EARLY POTTY TRAINING | Elimination Communication

[@anshumunjal9109]

In India this is pretty common 70% parents do this

[@katiemarie7137]

Thank you for posting this! I'm 32 weeks with my second baby and I am so excited to learn about EC and give it a try, I have just recently learned about the concept as a whole. In my research on KZbin looking for other Mommies that try this method I found your channel & have started watching! Love your little family 😊

[@ashleysakus3137]

I just love how you say now I'm a crazy mom. I love your parenting style, I love how you and Ryan are with her. It just inspires me to want to parent like that when I get little older. If anyone say your a crazy mom thats there problem!

[@ariannapflederer]

That is so sweet! This comment made my day that much brighter. Thank you :)

[@ashleysakus3137]

I'm so glad! I know it can be hard. When you put yourself and family in the spotlight, you will have haters. But on the flip side you have so many people who also love you guys!

[@jesystar]

I'm definitely doing EC if I ever have a child! I worked at a Daycare for 3 1/2 years and the amount of diapers I've had to change is enough for me to want to start potting training my own child since day one.

[@katethorburn5646]

I didn't even know this was a thing until after my daughter turned 1. Your such a good mom, I bet this takes so much patience and work. My daughter is almost 2 and potty training but this is a great alternative and I love how you support all parenting styles

[@savingwithruth979]

Today I decided I am going to start potty training my almost 8 month old daughter. I read how people would train them so early on and now i feel so late in starting!! 😣 You are a great mom! Love everything you are doing!!

[@trishab2147]

I'm not sold on this idea but it's interesting to see different styles of parenting.

[@shanteljimenez2030]

This is just like Pavlov and conditioning lol pretty cool, I have never heard of this but it's interesting

[@kirstycole869]

First of all your not a crazy mum, you just know what makes your baby happy and following that makes life a lot easier! I hadn't really heard about Elimination Communication much here in the UK until watching this video, I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant and would definitely consider this with our baby! I think it's lovely to see what other parents do in different ways, life would be a bit boring if we were all the same! Ignore the negative comments, your doing amazingly- you both are! 😊

[@ariannapflederer]

Thank you so much Kirsty! That means a lot :)

[@sarahdevylder7538]

This is so awesome! I had no idea this existed, I am definitely going to do this when I have a baby! Thank you for making this video :)

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

Sarah De Vylder I had the same thought

[@airutub3r]

This is GREAT! Thank you. Hey just FYI, when you say 'assimilate,' what you are meaning to say is the term 'associate' - just something for you to know for your future videos. Anytime I misuse a word, I want to know, so I figured I'd tell you.

[@ariannapflederer]

+airutub3r thanks. This is a rare case that both words are actually correct. Assimilate means to take in information and understand. The "sssss" sounds helps them to understand when and where to go on the potty. So although associate also is correct, assimilate does still work when used in this context 😉

[@victoria1988louise]

This video is really helping potty train my 7 month old daughter it's now very rare that she poos in her nappy just struggling to master the wee xx

[@laela6289]

I was really only interested in EC because it uses less water than constantly changing cloth diapers, plus it's very complimentary to a dry toilet set up (which I will want once I start living in a tiny house). But after taking a human development course and relearning about secure attachments in infancy, communicating with babies plays a huge role in their ability to trust you, which makes EC all the more great. I'm wondering if this concept could be implemented in other interactions with your baby, like a noise or gesture for when it's time to eat, snuggle or play. Any ideas?

[@courtaniewilbur]

I'm watching this 3 years after you made it and I'm nowhere near having a baby (I don't even have a boyfriend yet and I totally can't wait to have a baby!), but I looove this idea!

[@shirleycollins3930]

Revelynne is so beautiful and you and Ryan are doing a great job. She is so blessed to have such wonderful caring parents. I love watching your mom videos and the daily vlogs. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.

[@ariannapflederer]

Shirley Collins Thank you Shirley! :)

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

My foster daughter was 18 months when she came to me and I immediately started potty training her. The daycare told me that she wouldn't be potty trained until she was 3. I don't accept that. She will be 2 in April and I plan to have her potty trained by then.

[@Lovealwaystata]

I'm not a mother (yet- we're trying!), so when I first saw this, I'll admit I cringed and thought you were crazy, but after listening to you explain it, I'm actually really intrigued, and I'm curious to know how it worked for you in the following months, and about how long it took to "fully" potty train your daughter?

[@TheEverafters]

This is super interesting! My son is already 15 months, but I think he is ready for potty training. And even now people look at me in shock when I say I'm going to start training him lol every mom knows their child :)

[@pozeta]

hey ,if anyone else needs to find out about books on toilet training try Nadazma Potty Plan Helper (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.

[@kaitlynhanick1698]

This is wonderful information! I currently do not have children but my sister is due with her second any day now and I am going to show her this video! I think she would love this! :) Thanks for sharing!

[@crystalolson162]

I love how your so positive! Also that you and Ryan address the fact that there are people who leave negative comments and that you two dont just ingore it. If you dont have something nice to say then whats the point of even writing anything. Just a random thought. Anyway love your videos and volgs you have a beautiful family!

[@ariannapflederer]

Crystal Olson Aw thank you! That means a lot. I appreciate your comment and being such an awesome support to this channel and the Pflederer Pfam! :)

[@desireesteele7695]

Great video. I think its a great thing you are doing I have never even heard of it till you talked a little about it in you daily vlogs. I would have done it with my daughter but I was very lucky with potty training she was 100% out of diarpes at 17 months.

[@chapterstars]

oh my gosh she's so gorgeous!!

[@maddiejoy7896]

This is such an interesting concept to me! We didn't implement this with our firstborn, but the potty sign was a key part of potty training since he didn't talk much yet. I think it's so empowering for little ones to have more than one way to communicate with you!

[@ChinaChao]

Idk if I will have the patience & sanity to do this with #2 (bc #1 is already 16.5 months and starting potty training), but good video and I'll "try". I lived in China for almost a year to teach English. I actually thought it was gross and weird seeing all the babies with slitted pants. And I can guarantee you some babies/toddlers are better at it than others. Much like u know ur child better than anyone else, so if u know u have a very "strong willed" child that will fight this it's perfectly OK to save ur own sanity and skip this style of parenting. It's not one size fits all. My daughter is still a very moldable, well behaved toddler for what she is. That's why we're open to potty training her at 16 or 15 months. We're not forcing her. Bottom line just do what works for ur child bc it baffles me that so many moms seem to comment hostilely about EC or potty training early... Like whatever another mom is trying is not hurting u or ur kid (or their kid for that matter). Relax and just move on!

[@anniesmolkin7685]

my baby is five months and he can't even sit up. so you hold her while she goes potty ?

[@purejoy6538]

You could say you're inviting her to go to the toilet...

[@KateLately]

Love, love, LOVE the new intro!

[@ariannapflederer]

Kate Lately Thank You! I was super excited to post todays video just cause of that. I am glad you liked it :)

[@KateLately]

I really did! I also loved this video! While I am not in the place to be a mom yet, I love doing research and finding out what might be best for my future family. This is really great!

[@taylorgimmy]

omg you are amazing! so helpful to me and u explain everything so well. thank you so much! excellent video

[@zanderzurita3921]

This video is very helpful and something to think about once my fiance and I 's daughter is a couple months old. Thank you for making this video :)

[@ariannapflederer]

zander zurita Awesome! Just push the naysayers and close-minded to the curb. You know whats best for your baby, and if it feels right - do it! :) Have an awesome day!

[@jigglypuff9007]

That’s what they did in Vietnam way back. That’s how me and my siblings were trained 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@sheriwallace123]

I don't know if I'll do this at all with any future children of mine but this video was really interesting. :) Thanks for sharing

[@MalinInnleggen]

Thank you! I love your videos! You seem like such a lovely person, good mom, and confident youtuber! :)

[@yadiravaz6674]

Very interesting never heard of this before .

[@ashliels3185]

I liked your video but it's not just ladies watching. dad's, nannies, grannies could be watching also. just a thought. thanks for the excellent video.

[@BethanyRandall]

Loved this ! So many good tips. We are doing EC as well. 😄

[@amazingrace4u]

Sorry if I missed it. What age was your daughter in this video? Just wondering based on where she was at with progress.

[@IcedCupcakes]

I wouldn’t say ‘command’. I’d say you ‘offer’ them the potty. Whether they want to do it or not is up to them.

[@GnuTubeVlogs]

I've heard of ec but just didn't think it was right for us but I can see the appeal. I do look forward to the diaper free days but Micah is just not there yet ☺️

[@Ieishdragyn]

smiles.

[@aileenrodriguez1716]

Arianna Pflederer I have a 5 almost 6 month old. I recently heard about EC and it is something I definitely want to do with my little one. The only thing is he doesn't really signal when he has to go pee or poop. These past two days i have rushesd him to his potty once i see he makes his funny pooping face and by the time i get there he has already soiled his diaper.. So basically he just finishes the rest in the potty and pees. That has only been in the mornings for the rest of the day im totally lost... I dont really have direction in this and no one i know practices EC nor do they support it. If you can give me a little tip pr advice i would forever be grateful. Thank you much and god bless you precious babies.

[@samanthaberrier2211]

Hello! I just wanted to start this off by saying I absolutely love your Chanel!! I recently had a baby boy and I just had a couple of questions because me and my husband have been talking about how we really want to parent our kid.Do you recommend doing elimination communication? Why or why not? I really hope you can respond to this! Thank you!

[@ariannapflederer]

I recommend it if you have time and research it thoroughly and do it properly. You can not be lazy with this type of potty training or your child can end up constipated or with bladder infections. They aren't old enough to take themselves, so you need to take them. If you're a really busy mom and/or aren't a stay at home mom I would not recommend it :)

[@samanthaberrier2211]

+AriannaPflederer okay thank you so much for responding! This was very helpful! I love your videos! And your daughter is so adorable

[@vivianacora8724]

This video reminded me of the book every eats so everyone poops :)

[@DarrellRoper]

Never heard this before, was very interesting and I learn something too. :)

[@dorothyshelton]

thanks

[@BentleyFamily]

Ok so I don't want to buy the book so.... you just make the sound ? Im due in 2 weeks and definitely want to try this !!!!

[@ariannapflederer]

Farrah Rangel I suggest at least doing your own research online! I can't possibly teach you everything just from a video or words. It is definitely best to become knowledgable on the subject on your own :) I know this response is late, I apologize for that! I hope you and your new little are doing well!

[@notatomato1162]

Check your local library, I took out the ebook from my library

[@amandas7867]

Now that your daughter is past 2, is she fully potty trained because of this? Are you doing this with your new baby?

[@ariannapflederer]

+Amanda S she has been graduated since 18 months. Yes, we are doing EC with our youngest. She is 16 months now and though we weren't nearly as consistent with her as we were with Rev (just due to the craziness of two kids) she still asks to get on the potty even at this age. I think she will be ready around 18 months as well. But, one thing I have learned since this video is that EC really is not about getting your child out of diapers as fast as possible. It's just about giving your child the opportunity to use the bathroom and have independence and control over that part of their world right from the beginning. Because of the communication it is common that EC kids potty train early, but it isn't and shouldn't be the sole reason and it isn't every case :-)

[@amandas7867]

This is wonderful. I've never heard of this before finding your channel. Thank you for sharing your experience. My 3rd baby is 3 months now and it just seems to make sense to teach them EC rather than tell them to just go in their diaper and then 2 years later give them a completely different message. I'm definitely considering this for him. I really like the communication peice to it, as its just another way of teaching them early how important communication is. Thank you again!

[@melissabrown4364]

Is it too late to start this with a 3 month old who doesn't usually pee when his diaper is removed anymore?

[@ariannapflederer]

I would suggest picking up the diaper free baby book. If you can learn your babies cues before he pees or poos, it isn't too late. Many moms have started EC later, and been successful. It's just a little extra work! 😊

[@reneverret3132]

Love the new intro!!

[@ariannapflederer]

Rene' Verret Thank you Rene' :)

[@kalaway]

You're awesome! Thanks for this great video

[@ariannapflederer]

Thank YOU, for watching! It means a lot :)

[@svitlanafernandez2757]

Arianna,you are grate mom! Thank you for the video)))

[@aubreepotter2718]

Thanks for all the info!

[@ariannapflederer]

Aubree Potter Thank you for stopping by :)

[@spiffy8000]

Hi! I was wondering if you will be making an EC update soon? I read in some comments that you can do EC wrong and unsafe? How would that happen?

[@ariannapflederer]

Because I always include small updates in her monthly updates, I don't plan to do a separate EC update until she's a year. That will allow the best round about experience and update on it. From ages 6+ months until their walking, not a ton changes. So there aren't huge updates really. I can definitely talk about some unsafe practices of EC when I do that though! :)

[@chully99]

It's been 7 months, how did it work out for you?

[@LazDbq]

I'm ALL FOR EC Training...when done SAFELY. However, after watching some of the video's parents have posted, it's obvious that a lot of parents haven't 'mastered the art' of using good ole fashion common sense during the whole process...until you!!! Hallelujer!!! Praise da lort! lol ;O) (BTW...she is CRAZY CUTE!!!)

[@ariannapflederer]

Haha! Thank you so much :)

[@LazDbq]

:O) xo

[@razm.3135]

Adorable baby

[@PriyankaYadav-qd3tb]

Ur video was very sweet and motivating.... My baby has just turned 3 month old... So am trying to look for information on EC specially how often should I remove the diaper and make that sound.. That my baby starts associating with it. He sometimes does and sometimes doesn't.. So confused

[@livinglifeforward4560]

Thank you for sharing!

[@daphnietudor2953]

Can i start at 8 months???

[@ashleyfortag7695]

I am watching this in 2020. I have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old pregnant with #3 . I babysit for 2 other kids and both my kids are fully toilet trained. The 2.5 yr old i watch will go on the toilet when I ask her if she needs to but her parents want her in diapers 3....and a pacifier..... now I understand each kid is different but here she potties and dont want them( diaper and pacifier) but at home they say she throws a fit with out the. 🤔

[@laurenryan9932]

#ariannapflederer I love your intro as well as the information that you gave.

[@suddiansmith8578]

OMG it’s sooo true she used to pea as soon as I took her diaper off. And she used to cry when she was gonna poop. OMG wish I saw this before I gave birth ugggg so 😠 I really hope 6 months is not too late to start this EC

[@stephanieryans4801]

Wish I would have known about this when my kids were baby's! My kiddos never peed when you took the diaper off but as soon as you put it on them they usually did! Lol my son only peed on me once.... He was about 2 weeks old right after his bellybutton thing fell off and his Lil pee pee ring thing and I gave him his first real bath and I layed him in his bassinet changing table and had my hand on his belly as I turned to grab his diaper and my side was suddenly wet....at first didn't realize what was going on since I had a wet towel on my arm I turned towards him and my front side was being hit by a stream of pee...Lol he never did it again nor did my girls ever pee on me! My son was regular on going number 2....every night (still) at 2am!!!! My girls are still random times as they were as baby's....but I could always guarantee a min of 2x daily for them! My kids always did the pull the legs to chest or squat down when they needed to go number 2

[@ariannapflederer]

Stephanie Ryans oh no! That pee story had me laughing out loud! Thanks for your comment. And I definitely think as Revelynne gets a bit older I will be able to tell her signs better of needing to go number two! Just currently now she doesn't seem to do much different than when she needs to fart! hahaha!

[@stephanieryans4801]

She is a doll! Already smart I'm sure she will catch on to the sign language very easily! I done a experiment with a class of 1-2 years olds with sign language and with in a few days they got it! She will definitely show more signs of going number 2 in the months to go! Good luck she is beautiful! I've got baby fever now... Lol love yalls vlogs!

[@trishab2147]

I'm curious to know your intentions of EC. Do you think it's harder to potty train for the first year of her life versus just a little bit of time when she's 2? Did you choose to do EC for cost reasons (less diapers) or for fear she wouldn't potty train well later in life?

[@ariannapflederer]

Definitely not the second, that is never a reason that anyone starts EC. Is it more work starting from the beginning? Yes of course! I also didn't do it for costs, although that is a huge perk :) I did it because babies don't actually want to eliminate themselves. She has proved all my research and reading on that to be true, with how she has responded to it. Although it is more work (to some extent), it's only more work physically. It's uch less work emotionally than potty training a toddler (for both the toddler and the parent haha). But, at the same time it depends on how you define work. I will have to "work" with her for about a year, until she can walk and take herself. Or I could do traditional and change diapers for 2-3 years. That (to me at least) sounds like way more work. Haha. My only reason for doing EC though was purely for my daughter, the other stuff is just a perk :)

[@trishab2147]

+Arianna Pflederer that's awesome. I've never heard of EC before you've mentioned it. It's really interesting and hey not having a baby poop in their diaper past 4.5 ish months! I'm sold! :)

[@tekprasaddhakal8169]

I have spent months researching into ways to potty train and found an awesome resource at Gabs Potty Blueprint (check it out on google)

[@brendawalton2518]

Thanks!

[@gabriellaberkley4489]

Luna is almost 4 months is it too late to start?

[@ariannapflederer]

Nope! Pick up the book “The Diaper Free Baby” 🙂

[@gabriellaberkley4489]

Arianna Pflederer I am going to pick it up at the library! Thank you 😄😄

[@maggielacy8819]

You can obviously do whatever you want in this area because I don’t believe EC is harmful to a baby but there is a difference between EC and teaching a toddler to use the potty. EC is basically the Pavlov’s dog experiment. Make an auditory or visual cue and your baby responds in a way that parent prefers. It’s conditioning not teaching. A parent that’s respectful of their child follows the child’s cues. The parent introduces the toilet and the child shows interest so we parents begins to teach them how they can use the potty and avoid having a wet diaper. For toddlers that are ready for this step it usually takes a couple days to learn because they’re internally motivated whereas EC takes months up to a year and sometimes then doesn’t even work because they’re not ready for that step. Also babies may not prefer being wet but they can’t control their bladder to wait until you take a diaper off so that idea is ridiculous. When they need to pee they pee whether there’s a diaper or not. The reason why they pee so frequently when you take a diaper off is because there’s a shock of cold that causes muscles to tense and relax which equals peeing sometimes. I agree with you that every child is a unique individual and there are a lot of parenting styles and opinions but that doesn't mean all of them are equal. As an example breastfeeding is better than formula. People that formula feed may have legitimate reasons to do so but that doesn't change the science that makes breastfeeding better. Feeding your baby formula isn't the best option for your baby but it may be the only option you can do and i get that. With that said, mothers that continually do whatever they want under the pretense of let's just all get along and do what we want without doing whats actually, scientifically proven to be best for our babies aren't doing themselves, their kids, or others any favors. End rant.

[@ariannapflederer]

Maggie Lacy Not only have you disrespected me by insinuating that I disrespect my child, you have completely missed the point of the video. I can gather from your response that you not only didn't listen to what I said, but have preconceived notions about a topic that you most likely have never tried or really researched yourself. I can see why if you only listened to a few things and not the video as a whole, that you would think that it was like, Pavlov's dog experiment. Where you have your information wrong is that you believe a child at this age can not control their bladder yet. They can not control it like an adult, or even a 2 year old - but, they can control it and they can hold it. I mentioned clearly in the video that Revelynne only pee's when she is sleeping, unless I ignore her fussing when awake. If she had no control and it was truly just "conditioning" she wouldn't fuss for several minutes before peeing - she would just pee and be done with it. You have a right to bring up your children however you so choose, and I have no problem with parents choosing to do traditional potty training. But, it is out of line to suggest that I do not respect my child because I choose not to make her eliminate herself and/or sit in urine and feces. Next comment like so will find you immediately blocked. Have a nice day.

[@shelbybuono1674]

Maggie you're utterly ridiculous and obviously didn't watch the video thoroughly and or have no open mind. It's Ariannas child not yours. So what if Revelynne doesn't want her butt wet and she would rather use a toilet than a diaper? I think it's cool and eye opening. Cannot wait to experiment with this method when I become a mother. Arianna keep doing what your doing, we the real pflederer Pham love you. Block out the haters girl. 😎 Love you guys!

[@sandras3289]

The video was informative . But the main problem of elimination communication iam facing is that baby peeing on me a lot of times 😂😂.do you face the same problem??

[@courtneyjade7497]

Personal opinion but I honestly think this is very werid you baby is a baby therefore it pees and poops in a nappy its not ready to be potty training till about 1 or 2 .. Very werid how your already trying to get her out of changing nappys .. I just think she's really too young to for you to potty train its really werid buy that's my opinion ..

[@ariannapflederer]

Courtney McMillan I do need to ask if you watched the entire video? From your comment, I would say no. But, Revelynne waits to pee already and smiles her head off almost every time she does with a diaper off - that is far from being too young to potty train if she chooses to hold it on her own terms. I can't really make her do anything at this age. So she obviously has a want to wait and has a want to pee with a diaper off. Just trust that I know what is best for my child, and I will trust that you know the same :) Thanks for watching!

[@courtneyjade7497]

Arianna Pflederer I did watch it all by no means was i hating towards I just commented my opinion .. Obviously its everyone personal preference yours is to ec and mine isn't that's cool good luck with learning her ec when pooping nd hope all goes well x

[@heleneolsenthunem307]

Courtney McMillan I understand how you can feel it's weird, it is unusual and I think that's why it's easy to think that. Cloth diapers are also something that would be a bit frowned upon too, but that's because it's not the most common to do. I personally don't see the difference between having your child potty train earlier. If you think about it, what you "normally" do is to tell your child: "here, pee in this diaper!" and then when they are 3 you teach them to do the opposite? I've heard many people use EC saying that when their kids approach the age to get rid of the diaper, and it's so much easier for them because they have been doing this. It's about having respect and learning about your kid and try to understand them.

[@IcedCupcakes]

babybjörn is pronounced - baby byearn :)

[@meshell4993]

hehehehe its pronounced baby born, like the guy from abba,bjorn is born ,,I think its Swedish xo

[@ariannapflederer]

Really?! I have never heard that. I have heard a majority say it's "bee-Yorn" though. Oh well! Haha.

[@meshell4993]

yeap that's the real way to say it bee yorn lol but in English they say born lol and the real way is bee-yorn in Sweden (pretty sure) im old,forgive me if I got it wrong,i haven't had my pills lol

[@heleneolsenthunem307]

Me Shell I'm Norwegian :D It's the same as Björn from Abba, yes! But the sound is more like "Bjurn" in a way... It means "Bear", Baby Bear

[@_roqui_]

You couldn't be more wrong!

[@Ieishdragyn]

she's a darling!! big soles, love bug!!!!