let's chat confidence, self-love, and everything in between

back with another chatty video where i talk for just a littleeeee too long. just imagine this is a face time call, except u can't respond lol actually scratch that, pretend it's a podcast. just a disclaimer!! i'm not the most confident person in the world! BUT i have grown a lot this past year, so i just wanted to share my thoughts. i have to admit my topics are a bit of a mess because there are so many different sides when it comes to confidence (body image, internal self-love, socially, etc.), so i tried my best to cover as many aspects as i could. i talked about my history and relationship with confidence, experiences on how i grew my confidence, advice, etc.! there was way more i could've went on about so maybe i'll do a part two with a similar topic if u guys want. as i'm writing this it's 11:30pm on a sunday. this week has been a bit off cuz i fell behind in editing, so i've just been doing that for the past 3 days straight. gonna try to take tomorrow slow and get back into my usual routine of things. maybe i'll do some self-care and finally take myself on a date to go paint a plate baha
lots of love,
dustin
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C H A P T E R S
1:58 - my history and relationship with confidence, growing up, and body image
5:45 - leaving high school
7:35 - new experiences, good people, and trying new things
9:04 - being independent, self-love, and taking yourself on dates
12:42 - my "egotistical and self-absorbed" coping mechanism
14:24 - some extra advice
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[@angelt.6366]

"I was the kid that wore a shirt in the pool when I was younger, and I think that tells you all you need to know" I cackled.

[@steezyexe]

anyone wanna be friends!?? come join me here discord.gg/8yYpMMq6TE

[@nikolissoto9938]

Same

[@dianagalaviz1944]

That was me as well

[@ronascorner2732]

That is still me ngl

[@MrCamilaNasci]

I still do that sometimes... And I live on an really small island so...

[@hiimsana]

The thumbnail really was giving me confidence

[@celeste3110]

AS IT SHOULDDDD PERIODT

[@steezyexe]

anyone wanna be friends!?? come join me here discord.gg/8yYpMMq6TE

[@alexasunshine83]

that wolf shirt is iconic

[@nata4417]

What's it from?

[@ughannoying651]

@@nata4417 im pretty sure thats from the mountain

[@i123456987654]

lol if white people can do it, i can do it too...the level of confidence we need

[@skylerhan7924]

Making this my mantra from now on

[@Maria-kp9nn]

I'm gonna start living by this omg

[@yj6118]

I read a tweet that said if 70mil+ people can believe that Tr*mp is a good president, you can believe in yourself 😩😂

[@spacebar9733]

need that on a poster. my race highly affects how i dress and not in a good wayyyy

[@jettwashed]

the mullet is looking EXTRA hot today

[@aiiiryyyy]

"being in a relationship will not fill the self hatred you have for yourself" that hit too hard,, i've been so desperate for love thinking it would fix all my problems and that genuinely made me want to work on loving myself so thank you for reminding me that to love my self !!

[@leak.9822]

“loneliness means you’re in desperate need for yourself”..i think this applies if the loneliness comes from exactly what you meant; looking for someone to heal you, even tho loving yourself is the only thing that truly can. i hope you all the best on your journey, if i have made it, you can too you can only meet people as deeply as you’ve met yourself & you can only love people as truly as you love yourself:)

[@rxtc4816]

bruh if u get into a romantic relationship w/ sb while still hating on yourself,, you'll literally end up unintentionally self sabotaging it bcs the unresolved hate would just get in the way of ur (and ur partner's) personal growth in the relationship,, which is inevitable if u wanna keep it going in the right direction \\ hope this made any sense, talking from a personal experience tho, wish u the best and good luck

[@Thebes17]

Same....especially when like all my friends are married, engaged, have children or about to have them..plus turning thirty...doesn't help. Lol

[@swallowsandamazons9027]

as someone who isn’t allowed things on their walls (my mum has ocd so it’s fine and fair! cause it makes her feel claustrophobic and like something is attacking her) I really appreciate how amazingly decorated yours/Linhs/jazzylees rooms are !!! I’m very excited to live on my own - it will probably be like a kids room but ah well ! it’ll be the only time I’ve ever been able to decorate anything

[@erikascencen]

Is he straight tho?? Has em kpop vibes videos.sh/msyviz62xti9/Dustin_should_be_a_kpop_idol.mp4.html

[@edidi5717]

you are so kind and understanding! And I hope you’re mom is okay

[@zoreed1965]

I don't think it will look like a kid's room! I am in college and everyone puts stuff on their walls

[@su-anramos202]

@@erikascencen just because he looks like one doesnt mean he should be one, stop comparing every asian to a kpop idol☺

[@nikole5692]

@@erikascencen pls dont compare asian people to kpop idols, it can be super offensive to some of them and its annoying -

[@katiiesdiaryy]

petition for dustin to start a podcast if he ever wants to :)

[@cursedcupid641]

200th member of the petition! :D

[@charlesnotcharlie7775]

Dropping a comment saying I’m loving the hair even though 10 million other people already had the same thought

[@chxseoceania1252]

TRUUUE BRO HIS HAIR IS AMAZIIINNNGGG ✨✨

[@eajbae]

"But once you leave that prison....YOU EVOLVE LIKE A POKEMON" that's one of my favorite quotes from Dustin now

[@shamae8982]

I am living for Dustin's mullet

[@estrellasjournal]

"and when it was 6th grade, i felt like everyone had depression" why is that so true that was the year my symptoms began

[@_jasminejasmine03]

I literally paused drivers license for this...very much so worth it :))

[@dustinvuong]

no go stream drivers license

[@evadeeden2446]

Just cringreeee

[@prathasingh4954]

His face/bone structure is a work of art

[@avocalada]

hello dude, i know you might never see this comment, BUT i just wanted to share this positive thoughts with you! So, first of all, these hair is SICK, i love it! The second thing, that i wanted to tell you is next: i heard you say that you did nothing by the age, when other people become famous and rich and successful, but look, you have 350k subs on youtube and i am here in Russia in a small town at night watching YOUR VIDEOS, isn't it SICK???? and the last but not least - you are thin and light, you are like a butterfly - so be proud of it, because this is so beautiful, you can produce beauty in world just being there in your room and painting nails - so good luck to you in your way and Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

[@leak.9822]

oh this was one of the most beautiful comments i’ve read so far happy new years!! know you are a bright light in this world, just like dustin

[@avocalada]

@@leak.9822 🙏✨

[@kayawonaike]

I’m so glad you mentioned dance as a confidence factor! People think that dance is something anyone can do.... bruh! As a dancer perfectionism is soo prevalent!

[@soggysalami3240]

A method I use to be a confident lil' goober is to remind myself that literally no one is thinking about me, they're too busy thinking about what others think of them. Realising this can make you snap out of this hive mind mentally of insecurity and be your best you!

[@factsoverfelix]

I love these types of videos, they're so relatable and it's really fun to listen to you talk about your growth. Also, kind of irrelevant, but something that has helped me be more confident is watching animated movies or tv shows, whether it be Avatar: The Last Airbender or a studio Ghibli film. It's kind of weird, but I used to compare my looks to actors on tv, and it would contribute to decreasing my self-esteem. But when it came to animated characters, I instinctively didn't compare myself to them because their faces and bodies weren't real. Seeing characters like Sokka, a non-bender amongst his extremely powerful bender friends, be one of the most intelligent and confident characters on the show was inspiring to me (he's the proof that fake it 'till you make it works). Not only that, there's Hinata being confident and working hard despite his disadvantage due to his height in Haikyuu. Even Sophie from Howl's Moving Castle inspired me, because despite being a cursed physically weak old woman, she ultimately played a huge part in ending a war and gained her youth back. When I was young, I would root for these characters instead of comparing myself to them, so now, I've applied that to people outside of animations (live-action characters or even real people around me). So yeah, that was my rant about how much I love animated stuff and how it's helped build my confidence. Love your videos Dustin... k bye

[@rowenfara]

me realizing why i like animation so much 😳

[@davinaatere5246]

I love this

[@pbthefirst630]

Whenever I hear creators talk about how they work near constantly I feel a little bad that I’m not that productive/determined and/or don’t have something I’m super passionate about already that I can devote my time and energy into. It’s also motivating though :) love how your nails match your guitar!

[@daksaaa1481]

Why did this come at such a right time???

[@saumya9173]

hello yoongi

[@daksaaa1481]

@@saumya9173 haha hii

[@yoongi_chu1353]

Nooo your pfp is just reminding me of his hiatus 😭

[@daksaaa1481]

@@yoongi_chu1353 ahhh I’m sorryy

[@yoongi_chu1353]

@@daksaaa1481 it’s okay 🥲

[@hanashi5725]

saw the thumbnail , brain said ~conan gray vibes~ , and clicked automatically.

[@julia-md9bh]

SAME

[@Moniaar_]

I swear i totally missed just the whole "Dustin's vibes" in my life

[@dirtyydevil666]

If I want to feel confident I just pretend that I’m a celebrity lmao (it sometimes helps)

[@dirtyydevil666]

@Vicky Pham yuppp

[@roie5336]

Dis helps

[@jess.i.ca02]

I’m going to be taking therapy, after having depression and anxiety for over 6 years almost 7. Truly it never impacted me but now I realized it does. There is a boy I really like and he also likes me, he lives 6 hours away T.T, but i told him before I get in another relationship, I want to be better, mentally and physically. I don’t really care about my body like I like it it’s okay, but I think I should at least lose 20 lbs to be closer to the average weight. I told him I truly need to take care of myself so I don’t become toxic in the relationship. I never was but bc I’m a bit self conscious, I tend to get jealous. I’ve been used and played all of 2020 which hit my depression hard bc only dude were after my body, not me. It hurts but I let them use me and I acknowledge that now and I’m gonna talk it out with my therapist. I start therapy in two days and my best friend was sooo happy I was going to get help and so is she. She wrote a paragraph to the dude who likes me and I like him back about how she wants me to start seeing myself has she sees me. And it warmed my heart bc she’s truly one of my only friends that I trust everything with. She’s been my BFF for 6 years so she’s seen how I’ve been. The dude who likes me acknowledged I’m getting help and said he’ll be waiting for me, since I’m disconnecting from most of my social life, and he wishes me luck.

[@rukeya.b9346]

I feel like dustin is telling us more about himself recently, its nice it feels like we're getting closer to him

[@dobochobo]

always feel like i’m catching up and chilling with an old friend in dustin’s chatty videos :’)

[@Neeintje]

Omg haaaaaay what’s up bro 🤣

[@zeynep-xu5se]

AAAAA

[@littlefuckingPanda]

I know "pretty privilage" actually means what is considered "attractive" in society at this moment and that is white, european, etc. features, but it still sounded so absurd to me when (and even if you might have a thing where you put off compliments, I mean it) it comes out of a stunningly beautiful person. Like, I truly think you are really beautiful, you're just not white. That's it. Doesn't take away or give any beauty. It is just what is. And you are gorgeous and your features are so elegant and I wish you could see what I see

[@maddie4190]

Okay, but the mullet-wolf shirt combo SLAPS.

[@salem7501]

why do i feel like im actually talking with him his videos are so 🎇calming🎇

[@katieelaine1813]

dustin i’m trying to get my grades up i can’t watch this, but here we are

[@ash7148]

good luck :)

[@user-qq3wp1lx3c]

You can do it!

[@andrea5846]

you got this baddie ;)

[@georgekargbo8667]

“I make TikToks of me staring at the camera and doing absolutely nothing.Because if White people can do it I can do it too” Dustin’s energy is hilarious 😆

[@Catsbita]

14:11 and validate/hype yourself up with the things you are personally grateful for in life (this usually works for me)

[@estrellasjournal]

why is our "confidence timeline" literally the same?? my confidence skyrocketed once school ended. i also started experimenting with fashion in the summer and then started romanticizing romance wayyy too much.

[@lakshmikm3497]

You give so much "I'm-the-cool-cousin" vibes rn

[@decayofangelz]

im living for your hair and would 11/10 die for it

[@joltehan]

"Who told you that?" - Yes! Often times we are our worst enemies, but at the end of that day our thoughts are just thoughts, not facts :)

[@estrellasjournal]

I think the fact that everyone glows up after high school (esp the ones who have been picked on) says A LOT about high school and the vibes need to change :/ if high school me already had a shaved head and wore thick eyeliner to school, it would be over for them b*tches lol

[@anyone1111]

Yes everything you said is soo true. Especially about the hs vibes😞 Btw you look stunning and it totally would be over for everyone!

[@estrellasjournal]

@@anyone1111 lmaooo thank u for the ~confidence~ boost. and yes the hs vibes are not it

[@wambo5743]

Right? Whenever I see someone on the internet who’s confident about their eccentricities and not afraid to fully be themselves, you always see comments like “you were homeschooled, weren’t you?” Like it’s a bad thing that they don’t tone themselves down because they weren’t constantly shamed any time they tried to be themselves. I hate that mentality. Everyone should have the room to discover who they are. Also, high school you would be proud of how far you’ve come! 💜

[@user-si8ze9pk8y]

"smth about working out just makes you feel more confident" ITS THE ENDORPHINS

[@umm2905]

I do the same thing with the “hype yourself up thing” 😭😅😂💀 When I’m doing REALLY bad.

[@cata5344]

the oversized wolf shirt really sets the sleep over mood

[@lemonboy1490]

dustin has the best tips he’s like an older brother i never had, i literally see him as our friend

[@Neeintje]

I cannot wait to leave high school and evolve like a Pokémon ✨✨✨

[@davinaatere5246]

I watched this when I in high school and 7 months later now I’m watching it after graduating , and lemme tell ya, I have only been out of school for 1 month and the change I have seen in myself is amazing. But don’t wait until you leave high school to evolve. Do what you want when you want. To hell with what your peers may think because you will never see them again.

[@maya2790]

this style fits sooo well with you!!! the outfit, the hair, the nails, everything is just ughhh so pretty

[@dotchika426]

in love, literally could listen to you talk all day. so glad you were in my recommended

[@megan-te2bu]

dustin is literally the only person keeping me sane in quarantine😌

[@mr.beancouldbreakmyspleen643]

Ok I’m genuinely shocked how we went through the same phases at the same time....everything you were saying resonated 100% with me. I made so much progress in the summer with body confidence after 2 years of eating disorder recovery. I was doing better but then I also got love obsessed and I kept thinking about how no one could possibly find me attractive or like my personality. I was just lonely and all my friends were busy or in a completely different state across the country for college. College stress didn’t help either. But after the semester ended, I started spending time alone again and tried to appreciate the alone time I had to just think and paint and dance in my room in the dark. For some reason I started getting some of my confidence back. Wearing actual outfits besides sweatpants and tshirts, eating healthier, exercising, and just doing whatever made me feel good helped SO SO MUCH. Everything you were saying about “faking it till you make it” and just “putting in more effort” is so true and are things that my therapist has been telling me to do for the past 1-2 years. Don’t know why I never took it seriously and tried it out but it definitely works. Just takes some time and there are some bumps in the road. But everything sort of just works out in the end. Hope this year is amazing for you and for everyone else :)

[@itsmahna]

7:41 is so so true!! it usually feels uncomfy but I swear that truly is when u grow the most 🥺💗

[@baehbee7583]

i really needed this thank you dustin i recently just started feeling so low its like you read my mind omg i love you

[@smitivitylives]

hey Dustin! thank you so much for being transparent with us. I admire the fact that you shared an unhealthy coping mechanism and owned up to it. keep on growing! you're doing amazing :)

[@juno8085]

please, i loved this video so much 🥺 i constantly found myself nodding along to the things you were saying because i also realized a lot of what you mentioned on my own journey

[@ioanna111]

So happy you trust us and you feel comfortable with telling us out loud that obsession with the foolowing count. Love you Dustin and I am so proud of you

[@rowenfara]

thank you so much for talking about this, it's really refreshing to see another guy talk about confidence and self love like this!!! lets hope 2021 brings us all the confidence we truly deserve

[@irmahakansson3990]

I just wanna thank you so much for sitting down and talking about this! There's not even an inch of confidence in my body and I really needed a boost, which you gave me. I'm so tired of feeling insecure and I really want to start making progress in the way I view myself (starting from now). Your advice is very much appreciated! and now I also got time to sit down and paint my nails so thanks for that too

[@kenji-rh6fi]

okay i literally just found you on my recommended bUT I RELATE TO YOU SO MUCH ESPECIALLY THE PART ABOUT PRETTY PRIVILEGE UGH THE RELATABLE CONTENT!!

[@carlota1513]

ok this is the first video of yours that i watch and i’m OBSESSED!!!!

[@moneyposse5088]

i just love your videos so much. they relax me and keep me sane. thank you so much! keep going🖤🖤

[@morgangarrett9450]

ugh you always save us in times of distress 😩🙏🏾

[@biancaconnelly9495]

man your videos help me so much im in highschool rn and im having a pretty rough time but watching your videos gives me more hope

[@solene-solene]

This is such a great video, well structured but still flowy, also I loved how real you are it literally feels like listening to a close friend giving you a pep talk

[@whoiskareng4826]

Dustiiiin you literally posted this when I needed it the most Ly!✨

[@sama-dz5jc]

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU TBH like I love seeing u happy U GOT A NEW SUBSCRIBER

[@fedekg6012]

this is by far ur best video ever (imo) it was gr8 it felt really authentic and u know a bit relatable actually

[@pazb.9094]

your mullet is art

[@BlueOnMars]

I absolutely ADORE your Dustin, watchng your videos is so comforting, like people have comfort characters and i have a comfort youtuber

[@tt.824_]

i really needed this omg 😔

[@MarianaGomez-bg7sv]

Yess your back love u💜💜

[@ivancalvetmanso4204]

i share the same stories with you. i used to paint my nails when i was home alone in middle school and take it off before someone came home. now that i have grown i paint them whenever i want and i gain confidence by doing it. love your videos dustin.

[@ericabenitez4591]

omggg much needed video. Love the way you explain things and express your thoughts. Thankss king

[@localrainbow]

This video came at the perfect time! Struggling so much in the lockdown over the uk these videos are helping so much thank you Dustin !

[@marvelousmoge8297]

This is the first video I’ve seen from you and I can’t wait to binge watch all of your videos now 🦋

[@Lil_strawberryy]

The thumbnail is everything to me!! 💖

[@jaidaowens3962]

I know that confidence is something I had always worked on. I was so insecure in elementary and middle school, plus in high school it got a little better. But thankfully now I feel like I'm more comfortable with my body and who I am and knowing the difference between necessary change, like change as you mature and change done for the sake of others and what they think of you. P.s. Loving the hair Dustin!! It's beautiful!

[@mymind9514]

sis did not just say " im short in 5'6" - I'm a 17 year old who is 5'1 , whos really short huh????

[@Michelle-yb3zw]

Same I’m 5’1

[@joycew1862]

Haha if it makes you feel better I’m 4’11” 🥲

[@amychhean7001]

I’m turning 18 soon and I’m 4’11 😔

[@alexis2318]

well if youre biologically a girl that isnt too bad~ im 16 and according to my doctor im average~

[@hanblue1225]

well i'm 21 yrs old and 5'2 only-

[@iggieiggie8227]

I literally can not wait to see you in your 20s because you will definitely thrive soo much !!!

[@coco0951]

I literally watched this video like 20times Thanks Dustin for making this video it encourages me A LOT i love you !💓

[@johnronbaygan309]

Dustin you are such an inspiration to us ☺️, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your experiences about your life 💝, and it can really help us who experiencing in that feeling 👍😣☺️☺️☺️

[@leenab1432]

one thing i really appreciate about dustin's videos, is how honest and realistic they are. loved this so much :)

[@audreylaken8710]

your hair is EVERYTHING.

[@fandreamsoul]

idk but listening to you just pour your thoughts while i draw or write or just zone out is so calming... ? dustin therapy 😘🙌

[@susieb9287]

Your bedroom is so great, I LOVE it!

[@rukiiik6754]

im so glad i clicked on this video, he literally gives of serotoninnnnnn. also the best pieces of advice ive ever heard!!

[@yumnahshah1310]

I needed this so badly Dustin! thank you :)

[@maxwelldecker7842]

I was having a bad day but this vid is lowkey making me feel sooo much better :))

[@Moustache2312]

i definitely do the 'walk with confidence' and it makes me feel better, but on the other hand there are days where i can't stop thinking that people are looking at me and just that brings me into a bad place in my head. idk how can i be so opposite, one day confident af and the other anxious that people will look at me.

[@staramouch]

thank u for this video dustin 🥺 it was v much needed

[@theolivianicolestories]

To the person reading this: You are who you are. You are a gorgeous and beautiful creation. You are a masterpiece. You are who you are. You are strong and courageous. You can absolutely do it. You are powerful. Remind yourself that you are who you are. Move forward with your determination, and conviction. You can absolutely do it. Have a great day ahead, Remember you are who you are. ❤️❤️❤️

[@meadowda]

i somehow feel so understood whenever i watch this kind of videos of yours, that's crazy

[@d-xd3364]

✨the vibezzz✨ Also the birds chirping in the background added more years to my life

[@lauraa2365]

dude i was watching your old videos cause i needed the content so bad...and then this popped!

[@tuvaforssblad]

Your hair looks absolute 🔥!!

[@mxgickm]

Your hair looks amazing, and also this is my second video of yours and I already adore you

[@sofiaosornio9223]

Y’all the runway thing actually BOOSTS my confidence every time I walk, like I hate my body but damn I’m tall and walking like in a runway WORKS!

[@nida5398]

i love when u and jazzy do these sit down videos

[@helkim510]

dustin i live for your sit down videos

[@celinebecker3382]

Love this filter over ur video. So calming 🌹🎀

[@SixFigureBusinessCoaching]

I love your vibe and aesthetics!

[@marianegermann3778]

Your hair looks amazing! I love to see your growing 💜

[@zivvies1024]

this video honestly was thrown at me by youtube at the most perfect time.

[@Liz_theslayer]

The taking myself on a date video is one of my comfort video, thank you for making it 😌

[@rami4291]

I love these types of videos it makes me feel not alone ly