REDUCE GUILT & MOTIVATE | Decluttering, finding a path

[@LeaAnnaCurtis]

I agree. We need a healthy balance! We want to enjoy life...but don't want to get bogged down in clutter either. 😊 Thanks, Elin!!

[@MsJujubee3]

Wonderful video and message!!!! It’s not contradiction, it’s growth and perspective ❤

[@2rx_bni]

you'll get out of that fog eventully.

[@ariwithlove]

I have to say, I really like the less figured-out place you’re in Elin. Here for it and bless you for your authenticity. 💞

[@sl9906]

I understand the sentiment, and a full life should take precedence over cleaning beyond what maintains health. Having said that, I find clutter in my life anxiety provoking and overwhelming. So for a healthy balance I have reduced my home inventory to a comfortable level where it’s just as easy to put it away as drop it/leave it. That way I can go and do life, come home and have a tidy, calm, home sanctuary.

[@joannafoster3423]

I think it's absolutely ok to be on autopilot sometimes, especially when we've recently gone through or are going through a major life change... New baby, diagnosis, loss of someone close to you, a move, new job, etc.

[@daryljohnson9010]

Thank you from one professional to another for addressing the pressures put on us by our respective careers to absolutely swallow up practitioners. It’s unhealthy. I know that’s tangential to the focus of the video and your channel but I appreciate the insight.

[@Fawn62312]

I think that the social norms of always going somewhere in life is causing people to have miserable lives. I think having direction is great, if you have somewhere you want to go, but if you just feel lost, maybe that's the universe telling you you don't need to go anywhere. What's the harm in living a slow life, nourishing yourself and your family, spending time getting your mental health in order, and just being? I think there's value in both ❤️

[@angelasinyard3743]

I understand you! Growth and perspective are essential. I still do the last 15 minutes and the first 30 minutes of the day. Dishes were washed and put away, laundry and trash were thrown out, and shoes/purses/ clothes were in order. I know my spiritual walk and self-care are also important. This helped me feel in order and not panic minutes before someone arrived unexpectedly. Today, enjoying the day, whatever comes, is not a bad thing. I pace myself, have decreased digital media, and have not used my phone as much. Time management is essential, and your child will need to see the example. More than anything, be original. Fake living life is not a way to live. Giving yourself breathing room is growth, but don't get to laxidaisy

[@zishmasafi4503]

I have a 7 yo and a 5 yo! And while I am grateful for my tiny humans, I can’t be my best self if I don’t have most of my house clean. I don’t mind minor messes, but every surface cluttered is hard for me! I have been decluttering for a while now but my older kid is very sentimental and has a very hard time getting rid of stuff! I have unconsciously given him decluttering trauma. So I want to stop that habit! But at the same time, as a stay at home mom, it all falls on me. My husband is an intervention cardiology fellow. And I do know life will not be the same, as it hasn’t been in the past. I think for me, it’s the expectation that’s causing more stress. That I should be able to handle this situation, and my kids should be better at helping! It doesn’t serve me, but I just can’t function when there’s more mess than I can clean in 2 hours.

[@robynwells8249]

I love a day with no plans. When I get up in the morning and I know I have no where to be and nothing I have to do I am right down giddy. Also, allowing space for things to evolve is a wise thing to do. Some of the best decisions I have made is when I have given them some space and allowed “things” to evolve on their own. Some of the worst mistakes I have made is when I forced things into being. There is an ancient Chinese philosophy called Wu Wei- effortless action or inaction.

[@emilianodiaz-page4233]

When you have a baby it is completely reasonable and normal to be on autopilot. It’s hard to function like you did before having a child because you definitely don’t get the amount or quality of sleep you used to get. Also you are caring for someone ( your child) who needs you to do all things for her. When did you do that for someone before you had your baby?Never. There is no one in your life that you had to do absolutely all the things for them before you had a baby. It’s perfect fine to be on autopilot in your life for a while.

[@2rx_bni]

I'm almost positive the reality of being a parent bonked into you and that's why your perspective changed. Marie Kondo changed her tune as well when she had kids. She can't keep her space perfect anymore and realized her method is impractical for most families. Hopefully she writes an update.

[@ear1421]

You few guilt about the weirdest stuff 😂 when people ask me what my plans are for the weekend I’m like “what? People still make weekend plans?… in advance??”

[@colleendurning1215]

I get a little tired of people assuming if your house is clean and organized you don't have a life. How about we don't assume messy houses = wonderful full life any more than a clean house = sad lonely life. How about we don't bash anyone and realize we all have different priorities at different stages. So be you without judging others.

[@Last01-y5v]

When I donate blood they always ask what do you have planned for the rest of your day or weekend. And every time I'm like uh...nothing. I have 5 children I will feed and take care of. Other than that, nada! I NEVER make plans. Anything we do is last minute or the day before decision. Of course besides holidays or trips to see family. Those are planned in advance

[@kimchapman2210]

Always thinking about where you are going might make you miss the present. 🤔

[@MsJujubee3]

I’m so on autopilot right now with a 13 month old. I am so exhausted I feel dead inside.

[@Arnirien]

I hope you can get some help soon! With childcare so you can breathe, with mental health so you can come back to yourself and recover. Thinking of you

[@Last01-y5v]

Ugh I know how that is. Ask for help ❤ people want to help but they don't know you need help unless you ask

[@Last01-y5v]

And try to spend more time outside

[@sophie.paludan.muller]

Hope you will make more youtube🙏🏻 And where did you buy this beautiful striped shirt?