions about those who identify as asexual! Strangely enough, I enjoy having my bias morphed! Great video Anthony, thanks for keeping life real!

[@uroboros_8563]

l am an asexual woman I live in India. I am tired of explaining what is asexuality to my friends and family. my mom understands me. The rest of them think it's just a phase. it's pretty annoying. I don't like sex, I don't enjoy sex or want to have kids. I think due to societal pressure and stereotypical gender roles, asexual women feel a lot of judgement

[@priyanshagrawal999]

Stay strong queen you are amazing 👏👏

[@lotuswolf1518]

I am glad you aren't bullied in Indian for coming out as asexual ,cause I was bullied and some men bully asexuals

[@Luna-di3mo]

Same girl same I am an indian ace too and i am sick of people forcing me to get married or have children

[@SITANSHUKAR]

I'm indian too, I think I might be an ace too..dw it's not a phase, you are completely valid!

[@rebekahmikaelson1198]

ace-spec bi indian woman here, i cant even think about ever coming out to my family lmao (except for my lil bro, i already told him and hes chill with it). i totally relate to the whole societal pressure thing. just remember you're not alone. there's others like you and you're totally valid

[@nonyabeeswax366]

People: So... you're asexual? Me, a Demisexual: Yes... But also no.

[@HappyMarshmallowGamingComedy]

Same ahahha

[@TheGhostOfKiki]

I feel you as a lesbian greysexual 😂😂😂

[@Teudlanif]

Same 😂 I'm also Demiromantic so same for aro, that's fun

[@nonyabeeswax366]

@@Teudlanif Isn’t it tho??? I think I might be demiromantic too- I just don’t experience crushes like almost everyone else I know does 😅 Still trying to figure that out 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Teudlanif]

@@nonyabeeswax366 aaah same. It's hard when you don't have a lot of crushes on actual people to go off of. Or at least for me it is.

[@gabi_bird]

A reminder that aces can ENJOY sex and can have a high libido, but simply do not DESIRE sexual activity with another person.

[@alecfinlayson6583]

As an AroAce, I know the feeling that romance and sex is A) OVERRATED B) WHAT THE H£LL IS THE GOOD FROM THAT C) Intimate does not exist in my vocabulary D) I don't need to worry about being friends with the opposite gender, due to me not having any type of attraction toward 'em E) I'm single, I'm proud, and don't ask me out, yo F) All of the above and a lot of other stuff

[@brianrawcliffe871]

Most annoying phrases to hear from non-asexuals, I’ll start: “If you’re not having sex with your SO, it’s not a relationship. You’re just friends.” Glad you get to decide the validity of my relationships.

[@beeuhtwix]

@CDia22 so true 🙄

[@blueberrypoptart2424]

People actually believe this? Wtf

[@vera691]

"It's just because you haven't met the right person yet..."

[@gigglymaggie]

Damn, I guess none of my relationships were real

[@foxgluv]

"You'll grow out of it" "Oh, don't worry, i used to be like that too" "So you've never had a boyfriend?"

[@oneandonlycad]

“Asexuals, unlike the government, won’t screw you” *that’s a mood bro*

[@scotnick59]

Hahaha

[@Rose_Light08]

True

[@AnEffingPinkCatThatBreathes]

Yep, mood

[@Nickdoesstuff2358]

They're not wrong...

[@trademarkdps2880]

FACTS

[@NotxbossThexbot]

As a pansexual, its still pretty crazy to me that theres a group of people whos sexuality it completely different to mine (not crazy in a bad way, but crazy as in like, knowing that there are people whos minds are basically in another universe) They prob think the same about pansexuals like me though lol

[@bigmanmccheez5342]

Asexual guy here, I'm just confused how you people have any sort of a literal attraction. The idea of attraction fascinates me since I've never had any. But yes we think differently from you guys particularly. The best way I could describe it to a straight or gay person is that I feel the same way they do about the sex they aren't attracted to, but you lot don't have one of those.

[@MySerpentine]

If I'm broken I really don't want to be fixed.

[@daydream1372]

Explaining some sexualities with ✨ s o d a ✨ Gays/lesbians: I like Coke! Bisexuals: I like Pepsi and coke! Polysexuals:I like multiple sodas! Pansexuals: I’ll like any soda as long as it tastes good! Asesexuals: *w a t e r* Edit: :O so many likes-

[@girlontheedge2636]

@Lotta X so that means pansexuals doesnt have any preference? just asking, no hate

[@kandiskidding186]

@@girlontheedge2636 yes exactly

[@girlontheedge2636]

@@kandiskidding186 oh got it they like people for people ??

[@dcchaos6409]

Ew calling it soda

[@girlontheedge2636]

what about aromatics?

[@YuniX2]

It means a lot that he interviewed someone who is grey asexual. People think I'm making stuff up when I try to explain that that is who I am. It means a lot to be seen.

[@itsnotme7908]

YES

[@darifuckingduprey3675]

IKRRR

[@afreensheriff]

Y E S

[@marigold_exe4528]

YES.

[@naturalnat3452]

I get it. Since high school, I've always considered myself "not so sexual" even though my friend group of mostly bisexuals, a lesbian, and a demisexual considered me one of the 2-3 straight friends. Like yeah, I was interested in guys, but I always considered dating to be that you could claim as many hugs and cuddles and maybe a few kisses from that select person whenever you want. I realized second year of college that I'm somewhere on the asexual spectrum. I used to consider myself ace but say that there might be a very slim chance that I could ever experience sexual attraction, so I consider myself as graysexual now. Still not quite sure if I'm heteroromantic or polyromantic, but I've always said I'll like whoever I like.

[@MollyDollyy]

13:22 Either Cake or Garlic-Bread, 2 Foods Aces like to have!

[@NikoruNinja]

Really appreciate this video. I'm a sex-repulsed ace (I don't even like kissing tbh...) but I still want companionship, and even to have kids some day, but dating is so daunting because I'm scared I'll be pressured into doing things I don't want to do :/

[@the_sad_gopnik6220]

Parents: you haven't found the right person yet Me: rolls eyes Demisexuals: no no, he's got a point

[@user-ty5pq5yy4m]

as a demisexual, I agree

[@NoName-ld7gg]

What’s a demisexual, lol? My autocorrect is saying it’s not even a word.

[@user-ty5pq5yy4m]

@@NoName-ld7gg "Demisexuality is a sexual orientation where people only experience sexual attraction to folks that they have close emotional connections with. In other words, demisexual people only experience sexual attraction after an emotional bond has formed"

[@mvsj1986]

As a Demisexual myself, I want to say that nobody has the right to tell you how to live your life or how you should feel...

[@the90sgirl81]

He should do a video about demisexuality

[@TheRibottoStudios]

Oh oh oh here's my favorite "how would you know you're ace if you're a virgin?" I think this is just one of those things you innately know about yourself.

[@diharaj5358]

Like, I've never been stabbed but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like it lolol

[@TheRibottoStudios]

@@diharaj5358 hahahahahahha RIGHT?! Like....i mean come on.

[@mary5party107]

The thing is , It’s not only about sex. Asexuals just don’t feel sexual attraction to anyone. That’s why some sex positive asexuals have sex with their romantic partners. So that question is so fucking stupid and makes no sense.

[@nancylouise2769]

I get asked that so much haha usually by straight people so id ask them 'well how do you know you don't like people of the same gender?'

[@Shle.y]

It’s like the “how do you know you like girls if you’ve never dated one” I’m like, you knew you didn’t before you dated one. People are just so close minded

[@melt_brain]

learning about the way an asexual person responds to certain things like affection and such is so baffling but amazing. almost all of my lgbtqia+ friends are asexual or ace, and listening to them talk is genuinely interesting. they don’t downplay affection or think bad of it, as well as other things, and it is so cool to hear their stories. i love it. more people need to listen to their stories because you can truly learn a lot, and it’s the easiest way to show you care without being rude or insensitive