Enmeshment With Ex-Spouses: Blended Family Boundaries

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

What did you think about this episode?

[@rachelmcelveen1503]

How do you figure out if there is an enmeshment between your spouse and their ex?

[@kristenb.1479]

A much needed topic to be discussed!

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

Yes! We are glad the episode was a blessing! Thank you for the support

[@staceyeldredge9191]

This hit so hard...

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

Thank you for the comment! We know these challenges can be difficult to navigate and are stopping right now to cover you in prayer! We pray this episode was a blessing to you. Be blessed in all you do!

[@staceyeldredge9191]

@@BlendedKingdomFamilies The enemy uses confusion and deception to rot the family from the inside out...or at least in our case. There is so much to discuss, discern, and learn about this topic. It is also so painful when in the midst of it all

[@staceyeldredge9191]

@@BlendedKingdomFamilies The enemy uses confusion and deception to rot the family from the inside out...or at least in our case. There is so much to discuss, discern, and learn about this topic. It is also so painful when in the midst of it all

[@DanaTyldsley]

Hi! I noticed all of these videos mention spouse but I wonder, how does a couple go from girlfriend to wife without these issues? How do they progress to marriage and find these issues out ? I met my partnerd co parents at 3 months and she was rude to me and it's destroyed my confidence I don't feel I should have met her so soon

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

Thank you for your comment. We are sorry to hear about your challenges and are stopping right now to cover you in prayer. Unfortunately, many of the challenges we face are unpredictable and require us to adapt quickly in the best way we know how. Fortunately, we are not alone when facing challenges and we serve a God that cares deeply for us. These realities are why we strongly recommend biblical pre-marriage counseling, effective coaching, and utilization of practical blended family resources like the BKF Podcast, Let's Therapy Podcast, Blended and Redeemed book/study guide and other BKF resources.

[@ipaycloseattention]

My fiance is still enmeshed with his ex-wife, 10 years after their divorce. Other than sexually, they might as well still be married. He supports her financially, with her still having access to all of his accounts, and he still confides in her like a spouse. She refuses to meet me after 2 1/2 years together, and he spends all holidays at her house with their grown children. He thinks this is all normal after a divorce, because they don't live together or sleep together anymore. So it looks like there's no signs of this changing because to him this is the definition of divorce. I don't know what to do because he won't set boundaries.

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

Thank you for the comment. We hope this podcast discussion provided helpful direction as you navigate enmeshment challenges. We are sorry to hear about your struggles and are stopping right now to cover you in prayer. For additional support and encouragement we recommend reading Micah 7:7, Psalm 62:5-6, Lamentations 3:21-23, Hebrews 10:23, Luke 1:37 and Jeremiah 32:17. We recently created a blog that may help and have linked it here for reference blendedkingdomfamilies.com/how-to-talk-about-an-ex-spouse-5-tips-for-constructive-conversation/ Be blessed in all you do!

[@BlendedKingdomFamilies]

Hi, we wanted to provide an additional resource, a Pre-Marriage coaching group that will take place in September. This coaching group will be held virtually. For more information please click the link. blendedkingdomfamilies.tfaforms.net/56 Be blessed in all you do!