What to Do with TOXIC Relationships!

[@danielsurman4669]

This podcast spot on. Just got out of a toxic relationship. 6 months in. And we both ended it. Got my energy back and peace of mind.

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

heal and sending you love buddy you!!!

[@marcuswoods3213]

Ditto. Keep rocking on!

[@EdMylettShow]

Proud of you for doing what’s best for both of you! 🙏🏽

[@tainitralayne9545]

Wonderful peace and happiness to you

[@nellosnook4454]

1. I agree with you. 2. It extends to friendships too. 3. In time, you realize their continued friendship is contingent on you relating to them on their terms. 4. Toxic Narcissism. 5. They don’t change. 6. YOU have to drop THEM.

[@jd2931]

Glad I watched this one. One should know you can't control anyone but yourself.

[@FromPeloToYourHeart]

True❤❤❤

[@EdMylettShow]

You can only control you! 🙌🏽💪🏽

[@juliereynolds3488]

I recently ended a nearly two-year relationship that had grown very toxic. I should have ended it months before I did. I watched this video nodding my head affirmatively through most of it - you were speaking my story and my truth, Ed. I did fall into those very patterns and I did stay when I knew I should walk - because of my own insecurity *and* because I didn't want to hurt him. That reasoning didn't work out very well - he ended up resenting me and I felt like the life was being drained out of me. Every word resonates. Painful lessons, but invaluable for growth. Thanks for another fantastic video.

[@guidinglightorphansinc.5255]

Wow, am with you.

[@tainitralayne9545]

❤❤❤

[@Dinamo71]

Spot on Ed! Bye bye toxic. Once you can be alone it’s soooo awesome. That’s what people don’t understand, you can really grow and become an overall new person. And once you get out of all the drama life is peaceful and just awesome. Especially when you have the Lord 🤗

[@ameandtori8085]

I sooo needed to hear this today…it describes me to a tee carrying people in my life that refuse to grow and allowing them to stall me in my growth…time to let go!!!!!!

[@trishabowman5675]

The odds of this being todays episode is unbelievably relevant to me in my life right now. Thank you!

[@guidinglightorphansinc.5255]

Going through the same. This was for me 😢

[@EdMylettShow]

I hope this helped and brought some kind of peace! 🙏🏽

[@nilepearl1997]

When you're growing & they're not, there's a forever change in the relationship coz now you know your worth so they're losing their covert control over you ... End of story ! Thanks a million, Ed, for your sincerity!

[@EdMylettShow]

It’s so important to know your worth!

[@jeremiahbenton3946]

Powerful message Ed! My wife tells me one of the things she loves about me is that I only see the Good in people. She does worry about ppl trying to take advantage of my kindness. But one of my favorite messages is: “Don’t mistake my Kindness for weakness!” As always; we appreciate your profound messages Ed! #MAXOUT

[@EdMylettShow]

Such an awesome message, be kind but don’t allow people to step on you! 💪🏽💯 #MAXOUT

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

Absolutely

[@parisconstantinou8299]

Mr Mylett as a researcher of the so called science of applied psychology the past 38 years!and as one of my countrys leading historical pioneers in the field of Natural Medicine,i would go on and comment that when Mr Les Brown called you the greatest life coach in the world he was quite right!great work,great podcast!so wonderful like always!!keep on the good work!!!

[@bderwin67]

i agree with you and Les ! Ed is the GOAT

[@StoicMiles]

Everything you said is in such alignment with my own experience and what I know to be true. Even if I haven’t fully come to terms with some of the things it’s all so true. I left my ex of 4 years 2-3 years ago. I overstayed. It really tore me apart because there was no way I could convince them to see me when they couldn’t see beyond their own lens of trauma. They wouldn’t look within so all of the anger and resentment was taken out on me through abuse and eventually betrayal. Before her I built myself up. I was so focused on growing and improving. I had the blueprint for building and rebuilding through aloneness and solitude. I’ve spent a couple years on my own now. The entire time I’ve been focused on feeling joy and building myself up again. I feel great now and I no longer have waves of emotion. I can travel to foreign countries without any pause in my joy. I feel like a child again 95% of the time. I know most people don’t change but man I really believe I’m not one of those people. I want to be better, not just for another but for myself and I know I can do that now.

[@gurpalsingh3498]

Same here after getting marry my downward spiral movement started. From being positive and ambitions before to negative and non-ambitious. Its true what Napoleon Hill said on Law of Success, "A man's wife may either make or break him is literally true".

[@kellyfromiowa1849]

I can't believe the timing of this episode. I have been in an on and off relationship for 5 years with this person. I've been sitting here feeling broken hearted and destroyed all week because of them. This video really enlighted me to what is going on with them. I can't believe the amount of energy I have put into this relationship in the last few months!! Once again Ed. A spot-on topic to educate us on.

[@shellyroeben2923]

Perspective of proximity in personal happiness … acceptance is key ❤

[@CathyMetts]

This hit me so hard this morning I feel faint and hopeful all at the same time. It was extremely powerful!

[@bderwin67]

same here 🙏🏽

[@EdMylettShow]

You’ve got this, I believe in you! 💯🙌🏽

[@drewe9514]

sending support

[@CoachMax08]

The hardest part to all of this is being a parent and see your children going through something like this. Not an easy thing to do...yes I know we can tell them who they can and cannot be with (to a certain age), but when you start doing that they grow resentful towards you and it hurts the relationship you have with them. There is a balance you have to find, and be there for them and guide them along the way. Must share by all, great episode Ed.

[@TammyReneeCoaching]

I waste ZERO time with toxic people. There’s ONE single question I ask myself, “whose happiness is more important, theirs or mine?” The answer is always MINE….BYE BYE!

[@exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198]

Ed you're so awesome. One day im going to meet you, and im preparing now for that....On the subject of change, you cant change anyone......You change, you get therapy, you set boundaries, you leave them alone......sometimes things needs to splinter to be rebuilt......Its such a waste of time....Tony Robbins......" Raise your Standards" ......When you change you...and put in strong boundaries, watch things fall into place. I did that with my ex- husband. He is in a state of shock now trying to get back.....no contact. Its a wonderful feeling...im loving the results....

[@jennypastor8320]

Good morning!! Thank you. Thank you it's so hard to realize that I was with a guy who is so selfish, but I thought I was going to make him realize that I'm the best thing that ever happened to him and I didn't want to be alone I didn't think I was going to meet someone who is better . Your content helps me know that im deserves better

[@JethroDodine]

Amen Ed! You can only put your head into the proverbial "buzz saw" so many times. Finally "changed the person" (replaced) after 27 year! Guess I'm a wee bit slow. Appreciate this message!

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

27 years? That's not really changing. It just ran its course.

[@bayareasolarpower]

One of the best episodes yet, thank you.

[@Haaaaaaleluyah]

Thank you sir. Am wiser and encouraged 🇰🇪

[@nikkidoria9625]

I needed to hear this. It is exactly me…seeing the best in someone and wanting them to reach it….to basically make them compatible with me, when they’re not.

[@healthylivingforlife]

Thanks Ed!! I just shared on my KZbin channel...I had the honor of meeting you in person and you saved my life in 2019 in Missouri...you even invited me on stage and that was the biggest highlight of 2019 after that business event ARETE with Andy Frisella, I left my toxic relationship. I remarried last month and no longer am depressed or suffering mentally. BLESS U and your family!

[@dotpenji]

What a powerful message! Attempting to change someone is futile. It's wiser to accept them as they are or create distance for your own well-being. How have you personally navigated situations where you've wanted someone to change but realized it wasn't feasible?

[@markanthonymanayan2136]

The video on dealing with toxic relationships offers practical advice that can make a real difference in people's lives, and it's a much-needed reminder to prioritize our well-being. I really appreciate your video, thank youuu!

[@shekinahmariesol8919]

The best choice for you will depend on your individual circumstances. However, it is important to remember that you are not responsible for changing someone else. You can only control your own behavior and happiness. Appreciate the video!

[@iracaullenedimaranan]

I agree! It's not our responsibility to change toxic people otherwise it will only cause us distress & frustration. Life is supposed to be lived & we have the free will to make any choices that will make us happy.

[@DenverOrtiz]

Absolutely right @dotpenji! Keep up the good work!

[@melaniecerez8938]

This podcast is absolutely top-notch! Well done Ed👏

[@amybaldwin7680]

Timely message. Thank you for all you do Ed!!

[@Haveagreatpositiveday]

Sheesh! This was powerful! I wasn’t going to listen to the whole message and when he started talking about changing people I knew he was speaking to me. That’s my problem I see people for what they could be and I have to stop trying to change them.

[@bcsuk]

It's easy I guess (or easier) when you have no children. But when you have kids, it feels totally impossible! Fear of not seeing the kids as often, or getting ruined financially.

[@Breathless00700]

Just recently found this channel. Love it! Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much for your great content! ❤

[@weshill222]

Yeah you have to be careful between words and actions. I was being told how much the person wanted to change over and over. But yet kept getting the same behaviors. It has to come down to what they do. I stayed way too long past a healthy measure, because i wanted to believe the sweet sweet lies .... now ive moved on it is so obvious how tixic it really was.

[@iamchristylin5339]

This is powerful

[@LetsLiveThriving]

Yesss!! 👏

[@EdMylettShow]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@eloisnaraidoo7339]

I love our Thursday episodes, Thank you.

[@EdMylettShow]

Appreciate you supporting the show!

[@stevenpoyau]

I have watched this video dozens of times, it is extremely powerful and was a catalyst for me to exit a toxic relationship, as well as keep out of it when the mind tries to pull you back into it.

[@rhondagriffith2159]

Preach it..This is a powerful gift.This is one that we should listen to often.

[@EdMylettShow]

Always a great reminder to have!

[@samiaibrahim8802]

my parents always giving me negative feedback whenever i do things that i really love , i love this version of me , i feel peace and contentment most of that time and really loving the way am changing and evolving, just that my parents telling all the time i dont call i dont people anymore , or they go and tell the whole family how am obsessed with making money , negligting everyone, well most of the time i dont think about it , but sometimes it hurts , am spacing my self from them cuz i really dont like any negative impact in my life , listening to you always fell my heart with joy , thanks alot

[@strivin2thrive]

The best and hardest to swallow fact I have learned is that I train people how to treat me! Happiness is a choice! Thanks again for your videos!

[@christlerose8316]

The song "I fell in love with your potential" hit me right in my soul 😢

[@Toughgoose23]

I agree on everything you described! If anything I learned from toxic marriage is never to get into any relationship until I’m ready emotionally, mentally and physically while work so hard on myself and take care of my child I have a long way to go before I’ll let anyone in. Dr. Joe said on your interview. “If you live in survival why would you open your heart??” I have screen recorded that part and watch it since daily.

[@Toughgoose23]

@@Ed_Mylet is this you for real or spam?

[@michealsilvey1124]

32 tear marriage... I am growing and learning my worth Ed. Thank you. You, Tony Robbins, Kris Rice and so many of your guests. I can NOT believe the last 4 years of tge 32, more transpired without our daughter in the home YET her attitude toward me changed too because .... I was standing up for myself and "People eventually revealed to you who they really are" AND thrn the undermining of other relationships to punish yiu or get you to conform again. It hurts 💔😢 God has more instore. GET OUT SOONER is my advice. The last year of the four have been HORRIFIC and now in the throws of his drama to hurt me .... AND "No weapon formed against me prosper." Thanks Ed. Many blessings brother. 🙌🙏

[@JLIT_0]

This I lived and it wasn’t easy to swallow the pride and go back to my pattern of improving and growing. My own advice is if you don’t want to change or fall in a depressive season, embrace your truth and swallow your pride. Love you ed this one was a message from the man above 🙏

[@tu_rinconviajero2994]

Ed, your videos get home ... Like you are watching what's happening in my life.... God bless you 🙏

[@msdeppe]

Bed I totally agree, Humans change because they want to . If they don't want to, they're not going to. All we can do is be a positive role model that will help. We can't change people.

[@bderwin67]

this is absolutely a god send for me right now Ed🙏🏽 Thank you , you are brilliant and a beautiful person in my life from a distance !

[@Maiwee54]

wow...wow...wow! Thank you Ed, I needed to hear this again, even though I have heard it so many times in the past. I have learned that I love being alone and I love not having to live up to someone else standards and weaknesses. I cannot control anyone but myself, I am here for all the change, they are not.

[@evm432]

Powerful talk again, Ed!

[@RioBites]

We save so much energy and time once we understand the ONLY person we can change is our own selves - keep leading by example 🚀

[@TravelAndLifestyleWithVelta]

Good word Ed....Great reminder😊

[@janetfedeli6350]

I walked away from a relationship that I stayed too long. I'm much happier and I've chosen a life with me first and accepting of myself.

[@JagtarShergillPodcast]

Hi Ed, This is the best video I have heard on the relationship. I am that kind of person who struggles everyday to change someone so that I can be happy and I believe that my partner will be happier as well. After listening to your video ifeel I am wrong in my thinking.

[@bderwin67]

it is the BEST

[@addi2014]

You’re words are thunder of wisdom. ❤

[@bderwin67]

amen

[@jjsoccer1010]

Good stuff Ed. You can only work on the change for yourself not others.

[@gracenyashaferewa5473]

Ed I need to add that your content has built me up and helped me be a better version of myself. Thank you

[@kjarneson655]

This talk…along with the “target” rings in the blue behind Ed reminded me of the book “Safe People” (which I highly recommend). The “target” reminded me of this…some people deserve to be in your “inner circle”…and as others prove themself to be unsafe or unhealthy for you…they need to be pushed out to the appropriate level away from you. We have to grow in skills to guard ourselves from allowing them closer than they deserve to better protect ourself. (Healthy boundaries) It requires us figuring out who we want/need to be within ourselves-and who prevents that or makes it too hard.

[@rikyvandeursen4911]

Divorced 12 years ago, living alone since then and (now at 61) happier than ever ❤❤❤

[@moriahtabone5125]

Wow Ed I needed this message so much !!! Something the Lord has been showing me and you have given confirmation!!!!! You are such a pillar in the Kingdom of God !! Thank you 🙏🏻 Blessings

[@justinholland1825]

Ed Mylett I do not know how to do this every time do the soul episode hits get home to me i’m out here grinding. I’m gonna be on your show one day. Tell me my testimony.

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

left a toxic marriage, due to this. happy bachelor now!

[@pavelmergl7217]

You are 100% right Et. I have been trying to change my wife for past 4 year. It is frustrating, I sent her books, book specialist, try to speak to her and explain why. Nothing works. She is not willing to do the job. I just gave up. I have no energy left. . I am not afraid to leave her, I been alone for a long time. It is hard if you have noone to speak to. I am with her because of my kids. I just cannot leave them, they are to small.

[@dejajust6286]

Good Stuff 🙌🏼✨🔥 Thank you Ed 🙏🏼♥️

[@alleyzipzero1]

I wasn’t going to listen to this, but I’m so glad I did! It was exactly what I needed to hear. ❤

[@EdMylettShow]

Happy this got to you on time!

[@fernandoaguirre1527]

Thank you so much Ed it really hit deep. I’ve tried for 22 years and I thought my wife would change . For herself of course. God bless you

[@fernandoaguirre1527]

Is this legitimate

[@yeshunee]

The title alone! think about and accept these relationships we encounter in life. Accept or leave!

[@oxaleonora]

Thank you for the message, great message!

[@thecrazysuzan21]

Hi Ed! you are contagious .

[@kevinkemble3718]

Ed, been listening, learning, applying your suggestions for a long time. Wanted to say I really value & appreciate your content Sir! Thank God I get to associate with honored and principled people one could ever know in an elite and prestigious mentoring platform with phenomenal leadership and systems. Trying to get someone to change, so spot on they >>>> “Resist, Rebel, Resent” Hopefully many listeners find an attitude or gratitude in your suggestions to apply daily in their lives. Thank You!

[@nikhilsapkale299]

Can't explain how thankful I am for this video. This perspective was really needed and I can relate to it. MAXOUT👍

[@EdMylettShow]

I appreciate this so much, im glad this episode helped! #MAXOUT

[@donnathomas5040]

This is a powerful message, and thank you so much because I was this waiting for my partner to change, and I couldn't live like that anymore. I ended the relationship.

[@jean-sebastiencaron722]

Thanks Eddy for doing that. I got a close family member who will never accept the way I am and I'm tired to suffer because of that... God bless you brother :)

[@shawnbartz9829]

Thank you for saying the hard things brother 🙏🏻 You giving us a lot to think about in positive direction 🔥💪🏻 #maxout #powerofonemore

[@johnerodarte]

I heard that a wife is a reflection of how her husband treats her. That's a big responsibility vs. trying to change them. Take full ownership. That will gives you back your power.

[@victoriaherrera278]

Thanks Ed !!

[@lisagarner6233]

I love your approach and how simple you put things. Thank you for all you do for others. I enjoy what you have to say. Thank you for your help ❤

[@tjsproles4992]

Amen, Mr. Mylett, AMEN! 🙏 💯

[@msdeppe]

Thank you! We all should surround ourselves with like minded people 🙏

[@cerennatimphony5626]

Powerful message! I shared on my FB and with my team at work.

[@yuriiyaremchuk2165]

Thank you man!😊

[@user-lf6wx3ym1o]

Ed, you sir are a hero. Thanks for being a boss and spreading love & knowledge! Bless up.

[@MichaelStrachanowski]

It's so honest advice. Thank you.

[@M.C.Blackwell]

What a great message today and I paused it and shared it 3/4 of the way through. Thank you!

[@calmmindcollectiveco]

Thank you Ed! I needed this reminder today ❤ God bless

[@sherry2478]

Another great episode - took me a while to figure this out - but yes you cannot change anyone - only yourself.

[@b_dono]

I 100% agree with you Ed. My issue is I live with them. I cant move out because my mom lives here too. it our family home for generations. If I leave I can't help my mom and the maintenance of the house.

[@user-us5bh8hl9e]

Ed, you are so right ! I'm sure you help a lot of people today, you help me 😊

[@sophiacwaterman313]

As you said, scared of being alone. You’re right Ed!

[@sophiacwaterman313]

done@@Ed.Mylett_

[@joseluiz7017]

Great show Ed! Going through this very topic right now in my life.

[@gracenyashaferewa5473]

This confirms so much and is a timely message for me. Thank you Ed Mylett

[@clementinejulep]

I have learnt boundaries the hard way. Especially, when you mentioned, "it is better to be alone than being with these people" The way a person treats you is so important. I created a lot of distance between people who treated me less than I think i should be treated like. It only gave me peace, raised my self worth and I am more confident and I am being me. 😊 Loved the episode. It was very connecting! 🩵

[@FromPeloToYourHeart]

I have issues with loving with my all and then get hurt when someone is not as invested 😂😂😂 Reciprocation is important and if it's not happening, you kinda get hurt that your efforts are wasted. Even with communication. Any advice?🤦🏾‍♀️😅😅 Love love this show, it's like checking in time to do stock taking and course corrections!❤❤❤❤

[@bderwin67]

i relate and i also love this show !!!

[@FromPeloToYourHeart]

@@bderwin67 thank you, I'm not alone 💖💖

[@Djmuzik_]

I’m going through this exact same situation with my partner of 8 years. This was a wake up call

[@AdrienneDonato]

I love this! What’s your advice when the person has let you down over and over again for years (but you have kids), and now that you finally filed for divorce and are trying to move on, they decide they want to change. But you doubt this new person is truly who they are?

[@amirjaafar9741]

Thank you ❤

[@kimkilday9243]

This video really was a reality hit for me! My husband is lazy or in other words he is happy to sit all weekend doing not much where I am the opposite ticking off my to do list in my head and running around all day after the kids and doing all the house chores inside and out. But the other side is like you said where I never try to change him or complain to him about his ways as it’s a waste of my energy and he has a short temper. So in conclusion my question is how do you deal with a partner who is lazy and this is okay?

[@thetruth3325]

You want to them to change because you know such a decision to not, involves you having to part ways from family members because it is the hardest thing a human can do.. It is the biggest life shift

[@marcuswoods3213]

Man I rock with you Ed

[@gurpalsingh3498]

In this world, relationship is false. Whether they are spouses or friends, all are concerned only with their own happiness. It never lasts; it definitely breaks. Hence one can never find true bliss. This type of friendship is related to material only. They never get a firm bond or deep intimacy. They stick around as long as they get food and clothing. The day their (food-clothing) come to an end, they start cursing. This love is based on the condition is being met. Unconditional love from human is rare to find. Avoid the company of these people they will damage you. My spouse old me you are here to provide money only. When I question her she get mad and angry.

[@theuniversalmind967]

This is beautiful truth,, thanks brother!

[@aggiecaselle9552]

Just ended a 23 year friendship. It was hard at first but I feel great now.

[@EdMylettShow]

Love hearing that you’re feeling better!

[@SigmaSoulTribe]

I also always choose to see who people could be and I will continue to, BECAUSE I'm addicted to growing. What a conundrum. 😂❤😂

[@faustinrwango766]

Thank you my brother, i think God used you to answer the question I have, God bless you!!

[@brendaleaton4652]

Ed I’m enjoying watching your subscribers grow so fast. 💪🏻#maxout

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

@ waiting for the "power of one more"! for next relationship! done!

[@MrNikhilgherwar]

@@Ed.Mylett_ done