How to Parent Children Consciously | Eckhart Tolle

[@TheMediumChannel]

I agree and it's how I raised my now 22 year old son. We must understand children will grow how they are spiritually programmed to grow and we as parents need to tune into that child without judgment and raising him or her in accordance rather than trying to raise them based upon our own limited beliefs and perceptions (which is unconscious parenting). Just like your tomato plants will grow and yield tomatoes it's all programmed in..you just need to water, feed and maybe prune that plant for optimal growth working with rather than against the nature of that plant. children are really no different.

[@equanimity03]

well said. Feels Like another teaching . Thx

[@TheMediumChannel]

@@equanimity03 thanks: just adding perspective to Eckhart’s teaching

[@Figbudz]

Nicely put

[@DarioCangialosi]

children arent unconscious plants

[@TheMediumChannel]

@@DarioCangialosi plants are not unconscious either.. oh and you missed the whole point by being unconscious yourself.. try being present instead, this is Eckhart Tolle after all 😂

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment know. I wish you great success, health, love and happiness! ✨

[@flyingfishnet]

Virtue signalling is not a virtue.

[@artursarturs9783]

Ego signaling

[@clickonthis]

Blessings to anyone who’s reading this!! 🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@DhammaFriends]

Yes-teach by example. Making rules is one thing, being a living example of those rules is another.

[@TerriblePerfection]

I often turned to the book Everyday Blessings when I was raising my kids. Our bright, bored son was quite a challenge, and I didn't always like him, which made me feel very guilty, but he taught me to keep my heart open and to accept him. He's 25 now and I like him very much. Our children are like mirrors really, reflecting back our best and worse selves. I'm grateful for all of it now.🥰

[@m_c_d]

I also have this book and agree its so helpful ❤

[@alisonsalter8352]

I could have honestly wrote this. My son is 4. I know he is very bright and he needs things to do all the time. Do you have any tips...because the last 2 years have been pretty hellish on my own with him through lockdowns. He has pushed me away in favour of being super independent/controlling in some areas and then very young in others. I haven't liked him. We are coming out of it now and I need too rebuild a healthy relationship again which we used to have. He thinks I don't want him because i switched off due to his constant criticising/contradicting/defying of every word I uttered or action I took. I just became like a bored babysitter going theough the motions and waiting for bedtime. It's no one's fault I know. He now is willing to engage with me in play again but ivr bren pushed away for two years with him favouring his dad. It's not easy...thanks x

[@TerriblePerfection]

@@alisonsalter8352 Hi Alison! I am happy to tell you what worked for us, and maybe it will be useful if you can relate to our story. Every family is different, with a different dynamic, but I see some clues in your comment that might indicate a similar situation. The single best thing we did was take our son to a child psychologist for an IQ test. It hadn't occurred to us before because we were just used to his smart behavior, and what parent doesn't think his or her kid is gifted, right? 😂 But very smart children face special challenges both socially and in school. That controlling, defiant behavior results from being bored, frustrated, and then angry. Playdates were often a disaster. When our son's kindergarten teacher told me, "We're going to love him through this," I thought it was very sweet, but in retrospect I understood that he didn't need more love, he needed more challenging work and play. He tested in the 98th percentile, and the psychologist told us to find a school for children like himself. We did, and it made a big difference because he was no longer the smartest kid in the class! He was still a handful at home, and we continued to see the psychologist for guidance in that area. I remember how grateful I felt to this man, who delighted in our son when not many people did. My mother was dying of cancer around this time and I began to visit the local Zen temple to learn to meditate. The teacher, who knew our son because they offered childcare during the sitting, told me, "He's going to be difficult to raise but he'll turn out fine." He was and he did! We moved to Germany when our son was 9, which we thought would provide additional challenges for him. It did, but he was still the class clown, still getting sent to detention every week. I dreaded going to the mailbox for those inevitable notices from the director! At the end of 9th grade, at yet another meeting with the school, I finally told my son and the teachers present that I was done with such meetings. I wouldn't come back, I wouldn't "control" the homework of a 15-year-old (which is what they asked me to do), and I didn't care if he failed a grade. That was on him. It must have made an impression because he had zero problems the following year. I think that the best thing we can do for our kids is let them learn the natural consequences of their actions, rather than try to protect them from themselves. When our son complained that he was unfairly accused of doing something he didn't do, I just shrugged and asked him what he expected. He had already made a bad impression. Well, this is already super long, but I do encourage you to take heart and be patient. We are their best advocates, even though it can be hard to navigate that line between fitting in (e.g., not disturbing the classroom) and showing respect for bad, bored teachers during a day filled with arbitrary rules (no gum) and an ancient curriculum. Private school was really hard for us financially, but some districts have accelerated learning options. Sadly, gifted programs are often cut first, and overfull classrooms are geared to the median. I wish you and your son the best! And by the way, the psychologist just laughed when I guiltily told him that I didn't always like my own son. He said all parents feel that way sometimes. 🥰

[@johngreen4683]

I think it's important to help children understand how love kindness and compassion make everyone's lives better and how hate cruelty and judgement make the world a sadder and unhappy place, and that's it. We should never burden them with our beliefs and opinions,, let them find their own. If they ask us what we believe then I think it's OK to say "this is what I believe but you don't have to believe just because I do". Unconditioned happy children who are allowed to be free to choose for themselves, that would be a wonderful future.

[@chiefcheeser]

This was how I was raised as a child. Very strictly too. Until I discovered Eckhart a year ago I had an almost pathological need to prove people wrong and that I'm right.

[@weare1energymessages414]

❤️❤️❤️ Often my children will remind me of my Alignment-by what’s showing up ,and saying literally mommy you are not in alignment ,😂 It’s then I am sure I am doing something right. I instruct my children to always go within. To first check in with Inner Being When mommy is not in a good mood ,mommy needs 15min to calm and they watch (mostly) me meditate or go to the bathroom. Usually when I return I am feeling better than before . My point is to refresh to Align to my Source and then ! To lead by example ,the same applies to the opposite emotion ,when feeling good I am connecting to my Higher-self The more practiced I become the more my children see how I deal with my emotions and this is something only one can do for the self. Most importantly this is a reflection of my vibration a Manifestation. I would love to read this book ❤️🤝❤️

[@jeanetteshaw5177]

You are doing a great job raising your children. It is so important for them to learn to manage their emotions and you are teaching by example Well done !

[@enlighten92]

As someone interested in human nature, the point regarding the rise of anger in teenagers due to parental neglect was insightful.

[@MrDavital1]

Such great advice from someone with no kids.

[@kareemmohammed5270]

speechless! he totally explained my childhood!

[@vls3771]

We here as parents know you are not the same again once you have children and are connected and loving to them ....it's nice to get advice from this thoughtful man but it's not really parenting advice you need to have raised your own to know what is best.....

[@KarlKnutson0615]

Such a wise elf.

[@ghostman1931]

Look here and listen everybody

[@weaamkhalid2478]

Thank you Eckhart 💞🌌🌳🙌 I think that, children are our teachers to be fully aware of their essence and how to be present ourselves through observing our egos.. Just observe their natural consciousness.. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@CitrusSimon]

It is normal for a dysfunctional parent to see the child as a 'thing' that needs to be clothed, fed, and watered. The concept of the 'thing' has been passed down through the generations. The parent thinks they are doing a good job, but this is only on the surface, and if the child reaches adolescence without real love input, then there is every chance that they will repeat the same behaviour if they become parents. And the cycle continues, unless one stumbles upon people who can help awaken them.

[@nasimshakil4682]

Be one of parent. And be a really conscious parent. Seeing is believing. 🙏

[@lisap3344]

Just bought the book for my daughter 😊

[@zeinanammour37]

So true. I raised my kids this way and we have issues sometimes, but they are self-aware and grounded in who they are & what they want..teenaging is still difficult, but we know it will pass and they will change. Even divorce didn't shake them,

[@CeciliaAdrio-ek5iq]

Parents want "perfection" compare their looks..achievement..Careers..etc

[@EricaMorgan]

This is SO important for every parent to hear!

[@seanamodeo36]

I SAW YOU IN THAT RESTAURANT KIM AND I MADE YOU SMILE. JUST YOU WAIT.

[@maryammosavi468]

Thanks Eckhart and Kim For the book" Parenting with Presence "

[@beverlypryde3771]

I have a 16 year old lad and also a 4 year old lad. My daughter is 10. She is easy, self managing and wonderfully open, my eldest was a challenge only because I had t the skill to parent such a bright and brilliant child I think now, so my 4 year old is struggling with himself here and there so when he gets into a u happy mood we always say we can choose again to have fun, this also mean if he does choose again and be happy, we all must try to just accept and move forward, I home school them all in the Scottish Borders, it’s wonderful now but before I woke up so to speak, I was very unconscious with my love, I parented through fear. Try to let go right away of anything that’s not love, that’s not the truest of them, only the love is there truth, also I changed my wording, so no, bad, negative, etc changed to diversion and distraction from the unhappy to the happy, I try to use those two to help him choose with being so young, As I said I wasn’t always conscious, only since the little one did I really see and feel them and not MY feeling for them only. I pull back from, MY kids, MY rules etc. let them choose as much as possible what happens for them, without them becoming entitled, let them be in control ware appropriate, it helped them to not panic talk fast and show off so much for some acknowledgment and feedback Ask them randomly, about there interest, be enthusiastic and bright faced. Also I sat in front of a mirror and replayed the expressions I had shown during harder moments or when he was excited etc and tried to be more conscious of the face they had to look at all day lol. Oh also, this was important, there name, try not to use it always in a tone off your emotions at the time, I remembered everything since I was little and made sure I was not like the adults when I was wee. My name was always said by my sweet naïve unconscious mum, with stone of terror I’d suddenly died or disappeared, it made me extremely anxious. So yeah, I just tried my best to go with my heart feelings and not my minds ideas of what should n shouldn’t be. I’ve never commented much on KZbin but felt it nice to say I was not always conscious and my eldest now knows how a person can transform, he’s had to put up with me the longest so far lol. Blessings to all its a tricky one until you realise, the children are our greatest teachers, they hold a high vibe and we drain them by teenage years if not conscious of there personal journey.B

[@missherald_888]

Love you Ek. All the respect and my love to you. Thank you.

[@zaringonda6068]

Teenagers are the greatest challenge!! I respect my mom and papa even more now!!!

[@sarahgartner253]

Amen. I see this in all humans at times. We must grow our awareness

[@audreyorgnon7112]

I don't understand how some people cannot accept the point of view on parenting of someone who is not a parent. Who said, it is forbidden to have an opinion on it anyway? Plus, everyone HAD parents, whether they knew them or not, so I don't see why a person would be judged for their choice of life. Don't have children if you don't handle the challenge.

[@vdudya]

There's no way to understand the challenge of parenting until you yourself have a child. I'm a 42 year old mother of a 2 year old with another one on the way and can tell you that for a fact.

[@getinspirednation]

So grateful for this video! ❤🙏

[@Alberts_Stuff]

THIS! This is what all parents should do to create a better future for us all. Teach it from birth so it is 2nd nature to the child, why isn’t this widespread already??? 😐

[@giselar.12]

🌸Thank you very much, for this teaching.🌸🙏

[@Chopin4321]

you are peace and sweetness... soft music and serene harmony.. a beautiful triple silence.. that special magical silence before, during and after sound, words.. life... thank for existing, you are one of the best gods proof existence, you are an invisible saint, an angel. your cristal clear voice, look.. soul, everything.. are pure love, eternity. just a second of your look is a bless, and you give us so many minutes.. for nothing, for free, for love, thanks

[@mykldean]

In studies of various medical therapists I found that the connection/dynamics of parent being therapist and child being patient is statistically most likely to foster healing.

[@mykldean]

So we are all each other's therapist, parent and child healers at the same time by being present?

[@mermaidmoxie8908]

Thank you!

[@newlife4834]

Thank you Echart

[@shreejeni8062]

As an outlier in my teaching profession, this is what I follow. But, it's really hard to make other people understand that.

[@lou_c_j]

This is something that is a daily challenge for me, being present and being a mum of 3, n they block my manifesting with their own minds too. The joy of parenting. 😂 if u are planning to write a parenting book, Eckhart I'd be a happy case study or guinea pig

[@3300flavio]

Thanks Master

[@astorrian6247]

When Eckhart speaks of "the doing" as opposed to "the being" it really struck a cord. You think the act of well intentioned discipline is necessary and acceptable but without 'communicating' with the child and recognising in the moment that the child needs to understand the situation and be given an opportunity to 'communicate' back... of course that will evoke frustration, resentment and ultimately maybe anger.

[@carmenr.r.8112]

Gracias siempre 🙏🏼 💜 🙇🏼‍♀️ 🌈

[@sacredgrace7]

Thank You 🙏

[@seanamodeo36]

You thought wolves were scary? Wait until you see me again. I am already transforming.

[@gavinspeaks]

*Things That Will Change The World“ Manifest plainness, Embrace simplicity, Reduce selfishness, Have few desires.” ― Lao Tzu ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@danielboard9510]

I never understood myself, as a father,.

[@sabinapuri9478]

Best

[@ghanem.sbaih87]

❤

[@CeciliaAdrio-ek5iq]

I do agree we are all at fault..

[@CitrusSimon]

Thanks Ecky! How do we bring presence into competing? Is the competitive energy an extension of the ego?

[@CrystalDiaz613]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sue6581]

Im still looking for answers regarding motherhood. When I just became a mother unexpectedly with a traumatic birth and then after that no help , the next years no help and being very sick . Also a post partum and no help. Sitting with my baby with so much pain in my body and feeling exhausted and completely out of balance with hormones. My son also had no rest and as a baby almost didnt sleep , so every hour he slept I fell imeediatly asleep. It was absolutely horrible. How do you cope with that? I really wonder what the answer to that is?

[@donyasperry3423]

Another conscience female writer has a free PDF on her site for Moms & Dads and how to raise our children. Her site name is Aubrianna Rose. I love the fact that she doesn't charge for it. Its free.

[@OneLegitBadAsh]

Sad I couldn't locate this on her website.

[@donyasperry3423]

Oh, I'd be happy to guide you. You click onto her childrens books and scroll to the very bottom of the page and you will see Conscience Parenting Free Download click onto the PDF and whala :) :) Hopefully that helps you.

[@OneLegitBadAsh]

@@donyasperry3423 Oh! Thank you SO much, Donya!!! I scrolled and scrolled on all the options on her site and I somehow missed that. I appreciate you taking the time out to respond and help me. I love growing as a person and parent to my two darling children.

[@andybalogh2252]

A 14 y/o can't draw pictures❓🙏 everybody's different. Still good advice 🙏

[@seanamodeo36]

Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Here NOW rests the PEACE OF GOD.

[@normavoyton3208]

"acknowledge the being of the child" you can't spoil your children with attention

[@danielboard9510]

In my experience, children do without knowing.

[@beech18]

My kid only gets presence at Christmas.

[@danielboard9510]

And the unfortunate thing is we don't understand.

[@cvetkapisek8785]

It s difficult to educate children. They are very sensitive and they would tell all you are doing wrong, but they see like that, they dont mean anything. The most difficult time are youngsters, so difficult to know what they think if they dont tell you, until its to late. Wisdom is here needed, yes. Thanks. To see myself fiirst and to see the child is the first, but I saw ony the wrongs first ....

[@s.j.thomas1110]

💛

[@seanamodeo36]

You can run but you can't hide. I am the all seeing eye. I am the darkest abyss. I come from the Void. I am the Beast of your nightmares.

[@pattispady8734]

How many children do you have Ulrich?

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

👍

[@clickonthis]

Thank you for this message 🙏🏽❤️ unfortunately I didn’t have the chance to raise my three beautiful daughter as well they were grown up in the crucial ages because I was forced to work full-time and their father stayed home to take care of them so I missed out on the early ages and now they are adults because I missed out on that they have held some grudges and they’re not speaking with me it’s been the biggest heartache I’ve ever had this is the type of pain that I can’t even I don’t even know how to go about it?! 😔 so if any parents with adult kids out there going through the same thing I’m going through please advise on what am I supposed to do because I’m doing everything I can to have a relationship with my daughters again but they are refusing because they only know one side of the story and they have a lot of resentments they do not want to go on a therapy with me so I feel stuck thank you for any advisory! 🙏🏽🙌🏽❤️😔

[@keshakellogg5995]

I've been the daughter in this situation... Best advice would be to give them space and allow them to have their own journey processing everything that has happened. My sister and I went 4 years without talking to my mother and didn't want her to know where I lived... When her second husband died unexpectedly, I reached out to her, and we have been in contact again ever since. Don't try to fix the situation and release control of it. You go to therapy for yourself and trust that everything will unfold at the right time. Abraham Hicks (on YT) about releasing control in relationships and feeling good no matter what really helps. Blessings to you and your daughters! ❤️

[@TerriblePerfection]

Take heart! A friend of mine left her 3 daughters as a young mother because she was overwhelmed. Many years later she worked her way back to them and they are close. But you can't force anything. You can create a space and be patient, accepting whatever they decide. Live your life joyfully, with or without them. 🥰

[@FrederickObando]

If you ever get to the point that you actually feel sorry (and not for yourself) for not having been there for your 3 daughters when they needed you the most - I'd say that is the day you have a chance to have their ear and an actual key to their heart.

[@clickonthis]

@@FrederickObando Thanks :)

[@clickonthis]

@@TerriblePerfection Thanks :)

[@SOULDocumentary]

He should go on Supernanny!!!!! LOL

[@CeciliaAdrio-ek5iq]

Germans largely aren't keen on children..living there and looking for accommodation posed a problem..it was hard..If you have a dog..Ein hund ...you have first place..that's the reality!!

[@chandnisingh8707]

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[@MrMarkblip]

This guy is a multi-millionaire. Who just repackages others’ ideas. Very successful capitalist.

[@cozicoops]

Don’t we all repackage others ideas.. and add to them? You don’t know what he does with his money.. or whether he really set out to get rich? Are you jealous?

[@julieannfrikuj6346]

:)

[@seanamodeo36]

My teeth need something to chew on.