How to Get a Wife - Bitange Ndemo

Prof Bitange Ndemo's father was an authoritarian man who ruled his home with an iron fist. As a young, naive boy, he believed his father was the ideal representation of the head of a home. Growing up, his own experiences with dating and marriage didn't quite go as expected. He humorously shares about meeting his wife and how this has shifted his mindset towards women, love and marriage. #Engage28 #ShiftHappens #EngageAtFive
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[@ToxicAfricanKing]

Bitange doesn't even realize how funny he actually is, lol

[@jeffbohkenani2394]

He’s actually fun to watch. Flawless funny.

[@Mdalasini]

He doesn't 🤣🤣🤣

[@nyoxray]

Was falling off my seat!

[@Sardankinyua]

Sure he doesn't

[@kelmains]

😂😂so natural and flawless

[@kiplimolelei4028]

To all people reading comments... Remember to thank Dr. Ndemo for the fast internet speeds we have in Kenya today...This guy transformed the ICT Sector and most people have no Idea. Thank you Daktari.

[@reseso7149]

He transformed the sector and hundreds of thousands of Kenyans today ride on his efforts

[@davemwangi05]

I had no idea. Is it really him?

[@kiplimolelei4028]

@@davemwangi05 Yap...He was PS ICT during Kibaki Era.

[@davemwangi05]

@@kiplimolelei4028 I remember he was in the ICT but how can it be credited to him? I mean, it looks like private industry is the one thriving in the ICT sector, charging us highly for data. At least I heard that in TZ, the country has subsidized for its citizens.

[@reseso7149]

@@davemwangi05 Yeah

[@Janet9093]

Lesson learnt, No need to waste your time dating and courting for 6 years and end up breaking the relationship, better strike with one arrow and nail it within 6 days you are married. Rest will be bestowed by God.

[@rosemokogi2896]

True.....lol...

[@harrisonm.mungai2748]

It's never a waste of time.

[@benedictmwendwa8545]

Never try that.

[@dolo_minolo1812]

Times have really changed!

[@vernie7324]

I think that's a serious Kisii thing. I have an aunt who went to USA to get married to someone she'd never met. It was a hook up and they only spoke on phone. It's been 20 years plus and she's happy

[@Ijusthavequestions]

Awww he said 30 days to the day they met instead of 30 years because that's probably how it feels like when you get married for the right reasons and to the right person and live the right way. Simply Inspirational.

[@myartchronicles8918]

😁😁😁😁😁this man is funnier than all the funniest comedians I have ever known.

[@Mdalasini]

Yes all combined, effortlessly

[@beatricethuo5878]

Who knew Bitange Ndemo was funny with a straight face. He still remains among the best leaders i know in Kenya. Beautiful...

[@carolinewainaina4426]

It was such a mistake watching this episode with a face mask on , My skin is almost tearing off. Such a good story teller, lesson learned sir

[@EngageTalk]

😂😂😂😂

[@jeanhuscreations]

aki pole....you are really funny though!!

[@Chings001]

😂😂😂😂

[@emmanuelomondi3395]

😂😂😂

[@davemwangi05]

This comment is funny as hell.

[@SirB1]

As a generation are we too serious about relationships from this guy’s talk it sounds easy n straight forward

[@healdaily360]

What a beautifully simple honest earnest sincere warm pressure-free delicious hilarious humorous rib-cracking talk! 😅😅👏

[@judithouma3715]

Beautiful, funny and yet true story of the quickest way to get married! A marriage that has lasted 30 yrs!👏👏👏

[@stanleyoketch8134]

This is very hilarious. These are men of a golden generation when you just said your truth and keep your peace.

[@anniekamau1537]

Ati "I lifted the front wheel up,it refused to come down" He is such a funny guy 😅😅😅

[@samsonmusyoka5396]

🤣🤣....that's the part i will never forget about his story.

[@sallysalley316]

The crowd didn’t disappoint 🔥🔥

[@bettygithua3124]

I am impressed that he got his wife within a week. Such a good orator.

[@petma5551]

Betty Githua can this happen today ?

[@Rixpoet]

What a story, Bitange. Delves into a much needed conversation on masculinity.

[@Rixpoet]

@@tonym4953 dude. Have a good day.

[@kevinnyaga5046]

The Best Kenyan Government PS and pure genius

[@florencemawanda6374]

True that

[@kinyuathuku7783]

One of Kenya's best civil servants ever. Patriotic, hardworking and visionary How jubilee failed to give this man a job is beyond me

[@fredrickmropere6380]

The curse of tribal politics.

[@Am_YT90]

Am glad his reputation won't be tainted by their nonsense

[@benogechi5329]

Bitange and Matiangi are cousins and they have a connection through Nyachae....He stepped down for matiangi

[@Muthonie]

I don't think they were focused on finding such persons to serve Kenyans. They had different priorities based on the evidence on the ground

[@kevinkaruga9991]

I was thinking of better strategies of finding a wife in 2020 until i came across this

[@WangechiPenninah]

I recently meet them and guess what!!!! they go for jogging together. Mrs Bitange looks so amazing at her age love when they communicate beautiful .

[@eddahwambui3476]

Does she still do the 750ml vodka?...

[@Analyssaify]

Bitange looks younger than I remember!! Back to watching...

[@fayeistraveling1064]

I live in the USA. However, when I come to Kenya I always try to come so I can attend any Engage Kenya that is available. This is one of the most uplifting, enlighting and empowering programs there is.

[@raphaelonduso7358]

One of the best if not the best permanent secretaries in the Kibaki era. And thank you Dr. Bitange Ndemo for the fast internet.

[@findinglela]

Yes

[@faithnjoki1471]

How am i only seeing this now?! I didn't know he is this hilarious. He was part of the Kibaki administration that i always admired. Unfortunately they don't employ such leaders anymore. I weep for my nation. Fantastic story telling.

[@sammungai2307]

This episode remains the best to date, the humor in Dr. Ndemo is unmatched.

[@joyceaduda5419]

Who has watched Good doctor? Dr Ndemo is the genius Dr with a disorder. His sense of humour😅😅

[@lindanganga71]

Such honesty! Now that's a real man.. Confident in who He is and knows that he doesn't have to demand respect or authority... A servant leader! Wow! Be blessed Daktari

[@elinestmakori]

It's four years ....but this perfect automatic non constructed engineered raw humour still kills the show 😊😊😊 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@code-with-bob]

...and God saw the relationship, it was beautiful, magical and true... and He rested on the 7th day 👏

[@19915105]

Very powerful!! Whenever you introduce a life partner, you must be given a reason why you shouldn’t marry them. 30 years later Bitange still with a lady who could empty 750ml liquor.RELATIVES, SHUT UP! WACHA WAOANE!!

[@kenada254]

😂😂😂😂😂bad girl, good man

[@french7948]

"I struggled to understand this because I really wanted to be like my father. I wanted to be in control, to understand everything, that is how men used to be." - This is how men were and it is how we are up to now. It is a daily struggle to not try to control everything.

[@josephkomu1826]

I never knew Bitange was this funny. Every man has a story to tell. Bitange recited his very well, inter twined with some comedy.

[@aleksanderkoyle4702]

I use to go to class late at UoN school of business but I was the first one to go to his class. It's hard to get such a nice lecturer. Thank you mwalimu!

[@vernie7324]

What did he teach? I missed out big time

[@aleksanderkoyle4702]

@@vernie7324 entrepreneurship!

[@HelpedbyGod-o2z]

I never knew Prof was this funny. So people got married that fast kitambo. 2019 Kwa ground vitu ni different. Nice and interesting story.

[@nancyakinyi4555]

This man is hillarious and I am so glad I found this video

[@SamuelMuyaWachira]

Prof is always a good narrator. I miss his Entrepreneurship Seminars. That was an epic olskool story

[@EllaKabami]

Thoroughly enjoyed this. What a fantastic and extremely hilarious story teller he is. Its easy to see why 30 years ago he got a date on day 1. Here's to the next 30 years of laughter, joy and bliss sir. Thank you for sharing your story with us

[@gothic807]

The father of Kenyas internet Dr. Bitange Ndemo...my inspiration my role model....I thank you man for Kenyans Technology if you would have stayed a bit longer in the minstry we would have been way way far right now...

[@mohamedukod4361]

Professor was my lecturer at the University of Nairobi.Great educator.

[@SmilewithSaph]

He is such a good orator ..I have never laughed like this

[@anne-mariekosh5010]

A sweet story told with a funny twist. The narrator's calm collected demeanor and almost expressionless face heightens the humor.

[@hassanadan74]

Former permanent secretary ministry of information and communication then..great guy

[@jacqueonalo8079]

Mr. and Mrs. Ndemo, Happy Wedding Anniversary. This is one of the best love stories I have listened too, definitely the most candid. Mr. Ndemo your story telling is perfection with real comedic prowess. Thank you for gifting us with laughter. I am sure even the Kisii will applaud this public display.

[@CoolkenyanInisrael]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 nimecheka so loudly bafu zauma ...he's so funny

[@sharonsaina5225]

What a way to spend my afternoon. Laughed so hard.

[@africanqueenmo]

Ndemo I remember you back in the day in the US. Quite the character still. You have always been decent polite and tough like your dad. I just didnt kmow you were a comic too. Bravo great story and you need to memtor the lost boychildren of Kenya. They cant even open their mouths to say hi yet theyre dying inside. Too scared of rejection. Its about time masculinity was resussitated!😂😂

[@dianamoraa3486]

I like .... [phone]

[@khamisivictor6079]

Hi am doing mental program lots of men are battling depression and they can't speak out, I'd been able to open my story how I overcame depression out of rape plz I need support [phone]

[@gicherlewis2736]

I feel, to only chose to view the role the boychild plays in this in isolation, to be a rather inaccurate approach. I feel it would be important to appreciate the contextual differences between then and now. Weight we placed on things like love, genuine happiness, morals, virtues, character (among many other meaningful things), has since shifted to 'instant-coffee short-lived' things. Most girls (I use the quantifier most, because I still would like to believe that there are still some who aren't like that) would never look past the fact that you cannot take them out to any of those fancy eateries across the Nairobi Landscape (who's names I will not mention for obvious reasons) for dinner dates. The slightest sighting of 'greener pastures' would mark the beginning of the end for you as a 'boychild'. I was dating this lady a while back. I was in my final year at uni, and I somehow felt I was ripe for dating. We dated for around 7 months. And I'd like to believe that period of time I gave it my all. Towards the end, a loved one of hers was involved in a minor accident. During this trying period, I felt compelled to hold her hand and as a matter of urgency, I showed up at the hospital hoping that my visit would give her some sense of strength. She was really nasty. I have never before felt so shattered. A week later she reveals that her and one of her seniors at work....

[@michaelheery6303]

STUPI KENYA MOTHERS RUIN BOYS as so few fathers bother.

[@samsonmusyoka5396]

True that👌

[@ladysafari01]

My parents had a similar story. My dad who had schooled in the U.S. in the 60s went back home to look for a wife with the help of his Uncle. On one of their hunts stopped by a church spotted a young lady in the choir, coincidentally were invited to lunch at her uncles where she resided. Dad's uncle asked her uncle to talk to her. One week later he went to ask her dad to marry her and she left her homestead for Nairobi 2 days later. They married at the P.C Nairobi on arrival, got her passport and visa within the week and off they went to America! All this happened under 3 weeks!

[@EngageTalk]

😀😀 that's a great story. I wonder how many other similar stories exist.

[@SirB1]

Blessed & Highly Favored should i do the same n u show up

[@MagutoKibetTyson]

Back when people knew what they wanted,

[@ladysafari01]

@@SirB1 you would have to ask my husband of 22 years what he thinks about that...

[@cb8496]

@@MagutoKibetTyson Exactly.

[@SirMykalz]

bitange should do stand up comedy, cant stop laughing!!😂😂

[@a.y-tribe3327]

Wasn't quite sure what to expect, but I was so happy took a chance with this channel... Believe me, I was in stitches... I enjoyed his story so much I had to share..💓💓

[@erastuskalya5940]

More talks from this guy...priss...2020 we want him more

[@MrMartoem]

I have always admired Dr. Bitange Ndemo, he is a man who truly inspires. He is a great storyteller, and he has wonderful stories. I look forward to meeting him some day.

[@NorahRotich]

Such a good storyteller. 😂😂 This is beautiful. Thank you for crossing to the other side, our Kalenjin men could be exactly like Kisii’s🤣. I hope those who watch this and have not crossed to the other side to please cross 😂!

[@eliudsabulei3992]

Norah,am coming for U🙋

[@blessedbea5451]

The most hilarious talk ever hes a real gentleman and may God bless your union even more.

[@conniekiyalu2894]

Wah I have rewatched this more than enough times,someone stop me

[@ratemoobare]

Connie Kiyalu. May I please

[@susankinyanjui7344]

Good Story teller...i have laughed so much.Such a beautiful story....Bitange Ndemo Happy 30 Anniversary.

[@samkimani5426]

Message delivered in a simple and witty manner. Well done Bwana Bitange

[@haileyG1169]

The bike didn't come down🤣🤣🤣

[@kendiashitiva5984]

Awesome job Bitange Ndemo, well done Engage.

[@eglinejeptoo9279]

Never knew Prof is funny 😀. The naysayers on her drinking 750ml vodka, but that couldn't stop him😁

[@fredgori8510]

This was just too funny. Thanks, Bitange, for making me laugh so hard.

[@estherkariuki3975]

oh Dr demo i know you and your beautiful wife,,,down to earth kind earthed people ,,,bless you and happy 30 years anniversary

[@kari6658]

Best video i have watched today. Honest, hilarious and great humility.

[@zeytunmohammed374]

Those lines have made my 2019😂😂

[@nicholastoo858]

Had no idea that hommie was hilarious 😂

[@susannangwale6148]

This guy's humour and style 😂 Like laid back conversation with "unintentional" humour that just gets you 😂😂

[@lularodgers788]

We need more stories from this old young man

[@motosana1]

I read your articles (and met you briefly when you were in govt) - forever humble! I will add HILARIOUS to the list.

[@faithmumbi]

I didn't know your story Mr Bitange Ndemo, Congratulations on sharing it. Congratulations for listening to your on gutt feeling, 30 yrs you look kept and at peace.

[@loiceomollo1285]

Humility at its best!!!!

[@misswamboh9585]

"I lifted the front wheel up...it refused to come down"..dont try this at home😆😅😂

[@wanjadouglas3058]

What a lesson...and I meet Bitange in UoN alot and next time we meet I will ask him something...hahah...so hilarious

[@amoskiplangat2893]

This has to be the funniest engage ever.

[@wairimumukuria959]

Living in the present is a gift that keeps on giving.

[@catechrislimitedthebranden8190]

Bitange is humorous 😂😂😂😂😂 Bold And very intelligent

[@benso2576]

That's a sweet and hilarious love story from Bitange....l love it

[@hannahkariuki8531]

Aaww he is such an orator!! so inspiring Prof.

[@JohnOrimbo]

I didn't know Pro.Bitange Ndemo is this funny!

[@phyllisi.340]

Bitange is soooo funny!😂😂😂. Beautiful story hilariously told. Glad your 'effort' to find a wife finally paid off 😃. May God bless you with many more years together. Such a brilliant mind, wish he could make it to the cabinet. Thanks for spearheading the fiber optic project in Kenya! A great milestone..God bless you.

[@bonnybonny8337]

More talks from Bitange please. Thank you. I could listen to him all day. Hahaha

[@ivywainaina759]

Such a good and humble orator! :) :)

[@gloriawambui3998]

I can never get tired of this beautiful love story

[@njerigitau8480]

This is the funniest 🤣🤣🤣🤣engage talk I've ever listened to. Who knew Prof. Bitange is this. hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@andrewadera404]

Extremely funny and cleverly executed

[@urvangift7747]

My first time to comment on KZbin Nail on my lecturer 💯 such a simple and smart guy.

[@geoffreymoturi4880]

Daktari Bitange Ndemo is the most sincere person ever.

[@beatricekebwaro4170]

Prof. This has left my libs cracked. Many blessed years with your beautiful family

[@otienorooneyomondi9576]

The calmness as he tells the story👌

[@JohnPaul536]

A very humble Prof , very good story teller

[@carolineomori1032]

Gaki, nasekire!! This is a beautiful talk.

[@samsonmusyoka5396]

🤣🤣...the front wheel never came down?!!....quite hilarious🙆🏻‍♂️😂😅

[@thedivinebandit]

"It refused to come down." 😂😂😂

[@TheRainDancer]

Wow...Interesting and funny talk :)))) gone are simple days where relationships were not as complicated as today. Congratulations on 30th Anniversary of marriage!

[@faithconsolatta9991]

This is hilarious 😂😂😂, good talk Prof, good talk. Happy 30th Anniversary

[@margaret3mg]

I have been reading/hearing Daktari's name in books and on news. Oh he's so nice, humble and hilarious at the same time. Quite well narrated Mr.Bitange Ndemo. Happiest anniversary sir🌷🌷🌷🌷⚘⚘⚘🌹🌹🌹

[@kiarie5127]

This is the most candid of conversations I have watched in 2019! Daktari is such an orator, honest conversations bring out the most authentic of emotions. Anyone there ready to be wifed asap and 30 years later to be us here on engage? 🤣🤣

[@margaret3mg]

@@kiarie5127 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kiarie5127]

@@margaret3mg🤣🤣🤣 if you know someone, who probably knows someone.....

[@margaret3mg]

@@kiarie5127 will let you know my dear

[@cb8496]

@@kiarie5127 Better take a chance while you can. Faint heart never won fair lady ☺.

[@wanscal]

I haven't laughed like this in a very long time. The delivery was so on point, extremely funny but very inspiring.

[@questkamande571]

Absolutely amazing story as told with a touch of wit and humour by Prof. Thanks Engage for keeping us sane in 2019 with these amazing pieces. Keep them coming in 2020. Will you :-)

[@ruth5405]

I am a First timer,this was quite a hilarious welcome.

[@t.wkangethe4814]

Dr Bitange looking all young and great 👍.he is a very good storyteller 😂😂 keep inspiring God bless you sir.

[@marymwololo9450]

Such a beautifully simple comical narration of love and a journey through reconstruction of stereotype beliefs.

[@Chings001]

Dr Bitange you're hilarious! I've always enjoyed your articles but I had no idea you're this hilarious as well. Very good talk

[@jameswangari8008]

I like the simplicity of prof.

[@mitteymoh2086]

😅😅😅 I've watched this several times and it never stops being funny

[@EngageTalk]

True!

[@ednakerubo8836]

You just made my evening prof. Even your classes were something I always looked forward too. God bless you.

[@magarematara8919]

Hahaha,,so he was your lecture??