I don't know how to relax, do you? (ASMR)

I start the video talking about the King Diamond graphic novel Abigail based on the album of the same name, then go into the main topic in a calm, soft spoken manner, aka ASMR format.
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[@anormalguy-t42]

Bros voice is tingly even in full tone

[@honkousfain5825]

The man simply doesn't miss

[@WitchKing-Of-Angmar]

​@@honkousfain5825 the ability to speak

[@phoenixyip8935]

A lot of it is the mic too

[@EphemeralRift]

All of it is the mic LOL

[@Jpnotmyname]

Sometimes you are just so used to having problems and having things to worry about, that when you don´t have anything to worry about you just start making up things, making it impossible to just relax.

[@shittyhaircut]

word

[@swagmund_freud6669]

I feel this really hard with university. When I genuinely just have no homework, no upcoming tests to study for, no events to prepare for, my brain just cannot believe it. It searches for anything I could have missed cuz I had to miss something, it's not possible that there isn't any work to be done.

[@doe9de995]

I love to listen to music while I work, weather that's at my manual labor job or working around the house. Its so easy to just turn some tunes on with my phone and just slip it back in my pocket so my hands are free. I find that really anything that I can immerse myself in is great for relaxing. Relaxing doesn't always have to be something idle or quiet, relaxation is what makes you happy.

[@TheSleepy1326]

Agreed! And that’s awesome that you can listen to music while you work. I wish I could, but I’m wearing a headset while driving a 3,000lb tugger around a massive warehouse lmao

[@Alejandro-Ramirez_]

I really relate to what you're saying. Ever since my girlfriend left to join the Army I've felt purposeless, even though I am doing things (fitness, school etc.) There's something lacking in our society that makes us feel like we are in a bottomless pit, a cycle almost. I just want to boost my own morale in some way, I have my methods but sometimes at the end of the day; they simply aren't enough.

[@redneckgaming96]

Enlist

[@thatrocketleaguepro5000]

I will be honest, rift is the only asmrtist I feel I deeply connect with and it feels like he is the only one who doesn’t sugar coat the world. I’m just thankful for him

[@UCANTBEDOWNWITHYOURBUDSAROUND]

You Discovered Stillness and the peace and comfort that comes with it

[@ahiddenforest7623]

Oh god, this is so relatable. People always say to get rest, but *how*???????? I physically can't make myself. I don't know how to. I can't just exist and do nothing. I need to be working on something, need to be moving, or need to be accomplishing something *constantly*. If I don't, I get so uncomfortable, anxious, and just understimulated. I feel good when I'm working on something!! I think my adhd certainly plays a role in it. I also think it's some internalized beliefs that I constantly need to be making the most of the time that I have/need to constantly be productive in some way. If I sit down and don't do anything it feels like I'm wasting time that could be used for something else. It's good that I recognize that I'm happiest when I'm moving and creating, that's how I like to spend my free time, but at the same time it sucks not being able to just exist without the discomfort or the guilt of not doing something. Especially when I am exhausted and barely have the energy to do anything but can't rest to regain my energy because I feel like I need to be doing something. It's a whole mess and an ongoing struggle. Music and asmr have actually been my only tool to be able to just exist in the moment without doing something. I recognize just sitting in silence isn't an option for me because of the adhd but listening to a song on repeat or an asmr video are the only times I can just sit there, do nothing, and feel comfortable and calm.

[@jimlangdon6818]

These Podcasts are phenomenal ER!! Just as relaxing and peaceful as your other performances, you are so relatable to your fans, love the topic, amazing job as usual!

[@GregLemons]

He already has a podcast

[@LordVader1094]

@@GregLemons What's it called?

[@zuckbuck5022]

@@LordVader1094 just look up his channel name on literally any podcast platform?

[@federicomasetti8809]

Actually, walking can be very relaxing. Other people find relaxing going to the gym, or running, or doing stuff, even if it looks like "being busy" to someone else. We're all different and I relate with you about being able to relax when you're doing something. That's also the reason why I decided to make a job out of one of my hobbies. Of course everything changes when it becomes a job, but still, when I'm doing those things I used to do, when it was "just a hobby", I enjoy it, I can relax. And that helps "surviving" all the other moments, which are naturally stressful. Last thing: as it happened with you, when I got older than 30 (almost 8 years ago), I started enjoying the silence. And it's fun, because, on the contrary, my dad, who is 73, still listens to music most of his days. Sometimes I wonder if I got older than him, lol! P.S.: a walk in the nature, especially in the mountains (for me) is the best :)

[@TheEllaDarling]

The other day I tried to find the origin of "Good Now" on the channel and instead ended up watching the first 10 or so videos in the ER universe playlist

[@ladygravenly]

If this speaking series ever goes away my heart will be 💔.

[@EphemeralRift]

Oh great, no pressure, gee thanks ;)

[@boi5375]

@@EphemeralRift lol

[@sturmifan]

good now to you all, especially to you ER. hope all of you are doing well, preferably splendtastic or whatever lies beyond. if you are by any chance just doing ok, that's also, well, ok. thank you for all the content you are putting out there for us to watch and listen to for free. thank you so so much, this helps so many people of us calm down, I really appreciate you. thank you

[@cldgt]

I am absolutely in love with this format and i think you should name it and put in a playlist on this channel About the name - in spite of the fact that the series itself have very cozy and comfortable feeling to it, i think it would be great to name it in personal-sensitive way Like the phrase you said in this video "That's just me"

[@CirclesandSounds]

I second this vote!👆

[@Sorin96]

The title says I don't know how to relax, but I'm relaxed while listening to this 😌

[@duygugruz3485]

Occultist, metal head, sci-fi, horror, fantastic movies lover, gamer and asmrist. 😍🤘☺️ Multi-talented person.

[@EphemeralRift]

Well, I’m not at all an occultist. But everything else, yes. :)

[@hellotherefoye7778]

I feel like he would make a very good off-brand G-man asmr

[@Sorin96]

i love these talks, especially when you are doing something. having this in the background helps :)

[@GroggyFroggy666]

Ngl i think nighttime is my favourite part of the day now Especially when we get a new Ephmeral Rift video I always look forward to listening to his videos at night

[@VickyDPi]

Not promoting drug use, but smoking a lil crumb of CBD-weed, then doing 30 mins of yoga, then lying down on the ground, allows me to fully relax and enjoy “doing nothing” without falling asleep. I can lay like that in savasana for an hour or more, meditating or just “going dormant” as I like to think of it. As someone with an ADHD-type brain, this is the only route to true relaxation for me. Most other times my mind is playing 3 radio stations and planning for the future while simultaneously replaying past events. I may look like I’m staring at the wall doing nothing, but it is super busy on the inside. Thanks for sharing, ER. Appreciate your presence on this here website.

[@psuengineer84]

No sleepless nights for this guy

[@thomasnoh5149]

Been listening to Conspiracy a lot this month and I think it might be my favorite now. At the Graves is such an amazing opener for the album and is an overall fantastic sequel for Them.

[@EphemeralRift]

He’s put out so many classics but for whatever reason Abigail is my all time fave. That and Melissa.

[@Imorajna]

This man talking about King Diamond as I'm wearing my Mercyful Fate t shirt. Hell yeah!

[@internationalknight3]

I think you are the one person that DOES know how to relax.

[@KevinLaZur]

I've felt this way before, it's nice to know I'm not alone.

[@almostzentv]

Ahh the return of my favorite videos in the ER channel, thanks Paul!

[@ManoSaarinenCarmanen81]

Same here! And i have noticed it gets worse as i grow older. I'm 41 now and it's so different now than it was when i was in my 20's and even 30's. I have my own KZbin channel too because speaking in front of the camera calms me, not sitting on chair reading, for example. Whenever i get bored and anxious, i want to do a video, go outside or just do something! Video games and music also keeps me busy and those are great anxiety killers for me🤔 About 2 years ago i found this thing called ASMR through your channel and countless videos of your channel has helped me to relax by just listening and not doing anything else. So at least i have found some way to be able to relax other than keeping myself busy all the time ❤️ Your channel means so much to me and i'm sure there are thousands of other people who thinks the same 🙏❤️

[@cattusfattus6369]

These videos are so personal I love it. Thank you.

[@Jvattee]

This one feels like the podcasts you used to do, I miss those

[@AanzAriel]

Your voice plus mic config is soooo good. Years following and u're still the best; love your work.

[@WockhartEnthusiast]

been a while since ive watched, but im really digging this format for videos. Cool to hear your thoughts on things and listen to your life experiences!

[@BaneChain236]

This video really speaks to me. I feel like I have too many hobbies, so when I spend time doing nothing I feel guilty for not spending time on my hobbies. Primarily painting miniatures. There’s a great book called Hyperion that I think you’d really enjoy. It sparked my love for reading again.

[@dash5573]

These are my favorite kinds of videos, fundamentally just you talking, too bad they haven’t been performing as well as some others

[@jxss_snail0532]

I don’t think I could live without music, it’s a huge part of my life that I could never give up. Idk, I find beauty in the memories music holds and I love that about it

[@Max-bw2di]

I feel rather similar, now It's like I cant play videogames if it's not with my friends anymore because it's like I am not doing much, just playing by myself fells like a loss of time, and all of this is getting worse now since I have been studying so much for tests and to enter university, so I can kind of understand you man

[@paulcarmi8130]

Minus the Spanish ad for cascade dishwasher pods, I’m very relaxed.

[@fartmaster6976]

The album Mint Jams by Casiopea is my go-to album to relax to, on top of it just being one of my favorite albums of all time. A great Jazz fusion album and band that I’d recommend

[@MadBunniFun]

Happy Tuesday 👋🏻❤️

[@EphemeralRift]

Happy Wednesday!

[@ryan_yasin]

to be very honest , even though asmr is soothing ... sometimes life dosent really let you relax . more like a moment of peace is what you get . well that technically is relaxing but still , yall get my point

[@hunterwilliams2054]

When I get into this kind of mood I just walk, doesn't matter where or which direction.

[@emilerhard4189]

Although Rifts videos are very relaxing, I can't go to sleep with them cause he is doing/ talking about interesting things

[@KatBatwings]

Sending all the appreciation and love from Australia 💕

[@CirclesandSounds]

This reminds me of my dad when I was growing up, making a goofy voice, “let’s pretend there’s nothin’ ta do, mmkay?? Hmmmmpppff!! THERE’s NOTHIN’ TA DO!!!”

[@tommybahamasdog981]

“I don’t know how to relax” uncle ephy this is your job.

[@NicolaeHolley]

One of these days when you do a podcast-y ASMR vid like this, you should apply the radio crackle filter to it.

[@Nugget-ik6be]

OMG I HAVE BEEM WAITING FOR YOU TO HIT 1 million I’m sorry I’m late when you had 400k and I seem very late but congrats man love the videos keep it up

[@TreeFrogOnATree]

Restless man never takes a break

[@hellbentstudios8721]

I find that when I force myself, yes I can relax without any condition like a music or a phone, book, etc. On that note though, I find something like a song can really help with that relaxation process.

[@tonyi8045]

Robert McCammon is one of my favorite authors. Such a good storyteller.

[@phoenixyip8935]

Hey ER thanks for the awesome content. You help me sleep every night. I’m currently 17 years old and I can relax I’ve been able to sit outside for hours without doing anything. I’m usually able to keep myself busy, I like to draw and play video games. However, I do deal with a lot of guilt whenever I feel like I’m not doing anything “productive”. When I was a lot younger I could have fun without stressing out, that’s something I miss. I do relate to how you’re feeling. I suppose I’m in a different situation. I like to sit and do nothing but my guilt inhibits me from doing so. Thanks ER, hopes this helps someone

[@eddiemaiden4192]

Hey, as long as you’re doing something that makes you happy in your downtime, you’ve got nothing to be guilty for. Being productive is great and all, but if you don’t ever take time for yourself and ONLY yourself, you’ll end up not feeling as good in the long run, so don’t feel ashamed of playing some video games or drawing, cuz that’s just as important as productivity

[@phoenixyip8935]

Yeah it’s really important to take care of yourself. Funny enough, for me drawing is the productive thing I feel obligated to do and it’s also something I do for fun so it can become kinda weird sometimes. Thanks for the help!

[@lYODAl]

The way he’s speaking is magical

[@webon2626]

your soft spoken voice is so relaxing, I really miss your podcast

[@pietari2709]

You are the most down to earth artist i know and your videos help on the times of stress. Thank you for being here😎ps. very cool you like metal. (or used to eitherway)

[@carson2889]

On the topic at about 30:30, I feel like you might enjoy building keyboards. As an asmr creator I’m sure you can appreciate the sound of a well built custom keyboard. Loads to learn there (soldering, all the parts that go into it, mods, etc. etc.). I think I spent a year just researching and watching KZbin videos before I built my board. very interesting hobby that can last you for a bit. Maybe even longer if you have the wallet for more boards lol

[@VirginHolyFire]

I work and study 24/7 just to keep my mind going and I truly don’t know how to relax until I’m so tired I have to sleep and listen to RIFT. I can’t sit and do nothing. My mind is programmed to always do something

[@vincentmontone8921]

Oh this king diamond find is worth it all

[@misia5814]

I think it's one of my biggest fears that one day I will stop loving music to a point where I can't enjoy it. I dunno, it probably wasn't to you but personally I think saying that was really brave, in a way? Like, "here's that thing that I loved and people love today and do it often but I don't, anymore". Love this format of video though!

[@EphemeralRift]

I don’t wish anyone no longer being able to enjoy the things they once did but maybe that’s just how it is for everyone when we get older *shrug* so enjoy it all while you still can! LOL

[@northern999]

Interesting topic. Thank you.

[@JennaEmbers]

Hey ER. I don’t know if you remember me, my name is Jenna and my channel used to be called “Lesbian Answers” many years ago. I’ve been following you for such a long time now and I just wanted to say how much i’ve been loving your content recently. I have never been a big role play person so I really appreciate you including the more laid back content that gives the vibe we’re just chillin at home talking about life. It’s so nostalgic and relaxing and you’ve truly helped me sleep on so many anxious nights. Thank you so much. 🥹

[@EphemeralRift]

Hey, yeah I remember! Hope you’ve been well & glad to see you’re still around! Best,

[@dmdoppler115]

Ok you are the reason i found one of my favorite artists

[@ChocoCarmelApple]

I just nap when I want kill boredom lol but I just realized like I also nit pick when I’m bored. That’s a crazy realization 😅

[@cnicoj]

Relaxing subject Mr. Rift !

[@HyperHunt621]

I would immediately jump on a graphic novel adaptation of a (or an anthology of) ERU stories.

[@sethmichaelpinder]

King Diamond seems like such a nice dude. I don't go to shows anymore either. I just turned 50 and I feel like a dinosaur. I do still listen to metal though. Spotify is my go to source for new bands.

[@annagallo2197]

BRILLIANT! thank you.

[@ryanoboyle1772]

This is good stuff right here

[@enclavesoldier7728]

The moment someone sees Rift get mad is the moment the world ends!

[@osyrusthevirus2434]

My dad is from Nepal, near the west side, and he'd describe himself staring at a flowing river for 2 hours, occasionally with his friend. I'm not sure if I've adopted that trait of his, but when I get up from bed, I sometimes stare outside my window for up to 30 minutes thinking. I'm not sure if it's relaxing because I am pondering, but it is a stress reliever to think things over.

[@3toCoco]

UNCLE. E. PLEASE MAKE THE ERU INTO A GRAPHIC NOVEL. I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO GET ONE ISTG.

[@kolahe2946]

Papa rift posting at the best times 😴

[@nickb1892]

I think that maybe, and I just thought of this, that relaxing myself is like me taking a hand puppet, introducing it from my peripheral vision, and addressing many different diversionary topics. Or I'm wacky...

[@RowanMackenzie]

The best way I've found to truly relax is to completely distract or immerse myself in a video game. Nothing else quite works the same as when you're in the Zone. Of course this doesn't work for anything intense like multiplayer games or shooters

[@nadiasvens]

I feel like this is a mental health talk for artists.

[@jackw8338]

An ERU graphic novel would be so cool!

[@DazlMusic]

Thank very much!

[@Blockkshot]

I listened to music for 73,000 hours last year, yet I love silence and don't NEED music

[@generickitty50]

guess I'll go listen to Abigail then always love a new recomendation

[@HVAC_Sean]

I share your anxiety about time slipping away. I often wake up in the night filled with dread and panic; fearing death; fearing that I'm wasting away. I was watching a video on Nebula yesterday about Dark Side of the Moon, and how the first half of that album is all about the worries of running out of time, and how it's communicated through the music and sound design. No doubt you've listened to that, haha. But to answer your question, relaxing isn't something you do. It's not a switch you can turn on. It's just a state of being. The only times i'm relaxed are when I'm taking a hot shower or floating effortlessly on the surface of the ocean. Heat and weightlessness does it for me. I also find chiropractor visits to be relaxing, but those are less frequent. Otherwise, I'm restless, which makes me a bad cuddler and bedmate, unfortunately. I have a hard time just sitting motionless. Related, I can't stand boredom. At work, if I'm doing nothing, that's a huge waste of my life, and it irks me to my core. I'm required to be there, but unlike my home, I can't use my computer or go out and do something. That's all part of the anxiety, I fear. it's the root of this shared issue. Therapy and meds might work; improved quality of life, too. But rich or poor, everyone faces death at the end of their road; and I'm not all that great at forgetting that fact. iirc, you are an atheist, like me. One of the things that frightens me the most is the incomprehensibility of losing consciousness, never to regain it. It's that space between wakefulness and dreaming. Its those absent memories from early childhood, and the time in the womb. It's nothing. And it's nothing I will return to; and how can you possibly relax when staring down the barrel of that reality?

[@stanaklol]

I have ADHD and I resonate with this a lot.

[@88_l]

you Neeeeed your own jazz radio station

[@icecreamassassin3006]

I think that's a sign of anxiety honestly. I have suffered from depression and anxiety for years and had always been able to calm my mind and meditate, but in recent years as I get older (43), I found my anxiety increasing and my ability to calm and relax to fix it getting worse. And losing a lot of your interests can also be depression if it's profound enough.

[@lifemusic1980]

Anxiety causes depression. They come in a packaged deal for many. My doctor told me that a while back. ❤️‍🩹

[@icecreamassassin3006]

@@lifemusic1980 well they each are individual conditions and people can have one without the other but you are right that they do very often go hand in hand. I wouldn't necessarily say that one causes or leads to the other on a clinical level but each certainly exacerbates the other.

[@youssefsameh6914]

I miss listening to the podcasts instead of paying attention in my lectures

[@GaiusQuintus]

"All of man's problems stems from the fact that he is unable to sit quietly in a room by himself."

[@Stryfe52]

Ah, sitting and enjoying the silence. Wish I could do that, but tinnitus has cursed me to never enjoy it again. These videos help! 😊

[@EphemeralRift]

I got that in my left ear!

[@Stryfe52]

@@EphemeralRift You use maskers or anything? I’ve gotten used to sleeping with nothing but I still miss the sweet silence. Thankfully, rainy days haven’t gotten any less relaxing.

[@justinAclark2075]

As an INFP, I always listened to music as a way to gain emotional wisdom. As for relaxing, nothing helps me quite like meditating by the ocean.

[@ASMRWOLF26]

Your voice is soothing

[@yupicorsic]

Maybe the trick is to just take a book and sit with it on your chest? :) It seemed like it worked for you for a moment. Sometimes I get this weird joy from just not doing anything, exactly when I have something important to do. Not saying I just don't do nothing in that case, but at that fleeting moment before I eventually start to move onto the thing I need to do, I get this feeling of satisfaction out of a simple act of sitting. Maybe that's the forbidden technique.

[@AleexSolanoo]

Please do an ASMR video reading that Abigail book!!

[@jellewils3974]

If I do something constructive with that time, it's often socializing. Call an old friend or family I haven't talked to in a while, that kind of stuff

[@roystoliday3624]

I completely relate. I tried just sitting by a pool when on holiday because, well … it’s what people do, right? I lasted 15 minutes before I got restless.

[@FordsMobileDetailing]

You need to do a video over jam bands. Grateful Dead, dead cover bands, Jason Carter, etc. why their better in person, the history of them, etc

[@mlgslayer9933]

my next hour sorted

[@evangray2233]

I'm so used to you whispering that when I Heard this I had gotten startled 😂

[@akselivalta7194]

Your relationship to relaxing sounds very close to my dad (ADHD). Less similar to me (also ADHD). I of course share same tendensies but I propably got my opposing traits growing up since I wanted to not be my dad xD

[@overwatchjohn2]

This man has so many variants

[@nathannunes427]

Would it be possible to put CC on for the podcasts. Sometimes I can’t listen due to my surroundings and it would be nice to know what you say. Thank you for all you do!!!

[@joaopedro-tw9yt]

Amazing one E

[@zipkid6810]

I listen to asmr and close eyes or sit out in sun thats the only way i know how

[@wockdidntgetdlvrd]

Just noticed his pfp is an outlet and not a square polar bear zoomed in on also I was thinking what if u do an asmr vid just saying good now bc I find the good now very satisfying anyway all the best to you Mr.Rift and have a good night/day

[@bingboompow8861]

Wow I relate to this

[@ChrisWilliamsRMWpigeon]

I think as you get old things sound the same but that’s good if you are quick to witness something new