USA VS. ITALY | 5 DIFFERENT SOCIAL BEHAVIORS

USA VS. ITALY | 5 DIFFERENT SOCIAL BEHAVIORS
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Five different social habits I noticed in the US as Italian.
The topics I mention are the following:
1) Attitude of people towards other people
2) Social control
3) Dating
4) Drinking
5) Racism
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[@giulietta16v]

Ciao Mary Jane, saluti dal Veneto! I discovered your channel last month and I am now watching your older videos. I was really enjoying this one but then I saw the comment section and I thought about giving my 2 cents on the topic :) I am Italian, I am a white woman and i come from northern Italy too (Venice), so I think I can get why Mary Jane wasn't so "ashamed" of using the n-word and I equally don't really get the full meaning of it for a non-white person from the USA. And I even studied foreign languages at university. The thing is, these topics are deeply connected to one's own culture, and even if US and Italy are both western countries, there are deep differences in our societies which are rooted in our history, culture and past issues, like - guess what - slavery. I think Mary Jane and I are pretty much the same age so I think I can understand what she means when she says that to us Italians THAT word she used doesn't sound so bad. We grew up in the late 90s/00s listening to music from the USA like rap, hip hop, where the N-word is SO widely used. I think of 2pac, Missy Elliott and such artists who used the n-word A LOT in their songs. We hear those songs but we don't really grasp the full meaning they may have for a black person living in the US. Not because we are uneducated or bad or disrespectful, but simply because we were born and raised in a different context where an issue like racism is present but is not SO sensitive and strong. So given how easily it was used in that kind of music, to us that N-word has always sounded simply like slang - I know it really is not, i'm just explaining what it means to us. We live in modern times and have access to so much information we think we can get to know everything and that everyone understands one another, yet there are things you will never REALLY know until you get to experience them firsthand. This was an example I think and now that I - as an Italian woman - I discovered how serious the thing is, what I'll personally do is I will try to explore the topic, get information and listen. But please, before getting triggered by this video or by someone else not from the US using THAT word, just assume WE simply don't know how sensitive the thing is for YOU. Thank you :)

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks for explaining myself so well. I could have not done a better job.

[@himanv]

With language, it's often about the local context, which comes from local history. America has had a racist historic background, whereas Italy might not have been so racist-- southern Italy and Sicily even is populated with a good mix of people from Africa and Mediterranean and all over which probably helps to not make things racist.

[@alessandrarussoart]

I agree but I also think that every examples you wrote is related to african-american artists the only can use this world with more “freedom” just because ad you wrote they know how much sensitive is for them (also in a lyric I think you can have more motivations to used it). But as for another kinds of slavery or brutal and inhuman treatment which caused the death of million people (as Shoa or the dictatorial punishments/civil war in all the world as ex Jugoslavia war o Utzi vs Tzuzi massacres for example) we just take note, know ancient and modern history to be bold and stay wake to vigilate. I understand what you mean but it’s not a good reason to minimize conflittual worlds that too much people use today to denigrate who are “different”. P.s. I ‘m Italian too

[@ursinomatt]

Giulitta 16v, I think you only find this acceptable in Northern Italy...in regions like Veneto, Lombardia, Piemonte. No wonder you guys are such big supporters of the Lega Nord. I have relatives all over Italy and all know the meaning of the word so stop with the excuses....all of Italy knows not to use the N-word except for you guys in Northern Italy . You should have used the words RAP or Hip-Hop like everyone else in Italy. You should be ashamed!!

[@giulietta16v]

@@ursinomatt i am not ashamed because I did not offended anyone, I just tried to analyze the topic from an external point of view. I wasn't making an excuse for the use of the word, I was trying to understand the WHY. And it's very funny that you bring right wing politics into the discussion because, as a matter of fact, i am not and i have never been a supporter of the Lega. And saying that in northern Italy we are all supporters of the Lega, well that's another big stereotype.

[@johnbreiby9624]

We were in Italy about 5 years ago for a month and I found Italians to be the warmest, most helpful people! Once, on a bus in Rome we asked a person for directions and the lady tried to explain, but she could see we were confused so she said we should get off with her at the next spot and she walked us to where we needed to go. How nice is that! I had spent about 5 years in Italy when I was a kid, back in the ‘50s, but my Italian was a little rusty, though serviceable, and everyone was very patient and seemed pleased that I tried to speak in Italian and was patient with my mistakes. Great country! I miss it a lot. Thank you for your wonderful series!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thank you for sharing these nice experiences! I would say Italians are usually warm people - more in the South than in the North though -. I feel that usually you can find the excess though: you can meet people who will even walk you to where you have to go, or you can also find people who are very indifferent or even rude. Also, we are extremely warm with tourists, for some reason. I think we like the idea of hosting someone who is just visiting. Not the same attitude with immigrants, unfortunately.

[@fickfehler3866]

@@WhatashameMaryJane If you goto Sicilia, specificamente Taormina the tourists are robbed blind. Italia is much easier to visit if you have friend s or family. And the tourist women must ignore all the men that whistle like stray dogs !

[@NikkiandNonna]

@@WhatashameMaryJane very true. I lived in Italy for 18 months and when Italians found out I was American they were almost always willing to help. But we saw the same Italians be indifferent to immigrants, specifically African or Middle Eastern individuals.

[@fiorellafenati5395]

@@fickfehler3866 ma và....

[@SinRitual]

@@WhatashameMaryJane yeah but that's only because italy is the country that at this moment is taking a lot of immigrants...no other country host from 200 to 300 new desperate people everyday with their problems. So i think our attitude with immigrants is justified because of a poor country were south is an abandoned place by government and despite of that we're hosting a huge amount of people that no other country is taken at this moment, so i think we need to stop complaining against people with our BUONISMO. If we do an evalutation on the big number even with immigrants italy is doing a good job...not strange that people doesn't wanna mess with other problems...they've already lot of problem for them living in a country were is no job and the minimum wage just doesn't exist. I understand the reason of my people i think is not so complicated in the end, of course things are different for people that doesn't question about real problems and thinks only to go around doing couchsurfing and videos on youtube.

[@teresahoward7821]

You are SO RIGHT about New Yorkers...they are busy, usually abrupt, but they are definitely helpful! They LOVE to help people!

[@tonyj8947]

@Teresa Howard - Im from NYC and yes we can be abrupt but that's because we are on the move, cant be bothered with BS But will help anyone in need. You may want to say he's rude but you wont bc the help got you out of a jam. In, out, done! LOL

[@hannsgkiwi8611]

I'm practicing my Italian and using a site to talk with Native Italian speakers. This was very eye opening and now I can think of good topics to talk about, thanks. Very nice video 🥰

[@d.o.m.e.n.i.c.o_d.e.n.t.i.c.e]

everything else is fine but please don`t use the N word in italy or when speaking Italian. We say "persone di colore"

[@tjones2002]

I enjoyed this video very much ! You speak very good English! I also got a very big laugh in your description of differences In dating. Not all Americans are easily offended by your description of different races. Knowing a little Italian helps me understand what you said about rap music. There is a growing culture change here in the US. People find reasons to become offended on almost everything. Do not worry, not all people are in that culture change ! I hope that you have more opportunities to visit the US and that you get to visit more places. I enjoy visiting Italy and see a great difference between Italians that live in northern Italy and those that live in southern Italy. It is the same in the US. Thank you for your time and effort in making the video,. Salute !

[@zlee11]

Nice to hear someone say something positive about New Yorkers. I appreciate it.

[@Danielreds]

Ahahahahahahah sono venuti tutti in tuo aiuto......Grazie al fico sei molto carina, se mi perdo io in Ny o partono dall'Italia a cercarmi, o rimango lì tutta la vita davanti alla mappa

[@lucianobrillini7706]

con "partono dall'Italia a cercarmi" son caduto dalla sedia dal ridere :)

[@Oldiesyoungies]

they only helped you because you're cute !

[@AmericanEnglishRussell]

I think you have offered an insightful and wonderfully fair assessment!

[@vincentdefilippi8824]

Love your attitude you just give off “amore”plain and simple, I was born and raised in NY . My family is originally from Sicily and I wanted to get back too my foot , so took 2 years of Itailan in Colloge . I do love your naive as

[@anthonylafayette4385]

Vincent DeFilippi..."Itailan in Colloge." 2 years of Italian in college and you spell like that. Should of studied English.

[@bbmcgee33]

@@anthonylafayette4385 Ma da che pulpito?! Should HAVE* D'oh! 😂

[@altoM40]

Very perceptive. Agree on pervasive guards and police make you feel like you're being watched and agree on New Yorkers not rude - I grew up there, and I never thought the negative reputation was actually justified by reality. I have to say though that I cannot imagine a place that would not be helpful to you :)

[@andreakmb]

I had a similar experience, I was at work in Scotland and I remember that I was not allowed to say "black music". For them was racist, in that moment I've deeply understood what Brain washing means.

[@EXPLISITemcee]

If you said n word music..its offensive..but Black music..no..it is Black music..even if a few non Blacks are famous for making it...it will always be Black music..they created it....personally i go by what Black pioneers,legends say.. to me its Universal music but we must always respect the creators of it.

[@adammarkowitz7944]

"Black music" is okay. "Nigga" is not okay. Is that clear?

[@tsakurshovi6676]

After four trips to Italia, mostly Roma e Toscana and only as far north as Venezia, I have found that in both small towns and big cities that people have always been very helpful. Especially if the first words I say are, "per favore, dové la strada per....."?". I also find this is true in other countries as well. Paris has a bad reputation much like New York but I've found that the people in both places and other places as well are helpful to lost or confused travelers who approach them with the respect of knowing a few words of the local language.

[@codypierangeli7845]

Ciao Mary Jane!! I stand with you in the very first part of the video! Growing up in an Italian family, they used this word a lot, and just as you pointed out, you were not using it in a bad way. My family is very similar in that way. Some areas of Italy may understand the meaning of the word in American eyes, but what i think a lot of people fail to see, especially a lot of Americans, is that when my family, or yourself, used the word, they were not using it in a derogatory way. It is merely a description in their eyes. My family never meant anything bad by it, it was just because it was how they were taught to describe people/songs/etc. that have the attributes that align with it. It was never meant to cause harm, unless of course they meant to use it that way, which they never did. It was just their culture and how they were raised. They were not raised to use it as a word of hate, to them it was just a word. All of these people saying you were wrong for using it do not know how you, or people such as my family, were raised. It is different for everyone. The only reason i know not to say the word is because i grew up in America where it is heavily engrained to not use it, but people from other countries, where racism is not as prevalent, do not need to worry about this kind of stuff. I applaud you for being so honest, you were not using it in any sort of bad way and i think you are brave. Just because some people did not grow up in a place where hate is so prevalent where they have to watch what words they say, does not mean everyone should. Cultures, and languages, are all different and i am glad you shared your specific perspective on such controversial topics because i think everyone’s opinions matter. Grazie per il tuo video! Forza Italia!!! ❤️🇮🇹

[@massimogermano8466]

I think that the last point is essentially because you are a nice young girl, in Italy they could not just help you with indications but literally carry you on to destination :)

[@jeromemckenna7102]

I worked in NYC for a few years and it is surprising how helpful your neighbors can be. I worked in a picture frame shop and left during the afternoon to pickup a sandwich. Someone came into the back of the shop picked up my briefcase and not finding anything of value, threw it into an alley. The man running the store next to me, found it and returned it. I had never spoken to him before and never knew that he recognized my briefcase when he saw it. Yes, New Yorkers can have a gruff manner but they are also helpful when you need it.

[@unadomandaperte]

Buona Sera Mary Jane. First and foremost I would like to congratulate you for being so educational to us Americans. Lord knows we are, or I should say.. some of us are categorically misinformed about culture in general. When I first decided to start learning Italian 7 months ago, I began to realize that my sense of well-being was returning after so many nightmarish experiences. I still cannot understand why Italians had been reduced to nothing more than overused hand gestures, pasta and spaghetti, and Mario accents! In a short time I've learned how diverse and beautiful the Italian culture actually is. I want to learn more . For me it is a lifetime commitment and not just some temporary whim of mine. I should have done this 30 years ago. But you know what they say: youth is a disease that everybody experiences in due time. If you don't treat it soon, it would make a hell of a procrastinator of you! That's what happened to me, unfortunately. I feel that I have been given a second chance. If I fuck this up, there will be no third chance for sure. Grazie mille per tua storia! God I hope I said that correctly. Im not using the translation guide! Salute e cin cin 😃🍷

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

You said it perfectly! You seem really passionate for Italian culture. I wonder why, among so many beautiful cultures of this world. Where are you from?

[@unadomandaperte]

Jane , Im from the U.S.A. born in miami, Fl.

[@caesarfalcon7191]

Hi Jane, I am impressed how well you speak the English language not being your native language. I enjoy your videos. I hope to visit Italy some day. Just to point out, you have done exactly what you have mentioned that Europeans don't like about Americans when they visit Europe. That is that they go to a big city and generalize the whole country to be as such. Being originally from New York City but having moved West 14 years ago, I have to say that New York, or for that matter any big city in the US cannot represent the rest of the United States. The inner country is much different than the inner cities. Different dynamics. New York City is "rush-rush", extremely diverse in culture and foods. Although very friendly, they mind their own business. The North East is different than the south. Texas is...well, Texas is Texas. The Mid West, North West, North California and Southern California are different. In fact, some of these areas speak with a little different accent and expressions. Even some their cultural foods are different. I am glad you had the opportunity to visit New York, Just remember that New York does not represent the whole United States. Keep doing a good job. I enjoy your videos.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hi Caesar, thanks for your nice and informative comment. I surely did exactly what I said not to do. Infact, those two videos were shot one and a half years apart from each other. One and a half year of travelling, one and a half year of constant learning. (This video is one of the very first I published on my channel!) Also, I think I got tricked by the fact that I visited so many cities outside of NYC (and rural areas too), so I thought I were legitimate to say "USA", but they were all in the East Coast. So I guess I should have said "Italy vs US East Coast". I hope I improved my content as the time went by (infact in my last cultural comparison video I made sure to specify New York vs Italy, even also "Italy" is a very broad concept!) Thanks again for your contribution 🙂

[@blued8107]

Totallly hilarious about the movie and sex combination. Never heard that before!

[@donniefronterhouse7793]

It's not clear to many of us in this country why people have become so sensitive. You are right, it has become a faux pas even to make reference to some one ethnic background. Now more than when you put up this post. We daily have stories of people being cancelled for some "insensitive" remark or auctioned committed years ago. It has become insane.

[@perseoeridano4182]

This channel is awesome!

[@norwegianblue2017]

My wife is Latina from South America. She lived in Philadelphia for a while and soon learned not to say the word "negro" (in Spanish) in public spaces when describing something the color black. She and her friend even switched over to calling black people "Suisa" (Swiss) to avoid getting looks.

[@windhamtravaris993]

Hi Mary jane, first off I'd like to say I love your channel. For myself being an african american I was immediately offended kind of a knee jerk reaction 😅 but I understood there was no intention of malice or spite with it and someone not that familiar with how sensitive that word is I chalk it up as no harm no foul. Side note I love the Italian language and hopefully I can visit someday

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

This video was shot after my very first time in the US. My experience of your country has changed a lot after that. Now I know that the topic is way too delicate to even talk about it there so I don't (otherwise I would have already made a dedicated video about racism in the US).

[@windhamtravaris993]

@@WhatashameMaryJane understandable however much love from Illinois!!

[@russko118]

@@WhatashameMaryJane il che è un peccato, alla fine è come cedere alle pressioni sociali no? anche gli argomenti delicati dovrebbero trovare uno spazio di discussione

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@russko118 Sì assolutamente

[@robertfields54]

Watching some of your shows exalent you are very very brave makes me want to do more inspiring Ireland

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Thanks, I'm so happy to hear!

[@NataLie-cf8yl]

So I‘m Italian and never have I ever used the expression “n*** style music” nor have I heard any of my friends or people around me use the N word. That’s offensive and Italians know that too.

[@spindelvav]

Guardie dappertutto, sicurezza e controlli e poi assaltano il Congresso senza che nessuno li fermi. In pratica solo degli InfoPoint

[@luccasdefaria]

Shocked about "Watching a movie". Hahah!

[@DAVIDFERNANDEZ-jx4fb]

I M IN LOVE

[@norwegianblue2017]

New York City has more cops and security than any other city in the US. In San Diego (2nd biggest city in California), I rarely see cops. We have one of the lowest cop per capita rate in the US and yet have a relatively low crime rate.

[@Nicole-mr8po]

NYC cops and security is there now because of 9/11.

[@JM-ig4ed]

There are MANY regional differences in the US. What you see in NY isn't the same everywhere. One cultural thing within the US is this: New Yorkers / East Coast people are very direct and about showing respect in subtle ways that those of us in the Western states don't necessarily pick up on. The midwest and Western states are much less direct , more about "just be nice" that was drilled into us by our families. In the business world, I much preferred working with New Yorkers for their straight talk.

[@himanv]

I'm loving going back and seeing this, especially after watching your recent video about how community-building happens in America (featuring a reference to me! yay! haha) versus in Italy. I wonder if you've realized now why the n-word, and the touchiness about calling out someone's ethnic background is "problematic"...unfortunately, America has become even more touchy in the two years since this video...and I feel mostly not in a good way. Almost every topic is getting too politicized and people are self-segregating based on personal political preference-- including assuming "the other side" is pure evil. This is not a good sign for America's future.

[@christianloser5038]

I just watched one video, made by you. Thumbs up.

[@johndolewa8451]

I have had the same experience in NYC. New Yorkers are good people.

[@ayaom369]

It’s so true ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Marco-yq9lj]

I am also Italian and I was very surprised to discover that the n word was offensive in North America, because in Italy it is equivalent as saying black person, we don't see the nword as an offensive word and most black people do not get offended by this in Italy. But ofcourse we do not care about the past of this word and use it normally. It is even less offensive than swearing. But all of this is changing and the country is becoming more aware of the significance of the word.

[@corago2472]

Davvero tu in Italia usi la parola "negro" con scioltezza?

[@lifeinitaly9983]

You said most black people do not get offened by it , have you asked them how they really feel about the word? Nobody wants to be called something negative. If I am aware that a word can hurt even one person I don't say it at all ! Blacks are the minority in Italy if you call most a horrible word they will not say anything but it hurts them I promise you.

[@ursinomatt]

You are confusing the N-word with the Italian word Negro. They are 2 different words. Negro is offensive but the N-word is extremely offensive!! 2 different words.

[@JoaquinPhi]

I myself lived something like this, I was visiting the walk of fame with a friend who live in the #US and I told him that "a black guy (negro) was trying to sell me a CD" and my friend just shut me up and he even scolded me, "never say that word in this country". And the fact is that in my country you can call someone "negro" in a friendly way, or chinese or gringo or whatever without an ofensive connotation.

[@Joenotsoexotic69]

Why did you feel the need to describe his race tho lol

[@antoninomassone476]

Tutto molto interessante. Mi ha colpito particolarmente ciò che hai riferito riguardo al razzismo. Noi usiamo la strana perifrasi "uomo di colore " per un afro-americano. In effetti gli aspetti legati al razzismo vero o presunto non ci permettono di essere spontanei nelle nostre espressioni verbali.

[@didonegiuliano3547]

nessuno usa davvero “di colore"

[@MacInTheNet]

Damn... devo toglierti dai video suggeriti perché sei troppo carina ed ogni volta che sbuchi è una botta da rimanere storditi XD

[@andreavenier7361]

....così mi piaci !!!! Bellissima e soprattutto elegante...perfetta !!!

[@jk7878]

She's actually really gorgeous . Fancy coming to a party 😉

[@SarahOstrin1]

Mary Jane, Everything you say is largely accurate. While Americans tend to be warm and friendly, there is a sensitivity to the discussion of race. There is also a sensitivity to politics. The warm and friendly American may become less so if you don't agree with their politics.

[@rysammy]

The politics of today comes down to either you want socialism or you do not. So there is no left or right when it comes to socialism, it is only up or down. I cannot believe America has came to this. The areas you have visited, more so than not, favor socialism and get very uptight and are less tolerant when you disagree with them. Americans tend to be even more warmer and tolerant the more you move away from the areas you have visited when it comes to politics. The MSM paints many Americans as racist pigs when we are really not. Our issues are really with the media and socialist leaning corrupt politicians that care nothing about American citizens. I would just avoid joining in any political or racial conversations, but do listen carefully

[@SarahOstrin1]

@@rysammy The polemics of today's politics is largely a function of the information that you receive from your media silo. If you obtain your information solely from Fox News aand/or Rush Limbaugh, you see the world as you describe. My recommendation is that you listen to several media outlets and weigh the information both critically and independently.

[@SarahOstrin1]

@@rysammy Thanks for elaborating on your previous statement. It affirms my point.

[@rysammy]

@SarahOstrin1 I removed my reply because this really is not the place to discuss such items and take over the post. Take care Sarah

[@francescos7361]

I agree there are many differences as italian.I would agree.

[@genericusername1365]

Interesting and Grazie, Mary Jane! A few thoughts: 4. Drinking. There are a lot of people here in USA who don't drink to get drunk as fast as possible (although there are those who do, as you said). It just depends on the person and the type of people with whom you socialize. I and my friends don't even drink alcohol at all. I don't care if other people do drink, though. Not my business as long as they don't drive or act rudely/badly because of their drinking. 3. Dating. I've never heard that watching a movie with your date means that sexual intercourse is expected to happen. Not a thing as far as I know. You are under no obligation whatsover to kiss a guy (or fornicate with him for that matter) simply because he bought you dinner. Some people are sleazy like that, and others are not. Again, it depends on the morals and values of the person you are dating. If you're attracted to him, and he is attracted to you, and when the time is right you can do some smoochin'. There used to be one of the common mores of society that would say "I don't kiss on the first date". Some people still believe in that, while others don't. 1. Helpfulness of the people. Interesting, because my friends in Europe thought Americans were more friendly and helpful, while we thought Europeans were more friendly and helpful. Interesting that we both thought the same thing about each other, so I don't know how to explain that one other than "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence". As far as NYers being rude, it's a stereotype, but stereotypes are usually based at least on partial truth. Some NYers are very rude, and others are very nice, so it's probably the same as anybody from anywhere else. Depends on who you meet.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Well answered John!

[@ErnieRodgersMusician]

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[@francescos7361]

Grazie a te.

[@carlosalvarez1124]

Observadora, inteligente y lindaa !!

[@TheWolfalpino]

about the "invisible family feeling" it was the same in italy until some time ago. At least for me. I don't know what went wrong or happened anyway.

[@buensulg]

if you go out on a date with someone for the first time, you don´t have to kiss them if you don´t want to, you are under no obligation...also, watching a movie with someone doesn´t necessarily mean you are going to sleep together, it can literally mean you´re going to watch a movie, nothing else.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Good to know! 🤔

[@mandarinfox1813]

Totally agree! That’s NEVER been even suggested to me! It’s a MOVIE.

[@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937]

buensulg She was in New York. Those libshits wouldn’t know a moral if it bit them in the nose.

[@mimmiblu6138]

@@DJTreviCSRecordings Italians are very good at communicating what they want, too! Europe has many different cultures...

[@kaziu312]

Agreed! When people used the expression "Netflix and chill" I thought that's what it literally meant. Someone is going to go over to a house, sit on a couch, and watch Netflix. I really didn't know it was a double entendre because I kept thinking a person is just going to watch a movie and there's no harm in that.

[@donvitocascioferro4040]

In the UK if someone comes from China or Far East Asia they are called as Orientals, The term Asian in the UK is for people from the Asian region of India and Pakistan.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Interesting.

[@GagliardoAndreaCT]

I would like to listen your english for ever :)

[@ceanothus_bluemoon]

I'm much older than you and in the UK the N word is absolutely never to be used and it's been that way for decades. It really pulled me up short to hear you use it as I has no idea this kind of language was used in Italy, though it seems that there it's not used maliciously. Here, like the US it's taboo. Really enjoying your channel while demolition work is going on nearby and I can't get any sleep!

[@d.o.m.e.n.i.c.o_d.e.n.t.i.c.e]

Hi there, maybe Mary Jane uses it but being an italian myself and living in Italy I can tell you i never use it and would never use it!!! we use the term "persone di colore". I am actually shocked to hear from her that we do use the N word in Italy. Things like these should be well searched before published.

[@pattiderosamusic3292]

@@d.o.m.e.n.i.c.o_d.e.n.t.i.c.e I’m in Italy too and totally agree. Let’s be clear - naming someone’s race or ethnicity is fine in context but using an epithet never is. Italian example: saying someone is from the South can be simply descriptive (though depending on tone, that too could be used insultingly). But using the perjorative “terrone” is not ok. Just like calling someone Italian is fine but calling them a “wop” isn’t. Its really not that hard to understand. 😊 The n-word has a horrible and violent history. No need for any white personal to ever use it.

[@scottkempton6085]

Mary Jane: a few thoughts about your observations about America. 1) America is a big country, and people's thoughts and actions about nearly any subject can vary pretty wildly from one place to the next. It sounds like your experience in the US is pretty much limited to the northeast; if you are able, spend some time in the South and on the West Coast. I think you'll notice some pretty profound differences. 2) Dating: I'm sure your description of your dating experience is accurate, but I suspect peoples' expectations vary quite a lot with age, region of the country and education level. 3) American's helpfulness: I'm really glad you found us to be so helpful! A lot of us are - because that's our nature. My personal experience is much the same as yours, and I suspect it has a LOT to do with your approach and attitude when you ask, but I can assure you that it is not universal! Also.... people (especially men) tend to respond quite positively to pretty women with a warm demeanor - like yours. I'm sure that has worked in your favor. Keep up the good work!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hi Scott, you certainly right with your observations, and yes I’ve explored only the East Coast so far and have not been more South than Virginia. This video didn’t want to be a thorough description of social habits in the US, but rather to collect my simple observations as a foreigner coming to your country for the first time. I look forward to visit more of this huge diverse country and make more videos about it. 🙂

[@genericusername1365]

Don't forget the middle of the country too! Nebraska, Utah, Oklahoma, Colorado, Kansas, etc. Don't mean to leave out other states, but you get what I mean.

[@oliveraparicio8464]

@@genericusername1365 Don't forget US territories= Guam, Northern Mariana Islands, US virgin islands, and Puerto Rico.

[@daniellehurrell6620]

Mixing beverages = hell. Hangover breakfasts are real. 😂

[@daniellehurrell6620]

Yeah, dating culture is so stupid here!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

I wouldn't dare saying it's stupid, but surely I don't get it! 😅

[@FacciaDaPerno]

si però nell'ultima non hai detto qual è la differenza con l'Italia. Qui non senti quella rete di sicurezza?

[@hpop4619]

It's interesting cilp thanks from Egypt

[@elizabethfaraone]

I have a question. I recently found out that I’m an Italian citizen. I would like to move there when I turn 62. What is the least expensive place to live?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Not sure whether it is a joke or it's serious

[@anonymousdude1010]

Hi Mary Jane, I think Elizabeth's is a legitimate question. Italian legislation about citizenship was changed several times over the past years, and people that can demonstrate Italian ancestry can obtain Italian citizenship in very generous terms, compared to other countries. I think I heard that, after the latest laws were approved, there are 60mil Italians in Italy, but over 80mil potential Italians scattered around the world. Coming to live here in italy with a good pension from a developed country (pun intended) could be an excellent idea. Italians do that a lot with Portugal and it's becoming an issue. In Portugal they give you a huge tax reduction to relocate with your pension there. I think it's a bit unfair for governments to go down the route of this kind of selfish competition between UE countries, but good on the oldies, getting to live a bit better than they would in Italy, albeit far from home and family. If Italy passes another pension reform (we change rules once every few years...) and tries to fight fire with fire, it might be that Elizabeth's pension could really be worth more than expected when she actually comes to reside in Italy for good. Coming to Elizabeth question: the South (Campania, Calabria, Basilicata, Puglia, Sicily, Sardinia, I would add Molise and Abruzzo) is generally less expensive (I am talking about living there, not being a tourist) than the North. Small villages are less expensive than big cities. The inland is less expensive than by the sea. Those are just a rough general rules, with lots of exceptions. Having said that, there are some small villages - some of them are really lovely - that will PAY YOU if you relocate there (similar to what in the USA Vermont does for young couples). For example Candela (Foggia), where they give you an economical aid for relocation, or Sambuca (Agrigento) where they even sell you a house for 1 euro (provided that you will spend at least 15k to renovate it). Those villages are usually in the mountain areas, with less and less people living there, usually only old people. Elizabeth, where are your Italian ancestors from? It could be a nice start to start looking around that part of Italy. If your surname ends with an "e" (Faraone) then it is likely your family is from Sicily, maybe from the Palermo area. If it ends with an "i" (Faraoni) then it would be more probable an origin from the central regions of Italy. If it ends with an "n" (Faraon) then it would very likely be from the Venice area. I know that the surnames of our "emigranti" would undergo some changes when registering in foreign countries, so I am not taking for granted that your surname was originally Faraone, and not Faraoni or Faraon. Blessings and stay safe. Ciao, s.

[@MacInTheNet]

@@anonymousdude1010 ammazza che risposta, non avrei potuto spiegarlo meglio XD Dovrebbe ricompensarti e sono serio lol

[@anonymousdude1010]

@@MacInTheNet Grazie del complimento, ma tra "oriundi" ci si vuol bene (io sono nato in Italia da madre italiana, ma con padre straniero e ho vissuto tutti i cambi di legislazione in prima persona).

[@anonymousdude1010]

May 2021 update: Candela (Foggia) is doing it again. Go grab your piece of Southern Italian dream for just 1€ :)

[@corradocalderaro817]

Your English accent sounds sooo italian 😁

[@billywalkabout5076]

I love your show and I agree with everything you say 7:26

[@michaelaburas7671]

What the heck! Was that electric bass tapping as an intro, or it was all done on keyboard?

[@jtinalexandria]

There is no problem whatsoever saying that someone is Asian in the US. What matters is the context and descriptive words you use to talk about someone's ethnicity, for instance placing a big emphasis on different physical characteristics can be seen as insensitive or off-putting.

[@Antonio-wf2ts]

Ciao! L'ultimo punto che hai messo al primo posto posso dirti che è anche il mio preferito ma allo stesso tempo quello che mi fa più paura? Cerco di spiegarmi meglio, mia mamma è di Chicago, sono stato molte volte a Chicago a trovare i miei nonni e appena finirà questa pandemia non vedo l'ora di tornare a trovarli. Quello che dici sul modo che hanno gli americani di accoglierti o di venirti in aiuto è verissimo, iper super disponibili. Tuttavia ho detto che mi fa anche un po' paura perché questa loro attitudine è bellissima finché avviene ad esempio nelle situazioni da te descritte ma la vedo un po' "sinistra" quando ciò avviene costantemente, senza alcun bisogno e anche quando non dovrebbe avvenire. Ti faccio un esempio, esco con amici dei miei cugini, loro non mi conoscono, beh dopo appena due minuti di conoscenza sarebbero in grado di ospitarmi lì a dormire, darmi dei soldi, confessarmi i loro pensieri più oscuri, parlare male dei loro cari, sfogarsi, svegliarsi alle 6 di mattino il giorno dopo solo per farmi vedere una particolarità dall'altro lato della città. Magari è il mio carattere ma questa cosa l'ho sempre sofferta da quando ero piccolo e anche ora che ho 36 anni continuo a soffrirla, cioè noi siamo invadenti, ci mancherebbe, ma loro sono invadenti senza alcun reale bisogno, è ciò gli crea addosso una patina di falsità che mi fa paura. Non lo so però li percepisco così. Cioè come di a essere così felice di portarmi dall'altro lato della città se non mi conosci nemmeno? Quasi sembra che ci sia l'esasperazione di dover sembrare per forza disponibili, ecco questo sì. Però li adoro 😅

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Ciao Antonio, capisco benissimo a cosa ti riferisci. Personalmente, mi piace e non mi piace a seconda delle situazioni. Per riprendere i tuoi esempi, mi piace l'apertura nell'ospitare uno sconosciuto o accompagnarlo in giro per la città, la trovo un'occasione di scambio umano e culturale bellissima, a cui invece noi italiani ci chiudiamo completamente. Quando parli invece delle confidenze personali che fanno, quello lo trovo assolutamente esagerato e mi mette sempre a disagio. E' come se non considerassero la differenza nel rapporto tra una persona appena conosciuta e una persona con cui hanno un rapporto da molti anni.

[@michaelholguin4678]

Hi Mary Jane fantastico 👍🇮🇹

[@pietromazzei4452]

a small detail .... you are a beautiful woman ... this helps a lot

[@Daniele_Zanardini]

sul punto 1 avrei una distinzione da fare, se ti trovi in una metropoli come NY è un conto, se ti trovi in mezzo al nulla nel mid-west la situazione cambia ...

[@d-pacsivaraman148]

we are totally open to helping you - just ask what you want, rather than saying your name and everything else ~ New Yorker

[@alextorresphoto]

There is a lot to say, this video was very very alarming, but I wonder if you still feel the same now in 2020. I hope you have found ways to avoid those precarious situations. I don't agree that this is a good representation of USA. I hope your experience has improved over time.

[@typerk]

Your friends were right. I don't care what they do in your country. I don't care what song you heard it on. You should never say it on any level

[@anthonylafayette4385]

Ty Perkins...The "N" word is said on every level of rap music in America and many Tarantino and Spike Lee movies to mention a few.

[@exsgt007]

You are way too charming. That's a thumbs up!

[@agnese6531]

Ciao,a parte il fatto che sei carinissima,hai un accento adorabile! Ho notato dal film che gli americani si fidano troppo ed escono da soli con chiunque,può essere davvero pericoloso. Ho notato anche che due partner si definiscono fidanzati quando lui fa la proposta di matrimonio a lei,il che mi sembra assurdo,sembra come se considerassero importante una relazione solo quando ci si sposa. In più si cercano pochissimo e sono molto vaghi su ciò che fanno!

[@RM-bs1wx]

Hey Mary Jane, I think this may help: I think you will understand why you don't use certain terms about race here because well... We were really shitty. When you realize that people have been burned, murdered, raped, etc. while certain words have been uttered to them, the words become "loaded". I think here it is just considered good manners to not use words that are used while we know people have been through those tragedies and horrors while those words have been said. For instance: I have a friend who is a gay male. When I was in high school he would be called "f*g". But it wasn't just the word... Other young men would pleasure themselves into condoms and then put them in his backpack as a "taunt". So, as a friend of this gay male, I don't like hearing that word... because the only people who said that word are the guys who would pleasure themselves into condoms that they would then put in my friend's backpack. I suggest looking up the word "loaded" as far as being referred to a term. I think what you are struggling with is actually that you just don't understand the history, which makes it to where you can't understand our issues with certain words. Americans ACTUALLY want to be good neighbors. & I can't be a good neighbor if I am saying words that strike fear into my neighbors. Make sense? It's just about trying to make people comfortable. I know in some of your other videos you talk about "individualism" as being an American trait - and you are very correct. BUT, what you may NOT see, is actually the micro-expressions we use with fellow Americans when we want them to feel "safe". I hope this makes sense? It's our way of actually being communal in a way that you may not think of, being not from here.

[@reaux3921]

Women have been burned, murder*d, r*ped while the B word have been uttered to them yet society allows men to still use it. Double standards

[@reaux3921]

Women have also been burn, murd*** and R worded while the B word had been uttered to them yet society allows men to still use it. Double standards

[@omardelmar]

5:27 I wish I had known this before! It would have all happened naturally, but I opened my mouth too soon and ruined everything. No one teaches this stuff except you 😞 There’s a book titled Kiss, Bow, or Shake hands that teaches you the differences between the various cultures and how to do business with each. That along with “When Cultures Collide”, which also teaches the differences between cultures and countries and how to interact with them. These two give you a pretty rounded, though generalized, idea of how to approach people in each country. Now, what’s needed is the same guide but in a dating context. Who will write that book?!

[@rocknred123]

Mary Jane, I would love to go and see a movie with you Cheers

[@ddstanfield9259]

I just got to this point in the video I understand your comment now And I fully agree But me not you

[@alicesacco9329]

Strano che la parola 'nigga' come dici tu, la conosciamo solo tramite le canzoni americane (es quelle di Eminem), e non ho mai sentito un italiano usare tale parola. I generi musicali li chiamiamo per nome: Rap, Hip Hop, ecc ecc. Al massimo usiamo il termine 'black music' per il Blues e al Jazz. Tra amici si usa la parola 'negro' tranquillamente, ricordo a scuola una mia compagna nera ed i suoi amici (bianchi) la usavano in allegria.

[@francescofurini1831]

Le serate devasto ci sono anche in Italia, e si beve birra e vodka per andare giù il prima possibile Forse più nelle ragazze c'è la cosa di bere per il gusto

[@rtheben]

4:30 , safer right?

[@perseoeridano4182]

👏🏻👏🏻

[@firstevidencelpr]

Hi Mary Jane - excellent videos ! When you say American culture - I think you are referring to one sub-culture in NY City. Like you said about Europe, even the next town has a different dialect; here in the USA we are a mix of different states and different immigrant groups and many cultures ! I would find your experience of NY city very strange myself and our family is much more like your experience at home.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Definitely agreed. I keep learning and learning....

[@UFCMania155]

What about Italian and German differences?

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

That should be another whole video...

[@robertoferrari5824]

Questa ragazza trasuda energia pura...persino quando tratta degli usi e costumi..👏👏👏👍👍👍

[@marze5919]

The racist thing happened to me too. I was drinkin and singing a famous rap song with some americans in a sort of pub, when i said the n word that was part of the lyrics: white guys were shocked, the black guy who was with us just laugh it off.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Ha! That's interesting to hear. It's not the first time I hear white white Americans "defending" a category and then discover that people from that category don't feel the need to defend theirselves on that topic.

[@DENVEROUTDOORMAN]

Rap is crap...not music

[@nickcef]

Ciao! Come stai? Sono un figlio dei immigrante italiani che sono venuti qui molti anni fa. Anche se sono nato qui, per me e ancora difficile a capire le abitudine curiose degli americani! Te dico la verità!

[@rysammy]

Aho, kemenwipematethi? I have watched a few of your videos and think you are very informative. The comparisons you are blanking the rest of us Americans under are very regional especially when it comes to New York as it is foreign to most of us. Most of our country are unlike these places and are pretty laid back and not as restricted in tongue and actions. So comparing the rest of us with New Yorkers is like saying Italians are no different than the rest of the European Union. This video kind of blew me away when you discussed the dating, the kiss and sex with the movies. I have never heard of such obligations although dating has became a very loose term for sex. It is true that most want to talk about being exclusive. And about the glasses or contacts, you do not need a new exam every time you order as long as you have a valid script within the eye exam time frame of one year, the doc will give you extra scripts if needed. Be safe in your travels and try to visit other areas away from the huge socialist ran cities. With no disrespect to the regions, the areas that you visit, we call the land of fruits and nuts. If you have time, please look at the Harmless Farmer. He is a great ambassador for the typical American in kindness, strength and family. I think you will enjoy the way he does things just a little different. Thanks for your videos!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Yes I guess you're right that many things were only related to New York. But it was at the beginning of my explorations, I'm learning more now and maybe I should make an updated version of the video. About those dating rules, I've discovered that they are quite related to the generation of 20 and 30 year old people.

[@rysammy]

My greeting in my last reply is in my Sauk American Indian language, meaning: Hello, Are you feeling well. I chose to great in way because the Italian cuisine came from our native tomato which grew nowhere else on the planet. So, the base of your food started with the woodland American Indian. Anyway, the truth is that New York is as foreign to most of us as is was to you in very many ways. I remember my first time flying into Vecenza and getting mobbed by gypsies outside the airport and thought man what is wrong with these crazy people. My mind eased after getting on the road when I saw a picture of a topless model on the side of a semi trailer. Within a couple days I meeting with locals for morning spritzers. I really enjoyed my experience over there. Life is much slower in Italy compared to the USA. Italians seems to live for today while Americans live for tomorrow. Some of my experiences: I did not like paying for toilet use, I just about bought horse meat at the market, Italians are very crazy drivers, cannot understand why men stay at home till 35, say many very old places to enjoy, people where very nice. Thank you again for your informative videos. There is no personality in replies meaning I did not mean to come across harsh because I surely did not mean to

[@grantomalley8532]

@@rysammy WOW, My great grand parents on my mothers side came here from Turin in the late 1890s. I now know from your videos, how not Italian I am!

[@rysammy]

@grant omalley Please do a little research on what foods came from the Americas, both north and south. The world would not have any corn, tomatoes, mellons, potatoes, peppers both hot and mild and so many others which are now staple foods for many cultures around the world, pretty neat really

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@rysammy Aho, kemenwipematethi? :) Thanks for teaching me something in your Indian American language. The things you listed are understandable, but there would be so much more to add. Every situation has to be put into context. [They let you pay for toilet only if you go to a touristy place, and men who stay at home are of different kind and in different situations. I wished I had more time to explain]

[@typicalJ]

You should not use that word ever. It could be dangerous depending on situation. it carries an extremely long history that is difficult to explain to people who are not from the country.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Yes that's the sense that I got. That I can "understand" it but I'll never be able to really understand it, just because I'm not from that country.

[@patriziapitts5926]

@@WhatashameMaryJane How in the world you don’t understand ? The “ N” word is extremely offensive: No matter where you are ! and It doesn’t absolutely matter where you come from!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is basic social skill Mary Jane ..... it seems like you have a long journey ahead. I wish you well.

[@Scalvoo]

@@patriziapitts5926 it’s simple. In Europe this “culture of racism” that is present in America, it doesn’t exist. Or rather it’s not so present,felt and rooted. There is a now-offensive word (“negro”) but it doesn’t reach ,not even remotely, the severity of its corresponding one in America (that is the n-word). I know that in America you can be killed by saying that word, here in Europe absolutely not (at least from what i know and experieced) ( i said “now-offensive” because in the Italian Dictionary “negro” theorically refers only to those people who come from those parts of the world, like Africa, characterized by having a dark colour of the skin, caused by an abundance of pigment. Only later it has acquired a negative meaning)

[@ironfox3132]

@@patriziapitts5926As much as I get how shocking can be to hear someone explicitly enunciate the N-word, you need to understand that the stigma around it is unique to the American culture. I understand how the word carries such a dark and grim history behind it, but as a non-American I've always failed to grasp why the context in which it's spoken doesn't make a difference in how the word itself is perceived. To associate such a negative reaction to the word itself rather than the intention with which the word is spoken is, at least to me, simply nonsensical. If someone has any input on this is love to read about it!

[@patriziapitts5926]

@@ironfox3132 ok so, you understand the word is deeply offensive but you as non-American don’t grasp why your intention are not taken in consideration. Please explain What intention could you possibly have in the use of a word that ( as you explain) know it is offensive ? The intention of a “ joke”? A joke about what ? Who could possibly benefit from a joke that includes a racist definition ? I read some comments that claim that in Europe there is no racism. Wow.... wouldn’t that be nice ? But unfortunately racism is a world wide problem and for sure Europe is not immune. I also read comments that justify that the use of this word in Europe is accepted. I would be willing to bet that the ones saying this are Caucasian.

[@argonauta1968]

I wonder how much does it matter your lovely shape due the helpfulness of those people... I really don't know

[@Nicolasr1992]

Mary Jane sei bellissima!!!

[@orsolalelli8593]

I think that in Italy say that somebody is colored doesn't sound so oltrageus becouse we had not slavery as America did just few years ago, and for so long time...so I will tell it in italian (it's easier for me): it's what in italy we call "coda di paglia"!

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Ciao Orsola, hai ragione. Probabilmente è una cosa che da italiana non riuscirò mai a capire fino in fondo.

[@DENVEROUTDOORMAN]

New Yorkers are cool either upstate New York or New York City

[@michelegiordano8693]

Come ti era venuta questa cosa del n...a style music? Al di là di tutto è una definizione che non esiste nemmeno. Se ci fossi stato io non avrei neanche potuto prendere le due difese... Sarei stato il primo sconvolto...

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Dove sono cresciuta è un'espressione che si usa spesso per definire certi tipi di musica non comuni in Italia come r&b, hip hop, drum&bass...generalmente prodotti da artisti di colore.

[@michelegiordano8693]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Pensa agli altri che sono cresciuti lì, anche loro quante ramanzine si saranno dovuti subire... Si scherza:) Buon viaggi-o e buon divertimento.

[@Alidoir]

Ne viene fuori un ritratto di un'ipocrisia devastante della società americana, dove se usi una parola sei morto, ma contemporaneamente il razzismo è parte integrante della società in gran parte del paese.

[@didonegiuliano3547]

sinceramente l’America sta diventando un posto invivibile

[@mandarinfox1813]

Now the asian thing I’ve not heard-then again my family is mixed so maybe we’ve not come up against this as I’m a white looking girl who’s got a Filipino mom!

[@teresahoward7821]

I live in Georgia in the US, and I have never heard of anyone being offended by referring to an obviously Asian person as "Asian." If they are Asian, they are Asian. I cannot possibly imagine why that would be offensive.

[@tiffanyi5645]

WOW! I really respect your honesty about saying "nigger music", I think your honesty and even saying the word again in this video shows how little you actually know about it. As a Black Woman who is also Latina (I'm Puerto Rican born in Brooklyn, NYC), it was VERY triggering to hear you speak like that! lol I laugh because I was surprised by how strong my reaction was, especially since you said it out of ignorance and not malice. However you knew and acknowledged that Italy has their own "offensive" word for Black people and the fact that you said "it's ok to pronounce it, if it's clearly playful" tells me you still have more to learn and grow. The Italian word would not be offensive to you because you are not Black; but do the Black people in Italy agree with you? I'm pretty sure that the concept of "White Privilege" is very poorly understood in Europe because it's only starting to be understood here in America, but what you just said is a pretty good example of it. I just discovered this page today after seeing the video of you trying Italian food in the Bronx (under-cooked spaghetti and meatballs LOL) and it brought me here. You seem very sweet and genuinely down to earth; I don't hold this against you at all. I just don't accept that it's "a cultural thing"; because it's really an uneducated thing. I believe that when we know better we do better! #LoveFromBrooklynNYC

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Hi Tiffany. You're certainly right, I need to learn a lot about American culture in general. This video was shot after my very first trip to the US, so I was still very unexperienced. If I had to reshoot it now, after several other trips and many months spent in New York, I would not even mention the racial topic, because I've seen that is way, waaaay, waaaaaaaaay more sensitive than an European like me could ever imagine. So you're absolutely right that I don't know anything about racial problems in the United States. Before I end this and shut my mouth I just want to suggest you to differentiate when you talk about "white" people. Not every person in the world, because has white skin, is privileged. "White privilege" is strictly an American concept. There are black inhabitants in Europe, but they are a very small percentage of the population. They come typically from the Northern states of Africa and they come on their own, because they want to move to Europe and not because they are forced to do so. I've never been addressed as a "white woman" before coming to the United States for the first time. There is no such a concept in Europe. There is just NOT.

[@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937]

What a shame Mary Jane Tiffany is Puerto Rican. She’s not an American. Just ignore her. Only cry babies get triggered over the truth.

[@TenantsEthSt]

@@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937 You would understand it more if you know the history of slavery in America. Get yourself educated - it is about time.

[@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937]

Tenants 216E90thSt Slavery ended generations ago. You can’t use that excuse as leverage.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@itsokaytobeclownpilled5937 I don't like this kind uncivilized of communication on my channel. Please get back to talking in a respectful way or I'll start deleting your comments.

[@paulfeist]

I know this is a couple years old, but a warning to Europeans; You don't say "that word"... ever. You don't say it, you don't write it, you don't THINK it. Sure, MOST people would understand that you are not from our culture, and don't get the history behind it, but you will definitely find people that DON'T understand that and they will be more offended than you expect. Even if you hear African-American people using that word; Don't.

[@didonegiuliano3547]

you don’t think it…wow, what’s that, Orwell’s 1984?

[@marcobreda2205]

😂😂😂 il tuo commento mi ha ucciso ahah. Btw back to the 1st comment, I’d say pretty much everybody knows not to use that word in the US, however here in Italy there’s not a word that bears such an offensive meaning in our vocabulary, so the girl most likely just made a naive mistake due to the n-word not having use nor space in the Italian language (e no rigaz negro, pur essendo generalmente considerato offensivo qui, se usato non porta con sè la stessa gravità di nigga lì)

[@calcagnolibero]

I'm a. 60 y.o. Italian. Mary Jane I can't understand how a person Who speaks such a fluent English as you ignored that you must never pronounce the n- word in America.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Because I never realized that the slang word "nigga" means what in Italian is called "negro". It was a slang problem, that's all.

[@ceciliaterzi6564]

@@WhatashameMaryJane Excuse me Mary-Jane, i can understand you just slipped the word out of naivety in the video but why are you saying it again right now? Didn't you realize by now that literally *everyone* is typing just "n-word" without saying the full word for a reason? You're saying you're open for a conversation but you don't look like you're really understanding.

[@Scalvoo]

@@ceciliaterzi6564 la parola “negro” di per sè in Italiano non è una parola offensiva e “brutta”da usare, lo è diventata col tempo a causa dei contesti in cui veniva utilizzata. Ecco perché adesso è meglio non averla nel proprio vocabolario parlato.

[@ceciliaterzi6564]

​@@Scalvoo Ma forse non hai capito, è come se qualcuno bestemmiasse così tranchant in video e gli dicessero "guarda che non si dice mai", per parlare di quella parola TUTTI, ma proprio TUTTI la scrivono censurata (es: n-word) e poi nei commenti dici "ok non pensavo fosse così grave, non dirò più P0RC... D.... Scusa eh....

[@davidemobilia6837]

@@ceciliaterzi6564 Ma il punto è che sono le persone a dare valore alle parole. Non può e non deve esistere una censura preventiva di alcune parole e, soprattutto, riferita a coloro che le pronunciano. Non è ammissibile in una società civile che solo una certa etnia possa pronunciare una parola, questo è il vero razzismo. Pura follia.

[@enricofromm4994]

Sei divertente, schietta, sincera, intelligente e gradevole. Continua così! Da uno che ha girato mezzo mondo e non ama il politically correct. Credo che la paura della verità sia insita nella attuale cultura americana e la necessità della autocensura anche nelle cose più banali (dire che un asiatico è asiatico ovvero un mediorientale è mediorientale è semplicemente esprimere una ovvietà) sia determinata dalla consapevolezza che la tanto declamata cultura multietnica è un castello estremamente fragile e che potrebbe crollare rovinosamente. Forse sei troppo giovane per ricordare i fatti che hanno prodotto la disgregazione della vecchia Jugoslavia (che incidentalmente ho girato in lungo ed in largo). Ricordo che nei miei viaggi in quelle zone, anche se (e si parla degli anni di Tito) tutto sembrava rose e fiori dal punto di vista della convivenza sociale, bastava appena conoscere la realtà sottotraccia per capire che il disastro era imminente con una guerra civile. Forse è questo che temono in US. Pensano che abolendo le parole si elimini il problema. Per inciso, conosco benissimo il Friuli V.G. Soprattutto la parte montagnosa che confina con l'Austria e che ho perlustrato dettagliatamente.

[@MrRmisu]

Omg “don’t ask a person to watch a movie unless you want to have sex”. I can imagine if you never had a “Netflix and chill night” you’d be in for a surprise lol

[@matiasarizu9438]

😉👍🏻

[@Casey28027]

In this country you speak your mind and screw those them that don't like it.

[@vlulineblink6970]

I live in the U.S.A and i've never heard anyone say they kiss on the first date.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Oh really? I must have gotten it wrong then.

[@justthefacts982]

me either!

[@spartanwarrior706]

Let's watch a movie together ♥️

[@playlistme4450]

Sorry she invited me to a party. Get rekt

[@alisalopez1859]

I love my husband lol everyone knows him Benjamin he's in every one purse and wallet get it I understand where you are coming from Mary yes us Americans do move fast and it's wrong in any relationships me I'm just fouceing on me .

[@jennyvivian2765]

Ciao, sono Jenny, sono molto interessanti i tuoi video! Complimenti! Sono di Vicenza, in Veneto e mi piace vede le comparazioni con gli USA, un posto che mi piacerebbe molto conoscere personalmente:) Però, nonostante abbia letto i vari commenti, sono ancora confusa sul fatto del razzismo, puoi chiarirmi le cose? Grazie in anticipo anche solo per il tempo perso per me:)

[@patriziapitts5926]

Ciao Jenny su che cosa sei confusa esattamente ? La parola che Mary Jane ha usato e’ una parola razzista e estremamente offensiva Non e’ da usare per nessun motivo ed e’ triste che ancora ci sia qualcuno che vive negli Stati Uniti e non lo capisca. Se non vuoi essere offensivo usa African American oppure a person of color .

[@jennyvivian2765]

@@patriziapitts5926 grazie mille! Si non mi era chiaro però il motivo per cui una parola così diffusa da noi come termine che spesso viene usato scherzosamente lì invece fosse univocamente sentito come razzista.

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

Ciao Jenny. Mi unisco a quello che ha già scritto Patrizia, tranne che non so chi tra quelli che vive negli USA non sappia certe cose, non corrisponde alle mie osservazioni. L'episodio di cui ho parlato in questo vecchio video è dovuto al fatto che nell'ambiente dove sono cresciuta in Italia si usava l'espressione "nigga music" per definire vari generi musicali in cui gli artisti neri sono dominanti e più specificamente il rap nero in cui viene largamente fatto uso di questo termine. Ingenuamente, non ho mai collegato la parola in slang "nigga" al nostro termine "negro", che è ovviamente un termine storicamente offensivo per la popolazione afroamericana. Nei commenti a questo video sono stata molto criticata per questo episodio da altri italiani, che evidentemente sono sempre stati a conoscenza di che cosa questa parola slang significasse. Visto che tu invece sembri avere il mio stesso problema, posso chiederti da che parte dell'Italia vieni?

[@jennyvivian2765]

@@WhatashameMaryJane esattamente come dici tu anche io non pensavo fosse offensivo come termine, dato che viene spessissimo usato nelle canzoni americane. Comunque ancora complimenti per i video molto interessanti, io sono da Vicenza, Veneto e posso dirti che, parlandone, anche delle mie amiche avevano la stessa opinione/pensiero mio e tuo sul termine:/

[@WhatashameMaryJane]

@@jennyvivian2765 Finalmente qualcuno da cui ricevo comprensione e non critiche feroci. Grazie Jenny.

[@EXPLISITemcee]

Its NEVER a insult to compliment someone.. if someone mocks asian features..its clearly malicious.. if you are attracted to great looking eyes.. it is not insulting. even if you say it in public ..

[@ditherdather]

Here's a good rule of thumb to use in the US when it comes to deciding whether or not something you said was perceived to be racist: Did you string together any combination of words and then utter them out loud? Y = racist, N = it was probably still racist, but they can't prove it and hate you even more for that fact alone. Also, and I know this one will leave a foul taste is some people's mouths, but if you were 200lbs with a missing tooth and wearing hand-me-downs there's a solid chance that lots of people would have passed you over before someone let you use their phone, especially in a metropolitan city.