Eboni K. Williams Responds to Backlash From "Bus Driver" Comments

Eboni K. Williams addresses the commentators about her recent interview with Dr. Iyanla Vanzant and she doesn't hold back. Tune into theGrio with Eboni K. Williams at 6 pm ET every weeknight on theGrio cable channel.
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[@edwardhatfield7284]

Honestly, would anyone actually think a female lawyer would date a bus driver? I'm a blue collar union worker and wouldn't even bother asking a female judge, doctor or lawyer out on a date. Unpopular comment I know 🤷🤷🤷

[@americangoldking]

She is not a lawyer anymore hasn;t practiced law since 2011 what are you talking about her law license was suspended she is broke with no job dummmy

[@melindausher8671]

Right!

[@sshoegirl30004]

😂

[@decorahawkins2540]

It honestly makes sense - but they are committed to their judgements

[@brooklyndreams2028]

But if you are a good man, you should! Many of them are available, because they have spent more time in school than they have on relationships. There are absolutely exceptions.

[@barbaracodner2504]

Eboni is a lawyer. She has every right to date a man who matches her ambition. Could she meet a good dude who isn't as successful as her? Sure, but it's only a matter of time before their differences affect the relationship. Scenario: Eboni has been invited to a gala with her peers. She brings him (bus driver) along as her date. As always, the question of "death" is asked, "What do you do for a living?" He's surrounded by lawyers and other highly-educated men and women. He has always been comfortable with what he does because it's an honest living. However, his ego and pride take a hit because he's not among his peers and people will judge him. That is what happens with mismatched couples. You can't just be okay together behind closed doors. You have to be compatible in all areas of your lives.

[@whome7119]

That woman ain't practicing law with clients. She's in the entertainment industry now.

[@RestnPepperonis]

lol no thats not true you dont have to be compatible in every aspects both parties just need to know there role and do it happily and the relationship will work out believe it or not a marriage is a business and your product is kids how succesful your business is depends on how happy and willing to do the work your team is. Most women have a fairy tale dream of meeting someone you match with perfectly but let me say this i have yet to meet a woman who has any of the same interest as me and if i found one she probably be a dude in a dress and if a woman found a man they were 100 percent compatible with he probably be a trans man we different simple

[@lilliekeisha]

and she was a public defender

[@thelayoffshow]

I wouldn't go to the gala I'll just blow your back out when you get home

[@RestnPepperonis]

@@lilliekeisha what does a persons job title have anything to do with who they date

[@theartistdyc]

I honestly feel Ms. Williams did not think before she spoke. It happens. And her answer is her truth. Unfortunately, the question was a loaded one. Dr. Vanzant challenged her with this question. As simple as it was, there are many components that go into the answer. Ms. Williams spoke her truth and that's fine. However, her truth on this platform with this guest held no weight to the depth of the answer. It was very shallow to say the least. And it portrayed her as such. There are many wonderful men out here that are blue collar workers. The majority of our fathers and grandfathers were blue collar workers, and provided for and protected their families. They are the reasons many of us are able to go to college or even dreamt of degrees and "Not being without", as Ms. Williams stated so assertively in the interview with Dr. Vanzant. Those men were pillars of our community, and the core of our family structures. And regardless of the job, or title, they ALWAYS showed up. So to discredit a man that's a "bus driver" in my opinion is ignorant. That same man may be retired from another job and is sitting on a GOLD mine! But he enjoys driving a bus. And has the integrity to prove it by being in a position of service to others. Moral of the story, think before you speak. And understand WHO you are speaking to and about. This video in response to the interview really wasn't needed. As Ms. Williams already showed her hand during the Iyanla interview. Damage control just caused more damage. So there's that.

[@mazozosibaya80]

Oh well said 👏 👌

[@guguemichaels]

God bless you my dear sister and your well thought out, eloquently, brilliantly written comment. While other black women are speaking out of emotions and some from the hate they have for black men. None took the time to analyze the original interview and this so called "clap-back". As you well put, "damage control". This is all lip service and word salad. She said what she said and now she's trying to spin it. We are NOT stupid, we heard exactly what she said. Even her demeanor with Iyanla spoke volume on how she feels about blue collar black men. It had absolutely NOTHING to do with what she's claiming now. NONE! Anyways, as a brother that owns a small business with blue collar black men working for me, I THANK YOU for shinning a light on her BS respond. Nothing but resect. Stay safe.

[@michaeltheewolf]

I really hope she(Ms.Williams) reads your comment! Well said. I’m sorry that materialism is a true measure of success and a false sense of happiness for many in our society men and women alike. Funny how money is the precursor that most relationships are built off not a person’s morals or values in today’s world.

[@7iking-divine565]

Reality ❤

[@kcgetmoney]

Right! She missed the whole point. One of the reasons why she will always keep being left at the bus stop by the bus owner. Iyanla was talking about learning how to better yourself mentally and emotionally so you can learn how to give and accept love. She lied is this clip that it wasn't about finances when most of the things she was talking about was finances to Iyanla lol.

[@bates91-y4g]

Iylana Vansant is whole mammie, stop asking her for advice. She was married three times by broke dusties.

[@whome7119]

Iyanla offered a different and much needed perspective. She asked for advice as a "successful", yet single 40 year woman who has "done them all" and failed. The answer was simply to see your potential mate as your special person and PARTNER. How he earns his money in this capitalistic society and the title they have attached to his labor should not dictate the unity especially if he is loving, providing and leading like you desire. You mate might be in 99% instead of the 1%🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@mekichey129]

Iyanla played clean up woman to multiple Dusties that left her holding the single mother bag. She admitted 😂

[@whome7119]

@@mekichey129 And you know that because she shamelessly shared it. That's her story. So what! We all have one. And Eboni disclosed having left a man because he quarantined with HIS kids 🙄. From the looks of it, he did not try hard to stop her departure. I wonder why?? Also, she raised her hand in agreement with Iyanla that she has faults as well. Stop!

[@sheh.9163]

That’s not what she asked😂

[@whome7119]

@@sheh.9163 What did she ask? Or were you expecting me to qoute her verbatim? Since when did paraphrasing stop being acceptable?

[@sheh.9163]

@@whome7119 She asked how can women maintain a balance when MEN refuse to be providers and protectors and Black women are forced into that role. Iyanla decided to make it about dating.

[@Llovelylady1]

I’m here for this!! Put it on a shirt! Too many black people have low aspirations and when you don’t agree with settling for mediocrity the community will get in their feelings and say “you think you’re too good for us” but never question why the community looks the way that it does.

[@MrZBlackneffect]

I would argue otherwise, many Black people are delusionally aspirational... to the point of toxic aspiration.

[@Llovelylady1]

@@3none Too many black people lack the resources and education but yet they are the most likely to have children without marriage or stability. The cycle repeats itself over, and over and over again. We can’t keep doing this over and over and over again and expect different results to your point. Black men marry out when they get more money and black women constantly marry/date down. Can’t keep doing the same stuff and think that by some miracle it will all work out. We can’t keep blaming racism on a mediocre mindset.

[@loverofsunflowers]

Exactly. I would rather be alone than date someone who is mediocre.

[@kjm485]

This👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@yepyep6916]

This is funny because most people are average. Average is normal and healthy. That’s the definition of average, being like most people. Then we have a lot of delusional people who think they are above average in looks, intelligence, and personality.

[@Caligirl1977]

If men who don’t have anything going for themselves can sit around saying they prefer a women who wears a perfect size 6, has her own money and not be in a relationship for his money, be attractive, have no kids, no emotional baggage, be submissive and not be past the age of 25 for them to be interested in dating her then Eboni who is a drop dead gorgeous, accomplished millionaire attorney who is s high value woman has a right to say she won’t date a bus driver and I’m glad she spoke up and does not apologize for it. The dusty black men can try and shame her all they want, but I don’t think Eboni cares and I say very well spoken Eboni. If men can have their long laundry list of what they want in women, then so can we. It’s time out for this double standard

[@mekichey129]

🎯

[@israeljames7692]

Why do black men have to be dusty for you to make your point? Women have expressed what they want in men forever and have no problem saying so. Nothing wrong with that or Eboni wanting what she wants. Eboni just needs to except that her preferences limit her options. As long as she is willing to live with that, no harm no foul.

[@Rubrick23.]

But men settle more than woman ever have.

[@jr513rd]

She's not gorgeous. She's an average middle aged woman. She got her bag but no man and is bitter that the tread has been beaten off those tires for years and noone wants committ to her long term. She is like most middle aged working women. Successfully single and miserable

[@jaqoncee6670]

She is so right. Everyone always want BW to date down instead of telling BM to step up and do better. Why should we settle for less as BW? BW we need to expand pass only looking for a BM and look for better options in our financial and social class in other groups. Do not settle BW always look for better or stay single and child free.

[@MizGator]

I really don't get what the problem is. She has worked her way up the ladder and has earned a great career and financial security. She has the absolute right to say she wants someone in her financial bracket or near it. The same way someone that works out every day can say they want a partner that also works out every day. Now, if she was broke saying she didn't want a bus driver, ya'll can be mad. If she was morbidly obese, saying she wanted someone with a nice body, y'all could go in. BUT NO ONE should shame someone for wanting someone at their level, especially when they worked hard for where they are.

[@joshuad7953]

You don’t get the problem with putting down working class men? “The bigotry of low expectations” that’s how she defines black men who don’t have the status and income she wants….What she said originally, I have no problem with. Her dating preferences so it is what it is….This response to the backlash was far worst and makes her a horrible person.

[@Autumn2Yall]

Her education will not sustain a long lasting relationship. She got all that education and still single and nobody’s wife. Sounds like she needs to come off her high horse.

[@heymilli]

So true!!

[@MizGator]

@@Autumn2Yall Ok but what does that have to do with everyone else? If she never marries that's on her, based on her choices and preferences. I don't get why someone would be mad at someone else for limiting their own dating pool? I for one, would rather be single than date someone that can't elevate me or my lifestyle. That's MY choice and it sounds like she feels the same way. I'm not in her tax bracket though, so I would date a garbage man.

[@MizGator]

@@joshuad7953 All these responses came out because of the outcry from her original response. So people were pissed because of her choice. That is what I don't get. Why were they mad to begin with??? I think her trying to defend herself made her look bad, I agree, but her not wanting to date a garbage man, I see no problem with.

[@IamTeshia]

I wonder if Iyanla would have asked this question to a white woman? We catch the absolute most flack when we have built a whole empire for ourselves outside of a man. What’s wrong with wanting someone to meet you where you are? Eboni was asked a question and she simply answered and was criticized for her wanting more like most people do who think your standards are unattainable. I understand the point Iyanla was trying to make but mother’s point of view is not always law. If Eboni was braggadocios about her perspective or demeaning it would be different. Stand on what you said Eboni.

[@MrZBlackneffect]

White women are literally dealing with the same thing. There are articles with titles like "Economically unattractive men are leading to a downturn in marriage" written by white women. So many are so quick to speak about how Black men are lacking that they miss what's going on in the world around them. Also Eboni occupies the provider role as a 40 year old millionaire. And just like the men would just find a attractive 28- 32 year old less accomplished woman to marry them, the women like Eboni might have to do the same with a younger less accomplished man. Eboni occupies the provider role. Ladies you can't have both. Either you want feminism or you want patriarchy. If you want to be a Boss B than take what comes with it, not the Disney fantasy but the real that comes with being a successful women.

[@rosejames5172]

She would not dare, nor would she ask an Asian.

[@MrZBlackneffect]

@@rosejames5172 The marrige rate in South Korea is fallen through the floor and so has the birth rate. The Same goes for Japan. Much of the reason why is because as women climb up the ladder their expectations for men's income also increases. Unfortunately some women find themselves in the breadwinner position still looking for a breadwinner. If you don't know what's happening abound the world than what are you talking about? 40% of American women earn more than their male counterparts so this is not exclusive to the Black community. Y'all just don't know what's going on in the world around you. The truth is women want equality until its time to date and get married, then they want to partner with men earning significantly more than the woman does. The math just does make sense.

[@paulachinn6306]

She has a right to her opinion. When the norm is for WW to go after successful BM none of the BM have a problem with that. Though the assumption that a man with a Blue collar job is not ambitious, intelligent , or has career aspirations is not true. Met some.

[@paulachinn6306]

@3none You really sound intelligent. There are 21 million BW in America and ALL of them expect BM to pursue them. We all think alike, according to you. Did your Moma pursue your Daddy? How about your Black female Aunts, cousins, nieces ? Since you love generalizations, then you believe what White society says about you (BM)-Lazy, Criminal, Uneducated, Baby makers. Well that fits according to you.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

​@@3none - cap🧢...if a Black woman went after those men, you would call her a goldigger

[@MelissaJackson-ry2er]

She doesn’t want the possibility of a struggle life. Why is it wrong to want the “good life”?

[@WanRa28]

1) struggle? She is a lawyer. She already make a lot o money, she wouldn't struggle regardless who she is dating. It also implies that all blu collars jobs make pennies, and it is clearly not true. 2) do you really think that insulting people's job would get her anywhere?

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

@BossDante46 That's not true. If she dates down as often most BW do when dating BM , it is a struggle because, more often than not, resentment builds either by him or by both.

[@ijeonu2405]

@Janice Blount build with a 40 something year old man? You build in your 20s/ early 30s. A fool at 40. .

[@DamitFeelsGoodtobeaRaider]

@@GoddessBlueYozakura7 resentment on her entitled part. let's not to pretend to have not seen this about a thousand times by now.

[@adrianlynnministries]

She was not saying that women should not want a better life or lifestyle. She is saying that our drive to do and be should not come from external motivators whether prompted by fear, necessity, or greed. We should tap more into the essence of womanhood from our creator. If we approach life in this manner, we will attract those things we desire because it is from a place of authenticity rather than hustle mentality. Thus saying she would date a bus driver and have a prenup to protect what she’s built. It’s a healthy balance to allow him the space and freedom to be a provider and protector without losing herself in the relationship.

[@mkoh8778]

Come on Eboni. YOU made this about money. You asked a question to Iyanla that measured men’s finances to their overall worth. Don’t try change up and say you were talking about black business ownership. If that’s the case, you should have clarified your answer then when you got the response you did. And speaking of white supremacy, which shouldn’t have been brought into this, you’re the one singling out black business and men here. So, who’s the real white supremest?

[@lilliekeisha]

wasnt she engaged to white man for 4yrs and he chose his kids over her

[@LTJuni0r]

Exactly. The irony is, the men who “own the bus” already picked their wives or they chose to be bachelors. She just didn’t get picked so now she’s salty. If men outearn women = WAGE GAP If men and women are 50/50 = “men are broke” If women outearn men = “men aren’t providers” You can’t win.

[@oneill590]

She had about a week to think about it and this was her best response 🙄… no wonder why she’s no longer practicing.

[@EB-ok3io]

Now she’s tryna back peddle

[@airving]

EXACTLY, it was about Men and money, not exclusive to black men.

[@terrylrichardson1947]

What man out there A,B,C or D grade wants to come home to this???

[@sarge-T.O.]

The school janitor will giv'er her a shot.

[@floydphillipsco]

Not this man. I wouldn't come home... lolol

[@jetskipapi6193]

Exactly...The brothas in her circle don't want to deal with her...that's why she's single...so she has to date down...I.e. the bus driver...The brothas on her level rather date a sister that is fit feminine and friendly

[@1lebero]

Facts

[@floydphillipsco]

@@jetskipapi6193 How could a woman ever date down when (no matter what she does for a living) she will always depend on him for covering (on multiple levels) for her entire remaining life. Women stop working far earlier than men, for physical protection, leadership, raising of children etc. A man could never date up, there's no such thing...

[@tiffanyross4266]

The narcissism is real.

[@geepee1500]

Yes! Definitely!

[@JoBunny87]

Eboni is a narc?? How exactly is millionaire woman wrong for saying she woudnt date a bus driver?

[@mharp6166]

​@@JoBunny87 nothing is wrong with preference.... But she shitted all over everyday people like a mechanic etc.. Are all stupid, and lazy according to her.

[@Mortis33-o4b]

@@JoBunny87 lol FOH

[@JoBunny87]

@@Mortis33-o4b Exactly. Not response. Yall went from cheering kevin samuels for dragging "basic" women for wanting a 6 figure dude and to throwing a fit that a SEVEN figure woman not wanting a basic dude. The real narcs are most of yall. The entitlement is mind blowing.

[@UHOPURIA]

She said what she said period. She wants what she want!

[@Precise_One]

She's also almost 40 mate! calm down.

[@UHOPURIA]

A FINE 40 IS THE NEW 20!✋

[@michaelweston1042]

@@UHOPURIA dellusion

[@janine3330]

​@@Precise_One What does her age have to do with anything? There is life after 40.😅

[@Precise_One]

@@janine3330 Everything! Like you said.. ‘Life after 40’ it’s not the same as life in your twenties. Past a certain age your disposition has to be correct. No grown man is trying to deal with a bitter betty like Eboni K. They is more to men than just their pockets, and they is nothing wrong with building together.

[@AA-sh8pk]

She got the kind of face that would call her Own grandpa mediocre for driving the bus...after he paid for her law degree frm DRIVING THE BUS...LOL

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

FACTSSSS💯😆...Ole UNGRATEFUL Heffa!!!😒👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿

[@AngSoFab]

Her grandfather as a bus driver is not the same as this generation of young adults choosing to be bus drivers. Especially if they are capable of more. The elders did the best they could with what they had. That’s excellence, but too many young male adults settle for comfort and complacency. Women aren’t the only ones who can adjust their crown. Yes, we can create with a bus driver with aspirations for more. But, what about the bus driver who feels that’s “good enough”? Should she adjust her 7 figure lifestyle to meet his income? Should change to provide for the man even though she wants a man who can provide for her? Why is that more right? If a woman is going to stand in her femininity she needs a man that stands in his as well. It can be hard to see that when as a woman you are providing for your man. Again, her grandfather as a bus driver “providing” for her to go to law school is not the same as her as a lawyer/public figure/influencer providing for her man who is a bus driver. Context is everything!

[@AA-sh8pk]

@@AngSoFab She may "deserve " more than a bus driver but the kind of men that she wants dont care about her money! Attraction is not symmetrical. This woman has no appreciation for essential worker She'd call our truckers, police and soldiers mediocre. Be thankful! Not knowing those "field negros" are the reason the house negros get to stay inside. There have been black professionals since Booker t Washington..he speaks on this very subject in his book "Up from slavery" most of yall think you "deserve" Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable when you should be looking for George Jefferson to build with. BCuz most women are average! Shes beautiful but her attitude, lack of grace, coarseness makes her average in her world. I'm 6 figures and wouldn't choose her!

[@chell6281]

@Angsofab Your comment is so intelligent and genuine. It's speaks volumes to the men who didn't attempt to answer your questions because of their intellectual dishonesty.

[@cfacia6045]

Black women have helped black men build for years only to be left. Black women feel they have to do it for themselves! You are a powerful sister! People are trained to be employees, not owners. Black Excellence! Black men will level up when it's the standard and expectation of Black women. Never settle for less than you deserve! Don't be so desperate for a man that you accept a man without integrity, character, wisdom, and the desire for greatness!

[@synonys]

It’s interesting in Eboni’s response she assumes this hypothetical bus driver is black when the original question never mentioned that; only that he was a moral hard working person. She’s using race to deflect from her controversial perspectives.

[@1lebero]

Great point

[@wombmanibringlife2649]

The conversation was about Black men and women...

[@carrawayissaca]

Most of the comments were from black people, specifically black men. She addressed the audience that took offense.

[@synonys]

She said what she said, and here is what she said: “some of us feel the men available to us; I'm talking about across the color spectrum, across the age spectrum-Trust me, I've done them all, they are not positioned to protect nor provide.” Nothing about black men specifically. This is the statement that prompted the bus driver question. The question was designed to tease out what she values in any man regardless of race since she’s “done them all” and still can’t find a good one.

[@1therabbithole]

@@wombmanibringlife2649 They lack intelligence

[@CC-hj4vq]

Black women are the only ones that have to settle. Keep Your standards Eboni!!!

[@jasonj7755]

Yep bye herself to 😂 .

[@Checkmate9moves]

Enjoy those cats

[@centurione6489]

Dating this woman, to a peer of her, would cost 20K/year. EASY! Double that to someone 10 years older than her. Add the woke, black woman liberation BS she would feed at every occasion. She's botoxed. RUN!!!!! YA'LL!!! RRRUUUUNNNNN!!!!

[@299unique]

Y’all think these are insults lmaooooo 😂 Keep your standards Eboni!!!

[@savvysavagesuniversity]

Naaah, yall just seem to wanna OVER TALK YOUR COUNTERPARTS

[@Jules-fr5gm]

It’s estimated that by 2050, black people will be a permanent underclass. We need black women with Eboni’s standard of striving for excellence to encourage the men to be high achievers in order to course correct this faith. Hard truth, but it needs to be said

[@rocksofoffence.righteousam2422]

By who's statistics? How are they so sure that America will still be in existence by 2050, let alone even 2025?

[@six3reggie]

I'm with Eboni on this one. She is very successful and makes great money. I have no issue with what she said.

[@adrianf7732]

The issue is not Eboni’s comments but the women who are making 30k looking down on bus drivers who make more than them.

[@ijeonu2405]

​@@adrianf7732 you are not entitled to any woman

[@adrianf7732]

@@ijeonu2405 You’re right, but no woman can be picky and then turn around and complain about why they can’t get a man. If a black man has a blue collar job that pays from 60-90k plus yearly and that’s not enough, don’t complain when Becky, Marisol, or Ling Ling come scoop them up.

[@buntun3670]

No one is asking her to date a bus driver - the context of the question was , is she willing to look at OTHER than money from a man. Her later backpedaling saying she wasn't saying anything about money makes me never want her as my lawyer. Anyway dude, men hardly care about how much a woman makes, she's in her late 30's and invisible ro the men who earn enough to date her

[@peachespointofview]

@@adrianf7732we don’t care about the White Women, White Men don’t want scooping Black Men up. Y’all get the leftover Women in other races. White Men ain’t leaving their best Women for Black Men to choose from. Shet your CONQUERED LOW LEVEL A- up…

[@mami9124]

All the way from France Ebony you are right do not listen to this nonsense i am a mother and if my lawyer daughter brings home a bus driver i will whoop her ass

[@bates91-y4g]

Go girl. Most black women support you. The struggle bandits and struggle love mammies just revealed their insecurities and shortcomings. Let them stay mad 🤣

[@hbdhbd6611]

**big heavy sigh**

[@LOVE92031]

Possibly, they'll get out those self-pitying feelings, wake up and get it one day.

[@RoblEsquire]

See, and this is the problem... How do you support someone who is so grossly wrong on so much of what she said? I know see why so many non blacks have problems with black women. You women will follow another black woman into the abyss of utter nonsense. So insane.

[@RoblEsquire]

@lesliermtrotter thank you for being a true non follower.... I wish more women were like you.

[@brahmabkitty03]

I take no offense to her comments. My Grandfather owned the bus with an 8 grade education. He made sure all 7 of his kids got degrees and prospered. Do better. Our elders crawled so we can run!!!

[@livelovely4681]

This. I thought parents always wanted their children to do better than them.

[@THE-BASEMENT]

Even Iyanla disagreed with her and she never clarified her statement to Iyanla. She was talking about money when she answered the question and now she is trying to cover her tracks. Iyanla was right, aggressive, over-bearing domineering black women will have extreme difficulty finding a high value man because no man wants to date himself.

[@SpinALotDJ]

FACTS! SO SAD

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

You CANT Do Anything With Her Type, Except DIE Early From STRESS, While She Collects The INSURANCE MONEY💵💵💵💵💵💵💵💵💵😒😆👎🏿

[@akbasg]

Bruh I never see white men define themselves as aggressive, over-bearing and domineering. My AA brothers, yall gotta change your mindset. These conversations yall are having are not conversations other communities are having.

[@pharriscollier1506]

Facts!!!💯👍

[@cuprunnethover2509]

There are other races of men!

[@Exceedinglimitations]

I watched the entire video with iyanla and I'm really trying to understand her, but her attitude turns me off every time smh

[@MrZBlackneffect]

From my understanding Iyanla is telling Eboni that she occupies the provider role as a 40 year old millionaire. Iyanla is telling Eboni that what she is experiencing is what comes with the egalitarian society that women have been fighting for. In other words Eboni like 40% of American women (not just Black women) who earn more than their male counterparts and if they wish to partner they may have to come to terms with being the primary income earner. What did women think was going to come with equality and a increasingly egalitarian society? 🤔

[@kmariamv]

That’s what you got from the convo? You missed a whole bunch

[@JulyIzHere]

@@MrZBlackneffect we dont have to come to term with you brokies. how are u a man and not making enouhg. thats pathetic

[@siphowarrior9080]

I love the attitude guys … we need more black people like her

[@madD8845]

@@kmariamvWhen is the last time you heard a man that’s in the millionaire category complain that women aren’t on they’re level financially? Men of means could care less about what a women earns.

[@slarsp2]

Black women who show up in a masculine posture, can only get beta males or feminine women. Not difficult to understand. Even in the Lgbq community there is still the masculine and feminine dynamic amongst same sex individuals. Eboni is to smart to be acting so brand new. One last point, Eboni said that she has been with them all, all races. Why can’t see keep a man. She’s got money, she is smart, and she is pretty. Do you think that it might be her that is the problem??? I can guarantee that until she takes responsibility for her failed relationships, that she will keep failing until she does.

[@SpinALotDJ]

EXACTLY!! YShe's "dated them all" and none of those high rollers WIFED her up... that's a REFLECTION on HER LOL

[@phijona]

Black women have had to protect and provide because their male counterparts have consistently failed to do so. You sold women and children into slavery. The government offered black women welfare because black men had already left the home. Black women took welfare because they didn't want their children to starve.

[@muchit3629]

Well, when she asked you that question i knew there would be trouble whichever way you answered. The truth of the matter as an African, a lady who is a lawyer in Africa would answer the same way and it would be no issue because in Africa someone with a degree is usually but not always seeking someone with a degree too. The funny thing is some will still seek a man with less money but better educated because that is just what they valiue whereas in the US it seems making X amount of dollars is what gives worth. When you said only of he owns it, i laughed hard. It was comical even though it also made sense. I am with you, if you inspire more black boys to be bus owners rather than just bus drivers that is great. We still need bus drivers and they play a key role in any economy. I wish she had just asked you if you would date someone that earns say X amount of dollars that would have been more general that how it came across that she was suggesting at least that bus drivers were somhow less than. I actually fault the question more than how it was answered.

[@joyinsidemytears]

I soooooo agree with you! I have a problem with the question NOT HER ANSWER

[@tuebretling7998]

Since you know all the 1.3 billion Africans, good job speaking on their behalf

[@muchit3629]

@@tuebretling7998 Why are you mad. Its called generalization. No need to act smarter than you really are. You know very well even if you lived in a county of 1,000 peopel you would not know all of them but can still have a sense of some general traits. I am African and have been to many African countries so I feel pretty good speaking about my continent in general terms.

[@tuebretling7998]

@@muchit3629 and you think it makes sense to generalize across over 1.3 billion people, 55 countries with thousands of cultures and languages? If you had said 'in some African countries', that would have made you sound more educated than saying 'in Africa'. What you did is not generalization, it is overgeneralization. People do it when they don't know what they are talking about and are lazy to research to make more informed conclusions.

[@muchit3629]

@@tuebretling7998 Yes you come across very smart. By the way I have an engineering degree, a finance degree and an MBA. Corporate and government work experience in the US. Happy yo know you are smarter than me. Goodbye.

[@carljohnson1334]

She doesn’t even own that platform she talking on. She is working for someone which means she has a job. She has a law degree but on someone platform giving interviews

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

PLEASE Say That AGAIN!!!!😆👍🏿💯💯💯💯💯😒

[@AngSoFab]

Multiple streams of income makes ownership attainable. Its okay to accept hard truths and adjust yourself accordingly.

[@numerologicatarot3333]

And??? What does that have to do with anything? She is still an entrepreneur and successful in many ways and wants someone on her level.

[@idontarguewithpeasants]

i guess you thought you did something with this comment

[@renouncedadmin5762]

Another black male crying. Typical.

[@israeljames7692]

There is not a problem with a person wanting what they want as long as they are willing to accept the outcomes that come along with those choices. My problem with the original interview is the dishonesty through omission. The data used did not tell whole story so it did not properly support the point. Most importantly, the Pew Research data was specifically talking about the below 30 age group. It did not include the age group where men are typically at their earning peak.

[@floydphillipsco]

But they will ignore that so they can drink the feel good kool aid...

[@SpinALotDJ]

FACTS!! THEY ARE DELUSIONAL AND REAPING WHAT THEYVE SOWN LOL

[@vanpeters9751]

Money needs to be destroyed lol turns too many women into zombies

[@s.l.8117]

​@Van Peters I guess booty should be destroyed too then.

[@what77und]

When I'm in danger as a 6ft tall, 230lb muscular man, I call the police. Two women, 5ft tall show up with loaded guns on their hips with badges. Who's the PROTECTOR?

[@smokingONsumDRO]

The guns

[@dr.100purrscent5]

As much as I adore Iylana Vanzant, she missed the mark with how she addressed Eboni with the Bus Driver Question. I will firmly stand by Eboni on this one...especially in this formal response. She said what SHE said, and it was WELL said and appropriate. It is unfortunate that so many will villianize her for being fair-minded and logical, but will not afford her the same respect. Thank Goodness she isn't waiting around for it. And hopefully many other Black Women will be inspired to not wait for the permission of Spiritually Broken People (referring to the negative commentors in the comment sections) to live out their personal Happiness.

[@jazzzsexy]

You’re wrong!

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Playing to the incel crowd is Iyanla's new grift. It is the oldest trick in the book. Side with desperate males who have contempt for women they could never get with and people will give you an interview or two. Honestly, she is a far cry from what these same men she is pandering to consider "feminine", so she looks evem more the fool. Anyone telling Black women to lower their standards (which is already too low) is perpetuating the cycle of poverty and dysfunction. No other group of women is told this.

[@StayTunedReviews]

​@@jazzzsexybut Eboni never clarified her response. In fact, there was nothing in her conversation with Iyanla that suggested she was talking about Black ownership.

[@jazzzsexy]

@@StayTunedReviews The black ownership narrative came after the I won’t date a bus driver but the owner response. She used that to stay face to amounting criticism of her original feeling which is very clear.

[@jetskipapi6193]

LOL...Iyanla Vanzant said "This B***** still don't get it!!!"

[@SpinALotDJ]

FACTS !! LOL

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

U ALREADY KNOW🤦🏿‍♂️😆💀😆

[@joyinsidemytears]

IYANLA did not get it either!! She is divorced!! She married a bus driver and he must not have been the man she thought he was bc Why arent THEY still together⁉️

[@ericfranklin1703]

I agree with lady Eboni. She was not putting down black men. She was simply answering the question posed to her,regarding her personal preference/expectations . I believe that some people took her statements out of context or misinterpreted her answer to the question. A lot of people got caught up in emotions and not truth. I saw the entire interview with Iyanla Vanzant and the interview that lady Eboni had on the breakfast club. I am glad she stood her ground during her appearance on the breakfast club. It was clearly noticeable that semantics and projection were expressed by the breakfast club hosts and panel during her discussion with them. There is absolutely a strain/disconnect nationally and generationally regarding the state of relationships between black men and women.

[@anaromello]

She very bluntly stated in this clip that "average" wasn't good enough for her and shouldn't be accepted by anybody else either.

[@ericfranklin1703]

@@anaromello She is entitled to her preference: just like all of us are.

[@anaromello]

@@ericfranklin1703 she is and if she had said I want someone who shares my lifestyle and ideals, nobody would have said anything. People are responding to her expression of contempt for those she views as below her. The men she wants also have their own preferences and it's not her.

[@ericfranklin1703]

@@anaromello Agreed, the men that she desires or may already have, also prefer certain women. In my own humble opinion, and in context to both interviews; Lady Eboni never said or inferred that she is better or that other men were below her. We have to agree to respectfully disagree on your latter point

[@anaromello]

@@ericfranklin1703 We've both perceived the same comments in a different way. Agree to respectfully disagree.

[@AdrienneUnae]

It's your attitude Sis. It's your attitude. And it's your tone. Plus, in the moment of "if he owns the bus" was your opportunity to IMMEDIATELY go into Black ownership and how moving goal posts get in the way of our possible business development and ownership. Also, that was time to insert resources to help the Black community learn more about the goal post locations. We both know ownership, especially in the transportation industry, is not a simple 123 for most folks be they White or Black. The attitude, micro-facial expressions, pursed lips, oh no she didn't just ask me that type of hesitation, is what many White and Black folks noticed. Iysnla's point spoke to your fact that women are outpacing men. Therefore, we need to acknowledge that, factor it into our dating choices, and without the look of disdain toward those we may not want, choose accordingly. It's not what you say if you want to make certain points. It's how you say it and the supporting facts you immediately bring to the conversation while saying it. Words and receipts matter. Emotional based response is actually a reaction and can cause us to miss wonderful opportunity to clearly express ourselves (both men and women) in real-time. Doing so after the fact is oftentimes too late. It was your attitude that was visibly fueled by your instantly released emotion that caused all the stir. I understand and appreciate your intent as well as I understand and appreciate Iyanla's intent. Both have place at the table for emotionally controlled discussion.

[@mthompson5383]

Yup

[@micahb5281]

When I tell you baaaaabbbyyyy YOU JUST SAID A WHOOOOOLE WOOORD!!!!!😘😘😘

[@AdrienneUnae]

@@micahb5281 IJS

[@theaverageman1982]

This, right here. Moving the Goalpost. This conversation was about Provision and Protection, it had nothing to do with black ownership, being held down by the man, or any of that other stuff. It was about could you personally grow and work with the average man. It wasn't even about black men, remember she said she "tried" them all. This is just a moment when accountability just goes out the window.

[@rrichmond14]

Let her know!

[@Quilt4Joy]

When doing financially well, you’re able to have more options. You have more choices of where to purchase a home, the type of home, starting a business, which schools to send your kids to and where to vacation. I would rather have options than struggle.

[@floydphillipsco]

Having more money doesn't not offer more options in the dating market. She's been rejected many times.

[@sheh.9163]

Exactly!!!!!! Rather that than be desperate for a man…who’s most likely unlikeable and will probably be a disappointment anyway 😂

[@wisforwumbo6408]

This doesn’t apply to women when it comes to dating

[@stackzdollaz9508]

Cap. BW have less options the more money they make.

[@Quilt4Joy]

@@stackzdollaz9508 I mean more options in life, not men. If you have money, you have way more options to do practically anything you want to do in life. It’s just easier. No one cares about a man. It’s about an easy comfortable life. Not struggling to do anything. Like traveling out of the country and staying for long periods of time, because you don’t have a 9-5 you have to run back to.

[@jdubbmrgng2232]

She just contradicted herself. How you claim it wasn't about money but then say it was about ownership ? What's the difference ? Ownership creates money, that's the purpose right ? Why are Women in competition with Men anyway ? It's going to always be somebody that makes more then you no matter what race, creed, nationality or gender you are for that matter. We worried about the wrong things you ask me all while Men & Women from my community get this far apart. #MakeItMakeSense #DivideAndConquer

[@rachealcee]

too many contradictions. She says she didn't mean that bus drivers are less than, in the same breath she says she will not accept mediocrity. Like huh? Are you then calling bus drivers mediocre? Girl, good luck with your search.

[@jdubbmrgng2232]

@@rachealcee The more she talk the more I'm realizing she doing this to stir up the pot & sell that book & make that network popular. The best thing I ever learned is education isn't power nor does it mean a thing unless you apply it.

[@trainer4uu]

Ownership is a mindset...too bad she talked over u...

[@rangiedc]

Ownership is not just about money... it's a state of mind, as well

[@shalomy3k]

The difference is about being an entrepreneur and aspirational and not settling for being an employee.If you enjoy driving the bus then strive to own it.

[@saspalace8881]

You didn't say anything wrong, Eboni! Some of these females would settle for a nothing of a man with the quickness to fulfill their desperate desires but mad you have goals. Black folk and their slavery mentality will have you thinking you wrong for wanting what you want. May you be blessed with a man who owns his business! It's so sad that's all people heard. People are really sad and miserable these days to not adhere to the call of self but quickly react to others without seeing the bigger picture. I watched the whole interview and was very inspired. Good talk, good interview!

[@theusu7178]

She's 40, you guys need help

[@ecclairmayo4153]

​@@theusu7178 - perfect age❤

[@guyc1479]

@@ecclairmayo4153 to buy a dog 💀

[@joyinsidemytears]

@@guyc1479 NOT JUST ANY DOG THO… not a two legged dog😆😆 more like a prize winning four legged one tyrone

[@toppagirl]

@@guyc1479 well she won’t be too off bc a lot of you men are dogs! 🐶 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@kingscotty2018]

You claim to be unfazed but you made a new video explaining and lying 🤡

[@sheh.9163]

Y’all still mad 😂😂😂

[@jazzzsexy]

Exactly!

[@christopherjones6016]

I am a broke black man full of talent and love as well as hate and anger! I totally agree with Eboni and am sick of the low expectation hating ass folks that can't see coming up without pulling someone else down. TIRED TIRED TIRED!!!

[@cfacia6045]

Any word after I AM is a declaration! Your words impact your energetic vibration that attracts more of the same. Your hate and anger gives you access to nothing more!

[@christopherjones6016]

@@cfacia6045 subjective troll

[@bigdunks4eva]

So now that she has a video out encouraging black women to go to sperm banks and become single mothers, will you still say this is about not having low standards? She would rather raise a child alone, pregnant from a stranger, than be with a bus driver. Tell me, which one is the lower standard: the bus driver or bring a single mother raising a kid from a stranger?

[@phizzy123]

@@bigdunks4evashe wouldn’t have to go to such extremes if the men of her community were actually in the homes at large, but statistically, they are not. that’s what’s sad.

[@MR.B1004.]

I get what she's saying it's the lack of ambition,drive and Entrepreneurship! We're too busy settling for less.Staying in our comfort zone not willing to take a chance at something greater.

[@nolanrice2547]

Even the white man said "I ain't dealing with this woman"

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

FACTSSSSS💯💯💯💯😆....He Was Like "FK This Ish Im OUT!!!"🤦🏿‍♂️✌🏿😆😆😆💀💀💀💀⚰️

[@KenyaRWoods]

I don’t agree with you 100% but I appreciate and understand your point of view. I’m sorry you had to face such backlash. I think your convo with Dr. Vanzant was such an interesting one that also gave you more viewers. I actually like your honesty and truth of where you stand. I am a wife of 22 yrs to a bus driver and the mother of a beautiful and goofy Highschooler that is preparing for college. I have encouraged both to do better and think bigger. But they just aren’t their right now. There’s a great deal of patients that goes into vesting and people, especially when they were dealt life unfairly. So I have learned to balance patience while wifing and mothering. It hurt a bit to understand that our family would be inadequate to your standards. I can take your words on the chin too. Much continued success and high ratings to you!

[@MrJj2001]

No ma’am, yes! You said what you said! True! But now you pissing on us and telling us it’s raining! 😅

[@kerastephen6531]

That woman has every right to choose what she want she ask for advise she vansant give its up to her to take it or not dont drag the lady people not our place and vansant was out of place to tell her to lower her expectation thats her right as a grown ass woman

[@MrZBlackneffect]

Iyanla didn't tell Eboni to lower her expectations, Iyanla informed Eboni that she currently occupies the provider role as a 40 year old millionaire. It would behoove Eboni to do what men do in her position... marry the attractive, mature 28 year old. This is what comes with equality. What did women expect?

[@kerastephen6531]

@@MrZBlackneffect that is far from the point

[@MrZBlackneffect]

@@kerastephen6531 No its not far from the point. Its the reality and a second order effect of feminism and egalitarianism. Women will increasingly earn more than many men and they will still have to partner with some of those men. 40% of women earn more than their male counterparts. If you and those women have a problem with being with men who earn less then you, you should lobby the US government to make polygamy legal, that way women can be 7, 8, 9 wives for every 1 rich man. 🗣This is what equality looks like.

[@2cool57th]

Triple down Eboni! She said what she said. We been in this country too long to keep accepting below average. Black American households are dead last for household incomes. Don’t get mad at Eboni. Get mad & raise the bar for your son’s barely earning a 2.0 in a free public school just to play basketball or football. Accepting average is damaging our entire community!

[@SpinALotDJ]

ATTENTION ! DEFLECTION HAS ENTERED THE COMMENTS !! 🤡🤡

[@2cool57th]

@@SpinALotDJ y’all all use the same words like a parrot 🦜. Accountability, deflection, generational wealth, feminism, etc. None of y’all can articulate an original point. She’s saying the same thing Kevin Samuels said. Masculine traits are ambition & income earning. And when it comes to earning income black men are last amongst other men. The Indians & white men are using Automation & AI right now to replace all ya’ll labor jobs, but y’all are mad at her.

[@JamesBrown-ze6lh]

So who’s fault is the son earning a 2.0 when 89% of Black homes are women lead no man in the house and don’t forget statistic that says children born in a single mom house have a 87% chance of committing crime going to jail and lowest IQ’s and the daughters have a 87% chance of getting pregnant and having abortions etc and it states that children who’s raised by single fathers have the same upbringing as being raised in a 2 parent household… so whose tearing down the black community also bitches always screaming they’re the mother and father to the children statistics shows that children experience being raised in a 2 parent household for just living with the father not the Mother so the problem in the black communities for the past 60 years is not the men it’s the women

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly right. This has been going on for too long. Its not even mediocrity for a lot of Black men, its below that. Women should keep their standards high so we dont keep the cycle of dysfunction, poverty and barely able to survive.

[@DocMartn253]

The idiocy that your bloviating is beyond repugnant. But I'll humor you with the response. Yes, she said what she said and she's a moron for it. Black American households are dead last for household income because the women chose the government over the men. Men are not getting mad at this female for being delusional. They're just calling her out on her delusion. You're talking about raising the bar, when most of these black men are being raised by women with your mindset. Again, you chose the government over the men and you are the primary educators of these men. This is your guys's creation. Don't be mad at the men, be mad at the women that are raising them. Yes, women have excelled in education. But they also excelled at being the most debt ridden group in America. You have also excelled at being the main group that gets a career that doesn't align with the degree they went after in college. Making their degree completely obsolete. Expecting something above average when your average yourself is what's damaging our community. Having unreasonably high expectations and a skewed sense of logic is what is damaging our community. Following a movement that has never supported your community, is what has been damaging our community. Average is average for a reason. It's because most people fall into the average category. Thinking you're above average, for doing average things is what has females like you believing that you deserve above average, for your mediocre averageness. You are average, I am average, and 90% of this country is average. But your delusional thought process has you believing that you are above average for mundane accomplishments. Women consider themselves models for taking selfies and posting them on Twitter. Women consider themselves entrepreneurs for starting a failed business. Women claim to be bosses while having no employees. Women claim to be queens while having no king to give them that title. Get your head from out of your crust covered cheeks and join the real world. Talk to women that have your thought process and explain to them how they are wrong and how they need to grow up and grow past this unrealistic expectation of life. This isn't a Disney movie. Most people don't have a happy ending. Marriage isn't about love. It's about respect and responsibility. Kids are not tools, they are your future legacy. Your job is not a bargaining tool to get a man that's out of your market value. You're not a man. Your job doesn't mean nothing to men. Hopefully this was enlightening to you and any other absent-minded females that believe that what this female was saying on the new segment, was actually considered "cooking"! Because I promise you that the majority of the world looks at her as the slowest creature on two feet and if you think that she's right and you want to follow this mentality, you're slower than pond water in January with molasses in it. Just saying.

[@spoileralertrecap]

Oh shyt.. did she just say "I said what I said"

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

BASICALLY🤷🏿‍♂️😆👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿

[@phobedavis7014]

This was a great discussion. BM don't want to date or marry BW. We must make sure we have personal connections and are financially secure.

[@mekichey129]

BW must divest.

[@israeljames7692]

Black men marry black women at a more than 80% rate.

[@Gigi-zd8vi]

💯

[@Rubrick23.]

Haha please bw go your own way. We left the door open in the 80s you all still talking as if its a choice.

[@chavonmackey57]

@@mekichey129 bye bye bed wench we don’t care 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@trininy07]

SHE DID NOT COWER TO BLACKISTAN!!! SOOOO PROUD OF A BLACK WOMAN WITH UNCOMPROMISING STANDARDS!!!!

[@Adore7_AUM]

People are allowing emotions to get in the way of listening to what Eboni K. actually said. She didn't say anything that was untruthful. I understand exactly what she is saying. 💯

[@clarencedolan699]

She said a lot of untruths, her stats have been debunked. BM own more businesses than BW, the 22 cities she mentioned are out of 250, and most were smaller towns. This is the same chick who got upset because her Bf decided to quarantine with his kids. Hope she has a dog…..

[@jazzzsexy]

You don’t have a clue and Eboni didn’t speak one speck of truth.

[@havengray4506]

@@clarencedolan699 r

[@tiffanyross4266]

She taunted students with learning disabilities

[@whydoyouwanttoknow4464]

This Eboni is all about the money. She would probably be with a rich man who treats her like 💩, versus a man who don't make as much as a lawyer. But who will treat her like a queen.

[@duseysbigdawgsbbq1848]

That’s a lie!! She said what she said!! Owner has more money!! Don’t even try it lady!! Omg total embarrassment to us

[@alexusj3524]

I feel like if you get mad at what she is saying, you want more for your but might not know how to. She just stating facts it’s not like she called anybody broke or lazy. She just trying to inspire black people to do everything they have a passion for even if that is a regular job. She did not put down the working class

[@antnam4406]

White supremacy ain't got nothing to do with this.

[@Passport_Papi]

an average person getting with an average person is how it should be. Just don't tell an average person not to "settle" for an average person which is the issue men in general complain about. 🤷‍♂

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

BW UNDERSTAND Equal Exhange, They Just REFUSE To Accept It!!!🤦🏿‍♂️😆👎🏿👎🏿👎🏿

[@kitejohnson515]

She’s not average

[@MrOtis1001]

@@kitejohnson515 what makes her not average? Is this above average woman getting the man she wants to invest in her like she wants? Does she have a competent, committed man and a family of her own? What are the results of her above average life besides money?

[@AngSoFab]

Or both the man and the woman can strive for above average to skew the curve and help elevate us collectively from the bottom of the barrel.

[@moby108]

Backtracking in progress after shaming blue collar men.

[@larynOneka8080]

Ebony doesn't need to backtrack. Blue Collar men need to date Blue Collar women.

[@moby108]

@@larynOneka8080 that's classist of you.

[@larynOneka8080]

@@moby108 Please save the shaming language. Blue Collar men are not entitled to rich women. If Blue Collar jobs are so wonderful then Blue Collar people should be more than thrilled to date and marry each other.

[@moby108]

@@larynOneka8080 The original video was about class shaming men and you're talking to me about not using shaming language? Hypocrite.

[@DamitFeelsGoodtobeaRaider]

@@larynOneka8080 and rich women aren't entitled to rich men; especially considering that this isn't what men look for in the first place so what's your point?

[@BReNĐN-c6n]

She wants a ATM TO MARRY

[@12M19G]

If a woman speaks her personal preference about men that she would & wouldn't date, what's the big deal? Honest expression is rare and this speaker reflects boldly. There is nothing wrong with having preferences including not wanting to date people of this and that categories, on whatever grounds. This is not a public policy issue where every citizen should get equal opportunity; this is a personal matter, a private choice, and we all must learn to respect personal lives, choices & boundaries. Bold & beautiful speaker! ❤

[@lolivingston6827]

0 life in her eyes... Were you expecting any nuance or self reflection from this sista? Lol...

[@acewilliams7917]

No.

[@fatuma2954]

When I first saw the clip I was incensed but after watching the whole video I enjoyed the exchange between you and Iyanla. I also understood how and why you felt the way you do, and respected it. As an educated, successful black woman who always had to be the strong one I can relate. But I really appreciate this commentary. I understand you more... Thank you

[@SpinALotDJ]

yall so "EDUCATED AND STRONG" but cant find a man or keep a man, why dont other races of women have this problem? 🤡 Why do +80% of BW file for divorce?? 🤡🤡 If BW were so "desirable" why aren't other races of men chasing after BW??? YALL ARE NOT AS "EDUCATED, STRONG, AND SUCCESSFUL" AS YOU PORTRAY, GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE ! 🤡 🤡🤡

[@jazzzsexy]

As an, “educated, successful black woman…,” are you in a relationship?

[@ne1981]

​@@jazzzsexy 😂😂😂

[@fixthatface483]

@@jazzzsexy y’all are so jealous, it’s disgusting. How much money/resources do you have? Are you married?

[@ZanaharyBunziMaat]

@@jazzzsexy as a Black man, you are not the prize. Get that through your head. We are now going on trips, spending money, and living our best lives while yall are miserable because a woman you will never meet set her standard way above what you can reach in this life time :0

[@superhops1]

No one should be mad at what she wants. The problem she's gonna have is no bus owner is gonna want a 40 year old controlling man in a skirt. The only thing that counts is the result you get

[@LadyK007]

🎯💯🎯💯

[@toyablackson5903]

This lady and this channel is crazy! The producers had to scramble something up REAL quick for her...and they still did a bad job...

[@TONeil]

Well my husband is a truck driver and he owns IT, and he loves what he does and I love that he loves his job, to me he is successful.

[@nakely65]

I want to let you know THAT I APPRECIATE YOU! I understand your frame of thought. NO BUTS. Keep being honest with us both publicly and personally, BE TRUE BE YOU! All Love,

[@barcaman1013]

As a blk man i have no ossue with your statement queen. Youve invested in yourself and thrived to xhoose the best mate possible

[@brooklyndreams2028]

I honestly had never heard of Ms. Ebony until the "bus driver" comment went viral. But, dear God, i have learned today! I am a fan. It's funny, white women are not shamed for wanting professionals. But black women are wrong for wanting the same? And rather than to rise to the occasion, black men and some women have decided to shame this woman for drawing her line in the sand? I love her attitude, i love her spirit, and i love that she is unyielding in her stance. Good for you!

[@blinkxx3240]

THATS RIGHT EBONI. MUCH RESPECT FOR STANDING ON IT🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@urklesteve2385]

Lol I’m not gone call you a simp, but just looking at your pic I can tell you gets no motion 😂

[@malcolmthompson7769]

If you were to believe the BS, every Black woman in America makes 6 figures and is ready for marriage. When in reality, Black woman's Median wage is $34K, most of them have bought into feminism and are overweight (with the last 2 being characteristics disliked by most men).

[@MikeMitchellblackwidowz]

She still disregarded the disrespect she held for hardworking blue collar men. These MEN make sure that the COMFORTS that she enjoys are there.. Her lack of accountability and self reflection is AMAZING...

[@Dogofwar9]

Thats not what she’s doing. I dont see why it so hard for yall to get that. Who will get paid more a neurosurgeon or a construction worker? Who is more influential the president or the window washer? All of them are important but there is 0 harm and nothing to lose to push black children and direct them to better paying positions

[@MikeMitchellblackwidowz]

@@Dogofwar9 That was not her point IN THE LEAST... Context means everything. The context was would she date a bus driver if he was a good man.... THIS point was a response to her comment that modern MEN were not good providers or leaders... Iyanla's point was that good men exist in modest surroundings, and Eboni's point was that he will still need to be a "boss" and it's a SHAME to accept less. Wrong, wrong wrong... She even stated in the original interview that she dated all races. She just re-positioned this craptastic response to appeal to Black women for support. It was a cry to the sisterhood to back her up... miss me.

[@Dogofwar9]

@@MikeMitchellblackwidowz iyanla just said would you date a bus driver? She didnt lead with would you date a good man, that’s faithful and will treat you/children well? Which eboni agreed with. Then iyanla said she would have a prenup with her money stashed away and laughed. Which eboni also laughed and agree with. So in reality yall are dragging her for nothing. The real question we should be asking is why are women (allegedly) making more money then us yet we live in a “patriarchy”

[@MikeMitchellblackwidowz]

@@Dogofwar9 The REAL question is why should working men feel bad when a DUSTY like Eboni tries to shame them, when she hasn't BUILT a gotdayum thing in this country??? Men VASTLY outnumber women in the jobs that build and maintain society. I'm not arguing about getting a pre-nup and that's not even the point. She deserves to get dog walked. Real talk, Watch the clip again... she ain't funny or cute with that BS. The real part is that it wasn't a big deal until she made the follow up response.

[@Dogofwar9]

@@MikeMitchellblackwidowz men SHOULDNT feel bad lmao. Thats the other problem with this generation. Ppl were calling in the breakfast club crying cuz eboni said they should strive to be more then just average… which i think shouldnt be controversial. If you’re doing the best you can, keep doing it. Someone who wants to appreciate you will. There are plenty of men who dont have two nickels but get plenty women lmao. As for her second video she explained why she thought the way she does. Parents working 5 jobs to provide for their children is great, admirable just not productive. Its better to have one high paying trade, then multiple low paying ones. That is what the next gen shouldve realize. This is part of the reason black ppl cant get ahead and why our wealth is estimated to be at 0 by 2050 (yes racism plays a part too).

[@trishwalls2253]

You look sad sis and referencing your mom by her first name speaks volumes. Hope you find true love tho❤

[@MikeMitchellblackwidowz]

I hope she finds karma...

[@Kelvin-H.]

She's not even worth the energy, let her buy a pet and chill, let's move on to bigger fish to fry.

[@oneill590]

Gotta get that passport… I had to renew mine last year… while you’re at it, invest in any stocks affiliated with pet food or products.

[@1lebero]

Vets are getting more expensive but she's a LAWYA she can afford it.

[@rosejames5172]

​@@oneill590So why are you still here?

[@oneill590]

@@rosejames5172 you don’t know where I’m at… hold this L

[@yusefbroussard4764]

Dying Alone is an Real thing Lady😮😮😮

[@phijona]

Men are the ones who are dying alone... literally. With no partners, friends or family. Eboni and her millions can afford assisted living. She'll be fine.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I don't think she should settle. She worked hard to get where she is today. I would be alone then. You all just seem like trouble to me!

[@avrilmiller2028]

IT IS A DOUBLE STANDARD. BLACK MEN HAVE BEEN CHEERING KEVIN SAMUEL'S VIEWS ON A HIGH VALUE MAN. HE'S LAID OUT A BUNCH OF RULES FOR A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO BE MARRIED TO A HIGH VALUE MAN. SHE HAS TO BE A CERTAIN DRESS SIZE, COOKING, CLEANING, CATERING TO HIS EVERY NEED BUT WHEN A WOMAN SAYS SHE'S A HIGH VALUE WOMAN AND DESIRES A HIGH VALUE MAN THAT EARNS A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF MONEY, ONE WHO PROTECTS AND NURTURE. ALL OF THEM START TO BUCK AND IS OFFENDED. THE IRONY IS THEY DON'T WANT TO EARN OR DON'T KNOW HOW TO EARN THAT KIND OF MONEY AND WOMEN DON'T WANT TO BE FORCED TO LOSE WEIGHT AND BE STUCK IN THE HOUSE AS A DEPENDANT. THIS GENERATION ESPECIALLY WANTS THE CAREER THEY'VE ALWAYS DESIRED, THEY WANT TO TRAVEL AND SEE THE WORLD, THEY WANT TO BE OUTSIDE ❗AND THEN MAYBE HAVE KIDS WHEN IT IS OUT OF THEIR SYSTEMS.

[@mrhudah]

She's right- She want people to be upset. She also want to sell her book😂. Being a nice person and simply advising people to do their best will not be widely received😢

[@crunk74]

Eboni K. admitted her dad was absent from her life. Sounds like she needs to spend some of that high-achiever's salary on a therapist!

[@aprilt.3868]

Eboni and I are on the same pages! Not just the same page. Many of us have Black fathers, grandfathers, grandmothers, mothers, uncles, and aunts who told us to make sure your man can take care of you and is right for you. That means a lot of things.They also knew that we were not lazy, uneducated, alley cat women as well. Lastly, Black women want to date and marry up, and Black men don't want to date and marry up. A bus driver does not want to date or marry a lawyer, and a lawyer does not want to date and marry a bus driver. End of story. Let's just keep it real. There is a class difference no matter how you look at it. The circles are not the same. He will be uncomfortable and will be the first one to say it.

[@THE-BASEMENT]

Cat adoption is always an alternative to unsuccessfully chasing the top 5% of men whilst the 95% remain invisible.

[@aprilt.3868]

​@@THE-BASEMENT A hit dog will holler. Very loud.

[@THE-BASEMENT]

@@aprilt.3868 Keep believing that men care about your career and degrees. Your sexual marketplace value is judged by your youth, fertility, femininity and beauty.

[@howardanthony1443]

I think the issue Is the question Is being ignored here. Iyanla asked would you date a bus driver. It's almost like a lawyer asking a yes or no question. The Judge Isn't going to allow any other answer. So for anyone to assume there could be a million different reasons that our minds could take us to. Sometimes you just have to get to the point.

[@akura3982]

“Bloop!”

[@MrsB7491]

Eboni never apologize for your choices! It's not just BM! You have alot of BW who want to remain complacent, who can't respect or appreciate the need to excel! Being a BW with standards is blasphemy in the black community! So it wouldn't have mattered how you said it, they would be upset!

[@Mr619usc]

I never heard of her until now, I see I haven’t missed much lol

[@SpinALotDJ]

SAME FAM ! LOL

[@PI1901]

Same. I had to consult my friend Google to figure out who she was. Her posture is very masculine, and by her own admission, her mother's was too. Can't fault her for who raised her, but it's easy to understand why she feels this way.

[@tia6622]

@@PI1901 She still more wealthy and happier than you. It is what it is. I guess you're more feminine.

[@joyinsidemytears]

its a lot that you haven’t ever heard of 😂😂😂 LIVE LONGER

[@joyinsidemytears]

@@PI1901 a woman’s posture threatens ur masculinity ALSO⁉️🤔 Thats what “fluid masculinity” gets you

[@PeamonsFav]

She's bitter because the black men who have the status she's seeking didn't want her.

[@SeraphinaRuthman246]

Black men are hideous 🦍. I promise you she doesn't want that in her life. 🤣

[@rickyv7757]

Could very well be

[@danieldiaz-lebrun4956]

She has worked her way up. Okay, good on her. What has that gotten her as far as a lasting relationship? Even the "high-value" men won't deal with her. What man is going to exhaust himself to elevate her lifestyle if she makes the man miserable? She can demand her equal if she wants, but men don't owe her entrepreneurship, ambition, money or anything else.

[@strawhatpirates4]

THIS IS EMBARRASSING!!!! Why are women PLEADING y’all to do better. I need answers right now😩

[@OnlyVondiva]

Yes ma’am!! Yes ma’am!! Yes ma’am!! I’ve been a licensed hair stylist for the past 26 years. EVERY MARRIED CLIENT that I’ve had (over 60) told me if they had to marry again the marriage would be about liberation and not love. Thank you for your insight!!!

[@darrellfoster5889]

Absolutely! Marriage is NOT about love at least primarily…! Duty commitment and the love will come later…! I know because I did it and have been married 30 plus years and have been in a position where my wife with a master degree doesn’t have to work and does not work now cause I GOT her while I pay for Son’s college (had children late) while establishing career etc…

[@ceez5276]

I have to make a video supporting her because it's embarrassing how many heads her perspective went over...SOARED over!

[@tracyw.8621]

Eboni, keep during what you doing! All this "stay woke " statements doing the Black Live Matter" movement needs to now be moved to let's get woke on being more than average!!!

[@lavalmccoy1823]

Thx for standing ten toes down, and for adding clarity to support your opinion. I'm good with your comment.

[@benjaminamoody9471]

She's full of it. She said what she said because she makes money and she wants a man that makes more than she does and that's ok just stand on it. Because it came off superficial and folks didn't like it she is trying to spin it. To each his reach every man is not going to be an owner or top earner it's what's on the inside. Honesty, Integrity, love, hard work and honoring God are what's important. For the love of money is the root of all evil.

[@melindausher8671]

Ikr🤔

[@callyodmedia2]

She's a very accomplished woman, why should she date a bus driver, whether she was talking about money or not!!!

[@keedrajay]

🌹 Well spoken Mrs. Eboni Williams. I completely agree with you. Don't let the comments get to you. It's just words. 🌹

[@JB-uc1vf]

She old she can’t demand that anymore

[@felicia4justice]

WORD! I heard and agree with ALL that you said Lady Eboni. The Breakfast Club should’ve reached out to you directly for follow-up.

[@malcolmthompson7769]

If you were to believe the BS, every Black woman in America makes 6 figures and is ready for marriage. When in reality, Black woman's Median wage is $34K, most of them have bought into feminism and are overweight (with the last 2 being characteristics disliked by most men).

[@Blue_Inspires]

Why do we say we are unbothered yet give a response🤷🏾‍♀️

[@KlasicMusic]

Does she own TheGrio ??

[@browniemandacutter9852]

Nope

[@livelovely4681]

3 million a year

[@KlasicMusic]

@livelovely that's the company she own? Or work for ?

[@N.Z99.]

This lady is literally sitting on this very public platform calling herself a “Professional Disruptor” as if it’s a badge of honor when it’s really just a fancy term for “Agent of Chaos” and she wonders why she’s unlucky in the love department. Beloved, look in the mirror.

[@RichardForestiii]

Well, Eboni K Brown, I don't know if she was ever taught this in her upbringing, but it goes to that old saying👉🏾 that it's not what you say it's how you say it👈🏾 and she refuses to accept her statement as being offensive👈🏾 and just because you have a black man driving the bus does not mean he doesn't have a college education because you have so many black people that have graduated from college that cannot find jobs in what they majored in and graduated college with a degree in so she should not be looking down her nose at blue-collar workers and she should not be judging people by their occupation👉🏾 but by the content of their character👈🏾. but we got it straight from the horse's mouth, that she judges black men by their occupation so with that type of thinking she's always going to miss out on her blessings✝️🛐 and this is so sad to have this type of mindset As a black woman.

[@thaaliar.524]

I think a lot of people are missing the 'qualifiers' that Eboni put out first. She said she didn't want an answer that was an indictment on men. She asked how should women (with wealth or means) position themselves now in a landscape where they are beginning to out earn men. Most groups of people marry within their socioeconomic status. Her question is legitimate. If you have a group of women who came from one class to the next level up, adjustments to some of their lifestyle and requirements will change. (especially if you went from near poverty to decent wealth) The way you think about money, security, provision, it changes. Stable in one tax bracket can feel different in another one. Also, men in this country (across the board, for real) are going through the shift of the economy NEEDING women to be in the workplace on top of, in some cases, women out earning them. Men are now asking what does it take to be and feel like a man. This is far more nuanced than Iyanla's answer tbh. Honestly, it came off as dismissive and reduced Eboni's question to 'don't be money obsessed and shallow'.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Bingo! Literally nothing wrong with her answer

[@floydphillipsco]

This is the modern woman, failure in it's flesh. She is putting on full display of the very attitude and disposition that's caused her failure at relationships. Instead of humility, you get defiance. You really can't make this stuff up... Thank you (yet again) for revealing yourself, WE BELIEVE YOU...

[@rosejames5172]

and your comment is why the black community is failing and black children are suffering.

[@phijona]

I wish I could fail like Eboni K. Williams. More of us should aspire to her kind of failure.

[@davidjohnsontheazzhole9540]

AGREED😆👍🏿💯💯💯💯.....This Is WHY It's Soooo Good She Did It In REAL TIME For The WHOLE World To See🤦🏿‍♂️😒😆....The Manosphere WINS AGAIN!!!🤷🏿‍♂️💪🏿😂

[@ecclairmayo4153]

​@@phijona - Black males are mad that they cant even fail as good as her.

[@cuprunnethover2509]

@Floyd Phillips II why she should settle? Why are y'all hating on her? She has a right to want what she wants without having to explain herself to anyone

[@dwaynejones9662]

Hey Eboni, you’re good at causing people to use critical thinking, I love it. Have a panel discussion with your Mother for background of your upbringing. Wonderful parenting. Kudos!

[@americanpower486]

EBONI K TROLL STAND DOWN

[@tyronedavis4660]

What I heard you say is that your mom was mediocre and low achieving with low expectations. However, she was able to help guide you to achieve more. It is possible to find a mate in a lower financial status and build together and until you own the bus.