a conversation about the curse of ambition

hey o !! let's talk about ambition (along with success, aging, perfectionism, goals, dreams, and more). lately, i've been thinking a lot about ambition because i haven't been making a lot of progress with my current goals and with me being extremely ambitious.. it's been taking a toxic toll on me. i've been a bit more stressed, worried, and feel more pressure from myself to work even harder. so it gave me an idea to share my take in another chatty video!
lots of love,
Dustin
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C H A P T E R S
1:16 - background history on me / why i'm so ambitious
1:47 - how growing up in an asian household affected my ambition
4:30 - being ambitious / working hard for validation from others
7:10 - i'm the biggest critic / perfectionist
7:57 - wanting to be successful at a young age
10:32 - when my peers and friends are successful
12:08 - constantly wanting more and never being satisfied
12:50 - your dreams won't always make you happy
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[@divaanggaraaa]

Normalise finding love in your 40’s. Normalise discovering and chasing new dreams in your 30’s. Normalise finding yourself and your purpose in your 50’s. Life doesn’t end at 25. Let’s stop acting like it does. thankyouuu dustin🧚🏻‍♀️

[@journalmp4]

made it 666 likes yesss angel numbers

[@dobochobo]

wow rlly didn’t expect to feel so called out from this

[@isam6988]

Same here 😃😩

[@anannya6199]

Ikr fr!!

[@sans1806]

Fr fr✊🏻😭

[@eli-kh7bk]

frr 😩✋

[@poni2164]

Same

[@AshtonZ784]

It sucks that so many people are raised in a way to believe that you need high achievements in order to feel validated and worthy of compassion and appreciation

[@squidwardtentacles4234]

being an overachiever and a perfectionist has dictated my entire life. shit sucks

[@intheclouds4453]

just the word 'productivity' gives me so much stress, like i don't deserve to live if i'm not productive

[@fionnh4417]

"I want other people to also be impressed by the goals i want" FELT. i think for me, it stems from wanting validation from others, wanting people to see I'm doing well in life. And as much as i hate it, outside validation makes us think we are happy and successful. While I think praise from others can be encouraging, it can turn toxic when we are reliant on it as a means of valuing our own success. It really brings up the question of how can we self-validate ourselves without constantly thinking "how can i do better." And self-validation is difficult because we're ALWAYS trying to reach for higher goals, we overlook our past successes because, now, they don't seem as impressive since we've already achieved it. Something that really helps me is journaling (i thought journaling was always kinda meh but it REALLY does help) my thoughts whenever i do reach a goal of mine, writing about the amount of the work i've put into it and overcoming challenges. And whenever I feel down about not doing enough, i read those journal entries to remind myself of how i've grown as an individual :) anyways, fantastic mr fox is a such good movie and i really enjoyed listening to this video !

[@roochel]

this!! i've been reading a new earth by Eckhart Tolle which focuses on our ego and we can find value outside of our material world. hard to get into and sometimes i find myself having to go back and reread chapters but worth it! definitely brought those ideas up for me about finding worth and value in ourselves that aren't based in our capitalist goal orientated lives.

[@lulazere8209]

Who else is loving these sit down chatty videos Dustins been making?

[@nathanscore]

i'm two years older than you, and i used to be just like that when at 17, all the health problems i had been putting on the backburner to work hard and get into one of my country's top design schools literally put me to the hospital and changed my whole life. i had all these ambitions of getting a graphic design degree at 19, then go on to one of the two illustration schools in my country and have an illustration degree and begin being an illustrator at age 21. now i'm 21, and i still have that hardworking mindset, but staying in and out of the hospital for 4 years changes your perspective completely. i realize that some of my teachers only took interest in me because they could've been proud of my future CV and say "i used to teach this illustrator". idk why i'm saying all of this but comparing myself to younger people, and going to a school that is less than prestigious and still having to take gap years and struggle so hard because i can't juggle life at the hospital and my studies, all of that is so hard. now all i aspire to do is to take it day by day, not feel too much physical or mental pain today, for a doctor's appointment to go well, but it's not like i'm mentally calm and have completely accepted the reality of me spending my late teens and early childhood at the hospital. there is no conclusion to this, except that i've noticed my happiest days aren't the flashiest- sometimes i'm so satisfied and happy just because i've felt less pain today, or because a friend took the train to visit me at the hospital, or because a middle aged man from my mosque went all the way to my apartment to bring me food his wife made for me. i realistically don't think my life will be long, and i don't expect myself to survive past my mid twenties, but i hope that my final months will be spent in peace, and that the people who share the same dreams as me, and have what it takes to achieve my dreams don't give up and find happiness along the way.

[@sept2039]

i'm not gonna say i understand, i can't because i didn't go through that myself. but i can for sure relate to feeling behind and struggling during the journey of becoming the person you've always dreamed to be. and i myself am a very pessimistic person but i also somehow have my hopes up, almost always. because i feel like the satisfaction you're gonna feel will be way bigger if you achieved your goals after going through something (it's different for everyone) rather than achieving it thanks to luck and privilege. the bigger the struggle is, the more you're proud of yourself. living at the moment is important but if the current situation doesn't promise you much (as regards the path to your happiness), it is good to think about future you and trying as hard as you can now to be able to thank current you 5-10 years from now on. i hope you try to focus on the years ahead of you and one day feel the great satisfactions you dream of.

[@jubiterr]

I wish you the best, truly, you deserve it.

[@kairo2439]

Being so ambitious and having this overwhelming sense of anxiety and insecurity about not being able to withstand challenges that may come your way when working towards something is something that I literally need to come into the acquiescence of. My mindset towards the idea of failure is something that's so bothersome and that's detrimental to my own personal growth as a human being as well. Which is why I nearly burst into tears listening to dustin talk about the curse of ambition. I didn't think anyone would relate to me in any way, shape, or form in the same level of ambition and drive as I do. It's hard when you literally almost cannot convince yourself that youth shouldn't be an indicator of success and, in general, hard to convince yourself that your self-worth isn't determined by other's perceived opinion of success. I'm still trying to mend my thought process and heal from this constant lingering feeling that makes me feel that I'm both adequate and inadequate at the same time :>

[@hollyken3]

FINALLY someone talking about the fear of aging and how it really affects people who are young and feeling like you’re on a timer! The pandemic reallyyy exacerbated this fear for me and it’s nice to hear I’m not alone

[@rheesolving]

This video actually spoke to me today, I took my math exam feeling very hopeful that I got an A, and then I found out I got a B which made me a little down. Why do I feel this way? And why do I always want something more? I was also pushed to have good grades by my mom and seeing her achieve her own goals made me want to have the same for myself. It sounds sorta selfish to think about but thats the only way I can see myself going somewhere, only up.

[@Lisa-wc5ee]

I really recommend for you to read “Frankenstein” by Mary Shelley, which is a novel that really helped me get an insight into how my ambition might harm me and others.

[@hihinini]

omg were reading that in my English class and I got the same idea from that tooo

[@nicolesison1767]

dustin!!!! you should make a podcast!!!! i love the vids where you talk abt topics such as this bc many ppl our age, including me, face these issues too. i enjoy listening to you express your thoughts and opinions on these topics and it encourages me to reflect on myself with you. never stop doing what you do! much love, nicole

[@hayaasad6208]

^^

[@kairo2439]

YES PLEASE!! a podcast would be a great idea. i love listening to dustin talk and could probably listen to him for hours on end. there's so much to relate to his set of experiences that it tears me up knowing that i'm not alone with my personal experiences with mental health and my own way of thinking

[@gremnda]

i literally pull an all-nighter one night every week just to get better grades and the thought of failure and disappointing people terrifies me to no end so yep. it was about time someone talked about this and i'm glad it's dustin

[@feyza9223]

Also finding out what "success" actually means to you is very important. Is that award really succes to you personally or is it just an object we give meaning to bc it's publicly viewed as the pinnacle of "success"? Looking for social recognition is quite a normal thing since we are social beings but breaking the habit of acting on that note could really be freeing and bring peace.

[@anticorpsmembranaire8452]

yes this ! i'm in my mid twenties, and watching this video I realize that the version of success Dustin gets into, I am not alined with at all, I have not been for years. I think when you grow up you don't have less ambition, it just becomes more realistic but also much more personal. My ambition is to have a lot of time to myself, and making enough money to have a pretty place to live in, to travel, and live a full social life, get political etc. I don't want my life to be centered around work only ; it's a capitalism scam, that I find quite sad.

[@filtrations]

taylor in miss americana when she won that grammy:

[@sans1806]

My life has honestly just been hell recently . I love art music and writing and then my school has been having exams almost every other day. Balancing all of this with extra tutions, dance classes, choir classes , learning 2 languages and to play the guitar just exhausts the heck out of me and i really dont know how to stop and actually take rest without feeling guilty . I havent slept in a literal 72 hours i think and im having the worst headache right now i was having a meal and decided to take a few minutes for resting and decided to watch your video and while i do feel exposed its really comforting to know that theres people with a similar thought process. I really am so extremely thankful for this video and your channel in general tysm.

[@katcakez134]

Felttt I’m the same age as Dustin and tbh something I’ve learned at this age is that life really is just life. It’s average. I feel like when we’re younger, we have all these dreams, imagining what we want our adult life to look like and romanticizing it so much. When kids are young they talk about what they want their future wedding to be like, what they want their first house to look like, how they wanna find their soulmate and spend the rest of their life with them, etc. But the reality is that a lot of that isn’t gonna happen the way we want it to. Some of those things might not even happen at all. And once you learn and accept that, I feel like thinking about the future is a lot less stressful because you have less expectations

[@graeground]

finally someone put it into words!!! the curse of ambition is too real. i feel exactly the same way. regardless of how much shit I accomplish and get done on a daily basis, I will always be hungry for more. i am always constantly pushing myself over the edge and past my limits to get to my dreams and goals.

[@samikingsley2258]

Ope.. this has me in tears because it felt so relieving to have someone authentically and verbally express shit I’ve been feeling for a long time. I was already feelin it and then you started talking about our relationship with aging and being haunted by this looming timer and I was like 😳😭

[@lisislobo6801]

one thing that amazes me is how latine and asian family dynamics is reeaaaly similar, as a latine i always relate so much to asian creators (and latines obviously) and it really amazes me also, my country (Brasil) have an good influence from asian culture so it kinda explains how we are really similar

[@s_786_]

Dustin, I'm sending you virtual hug. I can't thank you enough for making this video. I really needed this right at the moment. I'm turning 17 next year and all of a sudden I felt such a pressure from my future. Like my childhood went over so quickly. I feel so rushed because I still don't know in what direction I want my life to go and I still need to figure out who I am and what makes me happy. Seeing all those people nowadays being successful at a young age and having a high position in the public stresses me out so much. I feel unsatisfied and pressure because I constantly have the feeling that I need to choose the right path and chase my dream like crazy to finally find happiness. You're really speaking out of my heart. Your channel really gives me a place to feel comfortable and meet people that feel the same way as me. I think we got similar personalities, so I feel understood and relatable with what you're saying. Thank you for your existence, you really brighten up my day! Lots of love 💛

[@untitled1464]

Hi 세린 씨!!! I just wanted to say that you are still VERY young and you have SUCH A bright future ahead of you!!! If it’s any consolation, I am 23 years old, but I remember how similarly I use to feel at your age. I remember being stressed thinking I had to follow a certain path just because society told me that was the correct one, but truthfully we should listen to our hearts and follow whatever makes the most sense to us, and that includes taking the time to enjoy each day and slowly. trust me when I say, at 17 years old, if you can, take the time to do things that interest you, take a gap year if you can to travel the world and/or develop skills that you may find interesting/gravitate toward. You can do it!!!! You got this!!! Sending you lot’s of love and health always 😇

[@s_786_]

@@untitled1464 hello! Whoa I'm so sorry for my super late answer, I just was so caught up in a tight schedule TT I feel so touched by you answer and I want to thank you so much for your thoughtful words. Can't even express in words how thankful I am. This really means the world to me. I had to think a lot about what you said and it makes me see my future a lot brighter. It makes me feel so relieved knowing that I'm not alone in this and that my situation is relatable to someone. You can't imagine how much your message helped me. Again, thank you so so much, you have such a sweet soul. Lots of love to you too and a happy new year! 😄💛

[@Sam-kd2sd]

This is especially relevant to me at the end of the year, because it feels like I look back and forget all of the things I actually achieved and fixate on the new year. Also, a big thing is I always want to be successful and good at what I do but I never even have an end goal in mind, so even if I do something good it never feels like an achievement.

[@asl5923]

The day i discovered your channel, I was like "Woah, this person is so cool! I wanna have a similar perception of life." I realized what I wanted to do. I wanted to dye my hair however I want, I wanted to get plants, I wanted that peaceful life, and be able to move out and live on my own. You ARE inspiring. A side note, you are a little bit of intimidating with that bone structure, hehe.

[@hayaasad6208]

Instead of telling yourself you’ll be happy when you achieve [….], try to be happy now. Find joy in your journey to your said goal. I feel like you’ll be more content when you have that mindset.

[@simchasepler1428]

I love how you talked about that feeling of having to move forward. It's so fucking hard to process progress (or trauma) when society just keeps pressuring you to go go go.

[@spicychashu]

Felt this video to my core, my dude. I grew up Asian-Canadian and relate to that feeling of needing to be the best and impress everyone (especially when my mom would constantly compare me and my siblings to other Asian kids in our community and we'd get scolded if we were perceived as "not as excellent"). It still happens to this day, but I've learned to let it pass me by. I've also struggled with bouncing between self-hatred and self-love and wanting to do things for myself while needing that external validation to feel good. Even today, I am dealing w that classic inner critic talk. One thing that helped me a lot when I was trying to figure shit out last year was discovering the concept of "self-indifference". It became super clear to me that I was not capable of self-compassion in the regular sense no matter what I tried (I could pretend but it was clearly covering up just a whole thing of self-loathing lmao), but the halfway point between hate and love is indifference. This isn't to say that you no longer care for your own welfare or interests, but that you view yourself as one piece of a whole, deeply intertwined with the welfare and interests of others. You matter because *everyone* matters. Instead of adoring ourselves (or working to make sure that others do), the most compassionate attitude we can have towards ourselves is to stop obsessing over ourselves and realizing that you're not *that* big of a deal, and isn't that a good thing in some ways? At the end of the day when you're on your death bed, will you be thinking of all the people who were impressed by you or all the super cool goals you may have hit? Or will you be hoping to be surrounded by loved ones who you spent a lifetime sharing your time with? Geez, I don't know if that made any sense at all, but it helped me out a bit and maybe it could do the same for you or whoever is reading!

[@RachelLiza]

i relate TOO much to this. I'm so bad at appreciating what i have because once i reach a goal, i find something new to chase after. And i constantly compare myself to others because i feel the need to accomplish everything before i turn 20 :(

[@monstera1672]

Dustin you're incredibly cute and whenever I see your videos I feel so safe, like a sorta sanctuary I guess. Just seeing you do your thing and being open gives me a an undescribable peace, thank you

[@naya6708]

Really glad i found ur channel dustin. I relate to a ton of the stuff u talked about and I’m also trying to live more presently and not focus on the future so much.

[@jaystillamonster]

This is actually what I'm going through rn😭 Istg, I'm talking as a perfectionist myself and while everyone thinks that's impressive but really, I'm suffering inside. I thought I was the only one. No one really gets it when I try to explain🐦 Thanks Dustin! Wish you well & of course along with anyone who suffers from this curse..Y'all a fighter💪🏻

[@ElizabethBadillo]

The level of honesty in this was so refreshing. I can relate to this video SO much growing up in a Filipino home. I feel like a part of why we care so much about others & impressing others is because of how we were raised, with so many expectations and comparison

[@underw777]

I relate to this so much. I've been trained to be the best since childhood. Having a big family full of successful people made it worse when I'm always trying to fit in with my cousins and siblings. I feel insecure around them and I also have a low self-esteem because I felt like I don't belong or I'm not good enough. It doesn't help that there's always comparisons and their lack of communication to me. Maybe that's why I'm always seeking validation from others. People always told me to slow down and be less ambitious but the high from achievements and winning are very addictive. I'm always competing and taking everything seriously. It lead me to burnout and mental health issues. I'm through my healing phase right now and trying to rewire my thoughts with therapy and healthy lifestyle.

[@emmrolala]

I love the fact that every word dustin said was so relatable It was almost like a friend was giving me an advice :) Thank you Dustin ❤️

[@taar1ka]

ngl every time dustin uploads a new video i do a lil happy dance

[@kingbenjyy]

The aesthetic of this video>>>

[@dianam9783]

Wassup dustin i love ur vids,ur an amazing person i hope u know that ,u work so hard and we are thankful for you❤️

[@egyptianmimi256]

The level of honesty in this vid and you beinging vulnerable to the world is what i LOVE about ur talks.. The world need more of honest ppl actually, and yes.. I do relate to you

[@aslan.apollo]

this video overall was so relatable! i’m almost 17 and i feel like i should do everything before college and before my early 20s. i overwork myself and still feel like its not enough, when i don’t do anything i feel bad about myself. also i have a big fat inferiority complex :D i don’t wanna grow up because i feel like my life will be until 20 which will probably not be like that. adulthood and earning money is so scary and it makes me so anxious about my future and present as well. its good know that im not alone. it is okay to not be the best, to not have the best life ever and we all should be okay with it. i wish everyone who feels the same the best! :)

[@edkyungwin8634]

the palette thoooo, the ginger hair compliments sm the teal hoodie omfg...

[@sjae-ni1xi]

ikr

[@milankolovic6360]

look at the bright side that you’re still more successful than 90% of us

[@crustapple6205]

yes!! I love chatty videos, they bring me so much comfort and always make me wanna learn more about myself, reflect on my characters etc, it just feels so good to have someone at a similar age talk about problems I face too, just... thank you so much!!!!!!!

[@ravenebe]

It's better than any other self improvement podcast man. Thank you very much

[@michalpitowsky]

As a 37 year old mom of two, I gotta tell you that I feel really young, and that I still have a lot to live and achive. So, even more so for you and people your age. Plus, you're really cool, and interesting, so as an older person watching, it just seems obviouse to me you will do great things.

[@sagegreen1390]

No lie you literally save my day and make me smile so much! KEEP GOING YOU GOT THIS!!

[@eliphant9160]

honestly i have never felt so understood until now, thank you so much. we got our grades yesterday and im the top student in our class, and im somehow...not happy and satisfied and proud of myself about it? im literally sad about it. i feel like i dont deserve it even though i know i work really hard for it. i wish i could just be appreciative of what i could/have done in life, even if its small. and its because i work hard for other people to praise me, recognize me, and validate me...ever since a kid, ive been praised for "looking pretty", and ive always hated that people only recognize my appearance instead of my personality and little achievements, that fcked me up growing up. like i want them to see the great things ive done, i didnt work hard for my face lmao its all genes so it doesnt feel right to get praised by it, at least thats how ive always felt. im definitely not doing it for the right reason, and ive been trying to "fix" this for years now...its so so hard, though im not gonna stop trying, i dont wanna live like this for the rest of my life. (ranting in public >>> to friends, bruh lmao)

[@shanny1318]

13:15 Please do. Speak about the switch up!!! I felt so miserable at the end of my senior year of high school. My parents really pressured me into figuring out what I needed to do for the rest of my life. I wish they just sat with me and actually talked about it in detail. But I can’t fault them too much. I made it seem like I had all the answers so I didn’t really give them room to speak to me. Either way, the switch up is insane and I really wanted to die lol.

[@weepingwillow123]

I really relate to this video!! I think it’s so interesting that you said you really wish your heart could be satisfied with one thing forever… for me, while my passions change from one thing to another, my ambition remains constantly focused on God! I know it seems odd to get religious, but He is the one thing that is always consistent in my life, and I am always learning more about him and at the same time always satisfied. His love is just so sweet and it’s amazing to experience satisfaction via a personal love relationship with God! just had to share ❤ take care!

[@jennagilbreath4826]

dustin, i find so much comfort in these talking videos. i listen to them and it feels like i am talk to a friend...only i cannot reply lol...one thing you were talking about really resonated with. as someone similar in age (20) and with a similar outlook on life i often find myself overlooking celebrating the little goals and achievements. it can be hard when life moves by so fast to really reflect on your accomplishments. i started to write down some of dreams everyday to remind myself of them. then i would write one goal that would get me closer to one of those dreams. in doing that one goal i already felt accomplished and i have come to appreciate the steps to get to those dreams. if you're feeling up to it, maybe you could try something similar :)

[@jenniferpetersen7087]

dustin trying his best to be confident is the best

[@i123456987654]

these are my favorite kind of videos...real talk that's super relatable...thank you for sharing dustin because we feel the exact same way

[@nazira5878]

DUSTIN WE MISSED YOU

[@avr8583]

whenever i watch one of your chatty videos, i genuinely relate so fucking much. it feels comforting and validating and i love you. thank you for existing.

[@justboredidkslay]

THE EDITING STYLE >>>

[@rafaelalopez7661]

May I recommend katherout’s video “Your dreams were sold to you” (or something like that) because it really helped me when I was in a similar mind place …

[@JuliBom]

OmG the fact that you brought up that Fantastic Mr Fox scene which has spoken to me and the way I want to be seen by the world made me realize everything in this video is ON👏 POINT 👏 I'm in my 30s and as much as I try to practice self forgiveness and do things at my own pace, there is still that competitive high expectations part of me that craves validation and need to wow people, so if I'm not automatically good at something or execute the way my brain sees myself doing, I am instantly unmotivated or disappointed 🙃 This is what happens when you're told from a young age in an Asian household that you can do so much better and are better than others because you were good at a few cool things, but once you aged you realize that's not the case. Maybe it is some kind of strange superiority complex 😅

[@LilyBugInterrupted]

I am 26, turning 27 in less than a month, and as someone as ambitious as you are, Dustin, I am still behind, and that used to consume me up inside a lot more than it does now. People younger than me are out there achieving great, remarkable successes, being independent, owning their own little places, etc., while I'm still living with my mom, getting allowance to go about my life, and being a total jobless, penniless college student who is on the verge of collapsing. It bothers me sometimes, especially when I feel pressured by family to give them a break, but I try to block that stuff now to work my way into my ambitions peacefully.

[@mariom6884]

Dustin,as a person who got throughout similar things that you have,I dare to point:lack of focus and denial about yourself.When I discovered my problems weren’t my problems but others spections over me,the sensation of “have to” faded and slowly I took my place on myself to organizing my life.It took a few years to achive a balanced and peaceful life but, I got it.Sorry my English.Love from Brazil.

[@eliasprosser1433]

i love just listening to these while cleaning. Its so theraputic :)

[@Emily-im1hu]

THANK YOU FOR FEEDING US KING i always love watching ur videos i can relate to them so much as a fellow asian american

[@eglelt219]

I know, when I heard Billie sing "I'm in love with my futureee" I was like - well GOOD FOR YOU, BILLIE but I really don't know what tf I'm doing and I'm kinda scared. And jealousy, yuck, hate that it's sometimes a part of me. So yeah, the underlying pressure is stressing me out but I guess that's kind of inevitable and a part of this process, i don't know, sometimes life sucks, sometimes it's good. That's just how it is. We just need to find our way to live it. And most of it will be okay.

[@johannatampogao3922]

that part of being logical but u know deep inside that u just can't accept those things upfront

[@viancysalubre4820]

felt this to my core, thank you for sharing dustin!! i hope one day, we're all able to define our success on our own terms, and be able to achieve our own goals on OUR OWN TIME. so much peace and love to everyone of you.

[@jasminepatel9715]

i definitely needed this video right now as a reminder that my ambition should be for me and not the parental pressures set on me or competitivity between me and my sibling! honestly, my goal right now is just to focus on learning and uni and just because i dont have 1 main goal to reach and im not doing as academically well as those around me doesnt mean im doing anything wrong or should feel bad!!!

[@korejoons]

Man dustin the expectation your parents had for you is the same expectations my parents had for me. Everything you said is so relatable TT

[@lucymbriggs]

1. I adore matcha with lavender 2. I so appreciate the way that you split these chatty videos into chapters, it helps me follow the conversation so much easier 3. I feel you on the being ambitious and perfectionistic. it's a crazy life

[@nurulatikajk]

I was an ambitious. I had lots of dreams i want to achieve, i have lots of things i want to do, i always had this kind of life i want to live. But, i am tired. So damn tired. I feel heavy on my shoulder and my back. I feel heavy in the head. And then i realise that im just laying down in the middle of my room by the end of the day. Called me lazy, but i am so tired. My energy now is just enough for me to get up in the morning and get my daily routine done. I dont have any spare energy for anything else. And im just a women in her late 20. Already feeling fxxking tired sighh

[@Lowbattery000]

Why is this video so relatable

[@Abajsjsjsn]

i identify with this video so much, im gratefull that someone talks about the curse of amibition i dont see so many people talking about it.

[@rutjaquez981]

This is the most relatable thing I’ve ever watch. Seriously.

[@katherineprgl1943]

This whole video is too relatable

[@samuelmarcello5916]

wow i've never been this relate to a person before. YOU LITERALLY JUST DESCRIBED MY WHOLE LIFE 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@avocalada]

Dude, aging is cool You get wiser, you get more opportunities, you meet more people or get better at work, you get promotions an so on! I hope someday you will feel the same and this feeling of aging is so calming and satisfying. Right now I’m enjoying my life, but when anything doesn’t go right I just think about how I will be able to solve this when I’m older and wiser and these thoughts bring me peace ✌️

[@callie.envoyage]

Same. Had to get to my 30s to get over all of that, though.

[@aneyaaa1081]

I have never related so much and u made me cry about realizing that I'm not alone :' ( LOVE U

[@delaneygunnell8675]

I usually don’t comment on yt videos but wow I’ve never seen anything I relate to more. Every topic you talked about you told anecdotes that were word for word what I’ve been feeling. Keep doing what you’re doing friend- it means a lot :)

[@urlocalfolklorian]

WHO ELSE THINKS DUSTIN NEEDS A PODCAST

[@leticia-zo9dk]

I feel like this on the DAILY. My dream is to be an artists too and i feel like ill be happy because you know im doing what ive been wanting to do and all but then theres a time when i think like it wont last forever. I feel like that in relationships too because i want to experience things with different people and try things on my own but then like LOVE. I want to be loved and love so bad but im so afraid that one day my mind is going to be like no youre not getting enough or this is too much and then go on to the next.

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

my father was the same, but he's spanish not asian, at night he used to tell me a bedtime story and always leaving me to sleep with the words "you need to be the #1"

[@ieva6474]

Wow okay why was I relating to this whole video so much. Whenever I feel "behind" in life with achieving my dreams and compare myself to the people that became successful at a young age, I also try to remember that a lot of them had strong support systems that invested in their dreams, whether it's Beyonce's parents that pushed her to sing and perform from when she was little, or the parents of Billie Eilish that taught her and her brother how to write a song, etc. This helps to bring me to reality and is comforting in a way, it reminds me that I'm doing the best I can in my position and that I will get there. Hope this helps anyone else feeling "behind" in life. 💛

[@melisdantou]

the thumbnail is insanely pretty omg

[@ChexTalks]

I myself as a teen aspire to be alot of things but like what puts forward more stress is the media and the view of people becoming very successful at a young age ...like im in college I don't really know what I want to do lol just doing KZbin just for fun but hoping it turns out to be something in the nearest future ,it is really nice to see that most of the time u aren't going through some of this things alone >3 thanks for the video dustin

[@ana-hi7es]

Omg heyy I feel like it’s been so long since I have watched you!! ❤️

[@itsaudreyjoybitch6183]

This video is amazing, i can relate to so much of this, hearing your outlook is so helpful, i literally love your aesthetic, the plants in the background are magnificent✨✨

[@caelaautumn8365]

You’re literally one of my fav youtubers💗👌ur such an amazing person and thank you so much for sharing. It’s really nice to know someone else feels the same way.

[@ruiqitan1924]

Dustin you should really start a podcast series I would totally listen to all the time

[@susutran2260]

these sit-down vids rlly make my day, thanks Dustin!

[@maggiefonseca3397]

dustin, your capricorn moon is showing

[@xzenos3662]

LITERALLY WHAT I FEEL RN...thanks for being open kiddo

[@selalipotakey3062]

Working harder for a success is a scam; you have to take the little victories, and find happiness in the small successes that happen to you. Also define your success for yourself, like what do *you* want

[@nadajabbar921]

WE just love you Dustin for being a great human being , authentic to your self

[@divy1759]

this video reminds me of that one bts lyric from their song "paradise" which goes something like "stop running for nothing my friend". i love, love, love the song bcs it talks abt how you don't have to be very ambitious in the first place and that it's okay to not have a dream. great video, dustin

[@allyeska8823]

i want my dreams to come with the right intentions but wanting validation from others to come with it, blinds me from why i wanted that dream in the first place. and yea ur right about wanting success at a young age, makes me want to catch up like for what? 😭😭

[@kohin1779]

You're my daily English class and comfy moment so thank you sm

[@dianam9783]

I love your videos ur such an amazing person and you work so hard .Im so thankful for you❤️❤️❤️

[@dianam9783]

we can totally relate to you,your not alone

[@dianam9783]

Just do you

[@mayitam]

this definitely hit different

[@imacupofteapot]

its normal to wanting more since we are humans we have greed. I really like listening to you talking abt your point of view since honestly sometimes its diff from mine but at the same time i can connect with you, its odd! But really whatever life is odd enough

[@journalmp4]

WHEN U STARTED CRYING I STARTED CRYING BC I FEEL THE SAMEEE

[@egyptianmimi256]

I constantly feel like i am on timer.. Yes! I am the fastest at doing things a i am always im rush.. But i have read somewhere that it is okay to live slow because you have ENOUGH time

[@chopeeehusseinfj]

His videos are so calm 😌 . I like them alot ... : )

[@shreyamaity6323]

everything that you said here hit home I RELATE TO LITERALLY EVERY SINGLE SENTENCE YOU SAID IN THE VIDEO

[@floralvarez5381]

I can relate SO well. It's literally me having a conversation with my therapist

[@Anitafilmsvideos]

I relate to this so much that I almost was on the verge of tears, I relate to wanting to be successful at a certain age...feeling like u r too old or not special cause u feel like u r late!