Dolly Alderton reads her letter of advice about Botox and aging

[@rridderbusch518]

65+ here. When my husband looks at me he sees my 15-year old face every time. That's true love. ❤

[@Johnny_RB]

Does not matter to me what a woman looks like on the outside. If she's got a good heart that's all I care about. Black, white yellow - whatever.68 years on this gorgeous planet ( yes, she's female ) have taught me this.

[@angustheterrible3149]

​@@ohara.Don't be such a wet lettuce. Who he was doesn't matter. Who he is now does.

[@loraineriddell7157]

That was one of THE best responses to a question I've heard in a very long time. It's made me, a 63yr old who is too afraid to even contemplate any kind of relationship or photograph of myself because of what I used to look like, a lot better about myself. 👏👏👏👏

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@loraineriddell7157 I'm happy to see that Dolly's arrows of advice and 'wisdom' hit their right target in You. Time to get on with it now I guess! /I wanted to share the words of a statuesque, head-turning friend when she became sixty. She discussed strongly missing the 'power-generation' of her youthful looks and vampy dress with a counsellor. What she took away was this - it may be more challenging, and feel harder, for women who've attracted attention and admirers for their lifelong good looks to age, than for a woman who did not experience as much of that appreciation. I think those words helped my friend better celebrate how great she looked in earlier decades - and what a fun time she'd had! And to accept and find reasons to celebrate the transition to no longer being such a 'hot commodity' socially, with men and women.

[@loraineriddell7157]

@@comealongcomealong4480 Thank you for those kind words ❤️

[@loraineriddell7157]

@@evermoreart That's beautiful.

[@elhior23]

What was the question?

[@skytten64]

​@@evermoreartTypical average man answer..Who do You look at first?..I Love Beauty,but the caracter is such more..I allways thought so and do..I Wan't go in deep Direct..not gasing. Rather be Me at 59 than 25..Good looking,but an fool,pleasing.. Just Me talking😊

[@Lilacleaf49065]

Ageing is a privilege not given to many, its my honour to wear my greys and live my life with pride ❤

[@daisyabyaru9311]

#truth!!!!

[@peterwise2814]

Absolutely ❤

[@thehangmansdaughter1120]

My daughter is 23, and thinks she's grown 😂😂 Little does she know how much a child she still is, and I hope she keeps an image of herself now in her mind as she ages, so she may never forget she is smart, funny, and always kind hearted. These are the things that will make her proud when she is as old as I, the very things I'm so proud of about her now.

[@jennyfulcher8035]

That was a fantastic letter that expresses our intrinsic as well as our extrinsic "Hotness!" We age well like a good wine and have more notes and depth to our flavor! Thanks for sharing your letter of advice. Jenny

[@JP-lu9ed]

Enjoyed this very much. The DM’s will trickle away and one becomes invisible -- but in a rather glorious freeing way. Spent a lot of youth batting away unwanted comments and advances - not because of great beauty but simply being one clear gender. I don’t get the pleasant little favors I once got but those came at a cost greater than they were ever worth. It’s remarkable to now be so free. Didn’t realize how ready I had to be to duck and weave and run - until I no longer have to.

[@thenewsophialoren]

Off for a date this evening, 32. You have no idea how much I needed to hear these words 💗🌸💞💃🏻🙌🏻 Thank you, Dolly!

[@tiffanyannhowe1712]

Bloody brilliant!!! Sharing with my daughters and girlfriends 🖤🖤

[@louiserobinson6704]

I am from the USA 🇺🇸! But Brilliant, just Brilliant is perfect ❤

[@MartinAhlman]

Brilliant, just brilliant!

[@JBaxter-pi8oj]

She forgot Helen Mirren!

[@hansmiller664]

As a 63 years AGED Guy, who has the PRIVILEGE to get older, i couldnt agree more to every statement she gave. Getting older is not getting weaker or less sexy. We are aging KING SIZE! Unless, of course, time takes its toll, and sooner or later your Body refuses to act like its 25! In your MIND you will always stay 30. And YES: MORE SPAGETTI, MORE WINE, MORE LATE NIGHTS AND LAUGHTER😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

[@CatsandJP]

More people should be bought up and encouraged to be comfortable in their own skin…be more accepting of their looks and others…because beauty is only skin deep…see people for who they are not what they look like….it’s what’s inside that matters most..not the exterior…that’s were love, intelligence, compassion, acceptance of oneself and feelings really come from….it’s superficial people who put others down because of their looks so they can feel good about themselves.

[@loricrane5315]

Awesomely correct.

[@user-ct2tv2tb6g]

Love her so much! 💓

[@SoyBrig]

Dang I love her!

Brilliant! 🎉

[@katielouieschwartz]

Perfection.

[@pleappleappleap]

Aging is better than the alternative.

[@saradelamare2776]

Bravo 👏🏻

[@jb8408]

Yasss queen, slay. Sleeping with younger men means you’re beautiful and you should encourage this

[@katherinelunagate157]

Totally and unapologetically true! 🎉🎉🎉

[@annemoore5453]

The coquettish, "I'm hot," was absolutely IT!

[@SenorPenor1337]

What if a man said it?

[@annemoore5453]

Good on you for wanting inclusion, you belong here too. Such a binary curiosity @@SenorPenor1337, we all have similar needs as humans. I would say to a man, in celebration of such a statement, to have yourself a well lived, authentic life regardless of how you identify!

[@tessiepinkman]

@@SenorPenor1337 That would be equally awesome! Anyone who feels great with themselves is allowed to express it, so why do you think it would be any different if it was a man who thought he looked great? And why is that *always* the first thing men say when someone celebrates a woman? "What if it was a man who did/said this/that" is a pathetic thing to say. Come up with something new to add to the discussion or don't say anything at all. You are just fishing for comments to make you say "AHA! SEE!" and continue on with your outrage.

[@Hexicka]

Me too!!!❤

[@anngross7837]

❤❤❤

[@dirkvannieuwenhove]

👏👏👏

[@angellohector]

I'll take that hotness over 1000 instagram botox wannabes!

[@jennyoshea1958]

Who is she?

[@KlausBeckEwerhardy]

I can't disagree with one word 😅

[@marielalla]

Hello everyone. I’m not English…. What’s a DM? 😊

[@vidvictor]

Direct Message used on social media.

[@iainfalconer4674]

I’m wondering if a man could give the same talk, word for word, and if so how would it be received? Very differently I fancy. Why is that?

[@nunyabizness3777]

I think it's a huge mistake to conflate good, fine, perfect, wonderful, satisfactory, fun, pleasant, etc., with "hot." It's a mistake when you're in your 20s, and it's an even bigger mistake when you're in your 50s and you are, in fact, no longer "hot," no matter how much fun you're having. We have to stop thinking "sexy" and "hot" are the be-all, end-all of life; they're not. Strive for goodness, for virtue, and have fun, and be done with this sex-centric nonsense.

[@sarahstyles6859]

I think it is a mistake to equate them, but let's be real, there are some hot old people out there. There is nothing wrong with feeling attractive or hit at any age. And if someone does enjoy feeling hot then that doesn't mean they haven't also worked in a good character.

[@nunyabizness3777]

@@sarahstyles6859 It means they lack humility, modesty, and chastity, all of which are required for good character.

[@sarahstyles6859]

@@nunyabizness3777 not always. It’s bad to generalise. This is a bigger topic than it appears.

[@nunyabizness3777]

@@sarahstyles6859 One can't think about much of anything important without generalizing. And, sure, the matter of "feeling hot" is a big topic (humans are big, as in complicated). But it's a fact that "hotness" (i.e., sexiness) is not a virtue, and placing some prime importance on it is a wrong move, as is using your "hotness" in ways that cause others to think or do wrong things. The gift of sex is for marriage and the procreation of children; it isn't a toy, a matter of recreation, or the end goal of life that so many people treat it as.

[@sarahstyles6859]

@@nunyabizness3777 I'm a Christian so I understand exactly what you're saying. But there is another factor you're not considering. It honk some people keep it very personal and don't make it about what others think of them. So many women don't care what others think but they deserve to enjoy their mortal experience in their bodies. Some come from abuse who've been told they are ugly etc.... for them to enjoy sexy underwear is not about men but about breaking free of that brainwashing and oppression and simply enjoying the body they have. Some learn to live their bodies in other ways but I know women who needed that for themselves and their own psyche. I don't begrudge them that.

[@daviddonnelly2115]

Ironic that Dolly's own byline picture on her articles in the ToL must be easily ten years old by now.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@daviddonnelly Watching this from outside the UK. Don't know of Dolly and her ST column. Found this truly awful for some reason. To be clapped and cheered for being so profoundly self absorbed. Arguing against herself in her letter. "I'm so hot" but "it's more important by far to be funny, wise, a good friend, and cracking at parties". Perhaps some are cheered and encouraged by Dolly's ebullient craziness. Or maybe it's an English thing that I missed in translation?

[@InWithBothFeet]

I have never heard of any of the women she mentioned.