Elliott Smith - Alameda (from Either/Or)

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Check out this rare live footage of Elliott's 1999 New Year's Eve performance at The Knitting Factory: kzbin.info/aero/PL6KwzgIePF4Dy7347Om6Ijcsr4vh6JJjP

[@johnnihil1689]

I didn't know there was an expanded version of Either Or until just now

[@nickolasmuilaert78]

What I love about this song is that he not only creates an image with his lyrics, but the whole rhythm of the song makes me feel like I’m walking down Alameda.

[@ismaelgarrido1719]

I heared this while I was walking through the Alameda of Santiago de Chile 🇨🇱 . Xoxo elliott fans around the world

[@monklingtoneverjet2536]

Xoxo@@ismaelgarrido1719

[@teenagecaveman881]

Alameda is the rich neighborhood in NE Portland…huge palatial homes, and just a few blocks from old Alberta district….the hood in those days

[@percussi0ngun]

elliott has the kind of voice you want to hug

[@shilothorp8691]

I like to say I wish I could fill a bathtub up with his voice and soak for a few years

[@monklingtoneverjet2536]

I get orbs in this room when listening to his music

[@juliocarpio9436]

Its like au 1:25 when he says " finish what you start" the next verse inturrupts and it says "what you sta-" genius...

[@mruf01]

one of many symbols in his music... awesome.

[@rbkbala30]

Damn, I've noticed it so many times before but could never connect!

[@유진-l5d5f]

i noticed that too!

[@annabelapurva-madhuri4861]

Love this part

[@rodrigo354]

The last line of this song kills me every time.

[@brianthompson6744]

Your music changed my life. Gave me hope when I had none. And most importantly helped me realize that I wasn't alone. That somebody had the same demons and hurdles. You helped me love myself. Thank you Elliott. Thank you so much

[@dreydreary3735]

Still struggling here, but Elliot and a few choice others have helped me love and accept myself and my struggles as they are. :)

[@lamashup2254]

Right on. That's spot on man cheers

[@kelvinchandler9524]

Dude your comment made me so happy. I'm glad someone feels the same way. Elliott Smith is literally my favorite music artist of all time. I'm happy that other people can share this amazing experience he left for us all to enjoy.

[@prometheus3396]

Almost cried in class reading this. Life just isn’t easy sometimes and puts a gun to your head after kicking your guts out your throat. Elliott always makes me feel better.

[@ktmtxt]

Goosebumps reading this. Love you all

[@GodInTheMachine]

This kid did not have ONE bad song. Not even a shitty chorus, much less a subpar bridge.

[@jayzalez5089]

totally agree, true musical artist. r.i.p

[@mickeyg8675]

right? never an off moment. ever

[@KitchenJames]

the last couple of songs on roman candle are not great imo. southern belle's kinda annoying to me. but even his songs that I don't really like have some sort of merit which is cool.

[@JoaoPedro-eh4wr]

i like that one, hah! King's Crossing is horrible to me

[@oddmuch6267]

Jame Dont ugh no

[@Danjoker.]

Songs like these are worth living for

[@c.c.s.1102]

I know exactly what you mean …

[@oddmuch6267]

1:25 The absence of space between lyrics there is perfect

[@wombaterror]

OddMuch I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed and appreciated that

[@jarrettthomas4865]

There is a big space there. A whole beat to be exact, but i know what you mean :)

[@davidboguzes9576]

Elliott. Miss you buddy. Depression is a fucking monster. Still heartbreaking all these years later. Xo

[@brandon1402]

hope ur okay

[@MaquiladoraIII]

Hang in there, mate.

[@lamashup2254]

Growing up in a crew who didn't run with this type of music I always felt out of place. You were a friend to me growing up elliot. Your words brought me outta depression and helped me grow up to be the man I am now married. And have a beautiful daughter . I will always remember taking the 3 metro rails and one bus to visit your Memorial mural in west LA. I wrote my thanks on the wall. . Bless you for the wisdom

[@johannagustavsson9829]

❤️

[@youdbettertube]

​@tito2133maps.app.goo.gl/h4KyT5VPRwpdC9CDA

[@clairescates4270]

Everytime I hear this, it's summer all over again, I'm alone in my room, perfectly content in my own sadness. He really did sing to my soul... RIP sweet Elliot

[@Poodledoodle42]

Claire Scates Omg same! I think of my lonely summer when i listen to Elliott smith. I'd hit my juul in my room and listen to his music. ♡

[@LeeKav]

How the fuck did Hitler fan boys end up here? Just because he loved art, doesn't mean he would automatically like this. 1. The joke was that disliking this was tantamount to the evil of Hitler. 2. Hitler banned all kinds of music you fucking ignorant ass Nazi's.

[@DaHatBat]

Same here. This album in particular reminds me so much of summer of 2019.

[@claudiomargheri2087]

It's so strange cause to me i tend to associate this particular song to the month of december 2021 thus in general to wintertime, but thats just a place in my mind

[@Jaek771]

he’s literally singing lullaby to us.. may he rip 😢

[@TheDonovanMcCormick]

Nobody broke your heart, you broke your own. That is why I’ll always love him.

[@roiybenkel682]

You walk down alameda shuffling your deck Of trick cards over everyone Like some precious only son Face down, bow to the champion You walk down alameda looking at the Cracks in the sidewalk Thinking about your friends How you maintain all them in a constant state of suspense For your own protection over their affection Nobody broke your heart You broke your own because you can't finish what you start Walk down alameda brushing off the nightmare you wish Could plague me when I'm awake And now you see your first mistake was thinking that you could relate For one or two minutes she liked you But the fix is in You're all pretension I never pay attention Nobody broke your heart You broke your own because you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart You broke your own because you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart You broke your own because you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart If you're alone it must be you that wants to be apart

[@Fenelope_Vendivic]

People like you. Thank you, so much.

[@sarahoshea9603]

The only line I think is off is: Instead of: Your all pretension I think it's: Your prediction ...I never pay attention, etc.

[@Alaspooryorick98]

The lyrics are right.

[@claudiomargheri2087]

@@sarahoshea9603 Your own protection i've always known

[@baddestjoanna-michellesmit5578]

Deep

[@SullyDunn]

So this is quite a track for the unresolved soul

[@mickeyg8675]

+Sullivan Dunn awesome

[@ericshoff6326]

"if you're alone it must be you that wants to be apart" Thats a nasty line, because its generally true.

[@marcellussantos9588]

The way the base comes in at 1:30. Small trick, big magic. Than you Elliott, see you on the other side.

[@bakedbrownie69]

Damn I didn't even notice! It all just kinda melted together

[@awkwardme5375]

I think (I may be wrong) that he recorded most of his own bass tracks. Especially on his final album. He was a drummer as well as a bassist, pianist, and guitarist. Hell, he probably played other instruments as well. Guitarists make the best bassists.

[@sarahdara1982]

Totally agree, that instant when the bass starts has always given me goosebumps.

[@MaquiladoraIII]

And the electric guitar arpeggio in the chorus. Amazing.

[@regzzuse280]

Lyrics seem so cryptic, but somehow the message is very clear.

[@user-zq5dq2ku3h]

what's the message?

[@platotle2106]

Yeah what is it?

[@regzzuse280]

@@platotle2106 Getting over your ego: "You walk down alameda shuffling your deck of trick cards over everyone Like some precious only son" Realizing it brings you more bad then good for simply feeling quickly disappearing facade of pride, which serves you as a defense mechanism: "You walk down alameda looking at the cracks in the sidewalk Thinking about your friends How you maintain all them in a constant state of suspense" "For one or two minutes she liked you But the fix is in You're all pretension I never pay attention" And eventually facing the reality: "Nobody broke your heart You broke your own because you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart If you're alone it must be you that wants to be apart." In my opinion I should say...probably mixed with Elliot's addiction that luckily, I can't relate to.

[@concars1234]

@@user-zq5dq2ku3h It's about self-sabotage at the core, I think

[@megacluckcluck2302]

@@regzzuse280 its about self hatred, specifically adhd frustration

[@BowEchoGo]

Eliott Smith has a place in my heart no one can replace. He has gotten me through life and I always come back to him like a warm blanket of comfort music. This song is one of those songs. I swear if I ever have a daughter, I would name her Alameda hands down. thank you elliott for being alive and spreading such happiness through your music.

[@Pandalicious86]

Actually he isn't alive...

[@jessica-fcm]

I'm going to tattoo it :) "Alameda" on my wrist

[@BowEchoGo]

Madi Guith gee thanks because i didnt get the memo or read the gossip stories about the knife in the heart etc etc..... real good one there buddy hurhur

[@limitlist]

Can we have a daughter and name her Alameda? hurhurhur

[@limitlist]

harmonicsa In all seriousness though I've always thought Elliott's life would make a great novel. Throw some fiction in there and you got a bestseller. (you wouldn't even need the fiction)

[@logwind]

I always liked the hollow sounding snare in this.

[@concars1234]

Perfect for riding the bus home late at night, or else gloomily walking around your neighbourhood while smoking a joint.

[@concars1234]

@@Airdog456 I'm off the pandemic type vibe

[@prettyhamburger6462]

I can see it

[@matthewsolina4920]

Perfect soundtrack to polishing off a bottle of vodka by myself under the bridge at 3:00 A.M.

[@rodrigo354]

I walked in the rain with this song on repeat on my iPod for about 5 miles one day. Walked from downtown where I live back to my house. It was a good walk.

[@YinkThePinkInkDrinker]

Perfect for shooting up heroin while stowing away in a boxcar that’s traveling through the Colorado mountains.

[@robmaddison8645]

Possibly my favourite song ever. Was a 90's kid who heard Nevermind and The Bends fresh. Still this is astonishing for a one man band.

[@SullyDunn]

I may have listened to this song over 100 times in the past 3 months I would not doubt it. There's something about it that I need, its my fix

[@joshuaanderson2185]

😂lol

[@knuckle12356]

Well, that and heroin.

[@katiepreacher]

If you're alone, it must be you that wants to be apart.

[@buddypowe]

this comment confuses me

[@awesomeianmarco]

@@buddypowe I guess it relates to introverted persona, which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

[@paulina3493]

@@awesomeianmarco being alone is observe the world in another plane

[@herbertrichard614]

Yes, I live alone, always have, and prefer it. Not a misanthrope just tend to feel better when people aren't around. Such delicate beings. One word misplaced may never be revoked. Just a slow piling up.

[@MattCelf]

Love the drums on this one, nothing fancy, just solid.

[@edpoe1108]

And the wet snare sound has just the right amount of punch for the backbeat here. The drums always stood out to me too, it just suits the song so well.

[@coryreas3606]

brutal honesty translates in true art and it can open up the doors to creativity. if you open your eyes to the beauty and the horror in life you develop an appreciation for both. with that said it has a price especially if you are a good person who genuinely cares. to me, elliott smith's songs capture moods and they all make me happy because they are beautiful and they remind me that there are good people in the world. and for the rest ... your own pretension i never pay attention.

[@SuttonSantiniPaulo]

Idk why but i always listen to this the most during the holidays. It has a fall/winter feeling and it keeps me warm.

[@morriskaller3549]

I always go on holiday to somewhere warm. I have enough cold weather where I live already

[@MinkytheMinkY]

I've often focused on the sadness of his songs and related. nobody but him understood me. never quite understanding how folks mention him as their saving grace. Ten years later, I understand. in the same songs in which despairs he pushes back on those same hang ups, never quite allowing those thoughts defeat him. I wasn't ready to hear the hope in the same sounds. I am ready now.

[@joshbaino3087]

I hope I can come to that point. In terms of songwriters he was one of the best but recently I've been finding it hard to appreciate his music. Before, it would be melancholy and introspective, but now it sometimes just fills me with dread. I think it's because of his tragic ending, his songs are filled with sadness and he either succumbed to it or was murdered despite doing nothing wrong.

[@YinkThePinkInkDrinker]

“Nobody but him understood me” he never knew you.

[@brooket8243]

Favorite Elliott song

[@Danjoker.]

Thank you Elliot

[@oscardavidfigueroa432]

The song is about someone who walks down Alameda and reflects on their life and relationships. The narrator describes this person as shuffling their deck of trick cards, suggesting that they use manipulation or deceit to get what they want from others. The person is depicted as a "precious only son" who thinks highly of themselves, but in reality they are the cause of their own heartbreak. The narrator notes that the person is always thinking about their friends, but also maintains a constant state of suspense with them for their own protection. The person thinks that nobody has broken their heart, but the narrator disagrees, saying that they broke their own heart because they can't finish what they start. The narrator also mentions that the person brushes off their nightmares, but the narrator still experiences them, suggesting that the person's actions have a negative impact on those around them. The narrator states that the person's first mistake was thinking that they could relate to others and that for a short time someone liked them, but now they are just pretentious and the narrator pays no attention to them. In the end, the narrator suggests that the person's loneliness is by their own choice and that they want to be apart from others.

[@kazzz2765]

is this chat gpt

[@igorsanmartin7654]

one of the best memories I have, is from the time when I listen to Elliott in my headphones while walking the streets at night. I quit smoke about 5 years ago.

[@neverboardofgaming]

A true visionary singer songwriter, to this day it makes me miserable that he had to pass so soon. RIP Elliott Peace &. Love

[@mule3743]

Always find my way back to Elliot this time of year

[@Nana-ahh]

right to the soul

[@TarrinKael]

This always reminds me of simpler times when we used to get high on dope and think about life. Now a lot of these friends are gone and me - I'm still here, with almost 2 years of sobriety, but don't I wish every day to just go back and live what Elliot Smith wrote about...The epitome of talent and loneliness, this guy's art was.

[@고등어-k2p]

2021 in South Korea, Still Miss you!

[@emera1750]

Sending love to all Elliot Smith fans From Little Havana Florida with smiles 😊 never give up guy's I know these times can be dark!!

[@kemchobhenchod]

Goes through my mind's ear every time I drive past the exit.

[@batscatsrats]

thee greatest song of ALL TIME

[@Iznessmaurer]

To me, the melody of the verses embody a wonky perspective and walk... "down Alameda" that I adore.

[@marone0324]

I really love the grunge style he uses with the low acoustic base notes. He's the only guy who reminds me of modern Nick Drake / Neil Young

[@jlouis4407]

This should have been a huge hit

[@blakebrown3538]

Possibly his best lyrical content. Relates so universally. Miss the man

[@sietevolta]

You walk down Alameda looking at the cracks in the sidewalk. What a great song!.

[@elnura986]

Love you Elliot. Never forgotten

[@DylanEichenbergTahoe]

One of my favorite songs by him. So original and unique.

[@ben3438]

I really can never finish what I start.

[@CoReaderz]

at least you finished this sente

[@Keiran19]

Yeah, me t-

[@brandon1402]

how can i fix this

[@Anthony-kp7sf]

elliott is one of the few people who has whatever magic it is that these kind of people have. this man was speaking for so many people.

[@Toxeensynth]

When I first heard this song I really didn't like it. Not even 2 seconds in I would change it. Now I can't stop listening to it. Elliott was an incredible songwriter.

[@CptCool-xt8ht]

One of the greatest intros of all time. Elliott, you are missed. ❤

[@adamdalessandro1236]

People only see the sadness in many of his songs, when the melodies and chord changes paint a different picture

[@johannesjuanes]

What a superb artist. i m impressed I ve just discovered this artist.He s like syd Barret ,or Lennon, a genius.

[@sofiasabbi9846]

É impossível enjoar dessa música

[@axisares]

Good for all occasions...each song has a lyric that every ear can relate to and every chord is unbroken like something new--pure genius.

[@HailToMajesty1]

WOW! Whatta song!

[@devontowgood9183]

I could feel that walk in its inevitability, and there's a groove like a fish swimming - freedom and tranquility. It feels like it's on the edge of a brutal consequence, escaping, there should still be hope, but something else might be inevitable... either way, he's not waiting around here.

[@jeffw2004]

A girl played this for me once about three years ago, deep into an all night session of music and philosophical conversation, like we always used to do so often. I didn't get the message until now. She was always there for me through everything. I've been a huge fool. Sometimes, the best thing for you has always been right in front of you, but you blind yourself to it. I'm fortunate that we're still in each other's lives.

[@clairescates4270]

You didn't see it then, you see it now, that's the most important thing. A truly beautiful track.

[@Rackatiakka]

+Claire Scates Amen

[@waz3128]

I'm waiting for the day when the girl who's heart I broke dedicates this song to me. This would mean that she finally understands me.

[@armandobarrera2660]

Jeff Wrubel Go get her back

[@YinkThePinkInkDrinker]

@@waz3128 Jesus Christ I hope you never find love based off this comment alone. You sound like a lame ass incel

[@davidtodora6173]

This is such a beautiful song. Very melodic and haunting too. R IP Elliot

[@Cragiesea]

I miss you Elliott, you were so much more Beatiful then you ever felt. We Love you always.

[@sumayyahazhar5954]

you broke your own because you can't finish what you sta-

[@stegbo]

“Walk down Alameda...”

[@radioactive_p1ssy.boy.]

Rwalking down alameda

[@squeeze1778]

The amount of pain is unbearable

[@allengoyne]

Vocals overdubbed so beautifully LC is a boss and so sad the loss.

[@simplyumut]

alameda recommended from a friend which I love pretty much. thanks rain, your existence makes me happy and be safe. ❤

[@debbielynn6291]

Omg. American Rust brought me here but recognizing good music did, too. I luv luv the blends. ...harmonies....guitar. So good

[@jennifershurbet8322]

Face down.. Bow to the champion.. Elliott you were the champion.😘😘😘😘

[@verzaeriso]

I really can never finish what i

[@redbullattic]

I SEE WHAT YOU DID THERE.

[@antoniovelasco2637]

It took me a few seconds to catch that

[@wolvesetc]

I wish I could meet someone in real life and after knowing them for a few weeks discover that they love this song as much as I do. This one and/or pitseleh.

[@jamesheath7601]

Greatest musician ever

[@asaantoine9485]

JAMES MY GUY

[@shupamelapijaboludo]

I feel strongly related to this song, that should be sad but it actually makes me feel a little bit happier.

[@jamesupton5601]

Maybe it's the new version, but I never heard those backing vocals this clearly before.

[@SPARKLEDAZEY]

I find myself rediscovering my absolute love and admiration for Elliott Smith each time I'm currently unhappy in a relationship.

[@popigloo]

In portland , we name songs after love...and streets🌹

[@MrMastrsushi]

If you listen carefully, especially with headphones, there's a nice reggae dub thing baked underneath.

[@ceciliamarques7832]

It's true wow

[@BOGGSY222]

oh shit like an organ somewhere in the mid-range? the split second I read this comment I feel like I heard it for the first time

[@KleWdSide]

I grew up about a mile away from the Alameda neighborhood in PDX.

[@claudiaacaso2340]

Must be amazing being capable to play the guitar like this....

[@bruna19982]

Mi puto himno del año, arte puro Elliott, tú fuiste un verdadero artista

[@willbaska]

Either/Or, Pinkerton, In The Aeroplane Over The Sea = Bliss for the harmed soul.

[@mightright4u]

love this * air hugs * keep being awesome

[@Valness11]

in my imagination of what and who elliott was, i've always thought this song to be autobiographical.

[@antoniovelasco2637]

he used to hate that ppl thought that his songs were talking about himself

[@antoniovelasco2637]

he once said that that would basically mean that he has a lot of troubles which wasn´t true

[@kirkprospector4958]

@@antoniovelasco2637 kind of crazy if you think the man didn't have a lot of troubles. Not saying every or any of these songs are really about him, but his struggles with substance abuse and depression are very real.

[@antoniovelasco2637]

I know he had problems of his own like everyone and maybe a little bit more, he suffered from deppression which led him to an heroin addiction, but the most of his songs weren't about him except for some

[@antoniovelasco2637]

Besides, i actually meant to quote that, what i said about him hating that ppl thought all his songs were about him was something himself said

[@ThunderBullitt]

RIP brother

[@ab-ly6yg]

happy birthday my friend

[@karstenewald5324]

oh wow

[@jeremiahmahoney1970]

Never felt alone when I hear Elliott singing. Two peas in a pod.

[@huntertothee]

If you're alone it must be you that wants to be apart

[@izaakdaviddiggs]

Everyone talks about Steven as some great musician, which he was, but he's also one of my favorite lyricists. They're both highly literate and highly original. I am on the fence about the snare on this, though....should it have been dampened? Maybe the rawness of the snare is part of what makes the recording so good...

[@bluecloud6437]

nah it's annoying

[@fede-tk3rm]

"For one or two minutes she liked you" fuck.

[@MiguelGonzalez-vz6qi]

It's all about humbling yourself thru brutal sel-reflection.

[@umutbaydarumut5478]

amazing...

[@hungryjunper]

Yeah!!

[@xavieraguirre5871]

What can i say, perfection. THE RAIN DOGS r coming

[@비정한세상]

you walk down alameda shuffling your deck of trick cards over everyone 무슨 소중한 외동아들이라도 되는것처럼 아무한테나 like some precious only son 속임수 카드한버을 섞어대며 가로수 길을 걷는 너 face down, bow to the champion 고개숙이거 챔피언에게 인사를 해야지 you walk down alameda looking at the cracks in the sidewalk 길가 보드에 갈라진 틈을 처다보며 가로수 길을 걷던 너는 thinking about your friends 친구들에 생각에 미친다 how you maintain all them 그들의 애정은 생각해주지도 않고 네 자신만 보호하기 위해 in a constant state of suspense 넌 그들 모두를 그 얼마나 끊임없이 애태우게 했던가 for your own protection over their affection 그 모든 애정 따윈 아랑곳 없이 너 자신만을 보호했지 nobody broke your heart 널 실연 시킨 사람은 아무도 없어 you broke your own because you can't finish what you start 넌 나한테 상처 입은 거지,왜냐면 넌 시작한 걸 제대로 끝내지 못하는 녀석이니까 walk down alameda brushing off the nightmare you wish 내가 깨어 있을때 나를 괴롭혔으면 하는 악몽을 could plague me when i'm awake 슥극 털어내며 가로수 길을 걷는너 and now you see your first mistake 이제 알겟지, 네 첫번쨰 실수는 was thinking that you could relate 네 스스로가 공감 할 수 있다고 생각한 거란걸 for one or two minutes she liked you 1분 아니면 2분 이나마 그녀는 널 좋아했었어 but the fix is in 하지만 약효는 곧 퍼지고 you're all pretension 넌 잘난체 덩어리 였지 i never pay attention 어차피 난 신경도 안썼지만 if you're alone it must be you that wants to be apart 네가 만약 혼자라면 그건 버림 받고 싶어하는게 바로 네 자신이기 때문이야

[@pandalilpig]

i read the first lines of this song for a creative writing class and the people seemed lost. thats just it, you either grasp Elliott or you dont (yet)

[@sunnydforfree7145]

lol my people pleasing anthem. Thanks Elliott

[@voioo]

reminds me of skipping school and walking through central park at the death of winter

[@Gabe_Ghostlifts]

Same

[@baskaldrandizelere8747]

i love this song(:

[@shytownstatic1447]

I guess Em-C-G. And a run on then g a b c d c a. Play with the open E and A I guess for the riff. Beautiful song. I think about new york city like he might have.

[@generalmalaise2930]

if you're alone then it must be you who wants to be apart

[@snowydove6510]

He always understands me when I’m sad it’s safe to play elliott

[@SmilePls666]

You walk down Alameda shuffling your deck of trick cards over everyone Like some precious only son Face down, bow to the champion You walk down Alameda looking at the cracks in the sidewalk, thinking about your friends How you maintain all them in a constant set of suspense For your own protection, over their affection Nobody broke your heart You broke your own 'cos you can't finish what you start Walk down Alameda brushing off the nightmares you wish could plague me when I'm awake So now you see your first mistake was thinking that you could relate For one or two minutes she liked you But the fix is in You're all pretension, I never pay attention Nobody broke your heart You broke your own 'cos you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart You broke your own 'cos you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart You broke your own 'cos you can't finish what you start Nobody broke your heart If you're alone, it must be you that wants to be apart