Erica & Safaree TRY To Get On The Same Page | Love & Hip Hop Atlanta

After a rocky few months, Erica Mena and Safaree try to figure out where their marriage is at (and where it's goin from here... 👀.
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[@TheMommaDiary]

“I didn’t know having a kid was this much work.” “You’re so dramatic” “you go talk to someone and fix yourself.” He’s such a CHILD.

[@jonathanadams7628]

Man I'm not in a relationship but I do know that's not how a loving relationship goes he's such an AH

[@DC-mh3dk]

He’s not emotional mature for her

[@cassandradiaz7651]

He makes me ask, "Who raised you?!" Your Mom? Grandmother? Oh, they must be real proud. 😒

[@Ebonyqueen-ul7pg]

And a jackass too she needs to RUN divorce his trifling ass ASAP!

[@didic8731]

He’s horrible

[@donatellariches8820]

1. Safaree only needed a baby not a family 2. He’s a fool at 40 3. He only understand his needs and not his wife’s or people around him 4. He does not understand sacrifice 5. He is so detached and doesn’t have it in him to make the marriage work 💔 6. He should never have gotten married

[@eve9287]

Number one is soooo accurate

[@talyormarie6791]

He doesn't even deserve children with that fucked up mentality.

[@inphllps2416]

@@righteouspopularity599 😭😭 they’re no good at all

[@geneivemorris8246]

He is a Jamaican more over in the music business, forget it, he ain't gonna do better right now. Seeing Safaree talking. To Erica makes me laugh although its not funny. I wish Jamaican men would change such mentality. There are good Jamaican men which I think its hard to find, Safaree is not one and I don't know if he will ever be, he is just living for himself.

[@rhianna7496]

@@righteouspopularity599 righ

[@moreofalexus]

He gaslight the hell out of Erica. She is actually communicating and he is just sitting there and acting like he’s the victim. He’s not a man, he’s a little boy.

[@joharilarosa6230]

But that's her man

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Right

[@amandamorgan8349]

Like she gaslit cyn? Oh okay….

[@ropinkerish3708]

A Narc for sure. 😂 a Bitch. I dont even want to play little boys like that 😂 my 5 year old son communicates a 1000x better and is actually attentive to feelings. Calling these types of dudes little boys😳 is actually an insult to little boys. 😂

[@ahkeeantahkeeant8096]

Women have to realize that men are from mars not venus....lol.....seriously tho....men communicate differentely than women . As you heard ...their communication is not going well....thats a problem .....and that sucks because its very very very very important . HE.....obviouly doesnt want to fight and he doesnt want no drama going forward ... like the slamming of doors.....the threat of the tears that are about to flow.....not to mention the sad cracking voice ... All of those things overshadow ....block ....and disables ....REAL and HONEST communication ....but that is how WOMEN communicate. you NEVER see a man attaching tears to every conversation...ANNNNND becoming aggressive right after the freaking tears that by the way .....never fell from the eyes. your voice and attitude cant be like marilyn monroe one minute and lthen ike king kong the next ....lol.....I mean come on He obviously cares because he wanted her to elaborate and explain a couple of the statments she made.....this also shows "HE IS LISTENING".....that is all women really want ... sadly she blew it ....why......because she wants what she wants and she tryna use manipulation annnnnd he aint having it. p.s. listen ...straight up ......he is not a little boy ...and she is not his mama ...Period she is scolding. him....instead of telling him straight what she needs from her man and asking him ...."WHAT....."""HE""" THINKS THEY SHOULD DO. remind yourself he...he ...he is the man......respect the strength and be ready to enjoy the benifits. TRUST ME. oh NEVER tell him he is a little boy....or even imply it ...alll your going to get is a brick wall. ... dont you want what diana ross want ....diana said ....I WANT MUSCLES . yaaaaaaasah.

[@becomingtomeka6932]

When you’re hurting and a man says you’re so DRAMATIC!! That was painful for me to watch!

[@ajboss924]

@becomingtomeka6932 But he isn't wrong she is too dramatic

[@RoxyReyes]

She gave in to him and he isn't that into her anymore. I feel bad for her.

[@dennithia]

soooo sad for her, HE CHASED HER! she didnt even like him

[@RoxyReyes]

@@dennithia I know if you listen to her she even sounds different like a defeated woman.

[@demetra4939]

Totally agree

[@chinahuntable]

@@dennithia the same shit happened to me, only thing I didn’t marry the idot!!!

[@dennithia]

Absolutely..she was about to breakdown right before he said "you're so dramatic" ..like he's not even listening to her! I hate when a man say oh you're too aggressive, LOOK AT YOUR BEHAVIOR, you're bringing that aggressive shit out with the narcissist nonchalant attitude, she's fighting for the family while he sitting there acting like a grown kid

[@Missdgaf440]

He literally chased her and now he’s acting like he doesn’t care. Safaree is a lame

[@tootsiepopppp8428]

Righttt . 🙄

[@thefenns8083]

With his peanut head ass !!

[@ladycouture3014]

@@thefenns8083 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@noelchenault2749]

A whole man child . But gonna be the one crying about he miss his family . Lame asf

[@moniqueuu8777]

Who knows what has happened between them, behind close doors.

[@tabbylivvy]

He’s just rude & mean to her. I think he has low self-esteem. Clearly he’s having an affair. Anytime they pick fights and buttons that they know will set you off, that’s their excuse to leave and cheat even more. It’s called Narcissistic Personality...

[@raya74]

I think he may be cheating too

[@tashekacampbell9123]

Where did you get an affair from 😂

[@tabbylivvy]

@@tashekacampbell9123 his actions tell it all

[@tashekacampbell9123]

@@tabbylivvy I don’t think it does his actions are wrong don’t get me wrong but , he simply just doesn’t want a baby , doesn’t mean his cheating he doesn’t want a baby with some body else he just doesn’t want a baby in general .

[@tabbylivvy]

@@tashekacampbell9123 Babygirl, how old are you? I’ve been around a little bit and I’m not new to the game...

[@ashleyb5539]

Erica communicated beautifully here. Direct questions, vulnerability, honesty. She knows what it takes to make it work but she’s dealing with a child. Imagine a man responding this way to you when all you wanna do is make your marriage and family work.

[@tskinner5439]

As much as I hate to admit, Erica does make a point. It seems that Safaree bit off WAY more than he could chew.

[@Cinnamun52]

He did it for tv

[@v.g7279]

@@Cinnamun52 Yup‼️💯

[@NicoleKeith-Smith]

Yeah but if y'all watch previous seasons maybe it would have been an easier transition for him if she wasn't controlling him he dealt with a lot getting into her you cannot emasculate a man the way she does remember we still can't handle her mouth 🙄

[@mzthang82]

@@NicoleKeith-Smith Yet that's what he liked. He even says she acts different from before they got married so the person she was in the previous seasons is who he wants her to be now.

[@jasmined1679]

How can anyone find this man attractive? Running away from his responsibilities and can’t even have a serious conversation.

[@Nothingatall1984]

Damn, Safaree is a whole child, I see why Nicky talked to him like that

[@Meatball-p2s]

yeah i see why she ended it with Saferee his very immature, but im not sure about her husband either since she have to Register him everywhere they go smh.

[@Nothingatall1984]

@@Meatball-p2s I feel like that is different though… that was due to his past and the legal cases against him.

[@brittanybeatrice7668]

It’s different but I wouldn’t want a sex offender around my kid. Every where we go he whole neighborhood gotta know yo perverted ass then moved in.

[@ibeonit158]

Y’all get a grip smh he’s not a sex offender that shit was put on him, y’all know how the law is with black men please stop

[@Meatball-p2s]

@@brittanybeatrice7668 right now Nicki is paying his court fees because he didn't register he might be facing jail time. I don't want that type of responsibility on me as a wife. Hell i wouldn't want no one with that record in my house or even to be next door to one .

[@Malrie]

This is why you need to TEST the man before you marry the man. Never let them be comfortable ladies!

[@nemrakstain7923]

Girlfriend so true..

[@damienkirksey7026]

That's how alot women end up being single

[@Malrie]

@ramcurequeeny once you see red flags...THEN LEAVE! a relationship should be a source of goodness in your life. Not confusion.

[@raya74]

@@Malrie facts

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Facts

[@stayleenedmond3438]

I see now why Nikki didn’t wanna claim him. Like who would want a price of shit clinging to their name?

[@zone4pezzy]

But she claiming sex offender lol yall females funny as hell

[@zone4pezzy]

@Yaa Yahu she ain't said shit

[@coudgeb]

@@zone4pezzy facts🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@houseofmatrix6174]

@@zone4pezzy Factz 😹😹😹😹

[@mszgigi0518]

I mean look what she married. He’s MUCH worse 😂

[@frenchyrodriguez9137]

Erica is NOT in the wrong here. She is communicating very clearly and he is not receiving the message. He can’t handle real life - like Erika says.

[@876me7]

Erica is not a victim. Foh she and Safaree are the same kind of ppl. They deserve each other.

[@phelishalevi4018]

Chiiiiiile a lot of ppl cnt! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@dianadundidit5343]

It's her karma

[@jenalovelyy]

Wrong. Even if all that she said was valid, her delivery was poor. When you come at your partner with blame-placing, “YOU” statements (like “you are this” and “you did that”), it will never be received well… have compassion in your relationships and take ownership of your feelings… we’re all in charge of our own feelings… how it ended was how I knew it would end because neither one of them felt heard. (Speaking from experience with my own 13 year long [and still going strong] loving & happy marriage after lots and lots of hard work)

[@Dena4kids1]

EXACTLY 💯!!! I'M BAFFLED THAT HE ACTUALLY THOUGHT THAT HAVING A WIFE & BABY AT THE SAME TIME TOO WAS GONNA BE A WALK IN THE PARK!!! I REALLY WISH ERICA BOUGHT A BABY ALIVE DOLL TO SEE HOW HE HANDLES IT... MAN I CAN FEEL HER PAIN THRU MY PHONE.😢😫🤬

[@ashaassistance6000]

Erica was so vulnerable in this conversation. Erica was so grown in this space. You can’t do anything but honor her growth as a woman. She re-gained a fan in me.

[@jofloletschat7788]

same here. wow definitely hurting for her, he was heartless

[@layedlyfe4277]

I was watching this saying the same exact thing. She has progressed tremendously since she first came on LHH. I don’t think I’ve ever seen her walk away like this or, express her feelings so calm.

[@fabriceakangah5636]

So true, I was impressed smh feel sad I was really hoping they'd pull through

[@ahkeeantahkeeant8096]

@@layedlyfe4277 she got better yeah but sorry safari wasnt having it anyway. He is the type of man she needs then cause again yes ...she changed a little .

[@ChanelAli]

Safaree: Getting married was the BIGGEST mistake I've ever made!!!!!! Erica: I'm afraid you don't wanna do life with me... Safaree: you're so dramatic

[@xa0vxdivaqueenx681]

Omg girl RUN ! This just heart breaking me 💔 😭😭

[@cindyo7352]

Wonder is he’s cheating? Men tend to act differently when there is someone else in their life

[@raya74]

I'm thinking that too plus I noticed in his recent ig photos its more body pics and no wedding band

[@fayevids7391]

I think he has. That’s how a man acts, when someone else is in the picture. He’s young in the mind. Not yet, a man

[@BriaBarrows]

Definitely

[@daenerysstormbornofhouseta9185]

Safaree is absolutely disgusting. He’s literally a grown man child. Erica really needs to leave this man and save herself and kids. I’m absolutely disgusted

[@tonybalony1811]

Nicki said that Safaree was in high school when he was 20 years old.

[@Jaggeup]

@@tonybalony1811 what’s wrong wit that? 💀

[@tonybalony1811]

@@Jaggeup He’s probably incredibly immature and emotionally stunted.

[@tonybalony1811]

@@Jaggeup hey... sorry about you getting held back :/

[@diamonda3253]

@@Jaggeup ... While he was supposed to be mentally developing with college aged adults, he was developing with kids as young as 14. That's the problem

[@ajahjackson6482]

she’s being vulnerable and honest with her emotions and he’s calling her dramatic? girl pls if you can, leave!

[@everythingroxy3582]

Gaslighting

[@mannieballard762]

@@everythingroxy3582 at its finest

[@a.cleveland9210]

Yeah that pissed me off. Smh

[@ajahjackson6482]

@@everythingroxy3582 yup that’s exactly what it is, thank you.

[@BeautyWithClaire]

Exactly how she feels is exactly how my fiancé treated me when I had our child ☹️ men don’t understand the mental emotional and physical toll it takes having a baby and being that baby’s everything the post parting depression and then to feel absolutely neglected by the one person you love during the what supposed to be the happiest time of your life. It’s changes you absolutely we lose our confidence our happiness our will I fight every for my son but I’d be lying if I said I don’t wanna have another baby because of it which makes me sad wanting 4 kids 😭😭

[@jamilaaustinsigningrealtor8754]

He really displayed how people see our black men in real life. He just lost a lot of cool points. He’s just lost a lot of everything. Especially his since.

[@sacredandsecured]

Unfortunately he’s only displaying the attitude that a lot of bm in general walk around with

[@purrinkittyz4737]

He’s weird on another level… like seriously… taking dance class while his son is damn near dying.. that’s insane! Half of y’all don’t think anything wrong with it because y’all daddy was NEVER there.. it’s not okay tho

[@_colelyy]

I’ve NEVER seen Erica that calm when filled with emotion. She genuinely tried to talk to him and get her point across and she was shut down at every turn

[@cmac3764]

Yes, she handled that all with a lot of reserve, maturity and grace. He on the other hand is an immature, vindictive, man child, asshole.

[@Solo-opiniones84]

Because his not feeding into it, if he would be like baby I love you she would act like a crazy maniac, women got shit twisted there are many women out there willing to give it to your man nicely with no ties, and no drama. They should get a nanny seriously 😳

[@kathygomez652]

It's called bipiolar

[@moniqueuu8777]

She has blown up and seen herself overreact so many times, it's about time, or it's for show. He stayed that she throws stuff, goes off, so this may be a moment or an act. Who knows?

[@moniqueuu8777]

@@kathygomez652 More like just crazy!

[@lionessbydesign]

The fact that he’s CURRENTLY partying in Jamaica right now while their son is in the NICU tells me everything I need to know about him… Erica, RUN girl!

[@lichimfboo]

Wow i had no idea that this was how bad the case was like are u fucking kidding me she need to let goo I feel her pain tho he offered and got her use to way much more than what he really wanted to give her he aint shit!

[@rebeccareyna4137]

Yasssss

[@fennerna1]

Why do we care if she doesn't?

[@Beebeechannel2]

Oh hell no

[@bellaunruly835]

She have a restraining oder against him

[@chikensaregood9500]

she hit the nail on the head when told him "its not a rap video everyday" that's literally what he thinks he's in. Folding clothes and being responsible is not part of his lifestyle. he thinks he's a star

[@jaebabew1468]

Awwww you can tell she really loves him she doesn’t even fight him like she did all her other exes she just walks away

[@candacelee4317]

Safaree is NOT a man, he's a little boy, and Erica deserves better.

[@chocolatelovin19]

No he’s a MAN. He’s 40. Let’s stop coddling them and wondering why they play these roles.

[@eliza1826]

@@chocolatelovin19 and she looks like a Man, that face is too huge and dominant.

[@MultiMadameDegrassi]

@@chocolatelovin19 Nahh he’s a CHILD. Almost like his brain isn’t fully developed actually. It’s not coddling cause these grown-man childs don’t want to be seen as boys. Coddling is calling them real men when they’re anything but that.😂

[@luceysimmons1214]

@@chocolatelovin19 AGE has NOTHING to do with Maturity. I have Uncle's in their 50's who still act like little boys.

[@diamonddeluxe3935]

@@luceysimmons1214 THIS

[@miluskaiscool13]

Jesus, this was so uncomfortable to watch. He does not want her anymore. The frustration of not being able to communicate with your partner..

[@chrisper3148]

Exactly

[@gorillanotion1024]

It's no longer continent for him that's why

[@brandisandkids]

I've never liked her but after watching this I truly feel for her. He is literally hurting & mistreating her right in front of our eyes...so sad.

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

He's abusing her right on screen, true Narcissist

[@aaluathepiscean]

Juju, Nicki and all the other women who ended up leaving him dodged a major bullet

[@zone4pezzy]

Nikki married a sex offender lol what are you talking about

[@priscillatehmeh7195]

@@zone4pezzy at least she’s happy with her husband and why you bringing that man past up? Get a life!

[@jamesbond1157]

Is Nicky doing better lol 😆 😂 🤣

[@zone4pezzy]

@@jamesbond1157 hell no

[@thisistiffany]

Clearly his over her This man doesn't love her it's so sad !

[@phoenixastral9046]

"its like you don't want to do life with me" " you're so dramatic " It was at that moment that their marriage ended, this wrost thing that can happen is any relationship, being gaslighted for being vulnerable

[@VOID-gz6jk]

I almost started crying for her then and there because this man doesn’t love her and he probably never has

[@DreamFaithDestiny]

Yeah that part hurt.

[@emmainniss9335]

This.... he is not even acknowledging how she feels. Very immature.

[@princejudah3789]

Who would slamming doors always yelling Soo violent

[@BOYABEANNN]

This is exactly why Nicki didn’t want to marry him & why Juju left his ass on read - I feel bad for Erica, he’s a child and no shade, but instead of his mom telling him what girls not to bring home, she should have been raising him to be a man a WOMAN wants to bring home!

[@candiD01]

💯💯💯💯

[@stonertarot4195]

Yassss

[@stonertarot4195]

Preach it!!! I was literally like wtf his momma thinking like is she proud of him for disrespecting his wife & mother of HIS children

[@tainawilliams6271]

Iyanla said men are who their mothers make them

[@CherryJoneschannel]

This!!!!

[@blackbarbie431]

One of the worst things you can do...in my opinion...is wake up someones love without the intention to really love them. I despise people like him...chase you...even when you keep saying no...then when you finally give them a chance...they treat you horribly. The engagement proposal he did with fireworks really meant nothing now looking back at it all...just photo ops and fakeness.

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

Future faking narcissist

[@96babytaz96]

Being married to a woman is easy. Protecting your queen is only hard when you don't know how to be a man. Respect💯 1 Corinthians 13:11 11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

[@chazconway9578]

Yes!!! My father once told me that a real man has to lead his woman and the problem with a lot of these relationships is that they aren't mentally mature enough to lead anyone let alone a wife!!! And the woman has to also be willing to be lead, but only if the man is fit for the role.

[@princejudah3789]

Proverbs 21:19 19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

[@princejudah3789]

1 Timothy 2:12 “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.” “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.”

[@empathsarah3570]

Saying “you’re so dramatic” to a woman that’s about to cry and fighting to hold her tears back is the most painful comment you can make in that situation. This really hit too close to home, I’ve been there several times and that’s why I come off as emotionless to so many people that actually deserve better from me. You feel like you can’t open up to anyone anymore because they just don’t care.

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

Wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you😔 My Mom used to tell me, "Never spend time dating or being in a relationship with the wrong man, for if you do, you will neither recognize nor appreciate the right one when he comes along". I think it's true of men, and of people in general that we give our big hearts to. Some folks don't deserve a second look much less a loving chance😔🤷🏽‍♀️ The Lord Jesus will renew your heart🙏🙏🏾🙏🏽

[@MySweetAriane]

It really is. I remember one time my husband told me I was using my tears to manipulate him. That really broke my heart.

[@MySweetAriane]

And I'm so sorry for what you went through. I understand why you are the way you are

[@sansadrake4133]

He doesn't have the capacity to deal with her or marriage in general

[@charitygillespie5163]

Narcissist

[@kimberlynicole4866]

Why’s he acting like he’s a single dad talking about they don’t have help with the baby 🙄

[@anthonymarshall2012]

He's already in his mind left her so that's why everything in this video shows he don't want to be with her anymore, but he's too pussy to say it.

[@S0o0oSmiiley]

Right. A two parent household IS all the help you need.

[@antoniababy8356]

@@S0o0oSmiiley exactly like you're already not spending time with them. "Help" is more reason not to do that

[@kimberlynicole4866]

@@anthonymarshall2012 He seems extremely uninterested

[@Kalifornia_Dreaming]

@@S0o0oSmiiley Even with 2 parents people still need help.Thats's why thw saying goes it takes a village.They can afford a nanny but Safaree has already checked out.They had no business getting married.Erica's bad behaviour I'm sure played a role. I hope women understand that men eventually get tired.

[@sophiadilworth885]

He most definitely has Narcissis traits foreal he gaslighting her very disrespectful an no empathy period.

[@atheenarumph-mims5833]

I have always like Safree but honestly he is such a poor excuse for a man.

[@jasminefranklin7630]

I’m really proud of Erica here. She’s communicating how she feels without flipping out like usual. And also taking the time to listen and respond to what he has to say. She’s flawed for sure, but no one deserves to be treated like how he’s doing her. Wishing her all the best 💛

[@davidammonds2011]

The bar is set so low nowadays. They should have been more concerned with getting marriage counseling vs a televised wedding before they got married. Looks like he wants to return the product he brought.

[@bigmaco903]

Being a mom really changed her

[@davidammonds2011]

@@bigmaco903 she was already a mom. This is her second child.

[@bigmaco903]

@@davidammonds2011 nah this convo with him happened before she realized she was pregnant

[@trinad08]

@@bigmaco903 She has a teenage son from a previous relationship. All those times she wild out when she was younger, she was already a mom.

[@miracleashanti1942]

I remember when he wanted her so bad! would be gushing over her & she wasn’t on the same page but she gave in and now, he got what he wanted and doesn’t put in that same effort he had to bag her ‼️ he got comfortable and now treats her like she wanted him!

[@Peresphone]

Exactly a classic mistake and lesson that we may all have to go through at some point..but chile this is why I love myself and we have to focus on our careers, friends, hobbies etc that make us thrive not chaining ourselves to partners.

[@miracleashanti1942]

@@Peresphone I’m literally in that same mindset!!! Look at us ✨ what’s meant for us will never miss us

[@georgia8592]

Dated a Jamaican just like this 🙄

[@freshbme2]

Exactly. Where did that energy go??

[@lamujermaslinda]

@Wearing it on my face did he try to get you back when he left?

[@SupremeDreamss]

How dead his eyes are and how nonchalant he looks really hurts my heart for her

[@SiaT92]

She just tried to express her emotions and be gentle but she said she’s dramatic and now she starting to boil up and says he doesn’t like her aggressive side🙄

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

He gaslights, basically take the abuse and shut up

[@SimoneUmba]

I never thought I'd be on Erica's side but damn, now I understand why she went into premature labor. Safaree is putting her through so much BS.

[@georgia8592]

Right! She didn't deserve that

[@jacquelinelee8814]

Right 🥲

[@chasidyyasmine7929]

She was wrong for hiding a pregnancy for six months from her husband after he stated he didn’t want anymore kids. She is not innocent

[@msgirl3334]

@Danielle Hawkins fr🙄 and if he didn’t want kids knowing Erica did why did he even continue with her! They were on completely different pages

[@aselyne5631]

@Danielle Hawkins One thing women don't understand is you have to protect yourself,men will do what you allow them to do, she should have been on contraceptive Or something, it's her body, that man doesn't give af about her she has to look out for herself, it's really common sense,he said he doesn't want a child.

[@LadyEmjay]

Safaree did not really want to be married. He does everything for clout, including getting her pregnant. He will take a few pictures for the gram and now he is tired of the married dad life. So it’s on to the next stunt and now he back to Harlem shaking in the club. Divorce him Now . You will forever be in the marriage alone with him. Safaree still isn’t done being a kid yet.

[@Cinnamun52]

👏 That is very insightful

[@geneivemorris8246]

True.

[@toyacaldwell2388]

Erica can get a husband that will love her and her baby and give her more children and the life she deserves! Forget him!

[@Soneelicious]

@@toyacaldwell2388 you think it’s easy for her to just jump into another relationship?

[@aviannawilliams149]

So true

[@Angela-ot7es]

Safaree: Seems confused by where his wife is coming from. Me: Confused by his confusion.

[@kalaasmith9908]

This literally makes me tear up, I hope she finds happiness 🙏🏾

[@jasminegrayson8923]

It’s giving CHILDISH… he needs to grow the hell up, be accountable and understanding of his wife.

[@rickydixon2558]

How would you feel if your wife was pregnant and she waited to tell you

[@jasminegrayson8923]

@@rickydixon2558 in this clip she is attempting to talk to him and he is completely shut down. So her not telling him makes sense to me… he isn’t a supportive husband

[@rudolphcampbell4782]

It. Hip hop nothing from nothing leaves nothing lol take two to fight huh

[@tifb94]

Periodt!😵‍💫

[@wagnerproductions1]

I couldn’t even picture myself dating a man like this. He basically got married for the clout and didn’t take those vows seriously.

[@raya74]

Most Jamaican men don't take marriage or vows seriously

[@skymontclair]

This is literally the behavior Nicki talked about why she LEFT HOM

[@tatianarodriguez7359]

Safaree is the prime example of a man would do anything to get you and once he does, he gets comfortable and shows his true colors.

[@sharenee7428]

That’s called a narcissist.

[@awaannayusufgodiswithyouno6754]

Exactly safaree is something else

[@thandomthembu2848]

"You got too fat during your pregnancy" was a red flag I would have left him honestly

[@brittanyjones4912]

True

[@lulugyfhvfyhg9950]

Riiiight

[@suchastrangegirl36]

What kind of “man” says something like that?!?!?

[@jeanandre6998]

Nahhhhh the red flag came before the baby I’m sure, she just ignored it sadly

[@Eanaj9]

Same.

[@myishaholley4417]

Please divorce him, find your happiness for you and your kids. He basically told you...HE DON'T WANT YOU. Not your fault, babes. But this man is a WASTE OF TIME!

[@allonjayd.5057]

It’s definitely not her fault 💔 I hope she sees this

[@MsChmpnprzr]

Boy.... Man child....etc but not a man 🤨

[@sydneyrobinson7022]

Right she’s not a old women she got time. She can still have babies

[@diamonda3253]

She's not going to. She wants love, so the moment he realizes she's actually gonna leave, he's gonna give her the love she wants and then she's gonna think "things are getting better" and stay. It's gonna be like that until she realizes it

[@bookbag6432]

@@diamonda3253 It’s going to be hard because she just had another child and now she’s a single mom of three. Lord knows how her mood is going to be with postpartum as well. But she’ll eventually find someone else. It will take some time though.

[@jeanandre6998]

Damn to go from bad bitch Mena to being hurt and humbled like this is just too sad 😢😢😢

[@raya74]

Facts

[@Dena4kids1]

🤬 IF NICKI NEVER BOUGHT HIM THAT *HAIRLINE* HE NEVER WOULD'VE BEEN ABLE TO GET *NEAR* ERICA R THE GIRLS HE'S BEEN WITH B4 ERICA!!!🤬

[@tl8117]

He's a scared lil boy, not a man. So cruel to treat her like that, especially while she's pregnant. What an AH

[@dappaflawless]

Neither one of them know she pregnant just yet, girl was drinking wine with Sierra and Bambi before they met 😳 I wonder how she didn't feel any signs or anything

[@tl8117]

@@dappaflawless really? I didn't catch that clip. Do u know where I can find it?

[@YasminYoruba]

He’s definitely a man, he has 3 children. He acts like a child. Calling grown men boys erks me and allows them to behave this way. You are grown at 21!

[@dominqueb10]

@@dappaflawless ppl feel sings at different times. Each pregnancy is different as well. Some things are also just scenes. She might not have actually been drinking.

[@YasminYoruba]

@Amber Baez that’s your opinion. I disagree. Either way he ain’t shit

[@ebonystone8890]

Ladies I hope you are all taking notes. This is just so sad. Some men will sell you a dream then not fulfill his promise. Your still not guaranteed happiness even being married. This whole situation is a lesson to all women out there. Ladies put yourself first.

[@trishfinley8159]

Definitely should've had more likes 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@jacquelinelee8814]

💯💯I had to learn the hard way

[@krystingrant6292]

Oh hell yes I left I couldn't do it girl 7 years

[@breannamanuel4730]

Exactly

[@OpulentAristocrat]

@@jacquelinelee8814 same!🤎

[@strryskiis_spam3567]

He just makes me sick. You chased her, professed your love for her, put a ring on her finger, shed all the tears you could at the altar, got her pregnant and then wanna turn your back on your family the minute shit gets too real. A literal CHILD is what you are Safaree. Erica really looks heartbroken, she clearly loves this man, she loves her child, her new life I think being a wife and a mother was turning her life around and he just snatches it away from her. She's trying to communicate like married adults do and he looks so checked out it's disgusting to see him behave this way to the mother of his child. I'm not surprised though he's always had a head way too big for his body to carry, and she's right he doesn't know how to do real life. Everything ain't a goddamn Best Man sequel, shit doesn't resolve itself like it does in television. Be a damn man and talk to your wife, get some counseling, communicate, tell her how you feel and see if just maybe she can understand. Stop being a boy and grow up because there is only so much a person can take before they decide that what's best for their heart and mind is to leave you for good.

[@Oneofthenailas]

“ You don’t know how to do real life” 👏🏽

[@roxykix23]

If I was safaree mom I would be soo embarrassed to claim him as a “son”.

[@TheLovesnowangel]

@@reyfin4922 she actually doesn’t. Watch the clips of her. She’s checked safaree and comforted Erica, letting her know she has a choice to stay or leave; how she should never feel like she doesn’t have a choice.

[@CharKuriGamer]

Me too

[@reyfin4922]

@@TheLovesnowangel I was pleasantly surprised when I did see those.

[@issasd1172]

😀😀😀😀😀😀😀 real talk

[@truevpcool]

She can’t be too ashamed he paying for some of her stuff soooo 🤷🏽‍♀️ But you know what his mom probably gonna have to put up with his bs for awhile cause he know acting like an ass still gets him paid regardless but he knows acting like an asshole will get him more attention

[@nieshacarver4252]

This is sad. He doesn't even care. He wants her to just accept him being an ass. Wants her to change but doesn't want to change himself.

[@Outof_thebleu]

As if she hasn't gone through a hundred changes within a 10 month period.

[@Long-live-vacation]

oki but i feeld bad for a sek but she is prego agen so now she looks dumb to

[@the5thdim763]

He doesn’t want her to change. It wants her to end the relationship.

[@mariaya1891]

Sound like my man 😭

[@oarabile__moeketsi]

I can't believe I'm saying this but even rich dollars was better😭😭😭

[@bulmavegeta18]

i hope she knows her worth and leaves. he’s very disrespectful to her and their marriage. I don’t think he’s gonna change his ways for her.

[@shaundachambers1483]

He’s a typical man once the romance is gone and the kids come they lose interest. He probably already got another girl on the side.

[@raya74]

Yup typical jamaican man

[@Ursupervillain]

She’s matured a lot. I’m pretty proud. I never saw her being like this.

[@bmmotives]

I guess being a mother really does change a person

[@nikkiw3734]

Right.. cause before she probably woulda flipped out & beat his ass!!

[@floremullings4822]

Plenty growth!!!

[@mszgigi0518]

She’s pregnant here that’s why she was trying to stay calm

[@Ebrie0903]

@@bmmotives I thought she has an older son too but I really think this marriage made rethink her choices.

[@brandihines2332]

Wow. This hurts her. His non chalant attitude is horrible. Women aren't perfect neither are men but goodness he has no compassion for their marriage he's over her and over it. When the other party is just mean and nasty. I say its time to go. He just doesn't care like he used to.

[@iamrightyourwrong5198]

I bet he was into until she gave him hell and screaming and all that! He just tired

[@brandihines2332]

@@iamrightyourwrong5198 All is possible. Marriage isn't a joke. Being married is work 24/7. Both parties have to be willing to work together.

[@labelmeposh]

And the only reason he has given is that "he didn't know it would be so much work." That's pathetic. The answer to her being aggressive was her saying "he stirs the pot" and he doesn't deny that. He's a tool.

[@may1189]

@@timothyjohnson4812 bb

[@nikolezbe]

He needs to grow up smfh

[@JayLeiRay]

Look how Safari dramatically fake jumps @3:53 😂😂😂

[@mya__lyn4943]

Imagine nicki watching this and listening how erica speak and be like yes girl those are all the reasons why i left him and see he still hasn't change erica girl just put safaree to the side boss up and focus on your kids and yourself, sis i hope you had him sign that prenup

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

Kimbella will be discarded next

[@foxybrown3005]

And the fact that he was the one chasing Erica and proposed to her, then bragged about wanting a family as well?!? What kind of 40 year old man child is he? Erica better walk away while she can and heal from this demon

[@Oakcliffagent]

Wow like she 100 percent innocent I guess u avoiding the fact the she done dragged this man being bitter and wanted a divorce from him then wanted to get mad at him cuz he was dating another chick just wow

[@moniqueuu8777]

Who knows what goes on behind closed doors.

[@fefesmith82]

Just like ANY other man out here doing whatever he far from the only one that does this

[@kiaq1153]

And walk towards who? She old af

[@Selenee77]

@@Oakcliffagent he knew how crazy she was when He commit

[@westindian5010]

I can't believe this. She shows her vulnerability, she reveals how she truly feels, her fear, that he will abandon her. This shows just how much she cares for him and he shits all over her. What an example of fine specimen of a man. I don't care how volatile people think Erica Mena is, this episode shows that that woman has a heart and she deserves better. What a shame.

[@Solofears]

No one is meant to be treated like that .She deserves the world and not this overgrown child

[@nemrakstain7923]

She's a human being.

[@mauriceschultz6764]

Little b**** don't want no more kids cuz he likes being the baby feeling a little competition are you female Safari

[@westindian5010]

@@mauriceschultz6764 I can't disagree with you there. You hit it on the nail.

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

She got abused

[@tammynicole1706]

Erica is absolutely correct. Safaree is immature and was not ready for marriage. He is 100% annoying. I would not sacrifice my happiness for any jackass. Big part of making changes for true happiness is the fear of being alone and missing what you think is possible or what you thought you had. Pick your head up take your children and move on. Lesson learned.

[@Notmebutyou853]

Narcissist never change and they have no empathy---- NEVER

[@blackgirlonboard]

He’s gas lighting her and I can’t take it. He’s a joke, I feel bad for her. He is immature.

[@aliciacole7275]

What does gas lighting mean.. in this context..

[@Itsjustamainiii]

@@aliciacole7275 he’s being being ignorant and pretending to be oblivious he keeps on making it seem like it’s only Erica who’s messing up the relationship when it’s both of them he’s lacking accountability and that’s stressing her out he knows what he’s doing he’s just to stubborn enough to actually man up

[@aliciacole7275]

@@Itsjustamainiii True. He is ignorant, its so frustrating to watch

[@aliciacole7275]

@Nina Cal thank you hun

[@JayMoneyTv248]

she used to talk to anyone any kind of way, but you can see she’s trying to make it work but the energy isn’t reciprocated.

[@TheReCar1]

I said the same thing. I’ve seen her curse the whole cast of LHHNY cheat lie and beat up people but you can see she pulled out her soft side for him and he can careless.

[@jessicaurbina4246]

That’s KARMA

[@naemack1441]

She's also pregnant, she trying to be calm for the baby. All that flipping out isn't healthy right now..Now after she gives birth, that a whole different story ...

[@doveyhandwand]

She has talked to him before like that as well. I believe he has expressed numerous times he doesn't like it.

[@msyemisi7930]

@@jessicaurbina4246 exactly! I know dj envy wife somewhere sipping wine 🤣

[@msdeedaartist6385]

My oldest kid's father acted like this before I finally filed for divorce.

[@Turbo_2155]

Anybody can have a kid but not everyone can be a parent.

[@ChaseRaider]

The saddest line out of all of that is a wife telling her husband that she is scared he doesn’t want to do life with her.. It don’t get no more real than that.. that’s a wife trying to save her marriage, family and whole way of life. This is truly sad and a cringe to see.. no empathy, no understanding, no accountability and no responsibility on his part to be a man and fix your marriage to a woman that loves your dirty draws.. SMH 🤦🏾‍♂️ pathetic safaree!!

[@oneslayatatime7311]

Glad to see there's men out here who get it. Thanks for your perspective. It's not all men that act like this, and sometimes women need to remember that.

[@Marie-sw5cd]

Narcissist

[@amandamwaniki3735]

Thanks for you perspective!!! God bless you and your family

[@ros2274]

Thank u.. this was VERY well said 👏🙌

[@jesuswilljudge7296]

Safaree is a narcissist, that's why he doesn't get it

[@shannacollins8371]

So this is why Juju didn't want anything but friendship with Safaree. She knew how he was in relationships.

[@buccii103]

!!!! That part

[@BiiMesiah]

CNN

[@rx_4746]

Nicki Minaj too! She was like nope!

[@jerryrobinson9133]

Exactly

[@zoneeshpierre8721]

Grandma always said what’s in the closet will always come to light. When you think it’s bush, it’s people.

[@BAO77]

Once the respect is diminished the emotional connection and attraction is done!! Fighting and being aggressive will do that quickly!

[@margarettreacy259]

Saffaree is an absolute Embarrassment to Erica She deserves much better

[@mary1stcor15v1-4]

Lol that's easy to say when u saw how she acted in past relationships. Despite their ups and downs I think they met each others match.

[@jasmined1679]

He’s an embarrassment to himself. Raising kids is hard, let me run away.

[@meishajames531]

Erica needs to work on her communication skills, and don't shout at her husband when communicating with him because he will shutdown because I am the same way. She needs to stop the shouting.

[@DesignzRUs1]

How does she deserve better? Erica isn’t much better lol have you the watched earlier seasons? she’s a toxic, horrible person. They’re a perfect match.

[@nanaanokye1856]

@@meishajames531 she literally didn’t even shout at him until near the end…

[@emmeythegod3910]

She didn’t even WANT him at first and now look how he’s doing her.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@UnpredictableAri]

Yep, proof that you never should go against your gut

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

Well you know the old saying...Give a nigga a chance you wouldn't ordinarily give a chance to....and he will make you regret you ever gave it!!🤦🏽‍♀️

[@sansadrake4133]

This is how it is with all guys. 😂. Ive been in that position but luckily didn't end up married l😂😂

[@rosee9231]

@@Simplythetruthfulone living that shit right now smh lmao 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@tiffanyyarbrough213]

That was like watching a grown women talking to her immature teenage son. I pray Erica takes time for herself & Children

[@nijahray7521]

His face is showing that he don’t care about what she’s sayin at all.

[@londiwekhanyase1351]

😂🤣

[@ccx3275]

but when she’s gone he’s not going to know what to do! i feel like he thinks he has her at the palm of his hand for life but there’s actually going to come a point where she’s not going to want to do it anymore and he’ll be the one who’s missed out! not her

[@yonnahmae1157]

His overall body language

[@periswanjiku7375]

@@ccx3275 Hi

[@claremandigusi5631]

Safaree wants fun and a girlfriend he doesn't want a wife and family. He is way to immature for this. Even to the point of understanding mature relationships. Man Erica can do so much better

[@sanijahmccrimmon4172]

I think he thought he wanted that...didmt really take it serious...marriage and children aren't fun and games...its a life commitment

[@eliza1826]

She ain’t that attractive, that’s the best she gonna gey

[@msyemisi7930]

She should have just had her fun with Safaree and that was that

[@mziconic8714]

What Safaree is doing is dead wrong but I understand how he got that way. Erica is abusive verbally and sometimes physically which can take a toll on a man emotionally and cause a disconnect. Safaree was with Nicki for 12yrs and he got comfortable in that lifestyle. He wants the life that Nicki gave him back. Not saying he want Nicki back just the lifestyle. Nicki took care of him and gave him whatever he wanted. Safaree is not use to being the Head of a household and all the responsibility that comes with it. If you listen to Bed of Lies by Nicki you will hear her say exactly what Erica just said about his selfishness.

[@bodhisattva2348]

I dont have kids but when I c & hear what everyone else goes though, even I know that being a parent is difficult & it is the most difficult job a person will ever have.

[@aida_amore]

He chased her for so long and promised to treat her lk a Queen and he has completely failed!!! He is an idiot & instead of being a real man & stepping up, he is acting so cold. I feel so bad for Erica. He gaslight her and love bombed her and then once he had her he completely changed for worse. He’s a true narcissist!

[@Yellowbitchblaze]

Looks are starting to fade he is bored now and age catching up he wants fresh young and new he is a jamaican

[@Tonz28]

So true! I knew he was full of it when he kept crying at the wedding. His emotions ust didn't seem genuine to me.

[@kamacazi9639]

Nah cause he would have done it to Nicki. He and Nicki were together for years. If he was a narcissist Nicki would have left his ass as soon as she got famous. She had that power. I think he and Nicky were rebounding.

[@shan9453]

@@kamacazi9639 what?😳

[@b.allison8761]

FACTS ALL NARC SHIT

[@jammest.3962]

She literally telling him what she needs and he acting like a victim from a situation he caused. Focused on her behavior and not why she’s behaving that way.

[@TikTokForest]

This is what happens when you think you're a brand and make your relationship a business move. Then when the business tanks you want out.

[@r.r.r.f.2051]

I cannot wait for the day that she finds someone who loves and appreciate's her and her children ❤🤗 Safari will then want to be with her again.

[@daughterofgod4403]

Nicki was right about him and he made it seem like nicki was wrong! Erica better run and leave this man

[@kv2811]

When a man says he don't care BELIEVE HIM

[@melanietarrio3309]

Facts!

[@Dalvender]

Big Facts .💯

[@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115]

Bingo

[@MylaAgeman12]

PLEASSSSSE.🙏🏾🙄✨

[@Lovelowvision]

He went from LA to NY to ATL just to have the crown of being the lamest dude ever in LHH history

[@kaysuksess]

He's an ass next! Girl get outta there

[@princesaiberica]

Him and Peter Gunz, 🐕ing women tf out smh, they should just stay single.

[@LiikaJanaeee]

I expected more from safaree. He wanted this. He such a child. And it is disgusting to watch. So sad how things ended up.

[@marlenisaguilar1920]

At least he’s being honest about not wanting any more responsibilities

[@nicolemiller7969]

Erica might get loud & be obnoxious as times but she didn't deserve any of the hate that safaree was giving her but he gone regret it when she's gone

[@angelsweet9611]

You noticed that she aged like a lot? She looks stressed!

[@tRIXIIE1]

He knew EXACTLY how spicy she was when he got with her…he actually praised that part of her personality. And now all of a sudden it’s too much smh. Ridiculous.

[@JT_DePrince]

& she a Scorpio they always come back to us 😛🤪😝

[@allonjayd.5057]

@@tRIXIIE1 exactly, you knew who she was when you met her

[@jaebabew1468]

@@JT_DePrince lmao SIKE

[@kylaorgan3401]

Her crying and saying, “I’m scared you don’t wanna do life with me and him saying you’re so dramatic “ literally made me tear up. That’s awful.

[@jacquelinelee8814]

Facts

[@seriouslyjae5166]

Literally !!!! Like this is a real thing spending the rest of your life with your soulmate and they don’t feel the same . Leave run don’t look back

[@MultiMadameDegrassi]

so heartbreaking. it’s like she was really letting her walls down to be vulnerable with her “husband” then immediately after that comment had to put them right back up.

[@hedenathompson8091]

my heart broke for her after he said that. Hope she takes her children from this clown and never look back.

[@SUEDUCE]

That was real and deep and very hard for her to express but come out and say as well. And he hit her with that wow!

[@Babigurlrye]

He literally is gaslighting the mess out of Erica in this scene! He is selfish and didn’t grow up

[@letschatwithjan2402]

I’m really proud of Erica. I really see her growth. Also, her speaking up and saying how she feels. Safaree needs to grow up, and listen, not just hear Erica. He is very childish. It’s funny how these men flip the script once they marry you, you see their true colors.

[@CHICKDEBORAHBRANNON]

Did anyone else notice that he has already disconnected??? He isn’t interested in parenting or marriage! He realized it’s not playing house and posting internet pics! It’s hard work, a man desire to work hard for his family… GO FIGURE… GROW UP!!!

[@janiimutugi3942]

100

[@veronacasimpson344]

I literally said he has checked out... Smh...

[@dreadrea3265]

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking. Although Erica was dramatic at first, here she seems mellow & like she still loves him. He's 100% over it.

[@jackieb1495]

Yes he completely looks like he doesn’t give no fcks.

[@Love-dc5tq]

I read yesterday that he was in Jamaica while she was at the NICU with their new son.

[@caniktotingmom3681]

Erica is a bigger person than me. This dude is simple minded and doesn't care about her. He's checked out already.

[@toyaspence9516]

I feel her pain ...going through the same thing with my baby daddy....chased me now he's acting like me and his 1 year son doesn't exist ....when a man told you to do what you wanna do it's done...Lord heal all the broken 💔 hearts.

[@misunderstood136]

I lost all respect for him! She poured her heart out to you and he shits on it. Baby leave while you can, youve come too far to let his ass drag you back to the old you.

[@TheNaturalist_]

This is sad. She’s legit communicating and he’s being so rude and immature

[@reeupbabygyrl8053]

I actually feel bad for her too ( hate to say) this convo told a lot. He actually said he doesn’t care. I don’t know the behind the scene but on the show he doesn’t want the family he created. Who ever thought taking care of kids was easy?