Erikson's Psychosocial Development: American Beauty

[@jasonhightower5706]

This movie taught me that it's never too late to grow a pair. Life can still change for the better.

[@Clintsessentials]

Absolutely!

[@Ccirgrg]

Was it the breast augmentation ad that did it for you?

[@Professor__S]

This movie taught me that Kevin space wasn't acting in this movie but was just being normal😂

[@zenglider2145]

As soon as they're grown, woke america will do its damndest to cut them off. White folk with balls are e v i l !!!!

[@johnfused8281]

​@@Professor__SI thought he was found not guilty

[@ryancourt8065]

I noticed that until Lester got control over his life... he was always only a passenger in the car... never the driver. Interesting symbolism... any thoughts? Am i wrong?

[@rizzorizzo2311]

Never noticed that either. Nice.

[@55tmilam]

All of the beaten down men I know have their women driving almost always!

[@andriyshapovalov8886]

It's not a symbolism it's based on real life.

[@Amadeus_Eisenberg]

@@55tmilam I'm guessing an increased number of accidents too then.

[@coffeeaddictexpress5038]

I noticed that the second he gave his daughter shotgun lol. Parents ALWAYS get the front seat when kids are young. It’s a respect issue.

[@Meowface.]

I used to identify with the kids...now I find myself understanding lester completely

[@sketch3744]

I have always thought Jane was an ignorant asshole.

[@midsouthirish1680]

I hear ya Davie

[@deveryshepardson3640]

I relate to that statement. I do hate how my awareness has grown to know that I am not the characters that I once thought I was. I now realize I am like Jenny from Forest Gump with no fall back. I am now sober and more together but really similar life experience.

[@usazar]

Not progress...

[@fullario]

This movie scared the shit out of me - I was 14 when it came out. I grew up in a nice suburban tract like the one in the film and everyone seemed fake, all the time. In my adult life I've actively avoided tract housing and live in an old fixer-upper in a tight-knit village instead.

[@mikeburns6603]

"Never too late to get it back." It's a good line to be reminded of. I got divorced several years back because there was no connecting with my wife, no negotiating, no joy, much like in this movie. I am so much happier now being divorced.

[@delivertilidie8356]

Haaaaaaaa !!!!!!! Same.

[@tanyaglover4129]

Same

[@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs]

Negotiating!! So important. No negotiation is tyranting. Very abusive. I think she's a good example of Covert narcissism. #narcissisticabuse

[@elektronzer3809]

I have been here....enjoy your freedom.

[@irvingfr33]

That’s why you don’t get married based on compatibility

[@LordGreystoke]

This film spoke to me in so many ways when I saw it back in the 90s. And now I seem to be living it. Life can be so cruelly ironic.

[@telecomgear]

Same here. I watched it with my soon to be ex wife and saw so many similarities in the film with us. I love this movie.

[@John_Wood_]

@@telecomgear Same here. Joyless soon to be ex-wife could never get me under the thumb.

[@jillybe1873]

That's the covid effect. Fork it

[@FirstLast-cd6vv]

"I wish I could tell her that's all going to pass, but I don't want to lie to her."

[@Letsgo_ray]

For you Brad, I've got five! Classic

[@stevenfucetola8947]

Ray J I love how sarcastically he said it !!!!

[@toddfongemie9441]

yeah but what about the guy who bought Pussy with company money

[@jenniferlopez3554]

@@toddfongemie9441 lol 😆

[@kikionthetrailoflove7036]

This movie really was great. The reality of the suburban nightmare. Before you know it your 50 years old and stuck in the same old meaningless routine.

[@eloytoston5249]

That scares the shit out of me

[@kikionthetrailoflove7036]

@@eloytoston5249 It happens, then the resentment starts, that's how marriages break up. Like robots, it's never too late to change direction.

[@seven1384]

Happens decades before you're 50

[@kikionthetrailoflove7036]

@@seven1384 yeah your right, it's never too late to get out

[@joogullae3456]

Prison.

[@wesbervig1272]

"All happy families are the same, but all unhappy families are different in their own way." - Leo Tolstoy

[@wannabeskinnylegend5645]

Damn. That’s good.

[@John-cq3hk]

From, Family Happiness.

[@MCV-xg7kc]

That doesn’t even make sense.

[@andriyshapovalov8886]

@@MCV-xg7kc could be a better translation

[@MCV-xg7kc]

@@andriyshapovalov8886 🤷‍♀️I’m trying to understand. I know that love, communication, tolerance, patience and forgiveness would be a common factor in happy families and perhaps unhappy families could lack some or all of those attributes in different ways…I’m working on understanding it.

[@viditjain4818]

Bro, the way he is emasculated (metaphorically) in his own house. Really sad.

[@davidbolha]

Very common nowadays.

[@martysykes3221]

You just eventually give up to keep the peace.

[@martysykes3221]

@@frederickjohnsen4246 …..which is the reason I am no longer married. Only a fool would get married. When I get invited to a wedding, my RSVP is, I don’t attend mistakes.

[@ivermektin6874]

@@martysykes3221 do you skip your own birthday too?

[@Totalavulsion]

Why are American Beauty video clips coming up in my recommended all of a sudden?

[@willinton06]

Totalavulsion god wants Kevin To act again, but you’re not alone my recommendations are full American beauty

[@Totalavulsion]

willinton06 yeah, it’s all a bit odd.

[@abhishekshah11]

No idea man. I'm hooked on them

[@Totalavulsion]

Abhishek shah have you actually seen the film?

[@Sam-es2gf]

Planning a remake, gauging interest.

[@jeshkam]

Sedated - it's such a brilliant word to describe how I felt after graduating from high-school. 1998 to 2007 was such a difficult time for me, I still do not know what I was suffering from back then. I just wanted to lie down and sleep just about anywhere.

[@ButcherSevenActual]

"I'm one of the good guys" - every manager ever

[@peretzo]

This is such a PHENOMENAL film. Thanks for the throwback 🙏🏻❤️

[@morten1]

Take a moment to check out the list of great movies that came out in 1999. Good movie year

[@lachlanstamp4203]

Haha yeah! I realised the same thing. After seeing this last night. Next, I'm watching Fight Club and being john malkovitch

[@Mrmatteo08]

Office Space, the Matrix.... Just to name a couple of my favorites

[@asadiqbal123]

The sixth sense!

[@mohangg3522]

The Insider, Hurricane

[@Amadeus_Eisenberg]

Universal Soldier The Return, End of Days, 8MM. Don't care what anyone says. Anything watchable and entertaining is a good movie.

[@straightpride442]

I have lived Lesters life for the most part. Different details here and their. But I relate to Lester and this movie as a married man more than any one character or movie I’ve ever seen before.

[@Nick_Taylor.]

So sorry to hear that

[@annabelpearce3521]

Such a brilliant film. The dinner scene. Hilarious! Annette Benning and Kevin Spacey, great actors, I laughed so much.

[@carpballet]

You laughed?

[@lbowsk]

@@carpballet Hell yes. A lot of it was hilarious!

[@DebNKY]

​@carpballet you didn't laugh?

[@carpballet]

@@DebNKY American Beauty is a very dark film. Cringe, yes. Laugh, no.

[@DebNKY]

@carpballet I found Kevin Spacey very funny in it. I loved him, especially when he turned down Angela. Basically he's a lovable loser.

[@solarasolarwind4323]

If there is anything to learn from this is....who ever earns the most money is Ruler of the Home!

[@matthewcoombs3282]

Hard facts. Not hating on women, but a woman's natural hypergamy will mean she will not respect a man who earns much less than she does. It shouldn't matter in the modern age but old habits die hard and feminism is not going to turn over centuries of social conditioning on gender roles.

[@rangernolen6026]

@@matthewcoombs3282 Most aspects popularly associated with gender roles are biological.

[@Amadeus_Eisenberg]

@@matthewcoombs3282 Disgusting materialism.

[@thebookdoc.writing.and.editing]

0:50 "She used to be happy. We used to be happy." my marriage.

[@Dr_Ez]

Damn that sucks maybe you should get counciling

[@smileyscrubs2262]

shit, sorry mate

[@mikeburns6603]

My advice: get a divorce and come to the Philippines. it's wonderful here: everyone speaks English, low cost of living, nice climate and the women love Americanos. Trust me.

[@justme-ll1qz]

I totally feel for this guy. I want a job for the least amount of responsibility as possible as well. I work for the taxmen. Yes, I have sold my soul to the devil, and am SO tired. My dream job after years of whoring my self, is to work the drive thru of a hamburger joint. And yes, I am totally serious.

[@martinafghahi]

Then do it, its been two years since you wrote this comment.

[@MissysDomain]

One of my favorite movies! So good!

[@IceMan-il7dx]

Every middleclass man's future. This is rather frightening.

[@billstiggy4908]

It happens to so many. I was headed for that direction. Maybe still am but can change it

[@TavaresTheGuru]

Only if you get married.

[@scottchelmford7136]

there is no more middle class.

[@jasonthomas1622]

@@scottchelmford7136 yeah, we are just the working poor now.

[@FirstLast-cd6vv]

This is changing. Men are waking up.

[@cityhawk]

If anyone tells you that they’re the “good guy”, think the opposite.

[@kenweis2291]

I gave 10 yrs of my life to a Ukrainian woman hot in every way but a drinker and recreational drug user....i climbed trees to support her habits thankfully i never got the big house and cars but i did fall 40 ft feb 2021 trying to provide for her.....i lost everything almost my life...shes gone now but i realized something...its never to late to get it back

[@u.s.m.c.fewproudthemarines2987]

Enjoy the life friend it so short

[@alyssawoodman]

Damn!!! Wishing you well ❤

[@irinahristova2678]

Ukranian woman?!!!Get well soon buddy.

[@lesterburnham509]

Say thanks to social media! They spoiled every woman in this world.

[@awesomefrankrapid]

I love he sits in the back of the car, nice touch

[@genxx2724]

It like he and Jane are both kids, and she got to the car first.

[@Interphased]

I've seen this movie a dozen times, but I've never noticed that when Carolyn holds up the gardening scissors at 0:40, she holds them over Lester's crotch, effectively saying that she has cut off - or has the power to cut off - Lester's manhood.

[@mini_skinny0296]

She also talks about eggshells. She scrambled his "eggs".

[@apocratos0174]

Youre not too bright, are you ???

[@Interphased]

@@apocratos0174 You're a bit rude, aren't you?

[@francus7227]

​@@Interphased Not too bright? WTF ! That is one of the most subtle symbolisms EVER. Great catch.

[@Amadeus_Eisenberg]

I like that American Beauty and American Psycho came out at around the same time.

[@joshua5555]

the fear of being with a woman like Carolyn is the exact reason why so many men will never got married.

[@TruthAplomado]

The problem is that most of them turn out to be like that in their late 30s

[@Josh-rn1em]

I'm 42 and find myself in that boat. I've seen too many men miserable. I'm actually happy overall. When I meet men in bad relationships it scares me. They are so lost and don't know what to do other than endure.

[@eddiedean9886]

gospel

[@Josh-rn1em]

@blate dake No one pretended that. Why do you feel the need to diss men whenever woman's name are tarnished? We all know some people are assholes.

[@Gemmarose9012]

It’s pretty easy to spot a Carolyn and avoid then completely!

[@jenniferlopez3554]

Poor Lester how tired he is in the morning 😆 I like his outspokenness 😜 Funny ‘cause I’m exactly the same I can’t help saying what I think sometimes especially when it’s true !

[@ciberiada01]

- Mom, do we always have to listen to this elevator music? - No, we don't. And as soon as you prepare me a nutritious and savouring meal, that I'm about to eat, we can listen to whatever you want. 😈😁 That dialogue ❗❗❗

[@Meltedcheese567]

*savory

[@tek6423]

Yup, savory

[@kevinkarg4464]

........and nutritious, too! Lol😆😆😆

[@dAvrilthebear]

Stupid dialogue. Better to explain to the child the value of the music you are listenning to. Does not work immedeately, but it produces an effect over time.

[@Asme1111-t8h]

@@tek6423 only in America.

[@orevulic3398]

There is something special about 1999 films.

[@justjae4267]

I like the art work behind Brad

[@scottyk200]

I first watched this on a flight from London to NY, en route to Nevada. Great movie. I recall thinking and wondering at the time why Lester was so angry and bitter, and I felt it was a very dark movie. Now that I’m almost 30 years older than when I watched it, I understand him completely, and I now find it comic. Great holiday. Great memories. And finally….great days!

[@nunyabuissness8058]

That beginning introduction scene was the scene that got me to watch this movie

[@1027sterling]

Now I think it's amazing I ever got married after seeing this movie.

[@SMC4free]

I think if youre married with a human its gonna be bad...you need an angel fam😂

[@BlackShampoo75]

Getting married is awesome.. Then you get divorced. And then you're all good. X

[@kiesha86]

The power of pussy is amazing

[@mabelw7]

Right marriage can be built

[@Amadeus_Eisenberg]

The idea of marriage is hilarious. Yet another silly and pointless thing some humans feel the need for. You can love someone without marriage.

[@metningsniva3856]

holy shit is that Scott Bakula ?

[@ralphramirez3671]

When I was broke everyone treated me like shit. Now I have 1.6 see the boot licker a mile away. No one was given a loan.

[@TavaresTheGuru]

That's how it goes.

[@xfactor4598]

Never forget that Ralph. That will serve you well. Tell ‘em at least you don’t have, Payments.

[@ignaciogodoy7095]

This scene today cames 10 year early than the caracther. Now when you have 30 years old you already feel boring of the routine.

[@richardpierce4908]

Annette Benning..........From Sydney Ellen Waid to Carolyn Burnham. What a range of acting ability! I loved her character in "The American President" and absolutely hate it here. That is the sign of an awesome actress!

[@BlackShampoo75]

You know what on further reflection I think I'll go with her on the Sycamore situation. Good on her

[@jenniferlopez3554]

I’ve watched it lots of times in two languages. I prefer the English version ‘cause there’s nothing compared to the original version with actors’ real voices of course

[@vitorcosta2416]

What was the other language?

[@jenniferlopez3554]

@@vitorcosta2416 French

[@arealbigboss]

this is what'll happen to you if you waft your way thru life with zero direction and no plan, have a plan, use your head, and don't be a sucker

[@kateSullivan3927]

I have to respectfully disagree. I think this is what happens when you follow the societal pressure to get married, have kids, buy a house in suburbia and have a corporate job. We've been told forever that these are the things "you do" in order to have a happy, safe little life. It's all such a joke.

[@joshuaparrott2458]

Geez! That dining room is depressing, Guessing it's intentional

[@John_Wood_]

all the trinkets but no warmth. Perfect for this family.

[@gc3k]

If only this character was born a decade or 2 later, a little great recession and layoffs and automation would have woke him up

[@ivermektin6874]

This has always been going on. Everyone trying to make money before they're 40+ and unhirable

[@genxx2724]

There have always been cycles of recession, layoffs, and jobs becoming obsolete. We no longer have lamplighters or night soil collectors.

[@gc3k]

I have no doubt there was another "my life is stable and prosperous, and it's totally making me miserable!" time period besides the latter 1990s

[@cheeez9438]

I know this movie gets a bad wrap these days considering, and I won’t be one to call it a masterpiece, but it is riddled with nostalgia and I just love the music and the performances. It’s such a fun movie idk I love it for what it is

[@IAMWBH3]

Great movie

[@jackiereynolds2888]

This movie was haunting. A way to completely dis- associate yourself from those nasty little personal connections - and abrogating yourself from any inconvenient emotional responsibility toward any ethical hum- anity involving another fellow human being is to simply call it 'business'.

[@Smith.S.sStocHasticSs]

This sounds like passive aggression. Slash covert narcissism. Sounds written by the mother/wife character 🤔 in the film. Resentful attempt 2 shame/guilt/belittle/discourage/victim-blaming all disguised 🥸 in something seemingly moral and virtuous... virtue signaling....? or is it just me

[@edmundgarvey6331]

America has every thing you want and not what you need

[@fishingwithwigs]

Yeah, this movie hit way too close to home for me.

[@LeonardoYouTube8]

Anyone knows what Jim the dog's breed is called? Thank you.

[@meuswe]

Let’s just all sell our souls and work for Satan. Sounds like corporate America.

[@Alexyourm]

This movie was definitely best picture of the year.

[@epicarts2105]

What about fight club

[@blorac9869]

TYVM!

[@raymondsolisjr.1262]

That's what happens when you get married. You are sentenced to a long term prison sentence

[@AGolfHitter]

Pick better women.

[@victorgarza8934]

Either way you end up feeling alone

[@twelvestepcorky]

This may be my favorite film. Magnolia close second.

[@smileyscrubs2262]

damn, reading all these comments here makes me question marriage, i am not married, having girlfriends here and there, but never gotten married, i love the movie, but i can not relate, Life is pretty good for me so far,

[@radekdvorak8685]

Its as pure as it gets,

[@joecook5689]

She was the last girl to look up breast augmentation though

[@Seahawkfan1108]

I may be poor, living in the ghetto still with my family and still working a shit job for the past 6yrs but man....this is a bad nightmare

[@cgh7337]

So what are the 8 stages?

[@awasiele1984]

This film is cross generational masterpiece. I used to identify with those kids and now after 25 years here I am beeing with Kevin Spacey understanding his point of view. However I am way more happy than he is in the movie 🍿.

[@urbanwarrior3470]

I always identified with Lester, even when in my teens

[@WULDORI]

“This is your one chance to save your job.” “SAVE it? meaning despite no part on me or my actions it is potentially up for going on the chopping block?!?”

[@iistyleszii]

This is every damn american father in the house

[@marley92282]

Hell no... I’d be fucking damned to treat my husband that way, or allow my child to do the same. HELL. TO. THE. NO.

[@toddgaak422]

In your house maybe.

[@jenniferlopez3554]

`…You’re the Mother of the Year?! ' LOL 😆

[@tomzimmerman8]

Where have I heard the score to this scene before? Madagascar? It's bothering me.

[@JeffCaplan313]

South Pacific - Bali Hai

[@cinerama62]

Maybe this is why I'm not married.

[@Greenjeeper999]

There is a point in life where you say "my happiness is more important than my paycheck." But it's gotta come mid to late in life or you will not appreciate anything after that.

[@nitefox4411]

Its just business. This is why Corporate Healthcare justifying to shareholders for profits and dividends on the NYSE is NEVER a good idea...well, if you or your family is a patient. Nothing wrong with making ends meet in healthcare...HealthCare Greed in 2020 is a cash cow though. "Hey, we are one of the good guys." Nursing homes ST/PT/OT is a huge money maker and its all in the numbers. Remember that next time grandma breaks a hip. It is all about targets to meet, capturing minutes and projecting numbers. Targets, capturing and projecting... like deer hunting. How about just doing the right thing to get someone home? Its just business.

[@Εύροκλύδων]

3:28 if management isn't already able to see who is useful vs inefficient - they shouldn't be management.

[@knottynarwhal1321]

Funniest part is that even though she uses “eggshells” in her soil. She doesn’t need to with miracle grow because it’s a synthetic substance.

[@Brian6587]

Never seen this movie but now I want to😂 I remember seeing the movie poster for this in the video store years ago. I remember the bare stomach and the flower always catching my eye. I was 12 when this came out. 36 now lol. I’m going to give it a watch. Better late then never😂

[@jerryhenson3916]

Anytime anyone asks me if I have a minute, I do my best to remember to use 2:46.

[@KingIjazMalik]

#Year 1999

[@carlkeenan5975]

King Ijaz MaliK : 1996-2096 one year after I was born

[@keithroberts9869]

0:40 Where are Al and Ziggy?

[@siredith8846]

Makes me grateful that I have sons.

[@RostClan220]

I guess I don’t understand how a lot of people commenting view all men being under their woman’s heel in marriages. Before I became a widow my husband and I were a well oiled machine working the ranch in central TX. I never saw it a burden to clean or cook in btw the ranch work either.

[@HelloMyFriend_]

Wait!! Scott Bacula is gay????!!!

[@archipiphanyworkshop860]

I thought occurs, this movie has a lot in common with fight club.

[@6616Milan]

Great movie, but it's a sad ending 😢

[@robertmorris8997]

Bali Hai!!!!

[@johnnywhitsel1583]

1:50 - it's called living with the unnatural condition of your balls in your wive's purse (IE emasculation).

[@alexandradaniele]

Actually she keeps his d**k In a jar under the sink!

[@DummyYEEEAAHHHHH]

Ok am I crazy or is Carolyn's house the exact same house from Nightmare on Elm Street??

[@tek6423]

Savory

[@AnnaLVajda]

Such a depressing movie.

[@BlackShampoo75]

It'll pass

[@tubenachos]

Scott Bakula

[@lloydjamieson2143]

I would like the video but it's stuck on 666

[@stayingwithit8632]

Back when suvs were all the rage

[@akuja000]

❤

[@hinkhall5291]

Gif with sound.

[@BraeburnTV]

This movie should come with a suicide warning.

[@mads888]

I dont feel nobodys should be treated like an empleyee. Not even an empleyee. You know why. Cuz its rude.

[@russkate88]

I agree.

[@steppycole3359]

Truth

[@moniquemosley2122]

No analysis??? This title misleading. 👎

[@vasilisneorun1700]

Nowadays most people are sedated....

[@John_Wood_]

did you notice the focus on the "clouds" during that part?

[@jdbhatts2912]

has anyone seen fargo season 1? lesters be the same all over

[@bendingsteelmedia7488]

Just like Breaking Bad!!

[@StephNuggs]

2:45

[@christopherfritz3840]

Jesus. It's hard to believe KSpacey is.. GONE. Man when this movie hit he was HUGE! It's total BS.

[@danthomas6587]

Is that Sarah Vaughan?

[@mercedyzmarieguion292]

Lol I love your comment Gonna look it up She was gteat The dinner music was exceptional especially the scene with Bobby Darin singing lyrics pertaining to being unpredictable...rotfl