Eddie Capparucci on Respecting the Betrayed Partner, April 15, 2020

In this monthly (3rd Wednesday, 9:30 a.m.) "Getting to the Other Side: Helping Couples Navigate the Road to Recovery" webinar, host Eddie Capparucci discusses the need for and how to create respect for the betrayed partner and her/his experience. This session was live via SexandRelationshipHealing.com on April 15, 2020.
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[@evandegenfelder4554]

Eddie, I want to thank you for this video. It couldn't be more on point, and that's why I'm crying through the whole thing. I am 16+ weeks post D-day when I found out about my husband's 30 year PMO addiction. 30 years of our 39 year marriage. I couldn't be more wrecked and devastated if I TRIED. I don't know how he managed to keep such and enormous, soul crushing SECRET for three decades.

[@shatteringthemask1871]

Over three years later and he does nothing on his own. Doesn’t initiate anything and also never gave me a full disclosure with polygraph. I’m so done

[@theresaedler2437]

Thank you for all this really helpful information. today is 4 months since Dday. Yes, this is so early in my trauma. we are each doing our therapist sessions, SAA ,Sanon, reading BOOKS on this in every aspect. Respect,Trust and forgiveness is not here yet. One day at a time. Ups and downs.

[@lolliloobedoo]

I enjoyed this. Thank you. Interesting to hear you say addicts should not be too dependent on their sponsor. What about addicts who jump into a career ladder at their recovery center and choose to abandon their families because the game now is to prioritize the non-profit organization & the fellowship? At that point, I find the sponsor/sponsee relationships & the intentions of the non-profit questionable & filled with conflicts of interest. Suddenly the non-profit & its fellowship community are the prioritized 'family' & they share a moral compass the fellowship has created. Sponsor & sponsees are now co-workers, housemates, & 'family' & the addict is financially dependent on the non-profit & the fellowship. Creeps me out. I will NEVER believe that my kids & I were anything but abandoned & betrayed AGAIN, & tragically at the behest of a community of addicts who never knew how to appreciate their families anyway. When I listen to them I am struck by how much they all seem to be very supportive of the addict & the addict's 'victim mentality' as they are simultaneously disrespectful & filled with judgement for the actual victim of the addict. It's sexism & patriarchal culture at its worst. They would NEVER suggest my husband put us FIRST.....NEVER.

[@theroadtorecoveryfromsexan5252]

And they are so wrong. The addict MUST take responsibility for the pain and destruction caused. And others need to hold him accountable. If this step is not taken than real recovery has not occurred and those betrayed continue to suffer.

[@marialiebkind1809]

In my country (in Europe) with one of the best educational systems and lowest amount of dropouts from school in the world... They only recently started groups like that. I attended the first g group ever for the cheated on fall 2019!!!! I would be happy if my husband could attend a group.

[@milhugo1]

I'm reading your Book Eddie

[@theroadtorecoveryfromsexan5252]

I hope you get a lot out of it. Please let me know what you think at [e-mail]

[@theroadtorecoveryfromsexan5252]

Hugo have you had a chance to finish the book?

[@milhugo1]

@@theroadtorecoveryfromsexan5252 Hi Eddie me a few friend from CR Are reading the book at the same time. We are in chapter 4 so far and I can tell you chapter 3 and 4 is been soo hard. I been in recovery for almost 2 years in CR for 1 a d half and therapist for 14 months. I been working on everything and I Identified alot of things I read on your book but there was a few things that touched me soo much that I got stuck in that feeling of reviving those traumas from the past..I can even tell youit even feels like triggers when I was reading through it. Is amazing how can I identify with everything in the book.. so much to learn and to share.. Thanks for the Book and for your weminars, thanks for all of you for trying to help us the addict.. God bless you all!

[@theroadtorecoveryfromsexan5252]

@@milhugo1 You are so welcome Luis. Keep moving forward and remember, in the end we don't want to stay stuck in our past. But we need to know what emotional triggers activate our past pain points. That's the key to the book. Identify emotional triggers that activate the kid, memorize them and be mindful of events that occur that set them off. Keep me posted!

[@Webbgurl2000]

Would this book help partners

[@mi8345]

Dr. Capparucci, do we need to move to Georgia to work with you? I just bought the inner child book and workbook for my beloved husband as a start for our journey. I'm on top of my own healing but worried for husband. This is so hard...

[@SeekingIntegrity]

It is best if you email Eddie directly with this question. You can access him via this email: [e-mail].