90 Day Fiancé: Emily and Kobe’s Awkward FIGHT

[@sheenah8638]

Different cultures, no one in my family would whip out their boobs in front of the men in the family to breastfeed

[@brownskinbeauty.]

She could have at least had a blanket over her while she did it

[@debravan1167]

Same for my family. It’s inappropriate

[@DippyHippie]

That’s exactly why we have breasts!To feed our babies! They’re not supposed to look good in a bikini! Breasts have been sexualized bc of men! They’re not a toy for men to suck on & play with!

[@zari2662]

Same 🙋🏽‍♀️

[@kristiankiser7190]

@@brownskinbeauty. why would she ? If it’s gross , then it’s gross . But if it’s ok enough for children to eat from.. then why shield adults from it ???

[@tinajohnson3162]

It wasn't just in front of her parents it was in front of the entire world.

[@fabianaguerra3813]

Lol there is cameras 📷

[@epahyop6877]

🤣

[@GG-kn2se]

Breasts are for producing milk and feeding children. They have no other purpose. Get over it.

[@hadarliberman6055]

I don't feel he's wrong here. He was just expressing how he felt. We are all different in this world. And speaking as a woman who extremely values her autonomy, I would never pump in front of a camera crew. And the reason is simply that there is still something private about certain body parts. Once we start looking at breasts as simply what they are - means for a child to nurse - then we can start passing harsher judgement on whether or not Kobe's sentements hold validity. But until then, he has every right to express discomfort if he feels it.

[@Cantetinza17]

I live in CA, we basically breast feed anywhere. 😊 Unfortunately there are those grits people that will always see breast as a sexual thing. We can't do anything about that.

[@cbow5582]

@Hader Liberman. I agree. I've never breastfed but I wouldn't feel comfortable with pulling out my breasts in front of my parents or strangers for that matter without me being discreet about it. I'm all for going natural with everything we do but breastfeeding is a bond between me and my child not everyone else. So I agree with Kobe

[@gailbrown2887]

Exactly

[@rosegray6606]

I have never breastfed never but if I had ever did it I would have some privacy about when I pump and feed..

[@missieandcircus5874]

I agree my mom worked for WIC for over ten years I breastfed 5 kids till 12 months and done for my relationship their is always a give and take. Communication is key always and taking both points of views are very important. Especially when cultures are involved. I am Mexican American and my spouse is born and raised most his life in North Caroline and I understand their are differences. Wish them all luck 🍀btw I would and have never breastfeed in front of my parents besides my mom who was there for some of my births. But still not gonna pull no boob in front of no one else besides my man so give him the spot he deserves and needs as man. I know not all men are the same but hey to each their own. I would want privacy pumping or feeding. So yeeeaaaa not even in front of my father lol 😆 morons sometimes speak before thinking 🤔

[@samariam3043]

I agree with Kobe. There was a whole production crew there…

[@ellacruz9222]

I don’t think it’s appropriate to pump breast milk in front of your father. I think the dad could step out or she could go to the bedroom, I think Kobe is right on this one. Yes they are a close family but I think the “little girl” has grown up and needs privacy.

[@raidenwolfe6495]

Thank you! Fawwwk I'd rather whip my tit out infront of 2 million people then my daddy lol thats weird af

[@davidg5759]

I agree. I wouldn't mind it if it was my daughter, but I for sure would leave for some peace lol

[@alysoncutler7075]

It's preached that it's ok to do so. Also to breastfeed in public. But I've never felt comfortable with it. I always found a private spot to feed my daughter if we were out in public places.

[@shyviolets]

@@alysoncutler7075 I think it's perfectly fine with some sort of privacy screen... but if you have no other choice baby still needs to be fed. It's weird to just do it in front of people when you can excuse yourself

[@happyytreefriend]

His opinion as her husband should matter to her, as well. She’s very dismissive of it because her parents are there.

[@Noino1120]

I don’t understand what this man is doing that’s so wrong. I like how he expresses himself.

[@raidenwolfe6495]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@lilmbaye29]

They don't like a strong ass intelligent black man.

[@samariam3043]

I love that most of us agree with Kobe 🙌🏾

[@nicholwhatley322]

Yes I agree, and I’m not pumping in front of my dad for sure

[@Anthony.and.Bigsis]

I lean he is right. And im a mom! Lol

[@cassandrataylor4063]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯💯

[@estrellagonzalez9950]

Sorry melicia but I COMPLETLY disagree with everything you said... So the fact that she had to say "everyone in my family knows how hard my breastfeeding journey was in the beginning so the fact that I can produce milk now is something I'm super proud of" 😒 Wtf does that have to do with anything!!! First off your kid is almost 2 and Breast milk does not have any nutritional value past 12 months, I feel like she is using this as an excuse for her and not the baby! Secondly I breastfed both my babies and I went through so many complications in the beginning as well but that doesn't mean I am going to breastfeed them until they can walk up to you and whip it out themselves! Also her dad weirds me out! Secondly I barley breastfed in front of my mother much less the men in my family I think that is so weird! Third her kicking him out of the bed pissed me off there was plenty of room on that bed for the 3 of them, It just seems like she doesn't want Kobe to bond with his son. Fourth she has been completely rude and disrespectful to him since she picked him up from the airport, Idk maybe it could be the lisp that's making her sound condescending and rude but that could just be me... Now don't even get me started on the man child Yve is with 🤦‍♀️ When he said " My perfect women in my IMAGINATION is to be like my mother" I freaking lost it 🤣 yes EXACTLY only in your IMAGINATION!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ladinialauda3769]

I am a midwife and its 24 months not 12 months.

[@estrellagonzalez9950]

@@ladinialauda3769 I'm an RN agree to disagree 🤦‍♀️

[@damnpam4680]

It doesn’t matter if she had a hard time he was just saying don’t just pull it out it’s all about respect but this newer generation some of them don’t know what that word means

[@thanlater]

Emily is realllly going to my nerves and you don't have to attack him for everything. He said it out of respect not to offend anybody

[@bahreldinyagob421]

The dad is now concerned about Kobe’s ability to provide which is understandable but it’s ok with his daughter who’s 30 years old don’t have a job and lives with their parents and born and raised in US with the best education and job opportunities and she still failed to accomplish anything. That tells a lot about your parenting (parents) you know what really disappointing mom Emily is !

[@kristen8158]

Exactly! She is 30, a mom and depends on her parents. Probably uses breastfeeding as an excuse to do something herself. Also, her father shouldn’t be meddling like that.

[@LadyBDavis]

This could be why her dad is crying. Who’s going to take car of Emily like he does? He may be thinking about how Emily was raised and the consequences that are staring him in the face. I think all parents do this.

[@ygd8663]

Why is it Kobe's sole responsibility? His daughter Emily is out in another country getting impregnated by a man she knows little about in regards to his earning potential and ability to provide. I think maybe she needs to work if her family doesn't find Kobes income acceptable. She got in this mess.

[@bahreldinyagob421]

@@ygd8663 that’s very good question!

[@teasipping8696]

This. 1000000% this!

[@toyoadeyefa4263]

I don’t like how the dad said he was forceful when he was discussing the situation in a calm manner and she didn’t even try to understand where he’s coming from

[@ladyl4147]

Hate to bring race into it but this is what many White man say as Black men speak up assertively, even if they are polite and soft-spoken

[@NinaAngelina25]

Based off of her lack of respect for him, it seems that she wants this man due to fetishism. She doesn't respect him enough to hear him out regarding his feelings on anything. We see this kind of behavior all the time on this show. Yes, it was a culture shock for him, and she was not necessarily wrong in her stance, but she is very dismissive of his feelings in general imo

[@Kadijakxo]

When she first appeared on screen, she clearly stated that she pursued him because he was the “only black guy” that she had seen in Shanghai and that she “loves black guys.” The minute I heard that, I know that she was a fetishist.

[@jennidelavega5234]

If Eve can’t be in the house with a plumber, Wait until Mohamed finds out what a massage therapist does.

[@Cantetinza17]

Well you can always request a female massage therapist.

[@katella]

😂

[@kasuanteneh8028]

😅😅

[@krenakrneki7636]

@@Cantetinza17SHE is a massage therapist and certainly can't choose only female clients, well, technically she could but that would not be a smart business move. She should kick his spoiled behind back to his mamma.

[@Cantetinza17]

@@krenakrneki7636 No I'm saying the person asking for the massage can ask for same sex. I didn't have a guy friend that does not take any female clients. So you can say no if your freelance. He needs to stop just seeing her breast for him and know what they are for. For God sake he was breast fed. Also he should read some liteture on breast feeding and he'll see that breast feeding for a long time isn't bad.

[@mozartbabe]

I disagree, Kobe had every right to express his concern. There still exist many of us Americans who agree with him regarding discretion. Emily looks like a spoiled brat. And I think she enjoys her power. Her dad looks clueless, too. He should at least request that she has a blanket over her. And shame on you for saying people who uplift discretion need to grow up.

[@noseyandneutral]

I was on the fence but I do agree with you. It’s one thing if it was just them and her parents, but it was in front of other men and in other cultures, that’s very disrespectful. It’s almost like calling her husband a “bitch” or signaling that he’s weak. It’s odd how people can marry someone without even researching their culture to attempt to respect it. She could’ve at least thrown a blanket over her

[@mozartbabe]

@@noseyandneutral thank you so much for what you said. 🕊️💯 What also irks me is when her father's comments made it appear as if all Americans subscribe to his family's way of thinking. There is something "off" about Emily's behavior. I was all for her wanting to spend alone time with her fiance. But she strikes me as someone unabashedly using her parents, financially. While I can appreciate them wanting to assist, where is her concern about her and her fiance getting jobs to support themselves or to assist with household finances. She acts like she's the queen of the roost and she has done zilch to deserve it. I was born an orphan and I would have never crassly taken advantage of caring parents like hers.

[@joywebster2678]

@@mozartbabe you don't even have to have been an orphan to feel squirmy that one child with disrepect and demands runs 3 generations of a family according to her wishes (as Grandma admitted that everyone does what Emily wants) without consideration of others needs, and in turn contributes nothing. It's hercway or the highway, which is why she was living in China, partying having unprotected sex, and is now living off Daddy. And Daddy goes after Kobe who just arrived from Cameroon about supporti g his daughter? Dad she and Kobe need to support themselves and their child when Kobe is allowed to work. Emily doesn't get a pass on working be abuse she breastfeeds, or she will breastfeed until Kovan is 20!

[@juniorbeckham2928]

I completely disagree with u, first off most Americans don't care about that, I don't, it's a cultural thing. Second off, don't u think her parents would have said something to her if they had an issue with it? She's been living with them since she had Koban, Kobe shouldn't be telling people how to feel, if her parents have no problem with it, let it go. Also I think it's extremely disrespectful for him to pick a fight with her in front of her parents, that's not the first impression u want. You're right, he has the right to his opinion and he should voice it, but it's also her body and she also has her own culture

[@Burlykim13]

So…shame on you for your comments, based on the standard set by you, in your comment. Lmao. Hypocrite….

[@chelseaa6429]

The fact that her father thought he was being "forceful" doesn't sit right with me. Honestly, whatever disagreements Emily and Kobe have should be between only them, because it seems like the parents will always take Emily's side and slowly push Kobe out of the picture.

[@notyougirl848]

this is exactly what I was thinking. its almost like they want her to stay dependent on them because they enable her behavior.

[@jessiehow5683]

Hell naw did they say he was forceful . He was so respectful when experiencing his opinion. I hate the way she dismissed him and told him go help my mother in the kitchen 😒. This shows exactly how any disagreement goes between them. Her parents will Intervene and step into every disagreement. He better be careful, especially with them already saying words like "forceful ".

[@jordannikole6219]

Agree!

[@fabianaguerra3813]

Agree %100

[@pharbear]

Exactly what I thought. She’s clearly fetishizes black men and doesn’t respect them. He should’ve just left this a one night stand and moved on because he’s about to be in a world of misery.

[@jessiehow5683]

@@pharbear thank I forget the remarks she said about black men and dating bad boys.he seems so sweet but I can definitely see her hurting him

[@amandajockisch7172]

I agree. & she's upset its in front of her parent's, but i think that shows that he's a very real and genuine person who's not gonna change & be a "good boy" in front of her parents or anyone else. He is a good man & her spoiled baby brat ass doesn't deserve him!

[@ClaudetteLals]

Emily did not nicely ask Kobe to help her mother. She’s a bit disrespectful. She’s a bit spoiled.

[@denaa4517]

I was thinking the same thing!!!! She used a very dismissive tone someone would say to a child that's getting on their nerves or something.

[@marthacooper543]

It was not what she said it was how she said it that i had an issue with.

[@CooknVibewithannmarielove]

💯

[@lilyannal5159]

I'm so disagree with you guys. The guy was a jerk, rude and chauvinistic; and he was gaslighting her when he was the on is rude in her parants' house; if I am her parents, I call him out. Dude you are in American not African---stop your chauvinist in in my house--you need to be respect my daughter or get out. Who the F he thinks he is. Sadly this will get worse--Combination of narcissism and insecurity.

[@paulybluenose]

She isn’t very nice to him. Can you imagine moving from your country and having to live with her mom and dad.

[@ashleybibi1249]

For me I would personally find it uncomfortable pumping breast milk in front of my father I think it's cultural for me but if she's comfortable than nothing wrong with that

[@cathrinekruger5499]

Thats totally fair. Its all about personal preference. Would you breastfeed in front of your dad?

[@dounga.k89]

coz you're respectful if i marry i refuse my wife does that too

[@patricia76969]

Well I'm American and if my father was alive, I couldn't imagine breast feeding in front of him, that's weird to me

[@dounga.k89]

@@patricia76969 good say i'm arabic and we don't do that too

[@m.a2905]

I know right, there are limits, she could go downstairs like he said. The father sounds like he wants to just disagree with him but as a father he should pick something else to disagree about.

[@savedbyjesuschrist9748]

Idk, I’m with Kobe on this one and I’m super traditional. Babies are everything and come first❤️ but he’s right. Why do that in front of her dad? It’s a lot…

[@marthacooper543]

I would not want my father to seeing my breast

[@BlueOwlsFly]

But that wasn’t even why he had issue with it in the first place. He was jealous of the baby using her breasts for milk when he wants to have them all to himself for sexual reasons.

[@samariam3043]

And a whole camera crew

[@marthacooper543]

Exactly

[@joywebster2678]

And not feeding sessions, but she acts like a get a sip station evrytime the kid passes. So he needs sippy cup of breast milk for quick gulps, and her have nighttime breastfeeding sessions as a routine before HE not they go to sleep. How hard to talk to Emily when there is a iarge toddler hanging off her breadt constantly, occasionally grabbing a gulp. Not needed, it's not breast feeding.

[@veronamarie]

I’m sorry Melicia but you failed me on this one episode. Still love you girl 🤍

[@deniseh2203]

I know ! I love her but was very disappointed on how she viewed Kobe . This review was quite biased

[@mc8523]

💯💯💯

[@hayleybarbara1589]

@@deniseh2203 she has rancid takes on bilial as well. Definitely have lost respect for her commentary this season

[@chikensaregood9500]

yup very dissapointing, glad the comments were the opposite of what I expected

[@blazer180]

What's up with these men wanting a woman to be their mothers? Weird.

[@alostprincess1]

It has to be a cultural thing 🤦‍♀️🙄 here we want & encourage our kids to be independent- I noticed with my in laws they baby their kids & don’t want to teach them much responsibility or real world wise either. It’s sad, BIL is 18 has no driver license, never grocery shopped alone, has no clue how the world works.

[@mariaa0031]

They are raised to become entitled narcissists!!!

[@SN-bl6xm]

It’s their culture that women have to serve and do everything for the man. That’s why I don’t understand when western women date men from such opposite cultures and then complain about them.

[@mariaa0031]

@@SN-bl6xm because in the beginning when they (these type of men) just meet these “western women” they act all openminded and fun.. when they lured them in, their real personality comes out.. and then it’s easy to stay in denial wishing things will become like they were before again.. totally my personal opinion and my personal observation. So if someone sees this differently that’s perfectly fine!

[@mom4life513]

He is concerned about Kobe yet not ur daughter? She lives at home and hasn't accomplished anything. So how did she provide for herself all these years. Be fair

[@lorip9600]

Beautifully said, Hema!

[@Invisibleme58]

Don’t blame Kobe cultural difference is y he didn’t want her exposing herself infront her parents. Really easy to work out

[@masesero2150]

exactly

[@rosegray6606]

Right and she could cover up just as well..

[@deniseh2203]

Not just her dad but also the production crew

[@earlymann1954]

Ever live in Africa? Nursing mothers wip out their tits in public all the time to feed the child. It's no big deal there. It's only a big deal here in America for some odd reason.

[@eeshmoh]

There is bound to be huge cultural shock for Emily and her family. TOLERANCE, Respect and PATIENCE IS the on.

[@gailcarey3597]

Tolerance for who? They are clearly going to team up against this man with strong traditional values with their “woke” agenda. She will be sharing that baby with a step mother if she doesn’t learn how to partner with this man.

[@carrielynnmarieacevedo]

It was belittling for her to suggest he "just go help my mom cook". I'm shocked she told him to go sleep elsewhere. Shes a spoiled brat... I thought I was going to like them but... IDK now.

[@arieswoman824]

She's horribly rude to him

[@KPazzz]

Yve is in for a rude awakening when she fully realizes what Mohammed is expecting of her. She should’ve had her fun with the boy toy and kept it moving. You have a whole son with special needs, ma’am, and it looks like you didn’t consider him at all before moving this hypocritical man-child into your house. Smh

[@gigimezoui5184]

Well said !

[@obi561]

So true every word. So now she has two sons only exception she sleeps with one of them. So gross on many levels.

[@debravan1167]

He literally wants everything done for him. He wouldn’t even build the bidet. He acts like a child.

[@Seren_ity22]

What's with the "Mohameds" in this franchise (for lack of a better term).? He'll leave her for someone younger just as the first Mohammed divorced Danielle.

[@sandyheredia3027]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@mara8334]

I would never do that in front of my father! Or my brothers! Just like I don’t want them walking around in there boxers it’s awkward! For this lady to say it’s time to grow up 😂 so people who use discretion are children. Also Kobe can’t work right now yet the dad is putting pressure on him when his daughter literally lives off him 😂 double standard...

[@cbow5582]

Exaaactly!!

[@Lifedisabledd]

Thankuuuuuu

[@JeniDropDead]

Let alone do it in front of your baby daddy's friends lol like what?? People are so weird for attention

[@jarricah7920]

That’s his daughter dummy

[@fatumaahmed4304]

absolutely

[@jazzybash1]

I don’t see it as a “fight”. It was just a discussion and he was shocked that she did it in front of her parents. For me I don’t care how old I am. I not whipping out my boob in front of my father. He hasn’t seen my breast in over 3 decades, and it will stay that way. It’s natural, it’s just not line I want to cross. Like it’s just out of respect of each other’s grown bodies. Like I haven’t seen his, and he hasn’t seen mine. And the parents’ confessional comments were uncalled for

[@tracybrown2482]

Everyone controls their own bodies and if they didn't have a problem with it, you shouldn't either. I saw a woman whip it out to breastfeed at a wedding last week in front of her entire family...and it's FINE! its natural. If you don't see it that way then fine don't look and don't do. But if your family is close you're probably not even going to think about it twice. Now if your daddy is a pervert that would be very different 😉

[@mytube6538]

@@tracybrown2482 don’t look? Should I just assume everywhere I go every woman besides myself is going to pop out a titty? You don’t expect it just walking around minding your own business and bam titty in the face. My dad made me with his balls. It was natural. Doesn’t mean I want to see them. Or see him have sex with my mom. Giving birth is natural. Doesn’t mean I want some chick or even a family member to drop their pants and show me their bat wings. And not wanting to see ANY of those things doesn’t make me or anyone else a pervert. Thinking that everyone should be okay with it and not respecting reasonable boundaries is perverse.

[@wizzysloungetitaure]

It's not only about Emily. She is doing it in front of her father and the father stands there staring. That's uncomfortable to watch. Kobe has every right to speak his mind. It's his fiance and his right to speak his mind. Not all American women pump milk in front of their fathers. Just because Kobe is concerned doesn't make him a bad person Melisia. The dad needs to go in the kitchen and help his wife.

[@nadiachin283]

Exactly!

[@fabianaguerra3813]

100%

[@laurenj4128]

The dad hanging around is really weird!

[@halleyevans1980]

AGREED!

[@oliviam6332]

I don’t think her doing it in front of her dad is weird. He’s her family and he’s chill with it. Now, if a visitor is coming over, I’d say give a warning and don’t do it at the dinner table. But that scene is totally scripted. So Kobe has an issue with her dad seeing it but not the camera crew? Lol

[@nicholasgarrick8855]

I feel bad for kobe. It's going to be hard for him.

[@BlindMellowJelly]

Wait till the kids in kindergarten find out the son is still breastfeeding at 5 yrs old. Yikes

[@jessicasisk7832]

Send him back.

[@BlindMellowJelly]

@@jessicasisk7832 He will be fine.

[@liunknownil2072]

@@jessicasisk7832 he clearly wants to be apart of his son’s life so that’s not an option

[@claregorman8900]

The father is making it sound as if in the US this is perfectly normal which is not true in all families

[@cinthyashanahan7781]

I know right, I’ve never seen woman in the US breast feeding in public

[@FK-mv7xd]

I am 100% African and I can say our breasts hang out more than American women"s. I really think the brother is having trouble with the girl changing" new body.

[@princmp8550]

Yeah, I’m from Cameroon and have been to many houses where the aunties are openly breastfeeding. I found it interesting that Kobe was so uncomfortable. I know what he means about the age of the child, but her breastfeeding in front of her dad isn’t that weird in African culture.

[@madirafrancisco4830]

Thank you. I too am 100 % african (Namibian). He is lying we feed our babies anywhere and everywhere. Brother please just stop.

[@rediettadesse2828]

Same in Ethiopia ,

[@umaguriaveraz2834]

Thank God someone said it. This is normal in Africa as a whole, but maybe he is muslim.

[@marinanekesa3534]

Get this right...and be honest it is normal in Africa to PUMP breast milk out in the open?infront of your father? Certainly not East Africa. And when our women breast feed in public they definitely cover with a kikoi..honestly

[@candykay2585]

Emily is even lazier than I thought! "Go help my mom in the kitchen." What! While she sits on her back side and does nothing. Oh she holds the baby to get out of doing anything. She is too lazy to wean her son. It seems she rarely changes him. Poor Kobi.

[@lauraruxer1854]

I agree with Kobe. Its so awkward when breastfeeding is used as one would with an actual bottle. Pump in private & use a cover when breastfeeding. When the child grabs at the boob & you just whip it out is not ok. Wean time

[@teresaoreilly7252]

Awkward for you maybe. Just a beautiful natural loving way to feed your child for many of us. You should cover your head the next time you eat and see how it feels. So ridiculous.

[@lauraruxer1854]

@@teresaoreilly7252 yeah well I have breastfed. It is natural but its also a bonding & private thing. It is a controversial subject & always will be. I can have my opinion & I HAVE had the experience. Just be respectful of surroundings because not everyone is as open minded about it. Thus the controversy! BTW when I eat I'm not using a private anatomy part to do so.

[@marthacooper543]

Exactly

[@estrellagonzalez9950]

Especially at the dinner table, like girl he has a sippy cup full of milk right in front of him! SMH

[@teresaoreilly7252]

@@lauraruxer1854 private anatomy part😂 pretty sure we have breasts in order to feed our children. I consider my hungry baby before close minded people.

[@Insertuserr]

As an African KOBE is being honest. It’s taboo for a child his age to still be breastfeeding. However that being said these two have issues they’re not letting us in on.. Her body language and the way she looks at him says it all- Regardless they Emily needs to be more open minded -

[@plantiron]

After 7 months, they shove a feeding bottle in your mouth. After a few months, they take it away and shove fufu in there.

[@malaika223]

African? It depends which part of Africa you come from stop generalizing a particular culture in a country and say that's how we do it in Africa...Africa is a continent.

[@Insertuserr]

@@malaika223 Good for you for trying to seem smart. In this case it was generalized because that’s what they were discussing in the show. Good day 😂

[@plantiron]

@@malaika223 : Me being a new employee at this office. This White looking Moroccan telling me *we Africans need to stick together against these white employees* like really ? 🙄

[@deroshable]

She's right don't generalise and taboo is a strong word .where I'm from parents can Breastfeed till they want most of the kids go till 2 years and its nothing wrong ..its just schedules that Interrupt it so its not all Africa but cultures to be precise .If the mother can then why not

[@BlindMellowJelly]

Dad is waiting for a fight so he can go get his gun. He is so deep in their convo's it is remarkable. Classless people often act this way.

[@faehiyahussein8292]

His gun? For what

[@559IC]

I think it’s inappropriate because whether we like it or not, womens breasts are seen as sexual, that’s why men or women will pay money to see them. So let’s not act like this is not a big deal because it is. I wouldn’t want a family member exposing their breast like that in front of my husband.

[@ms.marton5621]

#agree

[@hillaryedwards567]

Totally agree!

[@Itz_hai24]

I 100% agree

[@girisha_laxmi11]

@@Itz_hai24 TOTALLY AGREE!!!

[@mozartbabe]

I agree! 💯💯💯

[@r.397]

Nah you wrong that go cook dinner line was very dismissive

[@jenniferschroader7326]

Kobe is right. She needs to stop. And also stop brestfeedig. He's old enough to eat. Grow up Emily

[@amandajockisch7172]

I dont like how she ended the argument by saying "see my Dad agrees." As if his opinion matters more than her husband. & Then bossed him to go cook in the kitchen. As a black man, I think he should be beyond insulted!!!

[@thanlater]

He has a point. If you make everything normal nothing will be abnormal anymore. I couldn't do that in front of my father or mother. I am just shy and for respect towards to my parents specially my dad.

[@ndindisachabwera3074]

As an African, I get where he's coming from, especially in front of a male in law and her father. It's a cultural thing.

[@nyakehkeili6780]

What part of Africa are you from. Stop generalizing. Africa is a whole continent not a country

[@r0ck_fr3sh]

As for my Asian culture, we would breast feed in a different room or something. Sorry I wouldn't even do it in front of my dad. I'm with him on this 🤚🤚🤚

[@candykay2585]

I know women have to breast feed in public at times. I have no problem with that, but there are special light weight blankets made just for that purpose. Breast feeding is natural and it's a bonding experience that mother and child should experience. JMO However, whipping out your breast at the dinner table is rude and lazy. Emily did that on the first night. Not getting off her back side to pump milk shows just how lazy she has become. My father would have left the room.

[@SN-bl6xm]

I’m from Europe and we also breast feed or pump milk in a different room or cover with a blanket. Emily doing it in front of her dad? Yuck! 😳🤢

[@gailbrown2887]

Exactly

[@janitamantel5333]

i am from Amsterdam, and don't do that in front of someone

[@jarricah7920]

So what she lives in America not y’all country so get over it and for the Asian I’m not surprised y’all do that but like I said that’s in YOUR country she with her family who are used to it so it’s dumb for him to make a big deal out of it he need to focus on a plan to take care of his family

[@brianmorris2847]

I would never want to see my daughter doing this infront of me.

[@yamarissanchez2467]

She was very disrespectful and rude I'm shocked Malicia didn't see that she was rude

[@paulybluenose]

I agree

[@ahshaadnichols7423]

If you would see my comments on Melicia l love her the most but she is bias when it comes to women over men . Sorry just call it like it is butim still a SUPER FAN

[@deniseh2203]

She’s American, Melicia that is , so no, I’m not surprised . Love her but she’s quite biased

[@gwashington4283]

👑@@deniseh2203... Nah, it has nothing to do with being an American. The bias lies in the false-narrative of "feminist".

[@WeedieWii]

Her parents might need to stay out of their business... It may be their home but that is her relationship and child's father.

[@CuriousCat777]

Exactly 👏 but parents always feel entitled to jump in and defend.

[@abdulabdul-qg3mc]

An African woman would never do that in the presence of her dad, unless they’re a very westernized lady/family.

[@ilovegoodsax]

Westernize black women (i.e. African American) don't breastfeed in front of their fathers either. This is a caucasian thing.

[@jaleesaepps1516]

I had a friend from Ghana that would breastfeed (not covered up) in front of her brothers and dad. They would see her entire breast and nipple…

[@mysonhenryjoseph7436]

Why didn't he go with an African lady then?🙄

[@lawreenmkado8307]

I do it in the presence of my dad and I am Kenyan…Ugandan. My dad even helps to fix the breast pump if my husband is not around.

[@abdulabdul-qg3mc]

@@lawreenmkado8307 Yeah, Kenyans and South Africans are probably the most westernized Africans. I guess the influx of Muzungus into Kenya influences Kenyans in many ways.

[@yah7130]

But why is she not cooking with her mother smh... I agree 100% with Kobe, she was trying to boss him around because he is in her territory. I can see more arguments on the way for sure

[@BDAgirl441]

Emily needs to wake TF up. Kobe wasn’t unreasonable by raising his concerns. It appears that Emily doesn’t like to be told things that aren’t complimentary to herself. Oh - and get a bigger bed before he finds someone else’s to sleep in.

[@candykay2585]

I agree with Kobi. I have known women who let their toddler nurse up to 4 years old. It is weird to me and it isn't that common in TX. I also think her father needs to keep his comments to himself and leave the room when Emily and Kobi have private discussions, but I also think they should have gone to their room to talk in private. I NEVER would have set in my parents living room and opened my blouse to pump milk in front of anyone, especially my father. That was sick. Emily could at least covered herself with the blanket in her lap. Ari's parents certainly surprised Ari! Personally I feel Ari needed to be on her own and be brought down a notch. The lady who stayed with them was supposed to be their nanny. Why was she styling Ari's hair? One very spoiled, grown woman is about to meet reality. Her parents have done a lot for them, mostly her. My only problem is that Bini can't work for many months. I don't remember what kind of degree Ari has or if she has one. But I hope she is capable of getting a great job for now.

[@marthacooper543]

I think the father should not have interfered. They should have had that conversation in private. Also she should have covered up and he was right. This girl is used to having her way she running that hous. Ari parents been taking care of her for years it's time she is kicked off her throne.

[@wackybrattyx]

Breasts are body parts and shouldn’t always be sexualized. And we shouldn’t be ashamed of breastfeeding.

[@amazingautumn12]

They are part of our bodies. Do you display other parts of your body in public, like pubic area or anus, etc? According to you why not

[@benjaminSeigneur]

Exactly

[@wackybrattyx]

@@amazingautumn12 If you’re feeding from an anus, you have bigger problems.

[@cheyennepago9720]

I think a lot of people can’t fathom that some breastfeeding mothers *don’t* prioritize the discomfort of others *over* feeding the hungry infant (that literally cannot feed itself) in the best way for both mom AND baby. Most of the comments are basically “how dare you not share my shame around this 1 topic” lmao.

[@MOOMOO2728]

Emily is already being rude to him and his culture. He just got to a whole new country and she is being childish and disrespectful to him. .

[@basmaqueenb2562]

Honestly I'm totally agree with him 💯 cos I'm from Africa we can never let our parents see our body parts as a grown up.

[@cuteyeke65]

How can you leave your child with someone you don't really know yet

[@mspayne32]

Huh? Are you asking how could she leave her child with his own father???

[@marquitamason6093]

The real question is...why would you have a child with someone you only had a one night stand with...🤷🏾‍♀️

[@mspayne32]

@@marquitamason6093 That too. But now that the baby is here there’s no reason for her to be treating the father like he’s a stranger and not letting him bond with the baby. Bad enough he couldn’t see him for 17 months. She’s ridiculous!

[@masesero2150]

where is the problem if he was telling her to have some privacy when doing this? I find it normal. Like if they can't have this discussion, then how will they live as a married couple?

[@tianacypriano9024]

To each it’s own..I wouldn’t breast feed in front of my dad but if she feels comfortable and dad is okay with it then hey why not!! Breast feeding/pumping should absolutely not be sexualized at all 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@cliffm8112]

I think that what Kobe can't get his head around. Certain things will make him uncomfortable

[@candykay2585]

How about some self respect. Modesty and manners are something this girl needs to learn.

[@Amanda-nu9zk]

It's not appropriate

[@candykay2585]

@@Amanda-nu9zk Absolutely not.

[@nicholasgarrick8855]

It seriously unbelievable that Muhammad would pursue a relationship with a woman who is caring for a special needs child. If he's looking for someone to take care of him he should go back to his mom.

[@jazzyj6640]

Talk that talk! 👏🏾

[@t.t.9960]

I agree with everything except Emily could of been a little more sympathetic about Kobe leaving the bed..

[@marthacooper543]

She knew he coming they discuss her getting a bigger bed. She's not ready to ween the baby off of the breast and he has teeth it's gonna be challenging.

[@srtj.av.2556]

I'm latin American and it looks so awkward for me I couldn't do something that expose my body Infront of my parents or siblings!!!

[@deshaunpeoples6625]

i 100% agree with everything kobe is saying

[@jazzyj6640]

She’s 48 years old and he’s 25 years old! That’s not going to work out. He probably won’t mature for another 10 years.

[@lilmbaye29]

Sounds like a Green Card situation. But again this dude may be clueless to what a Green Card is.

[@michellejade3272]

My dad knew I pumped and nursed. I was modest with it & did it in another room while visiting my parents.

[@badgyalxtine]

Emily is what some would call a masculina. I’m sure Kobe knew that going into this. This is what he signed up for so… 🤷🏿‍♀️. If he wanted someone submissive, Emily ain’t it bruh…

[@geminlove24]

100% facts!

[@MaiMai-ys4yg]

At all. Ugh . This is what happens when you let lust lead the way. When real life happens …..reality hits hard like a brick

[@marquitamason6093]

They only hung out for 2 weeks in China. Kobe didn't know what the hell he was getting into!

[@akymmenda8080]

I agree with Kobe also, he is so respectful even the way he is talking to her. He is expressing himself team KOBE 100%

[@__denikah__]

I feel so bad for Kobe. He deserves better. Koben is soooooo cute!

[@wawa5610]

Emily shows no respect. Kobe should have had the conversation away from the parents. And Emily should learn how to talk to people nicely

[@katherineparys2451]

I’m sorry to say I would never pull out my boobs out in front of my father , father-in-law brother, brother-in-law or grandfather my family grew up breast-feeding as well but it was something that was done in modesty either with a blanket or at least covering ourselves not just sitting out in the open bare breasted

[@nemiwellington6713]

In the first instance, 17 months is too much for a child in Africa. It is believed that breastfeeding a child for that long could make the child lazy in the future. But it varies though as some mothers do it for a year but that is rear. 3 - 6 months is the common standard.

[@habts02]

That depends on the African country and if it’s a city or rural setting.

[@CazKing43]

You’re generalizing, I’m from East Africa and it is the norm in my country to breastfeed until the age of 2

[@benjaminSeigneur]

What african countrie u r talking abt exactly? Women can breast feed up to 2yrs & sometimes beyond. U & Kobe must come from another african countries that don't exist.

[@ayemad]

Stop saying AFRICA. AFRICA is not a bloody country!

[@nemiwellington6713]

@@habts02 I kind of agree with you, because in my case , we both work and live in the city .

[@packnetadaija]

I mean I kinda get where he’s coming from, like back when I was nursing my daughter I would only do it in front of my female family members, but if my brothers were in the room I would go into another room or I would have pumped a bottle in advanced and gave my daughter the bottle. I think it’s a bit strange to do it in front of your dad, but then again I’m not her. I also found Kobe being weird when he said that he wasn’t comfortable sharing breasts with his son. That’s weird, but yeah I mean I wouldn’t nurse or pump in front of my dad or brother, I would just go in the other room

[@lorri8441]

I understand where Kobe was coming from when he said he didn’t want to share breast with his son. I breastfed for 15 months, and I was not comfortable being intimate with anyone especially around my breast. I personally was uncomfortable because I’m like this is where my baby eats, so this didn’t weird me out. They should have a conversation alone and talk over what makes each other comfortable and what doesn’t.

[@packnetadaija]

@@lorri8441 yeah I get what your saying. Ut should’ve been a private conversation

[@queentemitayo]

In Africa, you would not often see a woman exposing herself and breastfeeding in front of her dad.

[@chinenyeodozi7677]

Kobe is absolutely right. Aside for the dad being there, the camera crew are also present. In Africa, breast feeding is actually done in private

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

your lying that's not true. breast feeding is done in public and you know that

[@chinenyeodozi7677]

@@kehindeemiabata4032 Hanty, maybe in your culture but in Igbo land, it's done in private. Even if you have important visitors, they will wait until you are done with breastfeeding before they attend to you.

[@alexis_c5871]

I can relate to Kobe, it's inappropriate! I can see pumping in front of my mom, but not my dad. Ugh!

[@jadeking5238]

I didn’t pump in front of my dad but I wouldn’t say it’s inappropriate. Because that’s what they’re for

[@jadeking5238]

Maybe uncomfortable but not inappropriate

[@alexis_c5871]

@@jadeking5238 I didn't say breastfeeding was inappropriate, that's perfectly normal and healthy. However it is inappropriate to whip your tits out in front of any man in the family to breastfeed. And I mean exactly what I Said. 💯

[@ilovegoodsax]

You would think the dad would feel uncomfortable with his adult daughter whipping her teat out in front of him. The personal boundaries here are loose.

[@alexis_c5871]

@@ilovegoodsax exactly 💯

[@seygra20]

Yve has to be desperate if this is what she accepts and desires. Muhammed needs to go back to Egypt. That relationship is not worth it.

[@Write4Community]

Agreed! What is Yve getting out of this relationship??

[@sonjagrosse-broemer6493]

He is not forceful...he is finally somebody that doesnt let her just have her way no matter what.

[@angelajefferson1773]

My heart goes out to Koban. Emily should have to understand Koban's culture. It's nothing wrong with him feeling the way he does. That's what happened in his family. I think her parents should allow them to figure it out. I feel everyone should be more tolerable of Koban beliefs. This couple has a lot of compromising in their relationship.

[@benjaminSeigneur]

Nothing in Cameroon culture said not to feed babies past 17 months. It's not culture clash as many ppl think. Kobe is just acting here as a jerk & lying thru his teeth. If his sister only fed her baby till 8 months the vast majority in Afr feed their kids up to 2 yrs.

[@danad.6449]

@@benjaminSeigneur Really?! I am from Europe and I rarely heard of people breastfeeding beyond 1 year...

[@hartmannhartmann9235]

​@@danad.6449 yes but thats the point ☝🏻In europe its not that common, but becoming more normal again luckily. At least here in germany. WHO recommends breastfeeding until baby is 2 years old. But in africa it is normal and from my impression nobody there cares about a mom feeding her baby? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ituenstrongface7337]

@@benjaminSeigneur I am African and a mother of four children. Kobe is not lying. Some women can breast feed for as long as two years and as short as three months. But on the average,most mums stop when the baby begins to toddle. They may allow a month or so for the child to be strong and walk well. Working mums stop earlier,part of the reason being their jobs, schedules, responsibilities,expectations and the stress of having to breast the babies if they are working far from home.Although in between working hours,the care- givers feed the baby milk formula. But this is " the baby friendly age" in Africa,or at least part of the continent where I come from, where mother's are expected to feed their babies exclusively on breast milk for at least six months straight, before introducing formula or semi-solid foods.For mums who work from home or housewives they may decide to keep the exclusivity a little longer. The duration of breast feeding differs with individuals,but nine months is "generally" acceptable. Remember it's " different strokes for different "women" !"

[@benjaminSeigneur]

@@ituenstrongface7337 No, no what I was saying is that kobe either what he was saying was scripted or he was lying( I was not talking abt the duration of breastfeeding) but the fact that Emily shouldn't be pumping breast milk in front of her parents.Many moms in Africa breastfeed in front of family members. And if u go in the rural areas some women just let them hanging out there. And if he had never seen some african women breastfeeding in a train; in a bus, at market, he wasn't telling the truth or as I've said it was scripted for him to create controversy & to have ppl talking abt it.

[@AprilT72]

Emily is annoying though.

[@masesero2150]

idk I feel Emily way of addressing Kobe's seems somewhat degrading, the way she speaks and her tone

[@SB-fh3sv]

I am glad that they act like 17 months is totally normal. You can breast feed that long if you want but don’t be surprised that some people find it strange. Not to mention that a 17 month old shouldn’t be getting that much nutrition from breast milk because they should have moved on to food. The biggest problem i have is the idea that Kobe has to do all of the compromising because he is in “America”. That isn’t how relationships work. Not to mention that you can use that as an excuse for everything. Maybe it is not so much about “American culture” and more about “emily living life the way she wants”. I am an American and i would never talk to my man that way

[@helenagyapomah5882]

How dare her asked him help her mum in the kitchen soo disrespectful 😳

[@Lifedisabledd]

Omg listening Mahommed talk, drives me nuts. How does she live with that everyday?

[@aasiyaaadan9475]

You speaking what is in my mind 😂😂😂😂

[@marquitamason6093]

Exactly!!! Hearing him talk makes my skin crawl!😢

[@gabriellejudd1]

Yep, sounds like he's got special needs as well as her son.

[@lornaramson5079]

Yes, breast feeding is natural but I also think it should be private.

[@Vlex24]

I don't understand why she keeps breastfeeding him now that he's older... especially in front of her dad.

[@benedictemwanza645]

I agree with Kobe and Emily is comfortable with her family, it’s her duty to make Kobe feel good bcs there’s is nothing more fucked up than coming to someone house to live there and the person who needs to have your back is acting up bcs it’s her house with her parents

[@fatimajacobs9771]

In West Africa it's completely normal to breastfeed infront of your parents and we breastfeed normally up to 2 years especially girls but boys atleast a year and few months.

[@west44fan1]

I think it’s about culture, I was raised in a Mexican culture I have two kids and this was a definite no go🙅🏻‍♀️ I’m a daddy’s girl, but nooo not with out a blanket over baby & boob… And being with an Arab man both cultures still play their man / woman roles, it’s not oppression when also means you as a woman get treated as a gem!!! They are very religious, but he could use a pot to wash it’s what they use in poor Islamic countries.

[@andiedavis2076]

I agree with Kobe. She should have at least covered up while pumping. Very awkward for her to do in front of her Father AND a camera crew.

[@ygd8663]

I understand Kobe about the breastfeeding stuff. That doesn't fly in my family, you need to that in a separate room alone. But honestly this is just a difference in culture.

[@buttermepancake3613]

She is in her own home. He has no right

[@jadeking5238]

No you don’t. Why would you? That’s what breasts are for. But I agree, it is a difference in culture

[@Didintle_Shuping]

At this point, Yve has two kids.

[@eb6644]

I would never pump or breastfeed in front of my parents. I have always done it away from family for privacy reasons. That moment is for me and baby and not everyone. However, she can pump and give her child milk but after 1 years old that’s a little weird for me.

[@terrancesaunders23]

Breastfeeding is healthier for a kid then cow milk

[@kayekaye08]

Cobe has a point.

[@TheStewieGriffinShow]

Emily is toxic, and even worse she looks just like her father. Poor Kobe! They have a child together so he's stuck for life.

[@TinyStepsBigDreams]

The thing with this show that people fail to realize is that there are cultural differences for each and every couple. It will not be easy to understand the things they agree and disagree with. For me it would be weird pumping in front of my family but I am a shy person in that regard. Y’all already know she is free spirited so for her it’s nothing. And I’m sorry she did not nicely tell him to go help his mom she was literally trying to brush off the situation by telling him to go help the mom. Either way very awkward interaction. Lastly Yve needs to send him back lol..

[@marthacooper543]

He needs to go back because that dinner table discussion was awkward.

[@michelleallred8521]

It was absolutely 110% RUDE of her to kick him out of the bed!!!!!! That was VERY RUDE & DISRESPECTFUL!! She knew he was coming, so she should have prepared!!

[@Amanda-nu9zk]

He can do so much better than this trashy girl

[@destaneehoward]

Let’s be real tho . It’s awkward to do that in front of your dad . And when her dad spoke and she kept saying “see” pissed me off . I doubt she’ll be willing to compromise her own family said so

[@gyelsz5214]

Common sense , a thinking human being wouldn’t do that in front of relatives when them are family. Respectfully from an African ✊🏾

[@salidamattie9986]

As an fellow African.. In MY family, breastfeeding is not appropriate amongst the men. Other women is fine; (the father alone as well). Its not to be carry as shame.. But culturally.. Its a typical condition that's maintained within the gender roles.

[@mylifemyjourneylincy6028]

In Namibia you can have it out

[@umaguriaveraz2834]

You need to tell us your country and religion, because in São Tomé and Principe is also acceptable.

[@salidamattie9986]

@@umaguriaveraz2834 im Congolese. From the Mushi tribe. I've also lived amongst Congolese communities in Canada and the US; maintaining the customs and traditions that we were raised in. My parents were raised Catholic and shortly after my 5th birthday, they decided to convert to Pentecostal.

[@geminlove24]

These women getting with African men and being surprised that they won't take their shit and speak up always cracks me up. Maybe have a conversation about our cultures and expectations in a relationship instead of bussing it wide open raw for a random man in China 🙄

[@savedbyjesuschrist9748]

😩

[@mloose7870]

Typical woman of course you dont see anything wrong with Emily ordering Kobe to go help her mom in the kitchen in the middle of an argument. Kobe literally explained it was the manner in which she said it lol

[@Tajagee123]

I literally cannot stand Emily