Escape ! Deal With the Narcissist´s Ambush

[@daleswain9520]

This was a great video! Thanks HG! It’s news I can use as I move forward in my healing and my life.

[@Andypandieful]

I handle them before the Ambush. I throw a wrench in their Hoover. I make myself very clear with few words. They avoid me now. Fear what I can do. Unmask them. Shut off the love facet. Be like them in handling them.

[@jcd5211]

My narcissistic mother ambushed me at a funeral. My aunt died (a woman who was more of a mother to me than my own) and she showed up. I really thought she wouldn’t show up because she was always intensely jealous of my aunt. Well, she showed up. My husband called it the barnyard explosion. She came up behind me and grabbed me by the arm and jerked me backwards and away from my uncle who had just lost his wife. Then she wouldn’t let go. I had to yank my arm away from her to get free. I just said, “excuse me” and walked away.

[@garycordle5295]

👍 once you know you go you get out and you stay out.

[@maelentrewela2395]

"You have to be indescent to the narcissist." Perfect advice for an ambush.

[@summerbreeze6259]

Yes, we are not used to treating people indecently. We have to get tough and stay tough with them, emotionally that is. Thats why Im here. HG helps with that! Also, he is the only one right now that I will listen to. My father was tough but constantly sidetracked by others.

[@maelentrewela2395]

@@summerbreeze6259 as I left my narcissist husband, I got calmer and nastier. I began to explain his behavior to him (if absolutely necessary) how I had seen mothers tell their children. He rarely had a comeback to that one. I am out, no contact now for 16 weeks, divorce hearing (totally uncontested as their was not one single asset due to his tossing money down rat holes) is this Wednesday! He doesn't have to be there so I hope he isn't. Knowing the narcissist though....he could be.

[@joannemcevoy4232]

The ex-husband stood outside at the corner near the building where I live on numerous occasions. I walked past and even took another route. When he started following me, I had to contact the police and get them involved. Since then if I see him I walk past and pretend he doesn't exist.

[@runwiththewind3281]

HG, thank you for helping me understand me

[@jasonsilverberg3170]

Better listen 👂 to HG. He is correct!!!!!

[@robynmarler3839]

My heart is broken because my narcissist is my daughter. If anyone is a Christian will you please pray for us? Thank you xxx

[@robertataylor5794]

I will pray for you Robyn :) and U can call me Robin :) no body actually calls me Roberta :P

[@babygrandma8654]

@Robyn I'm so sorry sweetie that you're dealing with this. My mother was a narcissist and I know all to well how her actions hurt my grandmother. My grandmother was the nicest, most generous and above all the most loving grandmother I could ever have asked for. It hurt my heart so much to see the pain and hurt in my mamaws eyes when my mother would tell another lie about her in order to try and turn myself and my sisters against mamaw and papaw. The mothers actions backfired on her though. Even as a very small child of maybe 3 or 4 I was keenly aware that something wasn't right. I had no clue what it was but the things the mother would say about her mother were nothing what so ever like what I experienced while in mamaws care. Even that young I realized a person couldn't change from being that horrible and abusive to their only child and in only 24 years (time of my birth) become the way mamaw was with her grandkids. The Mother would also use her 4 children as weapons against mamaw and papaw. When she didn't get her way with them she would keep us from seeing them at all. I remember 1 of these occasions when I was 8, not bragging here but I was a smart kid and found a way to use a phone of a friend to call my grandparents and tell them where I would be playing so they could drive by and spend a few minutes with me. To my knowledge no one, not even my sisters, knew I was doing this. It was my and my grandparents secret. Had the mother found out I don't know if I would be alive to even type this to you. When that horrible wicked excuse for a mother died I felt nothing but utter relief, relief that it was finally over, no longer could that woman, my sisters and I referred to as The Mother with a few other choice words that followed, ever hurt me or my family again. I've never shed even 1 tear for her and probably I never will and she died almost 11 years ago. I never forbade her to see my children but never ever was she allowed to be alone with them I was always there and it was extremely controlled. As much as I didn't want to expose them to her I also didn't want to do to them what she did to me and promised myself if my children ever expressed a desire to see her I would allow them to. They never asked and saw her at family get-togethers like Christmas. They're all adults now with children of their own and are now well aware of how she was and why they never felt close to her in any way. I'm now getting older and immensely enjoying my 6 grandkids who are always wanting to stay with me so it would seem I broke the cycle so to speak. I'll definitely keep you in my prayers 🙏 ❤ God bless you my dear.

[@summerbreeze6259]

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[@barbarakelly1916]

sending you wishes for things to work out for the best! You are not alone.

[@patriciaduarte7039]

Dear Robyn, Don't be cast down, in your inner self. While it's good to bemoan & vent 😌. It's also much more beneficial to cast your cares & burdens to GOD for strength to overcome. Pray 🙏 the following; FATHER, You set Yourself against the proud & haughty, but give grace 🙌 [continuously] unto the humble. I submit myself therefore to You, GOD. In the name of JESUS, I resist the devil, & he will flee from me. I resist the devil as he tries to bring worry with the cares of the world to pressure me daily. Except The Lord builds the house, they labour in vain who build it. JESUS, I come to You, for I labor & am heavy-laden & over burdened, & You cause me to rest - You will ease & relieve & refresh my soul. I take Your yoke upon me & I learn of You; for You are gentle & humble in heart & I will find rest - relief, ease & refreshment & recreation & blessed quiet - for my soul. For Your yoke is wholesome - not harsh, hard, sharp or pressing, but comfortable, gracious & pleasant; & Your burden is light & easy to be borne. I cast my burden upon You, Lord, [releasing the weight of it] & You will sustain me; I thank You 😊 that You will never allow me, the [consistently] righteous, to be moved - made to slip, fall or fail. In The Name of JESUS, I withstand the devil. I am firm in my faith [against his onset] - rooted, established, strong, immovable & determined. I cease from [the weariness & pain] of human labor; & am zealous & exert myself & strive diligently to enter into the rest [of GOD] - to know & experience it for myself. FATHER, I thank you that Your presence accompanies me, & that You give me rest. I am still & rest in You, LORD; I wait for You, & patiently stay myself upon You. I will not fret myself, nor shall I let my heart be troubled, neither shall I let it be afraid. I hope in You, GOD, & wait expectantly for You; for I shall yet praise You, for You are the help of my countenance & my GOD. Omein, alleluia. Scripture references Psalm 42:11, James 4:6,7 Psalm 127:1, Matt 11:28-30 Psalm 55:22, 1Peter 5:9, Heb 4:10,11. Exodus 33:14 Psalm 37:7, John 14:27, & Psalm 42:11 Our FATHER GOD, Holy & True, may Your loving Spirit💨 indwell Robyn Marler to overflowing & cause her to find reassurance & safety in The Shadow of Your wings 🕊 & cause her daughter to come to her God-given senses, in Jesus' Holy Name. Omein. Love🧡in Christ. p.s. I would recommend HG's knowledge vault as well for another practical approach to the circumstance. ❣

[@cindybriden372]

I love how you are loud and crystal clear in this video. Sometimes your voice is so low it is hard to hear what you say so I don't always listen all the way through. Maybe it's my system I don't know. Anyway, thank you for all your videos!!

[@maelentrewela2395]

Suggestion: have a pair of dark sunglasses. My nex hated my medical need for very dark sunglasses because he was unable to read me. Put them on while avoiding the narcissist.

[@farandaway4016]

Yes indeed. 😎

[@Jamiejamjar]

My problem is that I have an elderly narcissist parent.

[@trinket2fine]

Me too.....I understand

[@ericak3118]

As we have learned on this channel anyone that is affected and has a relationship with a narcissist must detox from the addictive relationship 😵‍💫. just like you would detox from a powerful drug.

[@missbrooke666]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@patriciaduarte7039]

Very good & useful tips, HG.

[@Anisky123]

Right now am forced to live in it. I can only stay in one small room with a young puppy. It’s my only place. And they keep booby trapping both of us. Very dangerous. I will change my schedule so as to never come into actual contact. Thank you.

[@annatiernan1474]

Wow. Wish I had known all this years ago, I would have handled things a lot better.

[@summerbreeze6259]

TOOLS! Thank you!

[@TecOneself]

Right on for the timing, the Ambush. General Hux's favourite.

[@farandaway4016]

Great ideas and suggestions. Only because if we cant move, how to maneuver? I didnt know if it was ok to adjust times. So helpful, Thank you.

[@gloriachapman5618]

I don’t understand the addiction to the narcissist. I was never addicted to my fool ex the narc! He was an asshole!!

[@sunnyskies4410]

1st 9 seconds in. I will like this video.

[@msPranksterPixie]

I've been stalked a couple of times. One travelled to my university. Another repeatedly showed up at my house any time from 6 am to 2 am..... The early ones, I thought were parcels, no spy holes then.... But full criminal restraining order and two criminal convictions now: expiring soon though.... He still has my medical details publicly on his WhatsApp profile. Joy.

[@maggiesays7827]

My mother is one. She has targeted me and my daughter our whole lives. I'm a Veteran who had a head injury several years ago. Since then my daughter helped me navigate the system to have myself declared incompetent so my mother no longer has access to my money but my daughter is getting ready to be married and my mother knows he has money and she's trying to wedge herself into their relationship. She destroyed my marriage many years ago because it took me far from home but now I'm back and she's just a few miles away. I've been in the process of trying to break away but she's using others to try to get me back. She stole my son from me claiming I had him for her after she was going to watch him for the 2 years I was sent overseas. I paid her 2/3 of my income but no amount of money was never enough. She forgets that she stole mine and my brother's inheritance from my grandfather "because that family owed her" after she told him to kill himself...which he did and that she has gone out of her way to cost me money and steal from me. Now that she can't touch my money, she has found other ways to meddle. I'm struggling but these videos are helping. ty, HG!

[@lindajones8101]

What if you are outside in your yard in the summer or good weather and you are doing something like weeding and have your back to the street and perhaps don’t even hear the car pull up. Or, you hear the car pull up but don’t see who it is. Do you just walk briskly into your house and shut the door? Or if they get closer to you do you say nothing and walk into your house and shut the door? I am quite capable of not answering my door but I sometimes think about one who may show up on my door with her sister and it would be out of the blue since she lives in another country.

[@bee1345]

HG is saying, get away and have zero contact if possible. So do the best you can go get in the house or in your car and get away. Don’t engage.

[@aliciashort]

Hi HG. So, I have a question for you. It’s been about 7 months (going into the 8th) that I’ve spoke to my ex. For the last 2 weeks I’ve had this creeping feeling that I’m going to be hearing from him soon. I was the IPSS (I didn’t know in the beginning). The year and a half we spent “together “ his pattern was the first disengagement lasted less than a month. Then the second lasted a little less than 2 months. So it now being 7 months, why am I all of a sudden getting these feelings? Is this “normal” for the escapee to feel when the narcissist is going to circle back? He’s blocked on everything and I suspended my social media (I don’t miss it, thank you for that!) I am not able to change my number unfortunately. But that’s an entirely separate matter. Thank you!

[@annofcleavers5791]

Weird that you should say that,I've had that feeling in the past and within a few days he has phoned,haven't been hoovered for awhile now,but the last day or two I've felt abit uneasy,hes blocked in every way possible however I feel like theres going to be a knock at the door,not a nice feeling

[@FK-cg8el]

Hello HG What happens when you can't do no contact It's impossible Because of circle I am on

[@_Silvermoonalpha]

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