How to Teach Presence to Children in the Digital Age | Q&A Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart recommends giving children your fullest attention whenever possible, making a connection on the level of Being rather than focusing on our goals and to-do’s.
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[@sunflower11.11]

I am an 18 year old.With this quarantine n all I don't have anyone to share my inner thoughts because no one understands me. They think I am crazy when I try to tell them the truth.( My parents and I are Asian.Even though they see it they are afraid of my future).So I imposed a rule for my self that I would not impose my beliefs on someone else unless they willingly come to me. This channel is so good that I feel I am not crazy, but alive with all these like minded people. Bless everyone!!!

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Forgive your parents......that IS the beginning of process , no judging........ they are doing it out of fear and love for you. It’s all they know how to do..........❤️🙏.....but let the EMOTIONS PASS THROUGH you❤️.... don’t hold them in your body....... just acknowledge them, take a breath and release them through breath. Don’t make the mistake I did of learning this 40 years too late........emotions are just sensations...... We are NOT our Emotions , they SHOULD Flow through........( this is very therapeutic for me as I write, lol)........Stay Well🙏🌿❤️🌻

[@robertburnett5561]

I think imposing judgements is our other virus.

[@tvzuropa]

I am impressed that you are 18 and watching this! I have only discovered this this in my 40s. Who would I be now if I applied this type of thinking when I was 18?? you have a bright future...a good life ahead of you:)

[@marshymiyagi2362]

You're wiser and stronger than you know :)

[@laurenmichelle6346]

Sugar, I'm 45 & I know EXACTLY what you mean! You're very blessed to have this realization in your life now. I spent 40 YEARS of my life truly believing there was something wrong with me. And only in my 45th year did I actually make peace with the fact that it's not me. Now I'm teaching myself to let go of the frustration of people who don't see/feel what is obvious to us. At your young age you've taught this "old timer" a mantra - let them come willingly. Thank you💜🌼

[@laurenmichelle6346]

As a parent, I feel a need to state the obvious here. Some people take advice too literally. The giving of attention to babies, toddlers & children should ALWAYS be timeously! It's HOW we react to each demand of the child, that makes the difference in the interaction & it serves as guidance to the child, on how to go through a moment. Sidenote: I used to lay a blanket out on the lawn & my 2 toddlers (at the time) & I would lie outside. I get them to close their eyes & then I'd ask them to tell me everything they could hear, then what they could smell & then what they could feel. To this day I still point out sunsets, bird sounds, trees, smell of a storm, beautiful fields, etc. to my, now, teenagers - my way of teaching them presence.

[@m2pozad]

The more important function was the attunement you provided.

[@susydyson1750]

lovely ! i've witnessed the result of teaching 4 yr olds to simply take a breath before replying to teacher , doing a task , going to out to recess , and when home if afraid .. worked wonders one child even said it helped him control his life . taking that breath will certainly keep reactions at bay.. and also the catholic mum might notice her understanding of the chosen religious path unfolding with ease ..

[@WolekZ]

Lovely ♡

[@user-gj2oz3qj6g]

I started to awaken in 2015. I had an insight moment with my kids, exactly what Eckart saying. After the insight, me and my youngest were waiting in emergency at the hospital, we all know how the wait times can be!! This couple with there toddler were pretty calm on arrival, toddler was content but as time went on, the parents started to get frustrated. As I watched, the more this couple got frustrated, the more the toddler felt frustrated and started playing up, crying and having tantrums. That was the moment I realised that my insights were on point and I made sure my energy was in check whilst raising my children. They are not perfect! They still have a lot of growing to do and alot of wisdom to gain. But that insight taught me to be a solid foundation for my kids to come home to. My oldest is 22 now and my youngest is 10. They are not “awakened” children. They go through life like everyone else, it’s accepting them as they are in that moment and allowing them to go through life’s lessons.

[@yvonnew416]

Tears in my eyes...I meant well, did everything for my kids, worked too much, was not present enough, focused on them doing the right things not acknowledging their being, now they are teenagers, insecure, anxious, depressed, always wonder what's wrong with them, drowning in finding themselves and a future I wish I had known, seen and done this change of the nervous energy field years ago

[@rhondapelletier2141]

It’s Never to late❤️🥰❤️🙏🌿🌻

[@paulettemaximun2505]

They will survive and so will you. . .I survived my upbringing, you survived your upbringing and Truth will win. . . perfection is not on this planet. . . presence is. . .be here now, as my friend Ram Dass professes. . . blessings to you and your family ♥️☮️☯️🎶🎶🎶

[@tarar297]

I feel your pain 💜 You can guide their eyes/hearts to open because there's still time. I was 14 when I woke up from a history of depression because I was latch-key child with single mom and no siblings. We can change our path in the blink of an eye 🙏 Keep planting seeds of love & unity! 💞

[@tarar297]

and presence!

[@_noname4006]

I think that you speak for a lot of us.

[@sandyjones1014]

This was awesome advice! Im a grandma now, but I sure wish I knew back then, what I know now! Ill still apply this to my 7 grandchildren with all the love I have! 💞

[@k.silberberg5137]

Teach children presence?!? That‘s kinda funny. Because basically they always are. Unless you teach them otherwise. 🤣 So I suggest: Let your children teach you how to be more present.

[@MagicToadSlime]

That's essentially what Eckhart said. He told the man to practice presence and focus his awareness on his children, without interjecting or trying to guide them.

[@jabud]

Kids are often conditioned NOT to be present from a very early age by their parents/carers. Eckhart is explaining here how to nurture a mutual interplay of being and presence with your kids (teaching through example without making it an explicit ‘lesson’)

[@Closminding]

Kids need (and can) teach their parents to be good parents

[@Closminding]

@@jabud Rather than 'nurturing a mutual interplay of blah de blah de blah' - which, let's face face it is a bit of a mouthful and is likely to bore any child (and me) rigid - it is better to just let them play ... and play ... and play. They'll totally get that.

[@mattijs20]

I don't think Eckart's ego was triggered by this.. 😜

[@robertapettigrew2497]

This is beautiful, for parents and children... Eye contact with them is lovely, as are ears for listening to them,, time is precious,, they grow so fast,, enjoy, in return of them, they give us so much back, dance, sing, play enjoy xx

[@anandakumarsanthinathan4740]

How beautiful. In my case, it is my little daughter who brings Presence in me every time I throw a tantrum.

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

Have a good spiritual life everybody, love and light from me to all of you ❤️

[@oanacostinelaconstantinesc4456]

I truly love that moment when I just acknowledge my daughters beingness, it's soothing

[@evelyne7071]

Never once in my whole life did my mother ever ask me: How are you feeling ? It was always: What are you doing ? It took me a long time to realize what was wrong with that narrative; sad too.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Forgivness❤️🙏......she only reacted w/ what tools she had......... we are blessed to have Spiritual teachers Free here on KZbin....... nuggets of knowledge ❤️🙏......have a great day!!! ❤️🌿🌻

[@evelyne7071]

Yes, Rhonda, every day I try to forgive. Every time my mother saw me, she was reminded of her greatest disappointment, and she never forgave my existence. As a consequence, I struggle with the thought of forgiving her. I’m just unable to as yet. She’s gone now, but I see the damage she caused me in my life with her disdain and indifference towards me. I don’t know that I will be able to resolve it those feelings of abandonment. I don’t know where to start. I guess because I just figured out what happened, is a beginning.

[@tarotdreamseverythinginbet350]

I had a huge wake up call the other day when me and my 5 year old went for a walk..he just casually asked me "Mommy,how do u feel today?" It was so eye opening for me.

[@sandrasaba8229]

It is not personal though. I always come to realize that most past generations were unkind to their kids . It is only recently people are being taught and educated in how to be loving and present with kids ! It is not your mother who needs forgiveness because the only enemy is the ego which we are learning to misidentify from

[@sandrasaba8229]

No one also acknowledged your mom. The power is within your hands now to break the cycle of unconsciousness

[@katrialamb7974]

I am a TA and one of my 9 year old pupils was recently telling me that she was to 'busy' to see her friends outside of school because she has various clubs every night after school and weekends, swimming, dance, drama, gymnastics etc.. made me so sad that a 9 year old is to busy to just play.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

SO SAD!!!

[@robertburnett5561]

And it seems that every activity, like sports, needs to be supervised by adults. Instead of letting kids work things out themselves. Kids don't get a break from grown ups.

[@Omnipresence10]

"But the children feel unseen" Beautiful way of putting it🙏 understand it is acknowledging that.Have found a little way in the doing with my grandaughter when visiting or she comes to visit is brushing the hair, it's done gently calmly and seems to opens out a way for our togeatherness to be here now, maybe it's not seen but felt,is not about the hair but the presence is doing and being felt

[@spacechannelg6843]

Ive felt this way as a child towards my parents and its one reason why me and my parents don't have a connection. however thanks to the power of now i do acknowledge their beings and do not hold judgement or grudges against them anymore. its very nice however before i was full of resentment and hate.

[@joefox9765]

We have to be the parent to our parents but it's not easy when your parents are dictatorial. If they didn't beat me to death I would get kicked out

[@jessicadalcindasilva7113]

Coming up: How to teach presence to GROWN UPS in the digital age?

[@joefox9765]

How to teach the Millennials not to use drugs

[@vanlookenroel7211]

I teach digital love. plug in and learn. 😜

[@susieseward8451]

I lost my one & only child ectopic pregnancy surgery & do not have children but I can see how this can be applied to all relationships, give space, attention, listen 💕 instead of giving directions or advice

[@rhondapelletier2141]

❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏.....

[@karenwu5450]

I really like the advice given here for parents or those that come in constant contacts with children. 🌷💫

[@Ladynipchick2]

Whenever you can, just be restful with your child. Just dwell with them..

[@lindakoch9524]

This is an all important video for parents! You can see on Eckhart’s face the importance this is to him personally because of his experience as a child. I had tears listening also because I realize this was sorely missing in my childhood, and it was missing in the way I raised my only daughter who is an adult now and we have a very troubled relationship.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

It’s never to late❤️🙏🌿......

[@kerrygroom1332]

Wonderful this video helps me so much with my children love and peace Eckhart x

[@innocencessie]

When i had my awakening. It felt like i went back through years back and realized how much i missed those times with my children theres so much guilt and regret its the most painful u could ever felt. Now, i pay attention to them and making them feel the priorities so they can have a self worth and slowly working but i got more time. My awakening is like time travel consciousness brought me to past but i can only change the future but in order to do that i have to be very self aware. And they grow up with the sense of pride and for them life become much easier than i have been.

[@Closminding]

When I had my awakening I had a cup of tea

[@Closminding]

@Pinnedby Eckhart Tolle I telepathised you but I haven't had an answer yet. Are you receiving me?

[@bugrist]

@@Closminding don't fall prey to these kind of messages!

[@ambraguarnieri3814]

This guy is a genius.

[@sheelaht3485]

Yes, this is where it must start. We need awareness before we invite others. Eckhart gives good as always. Our action teaches, our words must match.

[@alexmutua3926]

This is beautiful to learn This needs a Billion views

[@iSamkoXR]

What an amazing advice for parents ❤️ thank you 🙏Blessings

[@andrejblatz4630]

Hello everyone, I just want to give my thanks to this man asking his true-hearted questions despite being public. This takes a lot of faith. The tears he shed made me realise, this is the most important also the toughest subject in his life and may be important for us all. I don´t have children myself yet, but I learned a lot from this conversation. Thank you unknown stranger, may you receive my gratitude. Thank you Eckhart for helping us human beings grow. This resonates a lot whith me. Who else noticed Eckhart blinking about 50 times in 20 seconds? Greetings from Germany

[@MariaGennetti1111]

Thank you for this teaching!! I am drawn towards kids BC they are truly living in the moment!!

[@annekerotterdam7499]

@Pinnedby Eckhart Tolle fraude!

[@anandas1183]

Thank you so much Gratitude 😇😍🌷🙏

[@kishanagarwal658]

Somewhat friendly interaction with the children is helpful to connect with their being.

[@sandrasaba8229]

Let your awareness rest upon them Look at them See them Acknowledge their being

[@peterknyk1942]

Thank you, Eckhart! I will forward this to my sister who runs a preschool in downstate New York! She is a follower of your teachings....

[@theuniquebean]

My children are autistic. They are very literal. I have found myself talking too much. It’s been difficult to try to “explain” a feeling. Now I listen and wait for questions. Children love asking questions. It gives me an opportunity to learn with them and from them too. I will be sharing this. Thank you and hugs to everyone here💕✨

[@juststop022]

I have aspergers and CBG oil helps alot. Could be worth looking in to

[@theuniquebean]

@@juststop022 I have cbd oil that I use topically for them. Their doctor has recommended it as well. Since they are now at an adult weight I’m looking into edibles. Is there a brand that you might recommend? Thank you💕✨

[@juststop022]

@@theuniquebean Cool. CBG is a bit different from CBD. I get "CBG isolate" from Lazarus naturals. They give 60% off if you or the person you're buying it for has a disability. So I pay $48 for a $120 product. CBG is alot better IMO but best at 300mg per day. Which is why I buy the isolate in bulk

[@theuniquebean]

@@juststop022 Thank you! Looking into it now✨

[@tawhairipia9140]

Thank you Eckhart Tolle. I did notice this one time just before bed when I had just finished reading my son a story and then as soon as I had finished my son started speaking. And then all of a sudden I went into a very conscious state while listening to him. Then I notice as he was speaking and as I was just consciously listening to him his face started lighting up and a very peaceful energy was created between both of us. So u are definitely correct, bringing more awareness in to the relationship with u and ur child or children I think is something very beautiful for our children. Thank you again for the wisdom and reminder. God bless 🙏

[@tinabrittandresen6507]

Wisdom in action. Please let this message sink in deeply in myself and other parents as well. Thank you for the reminder, Eckhart T. 🙏❤️

[@tehpaweu]

Thank you so much Eckhart. Dropping bombs of wisdom and makes you laugh hard while at it. Love & light!

[@m2pozad]

I plan to add this to my inner child work.

[@antoineriwalski4074]

The beautyfull thing is that it might work the same with our relationships with ourselfves

[@stephanienassall5497]

Yes thats it, I needed a long time before I realized that. Now as grandma I can bring this peaceful, worshipping energyfield into the families of my daughters. I am just there, observing, playing, no more critisising my daughters how they act. My NEW conscious being present has the Power to heal and transform old stressful family structures. This makes me so happy and there is, as you say nothing to Do. Thanks so much Eckhardt

[@innerlight617]

So beautifully said by our wise Eckhart...

[@BuddhistLovesLife]

I spread love to you Dr. Eckhart! I love all of you reading this! Rest assured, if you're reading this...I love you 🤗🥰

[@annekerotterdam7499]

he's NOT a Dr!!

[@BuddhistLovesLife]

@@annekerotterdam7499 well, he has a PhD. So yeah...doctor. not sure why this offends you so badly. He talks about how he got his PhD and it made him happy for two weeks. Not for a lasting amount of time.

[@annekerotterdam7499]

@@BuddhistLovesLife Can you prove he has a phd? I can't .Are you aware of the fact that spiritual narcissists tell you bs???

[@calmandcool8229]

God Bless you Eckhart 🙏

[@Lola-Yo]

Please share your thoughts on estrangement, when adult children resent their childhood and cut off their family, there is so much on this subject on KZbin, I would love to hear Eckhart’s insight on the subject.

[@jochenkaufmann4931]

Exactly dear Eckhart! And now, I better quickly turn off this device and go and spend some quality time with my beloved 7 year old daughter before she throws a tentrum..😉❣. Love & thanks from Bali..🙏🤍🙏

[@vkj108]

Lord Rudra makes people get tears... brother asking the question is a genuine force from One. Mind you he is not weak, he is strong.. very strong, hence his eyes melt feeling the truth of now. Good luck to him on this path and to all others who are watching...just let me remind you of one thing - luck is where preparation meets opportunity!

[@tessaburkhamer3856]

Just beautiful & so very true ~ Wise advise for any parent or anyone responsible for raising a healthy child 💜

[@Bassball313]

This resonated with me very deeply, thank you.

[@indyzimmer3270]

Thank you. This message means so much!

[@davidsdesk7313]

Beautiful and very relatable on all aspects.

[@bizarrodrake]

Such a helpful talk for parents. Definitely taking note for my own.

[@ivonaboskovska8155]

I tried this with my niece and it totally worked!!!

[@missdelights2712]

So good to hear.

[@tanis1111]

Absolutely Eckhart, great advice much love ♥️✨

[@radaycitorres9269]

Beautiful powerful message 💫💫

[@radast27]

Beautiful!!! Thanks so much 🙏💜

[@nikeetadethe1136]

Thank you so much Sir.. 😊❤❤❤

[@user-cx1jt1sz1h]

I relate to this so much. Thank you 🙏

[@babyeinsteinremakemasters-7622]

Oh I love this so much !! Please tell us more!!!

[@GabiBeckerTV]

So beautiful 🙏🏻❤️ thank you for sharing.

[@Laknouz]

Beautiful question 💗

[@rajagopal3432]

This is one of the best speeches I have ever heard……!!!❤️

[@Closminding]

You've been starved if good speaches

[@Petra7711]

Thank you! 🙏❤

[@rogerfedera7283]

amazing as always

[@An_darna]

Eckhart, herzlichen Dank 🙏🏻🔆❤️

[@lb6179]

Loved this

[@gmchessplay9043]

Important message, I have a near 3 month old and have started to increase my alertness and awareness when he goes into his crying fits, as opposed to reacting negatively.

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Me too😍..... my grandson, 3 months.......I am in such AWWEE of this PERFECT LITTLE Creation❤️.......don’t over think it.......Just come FROM a Place of Love.......no matter HOW tired or bad you feel........he/ she will be a TEEN/ adult soo fast.....you can NEVER get these moments back❤️ ( and just As IMPORTANT, FORGIVE yourself when feeling guilty or sad.........let feelings COME, acknowledge them....and EXHALE them away.......don’t hold onto them...) best wishes w/ your beautiful baby.........we learn as we go.......🙏🙏🙏❤️

[@gwenwade6059]

Such a beautiful teaching. Peace and harmony.

[@anneberard7030]

So helpful! Merci so much 💎🌸💎🙏🏻

[@SahasraraIm]

Thank you!

[@tomkahusi7914]

Love.

[@patriciagovender5097]

I had this particularly I learnt to play the piano an my parents shared it moments I will always b connected wow

[@user-pg7em7pu7t]

Thank you 🙏

[@user-sj4dk2nk1v]

God Bless my dears ❤️❤️❤️🌈☀️💞

[@bealiberlin]

Thank You

[@griseldaruiz4360]

Thank u. For this video

[@dhilrukshi]

Aw I love this 💕 totally agree ❤️

[@sonapraveen9590]

For everyone reading this keep smiling always.

[@Closminding]

Don't do that you'll crease your facial muscles and prematurely age

[@lynngallerno6547]

Thank you

[@positiveandhealthy2728]

What we focus on grows. Focus on prosperity, abundance, joy and peace and you will get more of it!

[@thehastingsdojo2332]

Perfectly said, thankyou 🙏 we have to get out of the sympathetic nervous system and into homeostasis and stay present, no one but us can heal us, and move forward to a better future, domo arigatou, human being not human doing, Mr clive

[@ryleymagel512]

Children are enlighted they live in the moment. They just dont have the metacognitive ability to understand it Because they are so young..

[@Closminding]

Blimey that's hard to read never mind say

[@rhondapelletier2141]

Blessed be a CHILDS Mind & Soul❤️🙏

[@Closminding]

@@rhondapelletier2141 ... and their body - you're starting to sound a bit Gnostic there

[@tarar297]

Literally had to pause the video because my 9yo came into the room rambling about something on his mind 😂 Could've told him "not now mommy is trying to listen to something".

[@ailidhlalala1592]

It's funny because this teachings are so obvious if you watch without to much thinking.... But we are so used to thinking and it confuses us a lot....and now I know what problem I had with a friend of mine and her motherhood, I had the feeling she makes everything all the time (in fact a little bit too much) but never just played or watched her kids, plus she always told me what a great mother she was, which alienated me.... I don't feel I am a great mother... And maby my best times with my daughter are when I don't think at all and just an, and am not feeding the troll who wants to be great

[@lynnetteambrozy5085]

Great question!!! I have 12 year old twins, a boy and girl also. I wish I had gotten this when they were 4.

[@juliehardingham108]

Lets celibrate the spirit within us which life, god given . With love jdx 🙏🙏🙏💕

[@ildenshakti3547]

Ekhart Tolle 💜💫✨

[@patriciarosetimmers7730]

the painbody is a good perspective

[@celestialkyoga]

💕💕🤗love it

[@celinabertolotto3692]

Once again beautiful and useful message. Thank you for posting these videos

[@iloveyou.thankyou.895]

To the gentleman he’s interviewing: we should talk!

[@marianefalco3487]

Perfect. Lóris Malaguzzi.

[@TheDhammaHub]

In some areas, children really do have an "advantage". If you've never experienced/seen something, you have no reaction for that situation and naturally incline to mindfulness =)

[@leaabourousse4639]

Eckart, i am sure tou know about Steiner Waldorf éducation. Have you any opinion please ? Thanks

[@serendip369]

This was a very important and valuable talk . Very , very wise and kind advice. Thank you , dear Eckhart.

[@Noukz37]

Aside from my human doing I need to remember to also do human being, thank you Eckart and this loving father. :-)

[@sandrasaba8229]

Thoughtless awareness . The aware presence

[@savesavebaby1697]

Wow thank you,,now i know how to parenting mý 1 son,,

[@theophila214]

Oh my gosh, this is so beautiful. Yes, that vision of being.

[@sionyevans]

They will be teaching you

[@giselar.12]

„ Thank you, for this Video.“🙏❤️🧚🏾

[@daianinhanagel]

Love it✨

[@satoriubermensch4933]

All parents in here, put your phone down and give a hug your children.

[@satoriubermensch4933]

@Pinnedby Eckhart Tolle spiritual scammer ! :)