Ep. 13: "The Right Thing to Do" (111) Isn't Always What You Want

[@YsabelGamache]

Mandy Moore is also a legend and very nostalgic for me. From a walk to remember to Princess Diaries, center stage’s music, Tangled. She’s a 00s icon.

[@kellywhitman6561]

When Chris Sullivan said, "to behave like that in front of a child, that is child abuse." That hit me! As an adult, while I don't condone my dad's behavior, I now understand a bit more of why he maybe acted a certain way. But still, to this day, I for sure carry with me certain memories of things I unfortunately saw and heard as a little girl that I wish I hadn't, and no child should! 😢

[@MsShortstuff333]

I just came here to make the same comment! When he said that (re: seeing parents violently fight IS child abuse) , I felt so seen. Thank you, Chris Sullivan!

[@maiasilva709]

​@@MsShortstuff333Same 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@zl2240]

I feel exactly the same way! Although the abuse wasn't targeted at me, I was still a victim as we all were. And it comes out in small ways, whether it's avoiding sitting with back to the door or avoiding romantic relationships because of the fear of repeating the same patterns. It matters and it is harmful.

[@anja4740]

Chris: I know this random german woman doesn't really know you, but I try to describe what I, as a stranger, really like about you. Because you couldn't name one quality of yourself, i thought you needed that. At first, I like your creativity & your fashion sense. You are inspiring me to just wear what i like and to have more fun with it. Then your humour (maybe it is not a big compliment coming from a German... then... I'm sorry, but i really love your sense of humour 😄) Your intelligence, empathy & wisdom. This is what I like the most about you. Some things you said on this podcast are so profound and important to me that i wrote it down to remember it. I think you are a wonderful man. Thank you.

[@LH-pj4cx]

This other random woman wholeheartedly agrees!! ❤

[@JordanLeigh]

Omg, Mandy is having another baby! How wonderful! Congrats!

[@lisaenciso2046]

And even better... she has 2 boys and this one is a girl. Big Three 2.0!

[@stefanienovodor4936]

I couldn’t love this show more. At almost 42 with two boys (16 and 9) this show captured what it is to be a woman, mother, daughter, friend etc. It’s just this constantly changing dynamic that we try so hard to make perfect that this show shows us we don’t have to. It is our imperfections that people remember and love. 💖 this show is magic

[@alelihariana8697]

With the slow burn of uncovering Jacks character development, it was a gift to the audience to make him live longer. It was a treat, I was glad that his death in the timeline did not take away his significance and presence as a character in his family that survives him

[@PeaceLovePaperbacks]

I love reliving this series through the podcast. Season 1 is when our love and attachments truly start for these characters.

[@jscript22]

You guys are great conversationalist… you’re just so thoughtful in how you tell stories and compliment every person you mention. Honestly I’m here taking notes.

[@csl350]

Love Sterling didn’t realize how hyper he is in real life though!

[@alinecarvalho388]

I loved the whole episode as always, this series is so amazing that we keep rewatching it and having discussions about it after all this time... And I could talk about a million things, about the fact that Jack and Rebecca believe that they have to solve things by themselves, forgetting that they are a team, Becca's discomfort with her mother, the special guest talking about Kevin and Sloan's relationship, but I would like to say how important it was to hear your response about your insecurities. I recognize myself in this too and it is something that I take to my psychologist, especially about not feeling good enough, thinking that the others around me are good and I am a fraud, and seeing you guys who I think are amazing saying that you also felt that way sometimes... it is comforting in a way that I am not alone, thank you for your honesty.

[@adinya4860]

Chris Sullivan is a good actor and a good host . I love Mandy and Sterling too you guys are amazing

[@TheMarccast]

Rewatching the show along with this podcast is bringing so much joy to my weeks! I initially binge watched the whole show season by season, as soon all episodes were out. Watching it weekly though, I think it’s much easier to process everything (including the crying that comes with it!). Love you, guys! Thank you for doing this!

[@romillan6035]

"Cherish what is in front of you, whilst it is in front of you.. however it shows up" SKB

[@mqk1697]

Also! Sully is SO wise. That last line about I dont feel that way, I am remembering how I felt. Woah

[@stefanienovodor4936]

My parents built our forever home when I was a freshmen in high school. With no friends or family around we weren’t happy. It also burned down while we were in high school. We were all safe but it took a year in a hotel to rebuild. Now it is all four of our real home base. It represents family and love and so many memories. My dad recently passed and he is in every corner. I couldn’t imagine not having it after I was so mad all those years ago for moving. ❤

[@zeynabhoseiny279]

My favorite ship on the show were Jack and Rebecca hands down with Randall and Beth as a very close second.

[@mqk1697]

Felt Rebecca crying about her situation alone! Urgh great episode! And omg Sterling whattt, you are mine and everyone's celebrity crush

[@aromany]

I love hearing inside stories, please keep those coming❤

[@afiaali4159]

Loving this catch up podcast, iv started rewatching the episode before their podcast so i can feel part of the conversation

[@meggobeggo]

Whoa. It just dawned on me- this ep made me realize why I resonate with the Pearsons throughout their stories, I feels very much pre house incident life and post incident. My childhood home that my parents built when I was born was foreclosed on when I was 15 in 2008, I’ve subconsciously separated my life into two parts because of this. And I look at my life pre losing the house with rose colored glasses for sure. I’m so taken aback that it’s taken me so long to make this connection in my own life!

[@goldenchick85]

“I want him to profess his undying love for Sloane for 3-4 seasons!” That’s exactly how I felt when I first saw this episode. She was my favorite of Kevin’s love interests until late in Season Four. If Sloane had randomly reappeared in Kevin’s life at the end of the series, I would have screamed with happiness, lol

[@Estadisponibleparami]

I just love this podcast. In my opinion, the series, the script, the podcast and all of you who have been part of it have done a service to society beyond entertainment. You're a source of love and humanity. THANK YOU. 🌼🌼🌼

[@marialauradeleonardis8684]

The scene when they go to the new house Is perfect!

[@lozzboland83]

Living for sterling saying see you next Tuesday twice … when referring to Olivia

[@VivianaCampanaro]

Great episode and great podcast so far! Thank you for creating a beautiful space for all of us to reflect and share what it means to get through this thing called “life” (to quote someone I hope you all know 😊). I look forward to what’s next, in life and in the show!

[@ericam1275]

When Mandy calls Sterling “RANDALL” in mom tone….loved it

[@LizaJane761]

The story with Randall & William gets me so deeply. My Mom wasn’t diagnosed with lung cancer until 2019 but the conversation between those two sure hit home. 😥 Jack does anything he has to for his family, taking one for the team….my husband and I have done that so many times in regards to our children, that hit hard. Always wonderful to hear you all get honest and raw. You are ALL so wonderful 🙏

[@misstillman79]

I totally remember Tim Busfield and Ken Olin and others on Thirtysomething. I loved that show which is crazy because i was only 8. Oh the 80s when you had to watch whatever was on. Love you all and these episodes. ❤

[@csl350]

Loved Thirtysomething, I was in my twenties but was married w/a baby so I could relate.

[@angd4268]

Favorite couple is Jack and Rebecca but I loved so many of them.

[@kitty4lifesk150]

Thank you all for answering that deep question in the end. It made us feel more connected to you. ❤

[@mymakersdaughter6041]

Handsdown, Randall and Beth were my favorite couple! Relationship goals!🫶🏾

[@SydneyKong]

“That little dude” DARREN BARNET FROM NEVER HAVE I EVER 😭😭😭😭

[@elodie_k221b]

I saw An Iliad in Paris a few years ago and it was brilliant. Thank you for being open and genuinely answering the question about insecurities. It's so refreshing and touching!

[@Cab1726]

“Thank you for doing my play.” Who thought such a sentence could be so cold. 😂😂😂

[@aromany]

Sloan is really cute and funny, thanks for bringing her!! Next Kevin pleaaase

[@BigThreeChiu]

#justiceforsloane

[@stephbowler3141]

I love watching this podcast and then rewatching these episodes because the show means a lot more. I love these three as people ❤ They are so humble and so complimentary 😊 I love how they opening admit what they struggle with but how kind they are and supportive to each other ❤

[@keishie23]

Just love this rewatch/ video podcast and show ❤❤😂😂

[@stefanienovodor4936]

We moved when I was a freshman in high school. No friends or family around. Now over thirty years later I live with my family five minutes away and it has become everyone’s home. Not each of us and our individual families. The convo about that later between Kevin and Toby was so interesting to me because my brothers are recently married. I’ve been the only married one for 17 years and our dad passed right before my brothers met their spouses. I find myself answering that question on Kevin’s side because we are all family. That house represents it.

[@SydneyKong]

“I don’t want to do any more bills” LMAOO AHAHAHAHAH

[@janisg.2896]

So glad Tim Busfield got a shout out. A supremely talented actor and director.

[@christinakoch2738]

Love this show so much!! ❤️

[@SydneyKong]

“I just love my brother” LMAOOO AHAHAHAHAHAHH

[@BigThreeChiu]

wow, the honest and vulnerability with the fan question ♥

[@SydneyKong]

Me watching the recap for episode 12 and realizing I haven’t finished that episode and I should be watching the recap for episode 11.

[@carlatduarte4294]

Wow, love hearing inside stories

[@ikexbankai]

I just watched this episode and the next one when she forgets Jack’s birthday which is also the birthday of The Big 3 with my wife and just so good.

[@SydneyKong]

“She has to see it” LMAOOO AHAHAHAH

[@hannahhickman8663]

I’m so glad Sterling brought up not buying houses and stuff without talking to the partners first. I know it was a different time but you got an apartment with a six floor walk up and didn’t talk to your pregnant wife first, Jack’s lucky he’s a good man because I would’ve been so angry.

[@sidersproductions941]

Favorite couple of course is R&B but I loved Jack and Rebecca together too.😍

[@IsobelStorti]

Sterling. You are on my hall pass list and always have been. Just sayin. Im also a very insecure person when it comes to physical appearance and to hear the same from someone whom I consider to be one of the most beautiful creatures on the planet makes me feel like I might actually also be beautiful. Thank you.

[@SydneyKong]

“Or a boat” LMAOOO AHHAHAHA

[@haiking6190]

Milana , Mandy & Chris i watching the game From After Midnight ❤

[@stephaniecoles2138]

I wonder what all the girls who weren’t “checking” for Sterling are feeling now…

[@SydneyKong]

He’s from Sacramento?!?!??! SAMEEEE

[@karenstedman5699]

Love it

[@elocampos]

Estaría genial que los subtítulos estuvieran traducidos al español, intento entender todo pero no es muy bueno mi inglés y también supongo que les pasará a más personas como a mí y es una pena porque sois maravillosos 😊

[@meganjuliaxo]

I love you all and I truly hope you are donating the ad money

[@NeptuneLady1957]

Are you kidding!! I definitely know who Ken Olin is! I have loved him since he was Detective Garibaldi on Hill Street Blues! Never got over Garibaldi's death! 😢😂❤

[@stephaniecoles2138]

I know him from Thirtysomethings. That’s what I thought this show would be like at first.

[@anja4740]

❤

[@csl350]

The picture over Sterling’s left shoulder my Grandmother had in her house!

[@SydneyKong]

Oh she’s sloane but she’s also the lady from the AT&T commercials

[@SydneyKong]

But I think he lied right he wasn’t actually gambling he just used that money to buy the house and even sold his car too

[@ikexbankai]

Next week I hope y’all talk about how Randell does NOT have the same Birthday as Kevin & Kate. Because later on there’s an episode that shows William’s love story and it’s obviously that he had Randell for a few days BEFORE Randell gets to the hospital l. No one ever acknowledges or talks about how NO ONE knows Randell’s true birthday

[@TheOldWorld]

I've also thought about that. They also always make it seem like Randall is the youngest, but he's actually the oldest.

[@csl350]

I think they did. I should remember as I watched twice already.

[@stephaniecoles2138]

I have tried to reconcile this, thinking that these scenes we’re seeing are happening simultaneously but it still seems that he is older. I guess as far as coming in to the family he was the third.

[@stefanienovodor4936]

I thought Randall said that in season six?

[@li1p0ptart]

Randall does mention it in season 5 I believe, that he probably doesn’t even have the same birthday

[@imhere2saveyou]

This is episode 11 but marked 13 0:15 😂

[@TheOldWorld]

They're discussing Episode 11 of This is Us Season 1 on Episode 13 of the That Was Us the podcast. They've done a few interview episodes of the podcast in addition to the rewatch.

[@OneLoveRSR]

Both Mandy and Sterling were correct in the original Pearson House exterior. It was only fully featured ONCE in season 1 and it didn't have a porch AND, instead, it had a stoop with an upstairs balcony. We only saw, what we know now as the Pearson House, a few times in season 2 before the Super Bowl episode, but it feels like we've known that as the only exterior all along.

[@ericaleach1110]

I love the $200 two-bedroom apartment 😂