Does He Like You or Is He Just Being Nice?

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel. It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.

[@Frikadelsquad]

Can you help me… the boy I’m attached to is very calm if he is with me, but not with his friends, and I think he is flirting, when we talk he is very nervous and quite, is that flirting or not And he doesn’t text he only talks in real person❤

[@agirlwithnoname213]

I can't believe i found myself watching those kind of videos again.

[@raechiies]

😂😂lmfao me too

[@misskate4807]

same ;/

[@deirdrecarney7093]

yeah... SIGH

[@NavyaNarayanan-j4n]

No fr, I have never had a guy even look in my direction and here I am telling myself "this is for future me in case anyone is interested in me"

[@elloramelani4131]

Real

[@YM-wj2dr]

And avoid a guy or girl who says they're in a relationship but it's not working out. The relationship could be just fine but they want a chance with you too. Usually if a person will cheat to see you, he or she may later cheat on you too.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Great point. I agree.

[@estherdistefano6997]

What about when a guy is a player they will do all that, Until they let their guard down ,And you catch them.

[@buzzbozkarma]

Usually true; I have come across this where the person is actually in an emotionally abusive relationship and crying out for help (in either case theyre still not in a good place to date so good advice)

[@crazymelomanka]

not necessarily. there are different situations in life. sometimes this is when one meets a true love instead of the one that only seemed real.

[@searain1573]

Romantic love is not special at all. However, platonic love is special. Platonic love is one of the strongest types of love, while romantic love is one of the weakest types of love. When a guy and a girl are best friends, they won't date or be in a romantic relationship with each other since they know it wouldn't work since they are too close. That proves that romantic love is inferior to platonic love. The best feeling for many girls is being able to have platonic guy friends that are like brothers to them. Most girls prefer having platonic guy friends over a boyfriend/husband. Many girls would choose their platonic male best friend over their boyfriend/husband and give more importance to them. Most girls seem to be more comfortable being around their platonic male best friends than they are being around their boyfriends/husbands. People are closer to their platonic best friends than they are to their romantic partner. People usually love their platonic best friend more than their romantic partner. Platonic love is actually real, while romantic love is fake. Romantic relationships are actually a downgrade compared to platonic relationships.

[@alexandrasmith7682]

Always believe that it is just friends ...... If a man is interested, he will simply ask you out.

[@ektaaasar]

​​@@STak-ju7gxI thought that only but what if he flirts, compliments, is touchy acts romantic etc but for some reason dissappear then, then again comeback act romantic suddenly act distant. It's on off. Problem is when they give mixed signals. I always come across men who are emotionally unavailable & put me in situationships giving mixed signals

[@Being.Homo.Sapien]

​@@ektaaasar Ditch them. They are not the one. On-off is not the good sign according to me. The one who is really interested will make you his priority. On-off guys are confused about you. You might be one of the options for him to choose among. Life is too short to be with someone who is not sure about you.

[@summerpeachwhisper]

@@ektaaasar in that case, move on. Never let yourself be breadcrumbed.

[@mirablejo7858]

Nope, not true.

[@krish68]

Who told you that ?? 🤣🤣 ... That's so stupid and not at all true ... There are so many reasons behind why a guy wouldn't ask a girl out even if he likes her .

[@MavisSakala-i9s]

I think the reason why women say that he's just being nice is because they don't want to assume what they don't know and I think they don't want to be hurt cause if you believe someone likes you but that person doesn't it hurts more

[@swayze6602]

THIS!!

[@lynnh1682]

There's that but I know nothing about flirting and the like. If someone flirts it will not register, unless he's blunt and direct.

[@angel.cheugy]

True. At this time and age, it's extra difficult to predict people and their intentions 😂

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

This helps me because i am very delusional. Gotta remember these helpful tips for next time. Thank you ❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Hopeless romantics need reminders 🙏

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Excellent video; I'm still struggling to let go of my seven-year relationship. My former significant other, who I genuinely thought was the love of my life, broke up with me a month ago, and I just can't seem to move on. I'm feeling irritated and powerless since nothing has worked to bring him back into my existence. I've tried to move on, but my heart still hurts for him, and I can't see myself with anyone else. I apologise for posting this here, but I just can't seem to move on from missing him.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

It's difficult to say goodbye to someone you love; I know this from my 12-year relationship. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually had to seek help from a spiritual counsellor.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

By the way, how did you locate a spiritual counsellor and how can I get in contact with him?

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual advisor with the ability to bring your ex back.

[@Allenwatts-y9n]

Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual advisor with the ability to bring your ex back.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

[@getthatnana]

If you’re wondering whether he’s interested in you, he’s probably not 😭

[@alexandrucovasala7357]

What is your opinion of yourself, so you think like that?

[@getthatnana]

@@alexandrucovasala7357 my point is that usually men who are interested in you would make it pretty obvious so you won’t have to wonder

[@mirablejo7858]

Nope not true. I was entirely clueless before my husband’s friends told me to open my eyes that he’s in love with me. I was like… huh? I thought we’re just friends. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Only after our wedding he showed the actual romantic side he had held back due to not wanting to pressure me. I had to make the move on him, because he was shy and super respectful. I had NO IDEA how hard it had been for him to hold himself back due to fear of crossing the line and losing me. And my now ex husband is not only one I know who has done this. Both men and women might hide their true feelings afraid of rejection. It’s more common than being honest and open. In my experience I have actually been pretty often the one to confess first and being afraid of rejection just to get the response of finally. Because I took many times the way guys treated me just friendliness I completely missed the fact they had romantic interest hidden behind it.

[@alondradelamora0917]

I agree

[@Astro_st4r0]

He does😌😌

[@francefradetjardineslacora8114]

Romantic vibes: his eyes twinkle when he looks at you. It's a no-brainer. It's the twinkly eyes. That and touching your arms or shoulder. Literally not being able to keep his hands off you. Not rude touching, just wanting to put his hand on your arm or around your shoulders. It's so obvious really. The electricity in the air.

[@Crayon4632]

Man did this with me but I think he was a narcissist so I'm not really sure he truly liked me.

[@MWroses]

I've been noticing both lately....twinkly eyes and he put his hand on my back. Definitely eyes meet more lately. Then...We both get nervous. Electricity in the air describes it well. I feel like it will be months before things progress at this rate lol. But I've been through this before and I learn to enjoy the ride.

[@francefradetjardineslacora8114]

@@MWroses If a man is decent he will ask you if you would like to go for a coffee/ sandwich. He won't string you along. But shy respectful men sometimes need a little encouragement. As a decent woman you need to give signals that you are open to an invitation. Leave the way open to dialogue. It's a lost art. You have to be clever. A third party encouraged my husband to ask me out for a drink. He would still be smiling and blushing and stuttering otherwise. 🙄. You can get a trusted friend to find out what he is saying about you. Old -fashioned bush telegraph. Far more dignified then clomping up to him and asking him out. Here in Spain it's normal to find out about a person's character first. My boss suggested to my husband to go ahead and ask me out, I was a good person... Good luck.

[@MWroses]

@@francefradetjardineslacora8114 I love Spain and hope to go back someday. Beautiful country and people. I'll take this as a sign. And coincidentally, I think my boss would encourage him, also, so maybe I'll have the same luck! I have been subtly letting him know I am receptive. Time will tell. We have enjoyed getting to know each other and are becoming more comfortable together. I think the nervous jitters are starting to improve so I expect things to progress soon if they are going to at all. Thank you for your words. Oh and he is a really good man. I can't believe he is single. But maybe he thinks the same about me. We are both good people and that is not common today....it's a beautiful thing when two good people find each other. Because he seems to like me, I think he's being careful not to make a mistake.

[@oweber2160]

1. Conversation style (Attentiveness/Body language) 2. Eye contact 3. Advertising relationship status 4. Focus 5. Make it personal

[@andreamora-nq3jx]

I think no one should overthink it. If you catch your self overthinking, just ask, be direct. There's not enough life to worry about a dude ( girl ) there's plenty of people, and most likely people that will like you and be direct and respectful with your time. Don't, don't let anyone toy with your time and emotions.

[@justmoosethings]

Thank you. This really helped. He’s not interested. I’m glad he’s my friend, though. He’s a good guy.

[@runr100]

It's interesting how effective these steps will be at dissuading narcissists, too. Narcissists tell you they are interested but their body language doesn't show that interest. They don't ask about your feelings. They don't give solid eye contact.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I really appreciate your valuable insight, thank you!

[@Imjustagrl]

I'm latina, so I understand the latin charm, charisma etc. It's still difficult because these men are usually affectionate, attentive by nature, or raised this way. Like the men in my family. I am having a hard time telling if he is just being playful. From what I am hearing, it seems very clear when a man is interested, so I will maybe help him out and see where it goes! Muchas gracias ❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I’m glad my video provided you with some clarity. Saludos.

[@Acornsme45]

@@SaveTheMessenger Hi Ismael! Thank you for this video. It was perfect for me because I’m actually going through something like that right now. I’m also Cuban btw😂. There’s a guy I’m very interested in and I’ve know him for a while now. I think he is interested in me but I overthink everything😬. He works down the street from where I work, and he comes everyday for lunch and parks at my plaza close to my car, which makes me think a lot because why doesn’t he just stay at his work parking lot. His come walking up to my car multiple times. One time because he heard I was sick and wanted to see how I was feeling. That day he said to me that if I ever needed anything to please let him know since he works very close to where I do so we exchanged numbers. Later that day he texted me and said the same thing, that if I ever needed anything to not hesitate in calling or texting him, that he could help me with whatever he could. Later another time, same thing, he came to my plaza for lunch and I was in my car. It started raining alottt and he texted me if I needed an umbrella because he had an extra one. Then he told me to be careful because it was flooded and that I could fall. We’ve hanged out before with his sister as well. And when we are hanging out he is already making plans for another hang out. His family paints him like a very serious and shy guy but when he’s with me. He is very far from that. He is always laughing and joking and teasing me and talks loud. He is very caring. And I don’t know I just see something different in his eyes, that I don’t see with anyone else. Sorry for the long message.

[@Swetlana628]

@@Acornsme45He seems to really like you :)

[@AnnaParada-x3y]

​@@SaveTheMessengerGREETINGS FROM KENTUCKY THERE IS A WOMAN WHO REACHED OUT TO A CRIMINAL IN PRISON HE WILL BE GETTING OUT IN 2030 HIS NAME IS HOWARD SCOTT ANDERSON HE WAS A TEENAGER ONLY INVOLVED IN A CRIME IN 1996 WITH SOME OTHER TEENAGERS THAT CAME FROM MURRAY KENTUCKY SOME WOMEN RECENTLY REACHED OUT TO HIM WROTE HIM LETTERS HE WANTED TO PUT THEM LIKE ON THE VISITATION WITH HIS VISITATION LIST IN ORDER FOR THEM TO THEY HAD TO PAY FOR PHONE CALLS AND WHAT NOT HE WOULD LOVE THEM AND THAT'S REALLY WEIRD QUESTIONS AND WANT TO TALK SEXUAL WITH THESE WOMEN DISGUSTING UNGODLY MAN A SICKLE PERVERT THEY LEARN NOTHING IN THE PRISON SYSTEM IN AMERICA NEVER REACH OUT TO A PRISON OR HELP THEM UNLESS YOU ARE RELATED TO THEM THEY COULD BE JUST USING YOU AND THEY DON'T APPRECIATE THE KIND WOMAN THAT REACH OUT TO HIM HE'S A JERK HE WAS INVOLVED IN THE TEAM VAMPIRE MURDERS 1996 EUSTIS FLORIDA

[@thanhvy5673]

@@Acornsme45 he seems like a nice guy, he knows how to approach you. you need to be careful, need to observe more to see if he is only be nice when he's around you, or he's a nice person.

[@swedishgirl2506]

Platonic friendships are out for me. I'm tired of getting stuck in situationships and every friend of my brother's hitting on me. Nice to know what the vibe is -- definitely recall the personal questions, dead giveaway.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Your perspective is so helpful, thanks a lot!

[@cup_o_TMarie]

And some people (women too) will like you just enough to entertain them & validate themselves but not enough to see you as a potential serious girlfriend. What they do is something in between all of this. They may come around, show interest just beyond the superficial, call & text often & want to see you. This is when you must hold onto your values, standards & and vision of the kind of relationship you want if it’s serious especially. We should tell people that’s what we are looking for & we want someone who is intentional as well. You’re not asking him specifically to give it to you, simply showing that you’re confident & clear about what you want. Then if he doesn’t start showing that, he’s showing you what he is capable of with you & you can kindly move on before it becomes a mess & you get attached. In this way you’ll maintain your dignity & personal power. If a man wants something more with you, he’ll show & tell you. Don’t try to make things work & have endless conversations about your status with him. Keep it simple & let him come towards you or not.

[@andreamora-nq3jx]

Exactly. Just be direct, and if he is just there to play with your time, leave. there's plenty of dudes out there

[@mariateresaacosta7786]

💯 agree.

[@KaiyaKN26]

Your examples are always the most engaging and really help understand what you are trying to explain. I love watching your videos. I always get so excited when I see you've posted something new. I can't wait for your next one. Thank you.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Awesome, thank you!

[@tralfaz]

As a gay man I have found that being nice to a woman can easily be confused with being interested. Just because I like talking to a woman, that doesn't mean I want to date her.

[@cup_o_TMarie]

Yep, same here with men. People who are desperate will perceive a simple smile as flirting. 🫣😝

[@d.4201]

Yes, I had this occur so I just asked him if he was gay. No problemo. He said No. So I got my answer in more ways than one.

[@FrostyDufour]

I treat men as friends until they show me otherwise ❤

[@sOofiiexD]

I learnt this the hard way

[@sonshenshomestead7668]

There was a book I read after my first real heartbreak called, "All Men are Jerks until Proven Otherwise" not sure if it's still in print

[@alphaj72]

This video helped a lot. I’m trying to find out if my guy friend has some sort of interest in me. He’s very stoic and quiet, and literally only has guy friends-he doesn’t really have any friends who are girls, except for me. Yet, whenever we’re around each other, he kind of lets go of his stoic side and becomes more sweet and affectionate. He’s not a touchy person, but whenever we sit next to each other he sits close to me and brushes his shoulder and arms next to mine. Sometimes he walks across just to say hi to me or get my attention. He sings around me, and he just brightens up whenever I’m around. My friends have noticed how he acts differently around me too, but I’m type of gal who has low expectations in a lot of things, lol. I can’t base off how he treats other girls because he really doesn’t talk to any other girl. He always comes up to me and asks me how I’m doing and sometimes pats me on the shoulder or back for comfort-and he’s not an affectionate person at all. He’s always helpful to me and engaged with me when talking, but I don’t want to mistake this for him being a friend. Any ideas? I like him and would be interested, but I just don’t want to misread these interactions with him. I do plan on telling him my feelings eventually but I’m kind of waiting…

[@geniuspeng]

This video was perfect timing

[@thespicytravelgirl2297]

Literally.

[@DivyaSingh-mm1pk]

Thank you so much dear ❤😊 That's true always be his priority rather than just a option. How far or close that person live doesn't matter if you are his world 🌍 he will always stand by your side . 🥰✨👍☺️🥰 Just like whenever I see ismael video 💐 a big smile comes on my face 😃😃

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks for sharing these wonderful thoughts.

[@Phaedrus-th7bi]

Ladies, if a man stays near you when the rest of the group / party moves to another room, or if he seeks an opportunity to speak with you one-on-one, it's a very good sign he wants to get to know you. And if he starts 'scanning' your body, especially your face (because you are very close), he is trying to decide if he finds you attractive. Usually the guy will be smiling [he can't help it]. If he maintains a 'poker face', he does NOT find you attractive. Many men 'talk with their eyes' before they approach you.

[@irlandaise5631]

He can smile and be taken too

[@irlandaise5631]

But if he makes eyes contact ; I had a man not looking at me a lot but he d make eye contact and I thought he could like me but taken unfortunately However if he was single I think he could have been interested. I know men who really aren’t interested , they avoid looking at my eyes when they talk to me.

[@mehakverma7043]

So the thing is, when a guy likes you, it’s not true that he will keep eyecontact. Some men are shy and can’t keep eye contact, especially if he likes you. Some men are just respectful and know that keeping eye contact is important for everyone. What I find useful is to see whether or not his pupils are dilated. If it’s dark lighting, then they will obviously be dilated, and check again when you’re in a well lit area.

[@Mmm-nj5dk]

I kept initiation talks, showing interest, and trying to come up with fun stuff, he just simply followed and did the bare minimum which was sending one text a day................he was nice but exhausting...................

[@PrinceOfTheSound]

To be honest finding out if someone likes you is almost impossible unless they straight up sat so. I had this guy have a crush on me for years and Id never have a clue if he didn’t tell me

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

Im in this situation & I'm trying not to get feelings for him. Men, stop being overly nice to women, we catch feelings fast.

[@diegosotomiranda4107]

What if they aré just like that by nature? I've been In those situations that i was being nice to a girl and joke arround, finding she was thinking i was flirting...you can't control what others interpret, I'm always very clear about boundaries and respect them, but i like having fun and laugh, i tend to ask personal questions cause i dont like small talk or "genéric" talk, i like to hang arround with interesting people that have something to say and can express their quirks if they feel comfortable, Lot of people think it's just a set up for "dates", whats the Solution? Acting like a cold jerk?

[@crazycat8075]

When he's not even being nice...💀

[@shines4921]

god damn bro- u gotta dip

[@BlackCrystal-hz8nu]

Frr 😅

[@dingrong1451]

I only hope that I will meet the guy I like again and that he indeed likes me back so we can figure out something to do together the next time ❤

[@user-nm6dr4uy3d]

When a man (or a woman) is interested, you just know. If you reciprocate, things get really exciting. But if you don't, it's just plain distressing. The other person is clearly very interested, but all the while, you're trying really hard to figure out a gentle way to turn them down.

[@mirablejo7858]

Haha you definitely don’t know. I’ve got so many confessions from people who thought I was interested in them simply, because I care and nurture everyone. It’s very hard to know how people actually feel just from their actions. In my case. When I actually like someone I treat them worse than when I don’t. I don’t flirt, I’m quite rude and annoyed. Because I don’t like the way they make me feel so weak in the knees and my heart explode from my chest. For me a clear sign of no interest is the friendly approach.

[@user-nm6dr4uy3d]

@@mirablejo7858 Hahaha this is me as well :'''D this is also why I'm still single.

[@costasichaelrokkoudes938]

Personally I like to joke and create a good atmosphere with people around me. This doesn’t mean that I’m flirting with a girl for example. It’s just that some people think that whoever is in a good mood he is flirting with them. It’s a matter of different characters. It’s always better to wait some time After a few meetings you will know for sure if a guy is flirting with you. Learn to be patient and don’t rush into anything. After all as people say: « Easy come easy go »

[@nihariyaps1907]

So I had a crush on this guy this whole year and now I understood that he is not interested 😅

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Time to move on then.

[@lela888]

Ohhh That’s the worst

[@dafnneperez9577]

A new subscriber! Thanks for this video! I Love that you said that it’s ok for a woman to take the initiative as long he reciprocates the efforts afterwards. Great advice! This is like the 5th video I watched from you!

[@EricScofield22]

Great video. My relationship of five years ended a month ago when the love of my life decided to move on. I loved her deeply, and I can't stop thinking about her and the memories we created together. I've done everything I can to try to bring her back, but nothing has worked. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. I've tried to push the thoughts away, but they keep coming back. I’m not sure why I'm sharing this here, but I really miss her and wish I could have her back.

[@KennyChensey]

I've been in a similar situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but I couldn't let her go. I did everything I could to win her back, including seeking the help of a spiritual advisor who guided me in bringing her back into my life. We're together again now, and I can honestly say I'm enjoying every moment.

[@EricScofield22]

Really? How do i find one please?

[@chiarasenuri8701]

This is humbling

[@highflyersinternational8860]

IMPORTANTE: alguién puede mostrar todas estas actitudes y efectivamente tener un interés, pero puede ser de múltiples naturalezas, no exclusivamente un interés romántico. No porque alguién se comporte así, quiere decir que le gustes y mucho menos, que quiera algo real y/ó serio.

[@charlottepeukert9095]

I don't like it if a man approaches me in a so called playful way, acting as if there's a romantic interest. I'm not flirtatious and I don't like people who are. A friendly conversation is nice, but these latin lovers are acting as if they're on their way to the altar, thinking this is the right way to impress.Not for me.I like shy, reserved, humble men. If one starts bragging and making a fool of himself, I'm gone. rest.

[@theupgraded6558]

hahah so truee, had a latin guy licking his lips for 10mins straight & staring me out, while me having 0 interest & afterwards his gf came kissing him in front of me like wtf

[@mellymello7858]

@@theupgraded6558😂

[@Lars1996]

@@STak-ju7gxshy and reserved are usually the most controlling.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Your opinion means a lot, thank you for sharing!

[@h.w.4482]

​@@Lars1996i think you mean have the most standards lol

[@Sam-bc9ll]

My crush has shown every sign that he is romantically interested; however, he’s also friends with all the other girls at work and texts them too I think so idk 😭

[@tralfaz]

Maybe he's gay.

[@dianaslade9595]

Ask them if he’s also hitting on them.

[@franparkinson2040]

He is a player. Move on. Honestly it's no loss and better for your self respect.

[@Sam-bc9ll]

⁠@@franparkinson2040 I completely misrepresented him here lol. he’s not like that. He only has everyone’s number because he’s the manager, and calling for shift changes or job stuff is pretty routine. friendships are an easy inroad into texting multiple people, and who knows to what extent. He didn’t start texting me more until after a month past breaking up with his gf (who also worked there), and we’ve been texting hours a day for months-even since I left. We’re getting together for the second time tmr! his flirting is just modest compliments lol, he’s really an adorable human.

[@jess77surfs]

Cringy reality that most, if not all, my interactions with men are with "friendly" types. SOBERING That helps me understand why I've been single for 20 yrs. 🙏🏼

[@loveN-xt5gz]

Really good video!!

[@cawtheshots]

It's all about the gaze🥰

[@wwjd1940]

What do you think about a guy who gazes at you in a crowded place. Everyone is facing forward except for him. He's looking back at me directly into my eyes. And he was also caught by my friend looking at my body up and down.

[@cawtheshots]

@@wwjd1940 If that person you described advanced in your direction, it could be the beginning of something magically.

[@ShopgirlNY182]

I’ve been getting better and braver about starting conversations with guys / giving compliments but it usually doesn’t go far. They usually respond with an short answer and then walk away. I’m struggling with keeping their interest so I guess I’m doing something wrong or they’re just not interested. I’m going to ask them for a favor sometime, the bathroom idea is a good one and see if they’re still there when I get back from the bathroom.

[@musicenthusiast96]

bold to assume that the dudes like me back!!

[@relaxbebe]

Gomez! Como latina si somos así, un problema grande para las mujeres… I am being just nice, men fall hard for it. You are rocking with all these video! 😂❤🎉 I can’t stop watching them. I would save time of suffering if you had created this KZbin long time ago. 😅 never too late thought 💭

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Jaja saludos

[@abart2056]

I would like to think this works no matter what age we are. I'm 63 and I'm trying to figure out how to flirt again. I go to the gym and take good care of myself and lately, I'm seeing more older attractive men in the gym who are closer to my age. I've made eye contact with a few but I'm not quite sure how to go about letting them know I'm interested or available! Often times when a man is helping me with something and we start small talk, they'll always talk about their wife, girlfriend or someone they just met so that's a crystal clear message to me! 😊 Maybe I should lose the gym gloves? 😂

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks for your thoughtful input, it's really appreciated!

[@starsea698]

Few months ago my crush asked me who is your crush? I got so nervous that i froze . Then again he asked if i have an ideal type and oh god i said some random celebrity's name . Now that i think about it i should have said , its you. 😭 i lost my chance

[@diegosotomiranda4107]

You still In contact?

[@Miracle-Needed]

*** 8 Signs of Poor Boundaries 1. Inability to make decisions 2. People pleasing 3. Endless guilt 4. Lost sense of self 5. Oversharing 6. Resentment towards other's boundaries 7. Passive aggressiveness 8. Fear of rejection/abandonment How tragic is it that we are terrified to be noticed, but dying to be seen? * Here's a few tips: 1. Change boundaries ONLY based on observable behavior, not based on your feelings, or on their wants 2. Don't move people from one status to another, e.g., acquaintance to friend, too quickly 3. Some people start off respecting boundaries then become more manipulative over time, so continue to exercise healthy and firm and clear and honest boundaries (inside already established relationships) To the person reading this, repeat after me: Boundaries teach people how to love and care for me. It deepens intimacy and love. It's safe to set boundaries. Boundaries are about taking care of our heart, mind, body, and soul! It is about loving and cherishing and honoring and caring for ourselves. REMEMBER: Just because someone gets angry/hurt/upset/disappointed/whatever when you say 'no'... Doesn't mean you should've said 'yes'! It means they have to learn how to deal with 'no', they have to learn to self-regulate. You're saying no, IS YOUR ABSOLUTE RIGHT, and in fact, it's your obligation to yourself! * 10 "Survival Lies" You May Tell If You Have CPTSD: 1. fawn response 2. you start lying from very young to become socially included 3. story of yourself that is not actually true (you crafted it to adapt to environment) 4. lying to avoid loss 5. lying to secure resources/safety 6. lying due to shame 7. you find yourself in scenarios (due to past traumas) where it becomes easier to just tell overt lies 8. you lie after experiencing an emotional flashback 9. you lie because you don't want to have to caretake the other person's feelings 10. you lie because it feels nice to pretend to be (and therefore to feel) somewhat normal, sometimes * 4 things people with severe trauma do, without thinking: 1. Obsessing/ruminating 2, Assuming our feelings are wrong 3, Attaching to others in unhealthy ways 4. Viewing ourselves as others see us (without them knowing our back-story!) * YES, You Can Heal Childhood PTSD -- These Actions HELP: 1. Learn to emotionally regulate 2. Save your social/romantic energy ONLY for people who are available and who reciprocate 3. Get really good at ending relationships that aren't healthy/reciprocal 4. Choose friends who are working on themselves and are doing things you admire 5. Find activities/hobbies that bring you HEALTHY growth/evolution 6. ALWAYS ASK: How do I feel after I hang out with this person? Inspired/energized? Or drained and bad about myself? ANYWAYS, This will seem random, but... I need help I need unbiased advice please, if you're reading this, and you feel called to respond to this comment, I'm open to hearing from anyone who has something to share... I have been plagued with an awful dilemma I have been ruminating and obsessing over this for over 8 months now I had a therapist an AWFUL AWFUL AWFUL therapist the absolute worst of the worst instead of helping me and healing me he damaged me and traumatized me but I was too traumatized to do anything about it, at the time I basically saw him for all of 2023 then I KNEW I could NEVER see him again HE'S AWFUL but... he's also somehow wildly successful and I can file a formal complaint but if I do this I must do it soon the filing seems like a long and arduous process and in the end, it's his word against mine... I also don't know if I reap any particular benefits? except he may get somewhat reprimanded and I may get to speak up and use my voice I don't know what to do I must make a decision soon thoughts, anyone?

[@Heartbreaker1999-o5s]

im so sorry about what happened with your therapist. I relate to every point you made. So dont ever feel alone. Thank u for posting this.

[@Ravioli_star]

Bro it's scary af that i could relate to every point you mentioned 😢 i am very bad at putting boundaries 😭

[@Ravioli_star]

If you'll be happy after filing complaint against that person, even though you might loose to thaf person, i think you should go for it. Atleast you'll know that you didn't give up till the end whatever the outcome was.

[@ipercalisse579]

Gosh i had kind of the same experience, therapist was the worst, she basically traumatized me.. she actually failed to underline that i was abused by my family, instead she believed i was rather lying or having a sort of Edipo complex. What. A. Scum. I was just 20 yo

[@part-thymer9995]

@@Ravioli_starseconded, exactly that, it’s not really about the winning. It’s you basically calling him out for everyone to hear and for you, again, to establish that this kind of behaviour is not going to be tolerated and will have consequences. You are free to stop at any stage of this pursuit and the fact that you’re in the right won’t change whatever happens next And thank you for the facts and tips, they’ve been really helpful to me🙂‍↕️

[@emmak4425]

Thank you, this video was very clear and useful ✨

[@MWroses]

Sometimes feelings take time and grow. He might like you right away but be a little subdued until he really catches feelings. Guys are more open when they know you have good character and sometimes it takes time for them to figure that out

[@biljam972]

I must be then ugly as hell, because when I approach any man, he just grunts and goes away. Or he doesn't even acknowledge my existence.

[@kingduckie9135]

I feel like this video called me out because I do all these things with everyone. Now I'm wondering if I ever missed someone who was interested in me lol

[@jillwesenbeek3964]

Good video really clear information

[@jniesbts7613]

I GET IT I GET IT HE’S JUST NICE UFF 😤 😂

[@rafaelaantunes5710]

Thank you. That changed the game for me. ❤

[@Gayathri-s7l]

I subscribed right away. You're the brother never had. ❤

[@swapnamishra2875]

Hiii. You're always mentioning and making videos about men, how they like or don't like a women etc, but can you please also make videos on what are the traits should a woman raise in her relationships, what must be a dating standard for women , how to become high valued , which values muzt be developed, how to become a high value woman etc. I see that many women these days including me are not skart enough to recognize and analyze who iz the right guy for them and what that guy really wants, some of women starts quarreling or shouting at their partners in their relationship while somewhere this behavior makes them toxic. So there must be a balance of kindness and self love with genuineness. There are lot of things and questions like this in my mind and I would like to learn more about this from you. I hope no one hurt or cheat their partner in their relationship. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Have you checked my other videos? I have a few on being a “high-value woman.”

[@swapnamishra2875]

@@SaveTheMessenger Yes. I have checked one of your video - How to be a high valued women. Please do more videos on these kind of topics relating women's mindset in a relationship. Thank you so much for the reply. Love from India ❤🙏🏻

[@IsiBdji]

My coworker cashed me out and I was about to tell him about this great new show but he started talking to another coworker before I even left.

[@valentina47734]

Great,I have signs of being nice and interested

[@aakritijaiswal6935]

U r vedios r giving me damn clearance for my life thanks for taking such topics

[@junebyh]

Very valuable content as a single woman looking for love and faithful marriage this really helps me to focus on attracting the good man

[@journeyhomewithballori]

OK, how about this one? I met this guy at an event we were talking. He said I’d love to buy you. Coffee event was crazy. We never ended up getting coffee at the event. However, we started to text and FaceTime after the event we live in different states. I met his kids over FaceTime. We’ve been in very deep, vulnerable conversations, as well as lots of flirty joking, he claims he’s not attracted to him. How is that possible. He initiates the conversations. He asked follow-up questions. All of the things are there.

[@-EV4s-]

For no. 1, what if he doesn't initiate a conversation with you, but whenever you initiate a conversation with him, he seems bubbly and interested to text you? He doesn't act so much like that in group settings, but he does initiate conversations more when he's with a group of people.

[@nathalian.7209]

That’s a no. He’s not interested

[@-EV4s-]

@@nathalian.7209 Oh ok

[@Melissa-is-a-Raincloud]

​@@-EV4s- Don't listen to them. You know this person better than this stranger does. Listen to your gut, or try communicating with your person. ❤

[@-EV4s-]

@@Melissa-is-a-Raincloud Thank you for the support. I think he may not be seeing me the same way I saw him and I've come to terms with that, but I greatly appreciate your words nonetheless. 🤗

[@InkNoo9091]

I like him very much but I never initiate the convo it's always him and when we talk I get super excited, friendly I think maybe he likes you but he is shy like me or not wanting to disturb you or maybe not sure if you like him too ❤❤😊😊😊😊

[@aishu6653]

Girlssss, If you're confused That he is interested on you or not then take this point and compare it to yourself "The guy who genuinely likes you doesn't talk about the love feelings he had on another women"Take it and Move on

[@diegosotomiranda4107]

So Many girls/women Should understand that too, they think if they talk about exes or guys that aré flirting with them Will make the guy they are dating More "interested" In them, they seem to forget that those things can make them insecure about the woman interest In them like "she wouldnt say all this so comfortable if she cared about what i feel"

[@larissabrewington9065]

NUMBER ONE... Never assume.

[@ruby38281]

He might like me back but idk, he often says something to me if he walks by in the gym or at school, and not asking for favours or anything, just getting to know me ig, and he's really nice, and I'm pretty sure he holds good eye contact but I forget cause I'm too focused on the fact that he's actually talking to me lol

[@thegreatwizzzuh]

The timing is so crazy.

[@suchitrarana1174]

Thanks Ismael. Great video

[@SaveTheMessenger]

You're welcome dear.

[@RR-kv1zj]

Ismael there is a guy who starts a conversation and makes me smile, so he gets some financial benefits from me. His conversation is always to impress by telling lies , stories, jokes, so I believe and do something for him financially

[@EsraaEsraagaber3001]

Leave him gurlll what are you waiting for?

[@alexandrasmith7682]

You want a man who thinks you are dollars rather than a woman .... Perhaps he is out of your league looks wise? All you will end up doing is to make yourself feel bad. Walk away.

[@dlod8371]

What the hell did I just read? 🤦‍♀️ stop engaging!

[@bibabeader5932]

What about the ones who oscillate between the two behaviours ? See it all the time !

[@IsiBdji]

My coworker goes from showing interest to not showing interest. Very up and down.

[@Carmen_JC]

It's funny because there are out there some jerks that show all this things while they have a girlfriend. Long story-short: a guy in my class started to be really attentive and tried to be close to me (genuinelly asking things, close body language, physical touch, long staring...). But I saw how he acted while he didn't know I was there, and I felt something was off, so I followed that gut feeling and I set boundaries with him. Months after that, he started doing the same with a friend of mine and they seemed to have a strong connection in a very few days. And again, same pattern from him: very interested, very close to her face, physical touch around the waist or the shoulder or the knee, talked by the phone for hours... Guess what? When my friend took the courage to ask him if he would like to know her more and be something more, he said he had a girfriend :/ Bro, how in the earth are you so close to girls in that way while having a girlfriend? Can't you show a little respect? So girls out there, seek for genuine connections and start being friends only. And if you feel something doesn't feel good, it is because something, follow your feminine instincts!

[@theCatsitter878]

It happened recently to me with a guy I later found out was married. I guess some guys do it not because they actually want to cheat ( otherwise he wouldn't have told your friend he has a gf) but because they like the validation of other women liking him.

[@Diviiya]

These kinda guys are everywhere, the thing is they always wait for the opportunity to cheat, pass the time and play with feelings. Better restrict with boundaries asap when they approach us with further moves!

[@fionasearle4413]

Yes...saw all of this with my ex. Loved being validated by other women. He was looking for connections.Took me a long time to see he thinks it's acceptable and seemed he liked to keep his options open. Player.

[@MaS-ym9uz]

Excellent. Thank you

[@carinarose2943]

Good information.

[@HM-bd9un]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Perfecto!

[@karashera2252]

I've watched many of those videos now and it's always the same: my best friend fulfills all the criteria that would confirm he has deeper feelings for me, but when I ask him, he says that there's absolutely nothing more than friendship there. It's confusing.

[@jk-nada77]

Thanks l really need this 😂❤

[@lama7763]

I’ve had the opposite because I have only had like 5 male friends before and 2 of them were only friends to try and date me. One was to date my friend, and 1 was because he was board and needed a smart person for answers or something (not really friends but put them on the list because it’s kinda relevant)

[@empanke5165]

If a guy already has a girlfriend and is doing all the things you mentioned, is he looking to cheat on with you?

[@theCatsitter878]

Maybe, or maybe he just wants attention from a girl who's not his girlfriend, just for the thrill and to see if he's still able to attract women, but won't act on it.

[@fionasearle4413]

I am amazed at how many guys think it's OK to check out and flirt with other women. Play with fire you get burnt.

[@carolinew9964]

Very helpful.

[@Jan-qv8ku]

Thank you! Very helpful❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

My pleasure. Thank you!

[@michailajordinneponce7128]

I cannot understand why other women easily fall and misinterpret these actions?I mean,women should wait for the man to confess.If he ever was shy enough to try to convey his emotions then it is his problem

[@brendaliz.arteaga]

Thank you for sharing this usefull información, I really liked it ❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

I’m glad it came in handy!

[@johnrainsman6650]

This has nothing to do with romance, but it does involve the questionable possibility of a man just being nice. The man is my half-sister's dad. I felt like he didn't really give me a lot of attention when picking up or dropping off my sister (though I was very little, so what would I remember anyway). Then I stayed over at his and his family's house with my sister for a week or two, when I was eight. Once in the summer, the other in November. I don't know if I asked if I could join my sister, but there's a pretty good chance I did, to invite myself into her family. I even wrote them a letter in 2013 because I missed them so much. Well, when I reunited the dad in 2015 for my sister's college graduation and her wedding in 2019, I felt like he was a little too interactive with me. All peppy and "I'm-a-big-fan-of-John" attitude. It was actually kind of annoying. At my sister's wedding, he commented how good the food looked in line, compared our heights when the conversation about mine came up, and fist-bumped me about some funny joke I must've made (my memory is vague). I don't know, I wonder if he was just embellishing his admiration of me. I tried to be close to him and his family and maybe he was giving me too much "fatherly" affection in response. But maybe because he felt like he had to? If that's the case, I don't want it. It's kind of like going on a pity date with someone. You just don't do that.

[@leonaangelique34]

Just wanted to say thank you for the clarification. I really needed a guys opinion on things.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Glad to help.

[@shaktisharma8924]

What if it’s a mix of both ?? Does it mean he is just being friendly

[@carrives]

If it's a mixture of these things? Then I guess it's a no?

[@staywellandstrong4199]

WOW. 🎉😊 Thank you for sharing your amazing observations

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Thanks for watching!

[@kerenwinters]

falling in love with someone I can never be with😂

[@hopemay12]

A great video. Thanks ❤

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@summerwine121]

Thanx for this video. I am actually quite clueless about this kind of stuff. Am into a man at the moment and would like to ask him for a coffee or lunch ...not dinner yet 😅 from what you say I might gather my courage and ask him.

[@Julia_definitely]

I am still confused because he sometimes acts like he does have interest but not like crazy mad but the other time he is like a friendly guy. He does listen to me blabbering nonsense and I also dump my trauma stories while he says things like "You could have hit him in the face for being a jerk", he barely knows me and says he value understanding and knowing someone better so Imma just wait and do my own thing till he gets to know me better, that's the only thing I can do. If he likes me then that's good, if not then that's good too, can't force him yk. I do give him signs though, and make him know that he is special to me.

[@Midnight33_]

Please make a vid with more reference to texting and such. Im an introvert and most of my socialization happens online.

[@SaveTheMessenger]

Noted....I can tell you many times I feel like an introvert if I'm surrounded by the wrong people. Your environment can influence the way you interact with others.

[@andriavinithalobo5813]

New subscriber❤🎉🎉

[@mariaa5572]

Can you have as a future topic how to get out of the Friend Zone, thanks

[@alexandrasmith7682]

That's easy ..... Walk away. He isn't interested but you are so you are wasting your time and investing in something which won't pay off. And ask yourself another question ..... Why am I being "friend zoned"? Often, and apologies because I don't mean to offend, but the woman is obese or doesn't make the most of herself ..... Men like slim, feminine women ..... If that truthfully isn't you but you have a great personality then you are going to be constantly friend zoned. Start working on yourself and you will find guys start showing interest.

[@deomnibusdubitandumest]

I second this

[@angelgreen9945]

Thank you 😊

[@LouiseMagsumbol]

Question: What if he gives me mixed signals?

[@FelicityK24]

I like a guy and he told me that he has an amazing girlfriend and that he also crushes on me but just wants us to be friends.Is that good to continue our relation like friends? I mean i've already accepted the reality.

[@tetianakofanova106]

Thank you. But does it work same way with introvert guys?

[@patgiogi1291]

Ma ci sono uomini che conoscono queste tattiche e le usano per farti credere che sono interessati a te ma invece vogliono solo portarti a letto … conquistarti ma non hanno intenzioni serie vogliono solo flirtare

[@ipercalisse579]

Sfortunatamente è così. A me è capitato. Poi mi rendo conto che dovevo ridimensionare la mania di una relazione. Avevo 30 anni, volevo una relazione che non succedeva. Ho trovato uno che ha recitato quella parte perfettamente per 4 anni...

[@patgiogi1291]

@@ipercalisse579 purtroppo gli uomini sono molto più razionali e calcolatori di noi donne e se si impongono di raggiungere un obiettivo fare una conquista che per diverse ragioni a loro interessa, portano avanti la recita anche a lungo, vivendo a volte una vita parallela … io resto sempre scioccata nello scoprire di cosa sono capaci.

[@sufiaraduan]

my friend has a big crush on this one guy. that guy shockingly does treat her nice. and sometimes even ask her to hang out. the eye contact is okay, and the body language is okay. but sometimes, out of nowhere, he acts far, late reply to her text, and ignore her comment in his live streaming (he is quite famous in our Uni for his look). but then the next day he acted all lovey dovey again with my friend. idk, i have no clue whether he is just being friendly or if he does have feelings too for her. because he does have a lot of female friends. and all his siblings is a girl. I'm asking on behalf of my friend, i don't like seeing her put so much hope in him. it going to be really² hurt for her if he doesn't. it's not just a little crush. It's a curse for her. she is getting jealous of him taking pictures with other girls. she always looks for him on campus. always watch his live stream. always join his games