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[@squanchy..]

I get told I'm handsome a lot and everywhere I go women constantly stare at me or always have to find a way to get close me. I can say this and you'll learn similar lessons soon enough if you're handsome. One, a vast majority of men will hate you for no reason, especially if you're around their gf or wife and they'll try and throw shade whenever they can at you. Two, most women can't talk to you like other men, well not till they get extremely comfortable around you and that could be never. Every interaction seems like they're walking on eggshells trying not to say anything that would make them seem weird or clingy and it can make some conversations seem somewhat stale or forced because they can't be themselves. Three, you'll be held to a higher standard than most and if you can't deliver people will attack you and possibly single you out even in a large group event. Four, you'll have a lot of distant friends or friends that will keep you around just to boost their social status because you're handsom and not actually their friend. And lastly 5, it seems to me at least that most attractive women will either be crazy about you or really shy around you. Most Average women if their confidence is low, seem to treat you like crap or ignore you completely and bottom tier women will also crazy about you. Also Older women that being 40 plus seem to constantly want to touch you.

[@TheComedy719]

You nailed it!!!

[@EmanSays32]

Perfectly Explained Sir 💯✅!

[@squanchy..]

@T A Had some random mom at the state fair this year about a month ago. Come up behind me smack my ass and then blamed it on her daughter who was standing right next to her.

[@squanchy..]

@T A and not a love tap like a full on softball pitch

[@ChroniclesofAJ]

haha i was just talking to a big behind older women who lives in my building who keeps touching her hair during our conversation like she nervous lol

[@JayVincentFitness]

I’m a male model. He’s right. Women are confused why I’m single. My response is “I have a set of standards and haven’t met a woman who meets them yet”. That’s it.

[@harutbadalyan1517]

Exactly.

[@ir8free]

Soap gigachad #RyanPaevy is still single. He wants a smart, witty gal to entertain his boring life.

[@ronnybank6817]

did John Anthony lifestyle teach you that? haha

[@seanknight9808]

Yep u and i have the same problem brother. Ive always struggled to get the woman i want but more so after taking first place in a bodybuilding competition a few months ago. It has been nothing but persecution since then from women! I feel even more hated by women now.

[@seanknight9808]

@@fuzzypanda1684 Isn't that just weird! Women say they want a handsome, well built guy but when they meet the man they say they are looking for, they f**k him off!

[@thriftthrift4638]

Handsome men need attractive woman. The average ones are insecure. Unattractive men are Jealous and will try to put you down and try to be little you in front of others. Stay strong my brothers ✊

[@RomWills]

I'll be addressing that issue in the next few weeks.

[@viniciusalmeida1190]

I agree to a certain degree, some time ago I got really close to an average girl and she was too defensive and sensitive in terms of looks, I genuinely liked her, because of her nice personality, but she ended up sabotaging it, nowadays we are not even friends anymore.

[@OverRule1]

This happens in middle school and high school too when I first moved to a new school a lot of females were interested in me and it was apparent to all the guys that the girl they like is attracted to the new guy. Then they started talking bad about me and laughing behind my back in front of those girls because of jealousy. I was an introvert and didn't talk much so they had to really dig or make things up into making the women not so attracted to me

[@rah9342]

Wrd I feel this video uncle rom

[@TigerPaint92]

@@pizzaparkerhotdogmaguire3225 you're delusional

[@gregoryk6279]

Don't give free attention and validation fellas. Especially if your handsome.

[@lawrencemiyoba4638]

As a handsome guy I know this true

[@zayn5398]

Facts pretty woman ignore less value guys so handsome man should do the same

[@TheShowOff2I]

@@zayn5398 Exactly, the handsome bruthas should reject women every now and then as payback for the other guys

[@hot-headedloosewire6878]

If telling her "I'd fucked the shiiiit out of you" on a dm message is it considered validation?

[@gregoryk6279]

@@hot-headedloosewire6878 yes , you need to work on yourself/improve and stop worrying about these females,,, stop following them on ig (instead follow motivational/ inspirational people) ,stop watching their stories and stop drewling over them ,,, just work hard on yourself everyday fam,, trust me they will come to you without you even trying.

[@holdfast7182]

I'm a guy who's been told plenty of times by women outside my family that I'm cute/handsome/hot. And I was the biggest loser with women you've ever seen. My problem is I tried too hard. And every time I got turned down, I tried even harder. At one point, I got so desperate that I ended up dating the ugliest girl in my town. Even she dumped me. I was the worst thirsty dude you've ever seen.

[@visionarybrushstroker7694]

Man it’s a curse.

[@OfficialReckM8]

Makes you realize that it takes more than being blessed with good looks if you want a woman. It sucks 😂

[@FlashiestRed]

I relate 😭

[@hugh6948]

I totally relate to this. I used to simp so hard as a reaction to my low-self esteem even though I knew women did in fact find me quite attractive, I just seemed to ruin everything by opening my mouth and acting far too keen. Whatever prior attraction that had of me was completely gone by the time a conversation had taken place, always remain stoic and not over-excited.

[@akiamini4006]

Dump it

[@Mike-tr2qi]

“What’s wrong with him” or “is he gay” really be disrespectful 😂

[@godsspecimen8558]

Nah frrrr

[@guyo1]

😂😂😂”what’s wrong with him” Man I’m dead

[@Mike-tr2qi]

@@guyo1 If only they knew.

[@sondersonics7534]

LMAO I swear. Multiple women have thought that I am bi with the reason ”that I look good”. It’s some bs.

[@andyarifwibowo4279]

swear to god its real

[@EdwinBetancourtJr]

The one major downside to being handsome is the HATE you will receive from Men. Nothing worse than having a dude test you. Even if you like confrontations, that sh!t will catch up to you. What works for me is being quiet and serious. Everyone knows the unwritten rule that it’s not wise to fk with the quiet ones. Lmao. But still, to get tested by a dude every once in a while is definitely a drawback to being handsome. Don’t take it personal, 90% of the time they are doing it subconsciously. A minor drawback to being handsome is most Women will be intimidated by you.

[@D.ocument.The.Journey]

FACTS. Dudes get noticeably uncomfortable in public especially with their gfs. Stay serious and quiet and you have no problems.

[@Michael-rm1bx]

What do you mean by they will test you?

[@EdwinBetancourtJr]

@@Michael-rm1bx Similar to how a Woman test. They will do or say something to try to draw a reaction out of you. It’s mostly subconscious, you made them feel inferior, so to try regain some self esteem they will look for a way to create a confrontation with you. The two forms of confrontations would be a confrontation of wits, where he will try to make you look stupid to prove he’s mentally superior. Or a physical confrontation where he can show he is physically superior.

[@jamesgarza6ify]

@@EdwinBetancourtJr woman do it too when they are intimidated to make them feel good and superior

[@IsaiahHardy]

I’ve been called handsome before but I don’t think many women tell me up front bc I am the intimidating type, not just tryna toot my own horn it’s just that I have been told that I am intimidating even by women who have found me attractive in the past. But the guys testing you thing has followed me all throughout life. Even though they soon learn I’m not the one to mess with. But I didn’t know that that was a product of a person just looking good🤔I figured I just made dudes hella uncomfortable lmao

[@henkprenkxd2227]

As a white guy i have gotten the best advice about being handsome from black guys. Idk what it is, but they got it figured out😂

[@mav3ric100]

The trick as a handsome men is to disarm men. Small example, I compliment any men that does something I find impressive, not to belittle them but because I'm truly impressed. Thing is many of these average to ugly men were treated like crap by popular guys in school while growing up so if you show that you're not like the typical asshole jock from school (it helps if YOU weren't that asshole growing up--I was called handsome for as long as I can remember but never believed it so never embodied asshole characteristics) they want to be your friends and some even worship your friendship and will do almost anything to help you out.I don't walk around with the attitude that everyone is below me. I genuinely try to find what makes people interesting. I also treat them like I would like to be treated regardless of what they look like.

[@RomWills]

💯

[@MrMike556]

Bro this actually good advice never thought of it like that

[@bulletsmyonlyweakness8240]

When I was 19, a girl told me I look like Imma cheat on her. I was talking to her for 10 seconds. Where she get this from? It took me years to figure that out. Stay handsome out here fellas.

[@donatello9482]

🤣 stay handsome

[@roosrosambert6183]

😂😂😂

[@glockboa_9236]

💪🏿

[@WilliamsWrestlin]

Stay handsome

[@caveman357]

Stay handsome...I'm gonna use that!

[@joee1213]

Okay all you hunks out there. Do yourself a favor. Cut the ladies off for a month. No dating, no hookups. Do you. Don’t necessarily ignore if they smile at you or talk to you, but don’t try to hit on them. Be aloof. Be focused on other things. Be busy. See what happens. You’ll notice a change in the air. You’ll notice the cues you’ve been missing. The subtle advances by them. Once you’ve learned how to play it from then on, stoke the fire. Give them little crumbs to chase. Remember the 3 C’s. Cool/calm, confidence and charm/charisma. Some of you aren’t charismatic, so be charming. Some of you aren’t cool, so be calm. That’s all you need. No pickup lines. Smile and be laid back and let it happen.

[@NateTheNoble]

If you’re considered handsome your game has to be smooth and extra sharp. The excessive small talk and unnecessary chit chat will only make her more suspicious because she doesn’t know what category you put her in. Getting to the point would work best but no need to be crass. Like Rom said, she already thinks and assumes you’re a player. You can’t get away with certain things I guess the “average looking” guy can

[@RomWills]

Real talk.

[@erinmerlot8826]

That conclusion is you answer bro. I always used to knock myself by thinking I "HAD" to holler but but applying the factors from the number game (there are more than enough holler monsters). So set yourself apart...you just don't realize how desirable you are to the ladies who be crushing on you lol

[@meezy3188]

Trust me this facts lol

[@thenotoriousone9004]

@@meezy3188 what is facts????

[@Los_Wolves]

Wrong

[@DigitalSubset]

Didn't know I was handsome until around 19-21 because other guys would pick on me based on my looks so I started to believe them. Women always call me handsome and find ways to start a conversation with me. The main point is you know you're handsome when women are super nice to you and genuinely want you, and guys hate on you lol.

[@dumbfailurekms]

y eah

[@NBurnhoney]

story of my life man

[@AyyyQ]

Same here I was getting hate from people who I thought were my homies

[@user-ec4yw5hj3r]

better to get picked on for being handsome than ugly at least you can talk to your girl about it

[@mjrespect2258]

based on my experience I retain and attract more women by doing less and being calm cool and quiet than being so energetic and trying too hard. I realized that the more information you give to them the more you can mess it up by saying the wrong information rather than just giving what they ask. Being silent works for me. Just take everything slow like you’re playing a game of chess

[@whiskeytalks]

Right because when you keep speaking, you might say something foolish 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@benjaminscott1240]

@@whiskeytalks oh I definitely will lol

[@whiskeytalks]

@@benjaminscott1240 okay 😂

[@7mileawesumdre539]

Game!

[@ir8free]

the solo sigma is aloof and introvert-ish.

[@ScareCrow84543]

I needed to hear this, I’m 6’3, in good shape, dress well, and handsome, and I’ve noticed that many women always assume that I’m a player or “have the hoes”. I do be nonchalant with women tho and it works, my problem is when i get in relationships, i end up opening up too much and trying too hard which kind of “scares” some women off. That’s why i keep it cool and don’t look for relationships, cause it’s hard to find a real connection nowadays. Also being handsome makes a lot of dudes hate on you too out of jealousy, I’ve never really realized that until recently. But dudes will straight up hate on you just because of being tall and handsome.

[@danielzamora8738]

What if your handsome but you still get hurt by women

[@Dan-sw8tg]

im short and handsome lmao...but Ive never had problems with getting laid. Im hald white half turkish I know how to talk to the girls thanks to my fathers side from Turkey , but keeping a relationship is another story lol . If the girl really into me , I lose interest and if I really like a girl I get too open emotionally like you and try too hard wtf man

[@quentonperry7696]

Wow... I'm you. And you are me 😢

[@dashboy4l]

bro this is real asf, since I'm so so quiet in general I've jus been urning to find a women to open up to, often times I have to stop myself.

[@quentonperry7696]

@@dashboy4l haven't seen this on a podcast yet. The bachelor's struggle.

[@lesdickson9765]

My mantra has always been less is more & it definitely applies with women.

[@charlesxlaurent1641]

Truth, I saw a huge shift in the amount of women I was able to retain by simply being nonchalant. Great game per usual Dr. Rom. Surgical with it…

[@Dreweybaby]

You been should of been a laid back guy tho.. u have to act like you just dont care and women want u more.. u have to be borderline rude to girls n it turns em on..at least it works for me in NY 🤣💀🤣

[@losmit2194]

Fr bro?

[@l3dxnny648]

i became very nonchalant but that’s what y’all wanted right for me not to give a fuck well congratulations now i really don’t give a fuck

[@kozidoesit]

@@Dreweybaby man that is so true

[@Dreweybaby]

@@kozidoesit 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿

[@devyaye]

😂 this is so damn true. Women act mad weird around me. They give signals and try to be in my areas or act like they are ignoring me but find away to speak it’s just weird.

[@AntonioStarq1]

It doesn’t matter if you got super model looks or below average looks. You shouldn’t be trying hard, period. Relationships are hard work, why would anyone want to have to chase someone to even begin one? All the hard work for me happen in the relationship, if I gotta chase you, there won’t be any relationship.

[@tomibally6546]

As a guy who’s been told numerous times that I am good-looking. I’ve realised whenever I talk to a women they would show more resistance because they usually peg me as a player or fboy. It also intimidates women when your attractive especially the insecure ones.

[@handsomeX]

Exactly. The problem is if ur too aggressive, then they think something is up. But, if u do nothing, then nothing will happen. U gotta find the "sweet spot" in the middle somewhere. I've been in a lot of situations where women will give me shit for no reason because they assume I'm cocky and wanna "Take me down a peg". I see right through that bs and leave. I don't have time for childish games. I got options.

[@BoLuke]

💯

[@DontaeS]

You’re spot on about finding the “sweet spot” bro, it’s a very tough balance. Wanting to be aggressive but knowing how it’ll be perceived so then you have to play cool and let things come to you thru “choosing signals” and finding the right openings so you don’t come across as too eager or thirsty requires a lot of patience and observation which sometimes you just don’t wanna do lol

[@handsomeX]

@@DontaeS Yeah man, everything almost has to line up perfectly for guys. We gotta be there at the right place, right time, right situation, and everything has to come off as smooth and natural. Also,, a woman's default setting is to say "no" in that situation. They're actively trying to look for a reasons to reject you. This is why I never jump into action unless I see a choosing signal, and even then it HAS to be pretty obvious.

[@dexter9459]

😂😂😂 same

[@southsidesaiyan8641]

@@handsomeX honestly bro that sounds way too freakin complicated, and thats why so many men including myself have said goodbye to dating, Aint nobody trying to go through all that, I really do just be focusing on myself most of the time just trying to improve my monetary gains and physique, and have fun here and there with other hobbies. If i get horny I'll just call an escort or something. If women wanna make it so complicated a lot of them will end up being alone, because dating in todays day and age is so stupid.

[@skeelo6219]

Yep, there's plenty handsome guys who struggle getting women. Some have low self-esteem & end up dating women way below their level in looks. I know it's not all about a woman's looks, but I'm talking about those who wish to have a hot chick but are intimidated by them. Like RW says, handsome guys don't necessarily have it easier - if they don't have the dating skills It can go even deeper, some guys are considered handsome but not sexy. A woman will simply acknowledge the guys looks but it will end there, no interest beyond that

[@RomWills]

Real talk.

[@rasulsamad5860]

I had a not so attractive female friend tried to play on my lack of game and tried to get me to wife her. But I'm not that shy 😂😂😂 sorry wasn't about to hit that

[@Dreweybaby]

They struggle because they dont have charisma

[@ammielcoats9762]

Man you hit it right on the nail I've been called ugly all my life even though females I grew up with say I'm far from it. It killed my self esteem and I've been setting with females below my standards

[@Dreweybaby]

@@theguy7878 it doesnt matter if u have confidence, do u have charisma? Can you charm a wmn out her panties? Then u have to work on ya mouth piece 🤣💀🤣

[@zildgin10]

Very well said 👏🏼. Most guys don't understand that attractive men have to use a different set of skills to maintain value..

[@RomWills]

Truth.

[@MrRta90]

This comment got my interest, can you give more info on which skills you think those are?

[@EzeICE]

@@MrRta90 Basically everything he talked about in the video.

[@mgbm8335]

This is something I need to search up, just incase since eventually i'll be in therapy.

[@loverofhumanity]

Lmaooooo bro ugly men don't even have any value. This is beyond dumb. This entire comments section is like a bunch of rich guys complaining about the drawbacks of having money. Dude everything has a drawback buy at the end of yhe day life is infinitely more challenging being ugly than being handsome. Many ugly men wish they had yall problems

[@stxcks23]

My friends be hating on me trying to make me feel ugly but in reality they just want to hate and they don't look any better

[@andyarifwibowo4279]

fact

[@veasley1215]

At 22, I very much needed to hear this video. I recently worked at a grocery store for a month as a transitional job. During my time there, I had my supervisor come to me on a few occasions asking me if I was single, and stated that a few of the female coworkers we’re curious about my relationship status (currently single, recently moved to ATL to focus on music). There was even one day where a girl was so nervous to talk to me that she had to write her number down and give it to someone to give to me, because the thought of just asking me was too nerve wrecking for her. High key, it felt like high school all over again. Another time, I had a female state that I was not her type, which didn’t phase me at all, mainly because she was on the older side of her 20s with four kids, so obviously we’re not in the same stage of life nor is there any attraction. But what got me was when she told me during a conversation that her first impression of me was “stuck up”. It’s not the first time someone has told me that, which couldn’t be farther from the truth because I’m very much laid-back once you get to meet me. But I’m starting to see that the way one carries himself can dictate how the opposite sex perceives them. One of the commenters mentioned finding a sweet spot, where you show enough interest to not seem heartless, but not too much where you seem desperate. I guess I’m trying to find that balance. Nevertheless, I definitely appreciate this video and the content!

[@FlashStrkr]

the story of my life.

[@StewieLokz3707]

it’s a gift & a curse. we’ll be ight, though. lol. it’s a matter of balance, as you said.

[@KamariFerrari]

I think I found the balance I started smiling more and speaking more to not seem mean or unapproachable people always said I was before the met me

[@banderas2000]

i hear ya that sweet spot is being developed more for me as well. smiling really does help but a genuwine smile. i also got the cold or unapproachable label at first.

[@changforyou]

bro your freestyle was fire keep up the music

[@millionshadesofdarkness2165]

I didnt grow into my looks until my mid 20s when i got my beard and began to workout consistently. All you say is so true

[@dresalomon1072]

I’m 22 I’ve grown into my looks with working and facial as well and I can agree with this too

[@undertaker11ism]

23 and hit the gym a few months ago while changing up my fashion. This is very true

[@gregoryk6279]

At 19 I hit the gym and got my beard at 21,,,I'm currently 22 now

[@sondersonics7534]

Having good facial hair and a good hairline is ley

[@alakazam25yearsago8]

Big facts, being handsome the ladies will automatically think you’re a “player”. And some might even purposely treat you with attitude..their way to try and “humble” you I guess😂

[@idorenyinudobor3161]

Being handsome has it's own trouble. People are intimidated by you for no just reasons. I am talking both male n female. It's kinda funny but I have experienced that alot.😁

[@idorenyinudobor3161]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb yeah. Women are always nervous when u are around.

[@LARULES100]

If you're handsome or good looking dont get fat.Ive been told I was handsome since I was a kid and always had plenty of options from different ethnicity of womenfrom middle school to a few years ago.I stopped taking care of myself a few years ago and got fat and I stop getting attention from women really fast.Working on my weightloss now and is going good.Dont get fat.

[@LARULES100]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb stay strong and get in shape man by all means necessary I've been through it and it was tough.Made me realized and gave me motivation to get back in shape but you have to really wanted and only getting attention from unattractive or fat women is really demoralizing.

[@LARULES100]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb right on.keep it pushing.

[@fabzgotit]

Dawg I'm in the same boat. Lost the jawline, body, stopped dressing as nice and the difference in attention was insane. I'm about 60% done with my weight loss and getting looks again. But it's crazy, two different realities. DON'T GET FAT FELLAS.

[@LARULES100]

@@fabzgotit 💯.I had pretty women invite me out to eat or the movies an they payed.Stay I shape my boy and stack you're money for back up.

[@Comptonx187]

Fellas stay off dating apps and DMs yo full potential is in person

[@pnice3666]

Being handsome is not easy people have so much assumptions about you before you even open your mouth 😅😆😆😆

[@SmoothMentality93]

True

[@southsidesaiyan8641]

Its still better than being ugly. I guarantee you wouldn't want to switch places with an ugly dude.

[@thesimg8349]

@@southsidesaiyan8641 lol way better women are automatically open to having a convo w you if you have game your options are basically unlimited but if you awkward it would suck because you get ALOt of attention basically you can’t go anywhere w/o being noticed

[@Yo1shadyfan]

Truly needed to hear this. Most men hate me for no apparent reason and most women act weird around me. Being tall , athletic and better looking has its own cons especially if you have confidence issues.

[@RedRedMCmusic]

I say this in the most humble way, but being handsome is definitely an awkward confusing struggle. Dating/ getting laid by gorgeous women but dealing with the bs of being handsome is bitter sweet. This video is the truth, if youre handsome, simply be cool about it. Cheers fellas

[@BriBriBros]

Is that you in your profile picture?

[@RedRedMCmusic]

@@BriBriBros yea I lied I’m actually ugly

[@kiiza2886]

@@BriBriBros 😂😂😂😂wanted to ask the same question haha

[@yyzx_6668]

that guys not ugly

[@RedRedMCmusic]

@@yyzx_6668 lol thanks bro Kinda weird that some men distinguish whether another man is handsome or not

[@lenardosbornsjustice5948]

It’s the funnest game I live. To be that one that had a rough life, it moods you, it builds you and defines you. If you got the looks and the body and charisma with style, women will chase you to the end of the earth. It takes time, a lot of time which in you gain experience. I never knew that if a woman exposes the back of her neck, puts her hair up, grabs her lower ear lobe, twirls or plays with her hair, bats her eyes, shows her curves SHES ATTRACTED SEXUALLY TO YOU! There’s a lot of responsibility if you got it. It almost becomes a thing where you expect it, and if you don’t receive it, it can make you feel a kind of way. Women who have boyfriends, man, they KNOW they settled when you walk into the room. Men who see you, instantly watch you and are on defense. It’s a fun game I tell you. It taught me this, don’t wife up a woman, because eventually men she will cheat with an average but attractive man like myself. You don’t need a car, or a house, if you are attractive and healthy, in shape, and have style and confidence they’ll chase you even with that ring on. It comes down to this, woman just want to have fun. I’m still learning and boy do I got a way to go, but it’s fun. Men and women are the same when it comes to sex. We both want it.

[@BallerMJ45]

Some of them that wear those big shirts with the little shorts will literally lift up their shirts when u walk by to show their buns off I love it lol feel like I’m at a horse show sometimes 🐎😂😂😂

[@ralx225b]

I only was considered handsome by women when I changed the way I dress. The irony is I was picked on as a kid so I grew up thinking I was unattractive. When I was in college many women showed interest but I doubted myself and their intentions. If it wasn't for your book Rom and my friends I would have never discovered that women actually found me attractive. I am so lucky you chose to put out these videos and write those books because I have NO CLUE how my life would have turned out if you hadn't. Thanks!!!

[@ralx225b]

@@jamisonbernhardt3310 So basically there are clothes that draw attention to you, or clothes that draw attention away from you. 1. Wear clothes that are form fitting. You need to wear clothes that showcase your best attributes. If you have strong shoulders or forearms wear clothes that show them off. 2. Make sure to always have a fresh haircut and keep that Lineup sharp. Growing your facial hair out and keeping it lined up also helps. 3. Buy some cologne (make sure you find one that the women you like LIKE) 4. Make sure your teeth are flossed, and you brush and use listorine keep that breath clean because women have a stronger sense of smell. 5. Make sure you limit how much meat you eat, women can literally smell if your system is piled up with old meat inside your body. Women can smell the HEALTH of your body. 6. Work on your confidence, women look at your posture, your facial expressions, they listen to your voice tonality and the speed at which you speak and move. Speak deep and slow enough to enunciate your words, keep your movements steady and smooth. 7. This last one is HUGE. Learn how to check a woman when she tests you with confidence but do it without expressing anger or frustration (there are some rare occasions where your anger is valid). Now these things alone won't get a woman hooked on you completely but it WILL get her hooked on you from a NON_SEXUAL standpoint i.e. she will WANT to be in your presence and she MAY even think about what Sex COULD be like with you. How you get her hooked on you sexually is based on your ability to seduce her and truthfully.... SOME women are easier than others to seduce. If you check ALL these boxes I listed (I don't even check all of them myself) she will literally throw you the kittycat. If you have some or most it may take some time but eventually she will offer it to you. Extra Credit tip" Buy a Fitted Suit. A man in a fitted suit is ALWAYS SEXY to women no matter where he is. And also find some nice shades to go along with it. Lastly form your own personal style, the whole point of bait is to STAND OUT!!!

[@VividBites]

Which book?

[@zach.dienes]

3 mins into the video and I know exactly what he is talking about. I'm 23 young and athletic build. My response is "I don't indulge in pleasure, I just want to be best person I can become". single and off the market is great, it limits distractions.

[@BallerMJ45]

Winning formula my bro. Before u know it you’ll be 30 and successful and girls will throw themselves at u without even trying 💪

[@hugh6948]

This is so spot on it's crazy. I've experienced a lot of this (no flex) and still struggle with women because I don't fully understand all the dynamics. There's been plenty of times when I thought no one was into me but secretly multiple women were at once but they didn't want to reveal it to me out of shame if I wasn't interested back. And I've also had average-looking women treat me quite poorly often seems almost out of spite or anger that they may think I would treat them bad or differently because they aren't considered "attractive". A lot of weirdness when it comes to women and dating a so-called "handsome guy"

[@Hyparchos]

Thank you for sharing this. I guess I thought I must be a narcissist to believe that many of the girls at my university find me attractive, and so I had this weird low self worth as a result. I’ve been working on myself recently, my self worth has improved adequately and now I feel like a man. The attention from women (stronger now) is impossible to deny at this point. It’s a blessing and it’s a curse. Weird behavior like walking off the sidewalk to avoid me, deeply inhaling to smell me, giggling after I walk by, avoiding ever looking at my eyes but sneaking looks when I’m not looking, having doll-like voice with only me, avoiding talking to me. Even gay guys are very forward. It makes me uncomfortable tbh sometimes. Especially when it gets warm outside and I have more revealing clothing (I’m muscular and lean) and I’ve shaved and look good, it’s much more intense.

[@hugh6948]

@@Hyparchos Yeah man all pretty common occurrences for sure. The one thing that's really helped me in the last few years, in particular, is remaining stoic in women's presence and never seeming to be overly fussed about their presence, even if I do in fact find them attractive and would like to get to know them. It's better to play it super cool but still be your natural self and smile/crack jokes when appropriate. I'm 26 turning 27 shortly and I really only feel like I'm starting to "peak" now in comparison to my early 20s when I was a lot more self-conscious and anxious (even if I knew that some women were in fact finding me attractive and wanted to get to know me.) Making the decision to remain calm, cool, and never too excited has been incredibly beneficial for my game and confidence - as per what Rom was ultimately saying in this video. Super awesome content here for sure. Best of luck dude, it's a journey for all of us.

[@hugh6948]

@ThePHiLsTeR Huge yes to this, added a lot of that into my game over the last few years too. Totally agree man. Not taking yourself too seriously is a huge asset I think.

[@giuk1987]

It's too complicated man.... I'm not even interested in dating anymore. I'm just gonna grow a beard with kurt Cobain hair length and rock the hobo style

[@arrow2380]

@@giuk1987 same

[@basedmario173]

If you have a good facial structure and height, you can pretty much do whatever you want. Women aren't scrutinizing your words, their subconscious is analysing your face and build. Down to the last mm.

[@David-ej1ps]

I hear you uncle, problem is sometimes when I do not try hard I come across as too aloof, cocky, or intimidate women, or "he would not date me"... at what point do women own up to their lack of confidence and self esteem?

[@RomWills]

Those types of women are beneath you. The women who are really a part of your tribe will click with you naturally.

[@David-ej1ps]

@@RomWills Unc, my tribeswomen are so few and between though.. LOL.. I hear you though, just gotta live with it

[@WilliamsWrestlin]

Lifting heavy weights and look like a middle linebacker will make you handsome. Don't knock it out until you try it. Trust me, it's not all about facial looks. Women tend to gravitate towards men who has that PRESENCE. Not saying to look like Ronnie Coleman but you can bet your ass people be staring at me because of my stature. Lifting weights also builds confidence

[@undertaker11ism]

Truth. I started going to the gym a few months ago and now people think I just came back from the military lol

[@WilliamsWrestlin]

@@undertaker11ism yep. You either get looked at like you in the military or you played football. But I'm talking heavy ass weights. Squats, deadlifts, barbell rows, should presses. If it's not 3x10 with 70%, it better be 5x5 with 80%

[@undertaker11ism]

@@gottacheckyourself lol the prison one lowkey foul but facts though, once you start lifting weights hard its a night and day difference

[@IcyBandicoot]

Facts. It’s all about Presence

[@undertaker11ism]

@@gottacheckyourself lol facts

[@HCEndgame]

I was in a phase where I was studying game and practicing infield, genuinely enjoying the approach, flexing my charisma etc. A girl I was seeing once told me something like 'You do too much. All you need to do is just be.' Best attraction advice I've ever received. From a woman no less!

[@armondooley5442]

Handsome is a state of mind.

[@gum7719]

woman typically initiate handsome men nowadays anyway. If not, they really give big signs telling you to come talk. You're right, you don't really have to try, you just have to show up lol

[@ticelamont997]

Let’s not forget about the pros of being handsome, you have extreme favor, people love doing things for you, (even if it’s for selfish reasons). Looks make people listen. So it’s good for business. The cons are people stare at you even when you glance back in their faces . Hard to keep a real woman friend because all of them(that are single) wants to sleep with you at some point. ( maybe that should be with the pros ) . ✌🏽✌🏽😅

[@system3335]

yeah had that problem with female friends, they eventually want u to screw them at some point and will feel rejected if u don’t

[@Samtino20]

prob is if you dont want them back they start acting like assholes lol

[@agussswagstar]

Thanks for the heads up bro 😎🤙🏻

[@aniketthakur3665]

Being handsome is blessing from god and i would say always try to approach a girl whom you think is more good looking than you as results will be pleasurable

[@Lamo2100]

This Real! I’ve been called handsome and sexy but I always ended up with lower tier woman bc my confidence was jacked up. The woman I liked I was too thirsty so I took the woman who always gravitated towards my looks and those woman were not the best looking. It’s a cold game lol.

[@metigame1450]

I’m good looking and always had women less good looking than me, but but I’ve never been in a position to text twice ore to not have my call answered, ore getting ignored. I’d rather have that than a hot women where I have to spend my energy and money, because hot women will need that regardless of your good looks.

[@joshh7545]

Man I need to see this. I spent most of my school life being called short & ugly getting rejected but once I hit about 18-19 I got a huge growth spurt, my face got more attractive. I started getting stares, compliments, people asking me if model etc. I wasn’t used to this so I always made the mistake of trying to hard and fucking up my chances by doing too much.

[@yutoob6181]

Same but the L’s are just lessons

[@austinw.8278]

Same lol. I guess I’m handsome now, but I grew up bullied so I don’t take compliments genuinely.

[@MAJOR8313]

@@austinw.8278 been there, funny thing is people will hate on you for your good looks even though they never knew you got teased for being ugly once before…the irony.

[@ghostguch1007]

I relate to this. Became more attractive right around the same time and it’s weird because people go from calling you ugly to staring at you but nothing much changed on the inside

[@eskimo2616]

@@ghostguch1007 I remember looking at myself in the big mirror in my yoga class and asking myself “why do I not feel like him?”. Almost every girl in my yoga class wanted me. But I just couldn’t, I couldn’t speak out a word. All the abuse from before messed me up. Cut out a lot of so called friends.

[@SeanLives]

Bruh makes so much sense 😅 I always kinda be myself, high energy and tryna be charismatic or funny, but when I think about it the times I have genuinely sensed attraction from women is when being extremely calm and cool and not like excited… thanks for the info

[@RhyKaiHawks]

Just be cool and collected. Don't do too much just do what feels natural. NEVER ever make a women feel like you're trying too hard, being creepy or thirsty. A thing that can relate to this video, could be body language. Just pick up more on the body language instead of focusing so much thought and anxiety towards what you are going to say. Just go with the flow.... 😎 Overall don't be weird or extra or they are going to automatically get turnt off lol. This is what I got from the video. 💯 Thanks

[@afrotraveller3768]

Free therapy for every handsome guy. I can see jaws dropping as we all come to the realization that we were trying too hard.

[@dylanjames1523]

I meet alot of women at my job where they have to sign paperwork. If they look at me a certain way i just tell them where to put their phone number and give them a look back. The least talking gets the most numbers in my experience

[@Taporeee]

Be yourself; Finding out who you are with your strengths, weaknesses, comforts and spirit of contradictions is a life-long task.. Find someone with whom you make each other shine brighter

[@jalexworld4138]

I been told by many women that they can't date a guy better looking than them and longer hair I had try for a few years to look less handsome but that's not the true me handsome guys need to embrace there looks and live in and the women who want a handsome man will come to them.

[@RomWills]

Well said.

[@jaybrick8973]

Im handsome but yes we still have to have confidence to which I struggle with an women can pick up on things like that so im working on myself

[@peakoil-ko5oq]

Being handsome and well off is difficult. Women want to marry you and play hard to get.

[@JTLDN]

lol damnnn

[@avaliausd.]

What? I get playing hard to get makes it difficult, but women wanting to marry you?...

[@peakoil-ko5oq]

@@avaliausd. I'm 6' 1" with a full beard and somewhat muscular with some money. Women see me and they want a serious relationship and will definitely play hard to get so I don't assume they are trash.

[@sacred1827]

Bro this video is really interesting. I know I'm quite a decent looking guy and I feel like I get off on the right foot with women all the time. That part is super easy because I'm quite confident too. But I don't play it cool at all. I kinda make myself too available I think and it's crazy how quickly they seem to lose interest. I recently had this really hot girl making the first moves on me, but when I was being too available she really cooled off. It's not that I'm desperate but I don't like playing games or being deliberately distant or hard to get. But I feel like I got to add some of that to my game I guess. When you're good looking they are expecting a challenge, if it doesn't come they feel something's off. Your video was really original. Nice work!

[@MegaPsycho84]

When I was working in retail, I remember Everytime that a man was walking with his girl, as soon as they (the man spotted me( and walked by me, they would always grab their girlfriend's hand tightly. And the girlfriend would be laughing lol. I have gotten alot of hate from.men because I'm handsome. But I try to stay low key, and quiet. So I tend to be able to avoid confrontation. Even some women get intimidated of you, and would try you, just to make themselves feel better. It's crazy

[@MAJOR8313]

Yep I’ve had to leave 3 different workplaces literally because of bitter/bipolar women and all retail too bro lol

[@soldierofgod5359]

Facts! I was at this one party a few months ago and this women that was a 9/10 started an argument with me out of no where. I noticed she was mad because many girls were talking to me in the party , but I wasn’t talking to this one particular lady. So this lady asked me how old am I , and I said “old enough “ and she got mad at me . I was literally joking trying to build a connection with her through a sense of humor, but she took this as an insult and started arguing with me. These women need to get themselves together lol. I noticed the most attractive women actually have the lowest self esteem💯

[@trex0416]

being handsome has its pros and cons. the pro is that women will pre select before you talk to them. The con, being perceived as a player or community D. The other con is having to deal with Jealous men who may test you just out of insecurity.

[@realrighteoustv]

The intimidation factor is something that took me a long time to understand about women. Like the brother said they already defensive and think we are a player. Alot of women curve men out of fear rather than dislike.

[@TheEnlightenOneGodsChild]

This man speaking the truth, I approached a very attractive with a nice shape. As he said in the women will freeze up when you approached them correctly. Some women feel.they don't deserve a great guy who also happens to be good looking.

[@chadspro]

The one girl I wanted the most was the one who rejected me, because I was too aggressive and desperate to impress her. You gotta learn the hard way fellas

[@00GT]

Please make more of these videos ASAP!! I hate being stared out without any communication. Then as a female friend told me “I don’t know what to say around you. You’re handsome but intimidating”. Baby I’m just being myself and minding my business 😂

[@maverickbprp3123]

Yes, I hate a dime piece blonde just blatantly stare at me (caught her and she like mez'd - buddy told me she told him she didn't know to say to me even) also I worked with and several female workers (including CEO and Head of HR) at the same treat and speak of me like a piece of meat in front of me, all I could do was brush it off as I'll never win that battle. Job before that I was going to be promoted to regional manager (based upon my grind day in/out) but the women and men hated that I was attractive and doing well so the women collaborated with a false sexual harassment complaint of a woman that was getting close to me (I luckily had all the dm's the girl I was into was sending me in the middle of the night and other evidence), they stripped all my leads for income away and essentially destroyed my career because they couldn't deny they were caught trying to pinned false allegations on me. I was just trying to reciprocate attraction so no matter what you do as a 'attractive' man you are hated - at least in my experience (good for a one night stand but relationships don't last not because of me obviously - they insecure I will cheat wtf?). Anyways great comment... stared at without communication - don't know what to say as handsome but intimidating... tired of hearing that bs.

[@seanknight9808]

Yep, I can sure relate!

[@mugenryukyu199]

​@@maverickbprp3123 I heard that shit too many times I had women say I'm cute but intimidating n they're shy to even talk to me even in txt sometimes. They think I'll leave them on read n destroy their ego... I've been told I'm very handsome n I know it because I've modeled part time before n I always get seductive looks by other women even wit their boyfriends.

[@mugenryukyu199]

Blessed with a curse

[@Quplin]

Whenever I tell them I am single, they never believe me. It is funny and annoying at the same time. I don't even care about my looks though. I have been having lots of issues with this. I am just focusing on other areas of my life for now. I will take your advice.

[@houndawg]

It can seem annoying but it's really a compliment because they see you as someone desirable

[@joesmith-vd4hu]

@@houndawg Facts...her being "annoying " really is her "choosing " and she can't control it....

[@Quplin]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb I don't have that player personality. I didn't really know how to deal with those interactions. I'm more of a quiet guy that keeps to himself a lot.

[@Quplin]

@@houndawg The way i thought is that I am a man why would my looks matter. A lot of people told me that I was wrong. I will take it as a compliment from now on.

[@Dreweybaby]

Tell em ur single by nature 🤣💀🤣 thats what i tell em

[@thesimg8349]

What this man is saying is 1000% true it’s kinda scary. If your already good looking better to be that confident “chillin” dude in social settings.

[@officialkd2368]

Handsome men are likely not getting likes on Instagram because women aren’t that dumb when they see a handsome guy they automatically will try too knock your confidence down so you think you are not handsome come on pay attention guys

[@undertaker11ism]

If a woman tries to knock your confidence down then she is just trying to mask her own insecurities

[@officialkd2368]

@@undertaker11ism true if your extremely handsome an insecure woman will try and make you think your ugly 2 fold reason one you won’t use your looks as leverage too make her act right or as rollo tamasi puts it spin plates and two you will believe your ugly and fall into a role where you let yourself go meaning your sexual market value declines which makes her spot as your woman more secure even if she does something unacceptable because a guy who has no options is more likely to forgive inexcusable behaviors before walking away now keep in mind if your personality is mature and secure after a some sht test she will fall into feminine role and respect you if you don’t lose your cool or frame

[@FmTrini]

Cold facts 🔥

[@ddobson178]

This is definitely real. I have had 3 different exes tell me that when they met me they thought I was a giggalo. A lot of women assume I’m a player. Women get very insecure and swear consistently that I’m cheating despite the fact that I have honestly never cheated in a relationship. They get even more suspicious when I put in more effort. Like they expect me to not try Bc I’m handsome and the alarm goes off when I used to go out of my way for them. So for the last few years I just chill and let them come to me and please me.

[@wayofrivera]

@@madallas_mons it’s not gay at all man you just gotta be comfortable as a heterosexual and not always think somethings gay. But he’s definitely wrong for commenting on the guys looks, he’s probably insecure

[@timothychibuzor4755]

@@davdav8152 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Samtino20]

same here spot on

[@joblakelisbon]

That's kind of depressing to be honest. A man, handsome or not, is built to hunt.

[@trinity3422]

It’s funny how handsome men are perceived a certain way. When I don’t act the exact way a woman perceives that I should be they look at you different. They draw in when you don’t act like a cocky asshole. Handsome men are held to a higher standard. Many people don’t recognize it. Edit: ASAP Rocky said best, tell ‘em “be you, f*ck tough, be cool.

[@joseph6243]

I won't go so far as to call myself handsome, but I will call myself pre-select. I've had people tell me I'm handsome, and since I've invested into the body game I catch women checking me out a lot. This is top shelf game Uncle Rom. You've touched on these themes in other videos before and it's helped me realize my biggest issue with women is simply over-pursuing. It took me a long time to comprehend why women came on strong and fast then mysterious got turned off. They saw my persistence as a red flag. One girl even called me a liar when I said I was single lol.

[@uluomu]

What do you mean by they see your persistence as a red flag?

[@phoenixwright7802]

​@@uluomu not OP but I imagine it's the 'whats wrong with this man that he's giving me attention?'

[@hugh6948]

This is so true, anytime I've ever pursued too hard (even that girl is in fact objectively somewhat into me too) it turns to shit pretty quickly. Much much better to play the stoic calm card

[@Swayze23]

@@hugh6948 facts i fumbled a bad bitchh smh! looking back on it i kno she could feel i was too excited smh

[@joules_sw]

​@@hugh6948 one of my relationships failed because of that, i was too keen. It's better not to give a fuck

[@LuisRamirez-ln3cj]

I'm 5'-6" and have been called handsome by a lot of girls. The awesome thing is that even tall women show interest in me...both young and old. I play it cool and calm and they seem to love it...but sometimes I get a little nervous, but I'm working on that.

[@system3335]

short and handsome pisses other men off the most. it actually infuriates them

[@wildprodigy]

@@system3335 I wonder why?

[@system3335]

@@wildprodigy it’s frustrating to see a shorter dude with a good looking face get women

[@wanyekest6969]

@@system3335 Agreed, it’s a shame and stems from insecurity and fundamentally, classic jealousy. Let’s go short kings. Don’t get why men can’t raise each other up against some of these hoes anyway. Ahaha.

[@michaelkaemusic]

5'7 crew checking in, if you're attractive and confident chicks of all sizes dig that. Just don't take personally the ones that really aren't into shorter guys, that energy is probably better spent elsewhere.

[@sub1469]

My go to line is "I don't normally do this" because for one it's true and two, unc is right they are on high alert 🤣

[@countryasjed1690]

Even if they don't straight say it, you are that dude if women say things to you like... 1. I know you got a girl 2. I'm I your type? 3. You make me nervous

[@barringtonmorris90]

Facts!!!

[@PulseAlwaysEdits]

faaacctsss so like I have 2 phones one I kept from an old plan I had and my current phone every time I pick up my other phone they say "ooohh u have 2 phones? that must be the one u text your hoes on" EVERY TIME bro

[@AladdinBinLaden]

4. Harder, faster.

[@prince9543]

Hey guys if you are constantly dealing with hate from other men the best way to fix this problem is to be around other attractive men.

[@prince9543]

@@JohnPierre-lz6vb Didn't say it would be easy. But it's doable

[@youngsavage6240]

@@prince9543 only like 20 percent of men are handsome or attractive

[@prince9543]

@@youngsavage6240 That's alot

[@youngsavage6240]

Only like 3-4 out of every 20 guys are attractive . that's not a lot compared to average or ugly guys

[@prince9543]

@@youngsavage6240 You gotta go out more buddy lol

[@The_D_Man]

Story of my life other dudes are always trying to put you down in some way and try to puff themselves up. Working in an office environment was hell not because of women they never gave me issues. It was always some hater guy spreading rumors. It used to bother me when I was Highschool now I see it as a sign that im blessed.

[@Masterofcandy4]

I was always considered average until I started working out. Never really got any dating experience so having all that attention hit you all of a sudden can be extremely intimidating if all you’ve ever known is rejection. You have to push past those doubts, though. Once you know your worth, nothing can bring you down. You just gotta be non chalant about it like you said.

[@avidier7347]

I can say that none of my dating problems have to do with looks but it’s all mental and I’m too much in my head. People say your a great looking guy why you struggling and that makes it harder, please cover this problem. When you said “he was alright until he opens his mouth” in the beginning that was really relatable.

[@flaneur2476]

You’ve hit all the notes! I’ve had some struggle in the dating scene. It’s always assumed I’m a hoe, or that I have a women. Even during the time I was a virgin. I could simply be chilling and having a conversation. If relationships come up it’s automatically assumed I’m a hoe or have a women by women.

[@Dreweybaby]

Its wild annoying

[@theblackmonk3153]

Wow Interesting input I always thought that handsome men had it easy

[@flaneur2476]

@@theblackmonk3153 it honestly depends. Just like Rom says, it only gives you a few extra seconds compared to your average/below average looking guy. I scare a lot of girls away. And when I inquire about it. “I thought you were a fuck boy” or “I didn’t think you’d be interested in me.” (Keep in mind that I’m still on my own journey to self improvement and these are only the women I’ve actually built repertoire with over a period of time that tell me these things). So with that in mind a lot of women automatically X themselves out. I have my fair share of poom poom, but I still struggle with those super desirable women🤷🏾‍♂️ . At the end of the day it is what it is.

[@theblackmonk3153]

@@flaneur2476 I would consider myself ugly but lately since I’ve changed my surroundings I have been getting more attention it kind of Confuse me in a sense but never the less I’m happy to be having more s*x then usual ha and wow thanks for sharing your story I found it to be very Informative I appreciate the input

[@Rob-fp3xq]

Broooo!!! Facts they all assume I’m a player

[@MultiMillyon]

He's keeping it so real. I'm an actor/singer. Women will be so infatuated with my looks that I barely have to work. This girl saw me a few days ago in the mall walking in a suit and approached me

[@Dreweybaby]

🧢🧢🧢

[@MultiMillyon]

@@Dreweybaby there's always gotta be a hater lol. Just cause it don't happen for you doesn't mean it don't happen for others

[@Dreweybaby]

@@MultiMillyon truuuuuuu 😂💀😂

[@WilliamsWrestlin]

@@Dreweybaby why don't you believe this? You don't think Michael Jackson ain't have women approach him?

[@wanyekest6969]

why were you walking in a suit at the mall g

[@gustavoespinal1867]

My personal favorite is when a good looking woman is with her average or below average looking boyfriend or husband and you catch them staring at you all the sudden they get all lovey dubby with the boyfriend or husband 😆😜

[@majibad8982]

meaning?

[@gustavoespinal1867]

@@majibad8982 meaning they have little to no attraction to the boyfriend or husband but he makes enough money for them to be with him so they lust for attractive man and that’s how they react when the good looking guy catches them stearin and lusting its a defense mechanism

[@gustavoespinal1867]

@@nickelbothello6210 they are trying to get a reaction out of you or get you to stear

[@josh0766]

Just came across this, never really thought I was attractive growing up and had low self esteem but looking back, I never had a problem getting girls, even girls friends of mine dated and people thought I was crazy for turning down. Now in my 20s I’m slowly realizing that thanks in part to one of my “lady friends” who always compliments me and my body, which is something I always try to improve. This is very helpful because at times i think maybe I should be aggressive with the women I find attractive instead of being laid back which is just my natural personality

[@dioralston1997]

Needed to hear this, for the longest I wondered why I would come off as intimidating. Now it’s time to keep it cool and go apply it from here on out, thanks Unc 🙏🏽💯

[@AlexRmex]

the fact this popped up on my recommended right when i need it man. Thank you for this perspective it's def not spoken about. I def have felt a lot of problems that I feel shouldn't exist but do. With women it's like being held to a different standard. With friends they're either really nice to you or feel like they you can take more shit than others prob because of your confidence. And with random guys I'm always getting tested - it's frustrating always having to fight or stand your ground like bruh I just wanna chill and have fun not argue and fight some random dude. I do need to hit the gym tho. Get my body looks way up

[@Chris-ti3gq]

Man I needed videos on this subject. When I look online I find a lot of content on dating advice but none of it really applies to me. I’m 29, a signed model, athletic, “6’7”, make 6 figures, a 10 on the attractiveness scale but I’m humble about it. With attractive men, the most beautiful women that you would settle with are mostly insecure. Females wanna be your friend. Dudes wanna be your friend to raise their social status but most guys are not your real friend. It can get lonely and people look at you and stare all the time. They also have these high standards for you to live up to or for your personality to be what they have envisioned in their fairytale minds. I wasn’t that handsome until my later 20’s and it comes with benefits and problems. If I could give any advice to anyone reading this who has at least some of these problems is just stay confident, watch who you call your friends, and date within your league. It’ll make everything easier

[@RomWills]

Thank you for your testimony.

[@system3335]

Good testimony. The latter is true , you really need to pick your friends correctly and date higher quality women . something i learnt the hard way

[@Chris-ti3gq]

@@system3335 I learned this the hard way too well hopefully this info helps at least 1 person

[@system3335]

@@Chris-ti3gq no worries - i was very friendly and open with people, didn’t judge anyone .. but i let all the wrong people latch onto me. one thing i noticed early on was that girls treated me with a lot more respect and value than the guys at my high school did (i went to an all boys school). this was huge cognitive dissonance - most of the guys in school were trying to put me down, and being handsome definitely had something to do with it

[@yyzx_6668]

I'm so glad I saw this, put my life in context. I've always had that initial attraction from women but my lack of confidence fumbled it for myself and killed the attraction. I gotta start playing it cool more, because when I think back, that's always what worked best

[@FreedomLocs]

Uncle Rom I remember watching one of your videos with a similar topic about a year ago. Now I stay quiet. It was hard at the start but it works. They now come to me 👑

[@alonzor.2912]

I’ve had the unfortunate experience of being handsome. Its strange. I mostly have gotten hated on by other guys and women have literally that im “too hot” for them or that they were intimidated by me. Its sad because my closest friends know me to be shy and an introvert. Being attractive is not all that its cracked up to be.

[@srj6963]

I am so glad this topic is being discussed. I always thought there was something wrong with me. I tried every personality type, and I always wondered why being introverted and quiet got me the most woman. I have been told I am attractive from woman, I get the hate from men, and I thought being confident, cocky, and talkative would get me woman (because the media says it - but it is for the average bloke). I am glad other attractive males can relate.

[@Samtino20]

facts

[@0ihatetrolls01]

​@@srj6963 " I tried every personality type" this is the issue, nothing else, only this, be yourself and find the right one who takes you for you or your life will be fucked, just be yourself man

[@mysterious2283]

Bro I really hope that’s not you in that profile pic talking about handsome

[@smugface9955]

@@mysterious2283 nah that’s the “daddy chill” guy i’m p sure 😂

[@angelyeldellbey]

I've been called handsome my entire life. Its definitely a gift and a curse, such a weird existence lmao. I never considered the fact that the reason women are skittish around me is because they're intimidated until I met a girl in college who told me that's how she felt when she first saw me. Very very odd, as I have very low self esteem (the glow up was *REALER* than real), and I'm a smiley guy. I really love being happy and open to others, so the idea that I intimidate people is funny to me 😂

[@afrotraveller3768]

lifting weights helps with this. I was called handsome for as long as I remember but that came with it low self esteem. I compensated with charisma but any rejection wld knock me down to zero. Now I'm bold, ripped and still smiley but different. I'm confident, relaxed and don't take much to heart. I stop caring, i always thought, well i'll probably not remember her tomorrow..

[@misterd.2250]

@@afrotraveller3768 goodshit bro I’m on that grind now

[@hasselett]

I was chubby, pimpled and a little awkward-looking through middle school and only really got into my own at like 16-17. Now, I'm in my mid-20's, and I get called handsome all the time and get all the female attention a man could wish for, but I'm still carrying some of the insecurities my youth brought with it to this day. I still don't feel confident, even though I know I'm an attractive person. I hate it.

[@carlitobkanco2294]

@@afrotraveller3768 bro im going through the same shit im 20 just started lifting and getting some gains, but constantly rejected by females they show interest touch on your arm eye contact but on social media it never goes further i get kind of angry now when they turn around and try come back.

[@afrotraveller3768]

​@@hasselett I suffered too in my mid twenties and the reason was the "need to be validated by women. You're still looking to other people to confirm that you're a good looking bloke. You have to first sit down with yourself, genuinely, identify the insecurities, what triggers you, the last incident that triggered you, how you felt about an interaction, everything that you think is holding you back in life. Forget women, its about knowing yourself. When you accept what the insecurities are then you can work on validating and appreciating yourself. You're an awesome person, your good with people, you have a job, you're not a criminal. Everything is within you, just bring it out. its not easy to confront these things but doing it consistently will make a difference. I already know you're a great person & i never met you. You need to believe that for yourself.

[@busyrand]

Your quip about directions at the 9:27 mark reminds me of my first time visiting NYC. I purposely asked the most attractive woman I saw for directions to a nearby college to meet my friend... She visibly shook her head the entire time, waiting for me to ask her out. Fine, professionally dressed Rican woman... When an attractive woman gives you a compliment, book it as the truth, because they typically don't compliment anyone.

[@TSoCozy]

One of your best videos Unc. I’m upcoming on 19 but always have played the game like this . Peace and blessings

[@robertlocksley1710]

It took being referred to as “the handsome man in the back” at the renaissance fair when it finally clicked for me. Have always considered it a blind luck with the insane levels of body dysmorphia I grew up feeling, that thought still likes to float in my head from time to time. Put out a very stand-offish vibe as a defense mechanism around women and end up dating the Harley Quinn types and there’s nobody to blame but myself. Solid advice found here that I needed to help connect the dots.

[@litobrigante1413]

I laughed so hard at this video, I had to learn this not too long ago. All the shit ik now you putting people on. Especially the emphasis on the player shit🤦🏾‍♂️ All facts, I fw it bro💯

[@yeabuddy5329]

Great vid uncle Rom. As an above average 6’3 man this video made me realize that whenever I did try a lil too hard it kinda turned off the women but whenever I’m laid back chillin not doin too much the female usually leads and are a lot more receptive. Ima have to sub to that Patreon ✊🏾

[@alantheannihilator3093]

After seeing the amount of self image/esteem issues this comment section addresses, it makes me feel way better man. Thank you for allowing such a discussion to take place. Gave me a lot of insight into previous interactions that didn’t make sense to me as well as validated some of the biggest struggles I have internally. Thank you man. Wish you nothing but success and greatness.

[@nylyrical8454]

It's crazy when you quiet and people tag you as arrogant and all.. recently had a girl come stand right in my view with her behind facing me I still didn't get that move to this day

[@LARULES100]

Maybe she wanted you to talk to her.This happened to me in the gym twice while I was on machine.They both had nice butts but I didn't make a move because at the gym is risky.

[@Nessbuo]

I was very handsome and a lot of people were jealous of me and my hair. Then I started to go bald at 18 and some guys looked genuinely happy that it happened to me.

[@Subscriber-ri4sw]

To say that we appreciate your content would be an understatement. Thank you Unc Rom!

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@drew6470]

Does the constant attention bother anyone else? When I’m on campus I just feel like I’m always being stared at. It creates a pressure where Im held to such a high standard I can’t let them down or some shit lol and I’m introverted too which makes me feel like everyone expects me to be more confident than I am

[@xEMOANHATARON]

I used to revel in that ish when I was you guys’ age and still do. If the woman doesn’t speak first, there will be no attention. At all. You are the prize, bro.

[@MiguelGonzalez-bg8hx]

Yeah. It gave me a lot of anxiety growing up. I felt like there was too much expectations on me too. Now that I’m older I handle it way better but it was awkward for me in high school

[@trapstationagain4508]

Holy shit bro, can totally relate with you. I'm 19 y/o , 6'3 ,190 lbs but despite all that, shit is HELLA TUFF. And being introverted doesn't make the situation any better. During the first class of my freshman year, I got to class late, and everyone was staring. The dudes were making fun in the back when I stepped in but the ladies stared quietly, almost like they were in a trance. Whenever I looked over to lock eyes with them, they would break contact and keep looking as soon as I looked away. I don't have any girls yet, and that type shit is dragging me to the floor. And the pressure is unbelievable bro. Social interactions make me sick. I feel ya, G.

[@Chris-ti3gq]

Yea the constant attention is annoying but you just gotta deal with it. If society thinks you’re handsome you’ll always get looks. You’ll gain confidence as you accomplish goals, we’re not like women they get validation and confidence from attention

[@lampardf2333]

Same fucking thing. Another sexy introvert here. Most people of my environment havent even figured out yet whats up with me.

[@Mronmypurpose]

Appreciate it Rom! I had to check out your older videos on this topic back in the day. Let's just say I got turned down because I was being too extra. Had been told so many times that I was handsome, thought that was all I needed. Got proving wrong very quickly. Learned very quickly that most women desire to be with a average looking men.

[@RomWills]

Yeah many women want to be the better looking one in a relationship. They may deal with a more handsome man for s%x or plain fun but it will still be on the low. At the same time a Handsome man can get along with Dymes better.

[@danimal0126]

This video popped up on my feed… I clicked, and I’m not mad. Good video ✊🏽

[@kennethkmy]

Uncle Rom this video is 💯 X 999. Never had someone construed the nature of this side so well like you to me before, truly am blessed! And I concur!! Thanks Uncle Rom !! Have a great day!!

[@keanureeves9802]

I can damn near remember every single time a girl called me handsome or fine af! Even going back to middle school, but I can’t remember what I ate 3 days ago😂