Dr. Phil Season 21 Episodes 31 | Full Episodes | End Of Silence On Domestic Violence

[@sheofmagnusakton6976]

Thankyou so much for sharing your story, it may save another womans life...This is such an important issue, as a survivor do domestic violence I find these shows very hard but I count my blessings that I had a friend who got me out of the situation. I thought I was going to die in the last attack, I ran and haven't looked back, I think the fact that he was smiling as he was punching me made me see the reality. My love for him ended that day after going back time and again. I am 61 and I am free.

[@TheLady615]

Today is the 24th anniversary of the day my family lost my mother to domestic violence. My stepdad sh*t her when she wanted to leave the very abusive and dysfunctional relationship. PAY ATTENTION TO THE RED FLAGS AND PUT YOUR KIDS FIRST!

[@ingeweeda]

My heart cries with yours❤

[@alisonpellicciotti375]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending positive vibes and healing prayers for you and your family❤

[@denise331]

Prayers for you🙏🏽

[@brendajerez2235]

May your mommy RIP.💙💙

[@isabelltecaxco-yd3lw]

Never tell your abuser that you are leaving them because they will end you. Leave quietly and quickly!! I've been through it all, I'm 63 now and I'm glad I never had children.

[@laurencejuilland4908]

Absolutely true, I can agree 💯% to your comment never allow your abuser to know your thoughts about leaving him, it will get only bad, first time I made that mistake, so I went back and planned it better in order to leave, take your passport along with you, if you have children, don’t care about money, allow the police to go back and get everything which is missing for you, but after the situation is cleared… I am not saying to leave without telling him will make him less dangerous, as my guy chased me up with a shotgun, in to different countries years after I left, but in the end, it gave enough time to escape, gather and get myself into safety (I have no children). It’s not easy but it is absolutely doable! Believe in yourself!

[@missyd5016]

I knew this was going to be a tough one to get through, and I was right. I'm a victim of dv, and I walked away before it became worse. My child is what came from that relationship, and I love her for making me put foot in front of the other and keep going. She is my saviour. She has done more for me than I can ever thank her for. I'm just glad that she never witnessed it. Such a precious gift. 💕

[@gracechristina8869]

I’m so glad you’re away and safe I wish the best for you and your daughter. ❤

[@Bebe42069]

To watch your father almost kill your mom, and actually kill moms best friend, and you still blame your mother is insane. That girl needs serious counseling

[@brittaneeciurca1932]

I agree she’s severely traumatized clearly it’s crazy and so so sad

[@gracechristina8869]

She’s obviously very traumatised, she was 10 years old

[@VijayaBjoshi]

It is difficult to comprehend but Abused person gets addicted to abuse. I am the prime example. My brother beat me up black and blues. since I was 14 until I was in my forties. I am now 84 yrs old retired medical doctor. One day when he tried to get in my bed, I just decided enough was enough and fled the country. Relatives were on his side. He was very charismatic to the public and they blamed me. My brother abused his wife and his own son who was in Medical college. One day his son had enough and he turned on his father and nearly killed him. I never married or had proper relationship for fear of repeat abuse.

[@mccallartllc]

It's not addiction to the abuse scared to leave and be found and get hurt worse than being abused when being with the abuser

[@gracechristina8869]

😢

[@perfectstormoriley1188]

That phone call Jesus! That made me cry 😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@paulinewoods375]

Me too

[@katiedorey858]

Sameeeee

[@sherryhernandez1360]

I don't feel bad for the mom she actually makes me angry to not protect a child. She even went back. What a winner.

[@Carla-rn8sq]

That child deserves justice... I hope he went to jail and his cellmates hear that call...

[@JessicaMcknight1227]

I know someone who is in an abusive relationship. She has kids 4 kids and one of them is from the guy that is abusing her. She really doesn't have anyone to help her get away from him. Her family doesn't care about her. She is actually staying right now in a motel because she doesn't have anywhere to go. What really makes it bad is the man who is abusing her is paying for the room because she doesn't have anyone else and of course he take advantage of the fact he can stop paying for the room and her and the kids will be on the streets. This man is very mean to her. He tells her that her kids would be better off without her alive. A few years back she called me about 9 o'clock at night crying scared because he had took a towel and put it around her neck and pulled her through the kitchen and he also pushed her down and broke the top of her hand. I just feel bad for her because I don't know what to do. She needs someone to help her get some kind of place for her and those babies to be safe away from him. She also knows that she will need to get an restaining order against him because he told her if she ever left him. He would find her and make her regret it. We want stop until we get a place for her and those kids to be in a safe happy home.

[@allysonhill4195]

my heart starting pounding!!! I'm a survivor of domestic violence and I'm glad I escaped when I did! I was married to an abusive man for 5 years and almost ended my life a few times because of it. I ignored the red flags because I didn't want to believe it. the former mother and father-in law laughed at me one day at dinner saying "he's your problem now" and neither of them did anything about it! No one kept me safe, police did nothing, his father was severely abusive and yelled at me because I called the cops on his son (years later I realized his family's abuse is now known to the public). his mother didn't put her foot down either and tell her husband that enough is enough. Domestic violence is a "silent killer" and needs to be brought to the public! I'm part of a facebook group dedicated to the survivors and victims of domestic violence. I thought I could handle the pain alone, but now I know I'm not alone!

[@loreleihebdon6595]

After he did that to her father an she stayed with him. HELLO!!!

[@jasminesharp7589]

I wanted more information on that! Like why did he not go to jail? Did her survive? How bad was he injured. And does she have a relationship with her father today? Sooooo many questions

[@gracechristina8869]

⁠@@jasminesharp7589her father is dead

[@jhannellucy9724]

The kids... Omg.... Testifying againts the mother... They are still under extreme manipulation by the father.

[@gingertaylor2966]

Whoa. If your hero let's you down.. you're gonna have trust issues. That just hit me hard. My dad was my hero and he let me down. Makes sense why I have trust issues now

[@traveller4life123]

Makes me sad. If I was lucky enough to have a woman who loved me enough to marry me and have my children she would be the queen of my life.

[@aarynunite]

I hope you find her

[@jhannellucy9724]

Good luck to you that is so sweet

[@gracechristina8869]

You’ll find her

[@laurencejuilland4908]

He shot her 3x but only sentenced to 33 years?! Seriously?!

[@gracechristina8869]

And murdered her best friend 😢

[@randywolff580]

My sister was murdered by her husband when she was in the process of divorcing him. She left him and stayed with friends he didnt know but he managed to get her alone and killed her. He only served 8 years , because his Uncle was a police officer and they helped him get away with a manslaughter charge . She was only 21.

[@LEXdsm]

I am so so sorry, this is awful.

[@aarynunite]

I am so deeply sorry for your loss and for the terrible injustice that was done to your sister, you, and your family.

[@chantelbrown4752]

Wow that’s heartbreaking

[@brendajerez2235]

May your sister RIP.💙💙💙

[@Bacardi-D]

8 yrs for taking a life ,on purpose, is soooo wrong. The justice system is corrupt. I'm deeply sorry for her life being ended so young...

[@debracampbell2208]

3x I married,3x abusers, plenty of counseling and I'm in a good spot now, empty of a mate.

[@donnatpuckett123]

I’m so proud of you. You are 1 strong woman. Love yourself more and if you ever want to find someone to b a husband please pray and wait instead of trying to make yourself believe he’s the one. That’s most of the problems we step out of his will then can’t understand why? But there is never an excuse for a man to touch a woman in meanness period.. Love u Debra may God keep YOU..

[@shanny0971]

I’m so happy you are live. You may not have a mate, but I thank God you have your life.

[@clairecarlia-jones5979]

Glad to hear you're doing well. Sending you love ❤❤❤

[@VijayaBjoshi]

You have no choice but be strong. You need to look after yourself and never blame yourself. Just remember abuse just does not happen in marriage or in relationship or parental abuse. Sibling abuse is not very much mentioned or talked about. I am planning to write to Dr Phil as he and Robin are very good at bringing it to the forefront to create awareness.

[@copingangel]

I feel like the conversation with the kids should have been held in the green room. Not infront if everyone in the audience.

[@hazelprouty7320]

Chills. Absolute chills. My god those poor babies

[@heidi.midget9880]

I tracked little Sarah for years trying to find out what happened to her because this call disturbed me so much

[@seanthomas7441]

Those kids are scared for life with the horrific events of that night and all he got was 33 yrs you see how messed up our so called justice system is

[@jasminesharp7589]

I’m a survivor of DV and they change the way your mind works. Everything is your fault and if you wouldn’t have done this then I wouldn’t have done that. It brainwashes you makes you believe it!! no matter how much you try to stay within their lines something always sets them off. He choked me until I passed out then convinced me he was sorry. He did it again later in the relationship and beat me up thank god I was fast enough to run out the door and call the police. Thankfully I left and got as far away as possible. I really think he would have eventually killed Me. Today I’m happily married and have a son im so glad I chose to put myself first rather then listen to the things he was feeding me every day.

[@MissKatsukiBakugo]

I’m in shock about the pinky loss. She’s very brave to tell her side of the story and her will to survive 🖤

[@veravaughan5876]

Prayers for you all

[@natalieforwood2651]

I have plates in my mouth and dental implants. Im wating to have a decompression fusion in my neck. Im still hiding ive moved many times due to him finding us.

[@ShelleyV76]

If ur gonna leave, just leave, never tell the abuser ur plans. I grew up in violence, was married to a violent narc but I got loose. Let a man raise his hand to me ever again, no way. never stand for violence

[@Jen-KJV1611]

Yet no one, I mean no one, does anything to prevent, stop it, or protect us when we cry out for help. Not one person.

[@Padayachee]

Truly very sad

[@Bacardi-D]

It shocks me how uncaring the 911 rep sounded when talking to that sweet lil girl..no compassion in her voice at all

[@carartist127]

They are trained to not react but get information

[@gracechristina8869]

They have to be that way unfortunately

[@MistyMorningMangoes]

Beautiful lady.

[@kdee_serikali5975]

I am 2 minutes in and my dear lord I am appalled. I was taking a walk, I had to stop!!! 😢

[@jennypalmer331]

Penny is a beautiful Lady. To loose her best friend would be hard to live with. So glad he is in Jail. Why do men do this to the women ??. Just leave

[@jessicajones3452]

It made me cry

[@shannonirizarry-eo8wb]

My ex husband chased me down with our car. I was in icu for 8 months. It took over 2 yrs to get on my feet. They would not even arrest him. DA wouldn't prosecute.

[@gracechristina8869]

So sorry 😢

[@ExposeFlyersDotCom]

Is cause u refused to press charges like most victims?

[@Thehangmancometh]

Men are exhausting, as are relationships.

[@jennifertiitinen9006]

That’s insane

[@tattersall66]

I was in an abusive relationship as a teen. Thankfully However I got out. I have no sympathy for the women who's stay when pregnant or have children repeatedly with the abuser. If THEY stay that's THEIR choice, but children have no say. People know how history repeats so they know exposing children to DV has such devastating repercussions on the child growing up and either accept this behaviour, or even turning into an Abuse*r. Also the mothers are directly responsible if the children end up being kill*d by the father/ abus*r

[@kristymaricelli79]

My God this phone call was heartbreaking

[@MichelleMarchia-fk9es]

The phone call was devastating!!!!!!

[@Sedgley9024]

Horrible horrible story. I feel so sad for this family. I know first hand how thus is. I went through it myself but had the courage ine night when he was in a rage... me and kids got out. He dud break into my apartment and beat me in front of the kids but a pol8ce officer came and he was arrested. It's hard to understand why we stay... but our kids are most important. God Bless them. ❤

[@itsmeash.2024]

I also suffered domestic violence years ago. I was 18. Then 2 years later I was drugged and raped... My heart feels for you and the loss of your best friend ❤️

[@gracechristina8869]

My god I’m so sorry 😢

[@itsmeash.2024]

@gracechristina8869 , thank you Hun 😘 Being a survivor made me who I am today ❤️

[@studio29bymarcie70]

My girlfriend’s husband killed her parents and himself in front of her. Horrible what some people have to go through.

[@GenevieveBedggood]

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[@meglove6214]

Damn, Chelsea is an opp! Against her own momma

[@bettymerchen]

Does anyone know this man’s name or sentence?

[@francesgray3096]

He got 37 years

[@ExposeFlyersDotCom]

WHY DOES NO ONE TALK ABOUT HOW ITS A GOOD IDEA FOR WOMEN TO TAKE BONE BREAKING MIXED MARTIAL ARTS AND JIU JITSU CLASSES FOR SELF DEFENSE???????

[@LindaDutchman]

Men need to be supported as well

[@gracechristina8869]

🤦🏻‍♀️

[@rondavannoy2268]

Heartbreaking!

[@laura-annebauer7747]

How do you stay with a man that shoots your parent and always beats you, and you bring more children in the situation. I tbink this woman is a bit slow mentally

[@champ0032]

Um. That actually was a situation where she was LEAVING and staying with her sister and then he shot her dad and then killed her friend when the daughter told him she was LEAVING again and filed for divorce… Slow?

[@p.v.7269]

​​@@champ0032No you fool. She left him to stay with her sister and her dad was there, husband came over and shot dad in the face and then AFTER THAT she went back and stayed with him. She also had 4 kids with him, she said the only thing she loved about him was that he was the father of her children, which means she loved nothing about him except the idea of him being a dad. That is sick and wrong. She put 4 innocent children through a nightmare because of her poor judgemen.

[@champ0032]

@@p.v.7269Fool? Read again... We said the same thing she left and went to the cousins and the dad was there… dad got shot. One of the 2 occasions she tried to leave him and someone got hurt. The second being when her friend was killed. Which is what I was pointing out…how leaving can sometimes be more dangerous. What the whole show is about😂 Shut up. He could have went Chris Watts on her at baby number 2 you don’t have a crystal ball and you can’t pass judgement on her using hindsight. Tf she should have took him out first.

[@p.v.7269]

@@champ0032 Yes you are a fool. First off, you didn't say the same thing as the other post because your post was trying to correct theirs, and not very well at that. Second, your post was so poorly written that nobody with any common sense could decipher that you were saying leaving is sometimes more dangerous than staying. And while it's true that leaving can be dangerous, staying is even more dangerous, as it guarantees the abuse will continue forever. As Dr Phil said, if you leave you need to have a solid plan for doing so, but staying out of fear of what could happen if you leave is absolutely the wrong choice 100% of the time.

[@Lisa-x3n5x]

This is one of those questions where I so want to give a thumbs down. Except I've never actually seen it done, so I won't. Not everyone starts life from the same vantage point.

[@UrNextEx]

omg he looked so dead behind the eyes

[@DLewis-br1om]

That's crazy she went back after he shot her father in the face. How he didn't go jail then I don't know

[@srgodwin1962]

And yet this gal kept getting pregnant....

[@ruboo8053]

Unfortunately probably against her will..

[@jessicajones3452]

I had a aunt who was murdered she was 19

[@joanne12348]

Why on earth woukd that woman go to drop off her kids to an abusive dangerous monster???????? Thats more shocking than anything else especially knkwing he was angry about the divorce

[@jessicajones3452]

The one son i saw him older on a video

[@mccallartllc]

I need protection I am scared of when my soon be ex boyfriend gets out of jail

[@mccallartllc]

I need help to move to Arizona and get away from Michigan

[@ExposeFlyersDotCom]

LISTEN TO ME CAREFULLY! DO NOT FORGET ABOUT YOUR SECOND AMMENDMENT RIGHTS AND PLEASE TAKE KICKBOXING AND JIU JITSA CLASSES FOR SELF DEFENSE!!!!!

[@sandrabergen8749]

How you love someone who is beating you up??? Don't get it! 😔

[@gracechristina8869]

Be thankful that you don’t get it.

[@marilynmelendez3228]

Wow, this is so terrible.😢

[@kmitch5932]

As a woman, I will never understand why women put up with and expose their children to domestic violence. I just don't get it. Poor kids!!!

[@gracechristina8869]

He tried to kill her when she left. What was she supposed to do. She was manipulated, beaten and traumatised. Ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@eilenekellogg-ki2br]

Poor kids. She should of left that creep along time ago.

[@gracechristina8869]

Did you not watch the episode? HE TRIED TO KILL HER WHEN SHE LEFT!!!! She was trapped!!

[@eilenekellogg-ki2br]

Battered women syndrome. I had that same mind frame. If I vhange some more snd love hime more then hell live us and be a good marriage. By the time he was done with me I was compleatly empty, just a shell.

[@paulinevincent8513]

He looks likè an abuser

[@LindaDutchman]

How about the men

[@friskymaus3532]

Why do you keep having children with an abuser??

[@gracechristina8869]

He tried to kill her when she left!!!!!

[@lynnknox6601]

Hope he stays in jail

[@eilenekellogg-ki2br]

My ex when husband held a gun to my head and threatened to kill me

[@eilenekellogg-ki2br]

When.I called the cops.they didn't care.that he was abusing beating and chocking me. I wanted to fill out a report. They reply to me was was you must like it or you would leave. I told them I didn't like it and I wanted him arrested and file a complaint. They wouldn't let me file a complaint. All the did was tell him to walk around the block and cool down.

[@HJcillie]

8s this Brad still alive..?

[@adelejonker6110]

Why did she keep getting pregnant??

[@suefresina5918]

She, more than likely, had no choice. Abusive men can take a woman's birth control away from her. That is part of their way to gain even more control over a woman. I learned this when I took a course to become a domestic abuse advocate.

[@YouHadMeAtMoonPie]

Why didn’t he care if she consented?

[@Lisa-x3n5x]

​@YouHadMeAtMoonPie may you never find that out, but I suspect you will.

[@markgoforth1900]

That's just an ignorant question!!

[@mariaduncan4450]

:( Terrible to hear, horrible to imagine...

[@paulinevincent8513]

How can woman go with him hes hideous

[@dallaspatterson9928]

I don't believe Mrs Jakes should be the one talking. Her husband is a very evil man. U aren't going to convince me Mrs Jakes didn't know what her husband was doing. I feel so bad for this woman and her children but for this Jakes woman to be on that stage is insane.

[@aileenj8180]

Bishop TD Jakes is an evil man?

[@dallaspatterson9928]

@@aileenj8180 definitely

[@aileenj8180]

@@dallaspatterson9928 in what way?

[@dallaspatterson9928]

@@aileenj8180 if u knew politics and crime around the country u wouldn't have to ask that question. I believe with all my heart from all the evidence about Diddy and Jake's,his wife definitely knew what was happening. But money kept her mouth shut. People like you really need to wake up.

[@aileenj8180]

@@dallaspatterson9928 I'm just asking. I've never heard anything about him

[@marylett9556]

There are no blacks in the audience, that's strange!!

[@HJcillie]

Should there be? And why?

[@lourowlands2168]

Omg why is this an issue.

[@phyllisgiaconia5852]

Yes there were blacks in the audience.

[@user-cy4vw1qj9m]

Yes they were black people there

[@cathywilkinson7018]

They showed a black lady in the audience wiping her tears away.