How a Surgeon Tells a Family that a Loved One has Died

[@ldavanzo44]

You are a kind human and wonderful Dr. / Surgeon i can only imagine too. As a retired Scrub nurse truthfully It was very rare to work with a kind heart like you.

[@katbarnes4698]

I am one of those parents, my son died accidentally. It truly is a nightmare just like you described. I’m very sorry about your son and that boy you were talking about

[@cynthiaholland13]

I'm so very sorry for your loss

[@loaf27]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, may God bless you and give you strength during this time of grief. Jeuss Christ is a healer.

[@KittyBroccoli]

I am so sorry for your loss 🕊️🕊️

[@Lindalou5977]

@@katbarnes4698 I’m so terribly sorry for your loss …. I may not know you but I still feel your pain … God bless

[@romans52345-cy3tq]

You will never get over that, you just will learn to cope

[@YourThermalWorld]

My parents went through this in 1970 when my brother was killed in a high speed accident. At 14 years old I lost my best friend, mentor and someone I still look up to. I’ve raised three children and am a grandfather. I think of that horrible day and experience quite often and hope to never experience it again. Rest well, Lenny, I still love you.

[@TheVideoTalkers]

very sorry to hear this, may your friend rest in peace 🙏

[@adimark42]

@@TheVideoTalkers It was his brother but Rest in Peace anyways

[@TheVideoTalkers]

@@adimark42 his brother was also looked up to as a friend, but yes rest in peace to him

[@reeree6682]

Knowing that you know and knew EXACTLY what these and other parents and loved ones have experienced brings tears, Doc. If EVER there was a person to tell this nightmare of a reality...they were blessed to have you. WE are blessed to have you. Thank you for ALL you do.💔💜💙

[@southernsass2937]

Amen ❤

[@RobertShaw-fl3os]

Doc Thank You for all that you do . 🎉

[@jordanjohnson5669]

Doc, I have worked in EMS and I thank you for what you do.

[@hbennett5640]

Thank you for being the kind doctor that you are❤

[@AS-by8ee]

This was heart-rending and so desperately sad for both us the viewers and he the doctor and teller.

[@saraford59]

I know that when I lost my 16 year old daughter unexpectedly, my whole world is completely different. The person I was then I am not today. I still am learning to live this new life without my daughter.

[@meowcheesemeow6951]

im sorry for your loss

[@dnfluffles772]

While my situation is not as serious as yours I too lost a highschool friend months before last graduation. For me it feels weird seeing old messages but I recalled this when I saw your post becuase it made me wonder how her parents were doing. I hope you are doing well.

[@stevetesta6680]

Probably fake shit, but if this is true, damn.

[@Everthingwithmichael]

@@stevetesta6680 bro look at profile picture it true

[@meme-sb7vr]

Wailing is the sound of a soul be shattered and crushed by unbelievable pain and heartache it is a sound that when one hears it it touches the very depths of your heart, it is so much deeper than tears or crying....heard it way too much in my 31 year nursing career.

[@annieseaside]

It comes out and it is not something the person is choosing to do... like removing your hand from something hot before you can form a thought. It's automatic and uncontrollable. It's a tone and depth you had never heard your voice make in your life. In hindsight it is surprising because we think we control the sounds we make but not in this.

[@shadowblade7977]

Even though I'm 13 I am not new to death. Many of my family members experienced death in many situations. My grandfather, a stroke. My uncle, Car accident and my other uncle, blood cancer. My cousin, suicide. Even though I do not have kids myself, I am sure the experience will be what the doctor described. Since so many family member in my family have died, I had to go through grieving multiple times. But I am sure losing a child is worse. Just imagining the one you have taken care of, the sweetest presence on the entire universe is not alive anymore just sickens me. I Give all my condolences to parents who have lost their children. Take care 🙏.

[@graniabenge2814]

I sometimes ponder that people often forget that their surgeon, physician, nurse, indeed all healthcare professionals have illness, injury and bereavement going on in their lives, too. I'm sorry for the loss of a dear son and mindful of the need to always be thoughtful and kind in our daily lives.

[@tranquility9325]

I was an EMT. One of my pediatric patients drowned. She was with her father, and the mother was out of town. When the mother arrived at the hospital, I remember a primal scream that I will never forget. It sticks with you for a lifetime. Thank Dr. For sharing, and I'm sorry for the loss of your son also. Rest in peace to the victims who have left us 🕊

[@lynndinovo3500]

I remember that inhuman scream when my sister called me at 1:00 a.m. to tell me her son had taken his own life. It was a sound I had never heard from another human being before that call. 💔 I am very sorry for the loss of your beloved son.

[@lyngruen8607]

I do believe the heart IS BEING RIPPED right out of the body 💔💔 such agony HAS NO DESCRIPTION. I really admire your compassion and respect for your patients and their family. God bless you 🙏 Texas Nana Psalm 91

[@nancydushay5744]

You are so calming…more doctor’s should be like you……we can only wish

[@KH-nt7ej]

As a nurse everytime this happens my heart drops to my feet. I can not imagine what the docs or families have to process when they get this information. All we can do is hold their hands or listen to their grief. We just feel helpless. It is never the ending anyone in medicine wants.

[@mattrushing5573]

I'm a hand surgeon, and your story even choked me up. Due to my specialty, it is very uncommon that I have to give this kind of news, but I did have to give it a couple of times during my ortho residency. It took all I had to give the news and answer questions without losing it myself. As soon as I left the families and found a place to be alone, I did lose it for a minute. I have mad respect for the ones that find themselves in this position on a somewhat regular basis.

[@kimberlygrissom2315]

You were given the gifts of skill kindness gentleness thankyou Dr

[@Lindalou5977]

My face is wet with tears …. My precious daughter is a NP on trauma unit SICU/ trauma Hershey Pennsylvania! She has also done this many many times …. Times when a Dr is not available etc ….. it takes a toll but I thank you and my beautiful Cindy for all you do to help devastated family members as a loss has tragically occurred….. God bless 🙏. My daughter would just adore you …. I just know it ❤

[@kimberlywoodbury1739]

Wow - I worked as a chaplain in a trauma unit, and no one but the attending physician was ever allowed to give a death notification. I’m sorry that your daughter has to go through this, but they are very fortunate to have her there.

[@marthawall3318]

Dr.? As I listened to you describe what the pain is like for a parent losing a child, I knew immediately that you have to have experienced this agonizing reality yourself. Your words were those of someone who knows-personally-what the parents were feeling. I am very sorry for the loss of your son. I deeply admire you for your work and your great empathy for your patient’s family.

[@leigh5251]

I can't imagine the toll this must take on you. What I admire about you is you're honest with compassion and that's not something I've experienced very much with doctors. Stay amazing.❤

[@susanmann5286]

I'm very sorry you lost your son. Thank you for your compassion.

[@daniellehowser]

I can tell you're a genuine doctor! That's what patients need. ❤

[@asdfjklasdfjkl408]

As a former paramedic and soon to be physician, I also use the words "death" or "dead" of course in the most gentle way possible, but when using those words, there is no room for misinterpretation and it is clear what has happened. Dr. Hoeflinger, I hope to be as compassionate as a physician as you💜

[@RobertShaw-fl3os]

@@asdfjklasdfjkl408 I wish you the best as a doctor. I admire you wanting to become a physician .

[@indyjones1970]

Yesterday at the beach, a friend and I managed to just save two young girls, sisters, caught in the deep in a strong current, seconds before they were going to go under exhausted. It was dicine providence that I noticed them. The event to being a tragedy of the scale you just described, and I really felt this video. Thankyou for sharing.

[@stottme1]

No words in English describe what you articulated from your heart and life's experience. God forbid if I ever experienced the pain of the death of a child. Thank you is not enough.

[@mariannestarchville3808]

Dear Dr. Hoeflinger, Your calm and soft spoken voice is AMAZING, because it brings such a comfort to me even though i have not had this experience. I pray for your son’s soul and all those you encounter in your ministry as a brain surgeon. My father David Michaels worked for years at MCO as a Physician Assistant teaching the residents in Family Medicine. Many memories in Toledo where my parents lived for 20years. Please continue this wonderful KZbin channel as i know you bring advice, insight and comfort to many. God Bless You! Safe travel to Mt. Kilamagaroo.

[@ms.krueger2660]

I have noticed that doctors need to be given classes on giving people bad news. I have not lost a child. When my Mom died the doctor put me in a room. He said - She is gone. Sorry. Do you have any questions. She died from sepsis and pneumonia. -He then walked away. That was it. He could have at least held my hand. Just gave me a small amount of comfort. I was there alone. You seem like such a kind soul.💜 I am so sorry for your loss. My neighbor lost her only child. He was 19. Car accident. He would be 51 now. I really don’t know how she goes on.💙😢

[@Roheryn100]

My husband had a brain bleed on his 77th birthday. He passed away a week later having never recovered full consciousness. He did have two strange moments two days before he died when he suddenly opened his eyes, tried to focus and said “who’s that ? Who’s there ?” I reassured him it was me and he replied happily “ Ah…good!” The second time twenty minutes later he suddenly said out of the blue “I love you !” in the cheerful , funny way we shared. And that was that. The day before he died the neurologist came to me and said bluntly that if he had other family they had better get here before 36 hours passed. That was the first hint I was given that things were not hopeful .Maybe there were more but I had refused to recognise them ? The last day the doctor did not come near me. It was a time of COVID and the hospital was practically a ghost zone. The ward was empty. A nurse came in and offered to shave him. I accepted, as he was ex military and would have appreciated it. Over the next few hours his breathing slowed and stopped. The nurse stayed at his side monitoring his heart but said little to me. I was alone . When it was over , after thirty minutes I went to the nursing station. The doctor was behind the counter writing. I asked if he needed an autopsy, as I did not want him touched further. The doctor looked up from his writing and said “No, we know the cause of death”. He never offered a sympathetic word . After a moment , I left. The security man at the entrance noticed my distress and asked if I was all right. I burst into tears, he led me aside and sat with me , holding my hand. It was the only expression of sympathy I had . I drove home alone. From what I could see, I cannot fault my husband’s care. But I can’t help but resent the attitude of that doctor.

[@jodiedohrn1257]

You have such a calm gentle heart for what you have been called to do by God. He has blessed you so that you may bless others by being strong for them. Thank you for all that you do.

[@lindagrazianosouthjerseyal9912]

Though I am so incredibly sorry for your own loss, I know that you were able to provide those parents comfort in many other ways that someone else could not have done...having walked the walk. As a fellow healthcare professional, I find myself more compassionate and understanding as I have gone through incredibly difficult health struggles myself. Though I wish I didn't have to go through this at all, I look it as a gift of sorts in that I can help others more fully and be more present in helping them through their own pain.

[@debishaw9355]

You are a very compassionate doctor. Thank you for sharing! I can’t imagine how it would feel to lose a child or grandchild. You explained it so well. I’m sorry you went through it as well…

[@rickholland6695]

Wow, this video hits hard and for me, it is real. My wife, Penny and I worked together as EMT/Paramedic partners on the ambulance for decades. We had to give death notifications and dying declarations on a routine basis. It was absolutely heartbreaking, but we had to do it. At least we had each other to handle the stress. I knew Penny for 43 great years. She had 53 years of service. Unfortunately, she died suddenly in May 2020. So, I had to deal with the pain and loss myself. I can tell you they don't make women like Penny anymore. I love and miss you, my wonderful wife. But life goes on.

[@youtubedeletestheoppositio8188]

Did penny get the Covid vaccine?

[@kovyvuri]

@@youtubedeletestheoppositio8188 dont be a dick. say your condolences and move the fuck on. doesnt fucking matter.

[@kovyvuri]

im so sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you deeply. and im also sorry for the other jackass in the replies.

[@vidoesvideos]

@@youtubedeletestheoppositio8188 the jabs weren't available until the end of 2020.

[@detectivefiction3701]

KZbindeletestheoppositio8188. He says Penny died in May 2020. The Covid vaccine first became available in January 2021. So either you're ignorant, stupid, or a troll. Probably all three.

[@jamesvoiss7122]

Dr. Hoeflinger, thank you for sharing this story. God bless you for the care and sensitivity you showed to those parents in that horrible time.

[@childofcascadia]

Im a veterinarian. Its hard enough to tell a family their beloved dog who got hit by a car died on my operating table. Thats heartwrenching enough. I cant imagine having to tell parents it was their child lying dead. I just cant.

[@mambostirfry]

So powerful. You knew in mind, body, and spirit what they were experiencing. So terribly sorry for you and your wife and that couple. Traveling together on a voyage you ever imagined. ❤

[@chrisbertrand5878]

I've been on both sides of this. As a fire captain, I've had to tell countless families that their loved one has passed. Sometimes that discussion happens on the side of the highway or some other, less than ideal situation. I've also been the parent sitting in that room with the doctor. Luckily, my daughter's condition improved and she has been a miracle, but to be whisked away into that little room by the nurse and given the worst news you can imagine, I hope none of you ever have to experience.

[@susanbrennan5511]

When you cry like that it’s called keening. I know because I did it for years. My husband soulmate of 24 years had a brain aneurysm. There were delays getting him to a trauma center ( there was an ice storm). They decided to do surgery the next day and I was there but the hospital was going through a remodel. I was in the hallway near where he was having his surgery and asked everyone to send me news about what was going on. 2 hours later I saw the room with the door open and someone was sweeping it. I asked where my husband was and they told me he was back in ICU. I went up there and there was a doctor in his room and I asked why I wasn’t told about what was going on. The doctor sneered at me and said it doesn’t matter he’s gone anyway. How I wish a doctor like you would have taken the time to treat me with respect. I ended up keeping him on life support until his 2 sons could come home from college. It was the week before Christmas. 14 years later I still feel that horrible pain when that doctor said those words to me.

[@MICHELLE-gu2qc]

I am extremely sorry for the loss of your son. You are a caring and strong person. I am so glad you are a softer and have great bed side manner. My Aunty lost 2 of her teenagers 15,16 and their friend 15. The way my aunty and uncle were told was brutal by a Country Emergency services officer who was attending their accident. His son was the driver so I guess he was in extreme shock but yeah caused long term trauma. My aunty had horrible time to accept because she was never allowed to say goodbye, view, they sedated her too heavily. Yes people may need medication but not to the point of no feelings or ability to process the grief

[@danielleohare3364]

💔. 💔. 😭. Ultimate Loss of a Child... at any age. Or for Siblings too. I feel for your Family and so Many Other Families who Walk this Path. It's a Journey no one Should Have to Go Through in Life. Rest Easy Angel's

[@lesliemassey-or6cv]

Such compassion and true understanding.. 😢

[@amyc9382]

We need more empathetic doctors along with officers who also have to deliver such life changing, horrific news. I’m so sorry for your loss and so thankful for your commitment to teach us all. May your son and my son, and so many other children rest in peace.

[@LoriNuttall]

Emotional beyond words.

[@wrjsn231]

Thank you, Sir. You truthfully describe it exactly as it is. The remainder of my life will never be the same.

[@cjhmarine0621]

Working for many years in a Trauma One center, those screams and scenarios you described were all to often and always flood my memory. I experienced more death, destruction, families and people torn apart, blood, trauma, stress, sadness and so forth then I ever did in my years of service as a Marine. Sometimes it was people I knew, sometimes it was people I got to know, sometimes it was total strangers. Even though you get desensitized to it in the moment , the emotion is still there when you go home and are alone with your own thoughts. I've had the privilege to work with some great doctors, nurses, specialists, and assistants while working there. The staff at the hospital see hell on earth and the worst of the world every day. BUT once in awhile you get to see a baby being born, a life be saved, a friendship being made and it makes it all worth it. Always thank hospital staff for what they do, big or small, because trust me it means the world at times when the day was long and dark. A little light made all the difference. God bless our medical staff and thanks Doc for sharing a little peek into the chaos. :-)

[@sharonpeterson896]

My partner lost two of his children in 2020, 9 months apart. One due to covid the other to fentanyl. I'm glad I have no children. I don't know how a parent survives the loss. My heartfelt sympathy to all who have experienced this horrible event.

[@Zonedout_vids]

You sir are an unbelievable man. Thank you for what you do sir. You are undoubtedly my favorite storyteller. You lift me up when I am down and give me hope. Thank you Dr.

[@JimS870]

Thank you, doctor, for all that you do! Please take care of yourself.

[@yuvig186]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and anybody else who has lost a child

[@Nurturing2]

God bless you, Dr.!!! 🙏😇✨ My heart aches for your loss. Thank you for comforting these families in their time of helplessness and hopelessness. 💔

[@adamalbert7856]

God Bless you Doctor Hoeflinger, people think that being a Doctor is all about the money, nothing could be further from the truth. It is a calling and it takes a special person to do it and do it right, without losing it.

[@bonniebon7335]

I’m sad for you that you lost your son. I’m even more sad that you must relive it vicariously from time to time.

[@Rae-yv7md]

I have such respect for you and I have zero for most so called Doctors after bitter experience. Bless you.

[@KarinBernhardt]

Thank you for everything you do .👍🍀🌼💜

[@lylestavast7652]

tough job you chose. thankfully people like yourself keep a good portion of those you serve with your knowledge and skills moving on in life, altered or restored to near normal, and for that - THANK YOU. Really excellent and clear explanation as an example.

[@rosemaryeveleigh3562]

It must be so difficult to share bad news. The parents so so sad losing a son. God Bless you for caring so much.

[@nancydaley9646]

Thank you to every provider who works at the rim of life and death. Thank you. And please, stay well.

[@Suekyle]

You are such a blessing Dr

[@apackwestbound5946]

Extremely eloquent and well described.

[@encompassvideo5429]

God bless you Doc. You are a gent.

[@GoldenGodofortnite1234]

Rip to the person that died hope the family recovers❤❤

[@korruptedboie8700]

Very sorry for everyone's losses.. I'm praying for y'all 🙏🙏

[@anniegerlach2563]

I really appreciate that you made this video. I want to be a therapist and I will need to help people process their raw emotions in painful time. I hope to have your composure

[@barbarjinx3802]

Thank you for your work. And I’m sorry for your own loss.

[@heatherstephens9295]

😭😭😭 Beyond anything I could comprehend.

[@saul.t.2.969]

Having experienced this at the age 16 when I was the only family member and I was told my mother had died. Very grateful to hear your methods. I’ve received a whole organ transplant. I’d be interested to hear when transplant coordinators step in?

[@allentate3760]

We went through a similar situation. Peace and blessing to you.

[@hannahlynn1706]

Thank you for this beautifully painful description. I don't usually comment on videos but this reminds me of what happened with my Papaw. I don't ever want to see that room again. If you need somewhere to talk, feel free to use the replies as a discussion place. Fly high Papaw, 1955 - April 16th, 2023, the day my life was shaken forever.

[@danielbrown7115]

God bless you Doc.

[@Satjr35031]

Well spoken Doctor

[@ceciliapreziose3783]

so sorry for your loss, heal your heart

[@ANGELAVITULLI]

Doctor Hoeflinger Thank you for posting this video ❤

[@goldengirl6805]

My heart and brain ache for them and and all of you, your staff.

[@auladeingles373]

When I lived in the US, I moved around quite a bit and happened to live right across from a hospital twice, both in Newark, NJ, and Buffalo, NY. I still recall the wailing I occasionally heard from parents, especially mothers, when they presumably were just informed of the passing of someone dear to them. I woke up to that sound a few times, I guess because car and gun incidents are more common at night, but also because that sound would probably only reach my apartment in the still of the night. It's truly a sound you can't describe, so powerful an impression it makes on us. I'm sorry to hear about your son.

[@michaeljulian4997]

As a long-time Paramedic, I have had to make death notifications more times than I would like to remember. That being said, I make a point to be the one who notifies the family if they die at the scene. If we transport to the hospital and the physician makes the notification, I attend and ask them if they have any questions for me. I recently learned new details of my father's death in 1978, when I was 13 years old, which helped me greatly. I want the families to have as much information as possible and, for me, it puts a period at the end of the sentence that started when we were dispatched. It helps me cope with all the loss that comes with Emergency Medicine. Keep up the good work! You should like a very empathetic doctor.

[@danawildman8766]

God bless you, Dr. Hoeflinger.

[@jackmeyhoffer5107]

I can’t imagine the anguish of having to bury your child.

[@Freespiritarts]

Doctor, what you are doing with social media is so valuable.

[@angelabeatty6538]

Thank you for sharing

[@chadstrunk801]

This man speaks the truth.

[@jscott1353]

Thank you for sharing.

[@jacquelinedidur7611]

God bless everyone who has gone thru this. 🙏✝️

[@BNails]

I am a funeral director. I've seen all kinds of traumatic injuries, disfigurements, etc. Young, old, everywhere in between... Most of my clients are old, and while sad, it isn't tragic. The times when it is though are the people I can never forget. At least the families of these people have had at least a little bit of time to process their loss, even if it is an unbelievable agony they are going through. I can't imagine having to be the one to tell a parent that their child is gone. Hell, I've had to take care of infants in my career and the sounds were soul-destroying, but the worst part was them having to hand their son back to me instead of going home with them. Having to be the first one to tell them the news would be... devastating to say the least. Hats off to those who have that unwanted duty.

[@joyceholcomb2130]

God Bless you ❤

[@NETHER_NINJA]

Iv never heard that scream but I can imagine the parents pain

[@kristineanix9045]

You handled that well. I wish I had learned of my brithers death in such a way.

[@Zooeee915]

Thank you for articulating what I feel

[@blairwillis9199]

I'm so sorry that you lost your son. ❤️🙏

[@jacobbaumgardner3406]

I lost my brother nearly 3 years ago now to an AML induced brain bleed. He was taken to the local hospital, but then was flown to Cook Children’s Hospital in Dallas. I flew down from Portland that night and we all arrived in DFW in the morning. Texas has a law that requires the “plug to be pulled” after several tests have determined that there is indeed no brain function. The hospital had a team that was there for us the whole time, and even made a painting using our hands and my brother’s hand. He was so cold, and his heart trying so hard as the blood in his body began resisting being pumped. They delayed the 3rd and final test by a day (the previous two showed no brain function), and before they could conduct it, his heart began to beat rapidly as the blood cancer strained his body to the limit. After over an hour of all of us standing in the room watching his heart run a marathon, it finally stopped beating. We like to think that we were relieved of the responsibility of pulling the plug. After all that, my other brother and mum began to help clean his body with the nurses, and the attending physician came in to talk to us. My mum and dad were not in a place to be able to process anything, and because I am a very logically driven person, the best emotional remedy for me was to talk about what has happened and why. The attending physician was absolutely excellent, and she stayed and talked with me in a small room for nearly 2 hours, and explained everything in a calm, yet matter of fact tone. She later said she was amazed to see how I managed to process all the information she imparted, and her detailed explanation went a long way to help me find closure. Thank you Cook’s children’s hospital, you were what we needed in that moment.

[@corysmama1]

I have been in a simular situation. My 2 1/2 year old son, choked on a hotdog at the baby sitters home. No fault can be given. This was 34 years ago. I was in shock for about 5-6 years, existing but not really able to cope. This is not a situation I would wish on anyone. Time has helped, however it still brings that night back as if it was yesterday. I know he is in a better place, I dreamed not long ago he came and told me he loved me, it seemed very real. I feel badly for everyone including the surgeon to have to go though such a horrible situation. My God bless any family having to go through such an ordeal. I felt God needed his sweet laughter more than I did. For some reason this helped me.

[@doctorhoeflinger]

So very sorry ❤️🙏

[@sarahudson108]

I couldn't do that , imagine it is the worst part , you do all you can but it isn't enough, my husband works in healthcare, he had dealt with sad and tragic cases, I am very proud of him .

[@stonesfan-h1d]

I'm a physician,an Ob/Gyn.Despite this unimaginable loss this family was incredibly fortunate to have you deliver this news.I would not have had the ability to do what you did on that night.

[@SherioCheers]

Heart injury from grief can be very real...

[@Roheryn100]

I am endlessly surprised I have no injury…

[@carolynadkins1887]

Thank you 🙏

[@RobCCTV]

Lesson of this video: appreciate every moment in life. Life is finite. Life is precious.

[@McTaco]

I imagine that hell is like that moment, for eternity.

[@FastAligator1234]

I work in a Neuro ICU. I often see what he has described. Once an 18 year old boy was playing with a loaded gun with his friend when he accidentally shot himself in his forehead. I worked for many hours trying to save him when I knew deep down it was all for nothing as he was unable to recover. The Neuro surgeon used the same term. “Devastating and catastrophic” when describing his injuries. I’ll never forget his dad’s cries when we were in the room together. It literally hurts your soul. It’s crushing and makes it hard to breathe. But you must carry on and perform your job at a high level. I could never tell a family their child has died. I don’t have the balls or courage and thankfully I don’t have to be the one to have that conversation. It hurts just to usually be in the room.

[@fish4096]

This guy has the coolest last name ever.

[@margaretbaca6017]

God bless you

[@JDel709]

My dad is a minister, and years ago when I was in my early teens, someone in our church died unexpectedly. I was standing in the hallway of a funeral home when the family went in to see the casket by themselves before the visitation service started. I heard that cry you describe when the wife saw her husband in the casket. It was something I never will forget.

[@OshoElijah]

May the Lord comfort the family of those who lose their loved ones😢

[@John75Mulhern]

If the Lord doesn't heal then he can get lost

[@Ghhyuttgg]

Surely your lord did this

[@defski]

And I bet you wonder why people find atheists insufferable.

[@Dadzgrl5529]

It's what my grandmother always called" keening" ,that raw unfiltered emotion coming out when a loved one has died. I did that when my son died I was told later. I feel for the doctors having to relay it. Definitely a difficult conversation.

[@sharonevans1257]

So sorry!

[@SOPHIAFLYGIRL]

I lost my beloved nephew to suicide in 2008. My sister (his Mother) was a complete zombie. At the funeral, my sister sat on my Mother's lap in her wheelchair. I'll never forget my Mom saying to my sister "I can protect you from a lot of things, but I can't protect you from this" as my sister cried her eyes out as this was the last time any of us would see him. The pain my poor sister continues to endure is unbearable at times. ❤

[@loganbaileysfunwithtrains606]

Heard the story of an Army Chaplin, he said throughout his military career, in combat and giving out final rights to the injured the violence and death never affected him. He said the worst sounds that kept him up at night was the wailing cries made by mothers and wives whenever he had to knock on the doors and officially inform them that their husband/son had been killed.