My uncle was permanently brain damaged as a result of measles. This was way back in the early 1950s. According to my mother he went into hospital a normal four-year old and came out unable to speak, partially deaf, eyesight affected, and intellectually disabled. He was able to get slightly better over time, but the results were permanent. He was never able to speak properly again, and his intellectual functioning was poor. The fallout in the family was pretty bad, as my grandfather had refused to take my uncle (his son) to the hospital because measles was just something all kids got. My mother never forgave him, nor did the rest of the family. Just for the record, my grandfather was kind of an asshole. Unsurprisingly, our entire family is very pro-vaccine. If someone says they're anti-vaccine around my now 80+ year old mother, she will happily set them straight in no uncertain terms.
@genericcommentor11112 жыл бұрын
Your family is very wise
@pilisjose3 жыл бұрын
Her response at the end felt soooo good. Am I the only one?
@spin.chicken3 жыл бұрын
Um? That's...no....
@amandatuttobene53193 жыл бұрын
Right there with you.
@ankyfire2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely I felt the need to hit him during his self righteous dumbass speech
@ExploringTheTube-fd1oo9 ай бұрын
Yeah like, I'm not condoning her response, but I get it. lol
@dreamy.izzy269 ай бұрын
Um yeah you should be the only one because vaccines are not good for you, and even the vaccinated can still spread it.
@Likeomgitznich3 жыл бұрын
Anecdote: I definitely had a full conversation with Mikey mouse as a kid when I had a 104 fever. At 105 the roses on my moms sheets turned into ants and I freaked the freak out 😂
@DoctorElliottCarthy3 жыл бұрын
I think I would freak the freak out too
@rosyface_3 жыл бұрын
My cousin is autistic and we found that out right as Wakefield came out with his BS (cousin born 1995). His dad/my uncle actually runs a biotech company where we live in Scotland and studied to see if there was a link between MMR and autism, and knew first hand that it was all absolute horse shit.
@DoctorElliottCarthy3 жыл бұрын
Horse shit is spot on!
@starjamberry3 жыл бұрын
Hi dr Elliott! Just wanted to say I’ve had a really depressed day (no good reason - just one of those days) and feeling really lonely, and your videos just radiate the kindness I needed today. Thanks for sharing such great information and for just doing what you do ❤️
@WeirdHeather2 жыл бұрын
Hugs 🤗 I hope you had a better day today xx
@matthewcrome58353 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU for clarifying about the hallucinations never being fully visual and auditory at the same time! I think movies like A Beautiful Mind and Fight Club (as much as I love that movie, it gets DID dead wrong) always misrepresent psychosis/hallucinations. People think there's this entire person you see and hear in your head when in reality your brain would have to be doing A LOT of work to envision that shit lol
@Cthulhu0133 жыл бұрын
My fever dreams are always what I term as "loop dreams". I always know when i am running a fever, because my sleeping brain will go into a loop, replaying the same dream endlessly. It's quite horrible, because I can't escape it, no matter if I wake up and then shut my eyes, I'll be right back into that dream.
@matthewcrome58353 жыл бұрын
That sounds like some Black Mirror shit truly terrifying
@jokelsey37303 жыл бұрын
I get this too! I had never found a way to explain it properly, but you have perfectly. It is an awful experience
@mandipandi3033 жыл бұрын
I had a severe case of spinal meningitis and was in the ICU for two months. I had 106° F (41.1° C) fevers and I don't remember having any fever dreams. Granted, I don't remember much from that time. Anti-vaxxers will always infuriate me. Their selfishness could easily have killed me at any point in my life. And they don't care. Even my own family are Anti-vaxxers.
@arcaine39072 жыл бұрын
I think that in the hospital in cases like that they like to give you some drugs that are prone to cause some amnesia like benzo. I had sepsis and because it was a little traumatic alongside 42/43 degree fever they were giving me clonazepam and diazepam.
@goldenapple39522 жыл бұрын
Damn... Did you ever talk about it with your family? Maybe they didn't comprehend exactly how this affected you?
@mandipandi3032 жыл бұрын
@@goldenapple3952 I did. They didn't care. They just said that they're healthy and quote, "I won't change the way I live because other people are afraid." My mom is a retired nurse practitioner and tried to talk to them and they still didn't care. I hadn't spoken to my family for 5 years for obvious reasons.
@goldenapple39522 жыл бұрын
@@mandipandi303 im so sorry. I cant comprehend how difficult it must have been to experience this. Its terrifying that even people who are in the medical field can be ignorant like this even when it costs people their lives...
@mandipandi3032 жыл бұрын
@@goldenapple3952 It's okay. I'm much happier with them out of my life. My mom is still a terrible person, but at least she's not an Anti-vaxxer. I've always said that actions speak louder than words and my family's actions showed they couldn't give less of a shit about my well-being. I mean, I already knew that, but them refusing to wear masks and get vaccinated assured me that I wasn't gaslighting myself and that they indeed are terrible.
@anne128763 жыл бұрын
When I was about 8 years old, I had a really bad cough that wasn't going away. Each time my mom was bringing me to the clinic (about every 2-3 weeks), the doctors were telling mom it was only a bad cold, that it will go away and there was nothing to worry about. So, I kept going on with my normal kid life: going to school, going to family partys, seeing my friends, etc. One day, I was coughing so hard, I puked all over my school book. So, my mom brought me yet again to the clinic. This time (it was my third or forth visit), the doctor was stressed out. They asked my mom if I went to school or if I've seen pregnant women or young infants. Yes, obviously! I went to school and I saw my aunt who was pregnant and my 1 year old cousin. The doctor lectured my mom for being neglectful for bringing a kid with wooping cough (I was vaccinated if you wonder) to school and family partys. The story doesn't end there. I had an adverse reaction to the antibiotic they gave me. I was rushed to the pediatric hospital in the middle of the night.
@roselover4113 жыл бұрын
Woooooow the temerity of them to be angry with your mom when they were the ones to dismiss her concerns multiple times. This is why we have concerns about doctors taking people seriously.
@Henoik5 ай бұрын
After my first Covid vaccine, I got a 40.5C fever. I started getting visual and auditory hallucinations. I lived by myself back then, so I called the urgent care. They sent an ambulance to pick me up and I was under observation until I got better. It was the most scared I've ever been. Losing my consciousness halfway....
@royalpython17363 жыл бұрын
I had a fever dream with COVID. I woke up in the middle of the night thinking the blankets were attacking me. Fun times!
@rfrolicarts3 жыл бұрын
6:36 I find this part fascinating because it's almost always how hallucinations are presented in media- perhaps because that's just more interesting to film and convey with actors. I always assumed the way media shows it was how people actually experienced it. TIL!
@noriakikakyoin85873 жыл бұрын
In the topic of dreams and such, I've noticed that when I get woken up sporadically in the morning and go back to sleep, i tend to remember the dreams more and also they get more and more nightmarish, but I'm already nightmare prone so I don't know if it's just me
@anyssamoya15592 жыл бұрын
I'm exactly the same way! A bunch of small periods of sleep back to back, especially in the late morning or afternoon, are almost always how I end up remembering a nightmare. It's to the point that if I want to take a short nap in the afternoon, I have to prepare myself for a potentially disturbing dream.
@katphish303 жыл бұрын
I'm not a parent, and that crying makes me absolutely frantic because the baby is obviously in unusual distress.
@johngingras3 жыл бұрын
I've had hallucinations from fever twice in my life. Once as young child on the playground, a plane was flying overhead, and I thought it was the Red Baron chasing me. Another time was also as a young child, in my bedroom, I thought some strange lights were coming through the door and trying to get me. I can't picture the hallucinations very well anymore (it's been over 30 years), but I do remember the fear still pretty vividly.
@ace-of-teacups3 жыл бұрын
I once had a 42º fever and had this dream of being on a plane that fell on an island and having to gather people's body parts and put them back together correctly - and it was a loop dream.
@tomaszkucinski433 жыл бұрын
Thanks Elliott! I am learning a lot about medicine through your commentary videos! 😁
@aude47473 жыл бұрын
I was on the edge on my seat to see your reaction at the last second of the ep. I wasn’t disappointed
@poorlilmeowr3 жыл бұрын
really love this video
@tahraethestoryteller60793 жыл бұрын
Also your reaction to Love smacking Gil in the head was hilarious 😂
@Martill33 жыл бұрын
I love the You videos! Thank you so much, doctor.
@imaginareality3 жыл бұрын
I remember one fever dream where I dreamed that there was a flood in my house and when I woke up I was confused for a few seconds and walked downstairs still thinking that I needed to get away from the rising water. The most uncomfortable nightmares I've had always involve a sort of distortion of reality and a sensory-element, I don't know how to describe it? Like, objects that are either too big or too small but never the right size, my legs or fingers feeling like they are getting bigger and bigger, things in my dream that have a rough surface or a surface that's too smooth, but always really uncomfortable to touch.
@drmether91502 жыл бұрын
A weird thing I wanted to bring to your attention is often when I experience my classic migraine episodes and I take a nap to sleep it off I always get sleep paralysis. Like I never ever get sleep paralysis unless I’m experiencing a migraine attack with aura. I wonder why this keeps happening because usually when the paralysis happens it’s more auditory than visual and it’s like I can hear the dream I was having when I was sleeping rather than see it. I also have very very vivid noisy dreams during my migraine attacks and I just find it kinda fascinating.
@francescalong58463 жыл бұрын
Excellent video as always! Thank you so much for talking about using a thermometer to measure temp in children- it really helps us in hospital to have a recorded number! Also it’s best not to use a ‘strip’ thermometer which is placed on the skin as they’re really inaccurate! So in ear if over 6month or an underarm in babies. Important to note as well that the brain inflammation (subacute sclerosing panencephalitis) can develop up to 10 years after the initial infection- so a child may seem fully recovered but years later can still get really sick!
@nat30073 жыл бұрын
I got a measles vaccine but I missed out on the MMR vaccine which I have just had now. No one was anti vax it just wasn't the combined one at the time. People should check because I thought I had the MMR vaccine.
@lunacouer3 жыл бұрын
Do you mind giving a round-about year you had only the measles vaccine? My shots would've been early-mid 70's and now I'm wondering if I need to dig out my old vaccination yellow card.
@nat30073 жыл бұрын
I think it was in the late 1980s interestingly my vaccine card also says immune to German measles not sure whether this was a factor.
@DoctorElliottCarthy3 жыл бұрын
Great point. Someone in my fam had the same issue so always important to make sure you're covered
@lunacouer3 жыл бұрын
@@nat3007 Thank you. I'll be digging it out to check so I can go over it at my next appt. You may have just prevented me getting sick!
@lexwithbub3 жыл бұрын
@@lunacouer don't forget that every country/state will have had a different roll out of vaccinations onto the schedule, so best to check your own record 😊
@Ona19793 жыл бұрын
I've had visual hallucinations from a fever before. When I was a kid with a high fever, I could see huge bugs on the ceiling and I spent a long time staring at the ceiling, because I was really scared that one of them would drop from the ceiling and land on me. When I was in college, I had an extremely high fever from a throat infection. I don't know how high it was, but I couldn't feel anything but heat on my body. Other than that, I couldn't feel anything. I got to the point where I couldn't see anything but gray and I couldn't move. When my fever broke, I was able to think well enough to go to the hospital. The infected part of my throat was black and it was bleeding a little bit. When I was in my late 20s, I had a fever that spiked at 107 F. I had a thermometer and was able to measure it. I couldn't think well enough to decide if I should go to the doctor or not. When I told the nurse what my temperature had been, she didn't believe me
@loganmacgyver26252 жыл бұрын
My mom told me that back when she was a resident in the 90's they did medically induced fever studies on patients with HIV, she still thinks that is the only treatment despite it failing terribly
@AmaraJordanMusic2 жыл бұрын
When I had COVID, I was in a hotel eight hours from any family or friends. My fever got so high and I was so dehydrated that I saw my dead mother in the corner. She started telling me things to do, to bring the fever down. I remember it took forever and I spilled the Tylenol because I was shaking so hard and could barely move. I hated the taste of the water (my sense of smell was gone and I didn’t want ANYTHING in my stomach) but she kept insisting I sip. I’d fall asleep or pass out and wake back up and sometimes she was there and sometimes she wasn’t. She just kept telling me to sip, and to not be scared. The last time I saw her she cheerfully told me, “It’s time for more meds! Drink up now, honey.” I fell back asleep afterwards, woke up to sunlight coming through the curtains, and she was gone. My fever was down to 102. My mom was my best friend before she died a year and a half ago. We both have/had the same illnesses and she taught me how to handle it. I was in Kansas, far from home, to get treatment, and I know she’d have been really proud of me for doing it on my own and fighting so hard. No wonder my subconscious chose her to tell me what to do; I never would have argued back with her, and as sick as I was, if I hadn’t “followed instructions,” I’m not sure what would have happened; the cleaning service wouldn’t have checked my room for days.
@lucygrimshaw87962 жыл бұрын
Hi Elliott, I've been really enjoying your content and getting to know more about psychiatry! I'm thinking when they talk of the risk of seizures they are talking about encephalitis secondary to measles rather than febrile seizures? Febrile seizures are not generally dangerous (and I don't think measles is a particular risk for them?). Also, antipyretics have been shown to have no effect on reducing the risk of a febrile seizure, they should only be used for the child's comfort. Thanks for creating all this great content!
@246kisses3 жыл бұрын
I had a bad fever after I got the booster and I remember dreaming the cupcakes I made at work (coincidentally I also work at a bakery lol) we’re happy that I made them and we’re singing and dancing around me in my bed.
@beexsun71212 жыл бұрын
that’s…oddly adorable
@NoudlePipW2 жыл бұрын
Awwh! Cuuuute 🎶🧁🧁🎵🧁🧁🎶
@vanessaaves32713 жыл бұрын
My parents were moving countries when I was due for all my first round of vaccinations and forgot. So I ended up almost dying from the measles and went legally blind in one eye. Luckily my older siblings were both vaccinated!! And I have a friend who went deaf in one ear because of the measles. So, please folks, vaccinate your kiddos.
@deadphoenixrising3 жыл бұрын
A friend i had in primary school once had a really bad case of tonsilitus when we were camping and hallucinated spiders crawling all over him and spent like 30mins screaming whilst we tried to get him in the car to get him to the hospital.
@hannalowercase59283 жыл бұрын
unfortunately i can't watch this one because i haven't gotten to this episode, i'll wait until the next one!
@user-hn5zw8nq9m2 жыл бұрын
one time when i was a kid, i had a fever dream where i was convinced i was a boy named John hiding from the confederate army during the civil war. this was really strange, considering I'm not a boy, my name is not John, and I had probably only heard of the civil war a few times and had never really thought of it much, considering how young i was. i remember waking up a few times during the dream, and even when i was awake and could see that i was in a bed in a 20th century house, i was still convinced that i was John, and it was the civil war. super weird experience in hindsight.
@NatalieSterrett3 жыл бұрын
I’m an epidemiologist (with OCD) and I am being encouraged to attend a treatment program where no one, including staff, wears masks. Well over 50 people crammed into 3 rooms and I’m the only one wearing a mask.
@spin.chicken3 жыл бұрын
And?
@NatalieSterrett3 жыл бұрын
@@spin.chicken you don’t have to be rude. He made a comment about wearing masks correctly. I also am frustrated by people not doing so, more so than usual now because of the above.
@Henoik5 ай бұрын
I hope that you're able to suppress your compulsions where appropriate
@hannahj80993 жыл бұрын
I got swine flu in 2009 and my temperature combined with anxiety from emetephobia made me hallucinate in neon colours that flashed. I always know when I have a temperature bc my dreams are in the same neon colours!
@pinkiepiereincarnate22913 жыл бұрын
I don't know if you've done any kdramas but it'd be really good if you could analyze the characters in its okay not to be okay. It deals with a lot of topics and disorders really well in my opinion
@BambiLena6662 жыл бұрын
I had a fluke fever of about 41C once, it scarred me for life. It was in the middle of summer hot as hell, and my brain was so dumbed down with the fever that I just kept putting layers of clothes on myself, and covering myself with blankets cause I was just so cold and I just wanted to be warm and go to sleep. Everything was a haze but I saw nothing wrong with what was happening. After a while I went to the bathroom and my mom saw me, in the middle of 30C weather wearing layers of sweat pants and thick hoodies. I was still just like idk im cold. So she followed me and took my temp. I kept whinning and arguing with her when she was trying to take my temp down with cold cloths etc. I realized I get really dumb when I have a high fever and I cant be trusted. Dont remember dreams tho.
@mangantasy2892 жыл бұрын
Often if I am sick and wonder if I might get a fever, it is my "special sort of weird" dreams that tell me. When these occur and prompt me to measure my temperature I generally get confirmed that I am indeed feverish.
@darickaf25873 жыл бұрын
It would be amazing if you could react to the marvellous show My Brilliant Friend (S01E04) and Lila's dissociative state that she refers to as "la smarginatura," a term that can be translated to bleeding or dissolving boundaries, basically spilling out of your original form. Best representation I've seen of it, I felt really seen and it was pretty illuminating at the time.
@theproperjamez3 жыл бұрын
BEEN WAITING FOR A YOU VID
@misspinkpunkykat3 жыл бұрын
I was sick from my gal bladder. I was going to have surgery for it in a few days, but I had the most horrible dream that I never wanted to sleep for weeks.
@tahraethestoryteller60793 жыл бұрын
I have to remind myself that you guys use Celsius instead of Farenheight Like 39-40 degrees F is the exact opposite problem
@1Jasmin3 жыл бұрын
"Ahh yeah, there you go 🤷🏻♂️" 😂
@alextaylor39393 жыл бұрын
could you please react to an episode of The Good Place? I just finished the show yesterday and thought it would be the kind of thing you'd talk about
@scotth88283 жыл бұрын
I love that eye roll...perfect!
@chazz300002 жыл бұрын
Regarding telling how long someone has been infected you can check the antibody titer, especially IgG and IgM to discern if you're dealing with a fresh or old infection, but this usually has a 2 weeks window of error.
@FS-qk5uq3 жыл бұрын
Since other people are asking for kdramas I'm gonna include flower of evil and clean with passion for now too. FoE because of its take on how society discrimination and stereotypes affects people with mental illness. CwPfN because its probably one of the best depiction of ocd/mysophobia I've ever seen, and they even showed that the main character is naturally fastidious and it's separate from his mysophobia.
@monika98123 жыл бұрын
You should react to Shameless, more specially Ian Gallagher he is bipolar (is just found out on the end of season 4 but it shows signs in the end of S3 and all S4)
@GabyAMF3 жыл бұрын
You NEED to analyze the character Love Quinn after. She is amazingly complicated. React to her relationship with her brother maybe
@misspinkpunkykat3 жыл бұрын
The cartoon version of her where she starts out as Jokers psychiatrist or her modern version in Sucide Squad.
@GabyAMF3 жыл бұрын
@@misspinkpunkykat I said Love Quinn, from the tv series "you". She becomes Joe's wife. But Harley Quinn would be nice too, the one from DCU.
@JGD443 ай бұрын
I had a fever dream when I was young and had the flew and I remember being fully awake and there was a large amorphous shadowy thing looking at me from the corner of my bedroom ceiling. It scared the shit out of me. 😅
@thetriggerer85552 жыл бұрын
I had very high fevers all the time as a kid, I would have visual hallucinations and extremely strange fever dreams.
@Silentbob14943 жыл бұрын
I'd LOVE to see you react to The Boys. Specifically Homelander, but any character will do, they're all pretty screwed up.
@BelgorathTheSorcerer3 жыл бұрын
Anti vaxxers make me sad and angry. That said, I understand people's reservations about the Coronavirus Vaccines. I don't agree with them, but I understand them. Could it be possible for someone to dream while sleepwalking? I sometimes get up and walk around or talk in my sleep, but I don't ever recall having dreams when doing so.
@spaceballs442 жыл бұрын
It’s good that the crazy killer mom loves her son.
@roarsomemum58303 жыл бұрын
If only I had a psychiatrist like you. Unfortunately burn out is so prevalent throughout n your profession. It hurts all of us.
@Vera----3 жыл бұрын
I believe these are hallucinations because of high fever. You are awake. Your mental capacity is not different other than hallucinations and maybe temporary blindness. Been there, lived that :) 40+C degree fever with convulsion when I was a teenager. Could speak with you, could do a math problem but the current environment and reality changes. Nothing scary happened in my hallucinations. I remember not telling my mother at that moment who was holding my hand and praying next to my bed in ER in fear. Because that would upset her more. I could hear her, spoke to her, but when I turn my head to her, nothing was there. It passes. It was actually fun, I remember playing Tetris with the lighting elements in the ceiling :))) The room was changing into my old room. The walls were emptiness (black) and I could not see my hands even though I passed it in front of the lighting.
@maggiepie88103 жыл бұрын
As an autistic person, I don't really understand why some anti-vaxx parents would seemingly prefer illnesses such as tetanus.
@IWantToRideMyBike5 ай бұрын
Doesn’t sleep walking involve talking and moving so you would have to be dreaming?
@jackelinechavez51233 жыл бұрын
You should check out the movie encanto. Primarily the song “surface pressure “
@justinerichards34353 жыл бұрын
You should react to " The woman in the house across the street from the girl in the window"
@viekwk3 жыл бұрын
can you please react to a character named Ha-Eun byeol from the kdrama penthouse ? or Joo-Seok kyung ? There are so many characters in the show that has gone through so much mental and physical distress i think theyre so interesting and would love you to analyze them if possible thankyou
@danielvmay5 ай бұрын
late to the party, but would love to hear your opinion of neurofeedback - care to share??
@rolfthewolf423 жыл бұрын
Check out the new movie the fallout. Felt like a very real portrayal of teens going through PTSD.
@angelaakuffo4035 ай бұрын
He should react to the smile movie.
@viekwk3 жыл бұрын
is it possible for you to react to Jinx from Arcane ?
@ivannarandall21023 жыл бұрын
I'd love to see your reaction to Euphoria,
@sofialangdon82123 жыл бұрын
is that Bebe on the background ?
@DoctorElliottCarthy3 жыл бұрын
😉
@Fudgedunker3 жыл бұрын
Yay!
@jjk47542 жыл бұрын
I’m guessing he was getting auditory hallucinations but that would have been more difficult and less interesting to portray
@a_lethe_ion3 жыл бұрын
Also CORONA OMICRON IS AIRBORNE. NOT JUST DROPLETS, BUT AEROSOLS. WEAR A FPP2
@maisieduckworth3 жыл бұрын
you should watch The Umbrella Academy!
@Lucifronz2 жыл бұрын
Battering the crap out of him? Excuse me, sir, that was one itty bitty tap over the head. He'll be fine. He barely even sprayed any blood! /s
@XCRAP43 жыл бұрын
REACT to JAKE AND AMIR PLEASE
@deriqueparker21243 жыл бұрын
React to the show 911
@6Fiona6_P_62 жыл бұрын
Can’t say I blame her……. ⚛️☮️🌏
@Tu_Padre313 жыл бұрын
You should react to midnight mass. A mini series on Netflix, alot to break down there
@julienmarschall75182 жыл бұрын
Fever is 40 degrees the whole world Wow thats high. Americans OH NO HE IS FREEZING TO DEATH
@kiernanmooney62102 жыл бұрын
Naw man, Love is an act first think later kinda gal. There is no middle ground with her. XD
@TheMFStudios2 жыл бұрын
I feel as though a lot of doctors are too comfortable with accepting what they've been taught as truth. Medicine and science are forever changing and evolving. Not to mention the government agenda frequently stops facts from coming out due to financial motivations.
@ankyfire2 жыл бұрын
While science and medicine are constantly evolving, some things stay the same. Gravity is still the same. The earth still revolves around the sun. Vaccines still work.
@TheMFStudios2 жыл бұрын
@anky Yes, I completely agree 👍 but in order to keep advancing, you have to question.
@ankyfire2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMFStudios that’s true, but what you wrote can be interpreted as “question anything”, and that’s not the case; don’t question IF vaccines are a good thing (they are), question how to make them better and safer. Same way as we don’t question IF gravity works, but we’re still finding out how exactly it works.
@TheMFStudios2 жыл бұрын
@anky Yeah, I totally get what you're saying. There is a smart way to question and an adversarial way to question. I think right now we have a lot of people who have just started to realize that if you don't go out of your way to learn every detail about certain things you don't know anything at all about how medicines and vaccines work. And the fact that in the last 30 years we've uncovered so many lies told to us by the medical community, coupled with the sudden shift to body conscientious consumables, people WILL question everything and the only way to make that stop is having education be more accessible to the masses. And our government doesn't seem truly interested in making education more accessible.
@ankyfire2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMFStudios you are unfortunately right. We’ve been told lies before and it’s absolutely understandable that some people are skeptical. I honestly believe that the process now is more foolproof and the peer review process means what’s accepted now is way safer than let’s say 30 years ago, but it will take time to undo that harm that lying did.