Entitled Husband REFUSES to STOP PARTYING with RANDOM WOMEN at the BAR Every Night - Reddit Podcast

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0:00 Entitled Husband claims he isn’t cheating, even though he parties with women revery night after work, and I am so done with it I just don’t know what to do. (u/kstormblessed14)
6:33 My fiancé is saying he is not sure if he wants to marry me anymore, and at this point I don’t know what to do. (u/BoxPuzzleheaded8136)
10:19 My husband constantly sleeps through his alarm, forcing me to have to wake him up just to get him to wake up. (u/thelovelywicked)
13:22 Today I messed up by introducing my boyfriend to my friend who always tries to ruin my relationships, and now I feel like I am losing him to her, and I don’t know what to do. (u/hatehatehatehate1111)
18:31 I found out that my boyfriend has still been in contact with his ex-girlfriend, and now I want him out of my house and out of my life. (u/Suspicious_Rip5093)
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[@stryding4sport]

if i had a penny for every time someone said "and i seriously dont know what to do" i wouldnt be in student dept

[@thecoos283]

Dept?

[@_That_one_therapist_friend_]

Debt i think outocorrect

[@fishin4bogey]

They always know, they just need a push to take the next step.

[@razemander]

Fr

[@potato3062]

Yo everyone. This random person in the comments wishes you a happy Easter🐰🥚🧺!!

[@potato3062]

@Living potato oop sry 😅 I've been traveling the comment sections

[@Doors_oh_lores]

Happy Easter

[@tsuky1354]

Thanks, you too!

[@chadmcdonald8562]

You to

[@nex5001]

Happy Easter to you and everyone else to🎉🐰🧺🥚🐣

[@Azulakayes]

The Valerie story: It really baffles me how some people have no sense of self-preservation like OP. Valerie is a toxic and manipulative person yet OP thought it was a good idea to still speak to her or introduce her boyfriend to her. I can assure you that she will be back on reddit crying at how her boyfriend is cheating on her with Valerie and in as much as it will hurt, she would have partially contributed to it. OP needs to tell her boyfriend she is uncomfortable with his friendship with Valerie and she personally needs to cut her off completely...there's nothing worse than passively watching your own life going to sh*t.

[@atelophobiaasmr663]

exactly like..

[@rosealicia1782]

Story 1: If he's gotten to the point he goes to bars everyday to drink and talk to girls. Being so utterly shameless and disrespectful to his wife after she told him she wasn't okay with what he's doing- wife needs to leave this guy yesterday. Not only is he disrespecting his marriage, I think he may already be checked out of it too. If he has to go every. Single. Day to escape from reality. Hope OP serves him divorce papers so he doesn't have to feel 'jailed' to anyone anymore.

[@goldenglider2886]

My thing is going to a bar is fine but I'm his man doesn't know what moderation is and he can't control himself

[@rosealicia1782]

@@goldenglider2886 Exactly. And the fact he gets so drunk and has girls from the bar texting him isn't a good sign. Plus with the level of frequent visits he does- probably might have developed alcohol dependency bordering on addiction. But the last thing is my opinion.

[@cray97w36]

You know that is standard in japan ?

[@rosealicia1782]

@@cray97w36 I know its a standard in Japan. I just think the guy disrespecting his wife when she keeps saying she's not comfortable with what he's doing and continues to do it anyways isn't okay.

[@lydiat5819]

​@@cray97w36 that is why Japanese men are disgusting

[@arxtsss]

Hey! It’s great that your back uploading after the copyright drama. Edit: Thanks for all the likes!

[@clericofchaos1]

To the chick in the first story, that's Japan baby. They work you to death and you find anyway you can to deal with that stress. Hostess clubs are as much a part of Japanese culture as the public baths. So, even if you do leave your husband, as long as you stay in Japan you'll just get more of the same with any other men you meet.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

but op keeps telling her husband not to drink too much or party with other girls.

[@clericofchaos1]

@@viviennemorgan7217 too bad. It's what they do in Japan...also, quit replying to my comments. You're becoming a stalker.

[@Drdirtydee]

@@viviennemorgan7217 this is Japanese salaryman culture and your career is tied to it. Also see how sleeping around is handled.

[@Faralexander]

@@viviennemorgan7217 it’s literally a host bar for a reason plus he maybe forced to go by his boss

[@viviennemorgan7217]

@@Faralexander that's a possible

[@Felix24148]

I recall hearing of a story years ago about three men who owned a bar together. And they were all party animals until two of them decided to clean up their act. But the third refused to stop. He was 45 years old and partying like it was 1999 every possible chance he could. And he even brought motorcycles indoors and did burnouts with them on the bar counters, causing serious damage and leaving divets in the spots where the tire burned rubber. They had to forcibly buy him out and kick him out of the business entirely. Some people can't stop. It's like a drug. It becomes their number one priority in life. And everything else is secondary. Even their families.

[@CommaderAtlas]

Glad the channel is back up and running

[@ABSGOATED]

WE WANT THE HUSBAND'S SIDE OF STORY

[@premierballreal]

Wha- does he even know- i doubt everyone just hass a reply reddit. And i doubt the side would change much

[@premierballreal]

Also we? By far i only saw you. And the story is in Japan. Japan is a mess where this story is common and probably the same outcome almost all time

[@razemander]

For story 2?

[@thepcgamer7678]

You should just get the husband in VR chat so he can just party and hang with women on there instead of going out to bars lol

[@auroragannon7727]

This is gonna be good

[@kaiwaters4530]

so for story one sadly this is a major part of japanese work culture he could be penalized and even bullied if he refuses to do after work activities if it was almost any other place in the world i would say he was a shitty husband but this is just how things are there

[@vaporwingfauxmcloud1190]

The truth hurts people so whatever sounds like a man is doing something wrong people would cancel them. If I found myself in that situation where I'm seeking help and people shame me for it, I'd do the rightful thing and end it all

[@zacharyotsuka4070]

Story One: in Japanese culture, once married, the girl stays home to be a stay at home wife, with the boy not only being the "breadwinner" but the sole provider. As much as it's more or less expectation for the wife to do as she was, it's modern day, and times are changing. More women are beginning to get jobs as well, which should in theory bring the boy more into the home responsibilities as well. As such, getting a part time job might be a good thing in this situation. This modernizing step may also allow for justification in leaving the husband to drown in his puke, unassisted and alone. If he realizes he will no longer essentially be coddled and almost mothered, he may realize that laying in puke is most unpleasant, and will be forced to attempt the path of self restraint/reform. On another note, I assume that the fact that the couple would move to Japan would likely suggest Japanese lineage in one or both spouses...and as a Japanese, I am proud to say my parents would never let such pig like behaviour fly. It is most inelegant, and unbecoming of a married man, much less a father to boot. I hope the parents of one or both sides have the will to remember their days of parenting enough to harshly reprimand and set that boy straight!!!! Sorry for the article length comment. I regret to admit my pride is hurt hearing such behaviour..the husband acting as he did would be a stain upon my bloodline.

[@SenseiRaisen]

Also i seen japanese women are more fierce when it come to "cheating" and "affairs" but because they look for guys with more money instead of some random schmuck. WELP! unless they are inflatuate with a random shmuck too. This comes from the fact also women are expect to control the finances too. On other hand there is both cases where this doesn't happen and the man does it instead (is REALLY rare from what i heard but mostly happen with very older boomers). Honestly i hope people use their brain cell for once instead of make this entitled behaviour of "because i'm always right".

[@dragonguerrero1622]

The first story, it's gonna hurt, but you gonna have to let him. You are gonna go. Marriage is contract that has to be treated as a diamond in the rough. You got this OP. Do what is right for you and kid.

[@unicornforever4257]

Cheating does not just happen when someone gets physically intimate with someone else! OP should do just what he says, stop jailing him ... end the relationship and take the kid away from this a-hole so he isn't limited by being in a family he clearly doesn't want! OP deserves so much more than this pathetic excuse for a person!

[@aronsvanlaugsson5338]

He is not cheating emotionally either. This is not cheating and there is nothing wrong with what he's doing. However those two definitely don't match well as it turns out and they should definitely divorce. Saying he is cheating when he isnt is invalidating his feelings on the matter. And that'sjust hypocritical.

[@cooling_gamerz2881]

I am very happy that you are back and uploading

[@venus82496]

I would say it's a subconscious ignorance due to how many alarms he has, been there

[@buddhasshadow]

His voice be like (with red being the deepest) 🟦🟦🟦🟩🟨🟧🟥

[@Anonymous_Tech101]

Happy Easter!

[@chadmcdonald8562]

Happy Easter

[@iwhiskers]

have an amazing day ya’ll

[@jaydenbaker5079]

Love the vids

[@vaporwingfauxmcloud1190]

I learned today that things like this happen and only a small percentage is reported.... or even made known... what's sad is so many good people recieve trauma from these dirtbags and the next person has to carry the load...

[@chadmcdonald8562]

Happy Easter

[@brianarnold8666]

1st story; this is absolutely a hill to die on

[@mochi_playz3825]

Great Video

[@razemander]

Story 2 is a good example of why you work on your mental health instead of attacking your partner. I don't blame the husband with the mwntally ill wife.

[@ilovechika1]

the sleeping disorder story. NO he is not doing this on purpose! I know, I have the same problem. I have tried every single weird type of alarm there is and I still sleep past it. its not something you can control or being inconsiderate about. I have tried vibrating alarms, stand up to turn off alarms, misplaced alarms, math alarms to turn off, running away alarms, insanely loud alarms. the only alarm that kind of work is the "imitating sun alarm" but even that I sleep past for a couple of hours before I wake up. literally cant help it. I dont have a SO so I dont bother a person so the only thing he is a jerk about is not seeking treatment to find out what the hell it is. but he is not being a jerk for simply trying every type of alarm he can think of to wake him up. its hard

[@ashleylindsey2522]

Your back sow happy ❤

[@YourAverageGamer-]

story 4: Why do ppl do this kinda stuff JUST to make you jealous? WHYYYY?!

[@joshfly210]

Sounds like his midlife crisis is about to ruin his marriage.

[@ronniepickett4586]

How about you get him a shock collar alarm clock

[@daliyashohat1320]

The first story, the husband is emotionally cheating on his wife. Yes, this is cheating!

[@lefandhlozi7380]

Is it possible to post more of a "I want others to this" type story on the Subreddit?

[@withinseven1762]

Fire story- I'm not a doctor but if the husband is partying every night I can't in think how bad his kidneys and livers are. Eventually he is either going to end up in the hospital with major health problems or worse I think the wife should take the child and get far away from him.

[@Invisible_Man00]

Immediately clicked👍

[@skylerlightning4620]

3rd story seems husband having much more problem of waking up from sleep so I would recommend him going bed earlier than he currently as earlier you fall asleep the earlier you naturally wake up while that be bit harder also I wouldn’t change his sleep schedule once he wake up early enough to do so as that could have misfortune of making him falling asleep later due body timer being screwed up due fact he stayed later than he body was use to.

[@skylerlightning4620]

Reason I suggest this is because I notice I sleep around 8 hours consistently with only time I slept for longer is when I woke up earlier than I meant to due some noise or being woke up by parents (which I live with as currently don’t have way getting to my job without a driver license which I bit to scared to get).

[@qrowgaming4207]

So does this mean that the channels aren't going to be taken down!😊

[@shaky_cat]

This story needs to be heard right now because this hurt happened today on Easter so me and my mom decide to go celebrate Easter at our aunt's house for Easter and my cousins have two kids for a four cousins and two of them each have kids So they have one that's three or four years old and the other ones that's one or two years old So my grandma gives me an Easter egg of Lego for Christmas while she gives jelly beans bunnies for the babies So when I when I start setting up the Lego the three to four-year-old ask can I play with it and I say not now let me build it for you so that way you can play with it then she starts crying and tells her dad my cousin the things get heated and then you just decide to leave

[@seanmcintosh7416]

Almost sounds like the first story is based in Japan. Going out and having drinks is fine, spending your night talking to bar girls is not.

[@MsAngelique]

OP literally says they live in Japan.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

it is in japan actually but op's husband won't listen to her.

[@atelophobiaasmr663]

3rd story: that husband sounds entitled asf 4th story: girl...what in god's name were you thinking 💀

[@arnabray1644]

we want husband side of the story

[@themetalgod66683]

As far as those girls bars in Japan. We called them buy me drink bars. All that happens is just girls just sit there with you and keep you company. You buy them expensive "drinks". As far as their drinks is just non alcoholic or it has a little bit of alcohol in it to give it the smell. I don't see why people go there.

[@elpicox1011]

First story: she is toxic (she had 0trust on him from the begging) but her husband is just a child, a very entitled one

[@goodnightmyprince6734]

No she's not

[@ethanlangton]

Why does everyone use reddit as a couple’s therapy platform

[@Emily_MelanieMartinez_4life]

Nahhhhh frfr

[@Mr_laugh_out_loud]

Hi

[@2p1p86]

yay you didnt get banned on youtube?

[@im7254]

she should be going out with her husband. he sucks but she refuses to accept basic Japanese culture

[@joshwinsor5054]

Story 1: divorce that loser

[@Cyrus_Nagisa]

Story one People that are getting upset over the husband over a Hostess club really need to look up what they are. That said, him getting so drunk he comes home throwing up and the disrespect to his wife is not tolerable.

[@brandychase5492]

Ya it is mf its horrible

[@wendyweatherly1421]

When someone shows you who they really are believe them stop second guessing them . Their not a good person why give them another chance to hurt you.period ... It's not that hard.

[@gabrielfernandes6909]

20:30 They could be friends, but the way that the girl spoke seems that he was romantically involved in those letters. Still it could be just friendship messages.

[@Arrison23]

Your videos are incredibly good at negating physical pain. I'm not joking, I had terrible stomach pain and pain killers didn't help at all, so I turned on KZbin to put mind somewhere else and stumbled upon this video. It was so efficient that I can only describe the rest of the time before the arrival of the ambulance as "discomfort". It's something about your "flow" of narrative, it's so relaxing. Thank you for this video

[@raerose2278]

Welcome to the AITJ fam! 👍 Hope you’re feeling better. 🙏🏽

[@zacharykey-smith6830]

I thought they were getting removed?

[@SPACE834]

Sick vid and first one

[@Trhray1]

I have a story "so a bit ago My stepmother I hated moved out and a few days ago my sis got in a aciddent and had to go to the hospital my parents were there but I wasn't and my step mom wasn't invited so she went to every hospital until she found my mom's car then she went In but the nurse wouldn't and couldn't give her the room so she freaked out yelled and screamed but my sis had to be in the hospital for hours so she eventually left and my sis finnaly came home and she felt horrible she had Glass in her hair brusises everywhere and she still injured but she did not have any major injuries and she is still healing.

[@SenseiRaisen]

Story 1: honestly, it depends. 1 or 2 times because of people from his work push him to go there ... sure i guess, and if doesn't come drunk. BUT 5 TIMES A WEEK? and in contact with the girls there? THE HECK? I know hostest clubs from reading manga, watching some narrated mangas or seeing some animes or some series where it has this ones (HECK!!! the Yakuza/Like a Dragon games has this clubs too), and there is a lot of rules they had to abide to them if not things goes out of control ... and trust me when i said, they goes out of control easily and some people take advantage of that too, either from the work place or from clients with power.

[@nromk]

No her feelings are valid, he's flirting with younger women and giving them money, while his family needs him.

[@warden9586]

I ❤am I the jerk?

[@thatcatguy4357]

Hi this is the first time I had the first comment

[@ambreenijaz3919]

Day 30 of saying the same thing until I get pinned Karen's getting destroyed is one of the best parts of my life

[@aparnarai3708]

Pin him

[@Kinetix3050]

The story about the six yr relationship: I'm already wary about them having been in a relationship that long and him just proposing and now back pedaling because of a snappy period. While she does need to work on her own issues and how she responds to stress ... The fact he even admitted to the possibility of emotional cheating is a nope for me personally. I think, and I could be wrong, the idea of actually being tied to her now is probably rocking his noggin. I mean six yrs - committed and no permanent title. Now he hopes she's the one? Yeah, they need to go figure that out asap.

[@allizacoml]

hopefully I am not first this time

[@therobloxscripter6194]

Hello.

[@TheTexanDuolingo]

Is the channel fixed?

[@VID_]

2nd

[@williammcdermott8692]

​@@VID_who cares about that I'm sick to death of seeing it

[@BillyThe_GOAT]

Yes

[@QuickManEXE]

Story 1: The husband here is a big jerk and an even bigger drunk. Seriously, he's in need of AA or something along those lines. I dont know why the OP has put up with this for this long. I get the whole wanting to be loyal and supportive and all that, but this guy is way too over the top here with his partying. Someone like that should not be in any kind of relationship, much less a decade long marriage. Story 2: I doubt this relationship is going to last if nothing drastic happens.... especially if he think he'll "emotionally cheat" if things get worse. Story 3: Okay, if the husband is sleeping through those kinds of alarms, and isnt hungover or anything, then you seriously need to take him to a doctor, like yesterday. Hes either half deaf or has something seriously wrong with him internally. There are a number of very serious ailments and diseases that can cause this. While you can argue some entitlement here, i really think that the OP needs to drag her husband to a doctor. Story 4: Yeah... the OP is very foolish here. Valerie is extremely two-faced and she's clearly trying to steal Evan away and make the OP look bad. The OP should've never re-connected with Valerie for any reason, and this whole thing really should be enough for her to cut her out, and for good this time. You dont need drama like this. Story 5: Its one thing to be friendly with an ex, but to actively hide contact, and mutliple times it seems, isnt a good thing. If it was only one time, then i could say its a big over-reaction from the OP, but mutliple times? No. I think kicking him out and breaking up with him is justified here.

[@ragnablade5397]

It’s not because you are married that you have to forbid bar to your husband. As long as there are no cheating, it’s ok

[@Chesse291]

no it isn't OK the hopefully ex husband is the moronic alcoholic jerk

[@aparnarai3708]

Story 1:divorce

[@shadicusivxxradicus2253]

From the sound of this first story, divorce is definitely on the table as an option. Op set clear boundaries for her husband, and he proceeded to overstep those boundaries. What a P.O.S.

[@Pugdance]

Early, woohoo

[@bunnycakes2305]

For a bit of context, I know that Japan has a similar work drinking culture to Korea. In Korea, you're expected to go to after work drinking because the higher ups view you being drunk as "dropping your mask" and being able to answer questions more truthfully such as if you like your job, what the company can do better, etc. They really push drinks on you to the point where some people will say they have an allergy to alcohol to avoid the drinks your higher ups push on you. It could be that he's trying his best to acclimate to the culture change but the woman isn't able to. It's a complete culture difference. If your higher ups choose that bar and you don't want to seem as if teamwork and team-bonding mean nothing to you, you go drinking.

[@wolfloverboy1176]

first to comment

[@joedanger1423]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@albertgongora6944]

Am I the only one who kind of find the first story kind of infuriating not because the original poster or anything like that but it's just the fact that like all right of your husband is refusing to stop partying with the women that do you don't even know then why are you still with the man there's nothing that can fix this marriage there's no coming back from it come on the original poster can't say that she doesn't get what's going on in her marriage when she just wrote it down and submitted it to Reddit like come on like how is it not hitting you that this is just a dead marriage that's done to the point where there is no possible way you can say you're still not seeing the red flags

[@viviennemorgan7217]

i feel sorry for op, like she told him not to get drunk and cheat on other women but he doesn't listen.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

guys if you're married or dating please note that you need to listen to your husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends.

[@finnmchugh99]

From what I read when I originally read Story 1, i know Host/ess Clubs are a thing in Japan and they're completely fine although pretty pricey it ofc also depends on the sort of staff or customer dynamics... The big issues in regards to OP's husband is he would spend a good chunk of his family wages on drinks and attractive conversations with hostesses along with drinking to the point nausea is a big problem. Also OP never told him not to party or stuff just not at those specific types of bars.... She should drop him ASAP for her family and her own sake.

[@thomasspear2051]

W÷eeee

[@beasty909]

story 1: OPs hubby is FLIRTING with other women, isnt that technically still sort of cheating? i ask because if say one of the girls falls "in love" with hubby, she might quit that job, make a move on hubby & just utterly screw OPs life up!!! so, yeah, just asking is all :) edit isnt it called "Emotional cheating/abandoment"? hes technically being emotional with another woman rather than his wife /: poor OP & their kid, hope they leave & take him to the cleaners for making the kid sick /:

[@SolubleParrot9776]

68th like

[@grahamstation7640]

2nd story Your the problem lol break up he's not wrong

[@chadmcdonald8562]

56

[@GabrielHenrique-pq5bo]

The objective of a hostess bar in japan is to make men feel special and convince them to spend money, it is common for men to hang out in those places, but to not misunderstand, the women there arent prostitutes or anything like that, but in regards of the husband, he is clearly not familiar with those bars, did let the "fun" get into his head and disrespected his wife and kid, if these parties are more important than his marriage then he doesnt deserve to be married

[@Ohyousawme]

Hi

[@thesadbread]

Hewo!

[@Ohyousawme]

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