Emotions Aren’t Bad But I Used to Believe They Were

[@jackidezell3401]

I believe emotions can be built up like a muscle, and controlled like an exercise that works on a specific muscle. Great job Ben!

[@2much2fast4me]

I so appreciate your honesty here, Ben!! It isn’t going to help my emotional void of a marriage but it certainly helps me reframe, as SO MUCH of this aligns with things my husband has said to me (some extremely contradictory, with no recollection of having said just the opposite! 🤪🤪). I’m good at managing my own emotions without his help but WOW it would be NICE to have an actual partner in my life!! WANT, not NEED is an important distinction in these relationships … but it sure used to look different, didn’t it?! 🙄

[@miraclehands9040]

Glad you are covering emotions. Very major issue for NPD’s and those in relationships with them. My x says he was a Christian yet he totally discounted the parts in the Bible they attribute love and kindness to the Christian path and that Jesus espoused that above all. He railed at me if I brought that up. He loved the old testament which embraces to some extent hatred, punishment etc. That he loved.

[@anneroseweiler3869]

I think that is a general issue in our society, so many kids grow up learning that 'difficult to handle' emotions are 'taboo', so they don't learn how to acknowledge and deal with them in a positive way. Very sad.

[@avgonyma1]

My ex did as well. I know he was looking for answers tirelessly. And was terrified that i was including "feelings" in many of my decisions. But i was just listening to my inner voice, that i was clearly feeling. (Not like being "emotional" in that moment and making decisions under that i fluence). But he was certainly "emptional" in the wrong moments, like frequently being impulsive, and that resulting in a crazy life, where anything could change from one moment to another. My ex had childhood trauma and im sure he was avoiding the "negative" emotions. Once he saud to me: i cant even listen to sad songs. So in his words, he said he "feels less than other people", also less joy. Hes dead now and i miss him. Dont miss the natc part. I feel like he was striving for a solution, trying to change his life, but most of the time he wanted to figure it pit on his own. And obviously wasnt successful in that. Until just before he died. He realized i was right all the time. But i will never know what he realized or whether he decided to change. Because he had an accident just when i decided to finally talk to him. He said i am and was always his only real love. That i love him just the way he was. And that i was always right about everything. I think he probably got it. But i will never know.

[@2much2fast4me]

I feel you, friend!! Every now & then I get a glimpse of that innocent little boy heart and then the door slams shut again. I no longer knock. I’m just me and I’m here. Every once in a great while he acknowledges me and what a difference I’ve made in his life & his family, but it always rings a little hollow because while I know he loves me, he does not know HOW to love (me, himself, or anyone else truly!). But with tears in his eyes he’s asked me if I possibly can be there in his final moments, he would like me to be there. So like you, I THINK he knows … but I’ll never know for real. But I love me, my God loves me, my family (except one narc sister!) loves me and I am blessed with the best friendships … and that, for me, is enough … knowing that he just can’t be that. Sending you love & hugs. Be grateful for the love YOU gave, even though he could not reciprocate - it is YOUR love to give and you will always carry love inside of you because you are a kind and caring person. No one and nothing can take that away from you … sometimes you just have to find other areas in life to give it. Where it can be accepted as celebrated as the precious gift it is. Bless you 🙏🏻❤️

[@PaolaTovar-lr4tb]

So a narcissit can get better? There is hope? I don't know how to help my ex boyfriend... we havent even been in contact for 2 months bc he blocked me from everything after I called him out on all his lies, the panties I found at his house and cheacting and the way he treated me. He blocked me without saying a word and I never heard from him again. It seems he moved on like he never met me and happy. I am the one who feels like I did something wrong. Yet I still miss him and wish I could help him bc I love him very much...

[@anneroseweiler3869]

Stay no contact is my advice x

[@anneroseweiler3869]

This very interesting, thank you for sharing with us, Ben. I have seen a distinct change in the quality of sentiment - if I can put it this way - in your videos, in the four months of knowing your channel. 😊

[@RawMotivations]

There is always hope with honesty.

[@beefybuttercup2978]

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[@RawMotivations]

Right they just pop up whenever