How To Master Time Management - ADHD Skills Part 1

[@DrTraceyMarks]

THIS VIDEO NOW HAS TRANSLATED AUDIO The languages are Arabic, Dutch, French, German, Hindi, Portuguese, and Spanish Click or tap the gear icon and choose the audio

[@MinkisVideos]

The Arabic and French sound a bit weird, but a great feature for now!

[@HomeboundLoveProject]

Excellent! Thank you!!!

[@AZ-cq3us]

❤

[@madeleinnerosas5668]

The spanish version sound a bit werid too, actually the minute 9:25 is really weird! Lol! In the same way, excellent material,really helpfull!!

[@monicaceciliealbrigtsen532]

0:43

[@j.o.1262]

See the thing is, I estimate something is going to take say 20 minutes. In reality, it should probably take 35-45 minutes. And then it ends up taking me 2 hours. 💀

[@obgfoster]

Knowledge is power.

[@zara163]

Nooooo I feel attacked 😭

[@passionforhispeace1194]

That's an easy fix, just get rid of the zeros and replace them with hours and you have accurate time estimates! Sweet! I think I'm learning that I have to put lots of white space on my calendar to make up for my underestimating tasks, also just stop working on one task and go onto the next when he time has elapsed. But don't beat yourself up . . . all jesting aside, I haven't figured it out yet either. But I'm not giving up yet, I'll keep buying planners until I find a magic one that works :)!

[@conniefox2643]

@@passionforhispeace1194 ToDoIst is a great app for to do lists/time management system. The free version is great as well.

[@bridgit7330]

Welcome to my world bruhhh

[@Xentrolis]

"If it's not on your planner, it doesn't exist" I'm super attached to my calendar and I've literally told people that if it isn't on my calendar, it's not happening. The calendar looks super chaotic to my non-ADHD friends but it really helps me stay on top of things.

[@karinapraxedesbarnett7155]

I’m the exact same.

[@allai8176]

I forget to look at my calendar 😭

[@teesaayegnala7689]

What type of calander do you have

[@karllytskfk8471]

I find this funny and sad since Ive been a joke to my family with my alarms non-stop from dawn to dusk since I had a phone. Ive gone through a severe depression and now I also have tasks to eat, shower, grocery shopping, cleaning. It is endless and also daunting. Just got back the habit to never go bed without a meal, so I don't use "eat" tasks anymore. I juggle with calendar and todo list. If it's not there, it doesn't exist until someone needs/talks about it. Many times, it is too late. It's been 6 months that ADHD has been suggested by my psychiatrist because I felt better with my depression but still lost and overwhelmed in my daily life even if I was motivated. It takes time to assess it and having a diagnosis would be really helpful. In the meantime, I see myself more and more in the ADHD symptoms.

[@clarav526]

@@allai8176 I did the same when I had a paper planner, now I use outlook and I check it whenever I check my email

[@kendigjl]

This is the most solid series of mental health videos I've ever found on KZbin. You're changing a lot of lives with the integrity of your work. Everything is science based, and you have a great demeanor which makes you a pleasure to listen to.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Nunya. That means a lot! 😊

[@fullmoonofus2683]

@@DrTraceyMarks just discovered your channel, thank you so much!

[@AngelicaKindheart]

I agree!

[@lianamorales6]

I agree.

[@pinkdolphinllc4737]

Exactly. It’s not only informative it’s a pleasure to listen to.

[@claired1336]

Another helpful tip an ADHD coach gave me is to specifically factor in time for TRANSITIONS between tasks! This could be 5 or 10 minutes, or be different depending on the amount of effort needed for attention-shifting, or time to get set up in another room, etc. Also factoring in time for breaks!

[@sherylforsman8691]

Thank you for mentioning this excellent point! Does anyone know of a ADHD coach that does pro bono work or a current free support group that could substitute for a ADHD coach?

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

Yes, and for tasks that you know you'll do regularly, it's worth having an additional separate copy of the related tools. For example, having all the mail supplies together, laundry stuff and beach supplies in their own containers makes that a lot closer to the 5 to 10 minutes that is optimal, rather than the half hour, or more that it can take to track everything down.

[@EsmereldaPea]

AND factor in prep and cleanup time. That gets me all the time.

[@red-winged_blackbird]

@@EsmereldaPea me also

[@MB-jp4hg]

Yes, break time is essential. I'm guilty of just taking a random pause to do who knows what in the middle of doing something time sensitive.

[@Gowaduv]

I'm guilty of the 25 minute "5 minute shower". I pick a song and try to get all my showering done before it's finished. It fulfills my need for urgency and gamifies the activity. I do the same for laundry with episodes of shows or podcasts (though I'm great at putting off the part where I have to fold and put things away haha). thank you for these videos!

[@hasj]

I also started with that, and at the end it turned into a whole playlist 😅

[@Marscandy1]

I do this too.

[@Ryker150]

Same, the song does the trick!

[@bananashortcake]

Omgsh I do this too!!

[@raissanjombog9063]

Wow, I do the exact thing

[@mortalkomment8028]

01:04 No. 1 Constant access to time pieces (watches, clocks, church bells...) 02:10 No. 2 Estimate time needed for tasks 08:06 No. 3 Keep a planner or two (daily AND weekly)

[@flyingumbreons]

Thank you

[@Autisticgyal]

You’re doing gods work

[@maiben210]

SEPT. 5, 2022 THANK YOU🙏❤️

[@wendyhannan2454]

Thank you, that’s very helpful. 😉

[@cosmicmuffin420]

Okay, I’m so messed up I started listening to this vid 6 months ago. Or, I tried, became overwhelmed & gave up onto something else to occupy that mind space. Only in the last two days have I had the discipline to really listen by breaking the vid down into increments. I started executing the plan today and it’s working! Thank you, thank you Dr. Tracy, I was going crazy and now I have hope I can turn this life around and be more sane. Much love to you for this whole ADHD series to help me.

[@caseyfaist7204]

I teared up a bit at the end when you broke down your advice into steps, so many ADHD videos and articles dump a big scary list of todos at people after spending a whole video explaining how easily complex tasks can overwhelm people with executive disorder. Thank you.

[@helenal4657]

Like the 75 tips for ADHD on the internet. Seriously not tackling that one.

[@JDubGirl]

I noticed that on other videos as well and I swear… It makes me feel like she really gets it! So helpful beyond words!

[@adeyosola414]

@@JDubGirl Yes, she's the best. She is detailed, articulate, compassionate and concise in all her video presentations . She's simply the best.

[@angusmorrison9433]

❤

[@kevincarter1212]

Absolutely! I always feel so dumb after videos, articles, and friends tell me to just break down things into smaller tasks and watch my time. Yeah, like that ever works. "Just do it." Ha!

[@Nebulous.Infinity]

"You don't remember things unless someone reminds you." AKA me absorbing hours of knowledge, only to forget it all until the unlikely event that the topic arises in a conversation.

[@josiahandre_]

So true

[@cleft_3000]

Thank you so much this is so helpful. It’s so difficult and humiliating explaining this to anybody as a 34 year old 😔

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome McRA. It’s hard for people to understand the problem

[@natyalmighty]

Don't feel bad I'm 32 and it happens to me too

[@TigerLily727]

Im 33 and Im so over the struggle. Especially when I see myself teaching my kid the same behavior.

[@kraisri]

Im 45 and still stress with myself.

[@stoodmuffinpersonal3144]

Hey, thank you for being honest about this. I saw your comment, when this came in my "recommended" feed. I literally procrastinated on watching this, because of my own Guilt/ SHAME/Embarrassment. Without this comment, and reading it, I don't know if I would have ever come back to the video. So, thank you. It's hard to be vulnerable, but I appreciate you. Doing so.

[@aytunayuken7824]

As a person with ADHD, time management was always the biggest problem my ADHD caused in my life. I've spent so many "oops i didn't do anything today" days before I was diagnosed. But then I realized that actually it's impossible to spend a day without doing anything if you have ADHD. Bc your brain keeps working no matter what. Even thinking about the things you should do is something. So I decided that there's no such thing as "wasting time" for me/my brain. Of course it doesn't mean that I keep thinking without realizing those thoughts. But the most helpful step for time management is to embrace the way your brain works. Bc when you know and admit that your neurodivergent brain is not supposed to work like everyone else's, you unlock the skill of saying "I'm just overthinking/paralyzed/hyperfocusing etc". This skill leads you to manage your time, too. Some of us might need medicines to stop thinking and start doing. Or you might keep having problems about your focus and execution. But embracing the fact that you're going to experience these so called problems for the rest of your life makes it much easier to live and be happy with yourself.

[@snaxicakes]

Mental clutter gets purged without your knowledge, WOW. I never thought of it that way.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

😊👍🏽

[@sherylforsman8691]

Me either!

[@KyanneSummer]

That was truly true and golden. I felt so seen, it is the one thing I keep repeating.

[@flyingumbreons]

ALL THE TIME! Sometimes within minutes when I have a lot to do.

[@peppermintt3879]

That got me too! I didn't know that was possible.

[@pagesculptor]

I never felt understood in my life until I started to watch this channel.

[@Sara10393]

As someone that deals with PTSD/dissociation I really relate to the loss of time. I’m always late and feel like I’m grasping at straws trying to stay grounded in reality

[@brooklynsbaby4367]

for me sometimes a few hours pass by but it feels like 30 minutes

[@sherylforsman8691]

Feel like my life is one big blur because I can't remember specifics of my life events! Its embarrassing & humiliating!

[@dumbgirl8]

This is called time blindness. You could try something called Vipassana meditation. While you focus on nothing but breathing, a timer goes off every 5 minutes. I've found that doing this for like 20 minutes helps me feel more aware of the passage of time.

[@Katie-qu9iv]

@@dumbgirl8 Thank you. I'm going to research this and try it.

[@Name-iu8bn]

​@@Katie-qu9iv Please don't fall for these "vipassana meditation"/yoga/chanting specific sounds and other occult stuff (Stretching is fine, but not the other aspects of yoga). They'd seem to give some benefits initially, but screw up ur mental health & cognitive skills in the long term. Have 1st hand experience. These are dark arts that are now given a sanitized appearance, and marketed to the ever gullible Americans.

[@beautifullybliss]

This is the best 11:30 secs i’ve ever spent on ADHD content!

[@gaiadove]

You know what series I would like to see? How to improve emotion management. I feel like many people have a issues with how to control emotions, whether it be anger or tears.

[@daniellemartell386]

Me too. I struggle with this alot. Usually the reaction

[@AngelicaKindheart]

I am sure there’s a strong link between being very emotional which I am and ADHD. I am so aware of what I am feeling , but identifying the reason why I feel it is not clear. Anger, resentment, jealousy are the ones I would like to mange and heal from. I am understanding a little bit more of anxious and depressing feelings. But yes, a video would be great to watch and learn from on emotions. (I don’t want malice for anyone, the jealous, anger or sadness ect.. just comes up so fast and years of it is a lot on someone who would like to react in a healthier way.)

[@cellosubmarine]

Sad to see how old this comment is… I was hoping this had prompted a video.

[@Nirosha101]

Check out Thais Gibson emotional mastery on KZbin, she talks about emotional regulation in detail..she has taught me a lot about emotions

[@lbfaith]

Same!!

[@TerriPoppins]

Thank you x3! I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a teen. I’m 30 now and it’s still a struggle. Being late is the one thing I cannot stand about myself. I’ve lost friends because of it. I don’t like ppl feeling like I take their time for granted because I don’t. I just suck at time management when my brain keeps getting distracted by things I can do later instead of getting to where I’m supposed to be going. I’ve gotten better tho. I’ll never give up aiming to be better ♥️

[@stephanieodom5825]

I have lost a lot of people because of this also. It is horrible. I just cannot keep my concept of time well enough sometimes to keep myself even somewhat aligned. I just strive to be better, it is all I have found that I can do. Good vibes for us all!!

[@fleurpeffer5212]

Good on you! God bless

[@ash20453]

Your voice calms me down when I am absolutely freaking out.

[@DrLizListens]

I was thinking the same thing!!

[@abdirahimahmed6449]

Yes. And the way she address gives me an energy to woke up from my bed and do something.

[@briyemm6413]

I've always just been told "just use your time wisely!" and you have been the only one to explain what that even means thank you! 😭🙌

[@Star_Dusting]

Unfortunately people like us who truly suffer with this it’s utterly impossible to take that advice (good advice just not the right advice for us) and make good on it. It’s ok. You’re not alone. We are not alone !!! 😊

[@rodrigo591ify]

Small tip: Changing to an analog watch and clocks helped me time manage much better since I can "vidualize" elapsed and remaining times. Digital displays, although I perfectly understand them, don't help me manage my time. Great content, beautifully clear delivery, thank you doctor.

[@MonicaWB]

Great tip! Never would’ve thought of this, but I really think you’re right. When I think back to using old clocks and watches, I remember how that helped. Wow…thank you.

[@KindnessIs]

same

[@sarahplaisted5226]

So true! This is like when I tell my husband I think of time frames in lines in the calendar. Like for example let’s say I have something 5/10. That’s 2.5 lines k have to picture it visually. Same with time. Or counting.

[@segasys1339]

Interesting point. Has your intuitive awareness of time improved? If so, how much?

[@luiv5860]

I’m so happy she understands the adhd brain. I was beginning to feel overwhelmed at the end. Making me question am I really retaining any of this information? Then she broke it down and listed it out so I could screen shot it. Love this series!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I'm glad you found that helpful. I realize I need to do that more. I often _forget_ to summarize 🙂

[@Sarah.VilasBoas]

When I was a kid I used to time every single task. Perceiving time was never an automatic task for me, I've always struggled. I remember being in elementary school and writing down exactly how you're teaching in this video. 15 minutes for shower, 20 to prepare breakfast, 5 to brush teeth, etc, and then adding it all to know how early I should wake up because I was tired of always being late and letting people down!!! I got diagnosed at 23 in the middle of MedSchool. Now I'm 27 and I still time everything, but now I know why I do it. My favorite planner is the weekly one. I NEED TO SEE my week in order to understand whats going on. Great video! You're an amazing doctor

[@Sarah.VilasBoas]

@@nnshiek5244 thank you!

[@kathutchison8567]

Oh my - I did the EXACT same thing to graduate college!! I had (undiagnosed) ADHD and received my BS Electrical Engineering by breaking down every day into 15 minute components. It worked.

[@monicasweer7253]

Elon Musk breaks his day down as well. Great information for people. Thankyou

[@vinodhini344]

Hi, Did you have to take medications?

[@jcast1976]

Mental clutter, my brain purging without me knowing.. that’s been happening all my life. never heard it put like that, thank you.

[@robynhoney9681]

Bathroom clock! Of course! How have I never thought of this? This alone is going to make a big difference to my life. And save a lot of water. 🙂Thank you.

[@idocare6538]

Don't get the one that ticks... It will drive you mad! haha

[@kylaluv8453]

For my daughter I used a timer for the blind that counted down. Not every second buy it starts out at every 10 minutes and slowly increase frequency til l the last 10 seconds. Used that thing for everything for her. She is an adult now and an excellent judge of time.

[@Nirosha101]

I’ve had bathroom clocks for a while now ☺️, I have clocks everywhere, my dad thinks I have a clock obsession 😅

[@wendyhannan2454]

@@Nirosha101 Haha, good for you,I’m going to have clocks every where too. No ticking clocks in the bedroom though, that would totally do my head in. 😮

[@tunnasch]

I don't know if I've ever heard anyone, with or without ADHD, coach or doctor, articulate with such specificity how to most effectively sort myself and what's in my head so I can be my most productive. I've never heard anyone talk about having watches and clocks everywhere: I stay on task and on time in the bathroom in the morning - because I'm constantly checking the clock. Now, to surround myself wherever I am! 😄 I'm 55, empty-nested, and as frustrated as ever that I can't accomplish more with all the time I have, at work or at home. I actually did so much better with kids at home who structured my time FOR me. With this single video I went from being a subscriber and casual viewer, to a dedicated follower. Thank you so much for this, Tracey. I'm already looking forward to tomorrow so I can begin to implement these things. 💖

[@aja1108]

I am literally in the same boat, except I'm 41. These videos made me cry both tears of joy and pain. I'm so grateful

[@sarahplaisted5226]

And it’s the perfect pace and inflection and tone!

[@Skyzthlimit]

Never has my executive dysfunction and procrastination brought me to something so needed. Thank you, Dr.

[@thepoletutort8105]

You brought me to tears when you mentioned “Losing time”. I struggle with this often, and recently explained it to my therapist. Thank you for your videos!

[@emilyhenry8785]

I literally can drop an hour like it's an apple falling out of an overfilled basket. Drives me insane. Like, was I conscious for that hour? Was I just screaming into the void for a freaking hour and don't remember it? Because I know that task took 15 minutes. There is no way it's 1:15 later....😅

[@Name..........]

​@emilyhenry8785 That's a mood I've had the same thing happen for, like 7 hours. My adhd is so bad that I'll hyper focus on a book I'm reading and forget to eat, drink, ect, everything until I look at che clock and go eait a minute it's been 2 days and I didnt turn in that test.

[@mikailamccarthy6960]

Adhd culture is rewatching the video 3 times because I got distracted each time.

[@Magnoliablossom1]

Or rewinding each time you zoned out. 🙄🥴❤️

[@andymackie4279]

This is not ADHD friendly

[@3squareddesigns]

Yep or replying to comments while the video is playing. 😅

[@modev4163]

She is NOT add

[@Nemusyne-o9x]

Surprisingly accurate, I replayed this video a couple times cause I was distracted. :^)

[@chriskasper3914]

I learned more from this video than 20 years of therapy. I want her as my doctor.

[@summerdgaffney]

Dr. Marks - I wanted to share a piece of my experience trying to watch this video-- I am a woman of color who wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was 38 years old while trying to study for my nursing boards. Today I got home from physical therapy trying my best to remember that my therapist explained his thoughts on some issues I have around proprioception I really need to listen to my body when a task feels uncomfortable and then take steps to manipulate my environment to accommodate my body's comfort. Coming in the door, I walked to my chair and sat down next to my laptop. I pulled up one of your videos on food and mood..but then when I saw your face I remembered thinking some of your adhd videos also looked helpful. spying this videos title I got comfortable. I started listening and then remembered I should take notes and grabbed a notebook and a pen..when I sat back down and restarted your video I wanted to write in at least two different colors bc if the note catches my eye I'm less likely to lose it... I came back to my chair and restarted the video.(on my laptop).. My cat came up to my chair and did something cute and I remembered she needed her second meal - so I got up to feed her.. ... Finally 39 minutes after initially sitting down to watch this video I have made it to Breaking Down Tasks at marker 5:26. [of course that 39 minutes does not take into account the last 25 minutes I spent writing this/ revising this / re writing it.. (If I end up hitting comment I count it as a win-- bc usually I'm too loathe with fear of others' judgement to actually hit that button.). Now, whenever I see a video or audio book on ADHD or an ADHD life hack -- the first thing I've learned to do is check the play time length of it.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” ― Steve Jobs

[@DrTraceyMarks]

👍🏽 great quote

[@CB-cj2fn]

Dr. Tracey Marks mmkk

[@dim7610]

As someone who’s still figuring out how to navigate ADHD, I can’t even tell you how truly important this breakdown was for me.

[@Scooby-Snacks]

I've watched many of your videos. I suffer from ADHD and have since a child. I'm almost 40 now... I have some other issues too but the thing with ADHD I want to make changes and try to make changes but nothing works... I've tried every different organizational system I've approached it so many different ways. You make some new suggestions, I'm skeptical this would change the outcome for me since so many other things have not. I'm willing to try though. Hope to have something positive to share with the community here. Wanting to change and making change are different things. Once changes made maintaining it is where the impossibility always seems to lie.. this is where all systems are lost. Maintaining... something about ADHD, we cannot maintain a system. As soon as it's not a shiny fun thing anymore it becomes an impossibility....

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

Organization for folks with ADHD needs to come with lowered expectations. What organization looks like for us isn't going to match other people. In general, it's better to get rid as many of the things that you can before you start. A big thing though is that when you're organizing things, it's important to make it as easy as possible to put things back where they belong. If you've got a bunch of DVDs on a shelf, good enough is if The matrix is in the section that has the M movies. Eventually, if you find that you're not having trouble putting them back, you can consider worrying about the order, or you can number them, but that can cause trouble if you add or subtract any from the list. It's also a great idea to have a bin or something of that nature where you can just put things that you didn't get around to putting away, eventually it will fill and as long as you put the items away before the bin overflows, you're golden. Papers may have to be something that just get dividing into, retain indefinitely, retain until X and stored with everything else that needs to be retained until then. Indefinite retention ones are more of a problem, but they tend to be unusual enough that they aren't themselves an issue for most people. You shouldn't have a ton of wills lying around and there's only so many insurance policies that you need. But, really, the more of this stuff you just get rid of, or don't acquire in the first place, the easier the whole thing is.

[@hanskraut2018]

Russel Barkley (the guy that published the most about adhd) said: "Its not a informationdefizit disorder. They could be the brightest people in the world - its not about what they know, its about that they cant/have diffuculties (on a scale of course some more some have less DAT and so on) to use the knowledge that they have!" I know so much but somethimes i brain just forgets it blanks out or i cant remember most things, and somethimes im super good/fast and everything and i crush in onlinegames or when doing homework but that just shows me that I can do it but its extremly inconsistant and most of the time its just shut off. (happened also when i took the meds somethimes but it goes away when i cant find the perfect dosage, a friend found it and has a sixpack now and helps everyone and does tons of work, but he needs months to help other people to find it and its inconsistant and hard and everyone i know in my adhd group has different medication dosages and so on most of them unhappy but im the most unhappy of them all it seems because im bothered the most by the state of the medication / dosage tiltration help (or lack there of in my country CH one of the most rich countrys on earth -.-)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Scooby. I hear you. This may not result in a total overhaul for you but even tweaking a few things may be enough to make some noticeable improvement. I have 2 more skills training videos coming up. #2 is in two weeks and the 3rd one on organization will be a few weeks after that. I hope you can get a few take ways that make a difference

[@tumblingrosesstudio]

Check out some of the ADHD skills videos on KZbin, they are great!

[@brindmusicnerd]

Hi there, you may like to look at the channel Clutterbug - Cas has a good system for working out what kind of organisation works best for different types of people... and she has ADHD. Another great channel is How To ADHD with Jessica McCabe - excellent resources for living well with ADHD Good luck 👍😁

[@A_ndrea]

There are a lot of mental health KZbinrs but none are as straight forward and easy to absorb as Dr. Marks - What a total queen!

[@jackiemasek8302]

I have ADHD. When my kids were young there was so much laundry! So I bought a ton of hangers. After that EVERYTHING but undies and socks got hung up. Undies and socks got put in piles and dumped in a drawer. As for towels and sheets, everybody got their own set. Then I taught the kids how to do their own laundry. They had their own day to do it. It’s so much faster to put laundry away.

[@litawi7869]

You were awesome. My mom just yelled about the Room being dirty even though she saw me trying to clean it up everyday!

[@jackiemasek8302]

@@litawi7869 thank you! I saw continuing to get upset and yelling as absolutely illogical. And time consuming. And a huge energy drain.

[@49sr]

Thank you! Finally, a video on time management that doesn’t just assume you’re procrastinating.

[@Urkowata]

>me, having ADHD >>Doctor: have a clock literally everywhere and plan things! >me: looking at 5 clocks literally everywhere in every moment >>Doc: plan little things! >me: will do! >me: want to wash the dishes, lacks sponge, goes to shop, get distracted, starting playing games, battery ran out, going to shop again >me: what should I do Done, Doc. Thanks. (Just kidding, thanks for another video about ADHD! You are great! )

[@johnkovary5121]

Emily F or Baron’s Wasteland A little red right return ❗️❗️

[@SharlenesJourney]

This is so relatable most times I just play video games and not do what I was supposed to do lol

[@JessicaZiegler-r2e]

By far the BEST video I have found that actually made sense! I went through multiple videos and about 2 minutes in, I either get irritated by the voice, they knowledge they give sounds patronizing, and they didn't seem personable. I am on a journey to better myself and give myself that reality check and I'm grateful I came across this creator. ☝

[@Mockduck2020]

Please keep making these videos for ADHD! The last person I worked with for 6 months not getting much accomplished finally said that “ADHD is a mood disorder.” Well, I now understand why we never got very far because evidently she was trying to treat a “mood disorder” when my problem is ADHD. This was one of the milder ignorant things “professionals” have said to me. I’m so sick of the ignorance of the “professionals” out there.

[@annap7678]

Agreed. It doesn’t seem at all to be a mood disorder to me. There are various reasons why mood disorders might accompany ADHD, but it’s not a mood disorder per se.

[@carolinewhitaker967]

I agree with Lisa. Teenagers can watch these videos and not think parents are nagging and controlling.

[@youtubecommentator6023]

"Leaving things undone can chip away at your motivation and self-esteem." This is why I struggled with homework so much. Even in elementary school I remember sitting at the kitchen table (where we would usually work on homework) for 3-4 hours trying to get my homework done but being constantly distracted and unmotivated. This continued into high school. I remember working on homework clear until 1-2am sometimes and even then the homework would be half-finished. There so many times I cried myself to sleep feeling like I was the laziest/dumbest person on the planet. I understood the homework but man, trying to focus on it and actually finish the assignments was so dang hard.

[@annegriswold9545]

This is, hands down, my favorite video that I've ever seen so far, on ADHD. I feel like you've helped me more in the last 11 minutes, than anyone else has ever in my life regarding ADHD. Honestly - I felt so reassured, supported, and relieved while listening to this. You put into words the things that I live through every day, yet have not EVER been able to actually organize into words to describe it.Thank you, thank you, thank you! I look forward to watching all of your other ADHD videos.

[@wendyhannan2454]

Dr Marks is brilliant, she’s helping me tremendously.

[@gosuperva]

The laundry example is perfect - it illustrates how breaking down a seemingly overwhelming task into smaller steps can make it manageable.

[@NothingLikeaLadyWithaBuzzsaw]

Looking forward to the rest of these videos. I listened to this while folding towels and I want to cry. I'm just getting through Judy's cycle where everything is clean and put away again, except there are two baskets of laundry left to put away. Sometimes I end up with 5-10 loads of laundry I do at once, and 1-2 loads of dirty dishes in the kitchen. BRB, getting a clock for the bathroom. Watch says the laundry took 10 minutes to fold and put away. I think this year is going to be better, and I may need to watch this video again soon.

[@BeccaTheBoring]

I started hanging my favorite clothes up so I don’t have to go digging for them. And I get up at the same time and get ready the same way no matter what day of the week it is so that I’m “ready” no matter what’s on the agenda. And I put everything, even silly things, in google calendar and have it synced on all devices so it yells at me repeatedly until I Mark it as done. I’m not quite typical since I’m also on the autism spectrum, but yeah. All of this works.

[@Tmcsinger91]

Same here

[@DonnaSP41]

Thanks for sharing. I’m about to give it a try. Suffering and losing friends and family.

[@melissadavis5954]

I didn't know you could have Google yell at you until it's done!!! I'm gonna check this out. I don't use Google calender because I always end up ignoring the alarms.

[@BeccaTheBoring]

Melissa Davis yeah, just sync all your devices using Google calendar (just download Google or Chrome for Apple IOS and sign into it) and allow browser notifications. Then, when you set up a reminder on one device, it’s shared between all of them. Then all of them will ping you until you mark it as complete on one of them.

[@melissadavis5954]

@@BeccaTheBoring Okay, I kinda forgot all about this until just now. I'm going to hurry up and try it right now. 😊

[@quoileternite]

This woman is SO intelligent ... I feel totally tuned with everything she says. Thank you. You are a gem. 💜

[@mkmcl5478]

Thank for this! You are the first person who descibed the time warp I live with. So glad this is neurological and not me being a slacker or a loser...Thank you also for the coping strategies as well!😀

[@Karenanne247]

Why do I sense that fellow ADHD brains are my tribe ❤️

[@elisarizo5130]

After seeing one of your videos, I immediately subscribed! I have been doing research to understand my ADHD, which has gone bunkers with menopause. I am really learning about what to do to help myself. Thank you so much for your videos: they are very relevant and beautifully produced!

[@innuendo4469]

Thank you for your hard work 🌼 For myself that type of video is difficult to get through, and please, do not read it as a criticism, I'm just trying to give another example of an ADHD brain works. Easier for me would be less words. Example explanaiton - great, but less words ..going back and forth with timelines of the story tires me and confuses. For myself best are literally points of story, with timeline from past to now. Simple, short sentences. Optimal video: " Problem with laundry - cut it to 3 parts : 1. collect + write how long it took, 2. wash+ write how long it took, 3. hang + how much time it took. + soothing words, at the start of the video maybe, about it's being understandable to be confused, as there is so much in todays life of a person, with all the information we get bombarded with. So try to relax, no need to rush. If that kind of thing works for anyone else, hit the like under my post, I am very curious how you guys feel about what I wrote above. Over and out. ;)

[@JohnnyKush-n8h]

Great tips in this video. I've found that having a structured new tab page like Astirna helps me stay organized and focused throughout the day.

[@jasmineclair613]

You are a savior! I’m super driven but weighed down by my overly ambitious expectations for myself. I desperately needed this video. Thank you for all that you do, I am so grateful to have access to your videos 🙏🏽

[@kristine95660]

43yr old autistic and ADHD entrepreneur here. I just want to say I love you 😂 Thank you for explaining things so I can understand ❤

[@tia2484]

This series is such a blessing!!!! I had no idea my adhd was the core culprit contributing to so many of my biggest flaws!! I have tried so hard to be better, be on time, make a list and check them off. I felt so silly that I can't finish overwhelming tasks. It's like you are describing my situation, but with non medicated solutions! I am so excited.. going to listen to this series multiple times and buy my planners!!:) thank you!!!!!!!!

[@stevensvideosonyoutube]

I respect the idea of moderative intervention. So more than one person can receive guidance at the same time, so answers can be present in light of confusing and pathological situations.

[@SparklesNJazz]

the most practical video i’ve found on adhd yet. i’m actually feeling my anxiety dissipate. thank you for making things easier 😭

[@sarahplaisted5226]

Need to clean my office which has been neglected and it’s chaotic. So I proceed to spend 3 hrs cleaning the whole house and have barely set foot in there. Point being …. Thank you for these beautiful videos to help me understand my diagnosis I got October 2022 at 34 hrs old. These are exactly what I need. What WE need. Thank you. Never ever condescending or anything at all like that. Uplifting and you make it seem so reasonably doable.

[@johnkovary5121]

There’s an exercise that I practice every Once in a while with a stopwatch. I sit in a quiet room and guess when five minutes go by. Hit the stopwatch And see how far off my internal clock is. I refined it by using different periods of time. Until I get my internal timing right. Dr. Marks what your point of view on this practice?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi John that’s a great way to develop time awareness. It can then help you stay on track with ordinary things like conversation, errands etc so that time doesn’t drift on you

[@johnkovary5121]

Dr. Tracey Marks Thank you for your point of View.

[@princesscarlton4974]

This just overwhelmed me even thinking about trying this

[@KasThinks]

Me too Sis 🫠

[@SharlenesJourney]

I love how you speak it’s like you understand everyone and you put yourselves in their shoes 🥺 I love this it’s a struggle for me everyday I am just now realizing at 24 that I may have adhd I’m so bad with time being unorganized, I don’t prepare the day before and I think that also messes me up

[@glitteryroses]

The best thing about you is just how accurately you have understood ADHD because this is literally EXACTLY what goes on in my head

[@tillietiger1273]

I have ADHD and this video has some of the most helpful advice that I've ever heard - thank you!

[@julieableschapin3178]

Excellent! Thank you! I have a daughter in college (second year) with ADD and I have watched each year as her difficulty with executive functioning catches up with her as the semesters carry on and she falls further behind and then stresses at the end trying to catch up. This is a solid series to help people work to improve their executive functioning. Those of us who do this automatically also can forget that this skill is a struggle for folks with ADHD/ADD so it helps us also to understand them better. Thank you!

[@Nirosha101]

I had the same problem in college

[@mnr98.x]

I have ADHD, so I find your videos super helpful ❤ I've started setting alarms, pre completing tasks the night before (pack lunch & take out clothes) and using a bullet journal to stay organised! It's helped so much with my organisation.

[@misterhoeflak]

Love your common sense, straight-up approach Dr Tracey. My calendar and task apps are my friends. I can also highly recommend a pomodoro timer app.

[@esperanzagene310]

Thank you so very much for this series. It is clear, comprehensive enough, yet succinct. Me & my ADHD brain thank you. I have been searching wildly for something like this. Your work is life changing. Additionally comforting, as a Black woman, to experience a Black woman professional in this field.

[@ophirmayer1]

How to cope with adhd you ask? Just master time management and organizational skills.. Basically just don't have ADHD!! Thanks so much Dr.!!

[@KasThinks]

That’s exactly how I felt lol

[@erikl4821]

In all seriousness, I have long wondered if I have ADHD that has not been diagnosed. When I was a boy, kids like me were just told that we were just "lazy" and/ or "aimless". I've learned many of the skills you talk about over my life from trial and error. I keep a daily task list and a quarterly "goals" (like an OKR) list that I consult weekly. If it's not on those lists, it generally won't get done until the task is put in writing. So I put them in writing! I still have issues, but no longer unmanageable. Not the same, but similar to your most awesome advice, which is probably better than my methods. My biggest hurdle was being honest with myself that I had a problem that would have to be addressed. Motivation comes from having a realistic task list and actually completing it. I love what you said about completing tasks as a motivator!

[@PiccolaRabiosa]

Dr Tracey Marks your clearness and descriptive approach has helped me so much. Ive never left a comment but I wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart. This is a 22 yo working girlie from Argentina that appreciates you a lot!

[@lemoorian4549]

Are there any career choices, supported by scientific literature, that would be good or bad for someone with predominantly inattentive adhd symptoms?

[@Passions5555]

I definitely want to know. Deadline heavy work is proving to be nightmarish. But all work has some kind of deadline aspect to it. 😟

[@SaiyanShinobi]

It's definitely not receptionist work. Omg how I've been at my job for nearly 5 years is a mystery.

[@tinakendall6180]

When my mother was in the icu all her icu nurses proclaimed they had adhd. They said it HELPED in their career bc they used all their time at work mostly focused on keeping their one patient alive and improving their health even on tiny microscopic levels. They constantly had their share of distractions but everything was carefully synchronized at a level that worked with how the adhd brain truly craves organization and to be able to focus on one thing.

[@HibiscusHigh]

I find that lots of external deadlines help me, that pressure. I am an event planner and support a department head. During my slow season is when I struggle even more with staying focused and getting work done.

[@le13579]

@@tinakendall6180 Structured environments, maybe? e.g. hospitals, military...

[@Tired_Night_Owl_in_the_Woods]

My suspicion of me having ADdHD grew when I spent 3 months without my smartwatch🙈 even having a phone with reminders always with me did not help to do some work tasks in time.🤦🏻‍♀️ I have two calendars: digital for time-sensitive and repetitive things, paper for goals and non time-sensitive. Reminders on the watch make my life so much easier😅 Quick tip: if you have a busy schedule mark the time for eating and set a reminder!

[@herrealhappiness3697]

Oh my gosh, watching the washing clothes bit of this is literally an accurate description of my life. Thank you so much for this. This really helps so much.

[@andrew8337]

I was scrolling through KZbin 3 days ago at 2am and this woman randomly shows up in my feed. I have just had my entire life make sense in the last 3 days after watching this adhd series. I’ve watched every video 3 times because I keep spacing out in the middle of them, but I am picking up useful tools that are seriously helping me.

[@lostvegaseve]

You described my entire life 🤦🏻‍♀️ even with medication! But starting this sounds so overwhelming!!! 😫😫😫

[@nicovalenzuela4044]

Is medication even worth it then?

[@lostvegaseve]

@@nicovalenzuela4044 yes, to be honest- medication has improved my ability to focus & handle life without multiple daily meltdowns. I still have this issues, but they are MUCH easier to manage. Medication changed my life.

[@nicovalenzuela4044]

@@lostvegaseve okay, I'm gonna start taking medication once the next semester starts so hopefully it helps with my issues😅 Thank you replying :)

[@Keeplookingup87]

Absolutely amazing! I just subscribed. So many of these ADHD traits I shamed myself over. In my 50s my son said, “Mom, you have ADHD.” I’m not officially diagnosed, but clearly have so many symptoms which explains so much. Now I don’t shame i just implement new strategies. Thank you for such amazing insight. I feel like you’ve known me for years.

[@SowaScape_Premier_Landscapes]

Love the advice overall, and specifically the idea of writing out my tasks and timing each one. My main issue with that though… I have trouble staying on task, as my brain works to do “what’s most efficient” instead of what is most important. (I.e. today I went to make my coffee and morninf shake as I do in my daily routine. Instead noticed dirt I tracked in sticking to my feet in the kitchen. I grabbed the vacuum but the vacuum was full. I went to empty it but the trash can was full. I changed the trash but needed a new bag. I went to get a new bag and decided I should empty all the trash cans around the house before I tied the old bag. I eventually started vacuuming after several more related sub tasks. My shoes were in my way. I went to put them on the shoe rack but it was in shambles. I reorganized the shoe rack….. At some point much later I eventually made my dang coffee and shake… Imagine timing that. Seems to be consistent in my landscaping business as well when I do yard clean ups or big projects. The more moving pieces, the higher chance I risk going over time allocation and over budget. It’s really weighing me down

[@christamccool9993]

Thank you for taking the time to post this.. THIS is exactly my brain - allllll the time. And I work so hard not to get into that loop, that even when I DON'T bite, I'm still using that cognitive energy to STAY on task, or return, return, return to task... I haven't figured out how to navigate between the two states without all the energy wasting, but I really look forward to automating some of that process to decrease the burden... Brilliant breakdown. I am grateful!

[@roofoofighter]

Haha I can relate so much to this.

[@mylunarlove]

Omg, where have you been all my life? Receiving this type of ADHD information in such a professional format is way easier for me to digest and retain. The summarizing of information is a game changer for me with this type of content 🤯.

[@Tmcsinger91]

I can relate to this as I have ADHD . I’m medicated for it and time management is something I have been trying to work on as I find implementing planning and structure important . Also I can relate to getting bored easily , and having a hard time getting activities or tasks started . I find it helpful to make to do lists or planning my day . I found this video very helpful ! Thanks so much ☺️😍

[@blumorningstar6190]

I cried immediately when I watched your first video, I got so frustrated to only understand now my problem. I’m also feel mad at my parents for never have noticed that I need help. Since my childhood I give them so many signs that I was in need of help but they never paid attention on me! My life could have been much better now, I could be successful our at least more productive. Right now I’m 32 dealing on my own with this problem all by myself, it’s hard and it’s only getting worse. I need seek for help before I waste my entire life.

[@sjoestjerne]

Thank you! All those years I thought there was something wrong with me but didn't know what and why :( I don't feel passing time at all, I live in my own time zone so to say... I can't estimate how much time things will take, it's always longer than I think, when I do something I get engrossed and forget about time or get distracted and things take five times as much as they could, I'm often late and I procrastinate awfully, it's so difficult to start things, especially big, they feel so overwhelming, I also have difficulty finishing what I started, I get bored or distracted, I forget things, misplace things, or do something complex well but forget about an important detail, which is crucial, I'm impulsive, I do multiple things at a time, I get easily distracted, my mind is hyperactive, but my body is not, I'm told I'm acting slowly and undecisive. Could this be adhd?

[@tamekagilford8835]

Sounds like my life!

[@kylaluv8453]

My daughter really struggled with time. So I bought her a countdown timer for the blind. We set it for everything, especially bathing. She would stand under the shower for 40+ minutes and only thought 5 minutes passed. It worked for everything. My best idea ever.

[@alexe6406]

Thank you very much for this! I don't have an official diagnosis of ADHD, but I have trouble estimating the time it will take me to complete a task, and I'm easily distracted. I always have a fear to be late to an appointment, so I arrive extremely in advance because I don't want people to think I'm desorganised or that I don't care about the appointment.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

You may or may not have ADHD, but the tips for managing life as somebody with ADHD are just generally sound principles for just about anybody. The difference though is that for people with ADHD things like this are effectively mandatory if we want to get anything done and have it together; for other people it's just nice, but not essential.

[@Tmcsinger91]

Same here !

[@freenow5484]

This is so accurate! I have to have , clocks etc. the best thing has been my Echo dot aka Alexa! I set 5 minute intervals for tasks like showers, getting dressed, making lunch etc. this has helped me to be on time. I would spend 30 minutes in the shower thinking about ideas and 10 billion other things. Having undiagnosed adhd, marrying someone with undiagnosed adhd and then having children proved to be a disaster. My unsolicited advice, don’t ignore your symptoms. Get medical support. Eat and exercise and use watches, clocks, friends and Alexa. Time stamp all your tasks to get a realistic perspective on how much time things actually take. I spent years explaining to people that I wake up at 4am so I have more time to do everything but I was still late. You got this!!!

[@transphotography]

Can you make more videos on adult ADHD strategies to common struggles? Your videos are so concise and helpful. Thank you!

[@jenjibur]

I do some of this already! I have my weekly chores written on a dry erase board to do on certain days. Laundry is always a big one that I would never finish, so I spread it over three days. It still doesn't always get done, but I can check off the parts that I did get done & feel a bit of accomplishment. I finally figured out how to keep a calendar that works for me. I keep a monthly one & have a separate app that shows me a day at a time, with the option to scroll through the coming week. And the clocks! I have them in almost every room! I don't wear a watch though. I just don't like having something on my wrist. But I'll consider it. I'm happy I managed to figure some of this out since my diagnosis 15 years ago, but I still have a long way to go! Thank you for your insightful & concise videos!

[@summerbreeze553]

That hit home! Thanks for producing relevant content

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re so welcome Summer! 😊

[@summerbreeze553]

@@DrTraceyMarks, you are most welcome! Can you do a video on compulsive gambling?

[@azahy26]

I've been dealing with ADHD for 40 years and this is the 1st time I find such a helpful video. When Dr. Tracey mentioned the laundry issue, I started laughing because she was describing me to the T! The information provided explains exactly what I go through each day...not finding my keys, or my debit card because I threw it inside my purse. I get so stressed out when I can't find something or when I can't finish a task because I got distracted with something else. My biggest issues are time management, organization and planning but after watching the recommendations of Dr. Tracey I feel like I can do this!!

[@sheenacouture7657]

Dang. Laying it out like that. Wish someone could have said it ten years ago! Super cool. Thank you. Also though, I have a major clock and daytimer avoidance. They both make me feel stressed. Any idea why and how to help with that? Having my day planned out feels like jail. So uncomfortable. Thanks!

[@JJSogaard]

Yeah, since I recently got diagnosed, I have been planning to see an ADHD coach when I have settled on medicine and doses. I know the coach will likely be helpful, but I still dread the suffocating and overwhelming scheduling I’ll inevitably have to do...

[@AlexaFaie]

I struggle with clocks and timers too (because I have zero concept of the passing of time, I forget to look at clocks, or have to constantly stare at time meaning I can't do anything else, plus dyscalculia messes with the numbers, and timers then scare the shit out of me every damn time because I have no way to estimate when they'll go off). The closest thing I have found to figuring out time is music. I find that I tend to be able to be more focused on doing stuff with the right music on in the background. I decided to see if it might help based on how I can remember exactly how many tracks off a certain album it would take me to walk somewhere, but to this day have no idea how long that is in minutes. lol I tried making myself a playlist filled with songs which were exactly 5 minutes, but unfortunately the styles ended up too varied for me to enjoy that mix, but I did notice that most of my music taste features songs which are close enough to being 5 mins (some a little shorter, most a bit longer, but good enough for me) that I can use a playlist of a set number of songs to sort of time me. Now I don't work, due to my various disabilities so its easy for me to be a bit lax with what I'm doing (not got any fixed appointments or anything like that) but in general music is what helps me. So yeah, try setting up a playlist of familiar songs that is roughly the length of time you want to take doing something and you'll know time is up when they run out. And if its familiar and always playing in the same order, you'll get the time broken down a bit too - like knowing that when a certain song comes on, you're about half way through.

[@sherylforsman8691]

Totally get that! I've always been resistant to time mgt., because I feel like it creates self-imposed stress! Discouraged when I don't meet unrealistic time deadlines I've set for myself!

[@sherylforsman8691]

@@JJSogaard Wish I could afford to hire a personal ADHD coach!!!!

[@p.serica]

@@AlexaFaie Late to this conversation but I also benefitted from using songs and not timers for helping me perceive time better! Sometimes I just blanket count the number of songs and assume each is 5 minutes to trick myself into building in buffer time (when they are all actually 3-5 minutes). I wanted to comment also because I recently found a way to have alarms go off and not scare me; I downloaded sound clips of bird calls, and use them as custom alarm tones. I dont get the same tense feeling waiting for them to go off and startle me so now I set custom alarms for everything (although music is probably still the most effective for me for perceiving time passing, so long as I dont get hung up on choosing songs). Having a whole ton of interesting birds also adds interest if my brain ever tunes them out or gets bored or irritated at hearing them but it doesnt happen too often. I hope that is of some help even though this comment is so late!

[@af-yz5fd]

Thank you so much. I'm Japanese who studying English,and ADHD. So,your video is very helpful in both of them for me. My life quality is improving day by day,because of you. I wanna say again thank you so much!!

[@kristilee2323]

Thank you! Clocks! Watchers! This is the first time I’ve ever heard this. I hear recommendations about timers and alarms. But when I’m in hyperfocus, I absentmindedly turned them off. I’m going to buy some clocks tomorrow on my way to work. I sure hope this helps. It’s been pretty bad lately.

[@anacastillo9247]

Just don’t get distracted. I would get distracted

[@swetherby85]

Thank you! my kitchen is always a mess laundry is everywhere this should help.

[@meropale]

The laundry example is sadly too accurate in my case. One thing that is helping me is telling myself it's okay to set aside time to plan things. My natural inclination is to tell myself, you've got too much to do, who has time to plan things!?!

[@madwhitehatter]

I didn't realize I had ADHD until a diagnosis few months ago, and I'm 43. Things just got so much worse working from home during the pandemic. Your videos have been so very helpful. Thank you.

[@theotherway1639]

The small book "30 Days to Overcome Procrastination" by Corin Devaso is a nice book to have on hand. It uses a mindfulness and inquiry approach.

[@fabiangiger1]

As a true adhd’er; i skipped to the last vid. And am now back for the first. Very well designed videos!

[@jenng5925]

Thank you for this! My son suffers from ADD (ADHD) and his management skills are horrible. These steps are a great help.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Jennifer I hope the tips help him .

[@Shawnmehaffey]

I now have 17 alarms set in my phone with messages for each to prompt me. My first alarm is when I will wake usually 4:30-5:30. Then I have an alarm every hour leading all the way to 10-10:30 on the late side. I may not get up as early or go to bed by 10:30 but these are easy to change on the fly. The bulk of them throughput the day don’t change unless I have appointments that I need prompts to be on time. This has been the single greatest action I have taken to address time in my daily life. I’m considering getting back on adderall but also believe actions such as the alarm setup has helped maybe more than taking a pill. Thank you for making these videos!

[@cosmicdahlia]

2x speed gang ✌️

[@valhatan3907]

Im not alone!

[@MrAngeles89]

Facts

[@trapezoidbeauty]

OMG! This is so much better!

[@noellerecoskie3008]

This breaking down tasks really helped me with doing big tasks that are more broad, like cleaning the house or just one room, as a person with adhd. I would just get overwhelmed by all the things that go into cleaning a room; vacuming, putting away clothes on the bed, making the bed, etc and either wouldn't finish in the time I thought it would take or just wouldn't start cleaning to begin with. Breaking down tasks is definetly a game changer for more complex tasks, to estimate the time it will take.

[@natyalmighty]

Omg this video explains exactly what happens to me almost every morning and my issues with time management, I have never been diagnosed with ADHD, should I see a therapist about this?

[@marinecases4914]

Yes!

[@patriciadavis2514]

Not necessarily! It's your choice.

[@zipbangcrash]

I stumbled onto better morning time management in recent years of my life. I now know that I need to get out of bed about 3-4 hours before I need to be out the door. That seems like a lot of time, but if my actual getting-ready tasks take an hour, I need to build in padding time for when I'm off task, and even simply sitting, having coffee, writing in my journal... I need a lot of break time between my 'on-task' stints, and now that I get up with plenty of time to allow myself to dink around which I will ALWAYS do, things have become so much easier! I have not been late since I implemented a system like described in this video, and allow myself the actual time I NEED, rather than how long I think it "should" take. This has also resulted in more diligence in my evening routine, which has impacted my sleep for the better... Etc, etc!