Why Italian kids never leave home

[@riccardob7774]

Italian here. Stayed at home until 25, got married, then divorced. Still living on my own, what was making my Mom the happiest was me deciding to spend the night in my old room, now transformed in a small living room.

[@AhadNaqvi]

Your comment made me cry cause I miss my mom as I live away from her. Trust me your mom loves you so much!

[@fikri2822]

As someone who grew up in a broken family, all I wish for is to have a close-knit family like this

[@dweuromaxx]

❤️❤️❤️

[@nico198X]

Love Italy! Cannot wait to return!

[@gabriele1695]

22M Italian uni student here. I still live with my parents because my uni is close by and I can easily get there by train every day. This way I get to save up on rent. Because I also get a scholarship and my tuition is about 14€, it's not economically taxing on my family and I can take my time. I wish I could have a part-time job, but I'd start lagging behind on classes/assignments, and I don't want that. I'm already struggling as is. Though I'm the only one in my family of 4 who doesn't work yet, and that makes me feel self-conscious, despite my family's reassuring words. I'd also like to have my own place sooner or later, but that'll probably be impossible until I'm 30. And to have a kid, but I'm gay... So in case I ever decide to adopt, I'd probably just leave the country altogether. If I were to stay in Italy, it'd probably be wiser to be childless. Thankfully my family and I get along pretty well.

[@lovrocalicjoca941]

Croatia is the same as Italy in this situation. We even live longer with our parents than Italians because of overpriced flats, low wages, culture, family orientation. 🇭🇷🇮🇹

[@stipe3124]

Ma Ćale napravi kuću sa dva ili tri kata i jedan kat ide za jednog sina a drugi ako ga ima za drugog a doli ostanu Stari i Stara a kad oni odu onda se jedan rentaje turistima 🤔😁

[@deboranicolini9082]

In Italia gli stipendi sono molto bassi rispetto al costo delle vita (affitto, bollette, cibo...) i giovani vengono assunti con contratti a tempo determinato, con paghe basse Anche chi vorrebbe, come fa a essere indipendente se a fine mese non ha più un soldo?

[@quelodequelo]

Troppi anziani, non solo i soldi ma anche gli spazi, le case sono sempre meno e sono più piccole e sempre più care. I patrimoni di famiglia si ereditano troppo tardi e non si comprano le case con quello ma ci si indebita per un bilocale che può contenere un solo figlio, se lo si fa ancora in tempo.

[@sumosprojects]

Italians have always shown the value of family life & we’ve seen it in Australia for 60 years. Long live Italiano heart & culture 🥰

[@M.C.K.111]

Do not generalize ....my kids left home when they went to College at 18/19.. they visit us , but they don't live at home anymore

[@elisabettadori9355]

I’m Italian and I was going to school by myself. I bought my first home at 28 y.o. But I still call my mom everyday! L❤️ve mom!!! 😂😂😂

[@dweuromaxx]

Love to hear it 🥳

[@martinavalgoi1727]

Italian here, moved out at 19 due to university in another city. Most of people do the same if they go to uni and their family does not live close by. Rent in big cities is extremely high and simply does make sense to pay it if you can avoid. There's not such things as jobs/internship for students. Most jobs after university are payed with extremely low wages, ergo if you move out you simply cannot save anything for many years...

[@mcvange]

I am Italian, I have never seen a school with uniforms here. Those are the uniforms my parents used to wear in the 60s. My father or grandfather (who lived with us) always drove me to school, same for many of my classmates who didn’t walk or take the bus to school. Noone ever accompanied the children inside the classroom, that would have been super weird. Honestly I have never heard of any of these school related aspects. This must be a regional difference. It is indeed true that we are mostly very attached to our families though. Mealtime is very important 🙂

[@Bradamante68]

not true, grembiule is common all over Italy: it may be black, blue or white, depending on the school. this until the end of the elementary school. At the middle school there is freedom about clothing, but with some limitations in certain school, to avoid distasteful outfits.

[@mcvange]

@ I am in my 30s and I have literally never seen anybody wearing a grembiule past kindergarten. People from my parents generation used to wear it, but nobody does anymore, at least in the north.

[@dweuromaxx]

Thanks for your comment and sharing your experiences. Indeed some of our themes may be regional :)

[@danielec.8386]

I'm from Sicily and I was born in 1994. I remember wearing it in kindergarten and elementary school until the early 2000s, then most schools started to dismiss them and I think today no school in the area where I grew up uses them any longer.

[@MartinaValla]

@@mcvange me neither but apparently in recent years it mad a comeback!

[@ammini999]

It is true that Italian love their family and there is a strong connection, which I find too strong and sometimes, they don't even let their children live their experiences and their life. We all on this earth should learn from animals, they know what's love, after a while the birds have to fly away and never meet their parents again and this make them stronger to live into the wild. The weak people usually have too strong connection with their parents. A part from all of this, we must also say that the economy doesn't help the guys go away and build their own future, the salary in Italy are the lowest in EU and on top of that the purchasing power is at the minimum in history. So we certainly, as Italians, have to learn to let our children breathe but the society and the economy doesn't help either.

[@dweuromaxx]

Thanks for your comment. Indeed the economic conditions affect how “free” children and young adults can be

[@alessandrofiorenza428]

Italian parents are built different

[@tanner293]

When I was a child 30 years ago most kids were going and leaving school alone, most of the times I was just walking 1km to get there... now society has become overprotective, you don't see kids playing in the street anymore as it used to be before. Regarding gender roles, I think it's becoming much more equal these days than it used to be 50 years ago, when roles where very distinctively split.

[@Bradamante68]

from Rome to Sicily, I see that the use of kids carseats is still not understood... they should be fined for putting their children lives at risk.

[@highwayrider9165]

In india kids also live with parents even after marriage

[@tyc1Z.Z1]

Best support system a multi generational home.

[@stipe3124]

Because mom and nona cook better than chefs in Restaurants and because probably in South Europe there is tradition of more generations livin in one house, sometimes house is separated in few different apartments but in same house, that is actually like that in almost all Mediteranian countries including that what westeners call "Balkans" it is different culture than North West Europe

[@interchris]

Why did you pick a family with 3 kids, if as you said the average woman has 1.2 kids on average? Seems a bit misleading.

[@Bradamante68]

@@interchris yes, I agree.

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Because DW is very "resilient" 😂

[@Steve-318]

You think your ancestors could afford children? They made do with the little they had and did it excellently. My parents raised six kids on a teachers salary in the 70's and 80's, teachers were paid squat back then.

[@gnuffola1979]

ma che commento del cavolo

[@elisabettazuppardi1469]

Stai paragonando due nazioni diverse in due contesti storici differenti?Spero che almeno tu abbia fatto le scuole elementari l

[@tiapina7048]

"You think your ancestors could afford children? They made do with the little they had and did it excellently" Just because some kids survived I wouldn't use "excellently"...

[@Laurelin70]

Teachers are STILL paid squat nowadays, but the cost of life has raised MUCH MORE. So yes, nowadays is MORE difficult to raise children and to make the ends meet, thank you very much.

[@user_1234abc]

turkey too

[@elisabettadori9355]

A big hug to all the Turkish people!!! Ciao from Italy!

[@greedyreader15]

5 months of maternity leave 😂 they fire you as soon as you tell them or coerce you to say that you won't have children to get the position. It's so ironically problematic talking about birth rate with only references to women's fertility peak only, are they the only ones contributing to the child's genetic makeup? Also it's not typical at all in Italian families for fathers to partake an equally involved role as caregiver, in hospitals, schools, practice, school recitals, it's mostly the moms that know everything about it, take part and follow the children's progress, know their allergies, their teacher's name and so on

[@Grecksbaro]

Silviuccia❤

[@markmuller7962]

Culture creates institutions, welfare and opportunities, Italians just don't have the culture of early independence and mobility, it's an archaic family-centric society and I as an Italian I can say that without feeling guilty of anything

[@dweuromaxx]

Do you think things are changing?

[@markmuller7962]

@dweuromaxx Too slow due to low birthrate, bad relationships with tecnology and cultural exeptionalism

[@Laurelin70]

Maybe you should live in other parts of Italy...

[@tanner293]

​@@dweuromaxx things change their own way... Italian family of today is not the same as the italian family of 50 years ago, and probably in 50 years will be different again, but it is still influenced by the italian history, culture and way of doing things. same as for other countries

[@Giovis968]

Family is the first , without family you are a homeless ,

[@Bristolandlazy]

Why aren't the children using seatbelts? She's supposedly a devoted mother yet they even the youngest isn't strapped into the car seat. What's the point in having it? She's an educated medical professional, he works for the government and they don't use seatbelts for their children. That's lazy and crazy.

[@asyat3544]

When we arrived at Naples Airport, we went straight to the taxi stand. I speak some Italian, so I asked for a car with a child seat (my kid was 3 years old at the time). And you know what? All the taxi drivers just burst out laughing, saying, "This is Naples! Nobody uses those here!" We ended up in a 30-year-old Fiat Punto-or something like that-where even the seatbelt buckles were broken. But hey… at least there were a couple of images of Saint Padre Pio to watch over us on our journey! * Catania is not that different as Calabria or any other southern Italy region..

[@gabriele1695]

@@asyat3544 this is why I'm glad my parents moved to Northern Italy when I was 5! Whenever I go back to visit the rest of my family, they always make fun of me because I wear a seatbelt. I prefer taking trains when I'm back there, also because my relatives drive like they think they're immortal. Italy is 2 (maybe even more) different countries cosplaying as one. Historically determined cultural differences are still present.

[@cataleenawd7039]

It's football, not soccer. Please use the correct name.

[@Giovis968]

Is calcio not football or soccer , please use the correct name

[@liamcregan5187]

Italy historically has been a poor country.Hence children stay home longer

[@riccardob7774]

you’re confusing poverty with agriculture. Every agricultural family, in the past, had many children to supply cheap workforce to the farm. Where you ARE right, is that in the South, the landlord were maintaining control over people by keeping them poor and uneducated. Not so much in the North. If you look at GDP per capita, yes, Italians never made as much as Americans, but because of the “stay together” or “family support”, no one had to go to sleep hungry. If you’re taking into consideration the Italian migrations of the 1800s, you’ll see how disproportionate the ratio North/South is. 90% of italians migrating to the USA were from the south, where they did face poverty and hunger. Those who migrated to South America instead, mostly from the North, at least in the beginning, had money and went to Argentina, as in example, to buy land, not working it for someone else

[@jagosss]

LMFAOOOOOOO poor country 😂😂😂

[@nico198X]

Italy is one of the wealthiest countries on Earth, mate

[@Giovis968]

Non dare spiegazione ai barbari che non capiranno che l'Italia è ricca ,propietari dell'Europa e dell'occidente .

[@carlac4407]

​@@riccardob7774 Informati meglio prima di scrivere cose non corrette. Tra il 1876 e il 1900 il 47% degli emigranti italiani proveniva dal Nord, Veneto, Friuli e Piemonte. Sono veneta e la famiglia di mia nonna era poverissima come molte altre. Sua madre morì di stenti quando mia nonna aveva 9 anni, lei e i suoi 3 fratelli e sorelle furono suddivisi tra zie e orfanotrofio. Fece solo la 3a elementare. Mio nonno mezzadro era benestante e dava lavoro a più di 300 donne che lavoravano nei campi ma che non se la passavano molto meglio di mia nonna. In Veneto si moriva di fame nel XIX secolo.