EP. 10 | MY FIRST NOT POSITIVE COUCHSURFING EXPERIENCE | Oslo vlog

MY FIRST NOT POSITIVE COUCHSURFING EXPERIENCE // I arrive in Oslo by bus and the first night I have my first not positive Couchsurfing experience. It was not entirely bad at all, but when Couchsurfing asked me if I would stay again, I had to answer no. The next day I met my other host in Oslo, who took me to a sporty bike tour up on a mountain outside Oslo and then we cooked a nice dinner together.
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[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Although the following: - I obviously had the permission of my host to show him on my KZbin channel - I never said I've had a BAD experience with him, but all in all a neutral one - I have a very precise a strong reason to post this vlog on my channel, which I'll explain later - I specify multiple times that the problem has been that we had different standards of hygiene, where I admit that MY standard is very high - I list all the positive aspects of the experience, which were many after one and a half year of receiving complaints about this video, I decided to trim all the parts where the face of my host shows. I hope this is going to be enough for me to be able to keep focusing on my present and future videos, instead of constantly have to come back here and explain myself. Once and for all, I have strong reasons for wanting this vlog on my page: This channel and the whole idea behind it is based on the existence of a hospex community like Couchsurfing, that's why I made so many videos about the platform. I both make videos where I explain how the platform works and how to use it safely - especially for solo female surfers - and vlogs where I narrate my actual experiences with it. Safety is a huge issue on Couchsurfing and many women avoid the platform because afraid of safety issues. My goal is to encourage them to overcome their fears and give it a try. I do so by showing my experiences as a solo woman. Since 99% of my experiences are smooth and simply positive, I thought this was a precious chance to show that things can also be not as smooth (and therefore give credibility to my message), but - if taking the right precautions - still safe. The message I want to spread with this video is that Couchsurfing does naturally not always offer smooth and pleasant experiences, but the not positive ones are usually related to small details, rather than serious safety issues (again, if the right precautions are taken, which I talk about in my other videos), as this vlog shows. Mentally ill people are everywhere in the world, and occasionally unfortunately also on Couchsurfing. But those cases are the smallest fraction of the total of the experiences that people have made in this community. Every person on this planet has a brain, feelings, emotions and a certain empathy for others. Let's remember that when we experience fear of other people.

[@alexran1451]

May I subscribed to your KZbin channel

[@meritlopez7395]

Wold not stay again . Understood .

[@Dominic1394]

Are you implying the messy Oslo host is mentally ill?

[@ebonylady7103]

If he was such a nice person, how could you put his face for the world to see and then say these things. You could have at least not shown his face and just personally spoken to him about his hygiene.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Why would I? He's free to maintain whatever level of hygiene he wants in his things. The problem is only about inviting people on Couchsurfing without warning them about the peculiar situation.

[@ebonylady7103]

If he doesn't realize his habits are offensive, then a private conversation to a nice person would be better than publicly shaming him to the World!

[@mimmiblu6138]

@David Roberts sorry I disagree entirely. I am a host on CS too and I would be fuming if, instead of rating me only on the platform and having a personal chat a surfer would put my face on a different platform like KZbin and accused me of a lack of personal hygiene ... what if his employers see it? He's been as kind as to open his house to her, just to be shamed in front of the world? He, exactly like me, has only subscribred to host people and get references on the CS platform, not on other social networks. It is perfectly ok to keave a critical/ negative reference on CS but why on KZbin? If I were him I would file a complaint with CS management because this is a clear infringement of CS Terms of Use IMO. As for my part I will ask CS if shaming a person on KZbin putting the person's face is permitted: if so I'll unsubscribe from CS because this is clearly not what I subscribed for. I am a teacher... imagine if I have a personal problem with a surfer and I have to discuss it with my students because a surfer has posted a video with personal information about me?

[@Luggruff]

​@@WhatashameMaryJane you are not only wrong in "feeling you had the right" and that your approach was correct. This is straight up illegal in Norway (slander - which it actually is even if it's not just an alleged crime, but even after a conviction - and of course, when it is not a matter of crime, but damaging someones personal reputation). Hopefully as this video has so far reach, you will actually face legal actions. jusleksikon.no/wiki/%C3%86rekrenkelse And, either way, even if there is a law in Norway that you actually broke (and weirdly brag about) that hurts someone else, it is highly immoral. Disgusting.

[@mauriziomodelli6178]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Don't care comments, you did the right thing. I appreciate your warning.

[@kucinggueajah]

i don't understand, i mean filming the lack of expectation for an unpaid accommodation seems too much, don't you feel its like putting a public shaming of the host who's apparently has been trying to be generous enough to let you stay? first, if your hygiene standard is that high while you don't have such an option to get nearby hotel or other host to stay, then why don't you take a time to rid the mess or simply put your coat or shirt to cover the sheet? i never read anywhere in couchsurfing that the surfer is entitled of fresh towel, bed sheet or toiletries...and then it will following with the host should be a free guide, free driver, and give a free breakfast lunch and dinner too during your stay? wow then if its a standard of the host in couchsurfing now then i'll leave my job and travelling around the world and use the couchsurfing to pick up any house with bvlgary service and facilities for free! I mean, if you were expecting that, why don't you put a budget for paying the hotel? i just don't see it 100% right to put it in youtube...sorry MJ i saw your other video are good but this one seems a bit unethical...

[@tiffanyi5645]

I wholeheartedly disagree. In fact she said that the website she secured the host through, asks users to leave a rating; so obviously the couchsurfers experience is valuable information for the next potential couchsurfer. Furthermore, this is NOT an issue of "lack of expectation", she wasn't commenting on the amenities offered/not offered, she was strictly commenting hygiene and sanitary conditions which shouldn't even have to be an expectation, it should be a given! How can you call her expectations high? Did you see what that place looked like? I could literally smell it through the screen! Yuckkkk She's not shaming him; he clearly KNEW she was a youtuber and KNEW what his house looked like, so I'd argue he's not at all ashamed of his living conditions (although he damn sure should be).

[@fzhang718]

@@tiffanyi5645 while honest reviews are useful on AirBnB and Couchsurfing, she didn't keep her comments there. She obviously shared her negative review here on KZbin, where it has very little value. I doubt many viewers are on couchsurfing, headed to Oslo, and are potentially interested in staying with aforesaid host. On the other hand, the potential ramifications for the host who was just trying to be a nice guy (and bought her a free beer and meal) are very high.

[@abdessamadram3601]

This is mindblowing for me, a person offering you a free stay, come pick you up, show you around, try his best, ... and for return you film and shame him in front of all the world due to his unawareness of what you call standards of hygiene and messy bed !! I never seen anything more evil than that. ps : If you have "high hygiene standards try to pay with you're own money a high standard hotel.

[@mlukahot]

Looking at your video, the part after you left the first host, on the bus and on the ferry, I felt relieved for you. Thanks for all these videos, so rich and full of information!

[@dcpowered]

I love your videos! Great work!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thank you!!!

[@saskiabrouwer3554]

Well Mary Jane, never send me a request, because the moment I see you're videoing inside my place you'll be kicked out faster than you can say 'what?' I signed up at CS to host people so I can exchange experiences, not to let you show me and my place to the whole world.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

You think I didn't ask permission to film and publish the videos before arranging my stay? 🙄

[@saskiabrouwer3554]

@@WhatashameMaryJane I have no idea, you'r reactions make me think you didn't. But IF you did then but I'm pretty certain that this host didn't want to be badmouthed for all the world.

[@fzhang718]

@@saskiabrouwer3554 Right on! The entitled brat may have asked permission to film inside, but she definitely didn't give him notice that she would be putting her negative review on KZbin. Unsubscribing...

[@isabelsiebeneicher1493]

Why do so many people have a problem with showing or telling the truth? People should always be allowed to show and talk about the reality.

[@luccasdefaria]

Your videos are so genuine. I'm adoring it

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thank you :)

[@perseoeridano4182]

This channel is awesome!

[@alessandroleissdeleimburg4699]

Brava, coraggiosa e fiduciosa nel prossimo!!! Un grande esempio per chi vuole viaggiare senza farsi troppi problemi.... But be careful please! I say this as a parent ... you understand ... Mandi!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Grazie 🙂

[@Mewyee1]

WOW! You’re so brave to couch surf!!! 😯

[@jburckhardt]

The second guy was actually pretry clean, and the dish he prepare looks delish!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Yes absolutely!

[@StacyLopez]

I had a similar experience but with an Airbnb in London, the place was very dirty, the bedding had been sprayed heavily with mens body spray rather than washed. And bags of trash sat in the kitchen. No towels or toilet paper in the bathroom. I left there only an hour after arriving and did not get my money back.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Fun fact, the only bad experience I've had with Airbnb has been in London. And it's been very bad.

[@tammiepulley1396]

I am not Italian but I cannot understand a man expecting a brand new friend who is a woman to sleep in the same room as him. I think that even though he was nice....he was not forthcoming...red flag. Please reconsider staying with single men...maybe just women or couples? You handled it well. Thanks for keeping it real.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hey Tammie (is it your real name..?) can I ask you where you come from?

[@tammierenee8835]

Tammie Pulley I am from the San Francisco California area.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@tammierenee8835 Most of the hosts are single and most of them are men. I honestly have no problem staying with single man. Once you start getting to know them, you realise they're not monsters who just want to harass women, they're good people like you who look for interesting company and travel stories... :) But I do understand it sounds scary from the outside.

[@RisXXX]

@@WhatashameMaryJane But you know from the beginning that you will sleep in the same room, right? (Just to replay to the claim. "I cannot understand a man expecting a brand new friend who is a woman to sleep in the same room as him") . Well, people are different. Women are different. Not all men are same and not all women are same. Not women are same like you, Tammie. For some women it's normal to sleep in the same room with a man, which they met the same day. I am sure you would not sleep in the same flat with a single man. But it's you, and that's OK also. Like it's OK for some women to have different opinions and criteria.

[@illuminatistboy]

lol it was funny to watch your reaction let me know if you visit Istanbul someday.. i hope you ll like white soap smelled sheets:)

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

😜

[@Noah-fv2zq]

You made your first 1000 Subscribers 👍🏼

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Have you seen that!?? I'm so happy!! 😊😊😊

[@aiferapple1246]

I'm glad you're ok. Well done for sharing and being honest about ALL aspects of couch-surfing :) x

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks Andi. I hope I was able to let understand that the issue I had was very personal and that this host had 158 enthusiastic references + only 4 "would not stay again" ones (regarding an aspect of his personality that I actually appreciated).

[@onelove1968]

That was a highly risky situation. You're playing Russian roulette whenever you stay overnight in a strangers home by yourself. I bet your poor Father is worried sick about your safety and well being.

[@zehrauymaz568]

Hey MJ ,i'm a new subscribers of you from Turkey and i've been watching your videos for last few weeks ,they are very informative as well as enjoyable,but more importantly they are understantable .i think you are Italian but your English is quite clear and fluent so that i don't have any difficulty in getting the meaning (which i have it sometimes when i listen to a native English speakers ).By the way how many languages can you speak and how did you improve them ,thank you 🥰

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hello Zehra from Turkey, welcome to the channel! 😊 I'm very happy to read your comment. I've been there too, when I wasn't able to understand the native speakers because they talked to fast and confused. Other than my native languages I speak English and German, both fluently. I got better by living in Germany and hanging out exclusively with Germans, and for English I must say watching KZbin videos was a huge help, and then practicing while travelling in foreign countries. Where in Turkey are you from? How old are you?

[@zehrauymaz568]

@@WhatashameMaryJane thank you ,i live in İstanbul,you are always welcome here ,i'm 30 by the way ;)

[@englishgoesnuts]

Oh girl my only experience on Couchsurfing was so terrifying I never tried it again. My host in Paris came on to me. I was so scared I thought if I try to leave his apartment (I arrived after midnight and we spent about an hour chatting so it was middle of the night) I thought if I try to leave now he’s definitely going to assault me. So I pretended to be super sleepy and crawled into the sleeping bag with several layers of clothes on. One of the worst nights of my life! I barely slept. And in the morning he went to work and when I woke up I realized I’m locked in! As soon as he returned I was out of the door. I’m not sure what I did wrong to bring this on me but I literally can’t bring myself to try Couchsurfing again.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Oh my god I'm so sorry to hear this. You poor girl, that's horrible. I can totally understand if you don't feel like trying it again. But you could also one day decide to try overcome the trauma, maybe with a friend to feel more safe... and for that day, you'll have to study the safety tips about Couchsurfing that I give in this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/emq7nGaJhK2he9k . One of the most important ones is: meet the host before evening, so that you have time to get a first impression and understand if it's the case to stay there or not. But the fact that he locked you in, that's just very bad luck I think 😔 Where are you from?

[@englishgoesnuts]

What a shame Mary Jane thanx a lot! I did watch that video you linked and several others of yours too, I wish I watched them all those years ago! You’re super helpful and sweet! 🤗 Grazie mille 😃 Oh and I’m from Russia

[@sydneybrewster2880]

omg i hope you are okay now! I watched a movie called 'Berlin Syndrome' a few months ago and it sounds exactly like this!

[@englishgoesnuts]

Sydney Brewster thank you girl! I am fine, that experience taught me to be more careful and do my homework. Thank god it wasn’t like the movie you mentioned. I watched it a few years back and was mortified as to how my own experience could’ve turned

[@Kushbabu]

Be very careful and try too stop couch surfing there is slot of things going on

[@amirahmed6421]

Well I am new to your channel and I really appreciate the information you offer keep going ,about the CS experience as I can see he try to help should be appreciated :) And befor you arrive you should ask about the location or at least you know how far is?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hey Amir, welcome to the channel! I don't exactly understand your question: you want to know if you should know the location of the place you're going to stay before going there? Yes, preferrably.

[@amirahmed6421]

@@WhatashameMaryJane I mean you mention his home was far away from Oslo you didn't know that before you arrive anyway just want to if there is clear communication in CS before host or surf.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Amir Ahmed So how it usually works is that the host gives the precise address and waits for you at home. This time, because we would have gone there together from the city, he didn’t give me the precise address but only the area. So I knew we would have been in the peninsula of Nesodden.

[@menkfranceart]

The recipe....yummmmmm!

[@perseoeridano4182]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@hacker0one]

Avevo visto i tuoi video e non pensavo fossi italiana, è stato una piaceva sorpresa, complementi per il tuo accento perfetto

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Grazie :)

[@worldoftravels2020]

You are such a brave person. I really admire you. Be safe.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks. Despite of the fact that he house was located in the middle of nothing and we arrived late, I always felt very safe with my host. Very genuine and generous person, absolutely!

[@diegov4528]

Hey, cool video! I was just wondering how do u feel about filming that situation and his face, and putting it online? Or should I ask how they feel about it? For example, the messy room. Love your videos!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I asked permission before!

[@tiffanyi5645]

I'm so impressed at how seemly every single European speaks multiple languages, not 2 but multiple! I'm a little jealous LOL Edit: omggg that potato/cheesy/vegetable dish looked so freaking GOOD!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

But Americans don't need to learn other languages than probably Spanish, we have so many different languages around us instead. That's a very German dish, every German cooks it! Ahah

[@kucinggueajah]

Ok then Tif...if you were her..as I watched this video together with my surfer n we're just wondering, once again, just wondering, what if we flip the situation, the host make a video of you n you say ok (ofcourse everybody will say ok when u filming them in a first met up situation n when they took u to the restaurant/cafe/bar, no wonders why he looks so happy even contribute on the video) but then the host also do the same like u, make a video of your stuff without you on it, showing your dirty clothes, or maybe when u forget to wrap your used tampon before you throw it to the bin, n then the host also talking about your wet armfit, even the smell of your breath which is not in the same smell standard of the host smells, do you think you're gonna be allright to get rating that way n to get published in youtube? Once again, just wondering!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Of course I would be ok, otherwise I would never make a video like this! A lot of people seem to be very uncomfortable with this video though, so probably there are many people who have a very different sensitivity than mine. Honestly I'm tired of spending hours of my time on this old video just to answer to all the comments and explain my reasons. There's no way I'd leave a comment unanswered and I don't want to turn off the comments because it would shut down the dialogue, which is the best thing about a video. I'm thinking about cutting all the clips where you can see his face, do you think people will stop commenting? Otherwise I should hide the entire video from the channel, but it's my only chance to show how things can go "wrong" (which is not that wrong after all) when you use Couchsurfing in a safe way. It's an important piece of my educational content about Couchsurfing. I'd be pleased if you gave me your opinion on this.

[@kucinggueajah]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Ohhh MJ MJ you know how much i love you by increasing your viewers in your channel, u should thanks me for this, do u even have any idea by making this video you just make yourself a big discussion in international cs group? You dont know how much we love you on the discussion n i even shared it to the local CS on whats app group n see their reaction too, as a result most of host in a group now were preparing the forms (incase you were request to stay with them) if their hygiene will meet your expectation cause if they were afraid its not, they will humbly reject your request to stay but i believe when its happen you will no longer need couchsurfing as many sponsors want to exchange their 5 stars accommodation with a video on your channel..it works better, put a video about service n facilities of paid accommodation..a lot of people get paid even a salary for it, correct me if i'm wrong but they call it: advertising!

[@elisabettamorandini4546]

Dai Mary con tutti i km che abbiamo fatto in bici sei allenatissima... A parte tutto.. Brava a gestire anche gli imprevisti negativi

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Eh eh ti assicuro che non lo sono per nienteee!!! Grazie cara :)

[@joe8497]

No, aspetta, qual è la correlazione tra il fatto che il ragazzo fosse meridionale e la sua mentalità e le sue abitudini igieniche?

[@aekhome]

Ho pensato la stessa cosa. Saluti, un norvegese che ama l'Italia meridionale...

[@joe8497]

@@aekhome Ciao! Spero di avere capito male, perché se no la frase rivela un certo pregiudizio discriminatorio di tipo razziale-territoriale.

[@aekhome]

@@joe8497 Un pregiudizio del genere purtroppo non è raro in Italia secondo me. Sono convinto però che Maria non pensa così; girando il mondo sarebbe assurdo! (Per coincidenza il ragazzo non molto pulito ad Oslo/Nesodden era napoletano, facilmente potrebbe essere Norvegese, lo garantisco! )

[@joe8497]

@@aekhome Per esperienza posso dire che gli italiani (e lo dice anche MJ), e quelli del sud in particolare (lo aggiungo io), sono persone che tengono veramente tanto all'igiene e alla pulizia. Ovviamente non si può generalizzare né in un senso né nell'altro, e questo vale per qualsiasi popolazione. Ho conosciuto italiani del nord, del centro e del sud, e non italiani molto poco puliti (in particolare francesi, ma non mi sognerei mai di generalizzare dicendo che i francesi sono sporchi), e viceversa. Spero che MJ non sia vittima di un pregiudizio sbagliato e infondato nei confronti degli italiani del sud. Se così fosse, la invito a visitare il sud Italia e le auguro di non essere così sfortunata da incontrare proprio le persone sbagliate.

[@joe8497]

@@aekhome Laddove in Italia sussista ancora un pregiudizio del genere, può essere dovuto a due fattori principali: 1) Mala fede, dovuta a convinzioni di tipo razzista o sentimenti avversi di matrice politica; oppure 2) Ignoranza, dovuta a un pregiudizio e a una mancanza di conoscenza della realtà. A volte le due cose coesistono. Mi sembrerebbe strano che una ragazza così apparentemente "aperta", che viaggia, gira il mondo ed entra in contatto con tante culture diverse, possa essere vittima di un pregiudizio del genere o non sia mai stata fisicamente in una parte d'Italia che è bella tanto quanto quella da cui proviene lei e al contempo abbastanza diversa. Una diversità che rende il nostro un Paese bellissimo, ricco di pluralità che sono motivo di ricchezza e non terreno su cui far germinare pregiudizi.

[@Ezinma88]

Honestly. If he had tried it on with you in an inappropriate way, or you felt he endangered you in some way... I would totally understand this video. But, to post a video about how he smelled, didn't have clean sheets etc. that seems excessive. It actually seems kind of mean-spirited, given that Couchsurfing is really about making friends. He fed you, bought you drinks, came to meet you when it was completely out of the way. And, you repaid him by embarrassing him to the world? This is the kind of thing that you could have just left in a review, if you felt compelled to write something to warn the next person. And, frankly, if you were that uncomfortable with the sheets, why not sleep on that big sofa in the living room? I don't know... this just doesn't feel right. I'm only 7 mins into the video. Perhaps things take a major downturn from here. But, needed to get my thoughts out.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

You can understand this video if you put it in the context of my channel. The first thing written on the title is "EP. 10". Plus, it's also part of my playlist with informational videos about Couchsurfing. I think it was important to show also the not so positive side of Couchsurfing to people who are thinking about trying it. I made so many other vlogs about couchsurfing, but they were always showing 100% positive experiences.

[@matiasarizu9438]

😉💪🏻

[@anna-wt2tz]

i love how in other countries, you guys say so casually "do you want to just speak in English?" , its just normal to speak multiple languages. Its the reason i chose to learn other languages. Norway is beautiful, and I love germanys descriptive language saludos del u.s.a 🖤🖤

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hi there! :)

[@anna-wt2tz]

😏

[@kristianbjerknes7412]

It doesn't help that you have blurred out the information on Cocuhsurfing, you can't just identify your host like that on KZbin, even if the experience was less than positive (unless of course you informed him). You - as a seasoned Couchsurfer - know perfectly well that there's a rather good filter system on Cocuhsurfing, and by simply putting in "Oslo, Norway", "Have References", "Accepting Guests", "Male", "Italian" and "Boat", you'll end up with only one person...

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

What I don't understand to be honest is why a viewer should spend his/her time and energies to go on the platform and research the profile of a random member. I would have never thought that someone would actually do that, but I must believe cause I have already at least 3 people in the comments who apparently went to look to his profile. I would really know why would someone do that.

[@amarvarma9701]

@@WhatashameMaryJane *** I would really know why would someone do that *** Humans are curious, Mary Jane!

[@johndiangelo1094]

The only thing I want to know is what your Italian father things about you sleeping in men's rooms in their under ware?

[@desmondrodrigues2021]

This nice man picks you up from the station, feeds you a free pizza, takes you to a club to enjoy yourself, then gives you a roof over your head to spend the night safe and sound and you chastise him for his hygiene. You are one ungrateful woman. Selfish to the core. What did you do for him? apart from telling the whole world about his hygiene standards. Did you offer to help him clean up? Oh no youre too much a princess for that. You are looking to be treated like a princess for free,.

[@julie_fitzgerald]

You stayed 5 nights with Pane? It says March 19 (5 nights) confirmed stay. You poor thing! Ugh smelly places are the worst they give me a headache.

[@locavot]

My experience with couchsurfing was so good in Turkey , well you're welcome to visite algeria

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Was it your first experience?

[@locavot]

Yes it was my first experience, i had a night in Istanbul and i was stuck in the airport so i start texting people and after few minutes a girl who's half turkish half tunisian answer me and pick me up from airport, she stuff me with all the sweets in her house 😂

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@locavot Wow you were very lucky!

[@locavot]

@@WhatashameMaryJane you can check my trips in instagram hicham.abidat

[@isabelsiebeneicher1493]

You met a typical Italian guy 🙈🙈

[@dangermandave67]

Woa! Gross! Seems like a nice guy, but someone needs to talk to him about his personal hygiene. I do feel sorry for him as I expect that he will be mortified when he reads your review. These things would probably not bother some ladies. But not many, I think... I think that sleeping in the same room as a male host isn't a great idea, despite what you say. It is very difficult to accurately judge a man's character after short acquaintance and some day you could be badly mistaken. I once let a girl sleep in my room at a hostel when she was stuck with nowhere to stay after the office closed for the night (I slept on the floor, she on the bed - with fresh sheets! - even though she said it was OK if I wanted to be on the bed too). But I would not do it again. Too risky, especially since I'm married now. I thought about the whole thing afterwards and realized she may have had plans for me.

[@agneseonacloud8121]

Hi Mary Jane! I'm italian as you and I like watching your videos because i'm interested in the contents you create and also because you help me improving my english skills... so thank you! ❤️ But I'm confused about this video... the host you were speaking about wasn't italian? How come were you speaking german? There's something I can't get...🤔

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hi Agnese! I'm glad you like my videos! 😊 The first host was an Italian living in Norway for many years, the second was a German living in Norway.

[@agneseonacloud8121]

@@WhatashameMaryJane thank you for your answer! Normally I understand what you say in your videos, I don't know why I found this one harder than the others😅

[@ditherdather]

I had no idea "couch surfing" was a thing. Interesting. I'd totally be game for it if it means beautiful foreign woman hang out. lol. My house is pristine all the time. Can't be allergic to cats though. Got two little kitties.

[@florianalexander9183]

First WTF was the untidy guy Second WTF was the funny, outgoing German (definitely not from the south) but what struck me most: you are fluent in German?!? WTF! Btw nice video. I admire your sense for cinematography!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

No Udo is from Hamburg! Tell me more, why do you say not from the south? I'm curious

[@florianalexander9183]

What a shame Mary Jane he speaks so fast. So open minded and friendly. And of course his dialect.

[@PlamenPanchevStudios]

@ What a shame Mary Jane That is what I was concern about you I told you. Better come stay with me. I am a clean freak. Lol

[@mimmiblu6138]

I I normally appreciate Mary Jane's videos *but*... I am a host on CS too and I would be fuming if, instead of rating me only on the platform and having a personal chat a surfer would put my face on a different platform like KZbin and accused me of a lack of personal hygiene ... what if his employers see it? He's been as kind as to open his house to her, just to be shamed in front of the world? He, exactly like me, has only subscribred to host people and get references on the CS platform, not on other social networks. It is perfectly ok to leave a critical/ negative reference on CS but why on KZbin? If I were him I would file a complaint with CS management because this is a clear infringement of CS Terms of Use IMO. As for my part I will ask CS if shaming a person on KZbin putting the person's face is permitted: if so I'll unsubscribe from CS because this is clearly not what I subscribed for. I am a teacher... imagine if I have a personal problem with a surfer and I have to discuss it with my students because a surfer has posted a video with personal information about me?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I think I've already took the time to explain you the situation in another comment, and yet again I find your same comment here. The fact that I would have filmed and published the video was agreed between me and my host since the beginning of our relationship. He didn't have to host me, he wanted to, while being perfectly aware that my experience, good or bad, would have been published. You will never host me because you would simply say no to my request in the first place, so I don't understand why you're making so many problems. You ask why publishing a CS review on KZbin? To spread the Couchsurfing message, make the platform bigger and better by encouraging people to use it. I invite you to watch my other dozens of videos about Couchsurfing, because I haven't published this video as a mean person who wants to denigrate her host. There is a contexts in which I've published this video that you seem ignoring completely. I have the goal of educating people to use Couchsurfing better and bringing more educated people on the platform. I think it's a noble goal.

[@mimmiblu6138]

@@WhatashameMaryJane well, I certainly have learnt something from this video: I have to be even more careful as a host and be sure that nobody takes pictures of me or my home because they can spread them everywhere on social media. As for bringing more educated people on the platform I do not think this is possible: there will always be all kinds of people who use or rather misuse it for their own personal interests... The only possibility to avoid possible headaches is avoiding hosts who do not convince us from the beginning: as you said there had been many red flags even in the pre-hosting communication and that should be enough to say he was not the ŕight host for you. My suggestion is to always follow one's guts feeling and not go to that host if something feels fishy from the start. What has been pefectly good for over 100 surfers can be definetely unacceptable for us, since we are all different. That seems to me a much better piece of advice.

[@phttran675]

what's the difference between north italy and south italy??? i dont understand

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

THE difference? ahahahha Come and discover it yourself, I should talk for hours to explain it....🙂

[@phttran675]

yeah I just want to go to the better part then

[@mimmiblu6138]

@@phttran675 there isn't a "better part",they're just different

[@vastasio]

@@WhatashameMaryJane it's a shame that you always talk about these "huuuuuggggeee" differences between Northern and Southern Italy... i can feel you don't like so much southerns (and maybe you don't know it)...you travel around the world and then you look like a typical person who says (or thinks) always stuff like "he is from the south, what can you expect from him"... it's a shame

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@phttran675 If you want to go to the better part to visit, go to the South. Way more beautiful than the north, better food and friendlier people. Trust me!

[@noemi4151]

Dear Mary, I discovered your channel while I was doing some researches for my next trip and I am grateful for the good tips you gave to me. However, as soon as I saw this video I felt quite disappointed when you said “I don't have the same mentality that they have" talking about southern Italians. Well I am sorry if the host did not have a good personal hygiene that obviously it does not have nothing to do with southern Italy. I come from a beautiful island which is Sicily. I am proud to have been born in the land of the sun where you will always feel welcome.My home is your home. That sentence could be misunderstand for many people, that's why sometimes we all should think before to say something senseless. Stop having prejudices and get to know people better. Thank you. Noemi

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Ciao Noemi. You started your comment the right way saying "That sentence could be misunderstand for many people" and then you ruined everything with "Stop having prejudices and get to know people better." As a Northerner, I know Southerners pretty well. Infact my own family has a whole branch in Neaples, with which we've always had a rich and pleasant exchange. I myself lived in Rome with a boyfriend from Basilicata for three years, during which I've known many people from all over the South: Apulia, Basilicata, Campania, Calabria, Sicilia. I've been in Sicily several times and stayed with locals. So now which one of the two contradictory statements would you like to take back, that what I said was very misunderstandable or that I talked without knowing? Thank you for welcoming me in your beautiful land. I will come visit and make videos there in less than two months and I'm glad to revisit Sicily after a few years that I haven't been there. I love your island, it's a precious corner of this world and, coming from Friuli, I'm proud of being part of the same country as Sicily.

[@mauriziocanale1669]

Casa di persona border line Disposofobia evidente è un disturbo psichiatrico .....potrei sbagliarmi ,,, pero sono certo credo che tu abbia dormito poco e preoccupata quella notte , non c erano accenni a quella situazione nei commenti dell App ?Che valutazione hai lasciato ?

[@chettee]

Hey... dein Deutsch ist klasse! Your German is great... a super charming accent!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Uh thanks!! Are you German?

[@chettee]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Yes I am. I saw you on Actionkid's video and started watching your videos... I really enjoy it!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@chettee Oh I'm glad you come from Kenneth's channel! I love your country. I've lived in Freiburg one year for Erasmus and completely fell in love in the German culture and mentality.

[@chettee]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Oh that's nice. The complete opposite of me: I am bored of German mentality and culture. I prefer Italy :D But Freiburg is beautiful. A bit like an open-air museum ;) I was on a culinary journey through Italian regions two years ago. That was awesome. Inspired by some culinary documentaries.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@chettee Oh I have to warn you though: as everything in life, Italy has many bad sides. You've probably known the two best ones: the general beauty that is everywhere and the food. What town are you from?

[@Joe32942]

Hey dein deutsch ist super!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Danke!

[@Telencephelon]

12:05 Waaait. You speak german? Wow. You are really advanced in German! Like a B2

[@mohammadjadoon]

its his life, his choices, if you had any problem you should had left. you were not just taking free services. if you have such problems then next time take a hotel instead of being cheap

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I don't do Couchsurfing simply for being cheap. You missed the whole point.

[@ahmedzx1001]

Nice channel maria ..

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks!

[@CasaperotiWestfaliaAmundsen]

MJ, you are taking a risk while couchsurfing; so, even with your brilliant risk management system, some unpleasant things are are likely to happen. On the other hand, this is a vlog about couchsurfing, so I think it is fare for you to share your experience - good or bad. Regarding exposing your host on KZbin, it looks like he was aware he is being filmed and willing to participate in the video.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks Ionut. Yes, he was. I also hope that I made clear enough that the issues I had with him were VERY personal, and this is shown by the fact that in 162 references that he had I've been the only one mentioning this aspect. Almost all the others were enthusiastic, as he is a very genuine and positive person!

[@CasaperotiWestfaliaAmundsen]

@@WhatashameMaryJane I feel that you have made yourself almost "too clear" that the issue with your host was "VERY personal". We are human beings and all that we do or say is "personal" / based on our personal "luggage", no matter how "objective" we try to be. From your story and your video I could bring up logical arguments to sustain your position - such as before inviting a person somewhere, free or payed for!, a host should make sure she/he can offer the basics (in your case: hygiene, sheets, towels, blanket, room temperature etc.) and those basics should be known to the host / discussed, as humans do not have the same standards even in small communities / between friends; only after providing the basics a host should offer more (such as a beer / a night out) ... because Maslow and his pyramid... Regardless of the arguments you should not be "afraid" to speak up your mind and a host should not feel offended receiving a bad review - humans are divers and judge other humans differently / you cannot be liked by everybody not even if you are the dullest person on Earth, and certainly your host is not a dull person.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I don't understand...I only said good things about him as a person and I show that we have a good time together. Why would appearing in this video a problem?

[@npsck1802]

You are so brave to do this. I hope you never experience a predator on this app. Personally I find this very risky.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I know what you mean. It sounded super risky to me too. Then I started doing it, at the beginning extremely prudently, and now that I'm fully into it, it looks way less risky than it used to.

[@npsck1802]

All it takes is one bad apple. Do you carry a weapon of any kind?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Næp Sæck 😧 My human comprehension?

[@buckettraveler8398]

Yeah, negative references are rare. Neutral references are also. I think if they'res no danger and it wasn't a positive experience then people just don't leave feedback.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Then what’s the point of the reference system if you don’t give neutral ones?

[@buckettraveler8398]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Oh, I meant negative ones people usually don't report. Neutral ones are just rare I think. I really think most people don't have good experiences worthy of a good review.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

What I try to do in my channel is to educate people to write more negative reviews on Couchsurfing when it's the case to write a negative one. The reviews system is the safety net of this platform: if we don't use it properly, it becomes more risky to use Couchsurfing.

[@suammadeepghosh1678]

Well, to be honest Maria, you shouldn't saying this kind of things cuz he wasted a lot of his precious time. But the thing is not bout time or something it's more about a way of knowing locals but you're just like up for something free. See I'm a 16 year old boy and I have already hosted 12 travelers but as in my experience they never had way of thinking bout couchsurfing like you have. I'm also not that able to provide them a totally clean things but they were fine with it. So, I think you should change your way of thinking about couchsurfing.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Tell me more about it. I'm open to change my way of thinking, if the one I have is not reasonable enough. I think that there are some basic rules of common sense when it comes to hospitality. Of course everyone is free to offer hospitality even if he/she doesn't follow these rules of common sense, but has to give notice in the "house section" of the profile. I met a couchsurfing member the other day, an old lady, and I read her profile: she describes perfectly her apartment. She admits that the apartment is very messy, that she cleans very rarely and her shower doesn't work properly. She warns that any person with average standards would find it totally inappropriate, but she still offers hospitality to whomever still wants to go there. This is exemplary behaviour for me. My way of thinking about Couchsurfing is that we don't have to settle to not decent standards just because it's a free platform. If we justify every kind of behavior "because it's free" the platform will eventually degenerate - as it has already happened in a certain way - and we will end up justifying even sexual harassment. I strongly believe that we need to keep the level of the offer to a certain minimum level and providing a place to sleep with average hygienic conditions for that country is essential. Also, I don't understand what you say about time, since I never mentioned such an issue in the video.

[@amarvarma9701]

@@WhatashameMaryJane I am just amazed to see this kind of 'it's ok attitude' even from the teenagers about cleanliness and how they try to teach others to be grateful to the host just because the host has offered the stay for free! I sometimes wonder if they at all know the meaning of the guest, hospitality or hosting. Perhaps they think that a guest/CS is someone, who is homeless, doesn't have enough money to stay at hostels/hotels and is desperately looking for free accommodation. Perhaps they also confused 'free' with 'cheap' and that is the reason why some of them accepts requests on CS to invite the guests in their 'dirty' flats with their 'cheap' hosting manners! Just like how there can be bad hosts on the CS, I am now convinced that there are also bad guests on the CS, and the bad guests are those who do not complain about it when the host takes them for granted by offering a 'cheap' stay instead of 'free' accommodation.

[@kucinggueajah]

@@amarvarma9701 i'm working in hospitality industry n in my culture, we give all the best for the guest, but also be a guest and paying the hospitality and be a guest and get free hospitality are two different things, for example i'm visit a very poor family and they were trying to give me their best hospitality but they only have one broken glass n a 1000 years plate from their ancestor, but with these glass n plate they have shared their only meals to welcome me, since i didnt paid for it then i will considered myself not entitled of anything and just be gratefull for what they did even when my standard of best glass n plate were different, but if i paid for the hospitality, first, i will start to count, how much did i paid and how much i can expect...do u understand now the differences? In hospitality industry we have a joke about "champagne taste beer budget" i hope this one can clarified the hospitality means to u also in couchsurfing if u dont feel the host up your standard you may free to leave or simply be a human by helping them to improve their place to be clean n tidy as an exchange you were staying there for free, as well to create a good vibe and make an impression that you are a good guest who deserve a good host...so no one asking anyone in couchsurfing to accepting harrassment n dirty pig cage whatsoever as you always have an option to leave instead of put your standard as a global standard to anyone who might be different...remember, no host getting paid from this and if i knew the couchsurfing is all about people rating people then i must be so naive for thinking the whole time that couchsurfing is a platform of people who's being super generous in sharing their place, their trust, their travel experience and their knowledge about the destination to make the travellers got most easiest way to explore the destination in a local sight, cause that's what i did the whole time in couchsurfing...if i knew its about rating people then i will bragging a lot about "if you were stay with me i'll love you to the moon and back and treat you like a prince and princess and i'll be a slave for you!" Gosh...this is hillarious...

[@vairageeabhilash5593]

@Django Gaming totally agree with you, that's why i never host foreigners in Jaipur (India). That guy gave his precious time, open his house and in return just for few subscribers and view this vlogger post a video on KZbin on hygiene. If she wants a good hygiene why don't she book a 5 star hotel. She is not a traveler she is tourist that's why she demand for so called facilities, true meaning of cs in my sense is that if somebody gives you a couch to sleep offer some food and a healthy conversation that's enough. A lots of friends don't agree with me but i am saying by my own hitchhiking experience in India. Totally agree with your hygiene problem but posted on you tube in not the right way .

[@vairageeabhilash5593]

@@kucinggueajah Totally agreed , same opinion

[@wickpie1806]

Not positive = negative

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I mean not positive in rather a "neutral" sense than a "negative" sense. That's why I used this expression.

[@Telencephelon]

6:00 Perhaps the messy guy didn't know any better. I've never seen so much contrast between the north of Italy, and the south. And perhaps he never had any CS so far in his flat given the location of his house.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Southern Italians are usually known for being extremely clean. I wasn't referring to that when I mentioned he being from the South. He's had tons of guests, hundreds, and most of them didn't mention this problem in the review, so the problem was specifically mine.

[@cinemask8]

Couhsurfing is only favor, helping is his house and you need to adapting

[@MasumRazaVlogs]

Congratulations.... Mary! For 1,000 Subscribers. Remember me.. I'm your under 500 Subscribers 😊😀😃

[@ashutoshpurushdhakal4590]

atleast you save money

[@georgekelly9797]

Thanks for being honest in your assessment of couchsurfing. I don’t like to criticize but I feel I must say, mama mia your hosts hair and house looked like a train wreck. You handled it well under the circumstances. I hope I wasn’t too rude in saying that. As they say, “ you take the good with the bad some times”. Thank you for being so honest in you videos, it might just help someone else and that’s a good thing your doing.Ciao MJ

[@akankadyrbekov3918]

Damn, gurl. How could you keep your below the eyes area so white and fresh?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

It's all about fimling in the right light, I swear ;)

[@akankadyrbekov3918]

@@WhatashameMaryJane anyway, I need you to drop your skin care:)

[@Windof]

Che anche dove ci sono animali in casa non è che l'aria sia tanto buona... 😂

[@marcusperez7799]

Watch yourself. Be safe.🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

No worries, I am.

[@alanl2550]

This couch surfing thing seems way too risky to me. I’m glad you made out ok but I think it is not a good idea to just stay in a complete strangers home. That guy seemed very creepy to me. There are so many bad people out there who might take advantage of a situation like that. Please be more careful.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Every person takes his own risks. You probably drive your car every day, I do couch surfing.

[@yippie6862]

His personal hygiene and room cleaning aren't up to anyones standards.

[@julie_fitzgerald]

😂

[@parshwanathmirji8703]

Couch surfing reaching new standards.

[@barney_huzi3622]

Thank you for the very informative and real video. I admire you for doing couchsurfing at men's homes...because I NEVER would nor could. I watched only for entertainment purposes since, while I do appreciate and practice cheap travelling, I prefer to stay at more conventional hotels for the night. Also, you don't have to think about it because you are caucasian and pretty, but as a black girl I can tell you that our options are limited and for some reason, caucasian men who hit on me have this wild assumption that they can do whatever they want with us (especially in the bedroom). So yeah, guess am not your target audience so I did not subscribe but will come and say hello from time to time. Happy and safe travels :)!!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hey girl, it's so sad to read your words. I guess we often don't realize how easy for us caucasian are certain things. It makes me angry to hear that this is how black girls are treated. The only thing I can tell you is that the Couchsurfing community is populated by some close minded people for sure, but who does Couchsurfing tends to be very open minded and very equalitarian. Because of the nature of the platform, very inclusive and open, the members tend to be welcoming to any kind of people in their homes. Also, there are many women hosts and even families who host. I'm sure there are safe options for you as well. You may want to give it a try...cause I believe you are really missing out if you don't... 🙂

[@jackhammer0925]

Her being an attractive a white woman, I would assume it would be more dangerous for her. Seeing that tall white slender women are the image of beauty pretty much all over the word.

[@ErnieRodgersMusician]

We will Pray for your safety, Mary Jane. When I was on tour I stayed in Hostels. To me, they seemed to be much safer because there is safety in numbers. I'd recommend you carry some pepper spray with you. My Girlfriend Rachelle keeps pepper spray with her all the time just to be safe. I told her to carry pepper spray because I can't always be with her. I have to go to work that kind of thing. Another thing you can do to protect yourself is to act crazy. This runs away most bad guys. If they think you're crazy they will leave you alone. That 1st dude in your video was very creepy. Stay Safe Mary Jane.

[@barisk40]

just wanted to say be careful out there. take some martial arts classes. You seem like a sweet person with a good heart but there are crazy people out there unfortunately. Your poor dad must be worried sick when you are away.

[@alisalopez1859]

Couch suffering is kinda risky I know you want to save money traveling but a hotel is much safer some of your videos your couch suffers are ok then there's some are not ok on my end I don't mind a hotel ware I have my space and privacy and safe .

[@luccasdefaria]

I'm very sorry for this experience. Guess what?! This is exactly the prejudice that italians themselves have about the ones from Napoli. It's a pity that he didn't break it.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Yes, you are right indeed. Where are you from?

[@luccasdefaria]

@@WhatashameMaryJane originally, I'm from Brazil, Maria. Even though, I just moved to Italy. I'm living near Padova : ) What about you?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@luccasdefaria Awww my dear Padova!! I grew up in Friuli near Udine and studied 5 years in Padova

[@luccasdefaria]

@@WhatashameMaryJane you're italian! I supposed that. Padova is a lovable city, Maria. I feel myself much lucky to be here.

[@antoniocarlosfilho5196]

I like a lot of your videos, but this video is a miss for me. I know that her higiene is poor, but shamming him and exposed her face from all the internet is not ok. I watch a lot of videos saying bad experiences with couch surfing, but all videos that I watch the surfers never say the name of the person, show her house or their faces. It’s a little lack of empathy to the person who host you and pay some stuffs to you. Share your experiences to the world (helps a lot), but never shame someone publicly.

[@danh2204]

Even if he gave permission, don't you realise that saying he has bad hygiene & showing his face on youtube isn't a good idea. It makes it worse by you saying he's a nice person. Shaming a nice person like that for views makes you look bad.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Who says I do it for the views

[@danh2204]

@@WhatashameMaryJane You purposely titled the video a certain way to get views & you make yourself look even worse everytime you defend shaming the man.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

​@@danh2204 Purposely. What a beautiful word you used. Let's see if you also know what it means. I ask you: how can you know the purpose for the action that another person did?

[@danh2204]

@@WhatashameMaryJane You titled the video "My first not positive coachsurfing experience". Don't act naive because we all know title's like that get more views. Just like we all know its embarrassing to be called unhygienic.

[@danh2204]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Why are you or any other youtuber posting vids if it's not to get views? Its the whole purpose of youtube lol

[@frawldog]

🐷

[@edwinekanugraha7789]

if i were your host, i Will make sure that everything is well hygiene, i Will clean up all the room espescially your room. Also i Will make your room smell good. And I Will treat you as my best friend. Warm regard from Indonesia.

[@omarsalam696]

To the best of my knowledge Couchsurfing isn't about the place, isn't about the situation of the accommodation, it's about people, experience, making friends, sharing ideas, etc... , I mean come on for god sake you're a traveler, not a real estate broker! You only have the right to give your impression about the situation of your host, and his/her personality, if he/she is mentally and physically OK, if there's any act of rudeness or harassment in some way or another during your stay, other than that it'll become obvious and clear libel If you have personal sensitivity or you set yourself very high standards for things, just book a 5 stars hotel, and rate them to 0 if they don't match your standards. my only wish is to be lucky and not to host a traveler like you

[@Hazzard0]

Did you ask him if he was ok with being shown/exposed like that on a youtube video where you are very critical of him? I don't think that's right! Especially when he after all did his best and was a nice person to you. He had his faults, but you don't have to share that with the whole world. What an ungreatful act of you! Shame on you Mary Jane!

[@aiferapple1246]

What are you talking about?? She was very complimentary about the guy but she was placed in a very uncomfortable position (Which was not fair of him) and was only fair to mention it in case others feel scared or threatened by this. The whole idea is to inform others of the experience of couch-surfing....good or bad! He knew it was going to filmed by the fact ......it was filmed!!!

[@Hazzard0]

@@aiferapple1246 I'm talking about showing the dude on a youtube video. An honest review on CS is one thing. Him being the subject in a youtube video is something else. She should at least made him anonomys.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hey Hazzard, he was the one who offered me hospitality, answering to a public trip where I described what I do in my life and where I stated clearly that I would have filmed everything for my vlog, from the people to the apartment. You can also see in the video that he was aware of the fact that I was vlogging and happy about it. I thank Andi Jones who also perfectly explained that I was very complementary towards my host as a person and as a host, in every aspect except one, and I'm sorry that my goal of showing that the problem I've had was very subjective and relative to my issues has partially failed (or maybe you don't read the text parts of the video..?). As for the anonimity, if you noticed I made sure not to mention his CS name or picture, nor his surname.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@1000milesaway3 Canada? Sooner than you'd expect ;) Where are you from?

[@Hazzard0]

@@WhatashameMaryJane you could have been more descrete. If he trusts his judgement about personal hygiene, maybe he doesent have the best judgement about being on video. You could easily told the whole story without showing his face. It would be the right thing to do. Be descrete even if he "signed the contract"

[@gatronix754]

why you speak german??? deutsche sprache?

[@johngonzales2211]

You’re wayyyy too nice and trusting. You’re obviously an intelligent person, so I’m going to be brutally honest. That dude was creepy and his place is a dump! Btw, I’d say the same to a guy. STOP endangering your life with this couchsurfing stuff. Not cool. Not worth the risk. Your dad probably cringes when he sees this video. Oh my effing God! You’re a decent human being. Please, please be more cautious.

[@youweechube]

yeah and its true that probably 95% of the people on CS are gonna be completely fine, about the same % as just going into a random strangers house you bump into on the street. Most people are good, its the 5% you dont want to be alone with them in their homes......

[@worldbikeboatparty5860]

not so much fun here either...

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Not so much fun? What do you mean?

[@worldbikeboatparty5860]

@@WhatashameMaryJane check my vid re cs nightmare

[@meritlopez7395]

Homelessness that's what is . NON violence SAFTEY YOUS RENTALS EMPLOYEES and customers. * Every body most the time had safe places to live. Threatening some one and trying to hit - * -it is worthless nothing .* Is curbside free rental?????

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

What are you talking about?

[@JulesMarz]

I don't think you can set up standards when you're basically offered a place where to crash out at for free, you could've called him out on a face-to-face convo on the hygiene thing instead Vblog it (and it doesn't matter whether he gives you permission or not) and exposing him to the rest of the world, it seems so morbid, wrong, like a vivid spectacle. People have different constructs and beliefs systems, you cannot expect everyone to live up to your standards, next time elaborate a better CS request that really lives up to your standards.

[@ulisseyamamoto]

This guy should not be member of CS. Im sorry but in Italy we are not like that! Saluti!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

He had 162 positive references. Why should he not be on Couchsurfing?

[@Emma.E.Emerson]

@@WhatashameMaryJane because he slept in his underwear and gave you a dirty used blanket or sheets, who know what was on them..gross...

[@Emma.E.Emerson]

My grandfather was blonde blued eyed Sicilan. ...lots of Nowergian blood there, I think. He was clean and tidy...this Italian man was a slob sleeping in his underwear..

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@Emma.E.Emerson I think 95% of the man I know, Italian or not, sleep in their underwear.

[@Emma.E.Emerson]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Not in front of female guests in same room. Be careful...

[@dfolegna]

another example on why couchsurfing is dying ( yestarday they started to ask a fee membership due to covid, a clear symptoms it will die very very soon ). After the very beginning where it was a small group of true travelers who respect each other, have money to travel and just love the idea on how technology can enable meaningful new meeting, it soon became, for many, the idea of FREE Hotel and free blame. There's nothing free in this world, without money you stay home, holidays are not a basic neeed. Girls, specially young pretty girls, pretends to be treated like princesses from host for free, sometimes without bring a small present, without leaving a thankful review or even negative reviews. In what world are you living where everything is for granted ? Wake up people, I guess couchsurfing is too open for the general public, probably they fail to create a system where who decide to offer her property for free needs a level of security and respect that is not common today, especially between young spoiled people who thinks everything is quick, easy, accessible.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Excuse me, what example are you talking about? Your whole comment says exactly what I said in the numerous videos I made about Couchsurfing (kzbin.info/aero/PLLn9YKWH2mmStaVj1w2HvU4IjfT8bOI6r), except the opening line, so I'm a bit confused. I received their email today by the way. Awful.

[@youweechube]

to me this illustrates how couchsurfing is not safe for young women or maybe anyone. Im sure you must have vetted this guys profile on the site to some degree, if his previous reviews were at all accurate then someone surely would have mentioned the state of his place, yet it seems they didnt as you decided to stay with him. This raises into question the validity of the whole process, not only the state of the lodgings but the hosts themselves. As for showing his face, probably not appropriate without consent, maybe you got it i dont know. Im glad he was overall a decent enough guy albeit a messy one.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Of course I had his consent. I get consent from all my hosts before even filming, to publish my videos online. I don't see how this experience showed you that CS is not a safe service. This is the worst experience it has ever happened to me, and I've never been in a place where I was unsafe. My host has been kind with me the whole time, which is what's really important. The fact that his hygiene standards were different than mine have nothing to do with safety and they are also personal, as it shows the fact that the last of the many positive reviews he had didn't mention anything about it.

[@youweechube]

@@WhatashameMaryJane i understand what youre saying however, i feel the place was messy by most peoples standards and not just yours. The fact that this hasnt been mentioned in review before yours makes me question the legitmacy of his previous reviews, and maybe they were all legit but to leave out such information makes me lose faith in it.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@youweechube It should make you lose faith in humanity then...

[@Emma.E.Emerson]

You should not be sleeping in a room with a man in his underwear....scary ...you are too young and pretty...Be careful. You should stay with women hosts only or only at men places with lots of reviews and a separate room..

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hello Emma, thanks for sharing your opinion, but I think I can decide by myself what I "should" or "should not" do. I slept with men in their underwear hundreds of times in my life, they don't harass you just because you are sleeping in the same room. As much as my host in this video didn't harass me at all. And I'm very sorry you thought that he did, it's very disrespectful in his regards.

[@filipelez2295]

Omg, so boring

[@lartisteincompris7464]

youre very harsh because ... u paid nothing PRINCESS