Empower Your ADHD Child: 5 Essential Truths Parents Must Know

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I’m Dr. Jacque from ChildBehaviorClinic.com. I'm a mom of two and a child psychologist who helps families with child anxiety and ADHD. #adhd #parenting #childadhd
⌚️Timestamps:
0:00 The 5 things parents of children with ADHD need to know
0:45 - #5 - What is different for kids with ADHD?
3:33 - What kids with ADHD need most
3:50 - How can parents actually do this?
5:32 - #4 - How to reduce stress and conflict
7:50 - What to do when things get difficult
10:20 - #3 - Dealing with big emotions and reactions
14:19 - #2 - Are there positive things about ADHD?
17:30 - 2 important things for parents of kids with ADHD
18:45 - The flipside of ADHD in kids
20:18 - #1 - Don't underestimate the effects of this!
22:20 - What you can do when you need more support
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WHO AM I:
Hi there. I’m Dr. Jacque Bogdanov, founder of Child Behavior Clinic. I’m a licensed child psychologist who specializes in parenting kids with ADHD and anxiety.
When we make relationships the top priority, we honor our differences, create stronger connections, and ultimately find more joy. And you deserve the support your family’s needs to do just that. I’m confident you’ll find it through the online classes in the Relationships First Masterclass™ Series.
All families deserve access to quality mental health resources, especially when it comes to child anxiety and ADHD. I take research-supported ideas and make them into simple and practical strategies you can use right away. I’m confident you’ll feel encouraged to tackle the tough stuff, by putting your relationships first. Hope to “see” you there!
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Director, Videographer, and Editor: Stanislav "Stan" Bogdanov
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[@DoctorJacque]

childbehaviorclinic.com/masterclasses/ - excited to share my child ADHD masterclass with you - hope you check out everything available! This video (and the masterclass it's based on) represents MANY hours of time in the making, teaching you the most essential ideas to help your child with ADHD. So, feel free to re-watch as often as you need. Thanks for being here, and I hope this ADHD guide is truly helpful to you!

[@serina_makeup_mama4094]

I’m about to cry because why didn’t I find this video sooner 😢it would have saved so many tears for both my son and I.

[@glamakestt2380]

Hug for you mama I feel the same way. I’m heart broken how I’ve reacted to my son😢

[@ericahoxie1925]

I finally feel like there’s someone that really understands what parents go through.

[@DoctorJacque]

This is truly the best compliment. And this is my dream - that all parents (and their kids) feel seen and heard and have the confidence and tools to deal with the tough stuff, together.

[@victoriasicola2286]

Excellent video! I am single and raising two grandchildren with ADHD. My 87 year old mother moved in, as well. My biggest problem is self care. Don't do it. Don't have time. I just repeat what Mother Teresa continually said, "I'll rest when I'm dead!" Sometimes just watching the sunrise and sunset or swinging on the porch swing does the trick. I can say parenting is harder at 60 than it was at 30! I just subscribed and will be a regular liker and sharer!

[@scentsei8201]

I read your comment and it made me a bit sad and happy tbh. I truly hope and wish the best for you and your loved ones. ❤ i believe you, that its not easy. But you Sound like you are those childrens light. Just keep going 💪🏽😊

[@stephaniecmrg]

Wow! My son is 17 and we are just now getting him diagnosed and figuring out school with him. This video would have been so helpful on how to handle him while he was little.

[@jessren1618]

Omg just found your videos. Our 4 year old is struggling and it makes me so sad and upset. We are making an appointment to get him evaluated and want to try to help him without medication so he can help us and himself and do the best he can in school. Thank you for these videos!

[@DoctorJacque]

Thank you so much - your comment means so much to me. I appreciate you being here. 😊

[@beckischellinger5150]

I was a square peg that had to fit into a round hole growing up. My son likely has ADHD too. But somehow, I'm still struggling to adapt to his way of learning because I'm so used to forcing it to work. I'm watching this to help learn how to help him the best. He's super smart, kind, full of energy, and amazing! I wanted to give a little feedback that non-ADHD minds might not be aware of. We are good at trade careers. I'm a healthcare professional but used to do construction and still do a lot of woodworking. In woodworking it is exponentially easier to turn a square dowel into a round dowel as opposed to making a square hole!! To an ADHD person in the trades, it initially came off as (and I still can't dismiss it) just adapt to your environment. I am very well aware that was nothing close to your intent! But if you have a second analogy available it might be helpful. Or to embrace, that as a square peg ADHD'er, that it is impossible to fit that circle hole without losing part of yourself. (Shaving off the corners)

[@beckischellinger5150]

And...I just got to the end of this which embraced some of my last suggestions... How is that for impulsivity...🙄 However I'll still leave it in case there's a different helpful analogy, or as an example of the ADHD brain. But also to highlight the harms of encouraging kids to just make it work, and then suffer the emotional consequences.

[@sonalparekh7237]

Perfectly expressed thankyou so much

[@lelyluck]

I don’t have a problem with my ADHD son his teacher is the one that has a problem with his ADHD

[@DoctorJacque]

It's hard when different people, like teachers, have different expectations or a different understanding. Teachers have got a tough job, and sometimes don't have adequate resources to meet the needs of all of their students all the time. And then sometimes kids with ADHD genuinely need more support at school than at home simply because of the environment and demands. Generally, working as a team and collaborating on problem-solving and supporting the difficulties will help kids most in the long-run.

[@FutureFBI19]

How do you parent a child with ADHD when you the parent struggle with it as well? It’s a struggle

[@ling8376]

Thank you so much for this informative video. It helps a lot those parents who are struggling with their kids' behavior. This video gives me hope that I can help my son to be the best he can be.😊

[@plantyfan]

First -- I love this video. It supports everything I've been learning for the past 5 years. Second though -- hoooooooooooooow do you make things ADHD-friendly for your children when -- hypothetically speaking of course (😅) -- the parent didn't know until the child was diagnosed? And maybe that hypothetical household is an ADHD full-house (5/5) and really overwhelmed 😅

[@heatherwhynot]

SAME😂 the more I learned, the more I was like, "oooh.. that's why I'm the way I am and he's the way he is"😅 💡 moment.

[@beyngangbam5084]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I am going to follow your instructions. I have a daughter with adhd she is 12, and there’s always conflict between us.hoping to reduce all of it so that I candevelop a good relationship with her

[@rohinishrestha8860]

Could you please help me understand how I can execute all of these in a day? Please keep in mind that there is only 24 hours a day. So taking care of myself(exercise, drink 3 ltr of water, meditate), taking care of my finances ( which means I have to work at least 8 hours a day), taking care for my kids (who are in autism spectrum and ADHD), be nice to them all times (don’t yell/don’t snap/provide feedback/positive reinforcement), take care of their homeworks/activities/change the system and environment, take care of their health (cook food every day, make sure they are active, blah blah). I would appreciate if someone can give me the breakdown of time so I know what I need to focus on in 24 hours.

[@gyldanword]

Respectfully, I think you should rethink your attitude. I'm in a very similar situation: 3 kids under 10, all with some form/combination of ASD, ADHD, and language delay. While I'm not perfect, I do realize that the change has to come from me. I also have diagnosed ADHD, so struggle with emotional regulation, etc., but if I can't control myself and at least try, then everything that is wrong is my fault. They don't know better yet. I do. If you can't take on this list with a gracious heart, and at least try, I think you need to do some soul-searching. Take this list, decide what is most important in your life and focus on that. Employ all the others incidentally as you remember/are able. Keep going. Your children need you as much as mine need me. God bless you. I wish you and your family the very best.

[@TM15HAKRN]

Yep It's Constant struggle...juggling chores..taking care of everything Not easy...some days worse..yet some days better...if you have someone to help/support you..best😊

[@RasikaNanayakkara]

Thank you

[@inattentiveadhdcoalition887]

This is wonderful, clear and practical advice--concisely put and easily understood. I hope more parents find this video.

[@DoctorJacque]

Thanks so much! The best way to help more parents find the video is by liking, commenting, and sharing - so thank you!

[@MissErsko]

Thank you so much for making this video!

[@DoctorJacque]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lifeonaplate]

This is such a great video. Thanks for the great direction.

[@DoctorJacque]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@whereseve2]

Good stuff. Thx for it!

[@DoctorJacque]

Thanks for watching! Glad to have you here 😊

[@NicoleNinaFurniss]

Thank you for your videos! I can't wait to share with my girl that she is worthy just the way she is

[@sherib6901]

Same. ❤ Struggling so much with our 8 almost 9 year old daughter having social difficulties at school. Would love an in depth video on how to help ADHD girls socially.

[@flourishbodysoul]

This was so helpful and encouraging- thank you!

[@DoctorJacque]

I'm so glad!

[@divinely_designed_living]

These are very good tips. Thank you!

[@DoctorJacque]

You’re welcome! I appreciate you watching and commenting! 💚

[@user-cc8mf8xn2j]

Thanks a lot! Very informative and helpful. Best of luck!!!

[@DoctorJacque]

Thanks so much for your support 💚

[@DrDimaDrill]

Hi Dr. Jacque. Could you do a video on how to handle picky eating and anxiety over eating for 4-5 year olds? Thank you for all your videos!!

[@DoctorJacque]

Hi! Thank you for watching! That’s a great idea. I’ll add it to my future videos list 💕

[@sayeemazainab8327]

Really picky ... please help

[@larshalle]

Thank you for this very helpful video! I am diving into your other videos as well, but I was hoping you might be able to provide some wisdom on our situation: Our 10-year old son with ADHD has a 13-year old brother with Asperger's. While we, the parents, do our best to allow our 10-year old to be himself and limit negative feedback, it is incredibly difficult for our 13-year old to curb his responses. Sadly, most of our 10-year old's negative feedback is likely to come from his brother. How can we effectively encourage our Asperger's child to reduce his responses to our ADHD child, or discourage our ADHD child from excessive interaction with our Asperger's child? It has become a tremendous stressor in our already challenging parenting dynamic.

[@lesliehill3025]

What is a example of executive function

[@hervva]

i need to watch this vid with subtitles and your hands movements make it really difficult for me to focus on what is being said

[@linbron2018]

What should a parent due once we get an IEP from school?

[@DoctorJacque]

I think next steps depend on the specific situation. Kids will generally qualify for an IEP when physical, cognitive, emotional, or behavioral conditions interfere with their learning. Its purpose is to make accommodations and interventions for their specific needs while at school. An IEP can vary greatly child to child depending on their specific challenges. I would first recommend parents clarify their questions and the goals of the IEP with the school, so everyone can be on the same page and work together. If challenges mentioned on the IEP also occur and get in the way in other contexts like at home or socially, I recommend seeking additional professional support outside of the school too.

[@samisparkleheart]

​@DoctorJacque how often are IEPs updated?

[@rodneyandalexaplunkett7441]

What if you are a parent with ADHD trying to parent a child with ADHD ?

[@DoctorJacque]

Not uncommon. The same parenting strategies would still apply - maybe needing some individual tweaks so they work for the ways both a parent’s and child’s brain work. Was there a particular strategy from the video you were wondering about as a parent with ADHD?

[@cheriseshupe2758]

@@DoctorJacque yes the organizing the house part and the Routine making. Are both really hard for me with adhd as an adult and then my son’s adhd.

[@ToadalSimplicity]

Same here. I think it’s more common than the medical community acknowledges at this time. There are a lot of parents with ADHD who weren’t diagnosed prior to becoming a parent or who haven’t been diagnosed at all. I’m in the former group. The demands of parenting are what made it impossible for me to mask my ADHD and autistic traits anymore. I was neglected for a variety of reasons growing up and internalized a lot of negative beliefs about myself, and continue to set toxic expectations for myself. I don’t want to pass that on to my kids, but it’s difficult to overcome that default thought pattern (e.g. try harder, be better, what’s wrong with you). I would never say those things to my kids, but I also get frustrated and wish I had some ideas about better approaches to take. Having routines and an organized house does help, but then life happens and it’s hard to get back to or stick with those. At least partially, I know I just need to have more patience and grace with both myself and my children. I practice that every day. Life is never perfect, this is not an exact science, and the solutions are going to be different for everyone based on their personal circumstances. But I do wish there were better supports out there for people like us. It’s getting better, but there’s still a HUGE shortage of specialists and resources.

[@abigailwurtz9106]

The music makes it hard to listen to.

[@Limlani]

I agree

[@bygraceonly182]

#4 : reduce kid’s stress with consistency, predictability, and simplicity… enter Mom with ADHD (me) uhhhh… help!!! 😂

[@beckypadgettwillson3656]

I'm 42 with 14 yo, mum 63 all adhd and non of us with the skills needed lol steep learning curve but thank god there is so much more awareness now. Calm parenting skills have helped xx

[@internetmail3888]

"If you don't know at any moment in time what is most important in life to your kids, wife, husband, parents, friends etc you are not doing you job" - A Blackstone

[@maryf5337]

I don't agree.

[@zehniyat6410]

About what?

[@pamallen859]

What don't u agree with?