"I WILL MAKE MISTAKES, AND IF SOMEONE IS DISAPPOINTED IN ME FOR THAT, IT'S NOT MY FAULT." This is the message we need to especially tell all teenagers
@Amathylar Жыл бұрын
Yeah, thats the best way to cultivate the golden mediocrity.
@velocity25163 жыл бұрын
Yesterday my whole day went crying and hurt over my relative's mean comment on my career . By the end of the day I found that don't waste more than 5 min over it if it Not gonna matter in 5 yrs. That gave me a lot of clarity and calm.
@velocity25163 жыл бұрын
@MJ I m mbbs student.
@velocity25163 жыл бұрын
@MJ it's not the profession. It's the me into the profession. He thinks I am aiming to high and will not be good in this . From wht I know He is judging for my past ( I had to take a gap yr ) and I am inspired by my future. His opinions doesn't change my beliefs but it hurted my emotions.
@jaysouthmusic82302 жыл бұрын
That's the quote I live by to this very day. That's why I don't stress out over temporary things anymore
@hima55542 жыл бұрын
I kinda relate to this cause I was a really bad student in the past but now I love learning and want to focus on my studies but most of my relatives and even my parents discourage me all the time. All the best for your future!
@wisefella48882 жыл бұрын
Nice to hear you finally decided to use your brain. 🙌
@fakhreddinedouae64853 жыл бұрын
“I am mostly a very boring person I don’t think I’m entertaining or exciting” never felt related in my life like this 😂🤦🏻♀️
@nearlyheadlessmedstudent98923 жыл бұрын
literally everything she said was so on point relatable.
@mathewalex61713 жыл бұрын
For a boy who wished to learn everything in the world, who can paint, play piano, cook, take a degree in physics, and eat Shakespeare like chocolate, you mean a lot. Even though I have starved, lost my place at top UK universities due to the financial constraints of the pandemic, seeing you live your life as fully as possible brightens my day and gives me the courage to hope for the best. Living in a third-world country, I slept under the open sky, staring at the stars, during my degree. It is the thirst to know better of the world, a place I found so mysterious growing up, that lit my way. I hope that I can move between physics, arts, and medicine in my life. My father used to read Mary Shelley's Frankenstein when I was a child. You remind me so much of its protagonist. I hope your passions will continue to burn against the cold of life, and you may have all the happiness. Memento mori.
@bihornellatakam17853 жыл бұрын
Waow😍😍, I pray you write books
@jazelletenukirehara3 жыл бұрын
Wow you’re amazing and you can write too, very talented in that respect as well 😊 memento mori 🙂
@whatseveryonelookingfor70233 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful comment. I’m stealing the last line; “I hope your passions continue to burn against the cold of life.”
@benamos28783 жыл бұрын
So that's what happened to old Mrs Shakespeare at number 30!
@mnorberta243 жыл бұрын
ur writing is so beautiful :")
@jazelletenukirehara3 жыл бұрын
Before you admitted to being a people pleaser, I never found you coming across as one, your personality screamed “I don’t give a damn of what others think of me”. You’re a very unique person and I’m delighted that I came to find you via your channel. If there were few more people like you, this world would be a wonderful place to live. Lots of love ❤️ 💕
@chlo_cho2 жыл бұрын
"i feel as though if i traumatise myself safely i will also learn enough" this was so funny but so on point i love this video
@53_rehanmansoori973 жыл бұрын
If you're not living your life for yourself, Who is going to live it for you ? Great line 😍❤️👏
@Kitofthearts2 жыл бұрын
Jesus! God will 😂
@JatinGarg3 жыл бұрын
"I'll be fine regardless of what happens" is a mindset that I've found really helps. 👌Similar to you mentioning "shutting off" those certain things and getting things done anyways. Love the positivity in this one Elizabeth!
@ladorafilms41493 жыл бұрын
Elizabeth, you're one of the few youtubers, I keep up with to watch weekly videos. I love the topics you bring forth. It's very meaningful and makes you think and reflect on your life.
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooo much!
@kadzo66142 жыл бұрын
Lol
@manikmadaan2 жыл бұрын
I needed this. KZbin got stressful because I cared too much about what people
@mihaelamorosan87992 жыл бұрын
I love how you challenge everything I thought I already knew everything about. You really shift my perspective and it feels liberating to incorporate your thoughts into my views on life. I love your videos.
@Mustafa_Ünal3 жыл бұрын
Thanks to your videos, I can look at life from many different perspectives. I love you. I am one of your biggest followers ❤️
@JonGadget3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing as always. I believe failing is learning and if you're not failing you're not pushing the boundaries of what you can do. I built a chain of 50 high street stores in the UK some years ago and saw them fail after 10 years of hard work, I started again on the road to greater success based on the knowledge gained on that journey.
@CCCrypto3 жыл бұрын
You don't think you're funny or cool, but that intro had me laughing A LOT! I love this video, I think everyone should be made to watch this. Especially in a world where social validation is something so many of us are chasing - especially the younger generation.
@bihornellatakam17853 жыл бұрын
Yh that's true
@chaotcmind Жыл бұрын
I relate to you so much. I feel like I've had a similar childhood to yours as a fellow overachiever and have basically the same struggles as you. It's so validating to listen to your videos and realize that I'm not weird and I'm not the only one like this and I'm not the only one going through these changes in mindset. It's such a relief and it helps me in my journey so much to have found someone who went through the same experience and talks about it so openly. Even the way you talk about yourself, how your brain functions and how you structure your life feels so fitting for the way I think and function.
@papl203 жыл бұрын
This is amazing. You are the biggest inspiration, and what you call "not cool" to me is calmness and joy of life.
@pabmed96573 жыл бұрын
I think there is a measure of commonality with medical students in this regard, where we excelled in our respective academic journeys and there are unrealistic expectations of us that can truly impact our mental wellbeing. I keep reminding myself that my disappointment will always be more devastating than other people's about me, so I always do what *I* believe it's best for me. Great video :)
@hamsterjuninho3 жыл бұрын
You’ll never know the impact this particular video had in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Elizabeth.
@aamiraliasad17473 жыл бұрын
True that! "Hell, is other people." (Sartre: No Exit)
@AA-cm9fw2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video.I really wish I saw this sooner but I'm glad I did now.The last year my social anxiety and peer pressure were the worst ever.I'm hoping to not let that happen this year.I'm an introvert and I'm also not a confident speaker.I break up, stutter, etc. so that's something that really intimidates me.But I believe and know I'm very intelligent and I will attract the people who truly understand me.I will try not to care about the rest
@nocturnus0093 жыл бұрын
Ibid my previous comment about “Shut Your Monkey: How to Control Your Inner Critic and Get More Done” book & supplemental podcast! The algorithm has been recommending this channel for a while. Having binged the back catalogue I see why. Looking forward to enjoying the question induced, insights illuminated & journey ahead. Please, just mindfully cogitate on introspective ahimsa.
@nearlyheadlessmedstudent98923 жыл бұрын
Shes so incredibly relatable. I feel like she makes these videos as a reminder for herself too. also HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE YOU EDIT this new style of yours. the words popping faster than blink of an eye.
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Hmmm I’m getting quicker at the editing! So maybe 3-4h for this style :)
@bhumika10603 жыл бұрын
This helped me so much. Everytime someone asked me anything I would always say yes even when I didn't want to do it. But sometimes it is just so stupid. So now after this video I learnt that I will do what I want to do not something someone else want me to do. Thanks Elizabeth
@Rose_Ou3 жыл бұрын
There's NO WAY you're boring. A person with your IQ can never be boring :) However, not caring about what people think requires pretty high self-esteem which is a gift we should have all received from our parents. Emotionally healthy parents. I was brought up by very abusive and highly unstable, although very well educated parents (my mother is a retired psychologist!). At home I learnt violence, fear, anger and was equipped with very poor self-esteem. I turned out to be different from my folks - thank God - but at 45 I still suffer from terrible anxiety, social phobia and no confidence whatsoever. I've been working on resolving these problems for the past 20 years with little success. I sometimes think we subconsciously believe that the society judges us and seeks to punish us just like our parents did. Individuals with healthy upbringing in stable environment are much more cheerful and open-minded. Or maybe it's just me :) Sending ❤❤❤ from Poland! I absolutely love your videos 🙏 (Also, I'm writing down point 3 and point 4, very useful 👍)
@aminebenz14112 жыл бұрын
You talked about traumatizing yourself to force yourself to not care about others' expectations in you. I always had this problem, and whenever I decided to stop caring about what others think of me I always returned back, and it was impossible to get rid of it. BECAUSE YOU CAN'T LIVE WITH THE FEELING OF BEING AN OUTCAST (it's just a feeling) (TL;DR get rid of drama, learn to focus and you'll be less of a people pleaser) Until last year, a person (still not sure if it was her) had a little drama with me, sort of a misunderstanding (things that happen every now and then, never thought it would come to this), and she slandered me with "traumatizing" accusations (the accusations keep getting more and more creative and weird till this day), soon the circle of slander grew until it covered several buildings where I work, and had from 40 to 80 people constantly harassing me and giving me remarks (I was even followed and had to change my route to my house every day). At first, it put great pressure on me, because I didn't like what people were saying about me, and spent huge efforts trying to "clean my reputation", then the pressure was extremely hard and I remember that I couldn't even explain the issue to my boss because I desperately wanted to ignore their presence. Then it grew so hard and I had to close my social media accounts and adopt a focus no talk personality, then I discovered the joy of not caring what others think, it's so liberating, and the way to achieve it is simply through focus and detachment from people. Of course, I had to go through trauma to learn to resist the temptation of people-pleasing. (The thing about the slander is still going on, and I don't have the energy for a legal procedure, I just learned to block the drama).
@neetib80943 жыл бұрын
Why is your older self 100% RELATABLE. I mean that's EXACTLY what I have been doiingggg😭 Thank God I watched this video ❤️ Thanks Liz
@jazzrandhawa4822 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much needed this as I’m so outwardly bubbly confident and intelligent but inside quite prone to overthinking and hyper worrying
@alektech74363 жыл бұрын
The value you provide in every video is absolutely insane! Love it❤️❤️
@angeliquebaluarte90523 жыл бұрын
Relate! So proud of you Eli! Thankies for sharing this very honestly! Keep sparkling the way you are!
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Thank youu 💙
@dipithsharma934 Жыл бұрын
I just saw your video. I felt and feeling the same. Everyone has different and unique problem.
@devidocs2 жыл бұрын
1:36 THIS. QUESTION. is so important to me right now because I'm at my teenage overthinking stage and it's geniuinly effecting me loads these days. This question is so thought provoking to me and such an innovate way of convincing myself for certain things in life.
@srdsomsrd3 жыл бұрын
Unless and until what we do doesn't exactly harm people around us, they and we should not care what they think of us. Thank you Elizabeth for another amazing one :)
@louisrousseau1816 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are cool because even if you're just sitting there you're so genuinely passionate about it and we can see it
@arthuslim3 жыл бұрын
My god. This is a very good video that strikes me deep inside…. An introvert here who cares too much what others think. Need to block out these noise.
@marija74833 жыл бұрын
Relatable.. in fact, you have worked a nice strategy out coping with it!
@joedobie46602 жыл бұрын
Don’t believe everything you think ❤❤❤❤. So refreshing and how wonderful to be Free
@JunoMusonda Жыл бұрын
You’re incredible Elizabeth! I really needed this in my current season of life :)
@neetu71513 жыл бұрын
Love your raw honest take on important things.
@asifiqbal81463 жыл бұрын
Why do we think this way? It has everything to do with the fact that we assume people care as much about us as we care about ourselves. Well, they don’t. People are most interested in themselves.
@AashnaLalAReality3 жыл бұрын
This is a very interesting comment!! You’re right! Thanks Asif 💯
@diwakarsingh11413 жыл бұрын
this line hit me " there are no person to say he/ she last video was very bad but this video is awesome" so relatable bcz whenever I am going to do any good thing in life past failure comes in my mind that made my mood off.....thanku so much for making life lesson video
@dianasantos17403 жыл бұрын
Yes, you are just sitting but I don't care where you are but what you say. Since I started watching your videos I feel like I can search for more value in my life and work harder to achieve my goals. You inspired me to be more deep about my decisions just like you are deeper about ur interpretation on paintings.
@Akta3 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so hard- both because I feel like I've been hugely shaped by expectations around me, and also because I feel like the most boring person ever haha. loved this video Liz
@lorenarodriguezt22752 жыл бұрын
I have watched a couple of videos so far, and I like them very much. One thing I really liked on this on is that youare speaking a little but slower compared to the other ones I watched. :D Great content!!
@anyatamachowdhury94813 жыл бұрын
This was badly needed. Thank you ❤️
@rahulmanandhar19243 жыл бұрын
If you ever write a self help book im gonna buy it for sure 😊
@aditijones.mp32 жыл бұрын
You talk about my problems that i didn't knew existed
@randomlee35903 жыл бұрын
Remember always. You are Queen and a Doll too. Sending you all my love. 🌹🌹
@johnjasperjacolbia33212 жыл бұрын
That first point really got me. Thanks for sharing your insights, Elizabeth!
@CAZWELLNYC1984 Жыл бұрын
Keep doing what you do. All you videos are inspiring. ❤
@sathwiknaram59393 жыл бұрын
I don't know what Elizabeth studies and where she gets such beautiful quotes every time they flash on the screen in her past few videos after listening my mind fells a bit of pleasure like dopamine release and makes me feel happy and think about it like damm that's true. Anyway good stuff thanks for the video.
@lennartuecker3 жыл бұрын
I think you're cool for sharing your thoughts to us and for inspiring us to live our lifes in a different way.
@Sliceofvibe3 жыл бұрын
Ma'am in our area people always judge and compare with others whether it is degree , income, look etc . Thats why I ignored all and just focusing on my carrier and future. Thanks it will help us !
@nazirachoudhury8922 жыл бұрын
Thanks for making this- I didn't realise how necessary it was for Me to hear this
@edimohammadbasam2790 Жыл бұрын
I have watched so many of your videos for the purpose of improving my listening skill in English, but i found a great community and shared interests between us. So i no longer watch you videos for that purpose, i am watching them to accumulate more information and knowledge about the topics you are talking about, especially about photography. I adore the way u explain things. Thanks you for all your efforts.
@BoomerBlogging3 жыл бұрын
Elizabeth - It is almost impossible, if not just human nature itself, for any of us NOT to be concerned over what other people think about us. So, deflection techniques, as you have comprehensively identified can, and should, be applied to ease the effects. Personally, my "go-to" technique on this issue is comprised of two simple rules that I use - sometimes before - but - far too often - after my actions; "If it doesn't help you grow - then - just let it go" "It's good to be me" (trust me - no conceit intended or implied in this comment). Stay well.
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely, I love this, thank you!
@franciscolobo27153 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing! Brilliant, as usual. At the same time, I always try not to lose sight of the fact that each of us performs many roles in social life, and they come with duties and responsibilities: we are sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, partners and friends, citizens and human beings. I particularly always try to remember that I belong to a privileged group, profession, gender, and generation. All these roles and privileges, and the duties attached to them, will inevitably create expectations in others. Just as we expect things from other people according to any of these roles too.
@suhasmorisetty76623 жыл бұрын
"I am mostly a very boring person I don’t think I’m entertaining or exciting” can relate to every syllable of this sentence
@joannaa17243 жыл бұрын
Nice segway into Brilliant. I almost didn't notice the transition. I like your sharing using quotes as a talking point.
@ABHIGYANDIXIT Жыл бұрын
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR LIFE, MAKE IT THE BEST AND GO ALL THE WAY. 😄🤗
@Dannytsister3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this today, thanks for this video!
@katiewilkinson55933 жыл бұрын
I definitely need to try this, I'm always trying to please others and when it comes to youtube I'm always so shy when it comes to talking on camera. But sometimes having a cup of tea helps. Brilliant video Elizabeth😊🙌
@a.b.haider3043 жыл бұрын
That point about shutting off the parts of your brain that are screaming “this is an embarrassment” was instantaneously liberating. It kind of reminded me that we’re all just a unique collection of cells anyway. Kind of soothing 😂
@vasundhras9323 жыл бұрын
you are wayy COOLER that you know! keep going we all are here week after week to see your brilliant content.. That on it's own is such a huge achievement
@muhammadjunaidali94493 жыл бұрын
absolutely right.
@moket92313 жыл бұрын
I needed this, that you for sharing such a vulnerable video
@rockabillyrevolution3 жыл бұрын
exceptionally useful content - many thanks!
@AhmedZaidi3 жыл бұрын
Really resonated with Point 4!
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Wooo thanks for watching!!!
@020mahnooramin93 жыл бұрын
The 10 minutes spent were worth it. Needed for a long time❤️ Thank you so much💕 And Loved your thumbnail !!!!❤️❤️
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
Thank youuu!
@zu0756 Жыл бұрын
You are a wonderful human being, keep up the good work!
@jessyclvn3 жыл бұрын
I always happen to watch your new videos whenever I needed it. Thank you for this 🥺❤️
@ababey16443 жыл бұрын
The busy bee has no time for sorrow!
@darkbeast277 Жыл бұрын
" Ignore that part of your brain which screaming you for doing weird, shy or so called embarassing things for others" this one seems very useful tip
@matthewtaylor86682 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you being so open. I feel like this will help me.
@MyMindMe-ec3tm3 жыл бұрын
You're getting better and better each time. So happy for you
@alokkanswal44033 жыл бұрын
I see one thing in my life. People who find something very disturbing in his/her life. Gradually they find the method of how do deal with it. If your intentions are serious about that.
@Laurenloveslaughter3 жыл бұрын
Such a great video - thank you! ☺️ I’m constantly having to remind myself of these things and this video popped up at a perfect time! 💕💕💕
@alirsayy3 жыл бұрын
oh my god... i have so excited when i had saw you first
@matthewweaver11232 жыл бұрын
Like you, I was the overachiever in school, (in pretty much everything actually). I've only recently (last 2-3 years (im in my mid 30s)) began to force myself to ignore those parts of my brain, like you mentioned. It's not easy, but when I'm able to do it, life is much more enjoyable. I've been told that age helps with this particular problem. Something I've struggled with is wondering how much more enjoyable my past would have been if I was able to do this sooner. I wonder what it is that causes some of us to care so much about what everyone else thinks to begin with. My personality type is INTP. I wonder how that plays into the equation.
@lala91563 жыл бұрын
I literally have to save your video for a specific time to watch it , so I can fully enjoy it .. haha .. please share more wisdom about minimalist and time management and stress management tips .. thank you
@Devibaba2 жыл бұрын
Good thoughts. Thanks for sharing!
@rishashah3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate the insights in this video, especially about 'cool certificates' - Thank you!
@subhamrout31553 жыл бұрын
Really loving the way you speak.
@envirooh92743 жыл бұрын
This video changed something inside me. Thank you Elizabeth
@elizabethfilips3 жыл бұрын
@StudySphere-o4q3 жыл бұрын
good st- no wait, i'd rather not steal ali's comment lol
@ammarapatel66343 жыл бұрын
Loooool
@samuelbrown96653 жыл бұрын
I love this, got to beat him to Sheens comments now too 😂
@rehanj37753 жыл бұрын
Yeah hahaha
@Mahendrakpargi3 жыл бұрын
big fane
@gingerbreadsful3 жыл бұрын
love this video, thanks for normalising small everyday failures and that nagging voice of negative talk in our heads. your desk setup loooks amazing too! could you do a tour one day?
@aliabdaal3 жыл бұрын
good stuff
@katiewilkinson55933 жыл бұрын
More so brilliant stuff Ali, Elizabeth aced this video topic and her editing style😊🙌
@rreetom3 жыл бұрын
Stop saying good stuff
@aamiraliasad17473 жыл бұрын
A true trait of being an ALPHA. Keep it up you, Alpha Girl!
@yashedward32643 жыл бұрын
Thanks , it really helped atleast the for now the chaos that was going on right now in my mind is calm , now I can study
@amanrubey3 жыл бұрын
Why are your videos so relatable? 😅
@ajayk33723 жыл бұрын
Relatable Elizabeth 💖
@188mariyahaquesoily43 жыл бұрын
I don't no why.But your every word is right.For public bad comment about my future,my parents sometimes feel bad..But I really don't want to do any type of job which is you know like someone under,and i have to call him boss,bla! bla!bla!...I am a poem writer..and want to lead my life by writing...Thank you,for motivated me again...take a million of love from my heart of corner....and also from Bangladesh.......
@zain89403 жыл бұрын
Very great video! I like it . especially background music .which is so peaceful.
@rishabh59592 жыл бұрын
Yeah “the popping never going to leave” exactly! Thebest way to be free is to stop identifying the thoughts as they are not real an you will always be in present and happy like me ;D
@karinaherashchenko26362 жыл бұрын
I really like your thoughts! Its strange that you do not have a million views on these videos)
@nileshzoot3 жыл бұрын
thank you for this - even makes a lot of sense to an old man
@freedomfighter1324 Жыл бұрын
Much needed video, thank you
@JHVlogsUniversityYouTuber3 жыл бұрын
When did you first start taking steps to avoid hiding behind 'I'm only doing this because my mum wants me to...' and how long did it take before you felt comfortable doing so?