What Happened after I left My Wife?

[@nchehilaryfon2194]

“Jesus was not hypothetical. He was realistic. His interest was for the betterment of humanity”. Well done sir 👏👏👏👏

[@joinMasculine_Motive]

This man is among the few true men left in the world

[@lshayo1658]

This could be one of the very best video on youtube! To sum up everything here is: "Protect your mental heath at all cost"!

[@okezieemma2099]

Reading the comments on this video, I discovered that many did not understand Dr Apoki’s video. Please watch this video again. He practically prioritized his happiness, sound mind and freedom over material things. This is a healthy man in and out.

[@mimim875]

That's exactly what I heard. Not sure what others are hearing. Hapiness ain't in wealth accumulated only. Self care is very important

[@ejaifeorodesomuvie5727]

Only low iq people will misunderstood him, Dr Apoki is as real as you sees him, such a straight forward man.

[@olufunkeidowu9931]

Both well said. There's an apparent lack of comprehension of this video by many in the comment section. It requires a lot of maturity to understand what Dr Apoki expressed . I could relate and laughed throughout the video because he was describing some situations that occur between my dearest husband and me😅❤. #22 years in marriage, and we are changing and finding great ways to accommodate each other. He goes shopping whenni go crazy 🤪 😅😊😂😂❤. I love ❤️ him ever so dearly. My children just ignore both of us when we are at it . Later to use as comedy relief at their children's meetings😅😅😅😅. Am happy and grateful to have a partner who tries to accommodate, understand and support me at every stage of my change while we both strive to maintain a healthy physical and mental environment for our 3 children( all adults now too

[@iyenjohn6633]

The worst thing that can happen to a man is the imprisonment of his dreams.

[@ththim7785]

Are you now going to look for a white woman?

[@ejaifeorodesomuvie5727]

You are a man of wisdom, may God continue to increase you.

[@benoyenuga5240]

Thank you sir for opening up and telling your story, people never tell you this part of marriage that it is very challenging not everyone who stays married are happy just do it mainly for religious and cultural reasons. Marriage is beautiful when their is genuine love and both being on the same page. I really hope you both reconcile and this is not the final chapter sometimes a temporary break is needed on both parties to heal and clear your mind from certain situations.

[@AbramTaba-ly7zy]

Dr. Akpoki, your teachings are truly what we need in this life. You are a blessing to ME. Thank you Sir. I am Thabo, Limpopo, RSA.

[@eddyidemudia7356]

This is freedom for you , i love you the way you educate us with your story.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

I'm not a man. I'm a girl that's just starting to learn about myself and life. I listen to your videos. Thank you

[@UChristianoCR7]

I need you in my life. We can build a good life together❤

[@berthaphiri3503]

It depends the kind of version. Not all men are Godly, if you follow their path , you're doomed with poverty and destruction. They are women who mean build their husbands Sir

[@cradleofrelaxation6473]

I want to be like this man when I’m old.

[@wilkergoma1]

Love the wisdom Dr Apoki is sharing !! Big love!

[@chinedunwalli6048]

I see the same toxic life with my wife, i am in my early 40s what i did was just give her space and since then i have my peace and i can think straight

[@jds5788]

Great video. As men get older we sometimes have to rediscover ourselves separate from the marriage. You're blessed if you have a place of your own to retreat to. Several of my friends have opted for this and to be honest it's as though you've served your purpose and it's your time now. Enjoy!

[@Yourtruthmightnotbemine]

Your wise analysis are words of wisdom because I see my own life going the same direction!

[@subair03]

Wow marital social distancing is the key word, instead of having emotional problem.

[@Kof_Believer]

I can never stop listening to your words of wisdom. Each morning, I wake up waiting for your new video. God bless and keep you. I have learned a lot from you.

[@allthingznatural5592]

I like your videos. You have much Wisdom! USA, Oklahoma ❤️

[@recyclespinning9839]

This video showed up and very relevant. This even pertains to if you have a business together with a family business and a sibling is involved. At a certain age you must just sell off and split your portions fairly. Dont argue , 50/50. This way you are free to live your life and do what is your choosing , as are they.

[@drcharlesapoki]

Thanks for your insight. Many people particularly religious folks could not understand what I was talking about.

[@la9753]

“Left” as used here was not divorce or separation but a mere leaving the school premises to live in their other house.

[@drcharlesapoki]

Most intelligent comment.

[@abigailsitsha2517]

I was lost. I thought he was saying that he and his wife are no longer together..that he has given all their assets to her and is now living his life apart from her.

[@nichelegalsolutions]

Exactly, he didn't say they are either divorce or separated. He only left to expand and she followed. Why are people getting it twisted?

[@sikakofi]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@nichelegalsolutionsthe caption was a click bait.. he knew exactly why he made it so.. he wanted more views hence the caption 😅

[@abosedeodedairo1891]

Yes. Thanks for the clarification, sir/ma'am

[@My_f4u]

This is the best thing i have ever heard from a Nigerian God bless you

[@magaretekwin3659]

😂😂 He said he and his wife are "Practicing martial social distancing, to a oid spreading martial viruses", so funny but makes sense! This man is a trip!

[@kulelwateddy6715]

If this marital social distancing includes no sex..🙆

[@childrentoys4537]

​@@kulelwateddy6715🤣🤣🤣.

[@AtlasCorry]

This is a very conflicting message but I have sifted the ones that I need and would apply it for my well being

[@idehenreosas3969]

Mingwo sir! This is one thing that also affects the male child. Most mothers tend to play this on their sons which they realise late or may not even realise at all. Also common to Sons who grew up with all women in the house/only sons. I am not saying the male child should be disrespectful. But it's important to know when to take a stand and exercise your authority as a Man. And lastly, this is common to men in old age. The children most like will take sides with the mothers. Then the man is sometimes all alone.

[@drcharlesapoki]

Vrendo.

[@minglim-pollard1167]

Top man, The shallow style of the western feminist matrix, a well fitted scold collar based around consumerism and control has infected the entirety of mankind, Stay strong KPP,

[@aeiou0123]

They take their mom sides because they saw how poorly the man treated her. My dad is mot alone n we love him to death cos he was a fabulous dad n husband seeing him as we grew up

[@idehenreosas3969]

@@aeiou0123 It's not by how poorly.......It's just a natural thing. There are just a few exceptions

[@alinayili2199]

​@@aeiou0123this is the mistake men make without realizing it but then insecure men treat women poorly to feel good

[@lolokey6804]

Seriously, am happy hearing this

[@AdepejuEniola-nd8ov]

Whao! You're such a bundle of wisdom and inspiration sir. Thanks

[@haynesswalker8345]

This man is awesome so free spirited

[@omofumaighodalo432]

Your desire will be for your husband (to control him), but he will rule over you.

[@godschild9276]

Quoting Dr Voddie Bachum my mentor.

[@yemifadeyibi1481]

Many people don’t know what you posted. God bless you.

[@prodigy3b3n-y6s]

​@@godschild9276 it's in the Bible actually

[@waskyhenry6306]

Hi Doc, you have a penchant for comedy 🤣. I like your punch 👊 lines. You deliver your hard punches with some soft 🍦 gloves 🧤. Keep it up 👍.

[@drcharlesapoki]

I appreciate that

[@drcharlesapoki]

You are very smart sir. You understand the style.

[@Zainab-ts4mj]

​​@@drcharlesapokiSir, you just wrapped my day with wisdom and laughter 😂😂. I'm grateful!

[@roselinda4383]

Absolutely love your messages..wisdom and discernment

[@umukoroabraham7376]

Dr you are too correct and fun to be listen to.

[@j.o6885]

I understand you completely.I am going through the same thing.I have been fortunate/unfortunate enough to know that love is not everything

[@paradisearts7021]

Dr apoki, I am currently in this same boat with you sir, I recently moved out of the house, due to other reasons, but the seperation right now is healing me from all the toxicity

[@festusugonwokebata5318]

This is the kind of message this evil, deceitful, and arrogant woman of this present generation who have decided to make the life of every man miserable and have deviated from the law of God that stated that women be submissive and man love ur wife, Men be Wise women hate this kind of eyes opening message

[@worldtraveler8571]

Watch the video. Dont assume.

[@jamesthomas4787]

This man challenges me do much but he's filled with wisdom, God bless Doctor 🎉

[@olatunjiakinpelu7799]

Dr. Apoki... You are a peaceful and creative man... You will live long to teach men senses and act of moving forward without women imprisonment.

[@AMBERSBABYDADDY]

You Sir are a MASTER ORATOR. BRAVO

[@djsleekmanali6489]

The truth must be told, thank you for telling the truth Dr Apoki!!

[@TheLegend-uq1gz]

But you have not heard from his wife.

[@akinwaleakintoye8304]

From what I heard from him......can't perceived any hate from him. And she genuinely cares for him too. Oftentimes we individually want space to reminisce and ponder about issues or fresh ideas, that doesn't mean we don't love those who are most dear in our lives.

[@Lebcon]

Exactly sometimes things need to change to find peace of mind for both. Nice one Doc.

[@bjo004]

So sad to hear.😢. I pray you both reconcile and peace reign in your marriage.

[@sundaychidi1979]

So you know more than Him please let him be

[@oluwakemitoluwanimi7203]

They are still married she is still bringing him food; he only created a space to help him activated his potentials and fulfil them. Even the wife understands.

[@victoranumba4579]

Thank you for saying the truth.

[@virginiaimo2840]

I just stumbled across your channel today. You’re amazing, I love your teachings, young people should visit your blog and listen and will gain insight on life generally. Thank you very much sir.

[@PrinceMathsclinic]

Oh my God, where and how did I meet Dr Charles Apokin. He is simply and Wonderful man full of inspiration.

[@marvahgprah6847]

Thank uuuu, this is my second time watching your video and I really like and appreciate you.

[@kerrysmith9666]

There is no perfect marriage or a perfect relationship, but you can visit your family for a while but don't separate, be quiet when he or she is angry, and discuss issues only when your minds are relaxed.

[@PatrickJato-ju9rs]

Dr Aboki you are a wonderful human being I value your God given wisdom I have subscribed to your Chanel

[@Atman-s8r]

Thanksgiving for your wisdom Senior.Apoki🇬🇾

[@EAOkoli]

Point : Women find it difficult to manage authority, to manage wealth. ❤

[@londonwildflowerbae]

WITHOUT the leadership and input of good men, a Dad, Brother, Husband, Uncle etc...

[@ajayigabriel]

Generally, they're not cut out for that. Also, they have a lower sense of responsibility; this reflects in their always putting their own interests first.

[@ntokozojiyane7051]

Thank you so much Sir for your honesty. This video just made me realise the deep desire every man has to be self actualised and free to live his life by his own design. We woman are the cause of our own problems by always wanting to be overly controlling and wanting to insert ourselves in hi ha that do not even concern us. What do we lose? EMOTIONAL INTIMACY….what do we desire the most ? EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. We sabotage ourselves.

[@TheKojak1966]

You made her very powerful and I feel it is not going down well with you and you seem bitter. I would have love you to treat this matter privately out of regards for your family.

[@donmek]

Lovely advice

[@payparallel]

No, he doesn't seem bitter. There's friction, which occurs in every marriage, but he's NOT BITTER. He strikes me as an emotionally intelligent man. Plus, he didn't demean his wife in anyway, instead, he extolled her virtues, so the suggestion that he should have kept it private is unnecessary l think

[@yuta3699]

He is not bitter,I suspect you are one of those feminists who think men are intimidated by women,some of you just come on social media and write senselessly,you lack comprehension,he didn’t divorce his wife,he is only teaching us a lesson about marriage.

[@abiodunemmanuel3551]

Waw, God bless you sir. I learnt so much. I always look forward to your videos every day. Sometimes, women can make one's life miserable. I need such grace. As a man, the reality is we will end up being alone. It's only female children that may care for the man at old age. That's the sad reality.

[@ruirwathika]

This man has discovered the beauty of peace over materialism. Materialism is ruling the world. Has been for millennia. He who discovers disengagement from materialism is wise. The thing is we need to build, but we need a balance as well. We are all looking for that balance. what balance means to me is not the same to you. Perhaps she’s very innocent. Indeed he’s not purely negative about her. The demand for managing our accumulated wealth maybe energy depleting so that the very material you so worked hard for become your prison. He’s free. He’s out of jail. Kudos to you sir.

[@ahamedawwalcarpenter9179]

Thanks you Dr Apoki, you are surly inspirational, a man who can laugh over his daily challenges this way is truly the strong one. I like Greek philosophers too. Keep it up.

[@akanyasyrenius3695]

Sir, love you for whom God made you to be and I bless God for making me to come in contact with your channel

[@christophermudd7844]

Thank you again for your wisdom and knowledge, as a younger man. I enjoy listening to the truth.

[@benb52]

Love all your messages Dr❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Naijamann]

Very clear thoughts in simple english...with a plain heart.. im subscribing...

[@jamesobahi1992]

I was touched when he said he has never slept with anyone for the past 39yrs of their marriage. What kind of temptation is this? May the Lord continue to grant you the Grace Advice to Women: Any man you cannot submit to please don't marry him but if you agree to marry him, let his vision be your mission and that is submission. Íf your desire is anything more than your husband, you are functioning outside the perfect will of God. I understand with Dr CA. If you have a calling and a purpose to fulfill don't allow any distractions to stop you. God will help both of them.

[@d.c.5033]

Very good. Woman has to see the man’s vision and support him.

[@tremtoronto6462]

Separation should be the last resort after all efforts to make it work fail given the far reaching long term implications. I can't stand violence in marriage or infidelity, everything else can be worked out but if 2 cannot and unable to live happily together, there's absolutely no point managing it. It's only the living that talks of marriage. Sir, I can't advise you otherwise as you wear the shoes and know where it pinches you. But I have watched quite a number of yoir videos and you seem a good man. The last clip I watched, you even walked out of the huge investment of the school you built.....material things don't matter to you and you will live long. Take care of yourself sir. Shalom

[@mercyoluwatoyin4108]

Wow! daddy, your type is very rare in this part of the world... anyone who is fortunate to have someone like you is too blessed. Weldone, sir.

[@TheZuluman7]

Dr Apoki the great teacher of philosophy. Thank you sir

[@patienceomolola9007]

You’re a very straightforward man; truly you are Sir👍.

[@79code]

This one was very funny. Marital social distancing 😂😂😂

[@abrahamniilartey6492]

aka 'separated'

[@chantkressmyfavouriterockstar]

DR I am in my early twenties , But I can relate to this information ; I have found that my girlfriend has started to treat me with more respect and she is taking me seriously......after I have startd doing things I am passionate about on my own terms. and the relationship has become more health .......for both of us,

[@nunofigueira8691]

Keep going and take attention that she is your girlfriend and not your business partner, assistent or advices. 😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@ProsperousJanetta]

I do not know how I ended up on your channel Doc. 😂I am so glad I did. I am a new sub 👍. I am from the US and have been married to my Naija king going on 20 years. We have two sons and are best friends. Best friends at times need a break to be at peace and I have made my husband a man cave in our home for him to be able to do so around all his books that he loves to read. It took me a while to learn that his personality actually thrives off of being alone at times. My personality is energized by being around people so I used to get offended when he did not want to talk. Now we have a system in place that allows us both to become our best selves! Love your candor and compassionate wisdom 👍 keep it up 🙏🏽

[@drcharlesapoki]

Wow! You are just amazing. Thanks so much.

[@asuamini674]

Dr. Apoki , I have been enjoying your talks . I look forward to hearing your talks. God bless you for the wisdom in all you have been telling us.

[@benb52]

Wawoooo, thank you Dr. I’m learning, relearning and unlearning. Thank you Dr

[@drcharlesapoki]

You are very welcome

[@gilbertjean-louis4826]

Hi Doctor Apoki, you are really great man lots of respect my brother.

[@EzeugwuAlfred-e6s]

All you said is true and educational.keep it up

[@magdaleneivuegbe8748]

God bless you sir, you are a typical man I have always wanted to be my methol, your messages have healed my marital wounds. May you live long.

[@drcharlesapoki]

Wow, thank you

[@jeremiasrobinson3478]

True talk Dr. Apoki. You said it all. Is like we're in the same shoe. You'll invest %90 in all you own together but most women will want to have all for themselves alone. I used to believe in uniting forces with the wife, but experience has taught me better. Thank you for speaking out b/c many men are going through the same issues.

[@ralphups7782]

Dr Charles Apoki, very wise words indeed Sir and i thank you for sharing them with me.

[@tlcore007]

You're extremely well spoken sir. I love your videos, I believe this is temporary as you said it's marital distancing, You guys will be back together! in the same roof !! thank you so much Sir.

[@donaldwillie7691]

I LOVE IT DOC, YOU'RE GENIUS, THANKS FOR THE INSPIRATION !!😂

[@londonshappiestbusdriver462]

Dr Apoki, you're a funny man. God bless you

[@INTAHETV-ni5pq]

I have separate with my wife 4 weeks ago always tikoko she left me & took the kids with i was always ask myself what went wrong real you build me once again sir my life is back after listening to you God bless .

[@boakyebb]

"My mind separated by that handcuff that tue two shall become one ".... 🎉 .... Fabulous ....

[@slydoskibelieveinc.7748]

You certainly look happy Dr. Apoki. That is always admirable. The thing is men sometimes "allow women" to run things because they want to keep the peace or for other reasons. But later on she will become the ruler of that marriage. This is no fun for any man. So men stand your ground early and keep it that way and don't compromise on things that will later on become unfavorable

[@Hadabaruch]

😂😂😂😂 " I am having fun." Well done, Sir.

[@gloryify6759]

Wow Marriage is a mega Sega deal. Wisdom nuggets noted.

[@danetteukattah7728]

I’m a new subscriber, your an interesting person, love your take on life.

[@udochukwusunday7325]

Pointed points. Thank you Sir.

[@nwaoduhezinna8291]

When next I am home I will definitely come and visit you. I like that you love your wife and she loves you and you all will be fine last last. Please share some of your books for us to buy and learn. 🎉

[@ontwo-wheels]

One needs alot of wisdom and maturity to consume Dr. Apoki's words. If you are emotional and quick to be vexed, thisbis not your place.

[@christianabba047]

Great advice to Dr. APO from aka legend

[@uzodikepaulinuschukwudi3696]

Woman's money is not your money, men work hard! much appreciates Daddy 🙏

[@Kengele]

TRUE #KENGELE

[@olufemiogunba6875]

Wisdom is profitable to direct.A lot of christians are sinking in the so call marriage because of fear of what people will say.

[@ignetiamashau8071]

Dr Apoki am trying to understand what you are saying as your follower. What do you mean by separation?

[@lakeside4jesus]

This is pure emotional intelligence 😍

[@nancyadima6681]

Nice message, though complicated. What do you mean by separation?? However, I have picked the lines needed... Weldone sir

[@blessingpereye1258]

😂😂😂😂 Full of wisdom

[@recyclespinning9839]

Very relevant video. Even with a business you have together with a family member , at a certain age you sell off and each take your 50% share. This way you are both free to choose the direction of your life. Sometimes one member thinks they have done everything , even though you may have done most of the work. Even better yet , as pertaining to family members, never have business together.

[@OnkOnk-ev8he]

wow,what a wonderful man,i am from imo state.i took time to read a lot from you.i am a christain sir.

[@abdulraheemaderojuadetokun9691]

Wonderful Teachings from Dr Apoki. my take home.....Understanding is not agreeing together all the time, understanding is comprehending the situation, and the person(your wife) and making the right decision. This applies to all married couples all over the world. Sometimes we are confronted with situations that warrant us to be more understanding and making the right decision, More Blessings to Dr. Stay young and Fresh Sir.

[@festusugonwokebata5318]

Sir thanks u for sharing from ur wealth of experience For we the young men and Fathers God bless 🙏

[@xtonetware5493]

You are abosolutely a phenomenom............... Wonderful man sir

[@anthonygrimaldi61]

I find your wisdom breathtaking. You have influenced my life in ways you can''t imagine. Keep making videos and sharing your wisdom to the world. Have you written books?

[@drcharlesapoki]

Lots of Books about 40. You can get them at petrapublications.com

[@TheLegend-uq1gz]

Dr. Apoki, I respect you a lot & I appreciate all your efforts helping others. However, I am begging you NOT to share your personal information on the internet. It’s okay to share with family & intimate friends. Pls protect your wife & your kids, our words are very powerful & they project images in the mind of our audience. Internet people are not really friends (may become friends one day). Just my personal opinion.

[@fiyinebenezer3724]

I think he needs someone to be able to share everything with... & while he finds that someone, if sharing on the Internet gives him peace and a mental outlet and doesn't impact his family too much, it's OK.

[@pastryshack551]

What I don't understan, you praise a woman to the hill, she is good, she gave me a good office, she did so much for me, yet he decides to separate, and she is still preparing his meals, how can you leaf a good woman? That's my problem. Make me understand this logic

[@londonshappiestbusdriver462]

Dr Apoki said he was able to write more books. He thinks clearer while he is alone. At least he & his wife are still good friends. His book of life is not yet over, there will be many chapters to come. I see this also helping a lot of men. He did not resort to beating his wife. He did not leave his family broke. He is protecting his mental health. And he is not scared that his wife will now poison his food because he left her.

[@remmykopa1049]

​@@londonshappiestbusdriver462exactly my thoughts. Only some men will understand. What is a testimony? It's when you give an account of your personal experiences in order to teach others. That's exactly what he is doing and I agree with him 💯

[@waskyhenry6306]

​@@pastryshack551 You're reading too much into his head 😔. It's called personal freedom and growth 📈. Some people will call it self actualization. Doctor Apoki is doing exactly 💯 that. Some people will resort to violence when they can't express their individual freedoms. This guy is teaching you something that will cost you a lot of money 💰 otherwise. You cannot afford to get "enslaved" in the cultural and traditional norms or religious teachings which may be alien to understand.

[@LovethJegede]

Dr Apoki so happy to see you here, God used you to save Dike life

[@Kengele]

Granpa u are spiting the real truth I have nothing other than to subscribe and follow your teachings, am from #254 Kenya ARTIST BY NAME #KENGELE

[@ValElsie1951]

Dr Apoki , I have just came across your video. I understand your point , it seems like you and your wife has grown apart. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love each other. It simply means you still care for each other but you’re much better apart. You have lots of ideas and also your wife does. Just different ways of letting it work. You owe it to yourself to be happy and have peace of mind and I think that’s the route you have taken. I found you very interesting, stay blessed and good luck to you both

[@thebeautyofnature29]

Sir, I know this to be true as well, like I said before, I'm 42 years old and I've been married for 13 years and I started to feel trapped, and I started to feel like I was losing my identity and it was like my every move or thought was dictated by my wife and it was always friction in the house... But when I moved out into our other house I became better and gained a piece of mind and were able to create new ideas and start to find myself again. But she recently convinced me to move back home and now I'm back suffering and not feeling my best as a creative person.. I'm definitely going to be moving back out and live the rest of my life a free man, I love her and we will still be together but I will be a free man to think and move how I please.

[@samlawaniunscripted]

Lol, you thought the bible was playing when it said "he who is not married should NOT attempt to find a wife else you will see problems in this life" 😂😂😂. 1 corinthians 7:27-28

[@nokukhanyamncwango5920]

Do you pray before any decision you take?