Till debt do us part | Are high-cost weddings ruining the lives of young families?

[@DWThe77Percent]

Are high-cost weddings ruining the lives of young families?

[@KAIZORIANEMPIRE]

play a stupid game and win a stupid price. I stopped caring about peoples misfortunes because it seems most of the time it's self inflicted but of course i still help poor people, i just don't have a blanket empathy anymore. I Help widows, orphans etc.

[@tomhenry897]

Straining it

[@janaynmelis5250]

I live in the USA and only spent $1200 USD on my wedding. We only had 15 people, the preacher, and fed everyone for that price. We didnt have any pressure to have a 'grand' wedding so my husband and I got lucky..and hes Naija.

[@davidferguson6525]

Very interesting. Thumbs up Edith. The bottom-line is, people must not live above their means. Starting a marriage with debt over your heads can be a heavy burden to carry.. The bliss should not end on the wedding day

[@bidossessi]

This debate sounds so similar to the runaway expenditures for funerals in West Africa.

[@robertchristianowusu-forjo921]

Tell them sir, let them know lolololololololololol

[@marthangafor6414]

Thank you! Not necessary.

[@SOFTGUYERA2024]

Forgot about that, you are spot on. I asked my family to cremate me when I pass & only have immediate family members. My mom nearly went royal rumble on me, these African elders are tripping. 🤣😂🤣

[@ernestodelacruz1187]

They do weddings to impress their peers and the people around them not knowing after their marriage none of these people will ever come and give them a dime to support them when they are passing through financial difficulties.

[@DWThe77Percent]

Many thanks for your comment @ernesto De La Cruz. What to do then?

[@judethomas7418]

@@DWThe77Percent the solution is sew your coat according to your side..

[@willycollins7969]

@@DWThe77Percent why are you a single lady kimani?

[@SOFTGUYERA2024]

Weddings are overrated & unaffordable for most. This topic is important & similar to BLACK TAX. We need to be comfortable hurting people's feelings, saying NO needs to be a common word. Majority of Africans are poor & shouldn't have a wedding at all. Take your asses to the court house & get it done with, all you need is a witness or two. A wedding should be wholly funded by the couple, at most the immediate family can donate financially. Folks are too busy copying social media & showing off a lifestyle they can't afford. Couples need to prepare for marriage, not overpriced weddings that last a day.

[@blaqrose6911]

i simply can`t understand this. making a wedding and being in debt after that. i will use that money to buy a house, car oder safe to invest in my kids later. will not be my potion

[@m.sualisumohammed6247]

Conventions in Africa is what is keeping us behind. I call something "practices of shared poverty". People spend a lot of money and time on almost every occasion within this time, all activities are on halt not to talk of money they spend within the process.

[@veraaddoyobo8482]

This is so ridiculously SAD ,so after the wedding your marriage is based on dept by keeping up with the Joneses

[@nomxhosapekani7966]

Sadly we blacks suffer from WWPS (What Will People Say) syndrom.

[@benjaminsmith2287]

Yeah, worldwide it seems.

[@nomxhosapekani7966]

@@benjaminsmith2287 I suppose that's what happens when a people try to live by religious standards they will never understand.

[@recessionproofliving737]

yup! that`s one of our biggest problems world wide.

[@abdullmumtaz7736]

Not only blacks even the white think so but they mostly smart in their way of doing things ..

[@nomxhosapekani7966]

@It`s okay. IT's really sad hence, the increase in suicide among black youth. The pressure is too much.

[@T1Oracle]

I'm American but, I spent less than 1/3rd of my (then) annual income on my wedding and everyone thought it was beautiful. You do you not need to go all out on a wedding. The more of it that you do yourself, the cheaper it is. Use your own hands, don't buy stuff you can make, and use a venue that you or your family already owns if you can.

[@Rabidanti]

I have heard of people in America even getting loans to marry. I heard some took loans up to 50K dollars to marry. This is crazy

[@laminkijera5103]

It's the little bit below in Gambia but this is sickness, why would you impress someone and put your life in danger because debt itself it's danger.

[@Outdoor_Cycling_Adventures]

I enjoyed this, thank you.

[@DWThe77Percent]

@Jade Cairncross...What a relief!!! We love to hear what you think about what we post on the channel. Many thanks and keep up on commenting.

[@gyamfimohammed2990]

That is actually the problem we're having as young people in recent times. Because people have now relegated the concept of 'marriage' to 'a one day ceremony ', and forgetting that the marriage itself is the long-life after the day's ceremony for the couple and their children. What is the sense in blowing so much cash in such a short period, and live a struggle life for the rest of your marriage-life... In as much as Cultural adoptation and adaptation may be good for any growing society, it is however not logical to adopt a cultural element that will endanger or frustrate one's life...

[@peterkariuki2143]

If you can’t afford a wedding then don’t do one you can just move in together

[@nwadi6408]

Sister, thank you for this show. It provides so much insight about African experiences for Blacks (like myself) who are from the Diaspora. Please consider this topic: How do you feel about Blacks born in the Diaspora returning to live in Africa? Thank you. Peace.

[@Flex2212]

In Germany the average wedding costs 13000€, USA 30000€. Don't forget that many consumer goods are a lot more expensive in Europe than in Tanzania.

[@abdullmumtaz7736]

Oh that's alot of money here in kenya... ( Must be a millionaire individual)... But I think it is cheap in Europe than in Africa.. one tragedy in Africa is that we love to to copy what other people do than indipendantly doing what works for you...

[@ektorkornoo8806]

This Vicious Cycle keeps getting even more vicious with rising expectations, copy-cat behaviors, costs, debt.... Instead of investing in things that develop and grow positively, we see too many examples of practices with increasingly negative impact in some places (my country too). It is sad when people in relatively poor countries dig themselves into holes that make them poorer and unhappy, just to satisfy some notions of social norms or 'culture' or tradition, etc. A mindset of heavily depending on others to fund your questionable choices makes our people perpetually dependent on others. We need a new generation with the courage to stop this, just say NO, and focus on (invest in) practices that develop individuals, families, communities, and our countries to be more responsible and not perpetually in debt.

[@m.madisoncammue5619]

I don't think this is only associated with African as a whole. In the West people are also indebted because of weddings expenses. Having said that, my 2cent advise to my fellow Africans who are planning to marry their soulmate. Pls do not credit or take loan to please people who are coming to witness your wedding. The best thing you can do is to keep your budget to what you can afford. Its better to be at peace after the wedding than in pieces after the wedding. This leads to stress and depression in the relationship. As for dowry payments... we Africans need to have a serious conversation about this Traditional practice. In my mind, there is no price tag for the hand of a woman in marriage. I believe the both parties/parents can do their best to have a mutual and respectful conversation on what is acceptable for their daughter's hand in marriage. They should avoid attaching monetary value or materials value to their daughter's hand in marriage.

[@chrisohams8843]

This is interesting, I had my wedding without any committee, I did not borrow and nobody pay anything so I can pay back during their own time. By the way I didn’t know that this is happening over there too. I’m from Nigeria and such things happens here but I don’t think is as big as it seems over there. Wedding celebration is sweet and important but marriage is important. If you put yourself in so much debt you’ll barely enjoy your marriage. People should go to weddings and enjoy them as it been presented. So that In the end we’ll be alright.

[@impalabirungi6079]

Paying for sadness. Marriage is not a wedding. It is a commitment. No need to get in marriage with a debt.

[@boseman8227]

Africa is interesting, when you live there Africa social problems looked deep and complex however, when you live outside the continent and look in these social problems they seems senseless, petty and sorry to say stupid sometimes. Why carve this problems for yourself and called it culture?

[@abdullmumtaz7736]

This is not african culture but is more of western cutture... Africans love imitating others without living indipendantly...

[@marthangafor6414]

A wedding doesn't need to be big. You can just go to the registry office and get married. Traditions also need to be revised so they are not exploitative. These things were made by people! The mutual support is good in theory but what people are describing here is emotional blackmail. PS We need the funeral version of this. It's madness in West Africa sometimes!

[@estifanosberta-samuel2570]

Wow, with the advent of modern planning and all that can afford why not offer all inclusive pkgs for your clients that at least meets their basic needs? The price of pkgs can increase per the desired grandeur of the event obviously. I mean make it a goal to own an event venue which can reduce the cost of production for instance.

[@Flex2212]

Swahili so smoothe a language 💚

[@tomhenry897]

Only for the bride and her family to look important Grooms prefer small weddings Family and close friends not the neighborhood Keep,it small use the savings for the newlyweds / kids

[@lordbyron4242]

This is the same all over Africa . I’m Kenyan it’s the same too I know this host is Kenyan she knows this happens all across Africa especially dowry but I’m surprised she does not point that out

[@DWThe77Percent]

We knew that there are some people who are watching this from Kenya and we are counting on your experience as well. Thank you for letting us know that this is also happening in Kenya @Lord Byron

[@lordbyron4242]

DW Africa This happens all over Africa I have been to other African weddings our cultures are very similar . I’m surprised that for a host who travels in Africa she is not aware of this .

[@jwanjeri]

What again in the clip indicates the presenter is not aware of wedding committees/high-cost weddings in Africa? The fact that the topic is being covered means the presenter together with the show producer(s) have done their research/saw the issue as widespread enough to necessitate coverage. Check the other videos done by the same presenter on this channel & you'll notice topics being covered are those that cut across African cultures. The presenter cannot keep interjecting/yapping "this happens back home too" in every video, as the show is not about the presenter sharing her viewpoints per se but about the presenter letting the people she's interviewing speak, share their experiences.

[@SeetheWorldIn360degrees]

lol, i think it's common knowledge that it does happen in a neighboring country; i can add even world wide....of course with variations depending on each country or region. The host is only leading a discussion, which is the main role here

[@MrTobey2012]

I like the MC he kept it Swahili 100%

[@Travelingwithabbc]

That’s called wasting money to impress broke people

[@ektorkornoo8806]

It's a senseless Rat Race. Nobody wins! In this case most people actually lose!! To those who say it's their 'culture' I say it is NOT. I believe that most fore-parents were MORE responsible. Communal contributions to help others were voluntary (not forced), often reciprocal in nature, often for emergencies, and not intended to impose a DEBT for life. Today's weddings (versus customary marriage in the real culture) are mostly selfish, wicked, irresponsible escalations of lifestyles with a terrible, retaliatory crowd-sourcing element directed at specific persons. Nobody wins. Most people lose.

[@akeem1221]

Na umaskini wote lakini bado tunajitakia makubwa.

[@birdsview2785]

Sh@t stop spending.All that money being spent on weddings can be use to save for a home or business.

[@KYTVIDEO]

Sounds like keeping up with the Jones"s: So American!

[@theancientvoice9272]

How come you never go in non English speaking African countries ? We exist as well come on