Emily Gilmore: The Motivations Behind Her Actions & Why They Are So Important (more rory slander??)

[@stuffwithsoph8264]

Emily was very realistic, not a horrible person, but definitely morally gray, especially when you consider some of her more dated comments, and classist views, she definitely feels like an elder, sophisticated, conservative, rich woman during the late 90's-early 2000's

[@kahkah1986]

yes, someone of her time, doing her best but with the values of her culture and time

[@juicebox630]

She’s a rich white woman who married into money and stayed in money honestly I didnt expect her to end up any different but she is a complex character. Love her and hate her

[@DeepikaGinger]

She is a rather horrible person, but with a few good qualities.

[@stuffwithsoph8264]

@@monkeytoto yeah 100% emily gets a pass because of her funny lines but bruh her and richard are so absuive and toxic to lorelai

[@Lanaxparillaxwife]

No she’s def a horrible person

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

Can we still appreciate how Emily was the best during Day in the Life? Also, her roasting Logan's mom. The. BEST!

[@stefanmakara373]

What was she like in Day in the Life? (Also do I need to watch all of GG to watch Day in the Life?

[@katien3022]

@@stefanmakara373 yes. Watch all of Gilmore girls because it’s like an epilogue to their story.

[@pitulanek]

Also, don't watch Day in the Life, unless you have way too much time to pass and enjoy being severely disappointed.

[@kgirlsupdated9327]

you mean year in the life?

[@joyin9852]

I still love Emily’s character because I understood why lorelai hated her sometimes but then we saw the softer sides of Emily as well. She wasn’t one note and she was an interesting character. She did love her daughter but she had trouble showing it as it clashed with her disapproval of her lifestyle. Loved your review! Will now go and watch the other Gilmore girl videos x

[@Lanaxparillaxwife]

I will never understand why y’all like Emily she’s a terrible person

[@lauriecarson6483]

She only had a soft side for Rory. She was horrible to Lorelai and what she did to Lorelai and Luke was uncalled for.

[@chiaralinnea4335]

I agree with you: She was heavily influenced by her environment. She loved Richard, their house, their money, their life, but she was also trapped in it, having to fulfill the role of an old money/high society woman. She sacrificed a lot of her natural wit and extroverted nature for it, which is especially visible in her relationship with both Lorelai and Trix. I believe she thought that would be the best option for her family overall. I love how she became more aware of her shallow perspective later on, and the ending she got was a perfect wrap-up of her character growth. I love her, but she could truly be cruel sometimes!

[@myladebora8640]

I do feel that lorelai running away also caused Emily to be the way she was because it obviously isn’t easy if your only child runs away from home and leaves nothing but a note. Even though Lorelai ran away BECAUSE of het parents i think This could’ve caused emily a trauma since she mentions multiple times How “she lost lorelai” “she doesn’t wanna lose Rory like she lost Lorelai” just How i feel about it

[@carlathompson9308]

Thank you for making my point

[@annalynes]

yes but she also had no empathy towards lorelai and why she was feeling like she had to run away. despite her having every right to have a negative reaction to her child running away, she made it her own sob story without even considering how that must've felt for lorelai. many people just chalk it up to bad parenting, but i think emily might have been genuinely abusive during lorelai's youth.

[@sofiaboo6739]

@@annalynes yeah, emily was at least like borderline abusive and Richard was extremely neglectful (to both lorelai and emily actually)

[@annalynes]

@@sofiaboo6739 exactly! so many ppl don’t realize that she wasn’t just mean, that could be construed as literal abuse

[@Nanubaby3385]

@@annalynes oh boy I could write a series of essays on Richard & Emily’s lack of emotional support for both Lorelei & each other…1. Richard allowed his rotten mother to treat Emily with such disrespect in her own house & even made a crack about it to Lorelei @ one point…2. He was dismissive of Emily over anything she might’ve been going through & seemed to belittle her role as a wife mother & socialite…he was definitely not there for Lorelei & treated Rory leaps & bounds better & they definitely abused Lorelei because she always reverted to being a child whenever she was around them…they never allowed her to live her own life nor did they listen & my goodness the micromanaging the manipulation the gaslighting the passive aggressive dismissive cold behavior even when they were in the wrong & then they wondered why she had commitment issues

[@emoizluv]

She wasn’t oblivious, she was HYPER-AWARE of what’s going on around her. She just didn’t care about anyone’s feelings/needs but herself.

[@noorjehan86]

it made no sense to me why emily would reject luke in the way that she did when he and lorelai started dating. She was one of the first people in the series to call out that he liked her and didn't seem the least bit disgusted by it, and by the time they started dating she had met luke more than enough times and was not nearly as harsh on him. I don't think she would be overjoyed or anything but she definitely would have not been as angry about it as they portrayed her to be.

[@flowerfennecfox]

That was what confused me the most about Emily's actions and storyline

[@gemmaartner2780]

I feel like she thought that Luke was more likely to further ostracise Loreli from her and Richard. I.e. if Loreli had married someone more in Emily and Richards circles or even (in their opinion) of their social standing, there would be more of a chance she wouldn't push them away (again). I think Emily felt threatened by Luke in that way. But that's just my opinion.

[@wsa18]

Maybe it was the writers? Wouldn't be the first time we see characters do a 180 to suit dramatic plot lines

[@exomake_mehorololo]

It never made sense to me either.. I think its obvious that this was done to create drama

[@whosanth7817]

in an episode, she get lorelai to admit she might like luke and emily says thank you and then tells her they have to talk about what she could possibly be thinking. she just wanted lorelai to admit it and be open with her. she probably found luke ok as a friend of lorelai, but once they started dating and saw how serious they were, she started acting the way she did.

[@polevaultgirl33]

It’s hard to blame Rory bc when you grow up poor and then are thrown into scenarios where you have obscene wealth and are surrounded by obscene wealth, it’s kind’ve hard to walk away

[@barbiesplasticp7872]

They weren't poor. Lorelai wasn't as rich as her parents, sure, but she DID run a successful inn and was able to afford Rory many luxuries.

[@RuinedStillWetMascara]

@@barbiesplasticp7872 But we also have to remember that at the beginning of everything they lived in a tiny house with not proper bathroom outside the inn, we don’t know as viewers when they started to live in their actual house.

[@marianav1746]

Honestly Emily might be one of the most complicated characters on the show. I really love her character development.

[@luisguilhermeoliveira5794]

I think you used the word "justified" a lot when you should've said "understandable". Yes, I guess any reasonable person can understand why Emily is the way she is, but that doesn't justify anything. Her need to control her adult daughter's life isn't justified by whatever trauma she had.

[@xochocolatechips]

Completely agree. Some of the things she said and did were unjustifiably cruel. There's a fine line between having empathy for what a person has been through and allowing them a pass for their awful behavior.

[@domenicarosales4455]

Not

[@lauriecarson6483]

So true

[@JoannaLamont333]

I find Emily’s character really addictive. She’s cruel, sarcastic, thoughtless & an incredible snob. However, I love her strength & her fight for what she believes in. I wish there was another series.

[@gemma4662]

I think Emily was the best Gilmore Girl. Yes she was flawed but she grew and changed and when something didn’t go as planned she picked herself up and took the struggle and used it to her advantage when Lorelie and Rory never really changed and would break down or cry whenever something didn’t go there way and run back to Emily. Not to mention the fact that she’s self made and independent like Lorelie but also recongnizes her privileges and cares for her family while Rory didn’t realize her privilege and loralie didn’t realize her effect on other people .

[@calvinyork1804]

I see where you are coming from. However, Emily's success was not self made. She came from money and married into money. Now, if you're referring to the image and reputation she developed for herself and the Gilmore name, I can kind of see where you're coming from. But, even still she is not responsible for the entire recognition of her name and the Gilmore name. For her name, that is in part due to Richard given that so much of her success was linked to being his wife and related to his contacts. For the Gilmore name, she played a role but she didn't shape it. After all, she married into it.

[@katie-yg8ci]

She didn’t change from good to bad, she changed from bad to good, the opposite as her children.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@@katie-yg8ci she only had one child

[@lauriecarson6483]

@@katie-yg8ci she didn't change at all. She still was mean and controlling. What was good that was changed cause I didn't see it.

[@lauriecarson6483]

No story Emily was the best girl

[@calvinyork1804]

I remember strongly disliking Emily on the first watch, but then growing to appreciate her and see her as a really well-written, complex character as I rewatched.

[@xshefalilyx993]

I always think back to the spa episode with Emily and Lorelei. They started having fun with each other and bonding, which only ended when Emily remembered her “role” and how she was “supposed to act” as Richards wife. That’s when she stopped dancing with the guy at the bar. I think Lorelei and Emily are similar; they’re both witty and stubborn. They only difference is that Lorelei left the high society life while Emily prospered in it. I wonder what Emily would’ve been like if she rebelled

[@tiffanygrever8092]

I thought the spa trip was one of the few times Loralie was a complete jerk I know Emily was being a bit annoying but Loralie could have handled it better.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@@tiffanygrever8092 bull shit.

[@lauriecarson6483]

Emily was a jerk all Lorelai wanted to was relax and Emily wouldn't let her. Lorelai had her schedule kicked out and Emily changed it. Plus Emily quilt trip Lorelai into going so who is the jerk.

[@rayanakesty]

The older I get, the more reasonable Emily seems to me in retrospect.

[@adesuwaimasuen3699]

This comment!

[@livejadelive]

Lawd yes!!

[@linalou1354]

Mmh it really depends. Sometimes she really was but her way to do things was just the worst lmao

[@kodokoa]

realy?

[@katerinaikalina]

Yes!!!!

[@cristinamartinez9693]

Please make a video on Luke's development!! I think he truly grew to be more emotionally vulnerable throughout the series and we get to see it through his care for Rory and Jess and eventually Lorelai. (and April too lol) but would love to see your take on his character!

[@sweetprincess787]

Honestly, Emily is my favorite character out of the three Gilmore Girls, that's very ironic because she reminds me a lot to my grandmother, who's also a very conservative person who needs to constantly be proven to others through her "class and elegance", she didn't come from money but damn does she learnt to spend like she did, she married for money and she got an scholarship in a rich kids catholic school when she was young, so she is friends with a lot of rich and snoby ladies and likes to run in those circles I don't talk to her anymore because she's too clingy even if she wants to pretend that's not the case (and also because for her I am some kind of disgrace for not being like her), and because she's manipulative and a total liar when things don't play in her favor. Maybe why I like Emily so much is because she could outgrow some of her flaws just as I wished my grandmother could have

[@cheyennerlfinneran3914]

My favorite relationship on the the show is the one between Emily and Lorelie. Neither one approves of the other's lifestyle, but they still love each other deeply. It is one of the best mother/daughter relationships ever written.

[@maddielacey2265]

I think in the episode “I am a kayak hear me roar” (I think that’s the name) was a real turning point for my opinion on her past and future decisions, she actually admits to Loralai that she admires her and wants to be a “kayak” like her

[@RebeccaEd]

Such a great episode. And it breaks my heart when Emily basically pretends their heart-to-heart didn't happen. Too much pride. I think it's very well portrayed.

[@maniunknown0]

I never thought about rory being similar to emily, it makes a lot of sense. I also found that emily wanting to be enought explained and cleared her actions, lorelai the 1rst is a bitch to her

[@lauriecarson6483]

Emily got a taste of her own medicine when Trix is in town.

[@Nanubaby3385]

Lorelei had her reasons & Emily wasn’t innocent…she & Richard were controlling & manipulative which are forms of abuse & they constricted Lorelei’s natural character & spirit which is wrong…

[@flattishabattisha]

I understand how toxic it was to force your daughter to follow her footsteps. Though, it was rly the only thing she knew about raising a child. Have them grow up, become like how you want them to be and over and over again. In an episode she asked, ¨Why cant we have what you and Rory have?¨. Then proceeds to say she thought what she did was right. So I really feel like the society she grew up in had alot to say about her character. i luv this show sm.

[@davidsherman7531]

To me Emily displayed her true "love" for her daughter when in season 2, I believe she politely but FIRMLY asked Christopher to "I think you had better leave ...... NOW! When Lorelei exclaimed "it hurts!" When he repeatedly badgered her about Rory .......

[@miloneantonella]

I grew up with a mother very much like Emily, and it's been damaging, lonely and toxic. Up yo the point where we don't have a relationship anymore.... i thought i was overreacting, but ppl who know my mother and have seen GG had often commented how Emily reminds them of her... So...

[@Nanubaby3385]

I’m sorry your mother was like Emily that must’ve been tough…it’s sad when ppl refuse to see their children as individuals rather than someone to live vicariously through by means of controlling them

[@arias2026]

She was a narcissist

[@alekhya8810]

Emily was an emotionally abusive parent, which deeply affects Lorelai's decision-making, but Lorelai couldn't easily or fully cut Emily out of her life. And I agree, Emily did grow over time: she tones it back as that fear of being abandoned by Rory and Lorelai (again) kicks in. Naturally, she capitalizes on the rift between Lorelai and Rory when she drops out of Yale, but overcompensates with Rory. Rory is given food, water, shelter, but the kind of emotional support she needs is not given (just like teenage Lorelai); Emily tries to be supportive, but she cannot be the harsh parent, this time around. So Rory continues spiralling, even when logically, she shouldn't and even when Emily truly wants to help. Emily's an infinitely interesting person, but still at the end of it all, a person. Her flaws keep her realistic and human, for we really do meet characters like her in life, passive-aggressive and driven to resist resolution. To me, she's a reminder that some relationships can't or shouldn't be mended; that's what makes her so compelling, regardless of if she ever changes.

[@Nanubaby3385]

@sapphire mariia she was abusive…she tried to control everything Lorelei did & continued to do so well into her adult life ie setting her up on dates she didn’t ask for trying to break up her & Luke via Christopher she used any form of passive aggressive behavior she could she gaslit her & then would get upset when Lorelei & Rory didn’t react the way she wanted…she never once apologized for being so critical of Lorelei & never failed to throw her mistakes in her face & for Pete’s sake couldn’t let go or accept the fact that she got knocked up @ 16 & ran away from home even after Lorelei tried to make peace…she constantly criticized Lorelei just because she didn’t agree with her lifestyle…she could be a cruel woman & Lorelei could be equally as cruel

[@munchkinbas00]

I don't agree. When Rory was living at her grandparents house they did give her everything and I feel like they also were there for her emotionally. The only thing that pissed Rory off was that they were stricter (she wasn't allowed to sleep at Logans) but compared to other parents or grandparents they weren't too strict at all. She should have been more thankful and respecting towards their rules as they gave her a good place to stay when she dropped out.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@sapphire mariia your in feniel of you don't think Emily is absive. All you see and blame Lorelai but. Never see what Emily does to Lorelai.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@@munchkinbas00 they treated Rory like a 5 year old. Picking out her clothes and having the maid to everything for her.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@s healthy life reall. Did Emiky ever oay attention to Lorelai or givr her the love Lorelsi wanted from her. No Emily didnt whats so healthy abiut being controlled or belittles all the time.

[@spiderdog07]

Talk about Luke, outside of his dumb decisions once April came around, I really watch the show for Luke. And besides he made the prequel joke and talked about having the high ground while fixing Lorelai's house. And the fact that he wore a star trek shirt for a whole year

[@Nanubaby3385]

Yes April & Anna were the WORST & Luke let them control every aspect of his life…they were Lorelei & Rory lite decaf diet discount aaannnddd cheap KNOCK OFFS it was sooo annoying

[@sofiaboo6739]

also one thing that always bothered me is how SHE was always painted as the villain but Richard wasn't???? even though the moments in which she was happier and less controlling and manipulative, basically the moments when she had a pretty decent relationship with lorelai, were the moments richard wasn't there and she didn't have to be the "perfect corporate wife" (i.e. when they were separated and after he died, or just some moments when he wasn't present). and although there was obviously part of it which was just her fault, Richard and his family (after all, he's the gilmore, not her) also had a BIG influence on lorelai's trauma and her rough relationship with emily. one example of this is when, after richard's death, lorelai is unable to think of good memories she had with him (she's only able to think of ONE after like, months). and if you try to find happy moments between lorelai and emily you can find quite a few just in the show, and I assume there were some when she was younger as well, and in none of those (the ones that appeared on the show) richard is present

[@Nanubaby3385]

Yes Richard was emotionally unavailable when it came to Lorelei & Emily to an extent

[@manicpixiecoffeelovr]

@@Nanubaby3385 i hated richard way more than any other character

[@Nanubaby3385]

@@manicpixiecoffeelovr it’s infuriates me how the ENTIRE blame for their poor relationship gets placed on LORELEI’S shoulders especially since Richard nor Emily never even so much as attempted to relate to their daughter in ANY way or even meet her HALFway BOTH were always so cold & distant RICHARD in particular they criticized & nitpicked EVERYTHING Lorelei did & spoiled Rory ROTTEN & were then surprised when she acted like an ungrateful brat once she wouldn’t do what they wanted & they couldn’t control her TERRIBLE listeners BOTH of them & as for the character I detested the MOST??? That honor goes to TRIX Richard’s ROTTEN WITCH of a mother…is it any WONDER why Richard seemed cold & unfeeling??? Look @ his mother!!! And oh my the way she treated Emily in her OWN house & even WORSE Richard ALLOWED it!!! I was sooo happy when she was GONE

[@manicpixiecoffeelovr]

@@Nanubaby3385 totally agree 💯

[@vll3yy]

Honestly, I think that Emily loved her family but she put what was expected of her (a wealthy woman) before family. I personally think she was a complex character and I kind of really like her character.

[@24sherbear]

This story, to me, is about the generational issues most families face. The parents are born post WWII and are growing up in a prosperous more conservative time. They have money and societal position. Lorelei is born in the 60’s the time of women’s movement, civil rights, hippies, etc. They didn’t understand each other. Rory gets caught between both worlds but is the bridge. The story would be nothing without the conflicts and, finally, resolution in the end. I don’t see any of them as evil villains. The writers did a brilliant job combining deep subjects with lots of humor and pop culture. Even the music the 3 generations listen to is very telling.

[@calvinyork1804]

Emily's character arc is one of my favorites, if not my ultimate favorite, and I think her arc is one of the view things that A Year in the Life got right.

[@briantlion2128]

I’m impressed that you had the courage to post a video in which you make it a point to try have a little understanding for Emily who is an awesome character. She’s far from perfect but what mother is and what would the show be without her?

[@le6360]

Emily had great character development. Her character was infuriating but very realistic

[@bruvonjones]

Nice vid! I loved Emily's comedic delivery and she was great on screen, even if I hated her guts sometimes. I'd love a video on Luke if you could. He was my favorite character by far. He was hilarious, simple yet complex, and your typical tough guy shell with a softie inside

[@petabulmer7345]

Yay! You did it! This video was really well done! Now I've seen all three! Good on you, Trinity!

[@jonburnett90]

For me the most telling Emily moment was when Lorelei helped her do some accounting. They share drinks have a few laughs and for the first time interact the way Lorelei and Rory did all the time. The next morning she turns cold and distant, disappointed in herself for being her daughters friend for that brief moment. Emily isn't evil, just adamant there is a right way to be a wife and mother. Her arc across the show is slowly understanding how wrong she is and accepting her daughter for who SHE is.

[@thatjillgirl]

I love Emily as a character. She is definitely not always a likeable person. But it does mostly come down to the fact that she fits into her societal role very well and always has and never wanted anything different, so she truly can't imagine someone being satisfied with something different. She can't quite believe that Lorelai (or anybody) can really live her best life and be the best version of herself unless she follows the vision Emily imagined. But we do see many times that she does truly love Lorelai, even while she's incapable of relating to her. I have a similar relationship with my own mother. I think many of us do. They portrayed it very well.

[@dogperson4436]

Please make more of Gilmore girls content

[@Tricybear21]

I loved Emily Gilmore. She was my favorite Gilmore girl. She was the most honest character. She loved her daughter and granddaughter. Sure she was snob and rude but that was her culture. She was not some fake person.

[@lauriecarson6483]

She had a funny way of loving Lorelai.

[@giselebarcelos8659]

Really good take on the character

[@marlenaeva3813]

Yeah, she was a narcissist, never liked her because from personal experience narcissists are devoid of self. Emily's charming person is an image she puts out for others to gain their attention so it's fake. Now, can you do a video on Luke? He's so interesting and a pivotal character in the show.

[@bruvonjones]

Yes PLEASE a video on Luke. He's my favorite character by far

[@PhilospherDjPsychologist24]

2 things about Emily 1. I think it is very intentional, that in this show that focuses on mother-daughter relationships, Emily's mother is barely mentioned in the series, maybe her dysfunctional relationship with her own mother prevented her from learning how to connect with her own daughter, so she always treated Lorelie as a servant, a pet, or a doll 2. I think Emily wasn't born rich. There is not too much information to go off of, but in the revival the shirt that Lorelei wore in that memory where she was made fun of at school was from her maternal grandmother and it had sequins, which is way too tacky for some one of Emily's socio-economic class to wear. And maybe part of the reason she was so anxious about Lorelei's behavior was because she was afraid that if Lorelie didn't act conventionally upper class than she would be revealed. It might also explain partly why the original Lorelei thought Emily was beneath Richard. It might be the reason Emily was always so harsh on her maids, because she was insecure about how stable her rank on the social totem pole was and so she kept punching down on something that had a lower social class than her. And maybe the reason her best friend was Sweetie was because she liked her for also being from a family that had to climb their way up.

[@favoriteemail]

I think Emily did come from a privileged background. It's interesting that we have scant detail about Emily's upbringing, but we do get some. Emily went to Smith College, a private women's college in Northampton, MA. While it's possible she attended as a financial aid student, it's more likely that she and other women attending in the late 50's/early 60's were from wealthy families. When she reminisces about when she got married, she notes that her mother had seamstresses working day and night on her wedding dress. She also talks about accidentally running into Richard at their club before they got married. During Rory's coming out event, she's horrified by the flowers and tablecloths that were much more elegant and high-class in her day. That said, I suspect she came from a family of means, but perhaps not one that had as much money as Richard's family. I would guess that's why his mother looked down on Emily. We saw this with Rory and Logan's family - this idea that the wealthy have a pecking order based on net worth.

[@PhilospherDjPsychologist24]

@@favoriteemail Well, while I would like to challenge some of your points, one of the main reasons why I think Emily came from a family that had known poverty at some point, like with Sweetie, was because it was meant to mirror Rory. By adulthood she was about upper-class, and most of her adolescences was middle-class, but her early childhood at the inn should be classified as her being lower-class. Rory puts a charming spin on it for her grandmother, but her childhood room in the shed, the one with a bathroom without walls, was not that far above being homeless. I alway kind of suspected that part of the reason Rory was so well read was because they could not afford tv or other forms of entertainment, also out of a class insecurity to come off as more classy, and that desire to go up a class through academia might have been part of the reason she was so driven in the first place. I think that her inability to break up with boyfriends comes from her erratic-poverty early childhood which gave her a deep need for stability that a constant boyfriend would give her. I guess this is all conjecture. But I thought it would have been cleverly written in theme with the show, about how your upbringing can hard wire you in ways that effect the rest of your life. And as an important statement on class, where you don't know what some one's journey through social mobility has been, or how what counts as upper class is just what can pass as upper class

[@lizparylo7445]

I really enjoy your style of commentary!! Great vid ✨

[@Jabba232]

very in-depth character study, well done!

[@hannahanderson5658]

What I can appreciate most about Emily is that she genuinely loves Lorelai. From the beginning, all she wants is to spend time with and be closer to her and Rory both. She goes about it in very unorthodox and even cruel ways at times (which is inexcusable), but I think growing up in such an uptight world where she was practically forced into the life she has, she didn't know how to show warmth or how to react when Lorelai chose something else. Emily actually steps out of her comfort zone quite a bit to have a relationship with her daughter. I understand why Lorelai needed boundaries--I absolutely think she was justified in setting a lot of them--but I wish that she wasn't so black and white in the way she approached her relationship with Emily. Lorelai is weirdly dependent on her relationship with Rory and almost gloats over how special their connection is without giving her mother a chance to change and have a different but also special connection. I don't know... It just always seemed like Emily was at least trying and Lorelai never was.

[@lauriecarson6483]

She has a funny way of loving her daughter.

[@margaretr.carlos5412]

OKAY BUT PLS DO ONE FOR PARIS GELLER

[@croft4746]

I think the reason why I like Emily is because she genuinely tried. She often didn’t understand and couldn’t get along with Lorelei a lot of the time due to her own bad actions, but throughout the whole thing she was always trying with Lorelei, throughout all the arguments and difficulties and pain when it comes to Loralei, she never failed to at least try to bring them together, so I think that her issues weren’t because she’s a bad person, but because of likely her upbringing and what she was taught is the right thing. That’s the reason I never liked Richard, they both have the same anger but he never put in any effort with Loralei at all.

[@NeverlandSystemKitten]

I loved Emily Gilmore. She was mean at times, but she REALLY did care a LOT about Rory & Lorelai, and DID want the best for her... flawed as she was... and her growth and change over the series was great- and the ONE good thing in the "Year in the Life" hot mess.

[@NeverlandSystemKitten]

@Gul Tengiz Oh certainly Lorelai was a difficult child. She was a rebellious soul seeking to find her own identity and way- apart from the confines of an inherited identity. That is one of the most respectable things about her, and the other is that she eventually comes to understand and respect her mother's position as well - and eventually makes amends (one of the few good points of the generally TERRIBLE revisit Netflix mini-series). Unfortunately, the doting and privilege Rory experiences ruins her- sadly an entirely common and believable story typical of her generation.

[@lynesime]

Can you do a video on Richard, what made him tick or maybe Richard or Emily as a couple? Thanks.

[@beckycollins8923]

She's a realist and bold person.

[@138veronica]

I'd love to see you do a video about Richard or Lane.

[@sarah_bae]

I am an Emily Gilmore STAN.

[@chuckbass3641]

I am quite conflicted about this analysis of Emily Gilmore. First and foremost, I love Emily because she was a true natural savage in all aspects. What I do wish you pointed out is that the other Gilmore girls acquired many of their strong, stubborn leadership skills from Emily. In my opinion, Lorelai learned how to manage an inn from how Emily managed her home, and that passed on to Rory as well. They have different styles of leadership, but the strength and creativity came from Emily. On the other hand, Emily was not perfect, but what human being is. And finally, I think this character analysis drops the ball by omitting one of Emily's major character foils - Lorelai running away from home. If you watch from the perceptive that Emily never moved past Lorelai running away, you would notice that Emily was constantly being driven by the belief that she lost her daughter at 16 and was doing everything she could to avoid a repeat with Rory. Rory was Emily's second chance at being a mother and can we really judge her for that?

[@1omarella]

We all know Emily’s flaws, they are obvious. But she is a very complex, deep character. Such a Queen.

[@lauriecarson6483]

Yeah that's why I couldn't stand her. I wanted to reach through the tv and slap her in the face every time she demanded Lorelai to tell her thinks or blames her for something stupid.

[@lauriecarson6483]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@twilightsparkle6951]

I do!! I'm subscribed and ready for another video to come out!

[@92caligrl]

Def more gg content 💕

[@idfy2599]

Emily's background is never discussed. We assume she came from money then she married Richard. Some pieces of her younger days were talked about, but we never see her parents. She doesn't talk about them. She attended college. But never worked . Only had functions for the DAR which she was President of. I only say this because if you can know more about her childhood, then we could understand more about her character and why she maintains what she believes is proper.Dating, Engagements, Weddings. Parties( candles must be six inches apart) She has a continuous parade of maids and servants. They do not live up to her STANDARDS. Same thing with Lorelei not living up to her STANDARDS. Narcissistic? Perhaps. Why is this so important? I often wondered what her parents were like.

[@kate2create738]

It’s funny how smug Emily is yet we all eventually learn to appreciate her character, we might like to interact with someone like her. But out of the 3 Gilmore girls, she actually was the one who made the most improvement and character growth. Also while Lorlei was successful in the small business aspect, I think that she had her faults specifically with her relationship that should prevent her from having the successful title. The funny thing is to the average person she seems like she is successful, to Emily and Richard, they’re probably puzzled with that aspect when they practically have an empire lol. What I think makes Emily actually successful is not the status, nor the image she tried to live, but that in the last show she was finally embracing a part of herself that held her back from having a healthy interaction with others. It’s that part that, while a diva, has gained some true respect as a character.

[@lauriecarson6483]

I didn't learn to appreciate Emily at all. I think she is a bitch

[@chocofudge1932]

I think her biggest flaw was that she thought that whatever she deemed was best for her family was also what everyone else should deem best for her family as well... but she did overcome that slowly in the series and the reunion and that's why i love her. also she's a very complex character and we only get glimpses of how she regrets her own and others' decisions. that's what makes her so compelling and worth talking about - Emily is shown to us, she isn't completely narrowed down. Her character, decision making and actions leave room for interpretation, and ultimately, that's what good storytelling is all about.

[@chocofudge1932]

also it seems pretty telling that Emily's biggest character growth starts after Richard's death. I did like Richard, but seeing how Emily branched out and blossomed after his passing was a testiment to her prior confinement. They did love each other. But due to old-fashioned beliefs they both held up, their marriage helped in making her miserable, bored and a bit cruel I think

[@DonnaTriska]

I think Emily was a vengeful narcissist. It was made clear throughout the show that she disapproved of her daughter. She tried that with college aged Rory from laying out her clothes to being mad that she didn’t get to inspect her before a DAR event.

[@Helen75Tubular]

There was possibly a bit of scandal from Emily basically stealing Richard from his fiance, Pennilyn Lott. Also might be partly the reason why Trix was so disapproving of her.

[@melanie7068]

…not being mean (its hard to convey that over a message..) but I disagree with “Lorelai is healthy, Rory is healthy” you don’t have to have a disease to be “unhealthy”. They eat like shit there eating is actually repulsive. And mentally they both are unhealthy they don’t know how to process anything that goes wrong in their lives and majority of the time are not very good friends or significant others, because they only think of themselves. Emily may be a bunch of bad things but one thing good is she is aware of the fact that they both are not “healthy”

[@tybrown7112]

Having gone through therapy for ADHD, it’s almost infuriating to watch this show at (almost) 32 - Lorelai’s age. Oof. She needed adhd meds and a therapist cause holy crap… textbook case.

[@melanie7068]

@Someone 333 first saying that is very rude to everyone dying of a “sick body”. But it also goes against the point in the video…implying that Emily would have a right to treat her that way if she were actually physically sick.

[@reginadanielle3755]

For me Emily wanted Lorelai to have the best so she showed Lorelai what was taught to her growing up and Emily don't understand Lorelai so she tries to push it to her. her being strict I think is her being a mom. I mean look at Rory she got a mom who was more of a best friend that an actual mom always praised by her mother never corrected properly for her faults, while watching the show Lorelai always sugar coats and was never really franked with maybe because she know Rory wouldn't take it well. Honestly out of all of them I think lane's mom was the best, because Mrs. Kim know that if she lets her child get liberated in a young age there would be a different belief and set of values that lane would learn and when she said that one time about how America's values were different I completely understood where she was coming from. the 3 mothers have different parenting styles but I think the best was with Mrs. Kim's she slowly let go of lane as she gets old and I think that is what a parent should be. to build foundation and let go.

[@lauriecarson6483]

Emily dont know whats best for Lorelai and she thinks she does but she doesnt.

[@NejnaWorld]

Very interesting video :)

[@oa1986]

I think Lorelei lived a fancy life and grew up having anything and everything and grew into a rebel life and ended up pregnant and with Rory she grew up poor and having enough compare to Lorelei. So Rory ended up liking that life style and she became selfish in a way and then you have grandma pushing Rory into she lifestyle.

[@leahbenator4852]

I think you should do a video analyzing the relationship between Rory and dean

[@bee2898]

my fav gilmore girls character by far

[@socks2756]

While I do agree with all of the points you made in this video, it’s the small things about Emily that bother me. Like whenever someone else is talking to her or even while they’re arguing with each other, she doesn’t listen to a single word they say and always interrupts them. Or when she forces Lorelei to attend things without even having a proper conversation with her. It’s so impolite. Which bothers me even more because she takes pride in calling herself a respectable, proper, and therein polite woman.

[@reshawndrezenbarriga7218]

My theory is that Emily though she was born to an old money family they are known to be quite eccentric. I remembered that Richard telling Emily that she must have gotten the mental illness of her family in a middle of an argument which Emily replied that her relative Aunt Coral doesn’t have any mental illnesses instead she is just athletic. Also I have to mention she has a sister name Hope who lived in Paris France. We never really gotten to know much of Emily compared to Richard what I mean is her family and her relationship with each of them but here is my analysis of her relationship of her relationship with her relationship with given evidence in the show. Emily is probably embarrassed of her family because of their eccentricities and constant scandal although she is embarrassed about them which is probably why she even cut them off from her life when she married Richard and gotten into the Gilmore family. She still loves and cares for them cause she even defended one of her relatives which is Aunt Coral. Now as for her sister Hope since she had acknowledged her and even talked about her living in Paris probably she remained somewhat close to her sister though does not approve of her lifestyle. The reason why I decided to make that statement it’s because she was never mentioned again and we never even heard of her or if she had a husband or any children so probably she decided to not follow suite of her sister and instead live and Paris and stay single. Probably the other reason why we never heard of Hope it’s because she is probably deceased. Maybe that’s why Trix doesn’t like Emily cause of her background and not only that but it was mentioned that she broken up Richard and Pennilyn Lott who was engaged. Trix hates scandal so this probably makes Trix even despises Emily cause like her family they are known for scandal. Maybe Lorelai and even Rory got their eccentricity and their scandalous nature from Emily’s side of the family.

[@ewanoxborrow1024]

Emily was both complex and completely one-dimensional. She existed in a space where class and association were paramount, but you OFTEN (especially in the later series) see her come out of her shell and adapt only to quickly revert to the comfort of her social standing which obviously caused a lot of hold and cold with her daughter.

[@sgh94644]

Emily definitely had the most growth in the whole show along w paris

[@avalon2008]

I think Emily’s actions can be much more justified than Rory’s because Emily’s actions couldn’t have gifted growth for her because of her environment that she had for 50+ years. Rory had it on and off for like 6 years and she could’ve grown from it so much more than Emily.

[@TheFairyGoblin]

I need you to discuss how Laine deserved a better storyline!!!

[@glitteryxcal571]

hiii, i love ur videos, i was wondering which app or system you use to edit??

[@thefairybug40]

Emily is, in my opinion, the result of a good person who is nonetheless the product of her upbringing. She IS NOT a good person, but she has all the foundations to be one. She is simply a strong example of nurture overtaking nature, and the way she was reared was plainly toxic. She is a deeply flawed person and there's no denying that, but that's what makes her one of the best characters in the show.

[@heyhowislife3279]

Can you do.... Richard Logan/Jess? Luke? Sookie?

[@simonrice7137]

Emily is definitely not evil

[@lauriecarson6483]

Yes she is

[@ysejaly]

Emily had me confused throughout the show!

[@sparklyunicorn5431]

My mom is like an Emily Gilmore to an extent, and I am Lorelai (without getting pregnant) haha. Also, it seems unfortunate that Rory was always focused on boys and would quickly throw away her own goals to pursue them. I wish she would have gotten a different story int he revival where she was finally doing her own thing and had moved on from all the boys of her past.

[@msvideos234]

When I watched as a teen I sided with lorelai, watching in my 30s emily is understandable and lorelai is insufferable.

[@Tessiefaye]

I really ended up loving Emily's character because she could be a controlling manipulating B**ch but she did it mainly because she thought that she new what was best for her family and wanted to make sure that they turned out the way that she wanted them too. I wish that you would do a character analysis on Logan because he was one of the most intriguing characters to me and was much more than a spoiled little rich boy which is all people want to believe that he is.

[@TheXander360]

Rory has a classiest attitude in early S4 too horrified that Lorelai is clipping coupons

[@lauriecarson6483]

I don't think it was attitude at all. I think she was concerned.

[@Nanubaby3385]

Ok I love Emily as a character but definitely not as a mother or person overall…she was very manipulative controlling & abusive…she was extremely passive aggressive & uncommunicative in general…she & Richard hated that Lorelei wasn’t just like them so they tried to mold her as such with cold behavior & when things didn’t go their way they made it explicitly clear what a disappointment she was…they never let it go that she got pregnant @ 16 & ran away from home even after the fact was discussed ad nauseam… they constantly belittled her & criticized her but wondered why she didn’t want to be around them & it drove me nuts that everything they said & did was right but Lorelei & Rory would react to their atrocious behavior & they would demand respect followed by an immediate apology even when one wasn’t necessary…& the constant GASLIGHTING…I never heard an “I’m sorry” come out of their entitled mouths the entire series yet Lorelei & Rory apologized profusely if only to keep the peace…not that they lacked in fault but it makes me insane how unaware Emily & Richard were throughout the course of the series…they outright REFUSED to meet their daughter halfway & it doesn’t even seem like she received any sort of affection (especially from Richard) who heaped it on Rory so generously…yet they & the fandom expect Lorelei to carry the relationship & fix it all by herself…grrr

[@lauriecarson6483]

If my gramdma was like Emily she would never see me or my kids

[@Plan3tgirl]

Yeah its weird cause like Emily did lots of problematic things but I dont hate her, I actually respect her although Ik she can be a pretty messed up person.

[@Misu.A]

She made the show

[@lauriecarson6483]

They all did not just one person

[@Misu.A]

@@lauriecarson6483 she made the show.

[@lauriecarson6483]

@@Misu.A you can say it over and over again and it still wont change my mind. They all made the show.

[@Onyx_Blossom]

Would you consider doing a video for rorys boyfriends too?

[@beeweisberger7957]

I don’t think she’s justified but she definitely is a victim

[@fleur2332]

We all make mistakes but lemme tell you In my opinion Emily was a queen ( and Lorelai kinda made me really mad, but this Is just my opinion pls don’t hate )

[@lauriecarson6483]

Yeah Emiily was a queean of gaslighting Lorelai all the time. And Emily didnt understand boundries when it came to Lorelai.

[@tiffanygrever8092]

I know Emily tried to be a good woman and there were curtain times when I simpithised with her but I can't get over how she tried to destroy lorali and Luke's relationship and have the nerve to say she had to act I wasn't crazy about Luke ether half the time but it was Lorali call.

[@courtneymichelle5746]

Emily is my favorite character 😅 I hated how Lorelei treated her and Richard. All Emily ever wanted was for her daughter to love and appreciate her, and she constantly tried even if she didn’t go about it the right ways sometimes, but Lorelei just wanted to be a victim.

[@Yume03]

To me Lorelai wanted to be seen and heard by her mother. And she very rarely was. Emily wanted her to be like she imagined her, instead of getting to know her child. She wanted control to the point of emotional manipulation and blackmail. She was a very flawed parent who really needed therapy to work on her issues. Lorelai is definitely not perfect either, having the childhood she had and the fact she needed to grow up quickly to raise her kid. But she was very justified in many angry outbursts she had. Anger shows when your boundaries are crossed. Emily constantly crossed boundaries without even noticing she had. She was very willfully ignorant of her daughters wants and needs. She projected a lot on her without asking. Their relationship is fascinating bc that dynamic is very common among many real life families.

[@kittycakesuwu8806]

yeah no, emily is a perfect example of an emotionally abusive mother

[@lauriecarson6483]

I hate how Emily treats Lorelai. No mom should treat their kids like crap.

[@emmaking8596]

honestly emily is an older version of blair waldorf

[@xolotte]

Emily is such a complex character. Because of her wit and charm it's hard not to like her, but at the same time she does some things that are just objectively awful. I personally find Emily one of the most entertaining characters on gimore Girls, but I also recognize that she's emotionally abusive and kinda awful in general. I think a lot of people confuse liking Emily as a character and agreeing with her actions and that's why you get a lot of people saying she's not that bad.

[@Nanubaby3385]

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@yomnaislam948]

I would like to add that Richard didn't really appreciate Emily, in the beginning at least. He was so busy with his work and didn't really talk to her.

[@gossipsquirrel]

Mannn Emily has complex trauma

[@fca3464]

nah the adults raised rory and didn’t like how she turned out?! smh

[@bbgirl800]

The way she interacted with her staff was so distasteful.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Would you ever do a video on jess 🤔

[@sren0130]

Wow, is it a great that a teen girl had a little baby. Why Lora- lie let her daughter repeat her life path if she thought she was/is right??? I totally understand Emily. Lora-lie was supposed to be a graduate from Yale if she listened to her mom, without a doubt.......

[@lelec6923]

its lorelai

[@lauriecarson6483]

Emily wanted Lorelai to ne just like her and Lorelai didn't want that life style. And Lorelai didn't let Rory repeat her life.

[@spiderdog07]

@@lelec6923 I think J Ren hates lorelai and likes to call her lora-lie. Although I disagree with J Ren, Lorelai made her own choices that made things difficult for her but she wanted things to be better for Rory and was even willing to go back to her parents in order to make that happen.

[@lelec6923]

@@spiderdog07 oh 😭 i didnt realise

[@Ares99999]

You don't like rich people much, that's for sure.

[@lauriecarson6483]

Cause they are snobby and think people are beneath them. What is there to like.

[@onlykomalkhokhar]

sorry but Emily was the BEST character on this show!!!! Rory the WORST!!!!!

[@lauriecarson6483]

Emily is worse then Rory ever was.

[@MillieNolan.2]

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