Enlightenment Is NOT What You Think! ⚠️

The day I "gave up" on enlightenment... This changed EVERYTHING for me!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
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Enlightenment Is NOT What You Think! ⚠️
What is enlightenment? How to become enlightened? In this short, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the truth about enlightenment and spiritual awakening... Discover the REAL spiritual awakening journey!
#enlightenment #spiritual #spirituality
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[@JulienHimself]

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[@RTSBone]

You know nothing about enlightenment...

[@hentaimage95]

How do you know what enlightenment is if you aren't? Serious question, what made you say: i do know what I'm talking about

[@grambo3343]

Thus guy dum

[@RTSBone]

@@hentaimage95 I learned from people who are

[@hentaimage95]

@@RTSBone But.. i was not speaking with you. My comment was referring to Julien. To understand enlightenment each one needs it's personal experience since it's something very intimate and unique to each one. It's an understanding of your unique spark, and then you can transcend it

[@BasedBrothers]

Everything changes for the better when you realize you are not your thoughts! “We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca Stay Based

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@jagrebelsg9655]

Pls elaborate on the first sentence.. Thanks

[@Brandon-9]

I read that from Seneca Damn true

[@BasedBrothers]

@@jagrebelsg9655 You are the awareness/conscioussnes behind the thoughts. Meditation will make you realize this.

[@Castle40Cal]

I don't exist

[@connorbyers]

Love the insight man. Enlightenment is one of those topics that gets so skewed in the self growth world, and my mission has always been to provide clear, unfiltered information. Keep it up.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad this resonated! 🙏

[@unkown215]

Omg thank you so much. I’m 17 years old and I have so much anxiety about my future and college. And I start to feel guilty because all my friends are going to University and I’m going to college because I failed some of my courses because I’ve been a loser throughout my high school. And for the past 2 years I have only gone outside like 10 times. No social life introverted asf. If I was ur client I would be the worst client. My life is shambles and I don’t know what to do. My mom is barely keeping me and her from going homeless. All this sadness and guilt I’m feeling are actually good because it’s what makes me human I guess.

[@Kamisenbonn]

Don't worry man, you are awesome and sweet the way you are.

[@tutorial9322]

That‘s what many people feel and why we are in search for a better view on life. Jesus taught us to not resist the „evil“ and to be okay with suffering too. Just don‘t label it as suffering, don’t link it to thoughts, just see it as an energy playing out in the awareness of the body. It stops being a problem and starts being the „what is“ and it is okay. If overwhelming trauma appears, stop inquiring, just gently stroke your wrist and tell yourself „it‘s okay, I am here“ or start watching an easy and uplifting movie or series or talk with others about your state or go out into nature or cuddle with your pet if you have one or with someone you love… In truth it is what appears in consciousness whilst consciousness itself is free from all appearance. It is the confusion of identity that makes one suffer from appearances rather than resting in being while appearances just fill the periphery of view.

[@unkown215]

​@@tutorial9322 beautifully said. I can't believe that was even my writing that a year ago. because now my life has completely changed in a year. Although we are still struggling financially, we have somehow thanks to god made it through. I am way more social than anyone I know, and I really don't care about most the things I said before that were previously important to me. Now I just keep researching about religions, secrets of this world, the truth, and the lies that these governments have been perpetrating. I've been so stuck up on finding the truth, but unfortunately unless if you are a part of those billionaires, you will probably never know the truth. Aside from that, I've been taking care of face tryna look the best I can, and going gym a few times a week. Now my issues is with action taking. I need to start finding a job and start helping my single mother, and focus on my school to get better grades.

[@Highermanbeing]

🤍🤍🤍🫡

[@funnn-md9is]

Be encouraged and just be grateful for what you have. You are God's creation and this world is passing along with everything in it. Invest time in the bible it will show you lots of things about love.

[@Mr.Honest247]

This dudes outfit is hilarious! You got balls dude! 😆 I do admire your boldness, which is rare and how you demonstrate the very bravery you teach!!!

[@iammidia5548]

Came looking for this comments. I couldn’t been the only one!😂❤

[@mawangshallhang]

“Don’t listen to them, pay me and listen to me instead” It’s no different than any other person that does this.

[@cptpowerpuff]

He’s actually also including himself too. He says “anyone”, which means that if he ever tries to sell you in on this highly profitable idea, don’t even buy it from him neither

[@Kelseashell]

@@cptpowerpuffYes true; people are too quick to criticize. Good insight

[@liquidfists1]

I like this. I make an executive decision that if and when I'm sad I cease believing in any of my thoughts when in the emotion of sadness, and that, I will resume believing in my thoughts after the emotion of sadness is gone

[@JulienHimself]

That's a good first step, however to really get to the cause and make this PERMANENT... You will have to dive much deeper and do the right amount inner work! 👌

[@jaysmith571]

In that case scenario,your so called sad feeling is basically experiencing happiness,it just alternatively replaced the word happy.the emotion sad would still exist.almost had me sold but I had to realize it was actually almost logical nonsense.

[@priyanwimalaratne5337]

Way to go... congratulations!

[@jerrodlopes186]

In a word, enlightenment is contentment. Contentment with whatever situation or feelings. Not holding onto or identifying with them . "I am angry, I am sad". No. "Feelings of anger, feelings of sadness". Done. Not "I am sick, I am unwell". No. You are none of them. They're just things that happen.

[@enlightenedwriter]

A fine description but contentment is not enlightenment. Contentment is one catalyst and result for being it, enlightenment itself is a bit more than that. For example there are things about enlightenment that have nothing to do with being content. Ironically an example of this is realising that you shouldn’t be content with everything. Some things are better off being let go an moving on from.

[@enlightenedwriter]

You got the picture, but correct me if i misinterpreted this. But did you imply that we should have our minds wired by other influences and live by them? Cause if it was, that’s the opposite enlightenment. Enlightenment means to separate yourself from influencers and live by nothing but your truth. And thus freeing yourself from karma. It’s in the name. En-lighten-ment your soul gets light-end. Up. The idea is that it gets lighter so there is nothing holding you grounded so you can’t ascend/align with yourself. Instead of disconnecting with yourself and living by other things.

[@LakshmiNarayananR_Be_Awesome]

Accept everything that comes in your way of life that's enlightenment..

[@Callummullans]

Take heart, seek joy, love and peace and then you will understand the world through these perspectives.

[@justinhart2831]

I needed to hear this. I get the whole feeling worse because you're mad at yourself for feeling bad.

[@ChandanDas-iq3xv]

How do you know ? Are you enlightened?

[@kaylamorris283]

Enlightenment is a quick experience. Living afterward is what he is describing. When you experience it, there is nothing and no one else. Just you in the oneness but after you are back in your "normal" state with a new outlook on life and yourself

[@MrYahya0101]

If u can leave enlightenment, then enlightenment is not everywhere.

[@drago4803]

No baby cried and felt awesome.....those who got what i said, got it

[@donuttrump1235]

That's what mark manson did mention in his book "the subtle art of not giving a fuck". Dealing with negative emotions and facing them is the real enlightenment !! not avoiding them.

[@alexvillasenor4149]

Enlightenment is realizing the emotions and everything that happens is necessary for either your well being or for you to change your perspective and teach you something

[@JulienHimself]

Yes!! 🙏

[@Sam-xy9pu]

The moment the Buddha reached enlightenment it was after days of resisting all outside influence and exhibiting zero reaction and zero emotion. Trying to trick yourself into feeling happy when you are sad will create madness.

[@violetmoon6233]

I have been around healer /life coaches full of spiritual bypass & toxic positivity . I truly believe in the power of positivity but I accept sadness when I feel it. I write songs , hug my roommates cat & self reflect . 🕊️🤍Every emotion is there to teach us something . 🙏💚

[@RajeshKumar-ry4on]

Enlightenment is something entirely different. Enlightened feelings cannot be explained by mere words. The world chages for you. You see higher dimensions. Dimentional beings

[@randallradke1279]

Isn’t sad just a term given to unwanted feelings of longing? How can you be happy about unwanted feelings of wanting something you can’t have?

[@spontaneousbootay]

It's not what you do, it's the spirit in which you do it.

[@nickkehoe4499]

enlightenment is a dissolution of the attachment to a self, so there is no "self" experiencing the sadness/fear/stress etc... so i disagree completely. but either way i like the video alot and think its a good message but saying that its enlightenment is not the case

[@sebastjankrek1744]

There is still a self or you are dead... You are just not attached to it, it is like playing a character, its not that you dont feel anything but whatever you do feel cannot really hurt you or affect you no matter what. But even so, enlightened people too of course die but not just that, if you drugged them and beat them up and torture them they would probably lose touch with the enlightenment as well, maybe with some exceptions like jesus possibly

[@nickkehoe4499]

@@sebastjankrek1744 i disagree that they would lose it once you seal stream entry/enlightenment u dont lose it even through death or being tortured. and yes i agree thats why i said dissolution of the attachment to self, in a video game if your character is being tortured you dont forget that your a person playing a game just like when ur deattached to self you cant and wont ever lose it once its sealed.and i didnt state they cant feel pain or any other sensation but there not attached to the thing experiencing that so they dont feel it to the real "soul"

[@sebastjankrek1744]

@@nickkehoe4499 well how do you know are you enlightened? Sadhguru, is he enlightened? Because he said that probably now he would actually take the pain medication for the leg operation he heroically underwent younger without, clearly that means it's not entirely outside the realm of possibility that he doesn't like pain and that it still affects him somewhat...

[@nickkehoe4499]

@@sebastjankrek1744 im not saying any of that. i never said the pain doesnt exist. in a video game you would still prefer not to lose then win its just a preference not a necessity. im not sadhguru so i cant speak for him at all but i know for me i would rather not feel pain in a dream even in a lucid dream even if i know im dreaming. im not gonna rip my leg off in a dream its unskillfull and unnecessary and helps noone. the body feels pain regardless if your identified with it or not. you just understand the sensation isnt you at a deep level

[@nickkehoe4499]

@Ch4rLz tHa PrInCe i mean the "self" or ego is a false construction that on a true level doesn't really exist, in buddhism its sometimes referred to as the small self and the higher/big self is the true authentic soul. which is beyond the rising and falling of the body/emotions/mind the small self is the thing that gets trapped in the response of "this is good" "this is bad" "i like this person" "i hate this person" "i am angry" "i am happy" it only works in duality's and judgments, the higher self is beyond dual thinking, beyond the body, beyond the emotions.

[@Turtleportal]

The point of enlightenment is to supersede all those feelings that come to disrupt you.

[@JulienHimself]

It's to change your relationship with them so that you embrace them FULLY! 🙏

[@h.neubert8770]

No need to embrace when there is no self, only pure awareness.

[@Nikki-on4bg]

I think this works because when I feel really sad I hear this special song which makes me cry and then I still feel sad but also a little bit freed

[@LifeIsGood1992]

suddenly you release all the attacking yourself for attacking yourself. that's one big sign🚀

[@expecttheunexpected8070]

Theres a lot of truth to this although sadness itself is sadness. You cant feel happiness because of it. You can accept it as sadnesses and wait for it to pass or work on it depending on the situation.

[@uhhdudeuhhwhatsup]

Julien is describing more of a practical, everyday human being type of enlightenment. However, rare human beings do reach full enlightenment, where there is identification with the universal Self, and all fear ceases completely and forever, as one is then beyond death.

[@Xolvant]

"Enlightenment is the key to open the gates of freedom,The way to stop birth" - Gautama Buddha-

[@agorist.boogaloo]

Something seems off about this way of thinking to me, feeling sad=emotional pain, is an indication that something is wrong, and something should change, and you need to figure that out, not just disassociate from the feeling and convince yourself that it means the complete opposite. For me, enlightenment isn't accepting that things that make us sad (cruelty, innocents suffering) will always exist, and suppressing the sadness, but rather realizing that we can do good things, and stop evil, even if it means dying in this dimension, through enlightenment you realease and detach from the fear of death, so you won't tolerate or be coerced to do evil, because you know you'll be inexplicably infinitely safe, rewarded, appreciated in the other dimension/heaven.

[@HeroC14]

It's taking yourself out of yourself to understand that you're important as a piece of the puzzle of your life community. You deserve days where you can be sick and recover, feel sad or angry and stew in it for as long as you need. Then come back and bless people when you're able. The enemy is your perception of the world's view on you in the moment, which inhibits your true self from being expressed as it should.

[@JulienHimself]

Nice! This is why letting go is the way... 🙏

[@renotseng4809]

So, Buddhism works this way. Buddha said, 'If you suffer, you suffer because you desire, and your desires are either unattainable or always being disappointed or something. So cut out desire.' So, those disciples went away, and they stamped on desire, jumped on desire, cut the throat of desire, and threw out desire. But then they came back, and Buddha said, 'But you are still desiring not to desire. How do you get rid of that?' So when you see that, that's nonsense, there naturally comes over you a quietness. And seeing that you cannot control your mind, you realize there is no controller. What you took to be the thinker of thoughts is just one of the thoughts; what you took to be the feeler of the feelings, which could be some chronic muscular strain, is just one of the feelings; what you took to be the experience of experience is just part of the experience. So, there isn't any thinker of thoughts or feeler of feelings. We get into that bind because we have a grammatical rule that verbs have to have subjects. Now, the funny thing about that is that verbs are processes, and subjects are nouns, which are supposed to be 'things'. How does a noun start a verb? How does the thing put a process into action? Obviously, it can't. However, we always insist that there is this subject called the 'knower', and without the knower, there can't be knowing. Well, that's just a grammatical rule; it isn't a rule of nature. In nature, there's just knowing.

[@skie6282]

A way i relate to this that others mught understand better, is like our reaction to rain. Wveryone says to gloomy and yucky and blah but its honestly nice, its what give the world life literally, its refreshing to, its cleansing, so when it rains im happy ablut it. So i can totally see how sadness could be similar

[@franzhaas5597]

There was a guru called Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj and he was considered enlightened. He had a business he had kids and he was a huge smoker. He just saw everything for what it is. It's changed his view on life and death but didn't change him as an everyday person. Matter of fact this Guru said there is no enlightenment these are just words created by human beings, go beyond words, living and dying are just ideas. Go beyond ideas. By the way I'm just paraphrasing. Julian you always have something great to say.

[@Filtered6]

He is true ,,, enlightenment is nothing but dropping your all emotions for the situation that you already experienced in the past ,,, it’s like forgetting everything and questioning everything then accepting the harsh fact that “ we can’t do anything “ ,,

[@AwakeAtTheWheel]

Thank you! I’ve been watching all these videos of people who don’t really know what awakening or enlightenment is. It’s annoying. They seem to think you become this perfect stoic and that’s just not true. Now I get that this video is about understanding the necessary relationships between things. But what I want to know is why enlightenment happens. If God is us and he wants to be lost in the illusion, why do some of us end seeing beyond the illusion?

[@parusyte]

Idk about this. I spent a lot of high school being extremely depressed, to where I’d be surprised when I actually felt happy. Still feel that way today. I subconsciously like being sad now, and it has only made it harder to grow into the man I wanna be.

[@iialceusii9841]

Even worse is when you do feel happy for a long time and you’re suspicious like somethings not right…

[@yujiinagaki]

You are conditioned right now looking for happiness externally. You have to generate happiness from within. Ask yourself, "what am I trying to get externally to fulfill my happiness?" This could be money, relationship, sex, materials (cars, jewelry, house), status, etc. The more you expect happiness to come from external sources, the more you become deprived and depressed. "How can I become happy from within?" This is where Julien and Owen are spreading their wisdom. Step 1 is to know that happiness comes from within. Step 2 is to seek out how.

[@mitch.8384]

Julien is like a preacher and a therapist thanks for being real my brother 🙏

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏

[@user-zj6og3pd9d]

How would you have any clue what it is like? You have not experienced it

[@theelogician8633]

Raising human perspective is a daunting and massive burden bravo to you julien and I’m sure our paths will cross in this constant battle of perspective and relative human thought!

[@JulienHimself]

🙏🙏🙏

[@krampus5531]

Had an epiphany yesterday from a combination of reading fanfiction discossions on reddit, writing and making progress on a fanfiction i really loved, and reading "Paramedic" book. Now i'm researching enlightenment.

[@queenofhearts1138]

So glad I found you. SO GLAD. YOU'RE GONNA HELP ME GET NEXT LEVEL. I KNOW IT.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad my content is helpful! You got this 🙏

[@dallasteague001]

Love this vid ! Can’t believe there’s no comments and likes. What does sitting still have to do with enlightenment ?-from your experience.

[@noexcuses5524]

I believe Enlightenment is more than just that I think Enlightenment is about being content, not seeking temporary pleasures in this world such as money. You have to study how the buddhism practice originate. Most of us are not enlightenment.

[@sirjohn6299]

I think this is just self-awareness that you can achieve by just changing your mindset or learning to control it. Honestly, I do not think many people are truly enlightened. I remember reading some work by Swami Vivekananda, Crowley, and some others and it appears to me that enlightenment is the effect of some meditative insight achieved through years of spiritual practice. For this reason I do not think there are many enlightened people in the world.

[@HVS.11.11]

Wow 😅 my experience with pain depression and anxiety has completely changed. I never thought about it the way he said it. Powerful

[@Poodlesnpussies]

I know you shouldn't judge a book by his cover but boy would I love to change his outfit

[@gunfugames7430]

It's kinda deep. If you start getting light in your relationship to your emotions and their quality changes.

[@JulienHimself]

🙏

[@Karmapocalypse7734]

And when you are enlightened, you start understanding that everything is meant to be and things you believed would be life long cursed in the moment of your mindset overly reacting for not getting what you wanted and expected, always turns out to be long term blessing building you up and preparing you to receive what you most needed without even knowing you were attracting it all from day one.

[@ryanscott3261]

A tad hyperbolic on the "joy at sadness" example but probably meant to contextualize the way past conditioning influences our response to events. Heard a phrase before akin to "it's not what happens that matters but how you feel about it." Consciously settling into a comfortable "frame" while the instinctive, reactionary mind tugs your emotions elsewhere seems like a constant barrier during times of trepidation.

[@averagejoe6352]

Yeah that’s not how sadness works. No one conditions you to think sadness is a bad thing. You simply feel it and know damn this sucks.

[@TalcomoelSol]

My man, you said it like it is, with that freshness. Thank you!

[@subhadarshikar]

Julien, your thoughts and knowledge are similar to that of Sadhguru.....you should hear him....he is an enlightened being.....and I would be more than happy to see you both on same stage 😊🙏🏻

[@MrJamesdryable]

No body is enlightened. If anyone says to you they're enlightened, they're not.

[@bando3582]

This is stupid sadness is an emotion present by 3 months of age, it is not learned and there’s nothing societal about it

[@MarinTvarog]

Before satori, you chop wood and bring water, after satori you chop wood and bring water.

[@rockiecheng3090]

Thank you Julien!!! This information is simple and yet transcendental for me!!!

[@kimvang94]

Enlightenment is subject specific. This is basically the Buddhist idea of enlightenment, which is enlightenment into the psychological mechanism of suffering. It's nothing more mystical than that.

[@kimvang94]

Even after you're awakened to this mechanism, you still need to practice mindfulness of it in order to benefit. Over time, you can become a master at it, at which point you more or less always catch it before it gathers momentum.

[@daylinboudreaux7299]

The self experiences nothing. If you experience anything your still in ego conciseness. Your talking about emotions. Self has no emotions. But it's okay hope you transcend even more than you have Julien!! Enlightenment is just waking up to the truth. And truth is not spoken anywhere even the churches 😉

[@triciamichelle5732]

I like feeling sad, if it's not constant.

[@sue8536]

The irony in this guy trying to tell me not buy enlightenment while he tries to sell me enlightenment about enlightenment

[@Templestone]

False enlightenment is being taught and accepted as truth.

[@bungojerry9297]

The wisest will say they know nothing at all.he is not enlightened.

[@enlightenedbeing-6187]

Anyone before me who claimed to being enlightened is false, i am and only i am achive it, i am beyond from.......................

[@nodabot]

This guy is as smart as he is honest

[@emalynicole1006]

Lol today I walked around crying and I just didn’t care .. I’m enlightened 😂

[@YuppiePsycho]

Enlightement is actually a thing, check out ramana maharishi. Julien is teaching how to heal trauma, which is a step towards enlightenment, and also helps become succesfull in the material world!

[@happinessgyms]

ENLIGHTMENT IS NOT AN IDEA. YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ENLIGHTMENT WITHOUT YOU BEING ENLIGHTED

[@markambrose66]

Great point👌 emotions come and go like waves, so u just gotta ride them till they die out

[@LifeIsGood1992]

take care of falling in wishful thinking or magical thinking or positivism.

[@thesage90]

Yes I said this to myself once before. "what if everything was the opposite" and then I just laugh. We harm ourselves

[@Wattage3000]

So it's basically a state of mind

[@shericebsperspective2631]

Makes complete sense! I AM Enlightened. 🌌🧘‍♀️♾️

[@mfit7110]

No you’re not. And neither is he

[@ThaSoloist]

Where am I

[@sagarghatge6704]

Thank you so much Julien!

[@joshuastephenward5316]

Seems like negative emotions compound without understanding them. They become a chronic state of emotional debt one acclimates the definition of themselves to in ignorance of the deeper domain of belief that makes it possible or impossible to grow from negative things.

[@JulienHimself]

👌

[@bettermanchannel770]

Its just removing all the bullshit, if I'm walking around saying I'm eblightened I've probably missed the point

[@elirentals5306]

It’s never about the thing it’s always what you think about the thing.

[@gaminglegend3313]

That's what osho and budhha used to say

[@GlasTaibhse]

great video, explains this concept so much better than all of the channels that seem like they want people to ignore anything negative. life's like a battery, you need positives and negatives for it to work. it's up to you how you channel that energy. thanks for posting all of these videos, they've been a huge help with a ton of things

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! Glad this resonated and was helpful! 🙏

[@Agaraj300]

It does make sense (yes)

[@rossb7288]

I dont buy for one second that this guy is "enlightened"

[@tristonthomas413]

This is super high-tier metaphysics, explained through psychology. Brilliant.

[@JulienHimself]

Thank you! Glad this resonated with you!

[@JechtNH]

YOU don’t get angry when you are enlightenment. The anger is there, but it’s not your. That’s the difference

[@nvb455]

Abraham Hicks would agree ❤

[@stevemagic5358]

“You release the attacking yourself for attacking yourself “

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! Emotions never cause us to suffer... It's our attachment and resistance to feeling certain emotions that cause that.

[@sincerelyrob4240]

I want to see charcoal gray silk or shiny material shirt underneath that coat. Not shiny like flamboyant but shiny like expensive.

[@miyakern]

You’re a genius!✨🤗

[@user-de9po1kv7y]

Well Im enlightened.

[@mattshepherd1736]

The most enlightened person is still a person

[@taniaswain-williams1379]

Really great way to explain it

[@JulienHimself]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dkcartstudios3778]

Yes I needed this. Thank you

[@JulienHimself]

You're very welcome!

[@Ripen3]

You hit the nail on the head so hard👌

[@JulienHimself]

Great!

[@mfit7110]

So people are supposed to think he is enlightened?

[@AshishKumar-dk2mw]

I think he could explain the ending better

[@jd4750]

That guy said cap not yeah

[@monurajput5608]

This is one of the Ultimate truths 🧡👏🏻

[@JulienHimself]

Yes! Glad this resonates! 🙏

[@monurajput5608]

@@JulienHimself thank u sir. The way u motivate the people in your sessions is the best I have seen .

[@lowk-ip8en]

We're real we always have emotions , we not machines showing emotion is naturally your always going to show an emotion

[@someone4someone2007]

What a toolbox. Post enlightenment there is no “you”, therefore there is no “you” to feel sad about anything. You are merely the observer.