Cluster B personality disorders - Are They Actually Mental Illness?

[@BeccaJay]

“Your personality is what makes people dislike you”…I felt this so hard I fell off the couch.

[@GETBENT1331]

@MadisonRhea your bpd is not a real mental illness. it is just how you are. your personality is the way you are and putting a name to your personality does not make it an illness. you need to take a long look at yourself and the type of person you are. maybe you will start to see things not there.

[@divinityomine6935]

@@GETBENT1331 which; you OBVIOUSLY don't and don't have any room in this convo.

[@LouLou.97]

@@GETBENT1331 Everyone has a personality, but not everyone has a personality disorder. Just because someone has BPD it doesn't make them a bad person. Educate yourself before insulting a person.

[@GETBENT1331]

@@divinityomine6935 ok, i get $4800 a month in disability for a schizophrenia condition. telling me i do not have a condition i never applied disability for, and was forced to retire from the military for, and i am forced to take medications for and do not believe i have. is a waste of your time. i do not get emotional.

[@GETBENT1331]

@@LouLou.97 i never said they are a bad person. i quoted the video saying that personality disoders are not mental illnesses. is everything in the DSm 5 a mental disorder? is pedophilia a mental disorder?

[@echase416]

My husband is a psychiatrist here in Canada. If he’s doing disability forms for patients, he never puts ‘personality disorder’ (or ‘addictions’) on the form. He will put every other diagnosis such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, developmental issues etc. etc. Putting personality disorder or addiction on a disability application -> ‘Denied’. There’s a lot of stigma and prejudice out there.

[@cheetobandido546]

Yep!

[@chronischtelaat]

That's really sad. It should be considered a disability. In the Netherlands addiction is considered an illness. For example your employer can't fire you for having an addiction. The employer is required to make sure you get proper treatment.

[@arliciawalker]

Very true here in Arizona, filling out the insurance forms

[@jccusell]

What if someone just feels like he or she wants to be an ahole and doesn't care about anyone or anything else. He or she knows they ought to, or that it is expected of them, to be at least moderately ncie, but they are like "neh, f it, can't be bothered." IS that a personality disorder? Or are you being an ahole? It is difficult to decern the difference, thus the stigma.

[@davidferencz9640]

@@jccusell Anti-social Personality Disorder.

[@lukaj679]

All my friends that have personality disorders had unstable and neglectful childhoods, me included. I'm not a professional, but I've seen the most healing come from being in a stable enough place emotionally and physically to work on that childhood trauma and how it affects the way you treat yourself and those around you now. It feels like it takes a whole reality shift, which I think happens through age as well and might be a factor in how personality disorders manifest differently over time.

[@pyujeh6207]

This is the most insightful comment I've ever seen about PD. In my experience, this is exactly the case. Moreover, I fought for the stability knowing I could use it to fix the roof while the sun was shining. Have been in self-funded therapy for five years. Always knew there was a problem and have always tried to move past it. Have BPD and NPD. Funnily enough, people who know me don't seem to think I'm a bad person. They think I'm a "nice knob" who had had a very painful, difficult life and who always tries to better themselves.

[@wendi2819]

Well put. 40 yrs ago I felt like I would never stop the psychic pain in my brain/mind. But as I gained more life experience, with help from many therapies I matured, developed a stable sense of self and aged out of many unhealthy personality traits. It did take work.

[@justrest45]

On point! Feel the exact same way.

[@ElliotFlowers]

@@pyujeh6207 I always knew I had a core problem and so drank. Still have the core problem (personality disorders), but now know what they are. And knowing why I feel and act like I did/do makes it easier to modify my actions, which improves my feelings, which reduces the severity of the disorders. Being told I was evil and possessed at 15 didn't help much though.

[@JDforeveralone]

Reality shift ... Or a horrific event whereby you realise that you are the cause of it and then start to research about this whole issue "why am I like that and that". Then a huge can of worms opens and you are confronted with things which happened or didn't happen and should have (emotional neglect) back in your early days. All of sudden you look at yourself in the mirror and ask who are you? Reparation or asking forgiveness or making up - not possible cos that loved one isn't with you anymore. Just pick up the pieces of your broken life and see how to help the rest of the ones around you. Make them aware that it's not their fault that they've developed traits of different disorders but that it's a result of passed down unresolved generational trauma. Wish I knew I wasn't normal some 25 years ago..... Destiny.

[@ynntari2775]

It's very important to make it clear that "runs in family" does not mean it's genetic. Culture, behaviours and beliefs are very easily passed down from parents to children. That's *memes* (in the original meaning of the word), not *genes.* These things are memetically transmitted.

[@janayclark1152]

it can mean genetic as well

[@transamination]

@@janayclark1152 Yeah problem with 'its memes' concept is surely that the tendency to push memes on your children will have a genetic component, and the susceptibility to absorbing those memes and developing certain behaviours as a result will also have a genetic component. (Adopted children are more like their biological parents than their adoptive parents).

[@littlebee879]

See with borderline personality disorder (which I have) it does have a genetic component and I certainly can see which of my family members fit the criteria - based on my own experience. I am not qualified to make any such diagnosis though.

[@swankmank]

there is a strong genetic component evidenced by sex in cluster B males are 4 times more likely to have aspd whereas females are equally as likely to habe bpd

[@dand3116]

A case of. Nurture vs nature. Nurture does not always mean goodness

[@qualitydag1]

My father suffered from Narcissism and like you said, he never got over it, but it somehow was a bit better in his 70s and 80s. He would rage if I ever disagreed with him, but would apologize afterwards. I suspect it's because he didn't want to scare me away in his later years. Once, to my awe, when he was so drunk that he could barely slur his words, he cried and begged for forgiveness for the way he treated me. I was amazed! I didn't think he could ever access his deeper emotions. Perhaps 15 minutes later he returned to his defensive self. The difference was quite amazing..

[@mellie4174]

My husband's father has it. He's like 85 and systematically destroying his relationships without his kids and family. Except for one, the one that he wants to be his caretaker and is dependent on him for money. This way he has control over her. My husband was so tired of the abuse that he hasn't spoken to him in like 3 yrs.

[@dumbdonny4824]

Its wild isnt it?

[@MsTigerest]

So he knew exactly what he was doing! He treated you like crap for many years and knew that behavior was wrong and kept doing it. You didn't believe that crap right? I hope not.

[@qualitydag1]

@@MsTigerest well, as you can imagine as a young child I was very impressionable. I remember him laughing at me when I was 4 years old and I felt very strange about the way he was laughing. I won't bother you with the details but I can tell you the insanity of this man, it was more than could bare. narcissism is a very profoundly evol illness that no one can expect a person who suffers from it to be able to make good choices or I could say kind choices.

[@js8971]

My fathers world has become smaller for all the same reasons. He is the common denominator.

[@Winston0Boogie]

I'm a psych nurse. I love watching your videos since they help me learn about the patients I deal with better.

[@sarahh4458]

How about listening to your patients? They r the experts in their condition afterall!

[@niall3054]

@@sarahh4458 You need to remember that not everyone can explain how they're feeling or want to. I think the op meant it helps them understand patients who do not want to open up as much or can't :)

[@jackjack4412]

Nurses are like vegans.

[@MomoSimone22]

@@sarahh4458 just listening to your patients and not doing your research about their conditions would not be wise. Imagine going to a psychologist who never studied psychology 🙄

[@iamnotreal0717]

@@jackjack4412 ???

[@spiritedrenee9895]

Having BPD feels more like I lack any set personality. I have no clue who I really am, if I'm being honest.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Description untitled, that sounds tough to deal with. It also sounds like depersonalization. I did a video on that if you want to see if this is what you feel kzbin.info/www/bejne/q56kmIZ9iaylbq8

[@generalrepair8731]

Description Untitled I often feel like you do too I don’t know who I am just rolling with the punches.

[@terrystrayer9882]

take heart because those people that can't change and don't learn won't change the personality will be fixed their ideas will be fixed and they usually become bigots so the good news is you probably never become a bigot or racist or anything else that our society seems to Value these days which in essence really has no value in our society so you have some good news

[@raenaldo]

I concur whole heartily!

[@leahsdempsey345]

I take on different personalities depending on who I am with dunno why, I'm not trying to be fake, I hate bpd

[@DanielSRosehill]

I've never seen somebody dissect a "crazy" comment, or wall of text, so calmy and empathetically. Respect.

[@NoCashNavi]

I was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorder. I wasn't on insurance for a long time and was hospitalized for my illnesses for a week and it only got worse when I left and wasn't able to keep up with my medication. But with practicing mindfulness and CBT, I was able to significantly improve my mindset and be better to the people around me. It's been 2 years since I was hospitalized, I got insurance and used abilify for about 9 months, and then slowly tapered off of it. I'm doing so much better now and my illness rarely interferes with my life aside from anxiety, which I work through. I still occasionally deal with depersonalization, and that is still the one thing I struggle with most. I am planning to go back to a psychiatrist/therapist to help me figure it out though.

[@Selsmittenxo]

Congrats on getting better! I’m on my way

[@kristinw2862]

That takes a lot of hard work. Good job!

[@kissxthexdancer]

Proud of you!!! Keep pushing!!❤❤

[@arcticgoddess]

I'm looking into CBT right now. Talk therapy did nothing except make me feel shitty about the things I wasn't getting done.

[@canwegonowhereanyfaster2958]

It’s been shown that people with borderline personality disorder have differences in their brains from people who do not. They have over firing of an underdeveloped amygdala, and under firing of the pre-frontal cortex. This has been shown consistently with brain scans. These seem to be associated with the risk factor of developmental disorders that can be traced back to some sort of abandonment trauma or attachment disorder in childhood during key brain development stages. There is an excellent book that just came out by a brilliant woman who recovered from BPD and has the KZbin channel “Recovery Mum”. Her book is called “The Big Book on Borderline Personality Disorder”. I believe it would be helpful to anyone who suffers from any personality disorder or who loves someone with a personality disorder.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks for this. I've seen recovery mum before she has some good things to say.

[@Shortkonner]

Thank you for this information. I'm bpd. I will look into this. I have certainly come a very long long way. ♥️♥️

[@lady_destructo]

Appreciate your thoughtful comment and also for the scoop on this channel that wasn't previously known to us. You rock

[@KTKaute]

Thank you, i was about to comment the neurological evidence before i came across your comment. An overactive amygdala due to atrophy from cortisol really changes a person's function and behaviour

[@leannegrantsinclair2024]

Yes x❤

[@mariamatmos4506]

I have a bipolar disorder, diagnosed for the first time 14 years ago. I honestly don't think anyone hates me, I feel loved and valued most of the time.

[@ivymazzola1214]

Yeah that isn't a personality disorder... I think the beginning is hard to follow, you might try rewatching it to doublecheck what she was referring to.

[@melanatedestrogen668]

I wonder what it feels like to be loved and valued. 🥺

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Yeah, some of the most lovely, kind and loving people I've met have had bipolar and they've never treated anyone with disrespect and people are very fond of them. It's such a shame that narcissists sometimes claim to suffer from bipolar just because they can't admit to themselves who they really are. This adds to the stigma of bipolar disorder. Narcissism leads to abuse, bipolar doesn't!

[@AssumptionEmpty]

bi-polar is mood disorder, BPD is personality disorder, importrant distinction.

[@ohevshalomel]

@@Analysis_Paralysis As she said in the video, it is possible to have a personality disorder and a mental illness both. She even said that having a personality disorder makes it more likely that the negative aspects of the mental illness will be amplified in a person.

[@ireserena46]

I have a therapist and psychiatrist but I like the way u explain things. Thanks

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Albert. I’m glad though you have your own psychiatrist and therapist that’s wonderful.

[@thenativist3564]

These ‘mental health professionals’ doesn’t know anything. They just take your money without any results. They can all go to hell. 🔥

[@ynntari2775]

@@thenativist3564 sounds like generalisation. unfortunately, there are several of professionals like that. but more important than asking how many professionals you've seen to come to that conclusion, is asking what are you looking for in a mental health professional when you look for one? You may be looking for the tarits that are shared by the bad professionals.

[@davidprocell8138]

Me too! I have learned so much and it helps when you don’t know why you are the way you are!

[@GurmeetSingh-eh9rm]

@@DrTraceyMarks Respected madam , If personality disorders are a form of illness , why they seprated from axis 1 disorders? If APA use dimensional scale of diagnose then which is more pathological axis 1 disorders or axis 2 disorders?in hierarchy model which is more pathological state of mental health axis 1 or axis 2 ? Anxiety disorders fall below personality disorders ,in extreaminst of pathological condition or above from in scale model diagnose? Because many psychatrics said that mental disorder are same on continum , low to high . Some said axis 2 disorders are milder form of axis 1 disoders ? Yours obligated Gurmeet singh

[@MP-cm2nt]

I so admire you and your direct approach. No nonsense, yet classy and empathic. Thank you for being you.

[@milkyshakes]

lol I love that she actually responds to the hostility of that message 🤣

[@ajwriter5699]

You’re being insensitive. This man can’t help his attitude. Aggression and impatience are hallmark traits of people who suffer from BPD, BorPD, NPD, and other personality disorders. I’m sure he wasn’t trying to be intentionally disrespectful or demanding. Most likely, he’s been enamored with Dr. Marks’ degree of expertise on these topics while binge watching her videos and is desperate for an answer to help himself. Living this life ain’t no walk in the park. We, the worldwide delegation of personality disorder sufferers, regardless of Cluster, aren’t just tempestuous and expulsive little hell raisers on purpose (or without cause). We really do want help from the day to day spiral we live in that we feel incapable of managing. Most just have thee hardest time going about it the right way because calamity and burning bridges is all we know. I actually feel bad for the guy. The tone of his email screams ‘a cry for help’.

[@quentin932]

​​@@ajwriter5699ot really being insensitive by pointing out obvious hositlity. just because someone is ailed by personality disorders or illnesses doesnt give them the ability for their rudeness to not be excused, meaning it or not.

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

@@quentin932 okay, gotta get this off my chest. But why do people keep saying this "doesnt give people the excuse" etc dont you know that most mental disorders and illnesses comes with _lack of insight_ ? Meaning the individual in question cannot usually see what they're doing is wrong or rude. It's a major part of cluster b disorders too: low emotional intelligence. So your attitude its like someone saying "I know you have cancer but... you have no excuse to keep getting sick" and then proceeding to "not excuse" the symptoms of their anguish like that is somehow productive or effective in any other way than to satisfy your resentment? It's clear this guy has a pretty unstable mind that keeps him from being poltie like the rest of us. Its *not* an excuse that says it's okay, its just the reality of his illness which can indeed make you very unpleasant. Such a lack of compassion in these comments smh and its funny cause it's not like other ppl dont know what it feels like to deal with people like this but imo that's no reason to become cold and heartless.

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

@@ajwriter5699 i agree and tbh maybe this is not the best thing to say. But I think this doctor is a hack and typical ytber, she didnt have to reply to this person if she felt he was untoward and then she proceeded to psychoanalyze someone she hasn't even met. These "psychology" channels are just weird and defintely not made for those grappling with illness but for cheap entertainment by the looks of it fueled by the fractured personal lives of subscribers. This video meant a lot to this guy (you can tell) and this woman really fucked with him at the end. While what she may have said about his future might be true, it was not right to break it to him in that way in this format. Thing is, its unlikely because shes careless with people, I mean.. shes a literal therapist which means to an extent she must have known and that's just fucking cruel. Plus who knows what this guy is capable of.. :/

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Yeah, this was so funny and entertaining, but also informative! 😄

[@darkdork1012]

This is for anyone out there with issues they can't get help with. I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 22. I was also (and still am) a binge eater. When I was 23 I started a gym routine and forced myself to exclusively eat healthier foods. I lost all the weight and am really athletic now at 29. The discipline of a workout and diet routine taught me how to better control my emotions and reactions. And customer service jobs taught me better introspection by recognizing negative behaviors in customers, and not allowing myself to exhibit those same behaviors. You gotta push yourself. Every day. Stop telling yourself you'll do it later. Tell yourself you gotta do it now.

[@insomniacraccoon]

i needed this. recent BPD diagnosis has been a ride... i always suspected that i had it but to have my therapist confirm it for me was something. now i'm running into a wall. a wall of people saying all people with BPD are abusive and should be avoided at all costs because we're monsters. that theres no hope for us and all we do is cause pain. these are things i beat myself up over. i dont want to hurt anyone. but i'm being pushed by people who insist that i deserve to be alone. the last thing i want is to hurt anyone or drive them away. i'm so scared of being alone but i am also scared i might unintentionally hurt the people i care about. i feel hopeless honestly.

[@darkdork1012]

@@insomniacraccoon I hear ya. When I was first diagnosed I didn't believe it. I've never even taken medication for it and ik I'd be doing better with it now. I hate it when I lose self control. It doesn't matter if I feel like my reaction was justified, I still feel like trash and wish I would've handled myself more calmly. But I've also been catching myself and forcing myself to act calm in those situations, and then the real self control and calm kicks-in and I handle myself better. I always feel better when I don't let myself overreact. It's hard at first but gets easier. Learning focus is the first step.

[@darkdork1012]

@@insomniacraccoon And fully understanding what boundaries are and how they work. Being respectful of others and ignoring people who don't respect you. And behaving respectably at all times. This matters for family interactions too. Like I'm a goofy offensive hyperactive knucklehead by nature. But I have to act calm even if I feel my behavior is harmless. I know how I'd feel if I saw another grown man acting like me lmao 😂 But the same thing for my anger, or when I'm having anxiety problems. Gotta push through it.

[@dougmullen899]

You are a phenomenal educator. You make these concepts so understandable

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Doug! 😊

[@littlebee879]

LOVE THIS!!! I have borderline personality disorder - diagnosed in the fall of 2019. My diagnosis was such a relief because I finally understood why my world would feel like it was literally ending by small triggers and why I could go from zero to a thousand in a second! I’m continually working on improving my life, my reactions to things, and how I move through this world despite my personality disorder and my mood disorders! Edit*** I’ve never had access to DBT but I have been through about five years of CBT and am in a point where I have developed enough strategies and life stability to take a break from therapy. I’m sure I’ll return at some point to work through other traumas but I am beyond grateful for all of the help and treatment I have gotten. It has genuinely changed my life where I feel like this life IS worth living.

[@MyLolle]

wow. i am not alone. if you think like this and feel like this and you can put it down like this… yes. those would be EXACT my words. i am sorry for your pain. i KNOW it is extreme. 🙏🏻❤️

[@alaynarenwick582]

As a therapist in training, I really appreciate your videos as they are great ways for me to refresh on concepts or see a different perspective!

[@qBeYcarpet]

That glass is three quarters empty

[@tessw9744]

HA! I said the same thing!

[@qBeYcarpet]

@@tessw9744 or I guess it could be one quarter full but that wouldnt be much more optimistic Xd

[@jessicak.8910]

Lo lol lol!!!! I seen that too!! But I though that's only 1/4th of a cup!

[@shaun_rambaran]

Maybe by volume? The bottom is wider.

[@jeanettesdaughter]

QBEY actually it simply has wine in it. How much is another matter entirely😉

[@chiedzacaroline9647]

02:47 Bipolar disorder doesn't make people hate you. Your underlying personality that comes out full force when you're ill is what makes people dislike you. Your personality is your hardwiring and how you react to the environment. But if you have an illness like bipolar disorder or anxiety, those disorders disrupt your equilibrium and can bring out the negative aspects of your personality even more. But those illnesses themselves don't make people do things to hurt other people.

[@liambraithewaite6415]

I feel age can go either way. You either burnout or your personality traits intensify even more. With narcissistic types it unfortunately seems that the latter is true as the impact of ageing and life only getting more difficult and restrictive brings out the rage and frustration even more.

[@MrW781]

Like old folks who get way deep into politics so that everyone has to step on eggshells discussing anything around them. Good point!

[@MzShonuff123]

Personality becomes more fixed with time, so you're right. What may seem like softening from the person with the personality disorder is actually that they've burned all the bridges in their life and no longer have anyone around to engage in these maladaptive tendencies with, because everyone close to them has figured out they're not good to be around.

[@rprevolv]

​@@MzShonuff123 Interesting take and likely true in the majority of cases. I have softened with age perhaps largely due to this but not entirely. I've changed and made some new friends, but it's been a war with myself getting here.

[@jasmineelise424]

i know that this is off subject, BUT your haaaair Dr. Marks!!! video on point as always.....

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Lol!!! I hope that’s a good observation? I never know because I’ve got a lot of it and it doesn’t always do what I want it to do. 😊 Thanks for watching.

[@torif1girl454]

Jasmine Elise oh spot on! That is some beautiful hair right there; I must admit I thought the same.

[@PthaloGreen2]

your hair is very cute!

[@justinehorton2527]

I was going to say that! I love her hair so much!! I love the shape! ❤️

[@gabby9808]

I love your confidence; any comments or criticism about me , lingers in my head for days . Your hair is your personality ! ❤️

[@daisybennett1600]

This person’s comment and Dr Tracey reading and reacting to it was precious and made me smile. I hope things get better for him.

[@hankie920]

You are a class act, Dr. Marks. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us and making this information accessible. ❤

[@chrilliams4582]

I’m still young but thankfully my BPD has burned out a bit- not as intense as it once was- but I still have so many moments where I can’t control my thoughts/reactions. In those moments it feels like an illness. As if I’m vomiting or shaking. That being said, I have a double depression (dysthymia + MDD) and GAD so I’m not always sure where they end my BPD begins. Thank you for your videos.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Christopher. It’s not always easy to distinguish between the mood fluctuations with BPD and dysthymia. maybe with more time you’ll have even less of the moments of feeling out of control. Or maybe the lack of control will feel less intense, kind of like a slow smolder.

[@ryanfatguyinlilcoat2436]

If one were to have family members with BPD how do you confront someone without them feeling threatened

[@brianthomas3249]

nice

[@gaurijoshi1694]

Yes! For me DBT helped, and personally many disappointments in my life have helped me.

[@ladybaabaa3294]

I'm the same...sort of. My BPD symptoms were highly prevalent from age 16 to 30. Then as they faded, became less frequent and less intense, I noticed my depression kicked in hugely, almost as some kind of unpleasant replacement. Interestingly, even now at age 42, I really only notice BPD symptom flare ups when I commence a new relationship or intense friendship. It's like I revert back.

[@DELLRS2012]

You provide the best explanations I’ve ever heard. Clear and concise, yet thorough. Brilliant

[@WillEnglandComposer]

Terrifying sound effects in this one, lol.

[@mrlobobranco8597]

I liked tho

[@TreasureC00]

😄

[@jennyleo82]

Thought it was my stomach 😂

[@shs1848]

I have always been curious about what makes Schizotypal personality disorder a personality disorder and not a mental illness in the way schizophrenia or anxiety disorder is. I've always found it's classification alongside other personality disorders odd, and I was wondering if there was something crucial here I might be missing or if maybe I'm not looking at this correctly. Thank you for making this video, super informative as always!

[@tatiananemirovskaya]

the primary symptom of schizophrenia is psychosis, it's a change in the brain chemistry (both psychosis and neurosis) while personality traits of people with personality disorder mimic the symptoms of psychosis or neurosis but they are not actually psychosis and neurosis. It's people's personality traits, so in case if with Schizotypal personality disorder, the person is just "odd" in their behavior or temperament, which together are the personality, but they are not experiencing a psychotic episode with delusional believes or hallucinations even though it seems to the outsiders as if they do. Their reality is not split like for people with schizophrenia.

[@Slothgoo]

I would personally say, in agreeance with the ICD used mostly globally outside of America, where the DSM is used, that schizotypal is on the schizo spectrum and not a personality disorder, I think the disorder is terribly under researched and there are wells of misinformation out there. Many people with schizotypal experience what I would call “quasi psychosis”, and an almost constant state of warped reality, which is not quite split to the point in schizophrenia, but is not adjacent with common shared reality. Denigrating schizotypal as the “eccentric” personality disorder is a sore misrepresentation to the true experience. Of course this plays to how severe ones schizotypy is, how they may view such, how seriously they take their “ideas of reference”, or how well they are able to play into society, the levels of their anhedonia and so on which I will not ramble about. I hope this was helpful.

[@darkstarr984]

It seems to mostly be behavioral patterns like schizophrenia but a complete absence of hallucinations and delusions

[@Taunt61]

@@darkstarr984 in addition to that schizotypal people will act according to their different belief paradigm all the time, dressing weirdly, doing weird moves etc. Schizophrenic people almost never do that. Schizotypes live in a different paradigm that doesn't go into psychosis, schizophrenics are 'normal people' who are plagued by psychosis.

[@NottaTrick]

Attachment style

[@silverdweller2809]

I do think that delusions and hallucinations can truly cause a person to behave in a way that differs from their personalities. This particular disorder doesn't just bring out your negatives and exaggerate them, it creates negatives that were not previously there (at least temporarily) This is coming from a person with these issues.

[@beepropst]

I agree. A disorder that involves psychosis and physical differences in the brain as described above does not seem to be purely personality to me. Obviously it’s a factor. Also, tons of other credible sources DO categorize bpd as a, “mental illness”, and there are studies which say that it meets the criteria for SMI. I’m not a doctor, though, so what do I know. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@alecianewman4226]

I take LITHIUM and it has changed my perspective which has allowed me a better attitude towards other stuff that helps. I am not a doctor but I am bipolar and am stable. Don't give up

[@LaLaLaLaNom]

Thank you for the video! It makes sense to me. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, but also even in my early diagnostic paperwork it was noted that I had a lot of depressive and avoidant personality traits as well, and I feel it’s just gotten worse into adulthood.

[@angierox6964]

The sound effects! I had to rewind to listen, due to being distracted by those awful sound effects. On a positive note, thank you so much for the video! I can’t be the only person disturbed by the sound effects! Sound effects!

I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge, dumbing it down for all of us not experts in the field. I'm going to tell you a little story: my husband is one of those lucky people who don't know what having depression means. In his previous job, he was a superintendent in a company and had the responsibility of 5 ships and its employees. One of them had to sign off during a trip, after having a panic attack, and was home on leave after. Before meeting with him to decide his future in the company, my husband asked me how to approach him and what would I believe to be the best course of action. We discussed at length, showed him a few of your videos, before he made an informed decision. So, thank you so much, for this. And for always caring to answer our questions!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh wow Jacqueline. What a story! Thanks for sharing it with me. I'm glad the videos were helpful. 🙂

[@smilez4dayz13]

Hello Dr Tracey I’m thrilled I found your channel. I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I’ve worked the last three years in a private practice (Nysa Therapy) under the supervision by a Psychologist who has developed a theory/therapy to treat all the personality disorders. Currently refining the separated defense now. He has been in practice for 40 years carefully piecing an integrative model and we are having a great deal of successes. People are reclaiming their lives. Setting healthy boundaries, retuning to the workforce, improving their interpersonal relationships. I personally work best with individuals with Borderline and seeing people get well and have success in their lives. We have trained a small group of local therapists in our town and in the process of developing an online learning platform to share this information. There is hope in treatment. We care and believe and see people get well. Blessings

[@xKarenWalkerx]

Hello, is there a website for this new therapy modality? Ty

[@smilez4dayz13]

@@xKarenWalkerx yes Nysa Therapy on most social media.

[@xKarenWalkerx]

@@smilez4dayz13 ty!

[@bullmoose6739]

It's hard not to hurt people's feelings when you have avoidant personality. I'm sick about it.

[@NottaTrick]

As a sex trafficking survivor diagnosed with PTSD and Borderline PD, dialectical behavior therapy lacks context. I appreciated the coping skills, labeling/identification of emotions. What I didnt appreciate was that the structure of the therapy dismisses my trauma. It was like oh you have several flashbacks everyday but go stick your head in the sand like an ostrich with your ass in the air. How about society go after the people that sex trafficked me? They filmed and publicly broadcast their crime but nobody is in jail in spite of reporting. I deserve justice not victim blaming by its organizations/institution.

[@alicleveland3384]

I agree with this. After the police report, find your local DV center. I would also go to your local county attorney and state crime commission as I feel sometimes police are either involved or too afraid to get involved and need higher ups to prosecute. You can also reach out federally.

[@olliebaby]

I'm so glad I found your channel. We found out my dad was bipolar about 4 years ago when he suddenly had a manic episode. He lives with me and I wanted to understand him better. Your explanation is very clear and helpful. Thank you ❤❤

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome aafeen. I wish you all the best with your dad.

[@olliebaby]

@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you ❤

[@jesslynsears9090]

I’m interested in learning more about the narcissism portion of what you discussed and the origin of how a person can become hyper religious. Great video!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Jesslyn. Narcissism is a very en vogue topic right now on KZbin. Med Circle has a bunch of videos on it. The hyper religiosity is an interesting phenomenon. We usually see it with mania just like hypersexuality. I’ll see if I can find some deeper explanations of it.

[@abbiepancakeeater52]

That's really telling b/c my granddad has NPD and he's hyper-religious, despite not being a good person overall. He's way better than he was before I came around, but still is very selfish and manipulative. Everyone thinks my aunt has bipolar, but I truly believe she had BPD, as I have BPD and strongly relate to her, and a common cause of BPD is being abused by someone with NPD.

[@kynathomas4809]

I know someone like this also. She's super religious and judgemental but does everything she judge's every one else for.

[@pilaracevedo2078]

I know a priest and have relatives that are very religious that have narcissistic traits. There are many other people that are just trying to go through trauma, so they hold to their faith and defend it to the extreme

[@KiLLED5639]

I've met a narcissistic priest. He gaslit me really good. I was seeing a therapist while I went to his church and the therapist helped me break out of the the gaslit mindset. Dr. Ramani has a video on Communal Narcissists if y'all want to learn more. Her channel has the same name as her name. I recommend y'all check it out.

[@leilehua5230]

when he said “im still waiting on that video” and she (😏) side glances at the camera... its like her way of showing us a very subtle example of the disorder in action... the way he feels entitled to the video... he’s “waiting on it” as if she answers to him. that’s NPD for ya (😏)

[@mytwosense5223]

I caught that lol

[@masonart4950]

Way to over - read into something.

[@leilehua5230]

@@masonart4950 um no.

[@mollykate422]

that part was hilarious lol

[@judymcpheron5955]

Excellently explained. This was one of the best reviews I've heard. My huge family is all in there! Some have no issues; some are glaringly obvious.

[@dawnaskey4975]

I went about 5 years off of meds (with Dr approval and continued monitoring) for bipolar type I. I'm frustrated that the symptoms have returned but I'm proud of myself for doing some research (that's how I found this channel), learned new information and contacted my psychiatrist. I have an appointment in 2 days. I think that it's fair to say that he is more hopeful than I am, but he may not feel that way after he reads the latest message! I found a list of commonly used meds and made notes of all the meds tried and why they were discontinued. On top of that, I developed permanent dyskinesia. If you have any advice for people with bipolar who have never had more than a 40-50% improvement on a mood stabilizer, I sure would like to hear it! One final fact about me- any mental health med (antidepressant, antipsychotic, mood stabilizer, etc) has had the effect of severe suicidal ideations at weeks 2-3. I rarely get through it without requiring hospitalization. My most common mood is usually considered ultra ultra rapid cycling and only a few times in my life could I say that I didn't have at least low level depression.

[@peculiarlittleman5303]

She's wonderful! Reading General repairs letter has made me realize that these people are not having fun; it's just how they are. Good luck GP, and never miss the many great opportunities to shut your mouth, be polite and mind your own business.

[@deediane8874]

I have been binge watching your videos; psychiatry has always been a love interest of mine. It was a field I wanted to get into from a young age but a particular common/uncommon, I'm not sure, disability held me back from going to university. It doesn't take away from how strongly "attuned and in tuned" I am of people ....Your definitions are right on point! I've grown up with so many individuals who fit into each of those categories. Thank you for taking the time to share!

[@ElliotFlowers]

what was the uncommon/common disability?

[@atalmeowlaurent1847]

Woah! One of the best videos! Making the difference between nature or nurture, thanks you so much!

[@TheEmoLoverGirls]

I've recently gotten diagnosed with disorders from cluster C - Avoidant & OCPD which makes very much sense to me and I'm very happy about them because I finally after 10 years know what is "wrong" with me.. These two go really great together, due to the feeling of being inadequate being reinforced by aha. They don't really have any treatment, unless it is BPD, in my country

[@bahsaddigu9726]

How grateful I am for this info. It all u have been searching for the past decades.

[@marieelisa1]

Thank you su much for this videos. I would like to to make a video about avoidant personality disorder vs Social Anxiety. Thank you!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi that's correct.I have that on my list. Thank you.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

In the meantime Dr. Todd Grande has a video on this topic. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ooi2iYSGmqimq9U

[@alexafiretv6367]

Yeah thanks!

[@michelepascoe6068]

This was helpful, thank you. Best thing we can all do, especially if we know someone with difficulties such as these, is to learn about healthy boundaries and how to manage our own emotions and responses.

[@barbarainc]

I have to say Mr Repairman must be spying on me. However now that I am getting older it is getting easier in that I am okay with more alone time. Some advice that has helped me... 1) volunteer with hospitalized children, old people, or animals. Just sit with them. Give to them. Care for them. This helps heal the heart. 2) Meditate and take space for you. Very hard to find as a parent but if you can have some creative space and 15 minutes a day to get a clear mind it will do wonders for your anger and impulse. Practice mindfulness. This is key for your brain. 3) Find your higher power. Jesus is mine but I also follow the teachings of Buddah. This heals my spirit. 4) apologize often and acknowledge the problem in front of other. Find 1 or 2 good friends to confide in and 1 or 2 more just to have good times with once in awhile. This will help heal you emotionally. MOST IMPORTANTLY... NEVER. EVER. GIVE. UP. You aren't alone in this Mr. Repairman. 🤗 Hugs

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Excellent practical suggestions. Thanks for this.

[@chinookvalley]

Barbara, I do animal rescue, help shut ins and the elderly and disabled, and just doing those things alone is so incredibly healing. I am quite poor, but rich in heart. Thanks for these words of wisdom.

[@generalrepair8731]

Barbara Wibe I wish I seen this reply when the video came out I guess I got to go through and through peoples accounts to find things probably what a year later I appreciate your kind words

[@lildoveable]

This channel is fantastic. I hit the bell. Thank you for being here.

[@bubbleslafleur]

Dr. Mark's, I love your videos and your presentation of the facts. Thank you as always, Sue K

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re so welcome Sue K. Thanks for continuing to watch.

[@likewaterflows47]

7:20 i don't think lack of empathy is in direct correlation with not appreciating other people's needs! empathy is just about being able to FEEL other people's emotions, even if you don't have that skill, you can still want to learn what other people's needs are and respect those needs. I think we put a lot of weight on empathy and not enough on learning to be a good person and learning how to have healthy relationships. This circles back to personality disordered people having childhood trauma imo and conversations should be about their healing not their demonization if we really want to stop the cycles of abuse! (not saying that this video was demonizing !) Very informative video as always thanks❤

[@Flash-pp3cr]

Thank you for clarifying that the DSM Manual is according to society and culture. Some pale treat it like some Bible. And thank you for talking about disorders vs illness. Also, it's be nice to tackle that one. It could be loaded with false perceptions contrary to diagnostic definitions etc. Thank you!

[@evelynlust2747]

Thank you for the informative talk. Our children are adults and tried to communicate their concerns to their Dad about his patterns - they asked him whether he was a narcissist or whether he was bipolar - we have attended counseling as a family, to explore this.

[@ashd333]

I love how she listens to the comments that are repeated lol 😃 super sweet

[@daryl9905]

I have borderline- all the traits. Thank you for making these videos to help others understand. You're awesome!

[@christinemacmacleod4880]

Could you please outline how DBT and CBT (and any other therapies that I don’t know about) work? Who benefits from them and what disorders they are most effective for. Thanks. Another great video.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Christine. That’s definitely another video and maybe even a series of videos. But great question I was just thinking about this recently. I’ll see what I can come up with.

[@pants6416]

I agree that there needs to be more info on therapy types, how they work, and what kinds of problems they're most likely to help with. A lot of people don't know what's available to them at all!

[@vezinam58]

Wow, that's very deep Dr. Marks! I guess the thing that can make the subject of personality disorders interesting to so many people is because we see these traits in others, or maybe even ourselves. I know most people have some of these traits, so it is important to make sure we don't go around diagnosing everyone. It's the old, "Don't try this at home" adage. The temptation can be to make a amateur diagnosis of everyone we run into with road rage, as an antisocial narcissist, and an anal retentive boss, as having obsessive compulsive personality disorder. I'll leave the diagnosis to the professionals like you, but am glad to have the information in videos like yours as a way to understand people better. BTW, your videos are very professionally done, and the information is articulated very well. If you ever consider doing some teaching, or seminars, you would do very well at it. Keep up the good work. :)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Mark. And very well said. Information is a double edged sword. On the one hand knowledge is powerful, but it can be dangerous as well if it’s used inappropriately. Thanks for the compliment on my video quality. It’s part of my creative outlet.

[@et1016]

Your videos are excellent!! I am a mental health professional who truly appreciates what you do.

[@naomilake2375]

Hi Dr. Marks, I've just discovered and am enjoying your videos. As a clinician (of over 30 years) however I view personality disorders as a mental illness, only in the sense that I have found them more destructive as far as in relationships than other major mental illnesses, including schizophrenia, bipolar, depression, etc. I'm sure you know what I am talking about. I'm not dismissing how difficult these other illnesses are in relationships, but personality disorders take the cake. If someone were to ask me if a personality disorder was a mental illness, I would say "Abolutely YES!"

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Naomi. Yes I know what you’re talking about. A very primitive personality disorder can wreak havoc. Thanks for your input.

[@lysagreen2314]

How do you separate ASD from multiple diagnoses given from childhood? I have been taken to doctors since age 4 (I am 59). In my early 30s, I was diagnosed with dysthymia, then major depression, then psychotic depression. I was then diagnosed with bipolar 1, but then was changed to schizophrenia and OCD, then that was changed to add borderline personality, then again was changed to schizoaffective D/O and OCD. I have been tried on a myriad of antidepressants, mood stabilizers, and antipsychotic drugs, hospitalized, given different types of therapy, and even ECT with not a lot of improvement. Psychiatrists told me in 2005 that I would alway be in/ out of hospital, on meds, and never be able to work again as schizoaffective D/O has no cure. I have been off meds since 2005, not been in hospital since 2001, and have worked full time since 2005. Family members have told me they think I have Asperger Syndrome and have probably been misdiagnosed since childhood. I have taken several online ASD tests and have scored very high for ASD traits. Is it possible that I have been wrongly diagnosed my entire life?

[@Davnot384]

it enrages me to read such things. People shouldn't be put through this due to the incompetence of medical professionals

[@andrewpipitone1572]

Doc what your doing is totally invaluable.

[@markhou]

Great video Doc. These disorders are often misunderstood. Regarding mania : N-acetylcysteine has interesting effects in adjunct therapy for bipolar disorder (and also substance abuse!)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes I’ve seen this But I haven’t read that much about it. Thanks for mentioning this.

[@pants6416]

Just chiming in about things said to be effective... Carrie Fisher said that electroconvulsive therapy was helpful for her bipolar disorder. I think she went into it a lot in her third book - Shockaholic. Either way, she'd been very open about her disorder, so her books may help people with the same disorder feel less alone. Always grateful for people who speak out about having a mental disorder. It helps alleviate the stigma and shame for all of us, even when we have different disorders. And definitely thankful for doctors who help educate the public too!

[@jennd9091]

I have learnt more in 3 days watching your stuff than i have in a lifetime of having depression, anxiety and high episodes that i have never got to the bottom of. Thank you I still dont know which is me and my psychiatrist gives me no clue.

[@beautifultrash5438]

Is it possible for you to upload a video about Histrionic Personality disorder and self-treatment? Everything you said make so much sense. I do believe that the most we understand disorders, the better we can control them and have better lives.

[@adellaeltantawy9345]

Thanks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks SO much for the super thanks. I really appreciate it. ❤️

[@DanielaSanjuan]

Dr Tracy I would like to know the difference between social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder. I will be really thankful if you make a video about that.

[@businesszeus6864]

Finally a an actual professional on KZbin who doesn't demonize personality disorders! It's so sad how many stigmatizing and unhelpful narratives are being spread by people who work very hard to seem legit and that their audience want to trust. I feel like much of the general interest towards psychology is egotistical, in the sense that we're all looking for answers about our own feelings and experiences rather than for a genuine passion for the subject. Therefore, it is so very easy to fall into narratives where you refuse to take accountability or understand the situation from another point of view, and to sustain that you demonize the other party. I feel like much of the hatred especially towards narcissistic traits is rooted into this way of thinking. But not only does it lead to more pain, it also nevers allows you to heal. So yeah, I'm glad different narratives are finally being displayed, this video was truly informative.

[@n3v3rg01ngback]

Start with blood work and correcting the diet. That’s the first step to addressing most medical problems. Then, stick to the treatment plan and listen to your doctor, keeping in mind that treatment can take months or years depending on what is wrong.

[@brianimoto4634]

IMO, improved behavior is a rare exception. The reality of my observation is, the family & friends either bail or grow numb and just ignore the disordered individual.

[@xflow9639]

Thank you for explaining so clearly. I learned a lot from your presentation.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome 😊

[@allmyflaws]

“Crawling in my skin, these wounds they will not heal, fear is how I fall, confusing what is real” Rest in piece Chester, the greatest voice for people like us

[@aceto1900]

I see that glass as one third full and 2/3 empty.

[@julesmpc1314]

BY FAR THE BEST VIDEO I HAVE SEEN ON THE MATTER.....and I have watched loads from other MDs

[@pblonrongracie]

Are you saying that there's no hope for those of us that have a personality disorder?

[@elupemano8758]

Exactly.. I went to get diagnosed at my local psychiatric clinic and the doctor told me that I had Bipolar disorder. I told him I believe I have BPD based on my own research. He said BPD cant be treated and gave me tablets for Bipolar Disorder... I would have preferred getting a correct diagnosis and counseling services :( at least!

[@charlottegelly4449]

@@elupemano8758 sorry about that

[@elupemano8758]

@@charlottegelly4449 thx... I'm doing my own dbt

[@brunettemouse3265]

elupe mano Zhou’s, BPD is actually one of the most treatable pd’s. Some say u can even fully recover from BPD unlike any other personality disorder so don’t give up. Have u tried schema therapy? Apparently that’s quite good for BPD. Loads of doctors say stuff like that but are often wrong. If you’d like me to, I can try and link u a few websites that talk about treating bpd, just let me know. I wish u all the best sunshine x 🧡

[@elupemano8758]

@@brunettemouse3265 I would love that! Thanks

[@SEARAIN23]

Very well put together, easy to follow. Thanks!

[@margaretcampbell2681]

I had BPD and I was very dysfunctional in fact I was unable to keep relationships. Looking back I definitely know I was ill. I found out that it was the result of early childhood sexual abuse

[@DrTraceyMarks]

That’s pretty common.

[@malas.7276]

You '' had''?

[@tessw9744]

@@malas.7276 Borderlines can heal. Many do, if they are willing to do the work on themselves.

[@theseeker1237]

Same here. Best to you, work the mind or it will work you to death.

[@teribird940]

Honestly those with BPD are the most abusive people yet worse narrastic personally disorder as someone with a disability that wasn't diagnosed because of others mental illnesses

[@sarahloffler]

Straightforward. Excellent presentation. I didn’t like the scary sound effects of the graphics describing the different disorders. I really like your speaking style and pace.

[@malas.7276]

I call my BPD '' the demon '' so I'm separating from it. It helps a bit.

[@jemimahkendall6579]

Well if you took a less scientific approach to your problem that's exactly what it is, demons and possession doesn't look like in the movies

[@czarinacharters1395]

Compartmentalization is the reason it took so long for me to convince people that I wasn't faking mental issues

[@pilaracevedo2078]

@@czarinacharters1395 What would that mean? Sorry but English isn't my native language, I would like to understand more about mental health

[@VictoriaKimball]

Thank you. I don't think I ever really grasped the difference between a personality disorder and a mental illness before now

[@madvoice]

I've just gotten around to watching this one. You're so right! I've the bipolar disorder type II diagnosis as mentioned before and I just don't think or act like that. BTW, my first thought on that wine glass was: I wonder what red varietal that is. 😂

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Lol! Thanks for the laugh. It was pretty dark red, maybe a Zinfandel? 😃.

[@Cari111111]

Thanks @General Repair for sharing. I hope that you and your family find peace and understanding

[@TwinFalls88]

all of the blame always on the individual, never on society. these are simply coercive ways to get people to comply with the prevailing socioeconomic order of the day !

[@Babagirls]

Aspd here.. What had helped me in therapy is talk therapy, to have my childhood trauma validated & reparent the broken inner child. It's incredibly hard and painful, but it's worth it. You're so right about the disorders fading out as we get older. I call it "aging out".

[@mcrchick1990]

Hey I know this video is old, I would be interested in more information about cluster A personality disorders. They are not as popular as cluster B, so there is not much information out there on them. Thank you.

[@criticalcentrist]

"Your underlying personality that comes out full force when you're ill is what makes people dislike you." Oh, I like this one, It needs to be stitched on a pillow

[@m_d1905]

Thank you for this, recently diagnosed with A and C disorders. I have had and still have MDD and GAD. I wonder how much has to do with living with a narcissist for 20+ years and being a very anxious child, and add in being a adult child of an alcoholic. Lots of work needed.

[@melodyrogers9473]

Hang in there.. Sounds like you already have a plan. Take care.

[@rondohunter8966]

This was so interesting and so informative, thank you for posting. I have BPD Cluster B, Antisocial Personality Disorder. On top of that I fall into the category of sociopath. At the age of 55+ there's nothing I can do to change, and that's one of the many "problems" with being this way: I don't feel the need to change. Had I known way back when that I would turn out this way perhaps I would have altered my lifestyle, or not. That's the sociopathic part of it. At least it could have helped me to better cope with others. Numerous ex-gf's and two ex-wives can attest to my apparent issues, not knowing those not seen, kept down and out of sight. Though my last wife did catch on, seeing how I slip into and out of character depending on the circumstances. How I bypass rules and regulations whenever possible, playing every game I know to benefit myself. Well, at least I know myself now. And why I do what I do even if I'm not fully cognizant of it.

[@Mor2gain_760]

Is there any chance you would consider evaluating & recommending doctors, therapists, and counselors in requested areas for people to go to who have your level of gentleness ??? Many of us would be happy to pay a fee to know a safe & gentle person awaits to help...

[@zeddeka]

It'll be interesting to see how our understanding of genetics and neuroscience increases in future. For example, there already seems to be a link between ADHD and Antisocial Personality Disorder in some cases. There's also been some research into whether polycystic ovary syndrome is a cause of BPD in some women.

[@Raeat]

So "personality disorders" are contrasted against "societal expectations." That does not sound like science - it sounds dogma-based, essentially the opposite of science. Is the rest of the DSM like this?

[@FromTheHealingWellSomatics]

Esp when there are some messes up biases and values in our culture

[@Raeat]

Quoth "Society isn't this weird imposed authoritarian structure, no, it's litteraly what humans are biologically made to create." Actually it's both. Why do you imagine these are mutually exclusive. We tell ourselves stories about ourselves and our biological functions, and our retelling and teaching of these is prescriptive and therefore an imposition even if seemingly less forceful than physical coercion. Some stories are better than others. For example, our current concept of love makes one a passive, helpless entity. Can't we do better than that? Sure, we could, but we do not because we, and the people around us frame love as something we fall into. Prescribed helplessness begets prescribed helplessness. And so it is with prescriptive societal norms, including psychological ones that abnormalize certain kinds of mentalities. For example, "borderline personality disorder" abnormalizes having different norms from others and is a prescriptive imposition arm of the normative social context. Now, go get some beers, put on a game, and ignore your wife and kids. It's the socially acceptable thing to do. And learn how to literally spell before you text-vomit at me again.

[@jmfs3497]

If you feel trapped you must BREAK the relationship from functioning at all for either party. 1. Gray Rocking - Be mildly and boringly pleasant. Keep your words kindly benign and short. Be aloofly non-reactive. 2. Distance - Be always on your way somewhere else. The bathroom, the pharmacy, your grandma's, etc. No contact when possible. 3. Let it go - Don't ask permission, just go. No closure, accountability, getting even, or even understanding. Ghost. It isn't personal. If the relationship feels unhealthy for you now, it is likely to always feel unhealthy for you. Break free from it and move on with your life. It is the healthiest option for EVERYONE.

[@godisnotinvisible]

Ghosting is cowardly and disrespectful, and it's incredible that people suggest them as mature strategies

[@ceritapulliam696]

Omgoodness! Thank you for breaking this down. You have cleared up confusion that I had.

[@calliope6623]

Just a note, autism does not always mean that a person socially isolates. A mentally healthy autistic person can have strong intimate relationships, but those relationships might just look a little different.

[@megan6955]

I really hope you make more videos about borderline personality disorders, I would appreciate that so much. I'm trying so hard to understand myself and function.

[@Sofia-bd8gp]

Hi !would you explain the diference between social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder?

[@drarmanda]

Fascinating. Didn't know how to correlate these concepts, truly this video is a pearl

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks Azaria!

[@caleuxx9108]

Dr. Tracey. I have a question/comment.... My mother was diagnosed with severe schizofrenia, when I was about 12 (since then she has been in hospital/institution for over 25 years); my father is very narcissistic (selfcentered, money and prestige oriented, lack of empathy, manipulative, yelling, etc.) and I think would meet the criteria pro a mild form o NPD with obsessive compulsive traits, oh and he drinks too. I am codependent and have some signs of cPTSD (emotional flashbacks but without extreme emotional instability - they usually occur in safe situations and I am able to process it - they only began after I got married after age 30). My brother seems to be passive aggressive and perhaps sometimes covertly aggressive; he is angry about many things; he was the scapegoat and I was the golden child. Question: How is it possible that such dysfunctional parents could even find a relationship, get married and have kids and those kids were not taken away from them? I have a friend, who I now think is v severely codependent or an inverted narcissist (Sam Vaknin idea) - she is highly functionalnand hard working and very emotional but always chooses the biggest looser and as she gets older the loosers are more and more of a looser - she does a lot, they do a little if anything until she burns out, breaks up, and the cycle keeps going. When she was 30, she owned a condo, had a good job with benefits - now she has nothing. -- As I see this and other people around me, it seems to me, that even severe dysfunction can work for people for a certain amount of time but when they/we reach middle age (35+), the negative consequences of the dysfunction begin to show themselves…. Am I right?

[@sbfyreguy]

Wow, you are just amazing, this was a mouthful and, I really tried to retain all of that. I’ll probably watch it a few more times.Thank you so much. Gary