Demiromantic TikToks - Pride day 24

Demiromantic TikToks - Pride day 24
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[@KpB2O]

I recently re-came out as demiromantic asexual (former label was aroace) and before I recame out I was in a platonic relationship and the same time I came out as demi I confessed to him and turns out he had a romantic crush on me too and it was so awesome

[@obsessedcalamity]

That’s amazing! Glad it worked out for you :)

[@bman14117]

I’m also a demiromantic asexual person!

[@belkat5666]

aww!! thats so sweet :) im aromantic and demisexual i thought that was kinda cool we are like flipped

[@Bears_editz]

Awesome!

[@religiousindustrialaliens]

i used to be aromantic but demiromantic works better for me

[@flowerlamps]

helpful knowledge that not a lot of people know: that deep emotional bond you need to have romantic attraction to someone? it's not the same for everyone ^^ for some it may take years, for some it may be months, weeks, etc! just because your experience doesn't sound exactly like another demiromantic persons' doesn't mean its not valid

[@flowerlamps]

(and also what a deep emotional bond is: pretty much only you can identify and describe that, since it also differs between each demiromantic person !) also realized this was kind of said in the last tiktok, but reinforcing some helpful stuff never hurt anyone ! I think

[@enolp]

I appreciate you for this

[@zongi700]

Thank you for this❤

[@cuddlingbunch2025]

As a demi-romantic I feel so valid! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@fishtailfinn223]

@Troll Hunter really dude?? Demi-romanticism doesn't get a lot of representation and a lot of people think we don't exist so commenting something like that when someone is expressing that they feel validated is kind of rude just fyi

[@GaiaisPupz]

I love this sm! As an ace demiro lesbian I always feel like demiromantics aren't very represented but this was very lovely to see! Great job!

[@ARIXIA.]

As an ace demiro lesbian as well, i agree

[@simp-leton7703]

when you realize you're falling in love when you experience mini panics that sometimes become a full blown self-questioning and breakdowns :D

[@a.a.johnson5186]

I'm demisexual and demiromantic. I love all your compilations!

[@PsychicHyrax]

I recently discovered im on the aromantic spectrum! Either demi or greyromantic 💚

[@OkayKaylem1]

im not demiromantic, but my close friend is and has a partner and just graduated! im very happy for her :)

[@creativehorsequeen]

Anybody else having a slight crisis about their orientation, so you came here to figure out what it looks like? I just recently discovered that demi-romantic it a thing and now I'm like "This seems to really apply to me. Ummm. What the frick do I do with it?"

[@Thunder-00]

BRO I THINK THIS WHOLE TIME I WAS DEMISEXUAL/ROMANTIC AND WAS MISTAKING PHYSICAL OR AESTHETIC ATTRACTION AS SEXUAL OR ROMANTIC ATTRACTION BUT NOW I FINALLY UNDERSTANDDDDDDD

[@guisorefrito5927]

THE "actually fall in love" ONE LMFAO SMAE :(

[@MorningDusk7734]

Hi, Demiromantic Heterosexual here, hoping to give some clarity if anyone needs it as to what the difference is between Demisexual and Demiromantic feelings (obviously my words about Demisexuality will be based on secondhand accounts as I am not demisexual). I like to imagine relationships as moments to look forward to in the future, often visualized within a house. If I have sexual feelings for someone, that's represented by being able to see myself with them in the "bedroom" of the house. But I didn't have romantic feelings until I could visualize myself in every "room" of the house with that person. I often say I fall in love with the soul of a person, and it takes time to discover the soul. That's why it was 2 years of friendship before something flipped and I developed my first romantic crush on the person who I am still in love with and in a relationship with, going on 7 years.

[@KnotAnOwl]

9:45 needing to hear someone's personality in their voice is so interesting I _think_ I just need to understand someone & have known them for a while?? ofc theres the persistent doubt if im full aro and will be forever lonely but eh- i'd be interested to hear what other demis need to have for attraction!

[@kamryn.m]

same here! i'm also always doubting too lol

[@sw4yskii]

I love these comps! keep the work up :)

[@ellabella001]

I'm glad you like them!

[@Madi-rv9wp]

I recently came out to my friends as demiromantic bisexual and i just wanna say thank you for giving us this video and im so happy to be out

[@Someone-tf1tk]

Kinda realised it wasn't platonic when the midnight mental breakdowns started

[@emmanuelobandodiaz5860]

I describe it as, for the person to have romantic feelings for someone first they need to have a good friendship, that is, getting to know the person, their ups, their downs, and feeling kind of safe talking to them.

[@void49565]

3:00 STAWP THIS IS SO RELATABLE💀

[@Blackberrythesinger]

I was really questioning if I was demi-romantic and this video really helped me! (I love your videosss)

[@wow.sel69]

LOVE THESE 🥰🥰🥰🥰🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈

[@waywardmagician]

Thank you so much for making this. As an asexual demiromantic, I loved it ever so much.😁😍🥳😊💗

[@gnomeyt9339]

I probably just missed something, but how come Day 23 was skipped?

[@ellabella001]

Go to my demiboy video and read the pinned comment!

[@plague_king]

I am recently figuring out im Demi romantic, I identified as ace/biromantic for a while but that didn't feel right. Now its demiboy, demi romantic-

[@plague_king]

@Troll Hunter I'm dating someone?

[@plague_king]

@Troll Hunter learning is key- it's okay to not understand but you can still get respectful (I'm not implying you weren't but I'm just saying in general)

[@fenjaminvonwhippersnapper]

Okay listen, I have a serious question. Do fictional characters count (for crushes and romantic feelings)? If so then I have nothing to reflect on... if they don't then I might not be right at the moment.

[@solsystem1342]

People form relationships with fictional characters even if they are one sided. If that's what you mean. Edit: not like a romantic relationship but like a social and emotional connection.

[@fenjaminvonwhippersnapper]

@@solsystem1342 Yeah I get that. So if I've only ever been romantically attracted to fictional characters, would that be considered aromantic (I know that it's up to you and how you feel but I'm just curious what others think)? Because they're not real.

[@solsystem1342]

@@fenjaminvonwhippersnapper I think that'd definitely be on the ace spectrum somewhere based on my experience. what sub label (if any) would be up to you.

[@KnotAnOwl]

@@fenjaminvonwhippersnapper I think there's a sub identity of asexual/aromantic called ficto-sexual/romantic you might want to check out? its really broad though, referring also to people who only feel sexual/romantic attraction empathetically from characters (like me!) and a couple other things, so I'm not sure if there is a 'better' label

[@sabrinaclarus6290]

@@solsystem1342 Aren't you people far enough away from reality?!

[@bugvillain]

1:05 LITERALLY OML

[@Max-qq7my]

ok i need a little help with this one. i’m pretty sure i’m a lesbian like women are really pretty and i find myself being with one in a relationship but i don’t do well much with the romantic stuff at all. i dont even remember or relating to all these crush stuff. am i a demiromantic lesbian or just aromantic? pls idk anymore (i AM sure i’m asexual though) btw is it also valid to be an aromantic lesbian or just call myself like that?

[@s.dalton]

i think that if you have aesthetic attraction for women then it would count for something, but i truly don’t know what you could call that. and i don’t really know too much about being aromantic because i originally thought that it meant that you just never had romantic attraction. i think there is an identity under the ace spectrum where you do experience romantic attraction but it’s very rare. hope i could help :)

[@wishingonthemoon1]

You could be demi-romantic. Romantic attraction can take more than six months, more than nine months, up to a year, maybe more. It takes time, and I didn’t figure my own demi sexuality (not demi romantic tho) until I was 25.

[@PhoenixFlight8D]

Me being an awkward ball of Fraysexual, Demiromantic Alloplatonic straightness Explanation: Im pretty much friends with everyone until they say or act otherwise- Im only sexually attracted to the opposite sex (male) and real quick i get flustered around them and i get the no no thoughts but once i form a friendship with them they go away. I dont get any sort of romantic or sexual thoughts again until i form a true emotional connection with them and only a single person has done that. We are still in a relationship (3 years) and both fantasize about marriage

[@ajanator5263]

pretty good collection! my only complaint is that five thousand tiktoks explaining what a label means get kind of annoying after awhile

[@funtime_error_]

Bruh I remember this guy on insta that just started talking to me, he quickly said, hey we are both bi and single, funny coincidence! And I’m like: ahh I see what you’re doing. Well I haven’t ever gotten a relationship so I’m curious how it works out, eventually he goes to a more romantic or flirty side where I’m like: I feel like I nearly know you, I’d like to get to know you better. He says AND I QUOTE: “but I’ve already told you everything about me” THATS NOT HOW IT WORKS😭😭 Now looking back on that I think this indicates that I am demiromantic, I’ve only thought of it since summer started…

[@Fightclub-x4g]

Im definitly not demiromantic because celebrities and fictional characters exist lol but this is super interesting to me

[@Welcome_to_mchoyo_what_order]

So um guess what... I'M BOTH BICHES, THAT'S RIGHT I AM DEMIAROACE!!!! AHAHAHAHHAHAAHA HA Ha hahu hu ugh it's so hard😭

[@ohblobby]

omggg can u do cupioromantic or quoiromantic? or maybe both of them in one vid? I’d love that sm ❤️

[@Lee-yay-yippe]

What r those??

[@ohblobby]

@@Lee-yay-yippe cupioromantic - you don’t have romantic attraction but you still desire a romantic relationship quoiromantic - you have trouble differentiating between romantic and platonic feelings

[@ellabella001]

I will for sure make a video on identities on the aro-spec soon and probably coming this month. I will include it in my lgbtq+ video too

[@ohblobby]

@@ellabella001 ok tysm!! rly appreciate it

[@sabrinaclarus6290]

@@Lee-yay-yippe Just more freely invented words, that don't mean a damn thing!!

[@YawnyCatBird]

Yeah I think I’m demi in both ways… didn’t relate to aro overall but this one hits the spot.

[@leme3503]

As a demi (duh) (only romantic, not sexual) (also straight cis dude), yes, online dating is... well I do it, swipe on people, but I don't expect anything to really come out of it 'cause the whole idea of it is people going in with the expectation of finding someone to date. Which is something I don't want. I need friends (urgently). I need a friendship to grow into something more. So I treat online dating as more of a joke. There's also very little series or especially movies that do romance in a way I can associate with. It's usually like a 'love at first sight' kinda deal. The best romantic relationship development I've seen in any form of media is in 'the dragon prince'. That shit ruins me. I wouldn't say I'm a hardcore demiromantic though, I still _can_ get crushes, in a way.. But they're weird, 'cause I feel attraction of some kind but it doesn't feel justified since I don't know them yet. So it's probably mostly visual/some-form-of-sexual attraction. Although when I see someone new I'm visually attracted to and am around for a bit (like at a new school, or someone on public transport), I try to look for as much info on their personality instantly. My motto when it comes to being demi (if there is such a thing as a motto for being blablabla in this way), would be this: *I know to date, not date to know.* I find it weird that so many people start getting romantically involved (aka start dating) to get to know the other person. I mean... that's how breakups happen, how can you get romantic with someone you don't really fully know yet? I _need_ that friendship to be there, on all levels, both casual and serious. Shame is: I've never really had that. Ever. Being demi with social (and a shit ton of others) anxiety is a bitch. (I know I'm probably talking/explaining things to myself again that I already know 'cause.. it's me, duh. But if someone reads this and can sympathize or feel understood in any way...)

[@mr_jack22222]

Lets go all my fellow demigods

[@PB-eh8ib]

YOOOOOOOOOOOO YEYEYEYEYEYEYEYEYYEYEYEYEYEYEEYYEYEYEYEYEYYEYEYEYEYYEYEYEYEYY

[@wildwolf3860]

🖤🤍💚🩶 🖤🤍💜🩶

[@Bucky_Fierro818]

1:00 It would make alot of sense for me to be a demigod cause my dad is aromantic and my mum is just straight so therefore I am a demigod

[@lizziej7723]

demiromantic pride whoo!

[@sappho9786]

I love these do you think you could do Biromantic tik toks not sure if there is enough tik toks about it. but if there is could you?

[@mysterykittymeow9636]

I have a question about being demiromantic, is it possible to be demiromantic and have crushes of fictional characters? Cuz I've been questioning my romantic identity recently and demiromantic might be a label I identify with

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

Fictional characters absolutely do not count in terms of romantic attraction because they don't exist. Straight men can simp for fictional men and still be straight, etc, etc.

[@adumbweeb]

Is there a demisexual TikTok compilation on this channel?

[@bman14117]

8:43 Hold up.. am I demiromantic or grey-aromatic???

[@sabrinaclarus6290]

Why not try normal for a change??

[@bman14117]

@@sabrinaclarus6290 wdym?

[@sabrinaclarus6290]

@@bman14117 At least the word "normal" is an actual thing!!

[@bman14117]

@@sabrinaclarus6290 I still don't get it...

[@sabrinaclarus6290]

@@bman14117 Of course you don't...! You see "normal" is an actual word,a word that society uses, a word with an actual meaning.The words your rainbow colored friends are using are made up, fake, meaningless letters put together in a desperate attempt to describe weird,dysfunctional emotions...!!

[@enolp]

Idk if I’m demi or not because my autistic butt doesn’t feel actual deep connection with anyone yet so I just call myself gray-aroace because that’s just my best guess honestly 💀

[@laiclaro9100]

I love those aro tiktoks, but PLEASE, bi is not only attraction to men and women.

[@Ahoomora]

Could you do grayromantic?

[@mistine5595]

Hey, am I valid for being Demiromantic ( my current label as I had mistaken myself as an Aegoromantic) and straight? Some people say it's attention seeking :(

[@Eklensjd8654]

Yeah that's super cool!!!

[@justarandominternetuser4694]

I'm in the same boat and that's the exact reason why I haven't come out to anybody yet, lol But yes, you are very valid!

[@bendemare5270]

9:25 aros who don't get romantic can be in qprs too

[@Y0ur_l0cal_gh0st]

6:40 I wonder if they have any genderfaun or trans characters

[@cr4zy_br4t60]

I'm sorry but you forgot day 23!

[@ellabella001]

Read the pinned comment on my demi boy video

[@urfavpooks.daniii]

QUESTION! Can you be Demisexual/Demiromantic AND lesbian? Because I’m a lesbian and Demisexual/Demiromantic

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

Yes, you can! Demi-aroace people still feel *some* secondary attraction and if you're a woman whose attraction is toward women, you are a demi-aroace lesbian.

[@EllaBellaSmellaGood]

I don't know if anyone is going to answer but I feel like I am aroace I just might be able to have romantic attraction but I need an emotional bond but not just after that. I might be demi romantic but the description just doesn't fit, I might be greysexual instead. Both of these definitions combined sounds like me, can I be both? Edit: I mean grey romantic or whatever

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

Demiromantic is a micro-label under the 'grayromantic' spectrum. So yes, you can call yourself that.

[@stvsmbb]

okay genuine inquiry for anyone willing to interact! i really don’t mean to come off as aggressive or judgemental or anything, but isn’t demiromantic just… average? like demisexual i understand to some extent, but isn’t the entire concept of a romantic relationship INHERENTLY built on an emotional connection? like is there any difference between a cisgender heterosexual demiromantic person and a totally cishet non-lgbt person? thanks!

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

Here's the difference between the norm and demiromantic people. There are 3 types of basic attraction. Primary, secondary, and tertiary. I won't go into tertiary attraction here because in this case, it's irrelevant to our discussion. Primary attraction is attraction based off of easily available information - looks, smell, etc. It requires very little time, and is more based on first impressions and/or physical features. Secondary attraction is attraction that is based on the relationship/emotional connection with another person, and typically develops over longer periods of time. It is more based on the knowledge of a personality and/or shared experiences. People who are alloromantic (AKA, the norm, most people in the world) feel primary attraction. See, demiromantic/demisexual people *are unable* to feel primary attraction. They can only feel secondary attraction. That's the difference. It's not about preference, it's about the literal ability to feel a feeling, when, and how. Hope that clears it up!

[@Fightclub-x4g]

Wait do demi romantic people not understand the love at first sight thing? like as a kid when they saw those cheesy scenes in kids movies and a boy saw a girl walking down a staircase with a dress and fell in love immeadetly or like time slowed and saxophone music played lmao did you guys not get that

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

I thought the whole 'love at first sight' thing was a fictional concept made up for media😂.

[@santosu1606]

Hey there! Lately I've been questioning if I could be demiromantic. I am pretty sure I am allosexual, having sexual relations with someone I like even if a stranger would be cool, but the romantic aspect is still a bit... Confused? I've had a feel crushes in my life, and 90% of then happened with friends (one of then being with someone I coexisted but only talked once, and I'm not even sure it WAS a crush(?)). I thought that was just a "me thing", but now a seed of doubt is growing. Like, usually I only have a crush after I connect in some way to the person, even if we are not really friends yet. For example, one girl says something nice and we have a cool conversation, and now all of suden a girl I had no interest in became a little crush. Like... Am I just the average "needy lonely guy falls in love with the first girl to show affection"??? Or could I really be demiromantic? Also, my first girlfriend was a friend that I had for 4 freaking years before actually realizing a crush out of nowhere. If any demi romantics fellas could give an opinion, and say how the connection part works for you, I would really really appreciate! :)

[@-A_Tr4ns_B4guette-]

Im demi-romantic and I came out as aroace To my bestie a few months back٫ how do I come out as demi romantic after this. thats basically just confessing my crush

[@Katethebush00]

4:21 that’s not bisexuality that definition is obsolete

[@kahangeldragon5528]

I recently discovered that I’m Demiromantic so I’m aroace on a spectrum?

[@Paradigm-Shift208]

You're on the aroace spectrum if you're demiromantic + somewhere on the asexual spectrum, yeah!

[@chrissyswifey]

first!

[@cassgray9340]

WORD VOMIT WARNING: Finally came to terms with the fact that I’m asexual about a month ago - having questioned and denied it since I was like twelve - and through all that, I now strongly suspect I’m demi-romantic… Does anyone have thoughts? Because I re-examined my three crushes - in twenty-three years, not that necessarily makes one demi; two in my elementary school years and one as a teen nine years ago - and being a hetero-romantic ace, these were on three boys that I was close friends with at these differing times. I questioned if I was “more strongly” aro briefly a month ago bc of how few crushes I’ve had, but neglected to consider the spectrum. I dismissed aromanticism because when I HAVE had crushes they have been INTENSE: tummy butterflies, daydreaming, nonstop smiling and wanting to just be around them; the whole nine yards romantically. But these have been the only boys I was ever that close with, and I had crushes on them after getting to know their personalities, connecting with them and feeling safe with them- coincidence?? I’ve never had an experience of not knowing someone or being basically just an acquaintance with them and developing a crush on them. I DID have times as a kid where I convinced myself I had a “crush.” Like, in middle school, a lot of other people had crushes on these popular kids (they were a couple) and so I would observe and think like “Ah, he does have nice features I guess?? (but I don’t like his personality)” and “I REALLY love her hair (purple) it looks SO pretty with her skin tone.” So I was like OH, I have crushes on BOTH of them, but I didn’t really care for it and would just as soon forget their existence until I saw them again. But I realized in my ace journey about aesthetic attraction (I thought I as bi/pan for a bit and had two failed l relationships with girls.) 😭😭 So anyway, I’ve never had a love/romantic crush-at-first-sight or from afar experience. Genuinely, could not relate to or really understand friends and peers being boy or girl-crazy, or date-crazy, or having crushes, especially on RANDOM people. Aside from not finding people sexually appealing, even if they were objectively aesthetic to me, I’ve gone most of my life without genuine crushes. I used to lowkey think I was more mature or self-controlled 😭😭 I might admire someone for being pretty - which doesn’t really make a difference for me, in terms of me developing crushes; if I didn’t find them aesthetic before, I come to find them cute later - or think that they’re kind of nice or okay in a platonic way - but I won’t have any urge to get in a relationship with them, without knowing them. But another one of the reasons I used to think I was bi/pan was because I feel platonic love for friends SO strongly. I think it’s kind of like how I’ve heard some other ace and aro people describe “squishes.” But an outlier I have is there have been a couple times I developed like some kind of brief hyper-fixation on a celebrity as a teen. I found them cute and thought they had a likeable personality; I would admire traits like how artistic or goofy they were, or I liked how they dressed very different - and maybe it’s just moreso that I related to their interests or wanted to be more like them + a slight aesthetic attraction? Was it even a romantic crush? These were people I watched videos of; like they’d talk to the camera as a viewer, and so it kind of felt more like I KNEW them than I was observing them from afar. And now when I think back on it, I wonder if I had actually been presented with an opportunity to actually date them back then… I think that probably would have freaked me out and forced me to realize I didn’t want any kind of realized romantic intimacy; the idea freaks me out NOW anyway.

[@renth3m]

all of these labels… cupio demi lesbian ;-;

[@noTgoodm0m]

IS. NOT. VALID. (or is it?)

[@OhWowHow]

bisexuality isn't js attraction to male and female. it's attraction to 2, maybe 3, genders in the entire spectrum of genders. but idk. i am attracted to both m and f, but other people out there could be attracted to 2 completely dif. genders. :)

[@redtailarts101]

Online dating isn't actually that hard. I can hardly speak to people irl for friendly talk. Online is easier. I felt I really got to know my long distance girlfriend after we were friends for a year and a half. If you meant dating apps, that's a whole different story.

[@hangezoesfeet]

You aren't wrong with it not being hard to start but it IS hard maintaining I've had 2 years of long distance and broke up weeks ago because of few communication

[@redtailarts101]

@@hangezoesfeet Oh, well I haven't had that problem. We talk almost every day, despite a massive timezone difference. Maybe that's because I have a lot of free time though.

[@leme3503]

I may be weird (aren't we all but), this might be a weird take but eh: coming out as demi? really? I don't feel like it's that big of a deal. I've known multiple people to just respond with "oh, isn't everyone like that?" (they obviously don't mean 'everyone', but y'know..) It just feels weird that you would be 'coming out' as if it's as impactful as coming out as gay, trans or non-binary. Then again, I don't even feel like this is really that much part of lgbtq in the same way for the same reasons, so maybe I'm just weird. And hey, everything has different impacts on everyone, so... y'all do y'all I guess?