Dressing Rules I No Longer Believe (part 2)

Today I'm sharing more dressing rules I no longer believe. Subscribe here for more videos like this: bit.ly/2pFnkE7
Like my last video, these outdated dressing rules are things I've heard over the years, but no longer believe. Since giving these up, my style has improved and they may help you too. Thanks so much for watching! xx Audrey
WHAT I'M WEARING:
Top: Old from & Other Stories, no longer available but you may be able to find it on Poshmark
Light Wool Pants: Thrifted, the brand is Theory and these are very similar but made from mostly Tencel instead of 100% wool like mine are bit.ly/3OpeuWo
Belt: Vintage, purchased on Etsy a few years ago. So many great ones here bit.ly/3zqC9BC
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[@suzanneobrien5279]

Your statement "Freeing ourselves from the burden of someone else's opinion..." say's it all really. If we can manage that, then none of the ridiculous 'style rules' apply. We should all wear whatever makes us happy (of course that's easier said than done!). I'm 53 now, and have pretty much nailed how I want to look... it might not be everyone's cup of tea but I'm not dressing for them 😊 Love your videos and style journey though....and you have some beautiful pieces.

[@rosieburrows3410]

Wish I had my style worked out.. I'm 54 and still not sure 😆 Thanks for the tips, Audrey! ❤

[@zeldamorgan9260]

@@rosieburrows3410 I was feeling the same and I'm 55. I think I'm starting to get there but I need help!

[@saramm3765]

As a 5 feet petite we are told SO many rules and honestly at age 39 I'm over 99% of them and just focus on what makes me happy when I put it on. So many rules focused on how to elongate my frame and I finally realized I'm not fooling anyone because there is no grand illusion you can create when you're this short. Lol I focus more on how I carry myself like my posture and confidence.

[@zory6509]

I feel like all these rules how to make a petite woman look taller, do nothing, but make her less confident and comfortable with her height. As long as my clothes have a good fit I will wear lets say maxi skirt with flats and could care less if it makes me look that I am only 5'2". Because there is nothing wrong with being 5'2", or 5', or 4'11". 😃

[@tinamcivor2996]

I agree!! 5' tall I pretty much wore whatever I wanted all my life. As soon as I entered menopause in my 50's, weight gain made me more conscientious of how some styles are more or less flattering than others. The rules are never-ending for overweight petites so confidence and a smile are the best things in my wardrobe now!

[@MindiB]

Even if someone’s style is “too much” for me, I still love to see it! My thought is, “That person has imagination and confidence. Good for them!”

[@susannem3526]

As always you’re making great sense. Something I’m breaking free of is a rule I gave myself not to show my tummy, but when I started tucking and wearing belts my style actually became a style instead of hiding in textile. ❤️from Sweden

[@sharonbetz543]

I love your programs about clothing, and wardrobe planning, Audrey! I bought a 5 € dress in Antibes a few years ago and I am always fascinated that I get many more compliments on that than other more expensive items!

[@fshbulb1]

Probably the one rule I've actively tried to stop following is that I need to look my best every time I step out the door and that my outfit should best enhance my body shape. While it's a long journey to mentally disconnect my worth from my appearance, I'm finding freedom in just existing without the need to be seen as 'attractive'.

[@ashlynnkaplan680]

This is also a realization I’m working to accept as well! I discovered that trying to dress for my most flattering look restricted me from wearing what I really like and was most comfortable and functional. My style aesthetic became more important than my personal style. I recently let go of this mindset and put the clothes away in bins that caused me to feel uncomfortably attractive and not do the things I love to do (because the most flattering shapes were too restrictive in movement and delicate pieces I was afraid to get dirty!)

[@jillianwickham31]

@@kimberlyperrotis8962 Omgoodness yes! Let’s just let a shift dress be what it is. Everyone wants to put a belt on everything! You’re still attractive if we can’t see what your waist is up to 😂

[@jillianwickham31]

I think a woman can’t be truly beautiful unless she’s comfortable. Of course, there are exceptions to this. Perhaps what is comfortable isn’t doing you any favors (like a sweatshirt with stains and holes or an outfit which shows way too much flesh). Very often, though, true style expressed confidently is what others are drawn to.

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

You are harming yourself 😂

[@tunacangirl5140]

This is so true…. I’m on vacation with my older sister and she asked me why I wasn’t wearing the best of the best as she knows I can afford it. I told her I wear what I like and makes me comfortable. Everything else is irrelevant.

[@michelehayes9509]

I had a bit if a chuckle that anyone would buy a $200 white t-shirt. I'm known for the odd dining mishap or coffee drinking mishap while wearing white t-shirts lol. Needless to say I go through them fairly often, so a $20 (or less) t-shirt works best for me.

[@angelmuscledoc]

I got a chuckle too😀

[@sarahv8176]

I won't even buy them, no matter the price! A black dog, two young kiddos, and I work in an elementary school...nope.

[@michelehayes9509]

@@sarahv8176 totally understand 😁

[@tinamcivor2996]

Me too! Love a bunch of "not $200" white tees for summer!

[@luluah1198]

@@sarahv8176 may be I’m a cheap skate but £16 for a plain white T-shirt ??? 😂

[@seekingserenitydaily]

Great topic! I'm a 60 year old junior high school Career and Technology teacher that has seen fashion trends and guidelines come and go so I can relate to many of the things you have touched upon today! It's important that my style is fresh and relevant but also appropriate for my age and position. The disregard for "size" restrictions has been important ... all that matters is the fit and comfort level throughout the day, the color matching guidelines are much looser (navy and black are one of my favorite combos) and the price paid for trendy vs. classic items has also fluctuated over the years! As you can imagine, comfortable shoes, sturdy basics and a work-horse "teacher tote" is where the bulk of my fashion budget goes! Keep up the great work!

[@denisedorsey2889]

Had to chuckle a bit…I love jewelry, but there are so many jobs (like teaching) that require an ID worn on a lanyard that it just makes no sense to wear necklaces. Have to save them for going out, but THAT doesn’t happen often 😂

[@Tealeafsong]

You are right about navy and black! I love wearing them together these days :)

[@marg6196]

Love navy & black!

[@janeburkhart4051]

This was wonderful! I also fell victim to the 'remove one piece of jewelry before you leave the house' rule. I slowly started to add back that one piece and it really felt great! Something else I changed is the shape I file my nails. I did the square or squoval for a long time because that's what everyone was doing, but I finally realized it just doesn't suit me. I've gone back to just oval, more tapered and it looks much better. For me my nails are a fashion accessory.

[@jillianwickham31]

I love oval nails!

[@Tealeafsong]

Oval nails are rich and classic. You make a good point about following our felt sense. It just feels right and looks great. For me it was the opposite: I wore oval nails and quite a bit of jewelry because of the cultural expectations of my time (I'm older) When I finally started squaring my nails I liked my hands much more and in spite of my age, I now wear a very vibrant lip in red and fucia and otherwise natural makeup. (I ditched the smoky eye in any form) I've also started to wear minimal jewelry ~ Just earrings or a statement necklace or a bold bracelet. Sometimes only my wedding rings! It just feels right. I have a friend who says she always needs some sparkle and fun: sparkly lip gloss and fun earrings look effortless, and witty on her. (She has some Eifel tower earnings in gold that are bright sophistication on her) In the same, I just look silly somehow. These days bold lipstick is an accessory for me like nails are for you.

[@mgparis]

I couldn't agree more! Plus people forget that Mlle Chanel, who came up with that rule, piled on the jewellery herself! So if she removed one piece, she'd still be left with a lot, whereas if people who only wear a couple of pieces remove one piece, they might be left with "too little", i.e. the outift would have looked better with more jewellery, not less!

[@AO-oy4rf]

Agree I do not like square nails - especially when they are long - yuk. Also never liked the black nail polish.

[@edennis8578]

I think it depends on the shape of your fingers. Oval nails are far prettier and more feminine on most women, in my opinion, for what it's worth.

[@AlishaPeisha]

I love how calming and peaceful you are! I want to be calm like you! I also love what you said about doing what feels right to you. I think this applies to every aspect of our lives!

[@donnadavis5544]

I have to be at least twice your age and everything you say is absolutely so relevant to me and my style journey! Loved everything you shared today. It felt so freeing !!!❤️

[@marialovesmusicalot]

I think Audrey is an old soul 🥰

[@cmlake89]

That first rule reminds me of my Granny's best friend, and Gayfers coworker, Gerta. I was four years old when I first met Gerta, she had a thick German accent and had jewelry layered around her neck with rings on every finger. As a child she was like a department store queen to me. I first met her in the gift wrapping department and my granny set me on the counter to talk to Gerta. We made fast friends and as I touched the many necklaces hanging from her neck, she scooped one off and put it around my neck to keep. She was a light in our lives and when my granny had cancer, Gerta shaved her head with her. The woman that was all about adorning herself had no hesitation shaving her head for a friend. My granny passed and I'm 33 now but I hope Gerta is well or at peace wherever she may be. Gerta was a gaudy and wonderful queen!

[@tripunk]

thank you for the comment about impulse buys!!!! I have had some amazing finds in thrift stores or at random sales online and I always felt guilty for not buying things only on my wish list

[@indupartha9423]

I love how your latest videos showcase your growth mindset and willingness to pivot in new directions!

[@elizabethalyn]

Learning about high-quality clothing from your videos has been a lifesaver. I recently found a 2-ply cashmere sweater in the thrift store for $5 because of your advice to check for quality!

[@Tealeafsong]

Audrey, I think that charcoal may be your "black" It reads as very subtle and elegant on you with the softened white that you favor. I have a friend who swears by a bittersweet dark chocolate color and navy as her "black. Ironically, I avoided black until I was 45 because of cultural connotations with funerals (sadly, I was attending too many during those years :( I started wearing black on a friends suggestion and discovered that jet black and pristine, bright white always gets me compliments. What is fascinating is that if I wear grey or muted/greyed colors people ask me if I am tired! On you they look elegant, subtle and harmonious. So interesting about the individuality of these classic so-called "basic" colors.

[@dschultz6981]

Yes, Audrey, please share more videos about releasing yourself from "rules" and conventions. I'm breaking free from the Marie Kondo rule of "sparking joy." For too long, that kept me restricted and feeling like if I didn't absolutely have this over-the-moon feeling for something, I couldn't buy/keep it. Right now I'm moving toward simply liking and enjoying my wardrobe. That feels like enough for me. :) Keep up the great work!

[@mistress.villaina7591]

I see what you are saying, just wanted to chime in that Marie Kondo recommended touching or feeling the object physically and observing what reactions it caused within you to determine whether the item was worth keeping. her interpretation of sparking joy is that quiet knowing that says "yes" or "no". it is an intuitive and not an intellectual type of decision-making. I think this gets lost in translation between what she is promoting vs how western audiences perceive it. here in the west, we think it has to mentally inspire us in a huge way when we think of the phrase "spark joy". we think if we see/think of/use that object, that we must feel elated while doing so. but this is not what she is promoting, especially due to her former background as a priestess. as westerners, we intellectualize a lot, and I've seen other people interpret the KonMari method to be exactly how you did and then get confused because it is not practical or sensible. If you read her book or watch the Netflix show, it is more connecting with how you truly feel about your belongings without being influenced by various reasons that we think we should keep them (it was a gift, this would suit my image, this is practical bc of xyz, etc). It sounds like you are already following the KonMari method, the way you have described "simply liking and enjoying" your wardrobe.

[@dschultz6981]

@@mistress.villaina7591 Thanks for the explanation - I appreciate it. :) What you say makes sense and gives me a better understanding of what the KonMari method means.

[@mistress.villaina7591]

@@dschultz6981 of course :) i didn't really understand it either until I saw her Netflix show and how she was advising each family. I also don't use too many rules for my wardrobe. once I found out what I was comfortable with, it was easy to admit that I had a few things that I didn't feel totally like myself in and not get too stuck in rules which takes the fun away for me

[@superbettynow]

It absolutely makes sense that removing accessories would NOT be the right thing for you, because you are a Flamboyand Gamine and really shine with all those extra details 🙂 I've been wearing far too many details for years and only just realised that I shine so much brighter without them, because I am a Soft Classic. Since learning my Kibbe ID I've really started paying attention to the recommendations by different KZbinrs - which of course are a result of their own body type so are right for them, but not necessarily others. Leaning about Kibbe has been a game changer for me! (And no doubt you, too, Audrey. It's lovely to see you really embracing your FG-ness while still rocking the classic style you love so much.

[@anonymousravenclaw3364]

I gave up on the idea of dressing as per age. If it fits and is flattering, i'mma rock that scrunchie although it's more of a Gen Z thing. Currently I'm loving balloon sleeves in blouses and dresses so I do get them. I've always been petite so I've always shopped XS and S size. These days I'm opening up to the idea of trying M and even L size. Fit still matters to me, size doesn't. No one's gonna come and ask me what size I'm wearing as long as it fits me well & I'm confident enough to carry it.

[@riggs20]

I’m 47 and have a worn scrunchies since I was a kid in the ‘80s. I refused to stop wearing them when they became unpopular, and I’m still wearing them now that they’re regaining popularity. I’ll continue sporting them when they go out of style again. They hold your hair firmly but don’t tear it. There is no better product out there to hold a ponytail. Long live the scrunchy!

[@anonymousravenclaw3364]

@@riggs20 your comment is so cheerful and inspiring. I know I'm gonna wear blush even when it goes out of trend. I have never been able to figure out contouring but blush is love. Trends come and go but I'll keep what makes me happy and you should too!

[@janetstraw191]

I am SO glad to hear that navy and black actually do go together - so when I went out recently with one shoe black and the other one navy, I was right on-trend!!😂

[@d18nac]

🤣🤣🤣X

[@janetstraw191]

@@d18nac 💕🙋‍♀️

[@susankrulikowski2474]

Hi Audrey, your videos are always so informative and not the typical ones I see on KZbin! I always have problems with finding the right t-shirts that don’t end up getting small holes after a few washes. I would love to see a video comparing t-shirts - quality, fit, price.

[@SusanBRoman-ch9bm]

Love this video. Your style really has evolved; you look more youthful and relaxed.

[@Martina_E]

I agree

[@MsJudiV]

I love your light kind energy and open approach to fashion!

[@margarets1449]

Yes! Navy and black are beautiful together. The rule I do not trust is "always needing to buy the highest quality you can afford." I do have pieces that are considered lower quality, but have lasted many, many years, fit in my wardrobe, and looked great on me. Your advice is wise and freeing! Thank you!

[@CindyG-NYC]

One of my best finds of the past few years is a navy & black tweed skirt. It's so versatile. I'm happy that I didn't listen to the little voice in my head that told me...well, you know.😀

[@joycekellner9957]

You have a lovely voice and great personal style--sleek, classic and understated. The problem is so many women are insecure and don't really know what suits them, or what is worth spenidn some bucks on and what doesn't matter so much.

[@aloe9179]

I liked your last point here. My issue is most people shown online are at least 5"5 and very slim so they never look the same on me who is 5"2 and very curvy and hips. I would love to see more of a range of people who upload to SM but a quick Google of outfits brings a similar body type.

[@Divinenubian]

I never listened to fashion opinions of others. I wear what I feel good in based on my unique style. I thifted quality items instead wasting money. The luxury community is part of the problem with over consumption. Good video!

[@judithrobinson8344]

I have watched many KZbin channels on decluttering your wardrobe, also I had my colour and style analysis done recently ( and it was not cheap)and when I looked at what everyone was saying I realised I was getting depressed as I could not afford what they say I should wear and the lady who did my style analysis told me my clothes and style was not good and made me feel terrible. I have now put this behind me and do and wear what I want and I have my spark back. This has just come at the right time for me as people are start to comment how nice I look

[@mkendralandry1693]

Thank you so much for sharing these! I’ve felt so much freer since I started dressing for myself instead of others. A couple of rules I broke out of when I was younger were that 1. That I have to dress my age. My grandmother was a model in the sixties and always encouraged me to wear whatever felt right to me. So I’ve always tried to mix my favorite vintage pieces with some more modern ones that feel true to me, because I strive for the effect of timelessness. It’s served me well and has kept me out of too many “oh gosh, I can’t believe I used to wear that” moments. 2. There’s a reason there is a “boyfriend” fit, I don’t believe that you can only buy from the women’s section, especially for second hand and vintage shopping. One of my favorite things to wear is an oversized men’s blazer, I get compliments on it whenever I wear it, and people are often surprised that it’s a mens jacket, but it’s a staple piece for me and my style.

[@sadiaarman363]

I wear genuine leather cream shoe sandals with back straps and a nice front. I have worn them everywhere for an year!! They are comfortable and stylish and very adaptive to different events and places. I purchased them from the men' s department. 😅

[@truecrimenut6696]

Love these videos Audrey!! Do as many as you like…I always learn from you.

[@Gnv-q2m]

Thank you. I really enjoyed your thoughtful take on this topic and would enjoy more videos like this. Regarding jewellery, your images reflected monochromatic or neutral looks with low intensity and few frills or patterns so I would imagine that accessorizing with more jewellery is spot on. I’m lazy when it comes to jewellery although I choose my ear rings for the week ahead and choose my outfits accordingly. This encourages me to break out the armwear. I work on a laptop so I consider it an inconvenience but I definitely could incorporate it more often.

[@carolbohn5900]

I loved this video Audrey, as it was so refreshing. We usually hear rules about how to dress better, for our body, our height, and our style whether it's classic, bohemian, sporty or edgy. I've read a lot about French chic and how to emulate French women. There are so many articles on Pinterest and videos on KZbin on the subject. I find the minimalist mentality of the French very attractive, but there are so many rules, such as stick to neutrals and dress in a very understated way. Despite loving the look, sometimes it seems rigid. Do all French women look alike?! I'm fighting not wearing bright colours occasionally or a statement piece of jewellery, or having a few prints in my wardrobe. It's a breath of fresh air to add color or "break the rules" now and then. Let's give ourselves some leeway!

[@gloriawelles5534]

I love that you addressed “investment dressing.” This is a great concept when you can afford it. But we all know that females have historically been underpaid when compared to men of the same age. And urging young women to spend on “investment pieces” guarantees that they will remain behind those men when it comes to home ownership, investments, personal wealth, etc. What young woman can afford a $2,000 coat? Women will never get ahead financially if they keep buying into this concept wholesale. Your white T-shirt example was perfect and can be applied to many more “basic” pieces.

[@edennis8578]

I agree, investment dressing isn't practical for most of us, especially at that level. For me, an investment price for a coat would be about $500, not 2,000. Maybe $1,000 if I were sure that it would last at least 5 years, preferably 10. Where I live, it would have to be just because I wanted it, though, because nobody's going to be impressed by such an expensive coat.

[@susanyakus7364]

I adore adding scarves to outfits. Accessories add so much! One tip I learned from another KZbinr, was to take a scarf and run it through the two front belt loops. Then tie it. It helps to hide a tummy and adds another dimension to your outfit. I like the idea of going up one size. Too tight of an outfit only draws attention to the areas we don't want to emphasize. Thanks for all the good tips!

[@maricakez]

Re: navy/black… I also love this combo. Giorgio Armani does it all the time on the runway 😏for both male and female styles

[@litebriteeyes]

Great video, as always! I still do a variation of the "take one thing off" rule. I look to see if I need to take one thing off. Sometimes I don't but sometimes I do!

[@fazdoll]

Dressing rules I (personally) don't follow: pretty much anything modern! While I love watching videos about capsule wardrobes to mix with existing generic pieces, it just doesn't work for me. Instead, my closet is full of self-contained matchy-matchy outfits. One dress with a dedicated sweater, or a skirt with one or two matching tops, or a dedicated knit pant/top, matching earrings/necklace, somewhat versatile shoes/boots. It's a very out-of-fashion way to dress, but I love it, it works for me, some of those outfits are 15+ years old, and I still get compliments. I guess that's all that matters.

[@heidi1000]

I actually dress this way too! I actually do this because of anxiety, and if I organize and plan ahead I know things will work and I don't have to panic. I also get compliments often and that always makes me feel good! :)

[@MZ-arch]

Great content, thank you, Audrey. I followed your KZbin channel for years and can see that you are clearly maturing with your style approach. Well done!

[@tanyabooysen3958]

Such a great video and I can’t agree more, what I’ve discovered lately is that there are great pieces in the men’s department that I really like especially shirts and I just swop out the buttons for a more feminine look.

[@Lin-1785]

Every piece of advice here is spot-on and made me exhale with relief. I have always loved black and navy, so huzzah. I definitely liked and benefitted from both these videos. ❤U.

[@pajamamama5965]

Great video! I'm definitely one of those who always thought Navy and Black were no together. Recently I was in a dressing room trying on a dark blue blouse while wearing a pair of jet black shorts. I was so surprised how good that look together and sophisticated. Then it occurred to me that the blue shirt was just a saturated shade of Navy. I had to rethink that idea, and it made me realize that perhaps the problem is that blacks tend to lose they're pigment and begin to look dull and washed out. They become too similar to the navy. I ended up buying that blouse with the intention of wearing it together with the black and excited about a new look in my closet.

[@YOLONOW5280]

Omg love this video. Two blazers in the donate pile right now going back in my closet. They are a bit big but with sleeves pushed up and worn open they look great. You saved me some serious money 💰🙏🏽. Also, white and cream in the winter my new fav rule to break.

[@janetjaken1389]

Been there done that! And the things I have gotten rid of that I regret just because someone made a comment. 🥺

[@begonial6151]

I agree with your rule breaking. One thing I have discovered is that you absolutely must try things on creatively and avoid pairing the same pieces over and over again. I have often been surprised at an unusual combination, so my rule is take the time to try it out before you rule it out. Thanks. Great video.

[@normabermudez155]

Good for you!, I'm tired of all this rules that are restricting a person feel the way they want. I'm petite and like midi dresses and skirts and if I look in the mirror and like what I see I will wear it.

[@The_2000s_Sabrina]

I enjoy your videos so much! There is always evolution in your style. Love this outfit, so on trend right now…And the hair is the cherry on the cake!

[@sharonbrinders1224]

Hi Audrey 💖 thank you for sharing this video, I enjoyed your content and yes please do more. I have never paid attention to any dressing rules, always wore clothes I felt comfortable with. Simply loved the outfits you showed in this video, it looked amazing. Remain blessed xxx

[@jessiebaker9313]

One 'rule' I'd love to hear you talk about is age related. For example, "Women over 50 shouldn't..."

[@andreiadetavora8471]

Hi Jesse!! I'm not Audrey, but i have a beautiful mom with 72 years old :) I think that age shouldn't define what you wear. It all depends on body type (what's more flattering on you), personal colour, etc. However, i do think that we- no matter our age-, should dress always by occasion, self love and respect, and yes, i adore some modesty in my choices of clothes :D . Like i stay away from: things too short, too revealing/provocatively on a regular basis... One thing is what i wear to a pub with my husband, and the other is what i wear to work or to visit my family! That said: if you love colour: use it. If you love a tasteful decotage: use it. If you love to wear a dress: please use it!! Life is to be enjoyed, all the time :) no matter our age (i'm in my late forty's, almost 50!) :) Much love!!

[@lisaineurope]

@@andreiadetavora8471 I agree. Good advice from you.

[@Anamarie157]

I agree..I would love Audrey's thoughts on red heads not wearing red.. I'm 50 & have never worn red..but I love purples 💜 & emerald green 💚

[@BubblyViolin11]

She has a video about age appropriate dressing from a few years ago, and it’s a refreshing take on the topic.

[@BbGun-lw5vi]

@@Anamarie157 I love redheads in red! I always thought it was so weird that that was even a rule. I think what’s important is finding a red that goes with your skin tone. A muted, warm red if you’re autumn; a bright, warm red if you’re spring; a muted, cool red if you’re summer; or a bright cool red if you’re winter.

[@deborahmichele]

I believe the saying "Take off one accessory before you leave the house" was directed at upper class women who would be dripping with diamonds and baubles around their necks, hanging from their ears and possibly clanging around their wrists, so they wouldn't look like a Christmas tree when they went outside. Chanel was born in 1883. I think things have changed a lot since then and this suggestion is WAY out of date for Most women. Good suggestions.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

I tried following this saying from Coco Chanel for a few years and it gave me so much anxiety! I think you are completely right with the context of the era in which she said it.

[@CitizenTurtleIsland]

Ha ha. In my case, I ususally have to ask myself what it is the one thing I need to add to look more finished/polished.

[@edennis8578]

I agree, although middle class women also wore a lot of accessories. My aunts, born before WW1, would wear earrings, a necklace, a brooch, a watch, a bracelet, and maybe a big ring, besides their wedding rings. For myself, I don't have the patience to don all of that stuff anyway. Earrings and one other accessory is my speed, and that's as much as I see on most women.

[@bettywest7997]

You really clarify how to wear navy and black. Thank you. Love your voice and speaking ability.

[@jesss2145]

I totally agree about the impulse purchases! My best purchases have been things I found randomly and immediately knew I loved them. I usually don't come across those things when I'm consciously looking. You'd think it would be unique pieces that I buy impulsively, but I found some of my best basics when I've had a couple drinks and hit some shops with a few girlfriends.

[@janetmckenzie146]

I love this video-I’ve always felt constrained by fashion ‘rules’ and whether I am following them, which has always limited my freedom of expression. I’ve found that I like to stick with neutrals plus one or two colors, using accessories to switch things up. But what I realize is that I want to focus on jewelry. I have very few pieces of jewelry right now, and I’m so looking forward to expanding my collection. For me, this is my most important area for personal expression, I’ve just never thought of it that way before watching your channel. Plus, adding jewelry makes me feel ‘dressed’ and ready to go, whatever I’m dressed casually or more formally. 🦋

[@lindatyler4331]

Thank you for confirming that some items do not need to be expensive in a closet to be a positive place holder.

[@dianaragub-schwartz4416]

Thank you! When I started watching you, you did put it out there that quality pieces seem to be the ones that are more expensive. You seem to like classic pieces that were out of my budget and I didn't mind. Each person has a different level of spending and budget and that is entirely up to each person how much you are willing to spend. I know most of what you wear are out of my income bracket lol but I searched for them in thrift stores and tried on pieces that have the same style or fabric in the hopes that I may get a long wear out of them. As I curate my style, I have found pieces from thrift stores that have held the test of time. But that being said, I do appreciate that you kind of recognized that sometimes, a cheaper t-shirt works just as well as something from Net-A-Porter. lol!

[@mariawelling4194]

You look stunning Audrey! ❤️

[@amyethridge1798]

Truly appreciate this video! The navy and black thing has been a doozy for me but it’s a combo that I’ve found I can actually pull off.

[@EasrterRising1fan]

My grandmother use to wear Navy and Black all the time when I was young. she was the most stylish woman that I knew.

[@suzannebell51]

One of the style rules I grew up hearing that I've freed myself from is "blue and green should never be seen" - I love both colours and they often look great together

[@cordulam]

And there is even a classic pattern named "blackwatch" (Dark blue and dark green checkered).

[@annewatkis5824]

Today I saw a photo of Helen murres in a blue fitted day dress with a crew neck collar. What amazed me was that she had on a v shaped necklace which, even with the crew neck collar, elongated her neck and torso. Loved it.

[@SusanBame]

A rule I made for myself when I started Goodwill shopping in the 2000s was only buy what I would gladly pay full price for. Itʻs saved me a lot of money, time, and wasted hemming-and-hawing, debating whether I should buy it (I kinda sorta need it???) or not. And, these days, with the local Goodwill, itʻs getting to the point where the Goodwill price is close to the full retail price anyway. 🙄

[@edennis8578]

I did buy a blazer for $2 once that taught me a valuable lesson. It was a plaid blazer, a big red plaid, and I tried it on at home and had immediate regret! Now I remember to pass by any item of clothing in a big, bright plaid. That image is burned into my brain forever!

[@kwgboissy]

Love the advice on wearing navy and black!

[@maricelg777]

Happy Sunday, Audrey 🤍😊

[@szczepaniakk]

Really great content. Always learning a lot from you. Thanks for sharing!

[@heatherframpton9693]

Thanks for this practical content for creating our individual style, Audrey. 😁

[@kateionescu8232]

You made my day today! I’m so happy to hear from you ❤️

[@conniepleasantnails]

My wardrobe building rule I definitely break is the one you mentioned on the cost of items you purchases. I purchase brands I love. So it’s not always an expensive brand. Example, I recently replaced my white T-shirt with one from Target. I like the length and shape and I don’t wear white T-shirts all year long, mostly in our Fall/Winter they tend to last. So I don’t have a price point rule more like a rule of will it last for the use I give it for this particular item. ❤️ Nice to see you Audrey and thank you 😊

[@CarolineSdm]

Ohh I also just recently starting wearing navy and black together and I love it! 😄

[@brond13]

Love this video!! More please ^_^ Thank you Audrey!

[@sm13464]

Audrey, I can’t tell you how much I enjoy your videos. Your clothing choices are very classy and I totally identify with you. Also, your voice is sooo soothing! Where do you film? Looks somewhere in Europe! Anyway, thank you for your videos they have helped me choose more quality pieces instead of quantity.

[@DMshell17]

I loved this video! One thing I let go of was “don’t wear white after Labor Day.” This is a rule that makes no sense and white looks good in every season.

[@dallysanta]

agreed!👍

[@大頭三家姐]

Will you make a fall winter 22/23 fashion trend video soon? Thanks!

[@irenegathuru9391]

I love your styling series. Could you talk about chic styling with casual wear (e.g. athletic wear)? I love to see what you would recommend.

[@dianaa8125]

wow I know you have different coloring but the grace you hold yourself with, reminds me a lot of rosalind pike!

[@lynnetrue4103]

I love these videos and hearing you are loosening up a bit in relation to your style journey. I love the enlightened you and your evolving style..... Resubscribing now! That off the shoulder top you're wearing is stunning on you and is fabulous with the trousers! Thank you!

[@sheilakosoff5806]

I have rejected that if I want to look classy, I should only wear neutrals. I now live in print midi dresses and I am finally happy with my style!

[@kimberlysmith2350]

So glad you’ve changed your ways!

[@clementineclement5757]

The ancient rule "no white shoes past summer" has always made me laugh to tears. Reminds me of the final scene in "Serial Mother" when Kathleen Turner gives herself away by shouting at the lady in white pumps at Court. Here in the south of France we have no objection about wearing white shoes all year round. Perhaps not big white pumps indeed that might remind one of a bride, but otherwise nothing more elegant than a pair of lovely white patent mocassins. White boots as well.

[@suzetteterry1497]

Your last tip for oversized is the one that has shifted things for me! Thanks for confirming it!

[@SaschaBraus77]

Could you do a video on what makes a cloth high quality?

[@CS-ly3lx]

The rule about "always removing one piece of jewelry" before you leave the house is attributed to Coco Chanel, but if you look at some of her most famous pictures, she is wearing like 15 necklaces, ten bangles on each wrist, earrings, a pin, hair decoration, and probably fancy shoes, too, not to mention very expensive buttons on her jacket. So if you are already wearing thirty pieces of jewelry, it probably makes sense to remove (at least) one before you leave the house. Otherwise, wear as many as you want.

[@CM-pb7yw]

Audrey you’re the best! Loved this, thank you. ❤️🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@pattorelli3451]

Like all rules, fashion rules are made to be broken. Thanks for a great video, Audrey.

[@mthivier]

The "remove the last accessory you put on" rule is from Coco Chanel, but one has to keep in mind the time in which she said it, women had a strong tenancy to over-accessories. Watching old 1940s movies, for instance, and women are often seen wearing a necklace *and* a brooch at the same time. Even to me -- I'm in my early 60s -- wearing too many accessories like that seems a bit old fashioned and over the top.

[@vivianeduerinck5914]

Coco Chanel herself wore a lot of chunky bracelets and necklaces together.

[@megananderson3891]

As others have said, I feel like the “remove a piece before you leave” applied more when people were wearing everything and when matching sets were more of a thing. A chunky bracelet with a matching statement necklace and dangly earrings…yes take one off lol

[@hellodarknesss.myoldfriend]

when coco chanel was quoted as saying that, the style of the time was different and definitely leaned into a more maximalist aesthetic... so, i agree with you about how it doesn't apply to everyone.

[@CBeck444]

My $7 white tshirts from Walmart are wonderful!...they have all colors too.

[@kristiLB93]

Great video! I've found that I ended up breaking out of many of these style rules naturally as my style has evolved -- for instance black paired with Navy or eliminating one item/accessory before you leave the house (I think Coco Chanel may have said that). Definitely I will be leaning into sizing up on certain items - makes total sense or giving myself permission to go ahead and buy a piece I'm wild about that doesn't fit a prescribed style equation.

[@shipraprasad3427]

Loved your suggestions!! Could you please share where your long brown jacket is from? It looks so chic.

[@simplysilent2980]

Great topic as always. Thanks for sharing.

[@carolann6158]

Wish I knew where you buy all those boat neck tops! Love them but find them hard to locate.

[@patriciainportland5567]

A way to sum up your fashion growth is, "no the rules to know how to break the rules."

[@theSuchada]

I really love the idea of trying on an outfit and then wearing it for the day to see how you feel! =)

[@chelfie3000]

All of your backgrounds are amazing 🤩

[@shannonajordan2345]

I started this on my own in the past couple of years!

[@ma.isabelcano431]

Love your top!!

[@kittykittoon]

Love the logical 'de-bunks'. Thank you.

[@kateionescu8232]

After watching your full video, I have a request, could you please inform us on jacket/blazer fit and length to flatter different body types? I’ve been looking for a blazer and they all seem so long in comparison with my short and heavy thighs. I’ve heard you should try and conform to the 2/3 rule but it doesn’t seem possible with blazers and jeans. I need your help.

[@alinam8854]

I don't wear heels anymore. They are painful in the moment and damaging to the toes, knees, and spines in the long run. Same for the narrow toe flats. If your big toe is pointed towards the second, congrats, the narrow shoes deformed your feet, and you're on the way to bunions. Who created these torture devices and why are we still conditioned to genuinely view them as comfortable? Eh... Another thing: I don't care that the long coats aren't recommended for anybody other than tall, I feel badass in an open long dramatic coat that drapes when I walk, and I get compliments on that. I'm 5'4-5'5.

[@britneydaniels6294]

Love this video! Where did you get the black jeans, I’ve been searching high and low.

[@dinakossifaki9232]

In my opinion black and navy Is an amazing colour combination. I always wear it, especially during winter. A rule that i don't believie Is that black Is not suitable for summer. I love wearing Black in summer despite living in a Hot country

[@cindyfoley1675]

Yes! Navy and black!!!