Don't Move to South Carolina Without Watching THIS

On a recent springtime Sunday in historic Charleston, South Carolina, I introduced myself to Annette Howard and her family. Annette is a longtime teacher who is native to the Charleston area. She belongs to an African American subgroup called the Gullah, who have their own unique culture & Creole language that descended from enslaved West Africans in the Carolina & Georgia coastal region.
We had a candid conversation about the massive number of people relocating to this charming coastal city--particularly from northeastern states like New York and New Jersey--and how their arrival in Charleston and South Carolina in general has impacted the local economy, quality of life, and culture in positive and negative ways. Annette loves her hometown, and she and her aunt proudly describe southern hospitality and manners.
She and her husband, Fred, also address the history of racial segregation in South Carolina, specifically how African Americans, including her parents, were shortchanged adequate educations, among other injustices. Ultimately, as first members of their families to attain higher degrees, as successful career people, and as parents & grandparents of college graduates, she & Fred personify the power of intelligence, discipline, and knowledge.
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[@RPNeil]

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[@to-wf3lj]

Thank you. That's my aunt, my mom's twin sister.

[@PreciousFrazier-n8q]

@@RPNeil WOW great family.

[@jenniferhamby7667]

What a lovely family 😊 BLESS you Mrs. Annette and the children that HAVE had the pleasure of having you as a teacher 😊

[@mealbla7097]

Great interview

[@Usernameblahblahnblah]

What a lovely, beautiful lady. I hope she realizes not everyone who is curious about her darker skin is curious because they think less of her. It would be nice if we could all just see each other as God's beautiful creation. I would be happy to break bread with her anytime. I love all of my Carolina people❣️

[@lauraporter6516]

Please don't ever let the Gullah culture slip away. We are in desperate need of more people with manners and respect for each other. I'm 53, born and raised in a small NC town. Having manners and respect were taught to us from the beginning. I see less and less of people with manners as the years go by.

[@stopit41]

He looks good for 73

[@rockon8174]

Blame the single-mothers. Real simple.

[@english7451]

African culture and genes preserved in the Gullah people and language. Can’t imitate that

[@blackpalacemusic]

​@@rockon8174Who hurt you?? 😂 Nah seriously, get help!

[@apcre8z]

@@rockon8174so you’re indirectly saying blame the men that are creating single mothers? Cuz that actually makes more sense since they can’t get themselves pregnant 😂. How bout we make sure everyone we know has manners and stop blaming other ppl. But I’m married so what do I know?! 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@charlottefox4775]

I love the way her husband keeps them rocking--so very sweet--the “old Charleston” manners🙏❣️

[@fatimacottle1968]

💪🏿👑👑🔟🎊♥️♥️🌏👂👆🙌❤️👋👌🤗

[@KPryor-vd8uj]

yes

[@bigvalley4987]

Wow! Wow!🫶🏾💯

[@Jeannie_NC]

Amen amen southern men are something else. 🫂 ❤️

[@fatimacottle1968]

Thee South Carolina Kindness They really are been tooooo allllllllllllllll the best downtown CHARLESTON PINEAPPLE 🍍 WATER 💦 FALL

[@amystrickland6876]

As a fellow South Carolinian, I whole-heartedly agree with EVERYTHING she said. Adapt to the place you’re moving, or don’t come.

[@rc123theycallme]

It’s difficult to adapt to simple-minded diabetic southerners…

[@melissal6811]

@@rc123theycallmethen don’t come here simple

[@jonus4390]

​@@rc123theycallmePoint proven. And this is coming from a northerner.

[@gregcummins9185]

​@@rc123theycallme You would think that as smart as the northerners are that they could run a state that wasnt so shitty everyone wants to move out

[@kathrynperry992]

​@rc123theycallme Judging from the weight of some of these people, we know who's more likely to be diabetic...

[@chrisjulius8050]

These are the role models the black community need today, Create self respect , family and promote education.

[@english7451]

Get a glimpse of real African genetic diversity and genesis with this population.

[@DolphinWithIgloo-fg3ow]

We called grandma "Madea", which is slang for "Mother Dear".

[@hereitis.2587]

Only the Black community? All your people are the shining examples of the perfect citizen in your community? Your people are loving thy neighbors, all of them? How many of your people were allowed to go past eighth grade? 10:29 Did they have to call all their bosses captain? How about their business corridors. Did the government come in and rip out your people’s business sections to put in the state and federal highways? Maybe we should stop destroying people just so we can point to them and exclaim they are struggling? Maybe! Walk a mile in some one else’s shoes requires you to show up first.

[@hereitis.2587]

@@english7451all your people are inbred?

[@english7451]

@@DolphinWithIgloo-fg3ow interesting

[@Hollylivengood]

The aunt just won my heart. "What was your career?" She just laughed and said domestic, and left it to her niece to explain. She never got to go past the 8th grade, but her niece could. Because women like her aunt insisted on it. Isn't she beautiful? Not a word, or even a joke, she's just proud of her niece.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@magichandsdownes]

Domestic Engineer

[@couragetochange8593]

What a beautiful lady with such a sweet spirit and family. As a southern woman I would like every one who is moving down to the south to learn the culture of the people who live here and respect the people you are coming to. It is only decent manners.

[@RPNeil]

Well-said. Thank you for your comment.

[@gallen2101]

Thank you!!

[@chanelladyone]

EXACTLY 🔥

[@senoracheapee1864]

Unfortunately, most of us in the north lost our manners two generations ago when we first left the south- lol but seriously tho

[@indigohelps7715]

Period

[@larisibbitt8528]

The man in the back that gently keeps pushing the swing has my heart ❤️

[@annettehoward5547]

That's my husband

[@annettehoward5547]

That's my awesome amazing loving husband Mr Freddie Howard Sr.

[@HenryHaven-c3q]

It's what ya do in the South! ❤

[@j.g.c.2494]

whew! he's got his work cut out for him.

[@williampounds9180]

Southern culture is the best ....Don't let it slip away.

[@kylerbrown6249]

I’m so worried it is, more and more suburbs moving out of the city and into the country, and manners just flying out the window

[@kiraloveall2651]

@@kylerbrown6249 More and more liberals moving here, too. And bringing their politics.

[@614ak47]

She is the last of a dieing breed listen to her wisdom it's worth more then money better times

[@Sofasurfa]

I’m a white 65 year old British woman I live in a tiny village in the Northwest of England this lady is so gracious and positively exudes warmth. She is the sort of lady I can imagine sitting at the Kitchen table with nattering away over a cup of tea and a slice of fruit cake. Loved this piece, makes me want to visit Charleston I usually go to New York, Florida, and Buffalo ( I have family in Buffalo) thank you for sharing this. 😊

[@RPNeil]

Thank you for your kind comment. To my mind, Downtown Charleston is one the more European-feeling places in the US and well-worth visiting for the whole region, along with Savannah.

[@Sofasurfa]

@@RPNeil I will certainly endeavour to get to this area next time I’m in the States 😊

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you I would love to sit at a kitchen table with you nattering with a cup of tea and a slice of fruit cake.

[@magichandsdownes]

You must visit and see the trees they are so beautiful. Its a beautiful city.

[@Sofasurfa]

@@magichandsdownes and it would appear to also be very welcoming 😊

[@luvmifro1003lovesfamily]

I know Annette personally. She's genuinely a kind woman. There is definitely a clash between those of us who are from Charleston and the Northerners who generally bring zero hospitality. So as a result, Charlestoners are becoming more hostile in order to defend/protect ourselves. The traffic is horrendous. It takes me 1 hour 10 minutes to get to a 40 minute destination. I LOVE my city and change is inevitable. But the hospitality that I grew up experiencing in 80's and 90's is slowly disappearing.

[@RPNeil]

Just in the short time we met, it was clear that Annette & her family are very good people. Yes, the Charleston area has changed along with the whole region. When I'm in my hometown, Atlanta, people tell me I'm the first native Atlantan they've ever met.

[@luvmifro1003lovesfamily]

@@RPNeil Same thing when. I meet ppl who are originally from Charleston. I remember in the early 2000's there was a huge migration of ppl from SC to ATL. So the growth we're just beginning to experience, you guys have had that for some time now.

[@RPNeil]

@@luvmifro1003lovesfamilyYes, it grew from 2 million in the early 90s to 6 million+ now. The Olympics were the big turning point, I think. It's not all bad--the growth has brought a lot of new opportunities & cultural offerings, including restaurant variety. As Ms. Howard said, we're gonna have to adapt to each other. But it'd sure be nice if the southern friendliness were honored & maintained.

[@JenniferKastelic]

same happening here in Maine.

[@BestLifeBagLady]

❤❤ RESPECTFULLY

[@lindap8535]

This was my number one complaint when I moved up north. No one looks at each other or speaks.

[@ihave35cents95]

I never noticed that in all my 40 years in New Jersey. We talked too much.

[@richardcranium3579]

Why in gods name would you leave and move up Nawth?

[@rolling_heavy]

From the south and can say women like herself are the most beautiful salt of the earth people, they also give the best hugs that can cure even the worst of days.

[@TwoShedsJackson]

I’m an 8th generation Charlestonian and I LOVED running across this interview. This family is delightful to listen to, and their happiness is simply infectious. They’re not lying about the ma’am and sir thing-it’s not an insult, it’s called “good manners.” I’m in my mid-50s and if I am assisted by a shop clerk in their 20s I will still say “Thank you, ma’am/sir.” I can’t stand hearing kids respond to elders with “What?” or “Huh?” 😐

[@RPNeil]

Thanks for your great comments on this video. Eight generations is a loooong time!

[@Coco-lz4gg]

I was born and raised in Charleston and still live here. Annette provided insight on why my great-grandmother's education ended at the 8th grade level.

[@Stellasbaby724]

She makes me want to move. I just wish more people were like her. Be cordial ❤

[@Datz-Donna]

My mom and dad too. But, looks like to me, both my parents adopted the "you can't get pee from a tree" perspective that propelled white people to deny our forefathers higher education. I've heard mom say that many times in conversations about one of us going to college. I'm the youngest btw.

[@arletah3080]

This happened to my Grandmother too. I didn't realize this was going on all over the country.

[@LaRueOnline]

Yes and why my parents made SURE I furthered mine. It was so important to them.

[@Lisa-eo9gd]

I am white. It was very common generations ago to not have education beyond the 8th grade.

[@Marriedtotheculture]

My home state ❤. If I close my eyes and just listen to her speak I hear my mom, my aunties, my sister, my cousins and all the beautiful black women of my childhood. 😍🥰

[@lasheenaward5823]

And if I close mine I would think they are descended from my country bahamas 🇧🇸

[@williegrant3054]

YES! I ❤ IT! Born and Bred❤

[@annettehoward5547]

Well thank you

[@donaldhall1872]

What I get from her wisdom is we're all gods children. We all can enjoy the world that god gave us all no matter what color.

[@gabyfields3235]

I love how she bats her long eyelashes! She is a true Southern Lady!

[@TheSitcheeation]

That’s a Gullah ooman dey 💕💯💯💯🙌🏿

[@LifewithLatoyaShamone]

Yesa ❤

[@TwoShedsJackson]

I’m a white Charlestonian and I understood every word you said! 😂

[@Dak36]

A lovely lady and family…speaks for a lot of us on the coast of SC.

[@RPNeil]

Nice to hear our conversation resonated with you. Thank you for commenting!

[@kylerbrown6249]

I feel what she is saying from the upstate

[@peterjohnson7188]

Her skin is glowing

[@bigj1458]

I swear it is...she got that glow

[@thefranken-thing]

Because she works for the CIA

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@user-gu6vf3je1d]

🙄

[@rebekahfranks4205]

Beautiful

[@pharris335]

It is true regarding our ancestors not having access to a high school. My mother, born in 1914, graduated the 8th grade. The only way to get a high school education was to pay for a boarding school. This was in NC. Her father died when she was 14 and they simply could not afford it. Education, education, education was her mantra. She never stopped learning and traveled world wide. One smart lady!

[@RPNeil]

As they say, learning is a lifelong occupation. Thank you for adding to ours with your comment. Your mom certainly does sound smart.

[@english7451]

High school you mean any school that was not a one room hot box. Worse than we know.

[@MsBhappy]

Even in Canada 100 years ago less than 20% of the population finished secondary school.

[@sonyadakers3984]

I visited my cousin in NJ and went to a store to go shopping. As I was walking in an aisle I went passed a gentleman to get to the register. As I was paying he walked up to me and asked where I was from. I said South Carolina and he said I thought so. I was confused because I hadn’t said a word to him but my cousin said did you say excuse me when you went by. I said yes because I always do. She said that was it. No one says excuse me up here. I love being from the south!

[@Lonewolf_1776]

Cap

[@queenhadid2937]

Lol no one says excuse me in NJ? I see yall like to make up stories. You sound like this lady talking about a mf touched her skin and she had to tell them she’s real 😂

[@samanthayates8812]

​@@queenhadid2937 yep. No one says excuse me in NJ

[@delaineyjohnson8238]

Yeah. I say excuse me all the time when I pass people here in CA. They don't even look at me. I'm always so confused. Now I get it -- having lived in the south and come to a rude ass state.

[@1983jcheat]

This guy from Atlantic City disagrees. Born and raised here, and I say excuse me. 😂😂😂

[@yolanda5756]

🤗I like this conversation😅I'm from down south & JUST had a conversation with someone from NY. She talked to me like I was unintelligent because of my accent! So, I talked to her like she was in preschool & she quickly realized that she was the one that was not so intelligent 🙄

[@michaelquinones-lx6ks]

We New Yorkers think we are the center of the universe and act like they are very ''smart'' they're ''smart'' all right at covering up how stupid they really are.

[@yvonnephillips3888]

Yeah. Those (not all) moving to the South from the North can have a false superior, abrasive attitude. We didn't ask you to move here. Stay up there with your destructive policies.

[@MonicaHelton]

That does not surprised me.

[@michaelquinones-lx6ks]

@@MonicaHelton The classic stereotype overly ''educated'' kind that don't know nothing, As the old saying goes, The smarter you are the dumber you become.

[@janetholley1004]

Friendly and manners, the way good mama's bring up their children. Love!

[@officialalonzo263]

Love to see the Gullah geechee culture, this is where my grandmother came from and she will be very much missed!❤

[@RPNeil]

So great to have had a grandparent from this special culture.

[@officialalonzo263]

@@RPNeil Yeah, it’s a very strong African culture with the food and dialog that survived multiple centuries, also a strong deep south culture, love the southern hospitality and mannerisms!

[@officialalonzo263]

@@RPNeil I’m originally from DC so I appreciate that I got to learn that!

[@RPNeil]

@@officialalonzo263That is very lucky to have that opportunity despite being from up there in DC.

[@PreciousFrazier-n8q]

It is sad that no one stood up for the Gullah folks when the City of Charleston, SC was gentrified and so many were uprooted. Gone were places like Henry Furniture Store and Trudy Beauty shop. Down the street was Carl Harley Meat Market. They also took away the Piggly Wiggly with the aisles name after streets and the good Gullah meals. The same thing was done in Beaufort...Tom Repair was moved from Downtown. They move all the Blacks to corners.

[@ShondaD_]

These are my kind of people to move close to. I was born and raised in Mississippi and ma’am and sir, hospitality, being friendly is embedded in me. People tell me that I don’t have to say that, but its my way of being respectful to others❤. Lovely people.

[@RPNeil]

Well said. Thank you for sharing.

[@jrg4313]

I do the same....ma'am and sir, excuse me, etc. Some people have been rude to me for having respect and manners. My accent gets made fun of also. My entire family is from the South.

[@ShondaD_]

@jrg4313 I am so sorry that some people are rude to you for having manners and respect. That just shows how cruel this world really is towards kind, respectful people. But please don't let them change who you are as a respectful person💜. Are people rude to you in the state you currently live in or just in general?

[@freedomisthechoicesyoumake8594]

Ma’am and Sir sound like Massa and Misses from slavery days 😂😂😂😂

[@avagrego3195]

She is a lovely person. This is a sweet calming video compared to the rest of you tube.

[@RPNeil]

Yes, she is. Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching.

[@georgethomas2004]

That’s right. No need to add my 2 cents.

[@twatts1523]

Auntie, Hubby, and Cuz are all great, top. Fun crowd!

[@empressisis3572]

What a beautiful family!! This video made my morning 🌄❤

[@denisechilds2391]

Now i know why my grandfather and grandmother never finished school, they just worked and worked, and worked until they both died. My father graduated from college. 😢

[@RPNeil]

Sad story. Your father's success is surely a testament to their constant work and sacrifice.

[@PreciousFrazier-n8q]

@@denisechilds2391 Education was not easy back in those days. A lot of these folks are in their nineties now but were never compensated for having to walk to school while the cross town folks were given buses and better schools. So now the wealth gap is showing just how much the difference was. The New Deal lifted some while leaving others so far behind..... Catching up is a miracle indeed .

[@martinsmith2258]

Nice video. I love how her native Gullah accent start slipping. It’s nice to see it still existing🙏🏾

[@RPNeil]

Thanks for watching.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@dorcuslee4188]

I really enjoyed this family. Mrs Annette and Fred are an inspiration. Thank you

[@RPNeil]

So glad to hear. Thank you for watching.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you so much

[@treyb7530]

I’m from Charleston. She is right. I’ve been up North. You nod and say hello they look at me like I’m crazy. My friend said dis ain’t Chas

[@lindifuller9113]

Even in upstate SC, it is becoming like that. I speak to everyone I meet but some look at me like, why are you trying to talk to me? It's sad that those coming here act like that. We can't let them change us however. I was born and raised in Greenville, SC. I have visited Charleston so many times, I can't say how many. It's been a few years since I have been down but I am old and don't like to drive the crowded roads. ❤

[@parkerbrown-nesbit1747]

I'm from Kentucky, and when I say hello to white people in Summerville they don't say hello back. The Black people do.

[@richardcranium3579]

@@lindifuller9113too late. SC has laid down and allowed itself to be Overrun and Annihilated. Sickening to see what it is coming too. If people would stay and change their own state instead of feeling the need to come here and destroy ours…….

[@mariehood4222]

Great family and a great interview. God's blessings to Black struggles in America.

[@jennivelez7777]

Such a soothing Southern gentlewoman and because of her I had to subscribe. I used to live in Charleston, Mount Pleasant, and Goose Creek briefly as a kid. She is someone I'd love to someday meet. Plus I know she knows how to make that delicious Low Country food I miss so much.🎉😂❤🙏

[@RPNeil]

Thank you for watching & subscribing!

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@mamaj6028]

I agree with her ! ❤ I live in Columbia,SC, the capitol . SC has great manners, even if you just say "hey" to someone, it's almost required to be mannerly in S.C. ! I'm not from here originally, but I ❤❤❤❤ SC !! You interviewed great people ! 😍

[@RPNeil]

Yes, they are! I lucked out walking up to this family. Interesting & nice. Thanks for watching!

[@craigrussell5500]

I also live in Cola for 40 years now, and I couldn't agree more.

[@fedelynedieujuste6924]

I love South Carolina, my sister lives in Lexington, SC. I would love to more there.

[@richardcranium3579]

@@fedelynedieujuste6924hell everybody else is. Crowded as Charleston now. Packed. Damn shame when natives feel like they have to leave. Native here. LEAVING. What a flipping mess.

[@jameswashington4493]

That was a heart-warming video of good ole southern people from South Carolina. My dad is from Bamberg, South Carolina and these ladies remind me of some of my long gone beautiful family I used to know down there. Great Video, Sir! Keep the good videos coming!

[@RPNeil]

Glad you enjoyed it. We do have some good ones on the way. Stay tuned!

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@1300mikehoward]

Respect and matters have largely faded regardless of location, be it North or South. I relocated to Atlanta from the North in the late 80s when I was young, and my expectations of good food, women cooking, matters or southern draw wasn't exactly met. Atlanta was a city of transplants then, as it remains today-it was rare to encounter a Grady Baby as it is today. Like Charleston, transplants have overpopulated Atlanta and implemented their ways ideas, cultures and influences. It's not the same Atlanta of the 1980s and it will never be again. The influx of transplants and gentrification has in fact misplaced Atlanta natives and made them almost invisible in the new Belt Line era.

[@shirleyhall1924]

Let's make a promise to ourselves to teach and practice, hospitality and manners. This never goes out of style. Just because another culture lives among us doesn't mean we have to give up ours. Consideration, and friendliness should never be discouraged in ourselves or others.

[@richardcranium3579]

It’s been butchered out. Disgusting to watch when you know what Charleston used to be. I have zero desire to visit anymore at all. (Nothing but a sea of “me too” ants trying to climb on the same small pile, destroying what drew them to the “arreah” (that’s the way they say it) in the first place. Sickening. I’ll never understand the caveman mentality of moving into an area from an area you helped destroy or make unlivable (you wouldn’t be moving otherwise) and expecting to turn it into what you left behind……amazing the density of some craniums.

[@Cheryl-j8y]

I love this lady she is so sweet I love this story such a beautiful family

[@stephenbyrd8295]

What wonderful people!! Just can't beat the south. Manners, respect for one another. And big daddy kept'em swingin' the whole time. Gentleman.

[@CloudyDea-cz3qq]

There’s no way she’s 63 and he’s 73! They look very young!

[@aprilclover2429]

I live in California so they don’t look too young to me!

[@bravebear6975]

@@aprilclover2429 LOL, most in CA do not age well.....they all have this leathery like skin around their necks, I guess from too much laying on the beach or tanning booths? Our Southern whites for example get more natural sunlight from just walking about their day or hunting and fishing, not 'tanning' and their skin looks really fresh. So your comment makes zero sense. That man doesn't remotely look like most 73 y/o Californians and if the woman was slimmer, she would look 50.

[@parislon6036]

@@aprilclover2429”too”, not too.

[@parislon6036]

Yes they look amazing. All natural and no plastic surgery! You can’t buy that elasticity and firm collagen in her face anywhere in the world.

[@aprilclover2429]

@@parislon6036, my “to” was correct. Btw, I’m a fan! Lovely people.

[@t.l1357]

Such a lovely conversation. Im from VA and I always speak. I've had people that won't speak back and i let them know this is Our way. Its not about where u r from but where u r at. If u come to someone's place u show respect. Many don't know so a quick explanation normally gets a great response. A smile and hello doesn't cost a thing ❤

[@robertlawson9732]

I have live in South Carolina from 1970 to now. There are some real good black folks. I have worked for them also hangout. I have loved some black Teachers . There are good and bad of all races. For me i say love one another. Love Robert. PS. She is a beautiful soul.

[@dhunter5732]

I’m from the North and was born in the 60s. I was raised to be respectful of ALL my elders. Children and those in their twenties (not all but a lot) seem to have lost that respect for their elders or were never taught it. The way they talk to their parents, the cursing out in public in front of elders, is so disrespectful and sad. If I talked to my parents like that, just know that I obviously wouldn’t be here typing this right now. 😂🤣 I was afraid to say or do something out in public that I shouldn’t be saying/doing because Mom or Nana would hear about it before I got back home. 💯 I’m 58 now and I’m so very thankful to have grown up when I did. God bless my generation and those before me as we really were raised right! 🙏🏾

[@RPNeil]

Good comment. Thank you.

[@michaelammons2350]

Ehh working in retail I've seen lots of older people who don't practice what they expect and treat others with disdain and disrespect. One must act worthy of respect to be respected.

[@JefferyHagen]

I’m 59 and I was raised the same way and I see the same issues with the younger generations. I’ve had a few of the say; you have to earn my respect.

[@Sofasurfa]

I’m 65 and I have just learned that today in the States people of my sort of age are called boomers and there seems to be an element of resentment towards them along the lines of having had it easy. Well I’m from the UK and we spent at least three decades rebuilding after the war. And I know that in America young men in the fifties through to the seventies fought in the Korean and Vietnamese wars you had times of change with the ending of segregation in the southern state and civil rights marches. The generations that young people today dismiss the generations that fought to make the world a better place. I was brought up on the principle of treating others with respect, compassion and dignity. My mum told me that I should treat others how I would like to be treated myself and that a smile will often turn a stranger into a friend 😊

[@dhunter5732]

@@Sofasurfa So so true! And yes, a smile given to someone will make them smile and can just be the thing to brighten their day. Sounds like your dad was a great man of integrity! 🙏🏽

[@jeffmorse645]

My parents aren't from the South, but they were from Oklahoma and I was taught the "sir" and "ma'am" addressing people in businesses even though I was born and raised in California. When I was working in a hotel in California I was called on it more than once by people from the Northeast or Los Angeles. I had one middle aged lady from L.A. that got really indignant when I addressed her as ma'am. She said "Don't call me ma'am! Makes me feel old!". I explained it was just my upbringing as a show of respect. 😆 BTW I love talking with people out in public! It's so much fun and you learn so much, especially when you travel somewhere.

[@RPNeil]

Great comment. Showing common courtesy and respect is never out of place, in my opinion, regardless of geography. You're right--it can be so educational & fun to meet people out & about, especially when traveling. Working now on bringing more of these talks to this new channel. Thanks for watching.

[@Akutukananu]

Same, with me and i live further south in the boot state. When i address others older than myself maybe 10 15 years people get big offended! And wonder why the young have no respect for them! I say the same thing its my upbringing. I respect my elders and practically everyone around me. Lol 😅Im just so lost with generation.

[@Kioko123]

I was raised in the west and was taught to say Yes mam, hello and to help the elders etc. It’s part of our culture to do so.

[@lampkinmedia]

I appreciate the politeness of the South. Canadians are very polite. Being from NYC we are not like that because of the environment. It's a tough city. New Yorkers though will have your back if anything jumps off. I like being polite and saying hello and smiling to strangers now. I will continue to do that because it makes me feel good. and I like to spread good vibes around...Love & Light.

[@1962JULY]

Thanks for sharing. This is a wonderful interview! These people are beautiful! My late parents born in 1934 were both from South Carolina, and dad was born-raised in Charleston. They met in college at Allen University(HBCU) in Columbia, South Carolina.

[@RPNeil]

Thank you! And nice to hear about another local family.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@gallen2101]

Sir, the fact that going to school after 8th grade was actually the norm in the South, here in NC as well. Their education ironically was far superior (with substandard tools) compared with the public education of today's. Thank you for sharing the "compelling conversations"

[@RPNeil]

Thank you for sharing this info.

[@lizzwizz44]

Beautiful people. I love their spirit of life. 😊

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@chrisc1881]

I enjoyed this conversation and l can tell you of my New York experience. I have lived in NY for the past 20 yrs but l was raised in the Caribbean where respect for elders is a big deal . So when l am at the bus stop and l see elderly folks l always greet them with Good morning Sir or Mam and many time l get this look of disbelief. One lady recently said to me you are not from NY , you are from down south.

[@RPNeil]

That sounds familiar. There must be something about hot, humid weather that increases respect and warmth towards elders & strangers. Thank you for your nice comment, Chris.

[@baddestjoanna-michellesmit5578]

Yep NYC use to have migrants who showed respect ! We were them ❤ was a community...miss that NYC. The new vibe low.

[@Earth-Aperture77]

Absolutely respect for elders is a given in the Caribbean! Mandatory with no questions asked is how my late Mum ( and her Mum and everyone in my family going way back) grew up in the West Indies and taught us and we teach our children and so forth. It never ends.

[@lampkinmedia]

I loved this family. She is the same age well a year younger than me and doesn't look her age. Wow so happy she found a good husband 40 years is a blessing, and they got the right ideas. Lovely family. Very nice interview.

[@RPNeil]

Thank you so much!

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@ad6417]

I'm from Kentucky and agree that history and culture is vitally important not only to Southerners but to all Americans. We must preserve our folk ways.

[@TrixieTricks]

Charleston is a wonderful city - because of people like this!

[@jeraldbaxter3532]

Thank you for this video! I have known several people from the northern and midwestern states who would benefit from the lesson about adapting to their new surroundings, rather than expecting that we adapt to them.

[@richardcranium3579]

Basically most move ins would benefit, but they don’t listen or pay attention.

[@MonicaHelton]

If they do not want to adapt then they should not move here.

[@alchemicalempress717]

What a sweet beautiful lady. Such an amazing calming spirit. I love hearing her speak. I'm a southern girl as well and recently did a video on my channel that those who are migrating down to the south should learn the culture and be respectful. I've lived around the world including China, and I have always tried to learn and be respectful of the culture I am coming to. We have to learn manners once again.

[@peacefulblessed2114]

I am from Georgia I now live in Ohio. I was telling one of my co workers on yesterday, how I missed the south. I am moving back, not Georgia but somewhere down there.

[@gailcarey3597]

I’m from the upstate of South Carolina. Please, stay in your state and make it more like ours. Then we will all be blessed.

[@richardcranium3579]

The Upstate is being hammered into oblivion too. Damn sad what is happening to a once great state. Why can’t people be happy where they are? Why can’t they avoid making a dump out of their own state? Sorry state of affairs. These politicians that advertise our state don’t know any better and will look back in your years to come and wonder what happened……when they helped kill it.

[@DavidDeubelbeiss]

God damn! Excuse my English. I'm a very random viewer but these people just made me want to hug them. Genuine. Real. Bless them and their love.

[@tamedshrew235]

God Bless our Teachers

[@techgirl1337]

My mama was raised in Charleston. She taught me southern manners and hospitality and gave me her beautiful accent. I am so proud of my Carolinian heritage but I live in the north and all these things are looked down on.

[@samanthamaynard7805]

I moved there and it was definitely a culture shock at work. Learning to adapt made it amazing ❤

[@richardcranium3579]

Why?

[@poloreacts27]

Beautiful video

[@RPNeil]

Thank you

[@illtrill]

Beautiful people. This reminds me of a long conversation I had with the locals in Forsyth Park when I visited Savannah. I hope I have the opportunity to engage with locals just like Annette on the next visit to Charleston.

[@demetrisrobinson4026]

Yes, the north don’t speak 🗣️ back sometimes and I noticed they are not so friendly. I’m a greeters when I approach someone and I was raised that way coming from the Florida the south. It’s all love 💕

[@RPNeil]

Gotta stay true to who we are! Thank you for commenting.

[@baddestjoanna-michellesmit5578]

Same 😊

[@rosepeacock9530]

Phenomenal interview, and it was very informative.

[@RPNeil]

I appreciate your kind words! Please subscribe for more informative interviews!

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@JA-jm8bk]

63! Look at her skin! Smooth like a ....... Lucky her!

[@annettehoward5547]

Well thank you

[@albertadams2095]

Native South Carolinian here… born in 1982 This takes me home 🏡🥰 The spirit of South Carolina is so beautiful and I’d love to meet this lovely family someday. 3rd BN Mike Co. (Parris Island, 2009) Semper Fi Much love for Kershaw, SC as well 🙌❤️

[@jackiehill239]

I lived in Charleston I loved it there ❤❤

[@melissagriffin7515]

Charleston is a beautiful city with beautifully spirited residents. I love going upthere often...

[@richardcranium3579]

You can’t see it anymore due to the cars

[@MO-vp1il]

This lady speaks loads of common sense , wonderful southern woman, I am in South Georgia with the Okefenokee Swamp , we in the South live in " GODS Country"

[@janetpartyka5968]

We were just in Charleston and found the people to be lovely. Learned about the Gullah people on a tour. Very interesting.

[@RPNeil]

Yes, it's a really interesting culture, and as you can see, this is a very nice family. Thank you for commenting and hopefully subscribing for more Charleston-based interviews!

[@richardcranium3579]

So when are they adding to the pile and moving in?

[@treaundastover8657]

I love this family so much! My family is from Camden and Charleston, SC and this reminds me of home. She looks like my sister. Complexion and all!

[@RPNeil]

Very cool! It's such a great area with a lot of terrific people.

[@Denesha0123]

Love this interview. Beautiful family. Im from South Carolina Greenville. ❤

[@RoxanaGreen-z3b]

SC born and love living here. I have a seven year old grandson and I tell him all the time Mimi wants you to always be a gentleman. We had a conversation and he couldn’t believe some people are raised and don’t say sir or ma’am his response was well that’s stupid… went down rabbit whole explaining different cultures. But I’m glad he feels strongly about what it is to be a southern gentleman. I have had many adults shocked by his mannerisms so important to keep the good parts of our culture alive. ❤Charleston and the Gullah people.. together SC has such a rich and loving community wish others would look for the best in us instead of seeing only the worse.

[@Joemnc]

I truly enjoyed this video. I wish there were more people with these values. It’s so easy to be nice to people and treat people the way you want to be treated, with kindness and respect. I love living in a diverse community.

[@coffeechocolate7364]

I moved to SC and the ladies are right…very friendly and respectful people. Love it here

[@sherryj7419]

THANK YOU for this video!!! I guess I moved to the wrong Carolina! I am from the island of Trinidad 🇹🇹 but was raised in NY almost all my life. I too, come from the era where you greeted others and respected the adults. I moved to Charlotte, NC in 2021 for the betterment of my kids and I am very upset with the unkind behavior, the hidden racism & the horrible food that we have experienced. The people here have absolutely no manners and will not say hello. Now I'm not sure if the un-mannerly are implants or natives (bc no one talks to you) I understand not speaking to strangers, but not speaking to your neighbor or someone you see everyday is unacceptable. I don't know who spread the lie that Charlotte is a great city, but after watching this video, I know they've got it wrong. ❤

[@RPNeil]

Thank you for such a detailed comment. It's too bad Charlotte has disappointed you. (I know Trinidad has a reputation of having a very welcoming culture). I'm guessing you're encountering a lot of newcomers and probably some locals who resent the influx of new people. Gonna take time to find your niche, it seems. That's been my experience with moving cities.

[@sherryj7419]

@@RPNeil Thanks for responding. This is the first time I've received a heart ❤️ from a creator. Yes, you hit the nail on the head regarding the natives being resentful of the Influx; I have heard that. It's also the fact that the age of manners is said to be of the older generation. I don't care what generation is here, southern hospitality is def not in NORTH Carolina and anyone seeing this video will do well not falling for the false information being put out there by the "money-hungry" developers and real estate agents of NC trying to cash in on the Influx.

[@RPNeil]

@@sherryj7419 Then you get another one! Keep the faith. Definitely a lot of poorly planned development afflicting Charlotte, Charleston, ATL, and other SE cities these days.

[@jmariegold3977]

Charlotte did not used to be that way.

[@RPNeil]

@@jmariegold3977From what I recall, it did not. Times have changed, it seems.

[@delilahkelly8043]

These folks are so beautiful! May God bless them now and always. ❤❤❤

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@joannwilson1375]

Wow, she is such a lovely woman inside and out. I agree with her. Who wouldn't want to adapt to such southern charm and kindness.

[@RPNeil]

Couldn't agree more on all you've said. Thanks for commenting.

[@apcre8z]

I love her spirit, ppl like that is why I came to the Carolinas and never left.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@SoapPreneur1]

New Yorkers were mostly Southerners. The cold people in NY are not from NY. NY culture has changed from long ago. We had city manners especially, to curb your dog 🐕 instead of letting dogs poop 💩 on the sidewalk. A lot of people never spent time in NY to really know who are really native New Yorkers.

[@brownin329]

Thank you for saying this because people blame New Yorkers for things we don't do.

[@Hr-dy1xv]

Don't even try it those are new yorkers through and through and they're proud of their stink!

[@SoapPreneur1]

@@brownin329 You’re welcome. I have roots originally from NC and NY. Raised in Wilmington after leaving NY as a girl. After graduation I moved back to NY for work. Everywhere has changed.

[@richardcranium3579]

I don’t get it. Have a great home stay and haul butt to a no man’s land…… Why? Makes zero sense

[@alfairefountaine4150]

Peace and Blessings to this Family 🙌🏾

[@tamara3562]

I want to take up for NYC for a second! I lived in Bed-Stuy for 3 years, and my neighbors were super friendly. They would always say good morning/good evening. Also, I taught in a NYC public high school and my students there were more respectful of their teachers than my students in New Orleans. Now I live in the Midwest, and the city where I currently live is the unfriendliest of the 3. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@RPNeil]

Interesting. When I lived in NYC, people didn't say hello on the street, but overall I met plenty of great people from NY and everywhere. Thanks for commenting.

[@tamara3562]

@@RPNeilI also think the particular patch of Bed-Stuy I lived in had a lot of residents who seemed to be from the south or the Caribbean. Also, a lot of older people. So it could’ve been a cultural thing.

[@RPNeil]

@@tamara3562That's so interesting & makes sense.

[@Mochaahantass]

She is beautiful with her beautiful skin!😍😍. I love how they’re talking about racism. They should have kept talking about it. The south is still racist. “Call him captain or Kenna.”. Those good old boys is instilling their values in their kids. Keep talking about it!!!! Let everyone know.

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@richardcranium3579]

Uhm, do you realize that racism exists all over the World? People trying to make out that Only the South is racist and Only the South is full of hateful people…… They are deranged and have a very myopic view of the world. Letting some perceived “hate” by a very small minority of the population control your opinion and world view is so very shortsighted……. They act as if racism doesn’t exist up North, when Nothing could be further from the truth.

[@MPMMPM-vy9cu]

Loved the video and thankful for this woman and her family! Loved their truthfulness and transparency. God bless them all! 🙏🏾

[@lindaedwards9756]

Woo hoo 👏 loved it . Sc born and bread I totally agree 💯. So much fantastic history in Charleston and the coastal islands, the Gullah people brought so much to our shores that we take for granted and many people have absolutely no idea or understanding. Love me some Gullah Geechee folks . 😊

[@RPNeil]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@ursaamajorr]

Beautiful Gullah women ❤ can't wait to visit Charleston

[@ramonasp4989]

This lady and her family are the Embodiment if our Southern Hospitaliity !!!

[@samnews76]

Enjoyed the conversation. I was just there for a day on Daniels Island. I need to go back and spend more time.

[@RPNeil]

Thanks for commenting! Daniels Island is a nice place.

[@shawnGlobal]

Orangeburg South Carolina here

[@RPNeil]

Welcome, Orangeburg.

[@shawnGlobal]

@@RPNeil appreciate the love continue on ur mission wish u the best.💪🙏

[@RPNeil]

@@shawnGlobalThank you!

[@bigvalley4987]

I hope some of the Grandchildren follow their Grandfather Master Plumbing skills.

[@momoflogan]

I remember visiting South Carolina 2 years ago and I absolutely LOVED it. Although I am from Ohio I am a person that says hello to others and enjoy talking to people and not many are too receptive to that, I feel out of place. Thinking maybe I need to move there and find a new family cuz sadly most of mine are gone. Love this and thank you for sharing these beautiful people!!

[@RPNeil]

Glad you enjoyed it. Hold on to that positive outlook and thanks for commenting.

[@momoflogan]

@@RPNeil Amen, indeed!

[@lovesyah4618]

Beaufort / Hilton Head Island S.C native here. Hello everyone 👋🏽😊

[@RPNeil]

Hello there! Thanks for stopping by. Beaufort is beautiful.

[@angelastewart9497]

I can’t wait to visit .im hoping next year . It’s so beautiful & peaceful by that water .

[@angelastewart9497]

I want one of those old fashioned southern men . The men in Louisville ky or rude & selfish

[@liaplarr1643]

​@@angelastewart9497What about in Hopkinsville, KY ?

[@JAM2USA2018]

She's beautiful, she looks like Babsy Grange from Jamaica 🇯🇲 ❤❤❤❤❤

[@annettehoward5547]

Thank you

[@JAM2USA2018]

@@annettehoward5547 you're Welcome

[@jimbonsf]

I love these folks! To me, they are the best of Americans. They are hard-working, civil, pleasant, friendly, and all around good people.

[@1962JULY]

Also, I LOVE South Carolina, especially Myrtle Beach and Charleston, respectively! BUT, it is an OVEN with Mosquitoes in the Summer!!!

[@RPNeil]

And don't forget about the gators!

[@Lionnotsheep22]

Beautiful family with sweet soul. Can see the love between them. The husband manning the swing made me smile. Hugs to these wonderful people.

[@jcmjcm1945]

Whoop whoop Edisto Island in the house....

[@annettehoward5547]

Ok

[@MickeyC321]

This was a lovely video to watch. These women are the jewels of the south. And all the comments about people moving in having to adapt to their new environment and RESPECT it as well. It’s just common sense and manners.Thank you for your intake.