TOXIC FILIPINO CULTURE? Filipinos Talk Smart Shaming, Cancel Culture, Utang Na Loob! | EL's Planet

[@elsplanet]

What do you personally think is the most toxic Filipino trait? 🤔

[@Toolbox12-y1p]

1. Magnanakaw like corrupt politicians 2. Colonial mentality 3. Parents making their anak their retirement plan. Burdensome to their kids happiness and future

[@JoshuaAlto]

1.) Toxic Positivity 2.) Stealing 3.) Smart-Shaming 4.) Colonial Crab Mentality 5.) Comparison Culture

[@carlobunagan6681]

​@@Toolbox12-y1pthats the most toxic, the retirement plan is the most stupid

[@kharessaacaylar2848]

Utang na loob. Feel ko obligated na ako pakainin pamilya nila. Tiring kasi i also need to save money for myself, for my future.

[@Toolbox12-y1p]

@@kharessaacaylar2848 yes teh self first mabuti iyan

[@乃-v8g]

I feel like I'm witnessing the toxicity in Filipino culture on the comment section

[@archv_d.n]

I saw one abt bodyshaming..... IT'S SICK 💀

[@revyrain7]

re: comparing children with other children. this one really made a great impact on me negatively growing up. You are getting compared to someone that has a different environment, starting point, and even support may it be financial or emotional support. I started to rebel and started to compare my parents and siblings to others (well not verbally). Like why is it only I that is getting compared? You raised me and wanted me to excel at stuff since other people excel at it. But when I started to try and even pursue what I wanted or what I was good at, all I got were words of discouragement since it was an additional expense or I should spend my time doing chores since they were busy working. Like I don't know anymore. I know what I should do but it's hard when the family, including relatives, tells you there's no use in trying or that you can't make it since a, b, c, etc... is way better than you.

[@truetigress8401]

This is what gives me hope in our younger generations...Even in other countries, teenagers can SEE what problems need to be fixed in our societies rather than fall pray to the same mentality as what our parents taught us. Each generation learns from the ones before. It's okay to think "outside the box" because that's where ALL the best ideas are found! :) Love and Light!! :)

[@Beastmode-x7x]

yeah generation of snowflakes and whiners . they want to normalize everything that subnormal

[@MisconceivedPancit]

There will always.....be a percentage who bow to using ethnic discrimination within their culture...to put the answer directly. Don't hold your breath to think any future generations will be better.

[@letty.68]

I like this topics so much and it's very important to be talked about. I'm glad the current generation is more aware and open-minded to fix it and hopefully in the coming years we would be able to change or break the toxic culture in our country

[@wintersojourn9356]

The crab mentality “trait” reminded me of the teaching re: the 7 Deadly Sins & their “remedies”. It is an old teaching. I see the main root of crab mentality as envy & insecurity/lack of self esteem or confidence. Oversimplified, but I think it applies a lot of the time. The traditional remedy that was taught in my day to combat envy was 2-fold: 1-gratitude for one’s blessings & 2-ability to admire & appreciate others’ talents & gifts. I don’t know if envy is more prevalent in Philippine culture, I don’t have the data or experience to have a strong opinion, but envy is universal & we will never eradicate it. Maybe we can lessen its prevalence, but people have to recognize the fault in themselves & be motivated to change. & even recognizing it in our selves is difficult sometimes, even when one has dealt with it over long lives. I think all we can do is teach our children what envy is & how it can lead us to wish to tear others down, it is comforting; but that there are more efficient & satisfying comforts. & also try to teach them the 2 remedies of recognizing their own blessings & how to appreciate & admire others (preferably admire their good actions & traits & blessings; not just their looks or riches - but those aren’t bad they are blessings too-just not the ONLY blessings). Like the song lyrics: 🎶🎵”teach your children well”& keep striving one’s self

[@chupisto2788]

Lack of discipline is worst. Let us all be disciplined just like the Singaporeans.

[@bilditmuzzi]

for me these kinds of toxic cultures that discussed in your vlog is a way for individual filipino to manage his/her temper for different situation like those. and we may say that the best culture of us being Filipino is seeing best things in every bad situations.😊

[@Flygonian]

I totally get the whole utang na loob thing. My mom has always treated me as the black sheep, and now she’s asking me to repay her for everything she bought for me as a baby. She’s also demanding that I take care of her when she’s older, but she’s always yelling at me. I told her, sarcastically, that if she wants me to help her when she’s old, she should start being nicer to me.

[@henrichramirez6381]

This is such an underrated video it should reach more people specially mga oldies and thunders

[@nickkswift]

Toxic Filipino culture list 1.) Nanguutang hindi nagbabayad. 2.) mga marites 3.) inggitero at inggitera 4.) utang na loob or yung mindset na “if i give you something, you have to give something back” 5.) bodyshaming 6.) shaming someone for their sexuality; making snide jokes kapag LGBT ka. 7.) “anak lang kita” / “kung hindi dahil sa akin” 8.) Lateness 9.) mayabang; handang mamulubi, maka lifestyle lang 10.) colonial mentality 11.) parasite / umaasa na lang sa tulong nang iba, hindi tinutulugan ang sarili. And more… Im not generalising. These are just some of the themes/behaviours Ive seen/experienced from some people

[@janizeparedes7139]

“Utang na loob” in various forms exist in almost all cultures globally. This maybe a trait of being human and not just unique to Filipinos?

[@bookishbutterfly]

The body shaming needs to end, honestly! Beauty comes in various shapes, sizes, and colors.

[@Beastmode-x7x]

yes beauty is important ignore high fat on tummy, high cholesterol, heart attack and obesity LOL

[@bookishbutterfly]

@@Beastmode-x7x I hope you aren't so insecure you feel the need to hide your face, yet you're comfortable with people commenting on others' bodies. You never know what life people live. Be blessed and maybe get out more 🙂

[@Beastmode-x7x]

@@bookishbutterfly same to you hope someday ull get thin

[@gmiyadole]

​@@bookishbutterfly but how is a person "insecure" if that person just stated the negative aspects of being fat?

[@roioroior]

@@Beastmode-x7x​​⁠​⁠it seems like ur idea of plus size is ‘obesity’ which is unhealthy and should not be promoted but you should know that our body is not tied to just ‘fit’ and ‘obese’ there’s a lot of body types in between.

[@leob4645]

Another observation I've made is that many Filipinos feel it's acceptable to ask intrusive questions, kahit na noon ko lang nakakilala ang tao or when that person is to provide customer service. Since I can look like a Hispanic nagpapanggap na lang ako and choose not to disclose that I am also Filipino as it can lead to subpar service otherwise. Moreover, when the one to provide the customer service is an elderly Filipino - they sometimes tend to think they have authority over you and not provide you such service that is being given to other customers. I wonder if incorporating these discussions into Social Studies classes in schools could help change this trend. It's an issue that's been ignored for far too long, like the elephant in the room.

[@batape1965]

There is smart shaming in the US too. The expression "so, you think you're better than me?!" get tossed around a lot.

[@TinaWestborn-rq9qy]

Where did Philos get their obsessions with the US?

[@lastsaint4162]

​@@TinaWestborn-rq9qy colonialism.

[@TinaWestborn-rq9qy]

@@lastsaint4162 Almost all of them want to move to the US but reject progress in their own country

[@sailorinthenight]

I'm not sure or maybe I just didn't notice before? But as far as I know, there's no 'cancel culture' before. But since, most people nowadays are on social media. And people heard that there was a int'l celeb most probably in SoKor, the filipinos adapt it too. Its like they think it is good when someone against to their stand or did something against their belief.

[@Bidyos238]

Also new toxic trait: Lying, sugar coating Fat it fat.

[@dr.quinnzel7284]

Honestly utang na loob gets a bad rep because it's gets linked to being stuck in toxic family dynamics but at its core it's all about giving back to those who treated you well. At its most non-toxic and genuine form it is just an expression of gratitude and love. It leads to the formation of various support systems. It doesn't have to resemble you sabotaging your adult finances to support your parents. It can come in the form of just driving them to the hospital when you have a car. So honestly even if utang na loob can be twisted to make us feel indebted to abusers(this goes for entities even outside of families) that doesn't mean we should negate the way that trait has served our communities.

[@lilybethmcgrath1280]

I commend your use of the English Language. Wow, just wow.

[@Shanver-b4k]

I agree to them kc since i was young the older people keep saying Utang na Loob all the time even a small thing na binjgay for a several yrs ago nasa isip parin nila un , Kahit ako tumulong sa sister i did not ask anything na makatangap ng kapalit its up to them tutal alam nman nila mga naitulong ko sa kanila thats all God knows i help them

[@Flygonian]

Also, that comparison toxic. Ang hirap talaga kpg lumaki ka sa mga magulang na hindi alam paano i-encourage at i-motivate yung mga anak nila na hindi sila kinokompare sa ibang tao. Nung nag-early adulthood na ako, I compare them to others to show them how it feels when someone does the same to you. Ang nararamdaman ko nung madalas akong i-compare sa ibang tao ko noon, is puro tampo, galit, kawalang ganang magseryoso sa pagaaral, lalong nad-downgrade, nawawalan rumespeto, nakakaumay.

[@jjholland6414]

It is a generational curse in a way. People goes to church and do not obey the commandments the reason why it is toxic. Gossip is a sin, meddling with ither personal business is a sin etc. etc. Jealousy, envy, arrogance are all sins.

[@lastsaint4162]

Religious people forcing their beliefs is TOXIC! we are a democratic nation not a theocratic dictatorship. People should stop saying the Philippines is a Christian nation as if we don't have a growing population of none believers to colonial cults and beliefs. 😒 And if you need a book to know not to do any of that then you are inherently not good.

[@CelsoCandor]

True, many of those people who call themselves religious, but don't act like one

[@imnsopher]

As someone who grew up hearing this, I disdain the comments for sure. But now I've become a tita (just around 30s), I catch myself saying this to the younger kids and close friends and fam. Although brutal, I find it more unempathetic to not point out and listen to their issues. We even sharing diet programs now. 😂 Truth is better than coddling to emotions.

[@chupisto2788]

Filipino Time is the worst of the worst! Let us all practice punctuality just like the Americans, Canadians, Australians, British and Japanese.

[@IslandStoo]

I agree, sadly many of your people have balut for brains

[@CelsoCandor]

Some people are proud of that toxic behaviour

[@zandelleabenes4563]

toxic ang mga magulang na asa lang sa mga anak ang responsibility na dapat sa kanila nila. toxic yong pagiging taismosa at pag sira ng kapwa.

[@laplue]

feeling ko yung pagsabi sakin ng kamag-anak ko na ang laki ko na kasi wala silang pang icebreaker... pero nauna body shaming, buset 🤣

[@MisconceivedPancit]

When I'm with a relative, other Filipinos tend to regard me like I'm 12yrs old ( I'm currently in my mid 40s ) 🙄. Maybe that's just towards me?

[@chilliwarzner1886]

A good to us even it is toxic Culture we are aware on that culture sometimes it is for them to get better and talking to this it's making funny topic when if you are open minded what are you going to do when it comes to disaster? Are you going sad because you did not do anything? Be a happy person think positive compare on negative there's always an answer in every problem. For me the toxic Culture of Pilipino When they using Social media you can't do wrong in social media you will get meme and famous in the internet you can't make mistake in social media 🤣🤣🤣

[@foreverriver4989]

Those toxicity they mentioned it happened to the world.

[@johnwicked4982]

kabataan ngayon ang tatapang and gustong labanan ang mga magulang pero 18+ na nakatira pa din sa parents nila. D kayang tumayo sa sariling paa. Pero kung umasta as if sila ang nagpalaki sa parents nila. 😂 Pang load lang dpa kayang bilhin at hingi sa magulang

[@sheenaperez0972]

Basta ang gusto ko kdrama hahaha..lahat ng bansa may toxic depende na lang yan kung masyadong dibdibin ng tao tapos ipinpoint nila kung saang bansa pinakatoxic😁

[@MariahNequit]

toxic people is everywhere especially filipino ,kng sino pa ung kapwa mo pinoy xa pa hihila sau pababa especially working abroad especially on group friends d mo maiwasan na mai ingitan d mo alam closed kau harap harapan pero pag ikaw uala sa grupo ikaw ang topics at siraan ka pa ,kaya lessson to learn much better na umiwas sa mga ganyang tao .....

[@thegagz]

Using your children as investment

[@czeianamiguel5543]

Plan b too but it counts as "investment" too ig

[@pv2639]

Littering in public like they have a personal maid following them around cleaning up their mess. Seriously the poor people there are making a case for themselves on why they remain poor.

[@lilybethmcgrath1280]

Wow, very observant. I am from the old generation and I am guilty. But kudos to you all. The one I really don't like is the" utang na loob forever" especially from your relatives. The worst is vote buying and crab mentality.

[@TheMostPwettyiestPwincess]

Wtf is the guy talking about crab mentality and Leni? The adage, "less talk ,less mistake" applies to him. We can go against each other on which leader to choose that will lead us to the same goal, and that is completely okay because that is the nature of politics and our constitutional right to suffrage.

[@keymonkey1230]

i guess non of these guys experience siga culture yet and the latest riding in tandem culture.

[@pv2639]

Did the place look like a squatters area to you? Learn your place in the world and stop assuming that what you experience is what everyone experiences 🙄

[@jacers14]

I don't get the one who correlated crab mentality to his political belief "that he paints the other side the evil ones, that the other side doesn't want the country to succeed". No matter the political belief of a person whether you perceive it as right or wrong, at it's core he/she wants a better country. Toxic trait: Too politically bias that people tend to forget to be kind and understand the other people's view whether it's right or wrong in their perception. Anyway I'm not gonna reply to any replies on this post cause it's just gonna create toxic discussions.

[@JhePuri-o7q]

yung hindi mo alam susuotin mo no choice kung hindi dark color dahil antaba mo tas pagdating mo sasalubong sayo" uyyy tumaba kahh...😂😂😂😂

[@arkitotoyz]

One toxic Filipino habit is mahilig kumain at matakaw. Every meal is more than 1 rice. Then may meryenda pa, and snacks in-between meals. Kung ayaw ma-body shame, wag kasi masyado matakaw. It's for your own good anyway. Eating too much leads to obesity, high blood pressure, heart attack, cancer, etc.

[@Toolbox12-y1p]

Hindi masama ang fat shaming kasi para sa kalusugan mo rin yun at para motivation na wag magpataba at maging healthy. Ang ibang asian countries rin ay ginagawa yun especially Korea at Japan.

[@Genkiooo]

Maganda yung message, yung sadya ng tao, Pero yung sinasabihan mo.. Ano nararamdaman nila?

[@Beastmode-x7x]

@@Genkiooo truth hurts anong naramdaman nila? edi milktea pa more

[@Genkiooo]

@@Beastmode-x7x Truth hurts nga, Truth is toxic ang mga Pinoy

[@johnvillanueva1375]

masama parin yun, body shaming is body shaming you could say it nicely to the person naman and if they said na they don't mind it nman you could just let them mind their own business like bffr, in short let them be, they decide what they wanted to do

[@fuckheinschitt239]

​​@@Beastmode-x7xisa ka sa halimbawa na Toxic Peenoise 😂 style palang ng argumento pinoy na pinoy.

[@Infinity08217]

Are Filipinos asian or Pacific Islander 🤔 please ask filipinos in the philippines 😏 48% Filipinos American born and raised in US claim they are pacific islander 😂

[@joshuajamessagritalo5906]

No we are not.. we are asian.. Although we look very similar to Pacific Islanders.. we are not part of that region.

[@answerman9933]

@Universeticket11. Where did you get the statistic that 48% of Filipinos Americans think they are Pacific Islander?

[@Michelle-sv2rf]

I'm filipino born in Canada proud of brown skin I think of being related Polynesians like pacific islanders. Though most filipinos prefer to look Chinese, Korean in skin color and Spanish facial features I see those people as "generic " . I believe Hawaiians and Philippines are related than the North East Asians.

[@sheenaperez0972]

One more thing..sa akin..mag anak ka na!! Matanda ka na! Nakaka offend pero masya lang ang life. Bahala sila diii sakyan ko na lang..hahahaha

[@cheezytoenail1328]

😂😂😂 bakit ba sasabihin na sexy ka kahit hindi .this generation of young onece are hypocrite. 😂😂😂 lol

[@cha646]

well, wala namang sinabi na magsunungaling ka diba? i think yung pinopoint out lang don is kung wala kang matinong sasabihin, keep your mouth shut nalang. 😊 cus honestly, commenting on someone else's body is unnecessary unless nanghingi ng opinyon mo yung tao pero kung hindi, why say something? 😅

[@cheezytoenail1328]

@@cha646lol body shaming ba tawag doon kung pinagsabihan ka ng totoo .kaya pinagsabihan ka ng ganyan para malaman mo na mataba at magdiet dahil ang matanda alam nila masama ang cholesterol. Nakakatawa talaga ang kabataan ngayon.

[@elsplanet]

@@cheezytoenail1328 I believe it's just the same thing that one of the Americans said in our previous video where Filipinos kept pointing out her weight gain/weightloss. Nowadays, it's better not to comment about someone's weight at all may it be true or not. Even if it's seen as either positive or negative. ☺ Here's the link to the video i'm talking about: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWjdnWCLiL6Xmrs Tulad lang po ng sabi ng isang nainterview dito, kung hindi po kayang baguhin in 10 seconds, mas mabuti pang hindi nalang po sabihin.

[@cha646]

@@cheezytoenail1328 you can't blame people if they don't want things like that being pointed out. if you think we are still in the 90's where things like these were considered "okay", well, almost 2024 na po and time is changing. if you're actually "concerned" there are better ways to tell them than pointing out their weight.

[@cheezytoenail1328]

@@cha646 do i blame them? Lol ang sinasabi ko lang tanggapin ninyo kung ano katotohanan.lol

[@merlyella-qg3eq]

Crab mentality and utang na loob.

[@Beastmode-x7x]

im sorry but honest question.no shaming ( hard to believe) in this video do u think the people that said body shaming , are they fat or slim? huy tumaba ka or u gained weight is body shaming? if yun naman talaga napansin nila? and every gathering naririnig mo pala and yet wala ka naman ginawa eh kasi ano ok din sayo na ganon sitwasyon mo

[@johnvillanueva1375]

if that person noticed something they don't need to voice it out, besides why would those people even want to mind other people's business?? like bffr??

[@factsforU-i2y]

​​@@johnvillanueva1375Exactly, to Western countries that would definitely be a "Culture shock". If you behave that way, you would surely get into trouble! 🤣 You'd better to shut it up and mind your sh*t. 🤣

[@Beastmode-x7x]

@@johnvillanueva1375 same thing with you u noticed my comment u don't need to voice it out in my business ,THATS YOUR LOGIC same thing right? LOL

[@Beastmode-x7x]

@@factsforU-i2y yeah u associate everything sa western sa buhay mo FREE yourself from colonial slavery and think for yourself lol

[@pv2639]

Minsan ok din na isara yung bunganga mo sa tunay na mundo kasi hindi naman comments section yun pang araw araw na buhay bg mga tao. Madami kasing pinoy na kulang sa pansin sa life. Yug iba salita lang ng salita wala namang kausap 😂

[@Mark-be8yk]

Simp & toxic feminisms⚠️😒

[@gmiyadole]

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[@Dianewater0]

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[@mva6213]

body shaming b ang sabihan n tumaba ka???????????????? paano kung totoo naman??????????paano dapat sibihin yun..................

[@caliinthevalley24681]

Man, I feel like I need therapy after watching this. I feel vindicated because the younger generations are pointing out these toxic traits. I'm Gen X and I have to say I ALWAYS thought it was me. I was never smart, pretty, rich, good enough. I currently refuse to go to family get-togethers because they were all a pissing contest of who makes the most and who is the prettiest. Now that I have my own kids I refuse to accept that toxic mentality for my kids. If my family or relatives call my kids fat I will make sure you know that is not appropriate. Respect be damned. If you can't respect me or my kids don't expect that I will respect you just because you're older. Respect is ageless. I have always been the black sheep because I choose to live in a world of kindness and acceptance. I don't care if you are black, white, or Asian. I don't care if you're gay or straight. I don't care if you are homeless, rich or poor. I care if you are kind. The irony of all this toxic Filipino culture is that every Filipino I know is very religious. They go to church every Sunday and they pray yet their hearts are filled with evil. I am proud of these young kids speaking out and recognizing what is toxic and I hope and pray that they have the strength to not let it drag them down.