Does She Like You..Or Is She Just Being Nice?

In this video I go over how to tell if she likes you, or if she's just being nice. I get a ton of questions from you guys about this so I hope you all find this video helpful! Let me know what you want me to talk about next and leave a comment down below if you've been in this situation.. always love to hear your stories!
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[@Stelio_Contos]

When you said "or she's a narcissist." You made me so happy, I just needed the validation.

[@manonymasmr4153]

Same

[@Kenny-ep2nf]

yeah, we probably ain't missing much by ignoring those signs

[@BillThaPill]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@gavins9846]

wtf?????? just because she's quiet?

[@marekknieshtschav6391]

Always assume someone is being nice/polite and never be bothered with those unable to express what they think and feel.

[@rickj1983]

Having been married for 22 years and recently divorced, it's interesting to listen to you, although I'm still a very long way off from wanting to start thinking about dating again. Lots of good suggestions. I remember walking through a busy grocer back when I was first married. When we left the store my wife told me that 5 women had hit on me and I was completely oblivious to it.

[@mattirealm]

Sorry about that Rick. It sucks, divorce does. My ex-wife constantly told me about women hitting on me, and I wasn't even aware. I wasn't paying attention; which should have gotten to her thick brain, that I really was devoted to her. As for divorce...they say it gets better, but after 2 years, I don't know. Some things get better. That shellshocked feeling you get right after it is final goes away. You are angry, you are sad, and then angry, on and on. Holidays suck and so do birthdays, but I have also seen it as a good opportunity to just be myself with myself by myself. Does that make sense? I am not dating yet either, but I keep my options open. Most days it is okay to be single. You only have yourself to answer to. We never had any kids, so there is not that concern in my life. I have grown up a lot....basically I am saying that there can be positives from a negative ugly situation.

[@MC-kj7dy]

She was lying to you brah, that absolutely never happened. Dudes are clueless, you would absolutely know if a woman was hitting on you 😂

[@millermanhal]

I'm married and happens alot now.

[@nobodyknows3180]

She was probably making it up. The trick is to know, did your wife cut you off before or after that incident? Some women are looking for an excuse to take an out, others are willing to make one up.

[@bobbyhill5067]

Girl: “I wanna baby with you… 🥵” Courtney: “Top signs that she is already pregnant with some douchebag and pin the pregnancy on you”

[@bjhall1025]

and she'll make sure you pay for the child support.....

[@ninjireal]

Damn girl at least take me out to dinner first

[@enterprisesoftwarearchitect]

Ain’t even joking!

[@milesdyson5211]

DNA!

[@millermanhal]

😂 I know three guys this happened to. 😢

[@LDNpro01]

I went through all of this, and I finally, after about 4 months, got her actually into me. In the end, it didnt workout but it was an insane learning experience. This video has helped me understand even more where i went wrong and why she would do the things she did. If anyone is wondering how I went from her just being nice and us being friends to her actually wanting me, what changed was an increase in confidence, being a lot less needy, not being afraid to speak my mind and i massively improved my flirting just through techniques i found on YT. I also threw in some simple and funny dirty talk ("you can get undressed in front of me i dont mind" kind of stuff), better eye contact, broke the touch barrier e.t.c. The main issue guys have is a lack of belief in themselves. If you think you can get her into you and when the time is right you flirt well and give off the right signs, play it cool, its actually pretty straightforward tbh.

[@ryanbenedict8436]

I'm not sure how I came across your videos, but I'm glad I did. You're insightful, direct and succinct. Thank you!

[@doatg1967]

I been going toy local convenient market gas station and had conversations with a attractive woman. Haven't seen her the past year to recently couple weeks ago, and she gave me a big smile. Seen her the next week walking in and immediately i noticed her eyes light up with big smile peeking under the food rack checking me out. That made my day😁. Week later she walk out the store while getting out of my car and she walk up to me smiling and said hello, and i responded the same then she went to her car. Im a gentleman and seeing where this might go. Im a introvert but more comfortable with people i know.

[@brianq5461]

Seven months later, has anything happened? Also for the record, I think waiting is not necessarily the gentlemanly thing to do. It's not like you're going up to every pretty woman you see, this one is different.

[@danh9503]

Wait too long and the opportunity of a lifetime might slip away....Act now and go for it.

[@crystalballgazers]

Thank you so much for making this. A lot of us men really get Confused By Some woman’s or most of their mixed signals. This is huge to note. This could’ve saved me a lot of time, money and pain a year ago that Oom E 7 months To get Over a girl that was just enjoying my company in bed, living with Me for a few Months and almost having my baby(!). I would’ve spent the rest of my life with this woman, if given the chance, and now looking back a year later and watching this video, I asked myself what was I thinking so glad to have a new perspective and dodging so many bullets of women seemingly interested. No thanks. This guy Doesn’t eat only “affection crumbs” like he used to… that’s so messed up how women are seriously encouraged to be narcissist in our society more so now than ever before, in the history of mankind. Me a lot

[@imdabomdiggitty4399]

I really like this KZbin channel because she always tells it how it is and doesn't sugarcoat anything. I can tell she's trying to be as honest as she can.

[@DoseOfVirality]

I respect that you actually respect your followers! Alot of these female hosted channels seem to make men think it's okay to simp over a woman instead of being the man you should be. I don't need too much help in this situation.. however, it's always nice to know some tricks to keep a conversation light and fun.. I watch this more for regular interaction with women. Men and women are very different creatures. Here's an example,.. I can naturally talk about Cars, Fitness and Boxing all day but as soon as you start talking to women about it they'll lose interest if you drag it on. But men could sit there all day and talk. So it's just nice to know what women appreciate in conversations.. no one wants to be redundant or boring no matter who they're talking with.

[@rakeshdoddigarla8800]

Hi Cortney, Good day! I recently started watching your videos in KZbin and I feel lot of them (almost all) that I watched are nice, educating and sensable without any melodrama and straight into the point. Cheers for that.

[@shane3964]

Courtney does a great job for this; she is being informational in a very intellectual and common-sense direction.

[@francoisgoudreaultjr.7308]

Some of this was tough love, but got the answers I needed. Thank you; there's a reason you're the best. Cheers!

[@OB.x]

This is so much more awkward with the waitress sitting next to me in th3 car. I ain't getting any answers that make sense !

[@OGKILLa9365]

Just always tell myself they’re just being nice, puts my mind at ease.

[@hughedney7222]

I was at a restaurant the other day and this girl and I were having a conversation, she was giving me all of her attention, eye contact and she was asking me all sorts of questions about myself like how I like my steak cooked. She was even taking notes!! I think she must like me

[@amyself8147]

First off, I back what you are doing! It's nice to know that I am not the only non femi-nazi out there nowadays! love sharing your videos with my friends who I have supported from many a self-proclaiming woman. And I love the way you used the expression "the bees-knees!" Funny, I was just thinking of you as "Rosie the Riveter." You are bringing back the older, better ways in which women really were true feminists who stood by their men. Men need to be heard. Now first thought on this video, pimps, anyone?? I even dated a narcissist abuser like that. He gave me everything "my heart desired..." He was what dreams were made of, spending lots of money on me, like on fancy motels and dinners. He thought women should look "pretty." He also liked hiding me and even on occasion tried selling me. That's what they do and I think that's what suckers a lot of women in, is the excessive spending! Any beast who focuses more on vanity to me (like the Divas you spoke of), that's a major red flag. I have always preferred your "museum" idea.

[@SingerOnTheTrail]

Dear Courtney… I wish I would stumble upon your channel couple years ago! After 12 years of relationship going back to dating world… I don’t know what I am doing - thank you for making it clearer!

[@sting1111]

When I was first dating i regretted not having a sister but now as I am older and divorced my daughters are even better to give advice and now KZbin helps big time.

[@amyself8147]

First off, I back what you are doing! It's nice to know that I am not the only non femi-nazi out there nowadays! love sharing your videos with my friends who I have supported from many a self-proclaiming woman. And I love the way you used the expression "the bees-knees!" Funny, I was just thinking of you as "Rosie the Riveter." 💪You are bringing back the older, better ways in which women really were true feminists who stood by their men. Men need to be heard. Now first thought on this video, pimps, anyone?? I even dated a narcissist abuser like that. 😠He gave me everything "my heart desired..." He was what dreams were made of, spending lots of money on me, like on fancy motels and dinners. He thought women should look "pretty." He also liked hiding me and even on occasion tried selling me. That's what they do and I think that's what suckers a lot of women in, is the excessive spending! Any beast who focuses more on vanity to me (like the Divas you spoke of), that's a major red flag 🚩 . I have always preferred your "museum" idea.

[@brandongreen7949]

While I appreciate Courtney's advice and have to give her credit my "lifelong" experience tells me there are so many women that were "frustrated" at me (as I found out later) that I did not pursue them because I "interpreted" their "politeness" as them "just doing their job"! So many times when I was working in "public service" women would "chat me up" or pursue some form of "discourse" with me (extensively so!) and it was I who was "just being nice". LOL! Oh well. Nevertheless a great and valuable video.

[@charlesbrown9213]

Courtney, your videos should be shown in every 6th grade classroom, as a public service. Wish you had been around when I was an adolescent.

[@bennythejet1057]

I know this came out three years ago, but I just have to say I like how you explain all of this. I dunno it's just you're not over the top and you sound reliable. So thank you

[@garrickbyrnerocks5569]

Thank you for clarifying all this.

[@jasonmoki4487]

Thank you Courtney! This really helps!

[@lorddavester]

Valuable video. This situation is sooo puzzling , but this helps.

[@Jnglfvr]

Just discovered this series of videos. I think that you are spot on with your observations some of which I have learned through painful experience. In others, that I don't have personal experience with, it's reassuring to know that my instincts/suspicions have been confirmed. Med do need an education about these things and women should not assume that these insights come naturally to us. They don't and reason being that hope springs eternal.

[@talkinspicer7001]

Thank you, this was so helpful!

[@mariosaad8848]

Thank you so much for the tips, I have watched a lot videos and never came across anything informative as the one.

[@YD-uq5fi]

This is valuable, because for most of my adult life I was getting it wrong on BOTH sides, to the extent that I got too timid, and in retrospect lost a lot of opportunities with women who were very interested in me, but I was only 95% sure instead of 100% sure so I didn't make a calculated reciprocation.

[@fullsend4976]

Straight up, this goes for both sexes. You can’t force relationships. Whether it be romantic relationships or friendships. You can put forth the effort but if the other party doesn’t reciprocate, that’s on them. Those that want to be in your life will be and so forth. Relationships are a two way street and it takes two to maintain! Wish everyone the best

[@hardlee2432]

In my younger days I tended to read too much into things and face rejection so eventually I stopped making that leap. However, in the time since then there have been times when I'm confident they were actually interested but since I stopped trying in fear of rejection I never made a move and assumed they were being friendly. Looking back, I can say with almost total certainty some of the women I met were actually interested and I missed out on what could have been. Fellas, if you like the girl and you got that feeling, go out on that limb. If she doesn't seem interested or does anything listed in the video then at least you know. But like with everything else in life you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

[@mohdizhar5873]

Thank you so much, I appreciate that your video helped me understand her emotions.

[@18muhammadkhatib16]

better video by Casually Explained on his channel kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpKQZXx3h8Rsj9k&ab_channel=CasuallyExplained

[@TheMegaDudeBroski]

It’s really interesting hearing this while I’m trying to figure this out. I met a girl at a party a couple weeks ago and we had a really great conversation and it led to me getting her Snapchat. She mentioned that she works at a bar and I decided to take a couple of friends with me to go there when she was working and while I was there I asked her if she wanted to get dinner some time. But anytime I hear the “she doesn’t text you first” but I always start to panic because I’ve only text her first ever (granted it took me like a week to even text her at all which I kinda wish I hadn’t done). But when it comes to eye contact we are constantly catching each other looking at each other. I genuinely can’t tell whether she likes me or not but all of my friends insist that she’s totally in to me.

[@kfactor20]

I’m in a similar situation. Some of these signs apply and some don’t. I’ve become friends with this girl at work and just for some context, she’s a scientist and I’m a “lab supplies technician”, meaning I deliver supplies to the floor she works on. She had randomly acquainted herself with me a few months back and has been initiating conversations with me every so often since then. I say every so often bc there are days when it gets real busy and she’ll only have time for a “hello” or a “nod of acknowledgement”. But all of the conversations we’ve had in person have been initiated by her. She’ll also wave at me and say hi whenever she sees me and sometimes says things like, “hi, again” whenever she walks past me. Another thing too that’s on this list is that she makes eye contact with me all the time, especially when we talk. Most notably, she was, one time, pushing a cart with beakers on it past me and said, “hey[my name]” then proceeded to lock eyes with me for a solid 3 seconds while still pushing the cart forward. I had told a platonic girl friend of mine about it and she, with full confidence, went, “oh she likes you.” I gave her my number a month ago and she liked that I did but didn’t text me until 2 days later. She hasn’t been the one to text me first but will reply, very slowly, to mine. However, she’ll still initiate conversations with me in person. Something to make note of too is that she’s about the only scientist on her floor who talks to me the way she does, when she doesn’t have to. When others talk to me, it’s usually just questions about certain supplies or if they can get something delivered. She’s never really talked to me about any of that, and when she does it’s to ask if my day’s been busy. You see how I’m struggling here? My friend thinks she’s into me but there are points when I’m not sure. Sorry about the long ass comment

[@MrGuitarfreak132]

Dude if she’s looking at you. Jackpot. Enjoy the fact a women is actually looking at you. It’s a wonderful feeling. She’s definitely into you.

[@rych7852]

Great vid. Just shows that every girl I've ever been interested in, every girl I've made laugh in messages or in person, doesn't actually like me! 😂😂

[@deepvoodoo]

There’s this gal at work I am into and was thinking about asking out. This video has discouraged me. YAY!!!!😀

[@BL4K_B4BIES]

Girls are all about discouraging men. it's not in their interest to help men get with them. I think shes wrong in a lot of ways on this but means well. You should ask the girl at work out if you think it's the right time.

[@jermainehampton2469]

I agree ,I much rather you tell me no than waste my time .

[@Handlethis81637]

In my experience, I’ve learned that most times I’m just projecting my feelings or desires on her. The times when someone was interested, most of the attention I would receive was unprompted.

[@XeroNiNE7]

The questions bit was one of the biggest tells for me. I was seeing this girl for a bit, and I think for her it was out of loneliness/boredom. Because, not only did a lot of things feel superficial on the few dates we went on, but she never really asked me any real questions, no attempts to try and get to know me, though I would ask her things about herself. Things felt one-sided very quick, and so I had to end it.

[@simons.2281]

I have a good female friend who always starts acting a little flirty when she has relationship issues. My guess is that she tries to get a confidence boost out of it. I try not to engage in her act - mainly because she's in a relationship (duh) and I'm not the kind of person who likes to interfere in other people's relationships. Quite the opposite actually. Anytime she starts making her little innuendos there's an immediate response of resistence inside my mind. Anyways, when I first got to know her I thought she may be interested, but I realized pretty quickly what was really going on. I am absolutely fine with being friends with her now. I also know her bf and he's a chill dude, I like him. May they be happily ever after.

[@jliangllu]

Thank you for being so sincere and direct =)

[@Skyboxcardz]

Courtney I just asked a girl out today. Unfortunately she was seeing somebody. It took me prolly 3 months to finally do it. It was very nerve-wracking but I'm glad I did it.

[@I-di-nt-do-nuff-in-]

Even if she really does like you, it doesn’t mean she likes you

[@JoseRamos-os8mv]

Thank you I needed to hear something like that cuz there's a lot of scandalous women out there everything makes sense

[@JackTripperr]

Just found your channel. Great logical advise. You got a new subscriber.

[@sajjadabouei6721]

Thank you Courtney for another great one 🎉

[@derpydogz0259]

The part about workers and co workers is very accurate. If a coworker or peer is just as nice or even more nice outside of school or your job it seems to be more likely.

[@troyhughey4791]

Thank you. She always tells me she too busy with her friends. Now she just ignores my texts at times.

[@vincentthofte1015]

Great vid, helped me a lot!

[@corruptedflex333]

Damn so your telling me when I payed a hooker and she said I was good looking, it was just being nice... that hit hard 😔

[@mateaukalua4426]

🤣🤣

[@TheFockerizer]

hahaha but really its better to have a rent in girlfriend then to pursue proper dating dating is an absolute mess now and is not worth it

[@elizabethearly6544]

i really appreciate the question of "is she working?" Because I have been a tutor and teaching assistant to students my age, and a few of them have expressed interest in me simply because I was polite to them and showed interest in their lives (I guess). I normally ask everyone how they are doing, and try to show all of my students that I care about them. I am extra nice when I am on the job, and it is to everyone, not just men. It is hard to show negative emotions to them because I could risk my job, and I really don't want to.

[@davidthomspson9771]

This is so right on the mark.

[@alialeepour4889]

thank you. this was so helpful

[@Sonny0276]

Great Video. Thank you for posting.

[@THX-jm6rm]

One of the best video on the subject. thanks

[@tropicalbeach9225]

Lol CR you make me laugh.. because you are absolutely right about everything you just said. How I know girls have actually liked me before; when I went to a strip club, the strippers actually gave me free lap dances and one time at the grocery store; cashier asked if I was single and for my number. However, to most guys that are reading this.... never date or hookup with girls/women who are coworkers or people you work with. This is a general rule you mainly have to abide by. I have done it before with a coworker and things ended petty badly unfortunately!

[@deusexaethera]

Your eyelashes are freakin' perfect. I can get mine almost that good if I try _really_ hard.

[@sweetbrown89]

“If she cancels on you last minute-“ *commercial starts playing* “🎶Did somebody say GRUBHUB?🎶”

[@elijahhall849]

“I’ve given hugs to my guy friends with no intentions” ouch I felt that

[@roneshpal2900]

I have experienced this signs and it's damn crazy to come out of this dilemma. Please guys this video is very good

[@wowawewah]

I really should've seen this before my first date, but at least I learned the hard way.

[@TheKinglaharl]

Casually explained channel actually explained the concept perfectly.

[@heimirjosefsson510]

My default setting is "she is just being nice". Because I know how hurt it stings when I assume the reverse. I've learned later in life that this one girl I really was into years ago was waiting for me to act. I read her as "let's be friends" at all times.

[@Jaybird227Songbird]

I totally learned so so much Courtney! Thank you so much🙏I wrote down your information to buy your product some day for being first to actually teach me about females body language when interested.

[@Jaybird227Songbird]

And please know that this really really is life changing information for me. So seriously not just saying . Thank you and all of others that led me here. Really helps me because I have such a learning disability with so many things that most everyone else simply know and are accustomed to or plain common sense. Not sure why I am so slow at understanding things so simply understood by others...?❤ Thanks again sister. I am so greatful. I really am.

[@TheMuricanMerc]

I'd like to think that between the body language and more common context clues women use, I've been somewhat decent at picking up on the hints. However Courtney, you are the only one that has spoken about when they seem shut off to you, and only you, and what that actually says. That's a situation I've been in, maybe going back into now, and I have no natural way of reading it. Thank you! It's bizarre to say the least, because you get the feeling your presence is unwelcome despite all other non-verbal signals being present (to include invading my personal space on one or two occasions). Reflecting on it now, I think the manliest approach to this is just confronting her on it with "What's up with (recent mixed signal)? You must really dislike me or too afraid to like me as much as you do."

[@bigbruh698]

I used to have crush on my old class monitor. She was an extrovert who is friendly, polite, cute yet sometimes cold-out suddenly due to her job. One time i was luckily put right next to her, and i thought that that time was one of the best time in my life. The way she treated me, chatted me, frequently asked me questions and smiled at me completely made me thought that she was into me too. No, i was wrong all the time. Two months later, she was moved to sit next to another guy. From that time, the interactions between us almost went to zero, and we barely contact to each other anymore. After watching your video, I realized that she was just clearly being nice to me, and my thoughts was blinded by the emotions. It was a hard truth to believe in but finally the question about Was she into me is cleared. I decided to gave up chasing her and moved on I also learned: The most attractive factors men have are the confident and the will

[@978alex]

so im cooked 🤫🧏‍♂

[@flower_14141]

I'm a big flirt and flirt with any guy who is friendly or fun to be around BUT if I like a guy I can't help myself but touch him occasionally ( arm, hand) and stay very close as in I open my boundaries for him, it happens naturally and I can't control it. If I can't see a guy as a romantic partner though I still flirt, joke because it's a nice thing to do and I also belive it Boost their egos but I keep my distance, no touching, staying far away. Thank you for your work 🙂

[@Eta_Carinae__]

Hey Courtney. Cheers for the video, it does sound in the ballpark of the things I would do too to show affection, so like a basic faculty of empathy could, at least for me, parse this, at least in principle. But I'm pretty frustrated by all of this. Like, personally, literally none of these things have happened to me, ever. Now, odds are I'm not a very attractive guy, I'll cop that. Some things I can be doing better, but to what extent? Every single person in my life has given me some flavour of "you're too hard on yourself", so if that's true, how the fuck am I supposed to reconcile that with the total dearth of interest in me? What am I supposed to do about it? Because I'll do it. Either that, or at least I'll be at peace with it, knowing that's how it is. I get why RP/BP/MGTOW people feel like they can't trust what women have to say about their standards, since it just seems to be completely at odds with their experiences. I don't think that's wise, but I get it. Oh, and dgmw, I do get out, I have a social group pretty evenly split down gendered lines, I'm a part of a community group full of men and women of all ages, so I meet people, I try and dress well pretty frequently and ask (infrequently) if something like wardrobe/smell/hair/anything is wrong, and sometimes I get compliments on these things (unfortunately it's just from guys). Anyway, all that said, I appreciate the video. It gives me license to put more stock in the idea that I'm actually pretty mid. Sounds rough, but getting closer to reality, I honestly feel more relieved than depressed.

[@butakechinfonnyonudfu9097]

Hello my dearest Madam Courtney Ryan your lectures about women relationships with men is a powerful topic

[@jamiegilmour5871]

Spot on, when I was in 1st year in High school I only had 2 friends, both were guys. The popular girl made an effort to talk to me out of pure politeness as she felt bad for me, but while she did it my other 2 friends claimed she was flirting with me which made her really uncomfortable

[@otureisio4348]

This helps and whenever this happens to me it would suck... but at least I feel prepared for it and I'm not goig to be surprised if any of those things happen to me Thanks Courtney(:

[@ragingskeptic9753]

This girl has the most soothing voice.

[@visheshverma9776]

You solved my issue. Love❤

[@ama.teur_anime_art]

Thank you so much. Bless you 🙂☺️💖

[@nolika90]

One thing to mention: there could be some cultural differences. In my country (Hungary) the key communication initiator is the men. For example, girls usually don't text just automatically. For this reason, must initiate a message, then it can be evaluated if she likes or not.

[@outloud_overthinking]

I think the only way to know is to ask. Nothing else is certain enough. Assumptions in general are not very healthy for socializing, you never know what's in people's heads until you have a conversation about it.

[@mrd20098]

This happened to me with a girl I've known for a long time. Every time we were around one another, she gave me all the signs that maybe there was interest, but then I'd see her be just as nice, flirty and fun with other people, so I just dismissed it as her personality. Recently, I had a chance to reconnect with her as friends, with both of us being in other relationships now, so I just flat-out told her that back then, I used to have a crush on her (which is true). It turns out that she also had a crush on me.

[@nirktheman-thingstab-cutter]

No one's ever liked me. Got it.

[@samdarkazanli]

Thank you for the advice

[@christinelee4780]

Remember the tag line from Kevin Smith's "Clerks" movies:Just because they talk to you doesn't mean they like you"

[@davidcoupal8083]

Great vid simple straight forward good common sense

[@wanderingstar9322]

I've watched quite a few "how to read/understand women's behaviour toward you" videos recently because I have Zero natural ability to understand women and what I've mainly learned is either: I've learned almost nothing OR women as a group do not like me at all. This is frustrating and painful because I would really love to share the love I have with a woman that wants that too but I'm like a ghost to them, they don't even see me. I haven't had a date in almost 8 years and I can honestly say that only 2 women that entire time have shown anything resembling interest. One is an ex that I do not want to rekindle anything with and the other is a woman who comes on strong face to face when we run into each other in public and then shows no interest when I follow up with personal messaging... I'm talking I've sent her a multiple sentence message that she responded to with a thumbs up. And that's only one example of several similar scenarios with her. It doesn't surprise me that men become "incels" because between economic-social structuring that forces parent(s) to work a lot if they want to financially support their family/neglectful parenting/no dads around/selfish or distant moms/media messaging that men are predatory monsters/media messaging that being traditionally masculine is toxic/I could go on and on, it's almost like a horror movie for an average man who's less than 100% confident at all times to even try to connect with a woman as "more than friends". A simple solution would be that women as a whole adapt their behavior to be less deliberately confusing. Just based on humanity, evolution is almost for sure nonsense because why would half of a species go out of their way to confuse the other half to the point that an increasing number of that other half stops trying to even connect?! Which of course leads to less procreation which at some point increases the risk of the species dying out entirely. And besides all that, decent men that are single and trying to find a female partner watch women purposefully choose to date and procreate with piece of crap men all the time. Sleepless in Seattle

[@hxmedina]

This is very useful video Ms. Ryan! A+++ 😎👍👍

[@danyaalkiyani]

I have a lot of respect for you courtney Ryan I certainly salute you

[@donaldperrotta8514]

Most likely being nice and respectful because that’s how she was raised !

[@Arcticcfoxx]

I think the key is to just ask her. If you’re in a position where you’re not close enough to have a direct conversation and address your feelings then you know the answer. But if you have a direct conversation you get your answer and you can proceed accordingly. It may seem daunting but if you handle it maturely you can avoid any significant awkwardness. It is valid to address the feelings you have with her in a mature way.

[@grantmacdonald3904]

This video is honestly making me kinda depressed because it seems to suggest that no girl has ever liked me

[@TheFockerizer]

dont be depressed - being in a long term relationship is hard work be single, be free, be adventorous

[@Warpded]

I operate on one rule. If a woman is interested in me, she can make the effort to approach. I have a coworker that displays some of these signs. She touches me occasionally, she's always asking about my interests, etc. But then she'll swear up and down that she's not looking for a relationship. She asked me what my favorite color is and the next day I worked with her, her nails were painted the same color. She also asks if I like what she's wearing, but she doesn't want a partner. Maybe she's an attention seeking narc, but she confuses me. What do I make of this? Maybe it's some weird mental game where she is into me, but she's wanting me to initiate. I haven't done anything she still swears she doesn't want a partner. How do I proceed?

[@andrewopp.4554]

Thank you sister 😢🙏

[@spitfire8539]

I like it as a friend. Nothing more, nothing less

[@imjuslooking7270]

Thanks Courtney. Yeah, I thought a server at a place I go to for brunch liked me. Not so. But again, I was very cautious and did not flirt or give her my number. I wanted to the other day, but figured my chance had evaporated. And...I told her I am very shy and guarded. Which is the def. truth!! She likened that to her brother, who owns his own plumbing business in the East Bay. Who in her words can be a jerk! But I have NPD too and PPD. So there's that.

[@manuelalejandrogutierrezro3076]

I have a problem with the "Eye-Focus” tip that you gave; Because luckily I’ve been gifted with having Hazel/Green eyes so I’ve had many girls say that they were mesmerized by my eyes and etc etc. But thank you for covering and saying other ways.

[@mwi8743]

Courtney is constantly reminding me what an actual male experience is like. it's very fascinating, this alleged world where women interact with you because they want to be nice or like you.

[@manonymasmr4153]

What

[@BLACKRULERSHIP]

Women are not just nice to people they don’t know they do like you

[@babybojanglesjr]

Never have i ever thought that i would ever have to do the rejecting. And yet, here i am.

[@manakin5]

What makes it really confusing is when she starts out asking questions, texting first, touching, etc....and then a week later seems to stop altogether, even if all you've done is reciprocate the kindness and attention. Then it's really hard to interpret what her initial behavior meant.

[@samnair1152]

I've taken it with a breeze these days when they cancel on me at the last minute. I just let it go and move on. There's no point overthinking it. Also don't show neediness at all in texting or in person.

[@jamiemay8546]

I'm going to give a shout out to all the lonely guys out there like me. Be proud because you know a loneliness nobody else knows and everybody undermines. You go through it.

[@idklol9408]

So for me it’s this girl at my work who I have constantly caught looking at me. Sometimes she looks away quickly and sometimes we will hold eye contact for a few seconds. And a lot of times when I talk to her, she gets all smiley and stuff. I’m not talking the super friendly typical social smile. I’m talking the “oh I can’t hold it no more” nervous kind of smile, followed by a nervous very adorable high pitched “hehehehe”. Like earlier as she was walking by, seemingly trying to avoid eye contact as she knew I was paying attention, all I said was “how is (her name) doing today”. Before I even finished the question I saw the corners of her mouth curve up n a slight giggle after the question was delivered. The only signs I’m not really getting from her is the touching, and asking me personal questions. But she could just be too shy to show those signs. But idk, you never know

[@Gottaculat]

When I get to the point where I actually get a date, I like being up front and honest with a woman, 'cause it's how I'd want to be treated. I tell her straight up that I'm into her, so if I seem distracted, quiet, or have some male RBF, to pay no mind; that's just how I am. If I'm lucky, she will understand, and if I'm really lucky, she'll be brutally honest with me, too. If at any point I'm no longer interesting to her, I prefer her to just tell me as much. It actually hurts a lot more to think everything is going fine, then suddenly she ghosts you. A guy needs closure. Quest completed, or quest failed, we need that finality. Otherwise, we'll torture ourselves by spending the next month reanalyzing the conversation/date over and over, trying to figure out what we did wrong. Women, if you aren't into a guy, just say to him, "You're a good man, just not my type. Sorry." That's it. if a guy is mature, he can handle that. It's a relief to know it wasn't our fault. Now, if it IS our fault, tell us what we can do to avoid the issue with future women. Let him know that even if he fixes it, he's still just not the right match for you, that you just aren't feeling the spark. We put on a facade of stoicism, but we torment ourselves if we think we did something wrong. Equally, if a guy thinks you're into him, just smile, and say, "I'm sorry if I mislead you; I'm just being polite. I'm flattered, but not interested." I've had to use that one on a few gay guy over the years. That's gotta be real rough. Kudos to the courage those guys have. Would be nice if people were more up front about how they feel, and to be tactful if they aren't interested.