Don’t Give Him Wifey Treatment

[@Amber-dw9op]

It helped me realize my husband was "the one" when he reciprocated my efforts.

[@isabelguzmanmiranda5025]

Yeah, that's the spirit. You start giving and with good intentions, and if the other person does not reciprocate, you leave. But it's not smart to begin on "defensive" mode. Begin on kind and giving mode, and get out if it doesn't work, man or woman. It's simple.

[@leroyrussell8766]

The reason the system is broken is promiscuity. When women made men step up, and she too had to show the man what kind of person she was, BEFORE sex, the system worked. But the only way it works is with one crucial ingredient. Time. Any player can step up for a short amount of time. He can't do it for the long haul. If all women made all men wait, then men would have to up their game. Men would then only pursue the woman he wants. No more time wasting. No more ghosting. No more siutationships. But to be pursued, the woman would have to show she's worth it to him for the long haul. This is how the system works. We broke the system with hookup culture. Only women can make that go away. But women are short term thinkers. They want the bag, etc... They think they should be able to run around having fun in their 20s, and then find their man in their late 20s to early 30s. But the men they want in their 20s, don't want them long term. Now they have to pursue the guys who do. Those men are increasingly no longer interested in sloppy leftovers.

[@Al_ate_my_soup]

@@leroyrussell8766Hook up culture does have its downsides but making men wait for sex like a carrot on a stick is hardly a recipe for a healthy relationship, seeing a relationship as an exchange instead of a partnership is fucking weird dude. Sure, some of it is an exchange for us humans to satisfy our cravings for intimacy but that’s a very 1 dimensional way of looking at things. You’re glazing over everything else that goes into partner selection and oversimplifying how dating works. It’s possible for people to treat each other well without giving out sex like treats to men, that’s fucking ridiculous

[@triscuitgonzalez7936]

@@leroyrussell8766dude dating isn’t a system ffs. It’s simple: shoot your shot, reciprocate their efforts, and work with them to make it work. Sometimes you get unlucky and it doesn’t work, but if you keep trying and being a good person you will find someone

[@missAlice1990]

But he didn't do the effort first, right? Just waited for you to make an effort and he oh so generously "reciprocated" it. Girl...

[@CruxusAshbourne]

Difference between a wife and a woman that’ll be single for the rest of her life.

[@Madchris8828]

Provide value get value back. This is just a truthful statement no matter which gender

[@Madchris8828]

@@TheLastAlgonquin how does making a sandwich for a man because you want to anything like that? That's actually the opposite

[@Madchris8828]

@@TheLastAlgonquin how much does a guy taking a girl on a date cost?? What's with the weird miserable cost comparison? I don't get what it accomplishes. Enjoying a persons company should be a thing in its own..

[@ManabuHori]

​@@TheLastAlgonquinNO fucking way did you just call a married women , a wife just a "slave". Go and rethink your existance.

[@TheLastAlgonquin]

@@Madchris8828 That would depend on the method of transportation and the date itself. But I'm assuming both agreed to the date and it's various costs and inconveniences. That guy was going to have to get home from the airport whether he had a girlfriend or not.

[@falaknadeem162]

"What's our bare minimum ?" Well said girllllll👏🔥we need to remember if we expect so much then we have to give equal efforts in return. A

[@spicyfknramen6960]

expecting to not have to pay on dates they ask u out to is not expecting too much

[@falaknadeem162]

@@spicyfknramen6960 thinking just showing up is enough is NOT enough either.

[@professionalbum23]

If you expect something in return when you love someone you are not in love, you're in a relationship for the mutual benefits dear

[@falaknadeem162]

@@professionalbum23 did you even read my comment ?

[@youknowwhatelseisbig484]

​@@falaknadeem162I don't think that's what she meant. I think she meant that he's been treating her nice, so she made him a lunch in return. He took her on the date, and she's picking him up and making him lunch. Honestly, seems like a fair trade. 🤷‍♀️

[@WarGrey_]

If you wanna be his queen, treat him like a king is the best saying ever.

[@renenetatm8222]

Men love saying that, because they want a servant. In reality if you put someone on the pedestal, they will not treat you as equal, that's the same with men and women. Your partner should be your bestie, not some royalty.

[@debra-qq1np]

​@@renenetatm8222 If he is treating you like a Queen, you are not a servant; it is reciprocal. Give as you wish to receive.

[@goldenhate6649]

Oh my lord mate, you dug way to deep for that. The saying now simply means to reciprocate. I ain’t gonna try in a relationship if all the woman brings is s**. You have to bring some level of effort or I am just going to quit bring effort. I will go over the literal moon for someone who brings even a marginal amount of effort into a relationship to make me feel loved/wanted. And I ain’t talking romantics, I can buy a hooker for that.

[@Pat999UK]

A girl I been going out with for about 6 weeks, out of the blue, made me a packed lunch before I headed out. It was kind and thoughtful and happened over 20 years ago and I still remember the gesture with fondness.

[@mauritsgresnigt2801]

Tells you something about how low the bar is.

[@somkhandagumbi]

​@@mauritsgresnigt2801 and yet somehow they fail to reach it

[@thunblot78]

​@@mauritsgresnigt2801it really does, men take ANY compliment we get and cherish that shit because it rarely happens unless you're conventionally attractive

[@shadowik2010]

And why did you separate? 👀

[@theepicgerman6153]

How long have you two been married?

[@jerryc452]

Single women keep women single.

[@littlepotat3406]

Holy shit that’s too accurate

[@fuel4insanity6]

Absolutely true. I was in a relationship with my girlfriend at the time, some of her friends would talk her out of being a relationship and she figured out that they were toxic or I would basically confront them privately say.. you can either be happy for the fact that we're in a relationship with your friend, or I can have you taken home. And have her block you for the rest of your life... They messed around and found out

[@AndyViant]

Love this. Reciprocation. An acknowledgement of all the efforts men make not being a bare minimum, because the bare minimum really is actually nothing. The ending. Single women keeping women single, and the putdown. Love it.

[@TheMareism]

That one hits hard, because it’s accurate af

[@adamsheaffer]

Exactly. Women need to stop shunning for being romantic.

[@Merlewhitefire]

"What do I bring to the table" vs. "I *am* the table!" in a nutshell right there.

[@poppaT686]

😂

[@goldenhate6649]

What do I bring to the table girls are good for years, I am the table girls are good for a night

[@fmoore003]

He who finds a wife, truly finds a treasure !

[@paulfisher3e]

He who finds a LONG TERM GOOD WIFE has a treasure beyond price indeed 🎉😊❤

[@wh3elson]

“What’s being a woman, what’s our bare minimum?” Beautifully said, and the single girl had no answer other than “you’re trying too hard”.

[@anthonyju6392]

The bare minimum for a woman on a date is to be pleasant no matter where you go and be good company. Basically make sure everyone is having a good time. Then when it comes time to say that there won't be a 2nd date if things didn't go well to not be a total biatch when you say it.

[@michaeldietz7793]

​@@anthonyju6392 And, this isn't the same for a guy?

[@NLTops]

Women like that are just mad that they are being made to look bad in comparison. Only way a low standard works for someone is if other people apply it too. Then again... if too many women set the bar for themselves too low, then men apparently just peace out and play video games.

[@anthonyju6392]

@@michaeldietz7793 It is a little different but I didn't word it specifically enough. The guy is going to be the anxious one since the onus is on him is to try and carry the date but the woman is suppose to a soothing element calming allowing the guy to feel more comfortable which leads to a better time for everyone involved. This might require laughing at stupid jokes, smiling a lot, and speaking words of encouragement without being condescending.

[@Hunter-bd1ob]

You are very amazing. We need more people like you in the world. All the other women are intolerant to this thing we need some more good women like you good job you go girl.

[@mrdean2539]

Ladies, guys will remember and treasure a small act of kindness for YEARS. Just putting that out there.

[@Zoro4Swords]

Same as dogs 💀 Ok no I'm sorry... I'm a guy myself but it seemed a perfect opportunity to crack a joke lol

[@yoshiwhere148]

@@Zoro4Swords it was

[@Zoro4Swords]

@@yoshiwhere148 ??

[@post-leftluddite]

You're working under the assumption that these women actually care about pleasing anyone but themselves

[@mrdean2539]

@@post-leftluddite I know. But I refuse to believe that that is the norm, no matter how often I see it. (I know it's a little naïve, but I would rather have a little hope)

[@olivierblanchard5179]

This might go unnoticed but I'd like to say a great big thank you for doing these shorts and dedicating your time to get these messages out there. As a young man I find myself very confused on how I'm supposed to act sometimes and I try my best on the few dates I've been going to recently. Seeing and hearing that someone like you is out there making us guys feel welcomed to be ourselves instead of being forced into sacrificing out identify is great. I look forward to every new video you post and as I hope to learn more and more.

[@Simslord15]

also a guy here, I feel the exact same way

[@ambersummer2685]

I love this. Some of us have had bad experiences being “wifey material” and see that as the problem to why we weren’t taken seriously when we were just with the wrong guy. You should always put in effort as much as he is. Especially if he’s paying for dates, making sure you’re safe and opening doors for you. Making someone a meal or snack is the most kindest thing you can do. You’d want the guy to do things for you while dating too. You don’t have to go full on wife but you can show your interest in your actions.

[@brianschuetz2614]

Yes, it goes both ways. Guys have had their share of bad experiences as well.

[@stratigangames508]

"Trying way too hard." No, its just called putting effort into a relationship. Thanks for all you do, its refreshing to hear a woman who actually cares.

[@Haexxchen]

I often don't even see these things as effort. I care for the other person, so I WANT to do this stuff. So I argue it is called "showing affection".

[@sugarnads]

Theyre not in a relationship. Theyve had two dates.

[@stratigangames508]

@@sugarnads If two dates in, and they're still going out, isn't the beginning of a relationship, then you need to rethink some things.

[@paulawojciechowska]

me here thinking my whole life it's normal

[@AVKryshtal]

​@stratigangames508 two dates isn't enough time to really know someone. For all you know, the person you're going out with could be going out with two other people.

[@uuuhuhuh]

when my boyfriend and i first started dating, he wasnt feeling too good at work/hadnt eaten so i dropped him off some chicken nuggets from mcdonalds and added a lil hand written note saying i hope he enjoys and i care about him, it was between my work shifts and i didnt think much of it.. just wanted him to know i care and wanted him to eat something - he said that was one of the most thoughtful things hes ever experienced and still has the note to this day.

[@systemdeveloper5266]

Aww so lovely to hear 🥰

[@asherandai1000]

I’m dating the wrong women. Never had any woman do anything for me just because she cares.

[@snidecommenter7117]

Some chicken nuggets and a note is memorable... Yeah. People reading your comment should let that sink in.

[@storyteller7150]

When we just started dating, my boyfriend got sick. I brought him a box of Kleenex. It floored him that I would do that. It is one of his favorite memories about me, and proved to him I really did like him. We've now been married a couple years ❤ I thought it was just a simple act to help. But it made his year, ncs guys receive so little simple decency anymore 😢

[@MollyMcGeeSimp]

I wish someone would care about me even though I'm different…

[@Sam-zu9jn]

She is saving women. The world needs her more than ever.

[@darrylcarter5004]

I like this Lady, she's on point, real talk.

[@ektasaikia7153]

Men deserve to be pampered too. If he treats you like a Queen, make sure you treat him like a King😊

[@SwordRose_Azusa]

Exactly. Always treat the man like a king. If he doesn’t reciprocate, then find the man who will.

[@TKUA11]

Gota do those wifely duties

[@blackblade99009]

remember, only put a collar on your man if you both are into it. once it stops, it stops though.

[@Nollideel]

100% the thought process a lot of women have is if he won’t find someone who will men are doing the same now and it’s really ruffling some feathers but either way that doesn’t correlate to what you said what you said is perfection

[@SwordRose_Azusa]

@@Nollideel is this in response to the original comment?

[@justicegonzalez1390]

It’s always the single ones😂 miserable people love company.

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

ask a woman genuinly, what do you bring in a relationship ? she will either say its sexist but actually litterally dont know what they offer in a relationship yet they know immedietaly the whole list they want in a man, these women are incredibly entitled these days its sad

[@charlesbrown-cv3jx]

Facts

[@Rosie82333]

It’s always the smart ones that don’t need male validation 😂

[@eldiospalomo2334]

My friend in misery is such a true song

[@didierbaudot]

Its because they think i'm offering my beauty and sex be happy for that you have me thats the mindset of modern women 🤔​@@cedricdellafaille1361

[@marybarachielsardua1713]

EXACTLY my girlies, being kind will not make you lose anything, especially if that’s how u really are and how u feel doing

[@rzslo9084]

Can confirm, my gf does things like this and it definitely makes me stick around. And i do things for her with no question in return. Seeing appreciation helps alot.

[@bigloudandnoisy3601]

I met this girl at a party and she was ALLLL THAT, maroon-red dyed hair, thin waist, pretty face. The house party that we were all at, was at her aunts house and her nephews were there and they came downstairs hungry. I watched her make food for these 2 kids in the middle of people partying,dancing and singing. She brought them back up and came back down and cleaned the kitchen and the house while the party continued. I went back to my apartment at college and I got a call from one of my boys “Yo, that girl with the red hair wanted your number!” The next week she moved in with me because I learned she was sleeping on a couch at her aunts place for months. That was 5 years ago and we got married last February. Girls, be wifey material to get husband material. Guys, be husband material to get wifey material. It’s a 50/50, not a one way street.

[@ladyoftheflowers44]

Dude you kidnapped a homeless woman… how do we know she’s okay

[@preythemantis5731]

It starts as 50/50 but should go up to 100/100 as you both test each other out

[@bigloudandnoisy3601]

@@ladyoftheflowers44 ahhhh, she’s cookin dinner and watching Hell’s Kitchen while happy-dancing. That’s happy to me!

[@madimowz]

wow

[@Only1BandIsTheBand]

soooo what exactly did you do that makes you husband material? you were the one who was 'just there' in this scenario lol

[@HelloThere...]

Still remember receiving flowers on a date for the first time when I was 23. Blew my mind. I never knew I could receive flowers and it made me so happy!

[@missantrafalgar782]

Did marry her?

[@HelloThere...]

@@missantrafalgar782 well, I’m 24 now, and we realized we weren’t right for each other around our 8th date. Though it didn’t work out, I’ve learned that even though I’m male presenting, I still deserve to be treated with the same attention and care that a woman does on dates! :) I’m in a relationship now, and she always wants to take care of me. Like, the other day I was really feeling unwell, so she went grocery shopping for the essentials for me, and handmade me some sushi rolls to eat since it’s my favorite food. She makes me very happy, and I think she’s the one :)

[@pixelqube3274]

You are a person of course you can. however society says no. Me? I buy myself flowers or plants that i like. If someone thinks otherwise I don't care. It's not your business.

[@AnjaLerntDeutsch]

My boyfriend didn't realise i bought flowers for him. He thought someone left them and i took them or smth else. Men are not used to flowers...

[@kendi5391]

​@@AnjaLerntDeutschI mean they also need to like flowers. Personally I don't.

[@AssassinAlchemist]

Appreciate a man and be amazed how far he can go. 🖤

[@safidhaider301]

😭 WOMAN GAINED SO MUCH RESPECT 😭😭😭 IT'S ASTRONOMICAL

[@hazamahonoka7439]

“What’s your boyfriend’s name again?” The silence is quite literally the answer 😂

[@AVKryshtal]

Neither of them have a boyfriend though.

[@knisa6350]

Actually most girls with high standards do actually get boyfriends. So this is just factually untrue lol.

[@Chrono_Mitsurugi]

@@AVKryshtal One does, she is picking him up at the airport.

[@bearwitty9690]

​@@Chrono_Mitsurugiafter 2 dates? Talking about "wifey-energy" is crazy. 😅

[@DustinKnustin]

@@bearwitty9690don’t date someone you can’t imagine being in a marriage with. That’s the reason why all those pushy and cringe wifey women are happily married and the others… own cats

[@jonathanvanhofwegen5222]

“what’s ur bf’s name again?” omg fuck’n murdered her 🤣

[@TNTYOD]

Joshua James Brian Kurvok Tio Tam Samuel Lucian Frank Graham David Ben And of course Jessica But they are just for fun And her main is posh tom

[@MRGF78]

What day is it???

[@zitens66]

Michael McDoesntexist

[@josh18230]

Yes she destroyed an argument she created in her head and then acted out

[@user-tv3sk5cs4w]

What color is your Bugatti

[@danielshaffer2609]

Speaking on behalf of all Dan's, mutual effort like this is so rare and attractive. Even if it doesn't work out, you can both know that you tried, and walk away while respecting each other.

[@imagonnacrash9736]

Hilarious! lol. The last line is great!

[@ShyFly221]

Highkey a good friendly gesture too. Not everything is romantic my love language is just acts of service

[@Rosie82333]

Your love language is getting taken advantage of

[@kaior1]

No girl is doing this unless they like you lmao

[@Nightmare-wo2gd]

Normalize love language expression in contexts that aren't always romantic. Cuz they aren't. My love language is physical touch. I always make sure to dap up the homies and pat em on the back when they're down. It goes a long way.

[@Nightmare-wo2gd]

​@@kaior1that's not true.

[@Nightmare-wo2gd]

​@@Rosie82333if they want to do acts of service for people they care about leave em alone, it's not getting used if they want to do it.

I LOVE it when a woman does stuff like that at the beginning. Good way to make him fall hard for you

[@samuraitadpole5459]

Especially since guys stupidly give husband treatment before she proves herself a wife. No wonder women are so entitled men make it too easy to be

[@joepharmasst]

None do lol

[@relax6098]

Actually it's rare but if you find a girl that does be very careful. She might be faking her personality, I fell that for a whole year she played me

[@joepharmasst]

@@relax6098 usually the ones who act that way look like men as well

[@tasospat4919]

​@@relax6098 True story. Could be part of the love bombing a narcissist does in the beginning of dating and the relationship. Then she'll devalue you and you'll wonder what you did wrong

[@samdroy]

Well, I have been fortunate enough to bump into such women before. You ladies deserve all the love and respect.

[@AllePotky]

This is insanely true! Equality is about showing the same consideration for our partner that our partner shows for us and I think that's how strong relationships get built.

[@Cyclops0000]

Well said. I'd say about half my dating experience is just women "showing up" and expecting me to do everything. Plan the date, pick them up, carry the conversation, do all the gentleman stuff, take them home, be nice to their family and friends if we meet, make the move towards intimacy and all this carries the risk of rejection at any point while getting no appreciation. Really feels like it's 1 wrong move and all the 99 good things you've done are forgotten.

[@bojangles713]

Well stated! 👍🤟

[@pamenasdespartah4444]

Couldn't ave said it better

[@jaybee2981]

Yeah really.. couldn’t have said it better

[@Igeltod]

brilliantly worded

[@Igeltod]

sounds about right. its definitely not as horrible as some of the red pill content makes it sound like. but about half or alittle above that is also what i experienced.

[@cathleeniapeterson4504]

Funny how I acted like this with mine and now we live together with 4 kids. If you want to do this for a man u like there is nothing wrong with it. Stop taking dating advice from people that call a kind gesture a wifey task 😂

[@DASSANTAMARIA]

Moments like this when you realise there should be a double-like button

[@omarcook3663]

Smart based woman with real life results!!!

[@james50227]

I don't get it. Like a women making me food has 0 effect on how I feel about her. Doesn't matter if she does or does not. If its a nice gesture then its one that I don't care about.

[@joepharmasst]

Funny how you don't just say married unless it doesn't apply

[@sirsanchez1330]

Congratulations!!

[@heinsteinvaldez2561]

Protect this girl. She has all the right answers. 👏

[@xarrowverse]

I've thought so much about finding the one, but damn if I could've found you I think I'd actually be happy.

[@lunedefroid8817]

It's so sweet to make a lunch for your partner. It only becomes a problem when he takes it for granted and does not express gratitude.

[@voevodineu]

What if he does something back, and doesn't expect your gratitude as well?

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

Sure if this situation was about partner. This is a dude that she's seen twice. This is just Insanity.

[@lunedefroid8817]

@@voevodineu i think people should both express gratitude. Just saying thank you and reminding how much it something matters to you is not hard, and it means a lot

[@MacerXGP]

​@@voevodineu Enjoy your healthy relationship?

[@voevodineu]

@@lunedefroid8817 It depends on one's empathy level I'd say, I am one of those people who finds it hard to express feelings, sure it's some kind of social cripliness, but nevertheless, it's not easy for everyone as you said - that's what I would like to point out

[@🈳]

It's all about balance and effort in relationships. Appreciation goes a long way.

[@emmanuelogunkolati2737]

Mr Beast?

[@HawkGaming3721]

@@emmanuelogunkolati2737 no

[@Kurzlun]

this! on point! women today have no idea how much such little treats do to men! this is how we receive love and feel connection. I wish more women would see and understand this.

[@x-thousands]

Keep that woman safe... She is a keeper

[@AbramSeigler]

I 100% support this, you should not be getting advice from people cannot hold a date of their own

[@MarkaNgamer]

They're called Dating Experts nowadays.

[@Lomhow]

Such facts

[@Scottney]

As a man, please accept my sincerest gratitude for educating the future generations on "reciprocation" , equal effort and mutual respect.

[@mkontent]

Yes!

[@redfatseal2407]

Well said, brother!

[@KRYMauL]

Also, half the stuff she said was just good manners, that’s not going above and beyond.

[@ryangallagher6356]

If a woman opens with "wifey treatment" she will receive a "wifey ring".

[@jimbolove5669]

this is a breath of fresh air right here. love this video.

[@AckeeandSaltfish]

I think the big thing is to make sure you’re doing this for the right person. Doing all of this stuff earlier on can def backfire if it’s the wrong person. This is where discernment comes into play 💙

[@dennis_hdmi5402]

How can that backfire??

[@2011troya]

@@dennis_hdmi5402doing it for the wrong person means 1) you waste time by throwing pearls to swine 2) you open yourself up for being unappreciated to the point where it can border on disrespect because they do not reciprocate 3) you open yourself up to attacks on your time, energy and sometimes psychological well being from people who have no good intentions for you. It can definitely backfire alright…

[@ligitz]

​@2011troya agreed, but all of that is observable, and when it happens, you now know to leave him for someone who won't do that. So it isn't a problem and can help with discernment.

[@9308323]

​@2011troya Dude, she's trying to make him lunch. She's not trying to pay up his 7-figure debt. It's not that deep. Reciprocate affection and gesture to the person you're dating. If you're gonna get caught up with the "are they the right person" mentality, then don't date them and respect the other person's time they could be spending with someone who could show appreciation because you clearly can't.

[@sirdeadlock]

​@@dennis_hdmi5402I'm a giver, not a taker. I don't like it when people do things for me that we didn't talk about first, but I'm happy to be generous and thoughtful when there's an opportunity. If someone made a lunch for me without asking first if I wanted one, I'd be upset by the obligation being imposed. I'm probably a fringe case though. Food stuff is the kind of thing a person learns on a first date. I'm just saying they've got a point about discernment. In relationships, communication is key.

[@obsessedequestrian4410]

You tell it girl! Being kind to others doesn't require some kind of minimal criteria; your behavior reflects on you, not them. If they "use" you and don't reciprocate similar behavior, then that says everything you need to know about them.

[@JoshuaMGro]

Greatly said!!👌

[@JustASuscriber]

Changing your behavior because someone MIGHT use you might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard, honestly. Just be normal, be kind, make yourself likeable by the other individual. If they don't reciprocate, then they might not be a fit for you, but you should never assume that they won't.

[@DiggandDugg]

Exactly! You give the energy you want back and show genuine interest and care for the person you are dating. If they don't reciprocate and use you then you leave. Being aloof and not showing affection isn't going to make a good man suddenly want to wife you up, it's just childish mind games

[@pjpatel2551]

This woman is a gem

[@TheScarredWolf-um1zu]

I mean, I'd appreciate getting things like that in return but personally, the joy I get from seeing that what I've done makes my girl happy is reward enough. Doin shit like this is going above and beyond for me.

[@zakariyahabdulkarim5853]

My wife has been wifey since day 1. Everything she did amd continues to do for me fills my heart with so much love and respect. I give her thay same love and energy in return. Weve been together happily ever since and plam on having kids soon.

[@4real4real-cf1ii]

Wow. That's great mate. Your children will come by God's grace. Good story

[@user-ve4ye6kx4v]

Married 33 years One of your better videos keep up the good work

[@itchfinger]

Well done and great work. Not married, but been with the same for 15 years, with 2 kids. It sure take some effort and there can be some really low periods where you can regret it all. Buuut it passes and life is good again.

[@chaseonfroy]

​@@itchfinger15 years and 2 kids? you're already married at that point fam

[@brandonlantier]

I mean its the golden rule for a reason, treat people how you want to be treated and those that respect and love you will ABSOLUTELY return it.

[@jamesharbin9074]

SERVICE "IS" THE BASES OF A GREAT RELATIONSHIP, IT SHOWS RESPECT & LOVE......

[@2ndbrain909]

Literally a case of “if you want kindness then be eager to give kindness”

[@jerryc452]

Yep. Totally agree 👍

[@jonsku6662]

"Treat others how you wish to be treated" - The old golden rule No wonder functional relationships has both parties treat eachother as equals

[@ohrats731]

Some of us are jaded from past heartbreak 😔 In my most recent relationship, I was so happy getting to play wife, doing all these things for him. I helped him with a surgery, taking him to and from and providing in-home care for a couple weeks… fewer than 6 months into the relationship. I continued to help with his medical needs for 2 years, even postponing work opportunities to accommodate his surgery schedule. Then one time I needed to go to the emergency clinic. He refused to leave work a couple hours early to take me, even though he would not have been punished at work for doing so. Instead my mom had to drive down from where she lives and take me. I should have recognized his true colors that day. He was an overall nice guy every day, but the double standards in how we were willing to take care of each other should have told me all I needed to know right then and there. But I was the fool. And I kept letting the disparity in care grow until he didn’t want to live together anymore. Now I know that wife behavior has to be earned, except that makes me just another jaded woman who seems unattractively selfish 😮‍💨 I just want to settle down and grow old with someone who loves me the way I love him

[@spectrelead]

⁠@@jonsku6662 Abso-fucking-lutely!

[@clashdevil2925]

Honestly its such a really nice gesture. Like not even romantic. Thoughtful and sweet. It just shows you its kind

[@Ribbitplease]

No, men will take you as a doormat. Men have biological tendency to chase women. If a woman is too nice, they take it as cue to walk all over her and give her bare minimum in return. All of that while he stalks and likes Stacey’s insta profile and longs for her.

[@Fredrick_Turner]

I wanna thank you for making this, I feel like I'm going insane hearing a bunch of crazy takes like the hoodie girl is saying, videos like these help me realize that I'm not delusional.

[@averynmitchell]

This helped me understand that I am wifey material and my ex wasn’t in the place to be husband material. 🙏🏻 I genuinely wish the best for him and want him to get to that place for the right person 😊

[@rebekahmokool4759]

He didn’t ask for the lunch. That makes it a nice and kind gesture

[@EmilyW-2000]

When I met my husband, he didn't mind taking me on our first date to Panera Bread when he asked me out which is my favorite place and on our second date I decided to treat him out to a nice coffee shop in my suburban area and a bike ride adventure together. We didn't mind treating each other out on dates.

[@Madchris8828]

That sounds awesome. It's nice to hear good stories on dating rather than the typical horror stories plastered all over social media

[@BerkelEHaluesen]

This is really cute and sweet! 🥰 Bike ride adventure sounds like an awesome date idea, it's something fun! Dinner dates are nice but it's cool to see people doing other fun ideas.

[@tairschol6910]

You approached the relationship thinking "What can I do for him?" and his was "What can I do for her?". This is the secret to every successful relationship and (as far as I can gather) that is what you experiencing. Keep it up the both of you.

[@Admiral_tintin]

She's got it right. Love that line..." Whats your play friends name again"

[@BrunofanofK]

As someone that is fascinated with social trends I feel important to point out there are plenty of sour grapes to go around both sides. That is why being genuine is worthwhile, because how you do anything is how you do everything. Being this caring will go a long way.

[@seatongrey315]

This kind of respectful , valuing, loving behaviour makes me melt.

[@theakaneko]

I just sent my hubby some flowers and a snack to tell him I love him and appreciate all the hard work he's been doing (doing his job while dealing with flaky contractors during some home repair, ugg...). It made him so happy to get them. And he has done the same for me (or run out at midnight for random snack attack fries for us both). It is give and take and mutual effort that makes relationships work.

[@61countdown]

Absolutely. But how about next time, put some lingerie with that snack pack instead of flowers. Wrap the sandwich with it. My guess is that he'll get the message and knock your socks off when he gets home. And expect him to take the next day off too. 😅

[@gracefullybethany]

Not relevant. Giving your HUSBAND wifey treatment is not the same giving a man you’ve met twice wifey treatment. You are literally your husband’s wife.

[@dfr691980]

​@@gracefullybethanydefinitely not graceful

[@Londubh]

Cooperation, communication, and mutual support is where it's at

[@LanceNisk-gt6xq]

MAN i love this way of thinking. it kills me that this isnt more logical, idk how to explain it but im saving this

[@ScratchJoe]

This woman is conscience incarnate!

[@catalan500_8]

It’s hilarious cause I guarantee you the second you hand that guy the surprise lunch the first thing that will pop into his head is “what in the wifey material is this??” 😂❤️

[@AdrianRodriguezAIR]

Women... AND men, are forgetting that in order to please someone you have to strive to be nice. In the society we are developing, it is increasingly common to see vanity, self-centeredness and self-indulgence at their best.

[@devonpearson4315]

Remember. Most guys barely know the slightest hint of kindness. We'll bend over backwards to make sure everyone else is happy and get pushed down in the progress. A packed lunch is a perfect example of showing that you care. That it's not just a game. Thank you for all the content you make, it feels nice to be seen and appreciated.

[@v5ali911]

Let them know girl some real woman right here god bless you we still have hope 😭

[@krissmith3498]

Met my wife 53 years ago one evening when we were both in separate high schools, about 25 miles apart & We clicked :) I've shortened this story, but I immediately started picking her up from school , but in order to see her daily, I chose to help her with her busy outside charity work. It brought us that much closer & it has worked well - both ways - over the years, including when I was in the Navy right after graduation & she still had another year of school.... Great ride & I'd do it again!

[@theeclectic2919]

Awesome!

[@AndyfnB]

My dad used to go hangout at the hospital so he could spend time with my mom who was what they called a "Candy Striper."

[@karlriggs3240]

I love how some women think equality only goes one way, I like to go the extra mile, to show I'm not like other men that do minimum and think its a lot, but I also like to feel that what I'm doing is appreciated and not just taken for granted.

[@godleveleldritchblast5257]

I'm the type of guy who just does as he pleases and it's always seen as I'm going the extra mile. Which is funny because all my ex's loved that about me but because of that chose to build the relationship on lies because they didn't want to lose me. They became my ex's for a reason.😂

[@KRYMauL]

According to society, and if modern feminist get their way, women will get everything and men will work the manual labor jobs and be seen as beneath them. Oh wait that’s already happening, there are more women in college than men, and men are increasingly being drawn to the trades because they don’t have to incur the debt that their supposed wife will have. Also, true equality stopped being the goal like 50 years ago, now they just want a matriarchy. If you ask me, the best society is an egalitarian society like we we’re heading towards anyway.

[@LeCVSUVL]

I literally clapped at the end. That was really well said.

[@MultiNutterbutter]

My faith and hope for humanity is restored in this one short video. Thanks

[@dbaxter604]

Treat people awesome right off the bat, they dont match your energy or effort then move on. Dont play the "earn it" game, no one wins.

[@Allanrpsx]

☝🏼

[@annelieetsebeth1830]

Yes!!!

[@neverstopimproving89]

It's crazy to me that women like this will refuse to do "kind gestures" as they consider it Wifey treatment, yet they will sleep with the guy on the 1st date. (Hell, sometimes without even a date) Just goes to show how backward things are right now. 😂

[@Erik_369]

I was thinking the same thing. I'm in it right now. Just ended a two year relationship. She slept with me on the first night, met her at a night club. Two years later, she won't even make me a cup of coffee. She can't see what my problem is, or why I don't want to move in with her.

[@samuraitadpole5459]

​@@Erik_369 how TF you went past a week????

[@Erik_369]

@@samuraitadpole5459 Hahaha! Good question.

[@neverstopimproving89]

@@Erik_369 must have been some damn good box. 🤣

[@orionefx]

​@@Erik_369 bro, you met her at a nightclub. That speaks for itself

[@Gear_Banger]

Facts!!! A lot of women don’t understand you don’t get the “job” without the proper qualifications during the “interview”.

[@oliverspencer2411]

Kindness and respect are important to fostering any relationship. I did have to learn to recognize when I wasn't being treated with either the hard way.

[@ninjatreefrog9346]

Exactly. Give and take. No relationship can function without both sides willing to give. Too many women feel too entitled to man’s effort. Too many men only willing to put forth the effort if they think it will get them laid.

[@prestonbrandt2193]

The part about women k agree with but thee men one only sleaze bags expect to be laid and they are the minority of men not the majority the majority of men are ignored and we tend to be more gentlemanly and only expect you to not be going on multiple dates a day or be sleeping around when with us cause I can tell you this we aren't or can't. Not from lack of trying either cause like I said ignored.

[@user-zm9hg6gk6l]

a relationship should be build on love not business, there shouldnt be give and take but rather selflessness

[@ditchan1806]

You've never heard of codependecy

[@isabelsalamanca893]

@@ditchan1806 I think you meant interdependency? Codependence is toxic but interdependence is necessary because we can’t all possibly be completely self-sufficient. It just doesn’t work in the modern world. With interdependence, we rely on each other to provide for everyone’s needs. So, in a couple, one person may work for a paycheck that pays to keep a roof over heads, food on the table and clothes on the back. And then the cleaning, cooking and laundry is split up (house chores are more demanding than an office job. My partner gets all his work done in less than 2 hours a day, but I work retail shipment so it’s like a workout for me 3-5 days a week, 8 hours, but he works from home. He can do his share of housework).

[@ditchan1806]

@@isabelsalamanca893 nah he said no relationship works on just giving but there are a lot of codependent couples (toxic) which do last I was meaning that

[@Benwut]

dude, the girl I'm engaged to made me fall for her by actually doing little things like this that showed she actually cares. Sure, I do all the expensive things like paying for dinners, since I earn almost 4 times as much as her, but even just coming home to see she's arranged my desk and files correctly is the kind of small thing she does that feels so special and makes me see her as someone I want to marry.

[@OMartinez91]

Women that do little things for us are the best. My fiancee is similar and also tells me if I'm close to burnout since I hyperfocus on my tasks at work. That woman can read me like an open book, and my mental health has drastically improved thanks to her

[@Miracle.impetus]

im only found 2 girls like this and in 29yo. Sadly, i couldnt had a great match with these women. rn im in a relationship, but i miss that kind of treatment. they are treasures

[@davidmagrass6728]

Im glad to see women in the comments watching this and thinking about it. Gives me hope.

[@vinster8884]

Being considerate of each other is definitely the way.

[@gnjnnn]

Not really about the video, but i just wanna share. My friend has been with this guy for two years. Everyday she’ll prepare his clothes, do laundry, clean, organize his closet, prepare his towel, heck she even SQUEEZES the toothpaste into the brush for him everytime he’s about to take a shower. AND THIS GUY JUST CHEATED ON MY FRIEND. While I do agree with the video, appreciation should go both way for a relationship so i hope the person anyone’s on the date with appreciates this kind gesture.

[@AmandaGeyerSnobahr]

There's "wifey treatment" and then there's "mommy treatment"...

[@jansix4287]

He probably put her in the friendzone, because she didn’t gave him enough bad girl vibes or something? At least that’s the female explanation on why they cheat on good husbands.

[@Brunettebeach]

Exactly. The man has to be quality…

[@roycewalters]

While I don't condone cheating in a monogamous relationship, if they were sexless and he addressed this with her, then there were only two real possible outcomes of she didn't correct that. You may not be getting the whole story.

[@WiseWordsbyWiki]

​@@roycewalters I found the incel

[@bubandit06]

💯 Be the partner you want to be and you'll find that in them too

[@Rosie82333]

They just take advantage

[@bubandit06]

@@Rosie82333 I understand that, so they won't get your time for very long, but becoming jaded and testing every potential partner before revealing your true self is nearly as bad as pretending to be a wonderful person and then manipulating your partner, both are dishonest. You miss out on all those truly good people who only got to see your hard shell and decided that person wasn't for them. I don't see how anyone thinks they can find happiness by pretending to be something they're not.

[@bubandit06]

@@Rosie82333 You'll miss out on the right one when you show everybody a person who isn't the true you. You're asking someone to not only show you their true self, but to break down the walls you put up against them. Why would anybody do that? Would you do that? Keep fighting for a relationship where that person is punishing you from day 1 for things you had nothing to do with? Be true to yourself and the right person will be true to you

[@hisinddjsomnsl]

​@@Rosie82333then leave

[@yahoot1779]

​@@Rosie82333its your second comment, there prob are more. Get your heartbroken ahh outa here

[@robertwolfgan]

This is one of the few good women left that are worth the world.

[@shantiwillaert]

LMAOOO she's so right, i love this, you cant expect something you dont give

[@seanmahoney7905]

Protect this woman at all costs!!!

[@vortigaunt911]

I want her to keep telling me what I want to hear

[@seanmahoney7905]

@@vortigaunt911 she spitting facts.

[@rmt3589]

As a guy, that's boss! 100% gonna "get you back" with a surprise lunch of your own.

[@FlickerFly444]

Def agree with treating the guy right with effort, etc. but 3rd date still doesn’t equal airport and packed lunch 😅

[@RohitVerma-mo2ij]

Respect. We need to mk women who are only receivers & not givers think. We need to mk our women think of their part to play. My Respect to real women. God bless.

[@AverageSensei]

"Cow Manure attracts flies, Sunflowers attract bees" -My Grandma

[@MattGentry807]

Women in white knows what she wants, and knows how to lock it down.. Bravo

[@Rosie82333]

Getting taken advantage of 😂

[@yagamilight589]

@@Rosie82333 30 years from now: a girl in the white is happily playing with her 3rd grandkid. While smart fems who "never allowed to take advantage of them" are crying to the pillow and thinking about getting the 5th cat :D

[@lastchancefancypants7905]

@@Rosie82333 You must be sad

[@misspriss2482]

Bullshit. That doesn't lock any man down. Ask the women who have played wifey for years and he's still cheating.

[@misspriss2482]

@@lastchancefancypants7905 Nah, just hip to the game.

[@morgananderson1091]

We must protect her at all costs For she is valuable!

[@user-sh6cm1th9g]

She's absolutely 💯 wife material and deserves everything he does for her, gives guys hope that there's nice woman out there 🤗

[@aburame_lennon3629]

I did this wifey thing and the guy said "you're moving too fast" sooo still be careful who you're doing this and maybe not do it right away until you're sure the feelings are mutual. (Communicate and listen) And if it's not right then keep on moving some guy would love to be treated that way :3

[@tubejuanso]

The guy is a jerk. We only need the stomach full and another thing empty. And it is just food. We love getting food or affection in any way. My wife wrote me sweet letters with hearts, so I had to marry her 😊 I proposed after 6 days of meeting her and she said YES.

[@godleveleldritchblast5257]

As a guy, I say leave him because he is the type of guy not looking for marriage, he is just looking for fun. This is how you out the bad guys from the good ones. If he says it's to fast, it the same type of guy to say "she love bombed me" with gifts. Your wifey level gestures shows a level of seriousness that he didn't want because he doesn't want marriage as the end goal. He is a player!

[@Fr3k3]

You missed the point. The point is to treat people well and be amazing to everyone you date. You then use their reaction to gauge whether or not you should stick together. If they don't reciprocate it then you dump them and move on. Just like in your case. You learned that he wasn't worth shit. You move on and keep doing "wifey things" for your future partners until one sticks. You don't wait and "not do it right away". That's pretty much exactly the opposite of what the video is saying.

[@cakefete2]

Single women keep women single

[@divyamishra4717]

And also shitty men

[@ErinThePsychicWitch]

You wish it was difficult to find a man 😂

[@cakefete2]

@ErinThePsychicWitch you find them, you just can't keep them.

[@under-dog5390]

@@ErinThePsychicWitch Ah guys are around everywhere, every store you go to, down every street you are on but most of them wont be interested. Ya'all think guys are dumb but they can sus you up pretty quickly and if not they certainly will when they learn more about you for good or for bad (usually bad.) Most guys are single afterall, they just don't wanna be with you and would actually prefer to remain single than be with you. 9 times out of 10 the single life is a better life for them rather than the alternative and they know it down to their core.

[@davidfreeman6251]

I love how honest this feels.

[@MarcioColona]

Every man needs a woman like her in his life.

[@claytongore916]

Literally thank you, wish more women had these types of values too. There'd be more hope for both genders of our generation...

[@xjt9787]

Protect this woman at all costs

[@markolean6815]

100%

[@theviruekanayake9638]

Agreed 💯

[@jennaleigh6049]

Big facts 👏🏼. Dont let hidden misandry keep you from your forever 💖

[@jordanhauer6774]

Dude i brought my boyfriend snacks to work often before we were even a couple lol. I was just crushing hard and loved making him smile. It worked out for us and now i can make him food whenever i want ❤