EP 6 - I Almost Broke My Celibacy Last Week... OOPS! | Fighting Temptation

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[@Whoistiffanynicole]

Don’t revisit anything! He has not expressed a desire to be with you or any intentions on building w you. You have come to far in your healing journey to take 10 steps back. Do not start attempting to move towards anything or assume anything unless he makes his intentions clear vocally on being w you. And willing to show you his intentions. Other than that he is just a friend…and don’t go to his house again, let alone his bed! Protect your heart and move w wisdom.

[@daniellerichardson3636]

i definitely agree if he doesn't have any real intent to be serious and be committed dont even open that door at all

[@shavontaknowes]

Agreed

[@londiew7624]

💯

[@monicabro0404]

I love the way you broke that down

[@chryshawndaadams8429]

Thatttt part!!!

[@Vickie262]

Don't go back. You were delivered for a reason.

[@Crystal-ow2gm]

It trips me out how he STILL doesn’t want to commit to you? The comment about “if I marry someone, they’ll need to know I’m not cutting you out” is INSANE?! I hate how men just let “The one” go! Literally, mind blowing!

[@brookeyboo713]

Very good point 🤯

[@txm.9021]

It's all game. He knows she's not the one for him that's why he's still not committing. I hope she doesn't go for that. If he really loved her she would be the one he would marry. Why would he say "i have to tell my WIFE, I'm not cutting her off" 😂😂😂 sounds like he wouldn't be ready to be married then 😂 he's basically calling her his favorite clown 🤡 I can't with him 🤮 out

[@TheodoreBakes]

@@txm.9021 yep basically!! I had that same situation with my first childs dad (my child passed) so we still communicate but once he told me that, I was like ohhh yea, leave that all the way alone. just be cordial.

[@LoNicely]

This point‼️ He still has feelings for her. If I was the wife you for sure would have to dead that, kissing her while she’s sleeping… 🫤

[@karlitabell1735]

I feel like when they say that it’s just a control thing. You will marry someone else but not me like why keep me around as your friend because then the wife will feel some type of way. Naw let your wife be your friend. 😂😮

[@sodavidhill]

You mentioned in a previous episode that you're going to start going to God and asking Him for guidance and not make a decision without Him. This is a perfect opportunity to do so. 🤓 ask Him what you should do. His answer is more valuable than anything we suggest

[@amberbug90]

Yep, she said she was gonna go to God first. Stay with that.

[@TheodoreBakes]

FACTS!!

[@amirarenee8876]

💯

[@rashannagibson2945]

Best suggestion!

[@ericagreen8803]

Yes I love this consult Jesus- he has the last say period!!!

[@sahnrain2791]

😂😂😭 B that is NOT your husband. He seems like a smooth talker who knows you very well and uses that to his advantage! If I was your friend I'd convince you to not even be his friend!! Love him only as a memory girl.

[@Sl-gi7om]

Been there!!

[@zahriarhyne5967]

my sentiment exactly!

[@danilaroche1156]

Stay far away. You were just a convenience for him. Only date or talk to a true Godly man with sincere intentions.

[@dagifted_1]

One prayer God always answers FAST..... If this person is not meant for me or doesn't need to be in my life, please remove them!

[@anitramonique5694]

Absolutely!!!!

[@Lavi_407]

Whew! You telling the truth😮‍💨And some folks are afraid to pray this too cause they already know what God about to do🌪️

[@kende2079]

If this isn’t the truth then I don’t know what is!

[@TheodoreBakes]

aint this the truth!! I be shocked how quick he is

[@NishaC16]

And you right!!!!

[@kiylaamari5937]

In my opinion, from when he said ‘when he gets married, he will tell his wife that he won't be cutting you off’ that would have been everything I would have needed to hear. I loved this episode and your honesty! Cheers to continued celibacy lol ❤

[@Lavi_407]

That part!❤

[@dyrandoms]

There you go! Cause clearly he doesn’t see her as his wife.

[@annaR973]

exactly! he doesn't see B as his wife! let him go

[@Lavi_407]

@@annaR973 He literally confirmed it😞Get out the way B🥺🙏🏽❤️From a biblical standpoint, I would’ve corrected him and let him know that his wife’s feelings and his marriage supersede whatever they had. And I doubt B would want her husband saying that to her😭Speaking from experience: I cut off a platonic childhood friend because the relationship was no longer deemed appropriate in my opinion once he found his wife. I’m not finna be hitting you up and crying on your shoulder or taking long rides with you. You are someone’s husband sir😌 It’s just so inappropriate and disrespectful.

[@kiylaamari5937]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@Lavi_407this! No regard or respect for his would be wife at all and if he wouldn't respect her, he wouldn't respect B. B said that she wanted to be chosen, him saying these little things would give the illusion of him ‘choosing’ B and would get her to drop her guard which it did. Hopefully she's prays on it and gets her answer. I too have ended many platonic friendships for the same reason!

[@MySpiritualDesire]

A quote I love is “ don’t go back because you’re too impatient to wait for better” something like that & it stuck!

[@timiaforeman8469]

Lying in a man’s bed who isn’t your husband is problematic sis. He’s not your friend and you’re not “healed”. Healing is continuous & we will always have the scars of the past until we get our glorified body. So I lift you up in this season of your life because it’s a truly pivotal moment in your growth & faith walk 🫶🏾 be encouraged and not condemned, you’re walking this out in real time. The flesh is weak , so do the opposite of what it wants.

[@Sl-gi7om]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@jazzsoapandbubbly]

Yes healing is continuous but just because you have scars doesn't mean your not healed

[@jasminecooper8610]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@misse39178]

💕👏🏽

[@ashleycaroleartistry5365]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@IrisCannon]

“ it’s been a long time since big mama has felt this” Girlll I love you down ❤❤❤❤❤thank you for your transparency because the timing of this video is divine!!

[@rwallace0110]

It’s a hard no. Please don’t go back. I’m praying for you sis.

[@t.i948]

People can easily mirror you B. Please keep moving forward!!!

[@hannahedwards9675]

Fast and pray for your answer! Ask for signs because often times not everything that glitters is gold and people pretend well. I almost broke mine and im so happy I didnt because I met my soulmate after and im in a healthy happy relationship

[@amberbug90]

Great testimony

[@IamMarisaChrista]

Sis don’t revisit anything. I would only say to consider it if he is the one that brings up revisiting. Because what can repeat is you and him getting back together in a situationship. And we don’t want that for you love. You deserve someone that’s going to claim you and court you and do right by you. Revisiting will not be your idea. I’m also struggling with believing that he didn’t know he kissed you but you know him best. Proud of you sis. ❤

[@txm.9021]

Even part of this is not good advise. The fact that B. reached out just made it easy for him because it's clear to see even if he is the one to initiate revisiting on his end he just wanna smash or is just bored coming back for her to stroke his ego because B made him feel wanted because she didn't have self love at the time & then after he probably will go back to doing the same mess. Just wanna see if he still got her. She needs to leave for good. And not revisit anything. God showed her it ALL. Why would she consider someone like that. God forbid they end up in a actual relationship it will be insecurities and all. He is who he is. People change but let him be the change with someone else. He will suck her dry and not give 2 shxx

[@Shefightsdifferent]

Amen sis!! I recently wrote a post that I refuse to go back to anything I prayed to get free from

[@giselleirankunda92]

Babes, nooo! I don’t believe he has completely changed. I believe he’s been watching your journey, and your healed heart and he knows what you desire. So he’s molding himself to fit what you’re looking for! I know your guts is telling you to run the other way! If you let him in, he will break your heart even more.

[@WaveRosee]

B don’t go back. What you’re describing sounds like a soul tie. Those are extremely hard to overcome but they’re not from God. Honestly you still sound like you’re in love and I totally get it!! I do. But just think if you feel this way about Mirage, how you will feel about your husband. The more entangled you get with Mirage the less emotionally available you will be for the man God has for you. Don’t go back! Remain steadfast and pray for clarity. Thank you for sharing! We’ve ALL been here

[@feedyourfaith7392]

She had the same soul tie for DaBaby. Some people love getting played. Why cycle back to someone who hurt you deeply.

[@danilaroche1156]

​Why cycle back? Unbroken soul ties, naive thinking. Believing in fairy tales. Loneliness. Witchcraft. I went back to an ex but I honestly think he put a spell on me. No joke. He was promising marriage too but he lied. I am not going to even kiss till I'm married. FR.

[@WaveRosee]

@@danilaroche1156lol! The last guy I dated was mad bc I wouldn’t kiss him. But I was like SIR, you just told me you had a one night stand like two weeks ago. We’re not in a commitment so do you, but don’t get mad at me bc I’m not interested in whatever you have going on in that mouth that you’re so willing to share with strangers. Tighten up and then we can talk. Simple math.

[@NotDefeated91]

57:42 you knew the answer! Him rolling over and not even wanting to talk after rejection speaks volumes. That’s a game they like to play to guilt trip you 😂 I know the ending of this story far too well. VULNERABILITY 🚫✋🏾 throw that ish in the trash 🚮 Move on and move forward. I’ve almost fallen for temptation too but God said, “Is what I have in store for you not worth your patience?” And I immediately snapped out of it. Keep breaking those strongholds. Remember your values. Make a covenant with God! 🤞🏾 And use your discernment at all times

[@billilauryn2024]

Yesss!! That was the tell sign for me too ! Him rolling over and not wanting to talk about her saying no - the fact that he peacefully went to sleep and she was up wide awake.. no ma’am run!!! Before you need another 5 years of healing ! That’s not your husband-

[@sophialatriece]

THIS!!!

[@annep7602]

I folded after 5 months strong. It wasn’t worth it but if I can do 5 months I can do more. Also B don’t go back…. Idc. While y’all praying for her, pray for me too.

[@amberbug90]

The Lord is with u. Fast, pray, and get in them Scriptures TOUGH and listening to some sermons/messages TOUGH. PRAY ALWAYS. Gotta have that armor on and secure. WE ARE AT WAR‼️The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak! Building that intimacy and dependency with the Lord is gonna help u to be enduring/steadfast, unmovable and abounding in the work of the Lord Your taste for what is not good for u WILL change. But u gotta train yourself! 1 Corinthians 15:58 Ephesians 6:10-18 Matthew 26:40-43

[@Shefightsdifferent]

I will be standing in agreement with you! Forgive yourself and receive the Fathers love and forgiveness. There is no condemnation in Christ. Block, and walk away. Don’t revisit their socials or reread those text… it’s a trap! You got this and He has you!

[@IAmKenyattaGadson]

That F boy video almost made me cry. It’s not easy being vulnerable and starting over. So many men really do take us for granted. But in the end God will bless us with the Godly man we need. Through the good and the bad. I’m happy to see your growth B. 💝

[@thesinglemomlifecoach]

Thanks for sharing this. I’m sure 80-90% of us have been here and probably won’t admit it. This is why I like this podcast… real and funny. There aren’t deep talks about this real struggle instead it’s service level stuff like pray, don’t do it, etc Thanks for talking it out with us because this will help us set boundaries etc for the walk we are on too. Thanks B!

[@LolaLoneWolf]

Unless he pursues you with intention to marry, there is no need to go backwards. An ex is an experience in a LOT of cases not worth trying again!

[@jannellevans3598]

There is the possibility that the prayer was game. When a man knows wat a woman wants he can pretend to be that thing to get the girl not b/c thats his true core character

[@LoNicely]

The unsolicited kiss…🔮🐍 Keep it moving B! It’s too familiar. Don’t even know if it’s worth being platonic because the right conversation will open you back up and lead back to place you had to fight hard to heal from. Hoping you have a great accountability partner for the lifestyle you’re trying to pursue.

[@QuorisWorld]

We love the transparency! I had to go back and edit my comment because my initial comment was post video but now that I’m listening I’m like B . It’s a trap! We can’t say that he has not changed only God can truly confirm that. But I was in the same situation. Don’t do it. Don’t put yourself in that situation. If he had no mention of wanting to be with you in any way shape or form. He can pray all night long speak in tongues… etc… IT WILL BE A LOST CAUSE. This is a test. He is not the one. You can be associates but true friends seems to be quite the stretch. All it takes is one time of you being vulnerable and his human nature will take over. You’re being too gitty and happy about that moment yall shared which shows that there is some confusion. And what do we always say.?! GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSING! cut that friend stuff short and move on lol. Take it from someone who has been there before. You’ll know the difference when your spouse is God Sent. You’ll know. Stop playing with that ex please! lol ok now bye ✌🏽 😂

[@eventfuldreams2087]

He definitely tried the first night you stayed over and even before….. but he was testing your temperature. That day you were depressed was the perfect opportunity to go for it. You in dangerous waters B. Run!

[@feedyourfaith7392]

I don't think she see it, he will hurt her again😢

[@sierrathomas2696]

I believe that the part of your healing process with him is to accept that letting him go is part of it. You don't have to give the new version of him a chance. That is not a friend, that's a hinder to your future growth. Understand the season and what his role is truly ment to be seen as.

[@MelaninFire]

Girl he can pray, scream amd shout. Don't be blinded because he's praying now. It just seem like he's too smooth and intelligent, and he knows what you want. Kinda like a best friend, but yall are attractive to each other physically. Don't double back.

[@tracienichole]

I lift up B Simone, right now in the name of Jesus! I pray you will give her wisdom and knowledge in this situation with her ex. Give her peace and continue to surround her with Love, amen! 🙏🏾

[@reshondashanklin7576]

Love is more than good conversation. His actions, words, would line up. Plus being there at 2am is no good.

[@Shefightsdifferent]

Sis please keep pressing towards the mark and the narrow path! I’ve been on this restart to celibacy for over 5 yrs and it hasn’t been easy but worth it! I’ve made up my mind that I’m not just “waiting for marriage” but honoring the Father with my body. I’ve came close but what has kept me is 1. Knowing that He always gives a way of escape. 2. No real commitment from a man of God. 3. Remembering obedience is better than sacrifice. 4. Remembering how hard it was to cut that last soul tie. I pray the Lord will keep you strong! I’ve been tested a lot lately but passed! I pray you and anyone else who reads this will pass the test as well. 🦋

[@loveafrica97]

I rarely think it’s necessary to share with someone who’s hurt you that you’ve healed … it just feels like a gateway back in for them, especially after years of no contact. But to each their own.

[@canDANCEbrown923]

i just feel like the man of God you're looking for wouldnt even invite you into his bed at 2am.

[@Suziee_Suee]

Literally! Why couldn’t he take the couch!

[@audreannabond2927]

The level of maturity you have should make you understand to leave the past in the past . I think deep down you have never truly got over what could have been , when you wanted him to choose you . That’s okay . You love him . That’s perfectly fine . Love yourself more . Indefinitely. If he has changed that is great FOR HIM . Has nothing to do with you . And the sleeping with your circle in the past out of spite . NO! B stay out that man bed and out his life . Be cool from a distance and leave the door open for the man who is ready to get it right the first time . Trust me : I’m telling you because I did it for 5 years. Love you bye ❤

[@sloesithole2712]

I love how u are kind and loving but also telling her a hard truth..often times we mean well but our delivery sounds judgmental or preachy.God bless you

[@tiaraa5382]

Girl, pray on it. That kiss in the middle of the night then not remembering he did it is…fishy to me. 🤔 🤣 But if God’s giving you the green light, no one else’s opinion matters.

[@victoriaa0207]

I said the same thing! He was dropping things little by little so, that she was comfortable. And talking about “when I get married she’s gonna have to be okay with you” 🥴 Negro bye

[@jediahmusic]

Right was gaslighting the heck out of her when he said he didn't know he kissed her. The proof is that he tried her sexually again, KNOWING she's on a celibacy journey. It's sad she didn't catch that.

[@AlantraAustin]

@@jediahmusici hope she see this !!

[@jakaylaemani]

No, don’t go back. It didn’t work for a reason. Ultimately, he’s still the same person… everything that glitters ain’t gold lol

[@JazmineLue]

I love this perspective! I don’t want to sound close minded when I say people don’t change but that’s what I think lol I completely agree with “he’s still the same person” 😬

[@hickslovehealing5887]

A lot of people have the moments; in the ‘those moments’ we remember ONLY the “good” But when you GET real with yourself; account the reasons why it wasn’t for you.. Be honest w/yourself… Hope you figure it out ❤

[@keandragibbs]

B Simone literally had me in tears in my eyes because sometimes God will show us who people are he is prepared her for her Husband and who God really has for her . LOVE B FOR BEING HONEST. ❤❤❤❤

[@karenaltamirano9793]

Look at ALL these women telling you NOT TO GO BACK. It’s for a reason. I think I’ve commented 3 separate times and I NEVER do that, not even one comment lol. But I really feel strong about this. Keep moving forward B !! He’s not the one for you. You’re just getting looped in again. Trust US !! I’m telling you this from experience. These guys read you and recognize our patterns and they KNOW what they can get away with.

[@meekocicero1010]

It’s great that you both have grown, but it sounds like y’all should just be friends. The attraction & the prayer doesn’t not mean he’s your husband. I truly believe you’ll find the man who STARTS off right & is ALL THE WAY on the path with the Lord. You got this bae 🫶🏾✨

[@mikekarpouzie]

B he didn’t reach out to you to apologize for the past, you reached out to him. He clearly wasnt as impacted by the situationship yall had before bc he was consistently cheating and playing you. You opened the door now and gave him the perfect opportunity and game plan to play you again. You think he’s grown and changed and whole time he’s playing you again because youve allowed him back into your life and gave him the game plan to manipulate you. As a man, I have a different perspective on all this bc I can see exactly what he’s doing 😭

[@loveafrica97]

This is what I thought but hearing it from a man confirmed it. I’ve been there too.. he really didn’t care but if given the opportunity he’d try cause why not right? Smh..

[@AlexsusSherman]

I agree with the ladies who say dont revisit. I AGREE DO NOT Revisit. Bc your in a healthy relationship with God and yourself. He may still have some learning/guidance in his own journey.

[@brittanyandria5614]

Dang this was the conversation that I just had with myself! Girl do not go back lol and I'm proud of you for going strong I've been 3 months celibate. Dang it's been HARD!!! BUT we can do it with God's help!

[@ravenjanaya]

Heavy on God’s help!

[@barnesfamilylocdnlove521]

I doubled back on a Ex and God showed me why he got left in the past. Heartbreak all over maybe worse since it was reopening a wound that the lord healed once. You going to do what you do but please listen to God. I WOULD NEVER DOUBLE BACK AGAIN!! I know that for sure!

[@karenaltamirano9793]

I wish your comment got more likes. Great advice from someone who has a unfortunately gone back.

[@lyndreal.mcneill2774]

No mam…let it go and keep it platonic. Ppl can definitely change and grow but that doesn’t mean that’s your person. Allow God to bring who he has for you to you! Enjoyed this episode!

[@SimoneCox-gg1ns]

1, 2, 3, test test test!! Don’t do it. If you truly ready for the one then you gotta be ready to say goodbye to the past not bring the hurt and pain with you. Learn, grow, and release. This just means your happiness is near. Praying for you 🙏🏾.

[@jessiembaldwin]

I feel like almost every woman has been where you are B. I def have been there, it always ends the same. You’ve already learned and healed from it. Pray him AWAY!!!

[@zbchefin]

Slithering under the gate is medical 🤣🤣

[@kadeijadalrymple137]

INSANE!!!😂😂😂

[@zbchefin]

@@kadeijadalrymple137 literally 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@shes_ah_truckher7716]

Mann I applaud you for this foreal…you didn’t give into temptation (especially Someone from your past) That’s amazing!! Most ppl would of gave in to that desire and YOU WON 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️ Remain friends until he show you that he’s ready for commitment. Not just with words, but with his actions. Stay strong, keep praying. We never know how God works, he can bring ppl back together in different seasons.

[@LiyahMichelle]

So I literally went through the exact same thing a couple weeks ago and all I can say is thank you for your vulnerability and that you are human and mistakes can be made but I’m so happy your learning from your lessons and healing. I personally did the same as you and stopped it and happy I did as that chapter is closed with no intentions of going backwards, but it was a great learning moment for me again to see that although he has healed and is a better person today he’s just not my person and I’m okay with that. 🧡🧡🧡

[@cassomijackson7113]

What’s for you won’t never leave you! Your path is in front of your, never behind you! We’ve all done this especially me but when you know better you do better. Temptation is everywhere and we can’t distract ourselves and put ourselves in that mindset or in that realm. You know what you need to do…. Go with your first mind! Pray about it, God has all the answers. Love and light B! ❤❤

[@Perismylife]

In my opinion, I would say is best to let God decide if you want to be with somebody or not. I know a lot of people think like oh no, don’t be with your ex and so but you don’t know that you know that your ex or somebody who is your friend for years or somebody from your past could come and be your next man or woman I would say only God can tell who will be your one true love my advice to you,Miss Simone focus on being celibate focus on yourself and God will give you the answer. You deserve when that time comes.

[@trenaeborders6192]

Congratulations to the growth that God allowed you to experience within yourself!!! To your question, continue not putting yourself in any tempting situations even if he expresses that he wants to try again. When a man really wants you they will respect your boundaries and standards and will be persistent in their pursuit of you. So with that being said let him show and prove if that's what he wants. A man will play a part just to get what he wants but if you make him work and take you serious, he'll respect you even if he decides to no longer pursuit you "romantically".

[@prettybrown6247]

Girl I think you was pushing it by sleeping in the bed with him 🤣 And he definitely know he kissed you. I believe he was trynna test you to see where everything was and if you were gonna allow it. I’ve learned spinning the block is so dead and majority of the time it never progresses 😩 Makes me glad I’m still abstinent cause you can see things so much clearer when you keep your legs closed.

[@BabeKay01]

True

[@AshtynWashington]

Thisssssss!!! Men will wait you out

[@faithgyal5769]

Yes, he was testing tf outta her, talking bout some "I doN't ReMemBeR kIsSinG yOu LaSt NiGht" Boy, you grown. You remember that. Stop playing with me. Lolllll

[@kiarajames97]

Exactly this!

[@prettybrown6247]

@@faithgyal5769🤣🤣🤣 right! It seems like B Simone shoulda known she was doing alot being in the bed with this man. That’s not platonic at alln

[@anitramonique5694]

You had my undivided attention with this video 🤣 and Kudos to you for not breaking your celibacy because baby I know it had to be hard! 😮‍💨 I will say unless he expresses to you that he wants to be with you and prove it, I wouldn’t double back! He definitely could be on his own path of self healing and getting closer to GOD but praying for you and all the other changes you have noticed is simply not enough. Only time will tell! Keep the story time coming because I really enjoyed this episode!!!

[@Arie-cc3dy]

I love the behind the scenes footage and also the realness that we are able to see for learning and enjoyment

[@marshaeday3569]

I’m not doubling back, especially when God has delivered me from that situation, or that person who isn’t good for me and if I’m trying to live a Godly life by his will and his word, I cannot disobey him by going back to what hurt me no matter if it seems like it’s better. it’s important to be aware of counterfeits. “But among you there must not be either sexual immorality, impurity of any kind, or greed, as these are not fitting for the saints.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5‬:‭3‬ ‭NET‬

[@moyeeh310]

Keep being friends and develop that relationship that way without blurring the lines. Friendship is still fresh and just because he has changed does not mean he is ready to handle your heart with care. Keep getting to know the new version of each other but I would say keep moving forward and don’t double back.

[@AkilahsWorld]

The counterfeit always comes before the real. He’s the counterfeit

[@leleLOVE411]

B, so much good and growth has came out of your healing journey. Please do not go back. If he’s getting closer to God and becoming a better man, that’s great for him but that’s doesn’t mean he’s the one for you. There are better men who will recognize your worth and treat you better without the toxicity. I’m proud of you for standing on business and not sleep with him. You’re being very nice to even want to be friends with him… he probably doesn’t even deserve that. It’s still a mirage!

[@v_onthekinks]

Just be his friend - you need ALOT more than just seeing those things to consider him being in your life in any other capacity. Plus you still need more time to heal from all the other relationship endings that just happened the last 2-3 years babes.

[@prettlocs1]

The realness in the description of how that went down was so relatable. Thanks for being so transparent ❤

[@IAMPVTRK]

First I must say I love your transparency in this video! I always have loved your content and pray you keep this up. To answer your question, NO!! Absolutely NOT! The downfall of doing that is you are not clear on who he is as a person even if it seems that he has matured mentally and spiritually. I say no also because from the timeline of how things have transpired between the two of you, it seems as if he's only interested to (get something out of it so to speak). Because if he knows you are getting closer to God and living in Celibacy he would not try to tempt you in any manner, or he should not. The devil moves in sneak attack mode if you are not clear on anything it is not of God, Even when he prayed you said you kept one eye open, that means you can't trust him as far as you can throw him don't fall for the trap. The devil knows scripture too. However; I do understand that maturity doesn't happen overnight as well as a new relationship in Christ so I am not here to judge, it's only with love and protection. Guard your heart and temple. you can't confuse matrimony (lifetime) with one night of a almost mistake due to temptation of loneliness, and no sex. I'm proud of you for not giving into temptation! Your discipline is inspiring. Keep your eyes on your purpose your true love will come in due time.

[@samlachillis8614]

Don’t overthink this situation. You know what to do and you’re trying to talk yourself into something else. Let things flow without you trying to make a move either way. It’s no problem having him as a friend, but if things go further let him make the moves and effort to do so. You ask if that’s your husband, but is he asking are you his wife? When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. Stand on your growth and your husband will find you love ❤️

[@chanelmarie7214]

When I tell you that you are such a good story teller. …. Believe it. Sheesh! We’ve all been here.

[@tiffanysabrinag]

I just love your transparency and your journey thanks for sharing it because it really be helping your girl out. But don’t double back B, I’m glad you were mature enough to forgive and now you guys are in a good space, leave it at that. I see God having so much more in store for you and if you ask the ladies who are now with the love of their lives those brothers never took them for granted and if they did they don’t let them get far! Keep your options open

[@jraysor24]

This just blessed me! I am also celebate...14 months and counting prayerfully 🙏🏾🙏🏾 its nice to pass the test but being aware on whether you need that test, is another. Keep going B and i stand in agreement with you girl. God got us, just keep talking to Him for direction 🙏🏾 🙌🏾

[@inkfaery222]

There is definitely maturity especially to not let anything happen tht night but as for revisiting tht feeling I get the back and forth in your head and at tht point if it’s in your cards than it will be but for now stay focused and if he truly has changed and love you you will see wht it is tht will seal the deal I dnt see nothing wrong with falling for a old love bc when your young we dnt have the best judgment time only reward us with more knowledge and growth love you B🩵🩵🩵

[@tywoodson7660]

Don't spend the block... I did that healed, matured, and married him... but we were 2 different ppl and he thought I was punishing him the whole marriage due to guilt... he treated me so bad especially when I was pregnant with his child... and now we are divorced and he has been out to get me ever since because I divorced him... in other words, it a reason why yall didn't work out... the fact that yall can be friends is a blessing... don't mess that up... some ppl are not meant to be ur husband even with a good connection... but at the end of the day maybe ur outcome will be different... Good luck beautiful!! Just let God guide u in ALL u do😘😘

[@coukeys17]

Omg girl. I never knew that video was your's. I can relate on so many levels. Glad you are healed and still healing and figuring all this stuff out. God bless Edit: Girl laying in his bed and being all up in his house in hoe hours is not being platonic. I know your still healing but dont continue the pattern of delulu land. Break free girl. Those feelings were not fake and they dont ever really go away. Once you've experienced a high level of intimacy like sex, there's no such things as being friends. Those memories will never go away. Old Habits Die Hard!!!!!!

[@Lavi_407]

I think there may be a lack of self awareness regarding her true feelings. Would B have invited him to church with his girlfriend? Would she have been reaching out if he was unavailable romantically? The sharing of vulnerability was how he was able to creep back in. She should’ve never reached out to him; especially at her low point. And trust and believe, he remembers that kiss. That is game 101😏My brother shook his head when he heard that part😭🤦🏽‍♀️😮‍💨 Run boo. Release him to Jesus and don’t look back🙏🏽

[@Meishaa_]

WE LOVE YOU B! Thank you for being honest! 🫶🏽🖤

[@Naeeomiiii]

B! Please do NOT revisit. A ex is a ex for a reason. No matter how much they have grown. They are a ex for a reason. You’ve grown and healed tooooo much to double back to the same thing that broke you. I love you. Keep it platonic💕💕💕

[@Maeshia]

I shouldn’t be laughing this hard at work watching you tell this story lol😂

[@anitramonique5694]

Girl yes!! 🤣🤣 I am at work now and was ctfu!

[@NaNa_NaNa6]

At work too 😂

[@sydneytarleton1333]

Bruhhhhh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@anyyyyyyyyyyyy]

First, I want to commend you for your transparency. With that said, I believe it's best to let this friendship go entirely. True healing (from an ex), in my view, involves forgiving from a distance. This chapter has closed, and a new one awaits, free from past pain and repressed memories. I will pray for your strength, clarity, and discernment as you move forward. ❤

[@n_cbell]

Loved this episode, you had me cracking up! But thank you for being so open with us. I wouldn't suggest returning to an ex unless God made it clear to you that was the path he wanted you to take. It's taken a lot for you to heal & move forward. You don't want to undo that hard work. Although he's matured the enemy could possibly be using this situation as a distraction causing you to take 10 steps back. Remain friends & avoid each other's homes! ❤

[@SheedMack88]

He saw u say ain’t no man prayed for you on the podcast… “DONT FALL Fa Da Ish Bih!” 👌🏾😂

[@theChariteTV]

Exactly what I was thinking. Don’t fall for it B!!!

[@realjazzi]

Right!

[@txm.9021]

Facts lol. He think he got game. But we here for her. We not letting him play you sis!

[@renekasizer8128]

Omg I SAID THE SAME THING.

[@Cimonne]

Thank you thank you thank you for the transparency💓. I do believe mistakes do happen and there’s growth 🌱! I would say just pray on this. And yesss more storytimes !

[@PrincessBanger]

B let it go. Praying for your strength, clarity and understanding. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@regsarp]

Hey B ❤️ in all honesty, and this is personally but I hope it’s helpful, it’s time to let that go. As someone eco has experienced something similar, I had to ask myself “who do I love more? Him or me?” That question may seem silly, and most people think they’d say themselves but you’d be surprised how we idolize people and the way they make us feel. When I asked myself that question the first time, the answer was him. I wanted to help him and see him grow more than I wanted it for myself and that was an eye opener. God is love and not the author of confusion. So love and confusion could never exist together. If it’s not a heck yea , it’s a heck NO.

[@llaw8760]

We love you B!! This is definitely a soul tie. He told you who ever his wife is, will need to accept you- he’s made it plain to you that “his wife” is not you. Some men play in the background- not because they “can’t let us go” but because they know how we feel about them, and them being able to come and go as they please without commitment, works for them physically and for their ego. Don’t be dismayed, and don’t take this the wrong way but you were available, and he made himself available at that time. When a man feels like he can “get it” no matter what spiritual journey you proclaim you are on, if/when his intentions are WRONG, the test and the “almost sex” did exactly what it was meant to do, and that’s to disturb your peace, push you 10 steps back in your journey, waste your time and to show you that you aren’t “over” them. Pray about it, and if you are serious in your journey to HUSBAND, don’t allow any man but YOUR HUSBAND, sleep in a bed with you. #KeepPushing!

[@SharonGoldman-r7h]

AMEN!!!

[@sosbwc]

I was thinking the same thing about the "wife" comment. It was a direct red flag put smoothly for someone who is truly in love with him.

[@stephanierobinson1310]

Exactly!!!!

[@danilaroche1156]

I'm going to subscribe but I encourage you to be more classy & ladylike. Be you but tone it down a bit. Especially when you meet your spouse. Godly men like a dignified lady & you can still be fun. Your too loud and the cussin? Chile...not a cute look. Nevertheless, I love you!

[@ChocolateEmojii]

Go to God B. We only know what you’ve shared. God knows it all and both of y’all hearts desires and real intentions!

[@krystals-kv1by]

B. SIMONE!!! I literally have tears in my eyes because when you said he prayed right before that in my spirit, I felt like God could be setting you up for your husband. This is the thing, you prophesied to your future by naming your podcast, Let’s try this again! There is nothing strange or peculiar about some things coming back full circle when you’ve healed and doing things the right way✨ May God continue to bless you!

[@ladykeiaj]

God is not going to put her in a circumstance such as being in the bed with an ex and almost falling into sexual immorality and says this is God; that’s not God at all. He’s a God of order and decency. Not a God of lust. He’s a God of love and truth.

[@krystals-kv1by]

@@ladykeiaj The guy coming back around with a changed heart could have been a set up. Tests are allowed by God! It’s up to us to pass. “Resist the devil and he will flea..” Yes, they got pretty far with things but I believe God is still proud of them and their commitment, which ultimately brings Him glory.

[@arielysbibian]

@@krystals-kv1by AMEN! They were once both toxic and self-control wasn't a thing so for them to both agree to stop is HUGE. It was a test and they showed themselves that they are capable to have self-control and to communicate in a healthy manner. That's growth right there!! It also shows how good God is!

[@krystals-kv1by]

@@arielysbibian absolutely‼️♥️

[@nycrosalie]

I have doubled back on an ex & after being back together for 7 years, we tied the knot last month on the 24th. Same scenario, young love, he broke my heart, I prayed myself out of that heartbreak.. it took forever to get over him!!!!!!!! We rekindled our relationship years later, he had matured and realized where he failed us previously. These past 7 years have been years or pure GROWTH on both of our ends and it’s been such a beautiful thing to witness and be apart of. We BOTH became believers and have been seeking the Lord consistently. God has truly changed our lives as individuals & together as a unit! He restored soo much in us. It all worked out but not in OUR timing, in God’s. If God is the center of your relationship, no amount of past pain and trauma can’t be healed and restored if you BOTH want the relationship and allow God to work through both of you. In any decision that you make, I wish you the best🥰🙏🏽

[@blesswomenofGod]

B! So proud of you! Continue to be his friend and be obedient to the voice of the Lord! AND ABSOLUTELY NO SLEEPOVERS! 😇🩷

[@shygirl8773]

If you are truly seeking Gods guidance He will let you know if it’s meant to be.. From personal experience I had to completely cut off a friendship because of the temptation. I cried and feelings were hurt but I want every part of my life to bring glory to God. So stay in prayer sis and God will show you the way to go❤🙏🏾

[@MsShelley438]

I love these solo episodes!!! I love how you’re so relatable and keep it real and also super funny. No one is perfect and we are all encountering our own challenges. #LTTA❤

[@barnesfamilylocdnlove521]

Baby that FBOY video took me back!! I was going through it at the time too so I remember watching that video like FELT!! Thank God for deliverance 🙏🏽😂😂😂

[@topseekrit]

You're such a hilarious storyteller! Praying for you is the new play so be careful. In my eyes, twice, while in your sleep, boundaries were crossed when you were most vulnerable. But he likely responded to your energy cause you were up in his bed on both occasions, which is definitely not giving platonic signals. Whether you go back or not, I hope you have peace with your decision and have clearly defined boundaries going forward.

[@chanellharper401]

I spun the block. And have now been with my husband 21 years. We went 8 years without talking to each other, and when we did he never let go. And that was in 2003. Been together ever since. But be clear with his intentions first. Make sure the man is expressing his desire to pursue you.

[@zbchefin]

“We …we might be twins “ B: “where have u been ☝🏼☝🏼” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@brookeyboo713]

I’m proud of you for practicing self control! That is a fruit of the spirit. God, has revealed to you how far things can go with your friend. If you are truly committing to your new lifestyle, I believe it would be best to only meet with your friend in public locations because you know things can get steamy in private. Stay true to your relationship with the Father. We don’t serve a Father of confusion. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ 14:33 He will work it out. Stay patient B. Love you. Keep fighting the good fight.

[@LeNitaJo]

The way I ammmm in the floor laughing at him squeezing the grape!!! 😂😂😂😂😂Bye B! I can’t with you

[@LilLynda]

😂😂 She’s crazy and so real for this!! I fell tf ouuttt!!!

[@kaylakelly7133]

Ultimately you should just do what makes YOU happy babe , live with no regrets . If that’s what you want to do I say pray on it and let God show you what you need to see .

[@BabeKay01]

though his intentions are plain, do not start moving like he is your husband, if he has not made that commitment . Your imagination will go all kinds of ways, until he proposes he is not your husband.” Few questions to ask when your pursuing someone Who is this man submitted to? If his answer isn’t God. Think again. He will lead you astray & cause you to return back to what you’ve overcome Has he been discipled or is being discipled ? Does his life Honor God? Is he leading you astray from the faith?

[@bianelysjavier3411]

Don't go back and also be very careful even with this friendship because even that can cause confusion, the enemy is sneaky. Remember that God already brought you through this and it took you years to heal. IF it is meant to be, God will show you that. But given the history it can be very hard to see that or expect that. Pray on it, you'll find your answers. WE LOVE YOU, B!

[@hannahsonnier6302]

“next 🥷🏾 that break my heart gonna have to square up …. On God” !!! 😂😂 lawddd I used to say that soooooo much , I’m bouta bring it back , bc they can still get dat smoke !

[@jayme4214]

i feel like if he was a true healed man of God, he would’ve prayed for you the night you were weeping. instead of inviting you into his home and bed. he would’ve sat with you, prayed with you and talked with you from the beginning. it’s a no for me. don’t go back, there’s a truly healed, beautiful man of God out there for you.

[@kiarasmith5712]

whew this is so real and relatable to my celibacy journey 😮‍💨 and the way you conveyed the story with humor was everything. love it!

[@chantelllovette1264]

I love this! Because it’s so honest! Thank you for sharing! 1. Go to the Lord about him. 2. If he’s not pursuing God and you you will know. If he’s your husband you won’t need to chase it or pressure it. Let him pursue you, look for God in him and consistency and keep it before the Lord. Listen to God and your intuition the first time !