Entitled Mother DEMANDS I ADD HER KID into MY WEDDING as a FLOWER GIRL... or ELSE - Reddit Podcast

[@AmItheJerk]

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[@Awedasthma]

how is this comment from four days ago when this was made in feb 15th?

[@smithsmith1956]

The wife blabbed because she probably thinks if people know about it, she can get her claws in the inheritance somehow.

[@gapgamer0954]

Not if the husband has a prenup before they got married I wouldn't tell my future wife that

[@smithsmith1956]

@@gapgamer0954 Inheritance isn't marital property even with a prenup. Prenups don't work anyways. Unless he puts her name on the deeds and the money in a joint account, she has no claim legally. But she probably thought if people knew about it, she'd somehow get it. Maybe she thought the family would shame him into submission or something.

[@gapgamer0954]

@@smithsmith1956 oh ok thank u

[@SapphireVirgo]

​@@smithsmith1956maybe he can get a good divorce lawyer with some of the money

[@jessicamarsh9779]

Maybe she’s bragging about it. I mean why else would someone open their mouths & talk about that. I remember one time my cousin who’s 10 years older then me got a new car. I was like 11 or 12. I asked her how much she paid for it. Lol I had no idea what I was even talking about, I wouldn’t have any idea since at the time $50 was rich 😂. She told me “It’s rude to ask people about finances, like how much they make or how much a car or house costs”. She wasn’t being rude to me about it, I just honestly didn’t know. She told me how much it costed bc I was curious. I remember asking her if it was a lot for a car & she said it’s a lot of money but payments over 4 years & interest. She had me lost 😂. She’s like an older sister more then a cousin.

[@ryanbashor7371]

Story 2: If you are invited, and not told beforehand that you'd be expected to pay, then them asking for that money was really messed up.

[@jasoncarpp7742]

*Story 1:* Beautiful story. It's awesome to see OP's in-laws intervene on her behalf. If someone wants to be a flower girl, that should've been arranged at least a year prior, not just a week prior.

[@retroflashbackdude]

You can pick party members less than a year or even days prior. When I was 13, I was asked at the last minute to be a groomsman for my uncle’s wedding.

[@McAmberlee]

Ngl, it's refreshing to see a MIL in the hero role for once, instead of waking up and choosing Karen-icity.😂

[@artechstorm]

Story #3 I think you need to talk to an attorney to discuss about divorce

[@QuickManEXE]

Story 1: That aunt was a piece of trash, but good on the rest of the family for standing up for the OP here and not taking this aunts crap for a second. They all seemed to know what she was like and weren't going to tolerate any of her guff, especially on a wedding. I feel bad for the daughter, having to be with a Karen like the aunt... but it didn't sound like she was upset about not being a flower girl here, sounds like this is all on the aunt's head here. Story 2: OP is not a jerk here. While it is good to pay your fair share, Jane and her mom should've told the OP well in advance here. I think that if the OP knew about any of this beforehand, then the OP would've had no problem paying for a portion of what was paid for here, but Jane and her mom are being jerks about all of this and rather unreasonable. Some expenses seem fair to pay a share of, but a lot of them... not so much. Story 3: No way is the OP the jerk here, the wife is and big time. While yelling at her in the car after dinner wasnt very nice, i think it was 100% justified here. The OP's financial situation and this upcoming inheiritance is of absolutely zero concern or business of the wife's family. Whenever people come into money or assets, via something like inheiritance or lottery, etc., you definitely dont want the whole world to find out about it, because then everyone comes out of the woodwork wanting your money and it sounds like its about to start here. So no, OP isn't a jerk, the wife is. Story 4: Honestly, with everything that has been told here, im rather surprised that the OP is even in contact with the mom here. She clearly hasnt changed much and doesn't sound like she remotely cares about the OP at all here. OP needs to go no contact with her going forward. Story 5: OP is not a jerk here. Some traditions are definitely worth breaking and i think that the OP should just change her name officially to Skye once she's legally able to. The mom and grandma are just manipulating, guilt-tripping and gaslighting the OP to the point where Skye wants to ditch the name Nancy more and more. They really need to back off, otherwise i think they run the risk of the OP going low contact in the future. Story 6: While i get that line-ups like that can be frustrating as all hell, but seriously? This guy was a complete idiot to not realize the circumstances and act like he is the most important person in the world. Too bad airport security didn't toss him out.

[@bobm5951]

Story 3 - She had no right whatever to say anything. I would've gone off on her in front of everyone telling her that I told her Not to say anything about it. She should've kept her mouth shut. YOUR inheritance is None of their business.

[@divyaramkalawan9312]

Story 3: You should really go to the appointments by yourself and if your wife asks, remind her she broke your trust. Then give it about two weeks after your appointment to settle everything and tell her you lost everything because she spilled beans about that big thing and especially spilled to her 'big mouth sister,' so now everyone knows people tried shots and got through. Simultaneously, do something to test your wife, if she would break your trust again and if she does divorce her. However, if she proves thats shes really sorry and your wife wins back your trust then tell her you've been digging and trying and got some stuff back. Because its dangerous to let people know about those things and women love to talk and brag, so if word gets out you could really be robbed. Im speaking from experience. Hope all goes well

[@MarsJenkar]

Story 6: No, he wasn't the only person there having a bad day; _everyone there_ was having a bad day. He just was the only person who wasn't able to handle it. In that situation I'd have left a bad review for the rental company because rewarding bad behavior the way they did only encourages more bad behavior. Also, why didn't airport security deal with the guy? Were they swamped too?

[@kimjorgensen2443]

My parents used to let me take my cousin or my best friend on vacation so I had another girl to hang with for the week. She was never charged anything. She may have bought spending money, but that was it.

[@D41Michigan]

Hell, my 15yr old niece is Skylar. She goes by Sky sometimes as a nickname. Nothing wrong with it

[@ashlaynesaar]

Re: the name story with Skye, I'm a person who goes by her middle name, and have since I was little. With the exception of an identity crisis at 11 after my dad passed away, I have never wanted to go by my first name. My mom has even made the comment once or twice that if she had it to do again, she'd flip flop my names on my birth certificate. (Personally, I love going by my middle name now, because my dad did too.) There's nothing unprofessional about going by a middle name, and there's nothing wrong with the name Skye. She'll just have to be aware (and probably already is) that people outside of her family may default to Nancy until she tells them she goes by Skye. I do almost every day.

[@princessmarlena1359]

Story 2: How disgusting to charge an invited guest for the trip without letting them know first. Especially demanding the full cost for everything. NTA.

[@hayleymariemills]

The middle name story...i guarantee you your mom's friends DO NOT "always ask her" why you hate your grandma because you don't use your first name! That's a damn lie she made up to guilt trip you!

[@brianarnold8666]

I'm honestly surprised a teen has $500

[@lyndora33864]

I know several adults who have never gone by their birth names. And it has never impacted their lives negatively. That is a very big reach to say that. And Skye or Sky is an actual given name. I know at least 3 people with that name.

[@KingSteven26]

Last story: This "prefered customer" is a customer everyone prefers to never met again...!

[@larainey]

2 story: isn't the stuff prepaid/paid already after the trip? Also I would ask the other family members that went.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

i hate how the aunt came up to op's wedding demanding her to make the daughter a flower girl.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

but i'm glad the in laws are on op's side defending her against her aunt.

[@Highlander48]

That was a really cheese doodle move of them really CHEESE pretty CHEDDAR not very CHEDDAR CHEESE or then ya know that’s not a [BIG SHOT] move

[@viviennemorgan7217]

@@Highlander48 this has nothing to do with the story

[@kpsonicdude]

Story 1: The aunt is way out of line. It's The OPs wedding. Good for the In laws for standing up for the OP and her fiance. The aunt needs to learn to take no for an answer. If her daughter grows up to become entitled And the OPs finds out about it than the OP will know where the daughter gets it from. If the op doesn't want the daughter to be the flower girl at her wedding than she has the right to tell them that. Story 4 No way is OP is wrong in this situlation The Mother kicked the OP to the curb at 18. One of My cousins ex girlfriends has a mom who kicked her to the curb as soon as she turned 18 too. She only dated my cousin for a few years because she needed a place to live. While she was dating my cousin she treated me and the rest of my family like crap. The mother in this story sounds like those parents who kick out their kids as soon as they turn 18 no matter the situlation of the economy. Good on the OP for confronting their mom.

[@candymanvr_78]

everyone needs to subscribe to this guy

[@Im_eepy]

Story 2: its her choice if its her prefrence to use the name skye

[@TheDarkLink7]

The story about the op using their middle name. Do what feels right. I know a guy lets call him John Smith Stanley. Greoing up I've always known him as Smith. Its what everyone who knew him as. One day when I had gotten some mail. I asked my grandman "John Smith Stanley?" And she had said that yeah. That was Smith and people who call asking for John are just trying to sell him something.

[@v.crowley]

Story 2: if OP didn't ask about fees before agreeing.. it's on her.. WHY would you expect a 5 day event to be free???

[@DoctorOaks]

I don't really think it's on OP very much though. If I was invited to join my friend on a vacation they had planned, but they didn't say anything about me needing to pay, I'd have probably asked about it yet I'm an adult now. When I was in High School I would've probably never thought to ask about it either. In fact I'm surprised OP's parents never brought it up with the friend's mom since that's what I'd normally expect to happen before sending your daughter on vacation with them. So while OP isn't completely blameless it does come off as strange never to discuss splitting the costs with OP. If I had had this happen to me at that age I would've been completely unable to pay anywhere close to that amount. Maybe I've listened to to many Reddit stories, but it kind of sounds like they may have brought OP along just so they could charge her later.

[@H3xx99]

My first name is the same as my dad's name. So I use my middle name. It's not a problem. Anyone who thinks it is needs to get their heads out of their asses.

[@Jermbot15]

Story 2, I was against the OP until she revealed she was a highschool student. Sending over 500 was too much.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

why are you against her instead of being against the friend and the mother?

[@Jermbot15]

@@viviennemorgan7217 Until I found out she was a highschool student. Prior to the reveal that she was a child, the assumption for adults is that you pay your own way on a trip. If the cost of the trip is a point of concern, as an adult, you ask. You don't negotiate after the fact. Of course as a child the rule is different. If a child is invited someplace the default assumption is that the child is being paid for by whoever invited them.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

@@Jermbot15 dude first off since when does she have money, when her friend and her friends mother had money, second they expect her to pay for their trip, third relisten to the story again and 4'th since when is she a high school student when she didn't mention that you might have made it up on your own?

[@DoctorOaks]

​@@viviennemorgan7217 At around 4:50 - 4:57 (sorry not sure how to do actual timestamps) the OP says they don't have a lot of money saved up because they're still just a High Schooler

[@viviennemorgan7217]

@@DoctorOaks yeah she is just a high schooler even though she doesn't have enough money saved up.

[@DeklanLotusDiehl]

Well, I watch this at least two hours ago

[@kidflaxh5130]

story 3 ya op is not the jerk the wife should not tell stuff the op said she shouldn't honestly i never trust the wife again

[@AdamDuffy-l2l]

When it comes to Inheritance THE WIFE AND FAMILY ARE NOT GOING TO SEE ONE PENNY OF THIS SHOW BECAUSE THE WIFE IS NOT ENTITLED TO IT BECAUSE THE HOUSE MONEY IS YOURS AND IN THE DIVORCE IF IT COMES TO THAT YOU GET TO LIVE IN THE HOUSE YOU GOT IN THE INHERITANCE BECAUSE ITS NOT PART OF THE MARRIAGE PROPERTY ASSISTS ?.

[@annasamuels2594]

Insane how he has 1 mil subs for reading redit stories

[@raerose2278]

Because he’s better than good. Very professional done!😊

[@Bchuz]

You should never have to change yourself to make others happy

[@AugustaSleepy]

Thanks for the video.

[@3SailorMartin]

My grandmother and great aunt always went by their middle names... I didn't know until after they died that those weren't their first names (though when I was really young I always thought my great aunt's name was Auntie lol,)

[@Side_Swipe20]

My own mother calls me by a variation of my middle name almost exclusively she only really uses my first name when I make an appalling joke

[@Kono_art]

I am planning to change my name and like un searching for the perfect name, so I have like a list of 300 names that I like, and now I need to choose one before I do the paperwork and shit

[@themysteriousoa4466]

To the OP in the fifth story: How old are you again? Eighteen? Isn’t seventeen and eighteen practically the age of adulthood? And doesn’t those two ages mean that you can make your own decisions rather than your mom and grandmother? And why should you listen to them for changing your name?

[@avatarpan]

Because you can have a dozen flower girls and it would be an adorable little girl parade, I don't understand what you said no the first time. When the aunt showed up and demanded, yes throw her out. Not the 6 year old, she did nothing wrong. But why didn't you say that the child could be a flower girl? I'm sure that your nieces would love a new friend.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

don't know.

[@retroflashbackdude]

Story 1: not the jerk, but she could’ve included her niece as an FG with her other nieces. An extra one wouldn’t hurt. There’s no explicit limit on how many FGs you can have in a wedding party.

[@Badger_1-2]

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[@Stickuniverseyt]

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[@lydiat5819]

Story 2 - everyone is the jerk, how was finance not discussed beforehand. Maybe OP is less of a jerk due to her age but her parents could hv asked.

[@cybermainstream]

How is OP the jerk? If I invite friends out on a vacation and we are all staying at the same place I'm not expecting them to foot that bill. It's called an invitation for a reason. If my friends offer to pay me back I won't turn it down but if I can afford to take them on the trip they are at most just being asked for gas and to get their own meals when we go out. It's out of line for what Jane and the mom did.

[@ericbumbles4145]

My own mom kicked me to the curb when I was 15. Left to go marry some doctor from her hometown and when I asked if i could go live with her after my dad threw me out at 15, right after she left...a few months later she said, "Nope, you made you choices and I have my own life now" And POOF I was motherless. Didn't stop her from constantly criticizing me and my choices all the time though. Sorry, you gave that right up when you essentially orphaned me and was fine with me sleeping in cars eating frozen pb and j sandwiches because it was fucking winter.

[@codypendergrass1949]

I got kicked to the curb when I was 11 stop crying and grow up.

[@Blockman__go]

1 Story Komm on

[@Linkkus]

Whats the name of the game

[@BobAdams-b6m]

First

[@Sally_thefox]

Srry I’m 1 min late

[@raerose2278]

You’re here and that’s all that counts! 😁

[@bsouthmama3010]

Why would you assume you would get to go on a vacation for free?? Inheritance dude is the jerk. His finances = wife’s finances.

[@viviennemorgan7217]

op's not the jerk ever.

[@fullmetalgamer6062]

Lol no, inheritance guy isn't the jerk.

[@ferzinhaN]

That's BS! Why invite someone and not tell them ahead of time that you expect them to contribute? People don't read mind. Bloody hell!

[@bsouthmama3010]

@@ferzinhaN on the flip side of that, why ,after u were invited, would you NOT expect to pay your share? If mean the air B&B and gas, ok. They were going anyway. But why would u expect someone else to pay for your food and all the extra things they did. It’s not a mind reader it’s called common sense

[@bsouthmama3010]

@@viviennemorgan7217 lol. More often than not

[@tylerbessette1953]

150 people. That car place shouldn’t be running