Escaping Narcissistic Abuse | A Documentary (2024) in 4k

[@EgoNextDoor]

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[@annai3394]

Your eyes and body language says it all. You don’t need to speak or explain yourself. I feel you , I’ve been there. I think only narcissistic abuse survivors can understand what you were really feeling 😢 Sending lots of love to you ❤

[@EgoNextDoor]

I appreciate you saying this so much. It really means a lot to me. I'm sorry you've also experienced this type of abuse, and I hope you are in a better place now. Sending love to you too. Thank you ♥️

[@NumeroUnoYo]

I feel like I didn't breathe until you got to the escape day! I haven't spoken to my mom sis or bro in 5 years. Hopefully never see them again. I'm so happy you broke free! Beautiful kitties too!!

[@EgoNextDoor]

I’m sorry that you also had a rough experience with your mother, and siblings too. I can’t imagine what it’s like having had all that with parents AND with siblings on top of that. I hope you are healing and being gentle with yourself. Thank you for your support 💜 the kitties say thanks!!

[@hopeinhumanity.]

I know that fear of cats being harmed (or scared). It could seem ridiculous to some but that fear in itself can be paralyzing and very stressful. Add the constant mind f**kery that has you spending more time questioning reality than living life to the fullest, esp during times when they are on “good behavior”. It’s utterly exhausting. Thank you for sharing your story. 🌹

[@EgoNextDoor]

I appreciate your grace in acknowledging the complexity of these emotions.. It's true, many people don't understand it. But for us, our pets are our family. For me, they are and always were my only family. The mental strain of navigating a relationship filled with uncertainty and inconsistency is very life-sucking. Thank you for watching, I appreciate it ♥️

[@uhoh9000]

"Inappropriate affect" was something I learned about with disorders and trauma. Usually, not always, associated with defense mechanisms! Smiling or laughing when talking about something sad is fairly typical. It's our attempt to force ourselves to feel better, or cover how we're really feeling.

[@EgoNextDoor]

This is true. It can very much be a defense mechanism, especially in the context of trauma. Understanding this can help us be more compassionate towards ourselves and others who display these behaviour. I'm sorry that you also had experiences that lead you to have these coping mechanisms and I wish you all the healing in the world 🫂💜

[@adimeter]

@@EgoNextDoor For sure.

[@mvbigmagic4048]

I'm glad you got away. I went no-contact with my malignant narcissistic mother as soon as my father died January 27, 2024. She scares the EFF out of me. She will NEVER come near me or my kids.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you. I am glad you got away too, and are creating that much needed distance from her, you and your kids. You are a great parent for protecting your children that way ♥️

[@julliettecoeur]

This was beautifully done. I can’t imagine how difficult it was for you to film this and then edit it and work on it. Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us ❤❤ I hope the world gives you all the love and peace you deserve 🌸🫂🫶🏼

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for your kind words. Doing this helps me too. Supporting others fills my heart 💞

[@meganritz]

My abuser is my twin sister. I go through phases of not being able to look in the mirror, because I see her. I stopped being alone in a house with her about 15 years ago. My twin has been both emotionally abusive, and physically abusive. She is this way to my parents and little sister. She scares me. Fortunately she lives 200 miles away right now. I know there are a lot of people who look very much like an abusive family member, but I doubt there is many people who go through this with a twin. I can look at certain parts of my face in the mirror, like my hair or teeth, but not my full face because it is her I see.

[@EgoNextDoor]

I am so sorry that this is your experience. I cannot imagine how that feels like. If it helps, I am certain that even as identical twins, you are nothing alike in expression and most importantly: the eyes. Abusers’ eyes are soulless and so cold. You are so much better than that. I am glad you are distant from this person. You should be proud of yourself for making it this far and choosing yourself ♥️🫂✨

[@BrookeAllyceHuntsman]

My mother and I look very much alike and I too have a hard time looking in the mirror ❤

[@caryfarmer1119]

I planned my escape for two years. I finally made it out, 8 years later I am reeling from this painful life. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@EgoNextDoor]

I'm glad you are free now. It takes so much courage to make it out, and healing is definitely a process. I'm sorry you're still feeling the weight of it, but know that you're not alone. Stay strong ♥️

[@leonasweny1525]

@@EgoNextDoor hey girl you gotta wash that man right outta your hair, Come on turn on your heel and forget about him,look after yourself and laugh with friends😄❤️❤️❤️ hugs from me .

[@LolaAileenVanslette]

I'm glad you escaped at a young age. I'm still trying to figure out how to let go, and I'm 61 (and they're gone)!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for your comment. I’m sorry that you’re still struggling. It can be really hard to process everything that has happened to you, especially after decades of brainwashing and feeling like what happened to you was your fault. Just know that it wasn’t, and you deserve peace at last, and to treat yourself and enjoy life 🫂❤️‍🩹

[@tabithadixon3858]

@39:42. You put into words what I’ve been feeling. Not the same situation, but the same characters. My abuser is my spouse. I’ve been wanting to get out but I don’t know how. Thank you so much for being an inspiration and sharing your story. Peace to you my beautiful friend❤❤❤

[@EgoNextDoor]

I'm so sorry about what you’re going through right now. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be. Your comment touched my heart and I am wishing you the absolute best. Please know that you are not alone and that there are resources and people who can help. Your safety and well-being are so important. When you are ready to escape, and if you're looking for support, please reach out to someone you can trust, a friend, family member, or if you’re not sure you can trust those, look for organisations in your location that specialise in helping those in abusive situations (they may have an email or phone number you to reach out to). I am sending you strength, I know it is difficult to take that step and escape. But remember: you are brave, and you deserve to feel safe. I truly hope you find peace and safety as soon as possible ♥️🫂

[@tmo.48]

After 43 years of it ALL, my husband got super angry with me last August and in a rage told me to get the F out. I was stunned and shocked and he said it again. I quietly just walked to my sewing room, grabbed a back pack, filled it and left. As I walked past him to leave he was eating the meal I had just made and didn't say a word to me. I went to a skanky motel for a few nights, then to a niece's home for a few weeks then into an affordable apartment. He has text me to get back home. He had tried to guilt me into coming back. I am doing well on my own without that continuous chaos. Good luck everyone ❤

[@EgoNextDoor]

Making the decision to leave a situation that wasn't healthy for you, after so many years, takes a lot of courage. I'm glad that you are finding peace away from the chaos. Your story is inspiring, and a reminder to many that it's never too late to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Good luck to you too, and thank you for sharing ❤️‍🩹

[@kpf2014]

@@tmo.48never go back. It will become 100 times worse since you “abandoned him”. Its a trap when they charm you back.

[@kelseyeverett9832]

I’m so proud of you and happy that you recognized this abuse. I think the cognitive dissonance is the hardest part!! Sending love and light!!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you so much! Yes, the cognitive dissonance can be such a battle between what we know is right and what we were conditioned to believe. Sending love right back 💕✨

[@52cardsFacedown]

I smile because if i show how much it hurts it leads to me having to comfort them for my pain.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Sending you strength 🫂 You're not alone in this 💜

[@lauragoodman7296]

I can't imagine what it was like to film this and know you were finally able to do something for yourself. Narcissists are hard and their marks last so long in our minds and hearts. I really hope you can learn you're not alone and what you went through is so real

[@EgoNextDoor]

Filming and editing this was definitely a challenge, but knowing it might help people makes it all worth it. Thank you so much for your kind comment ♥️🫂

[@valeriesabb6717]

Much love and respect. Been there. Don’t look back…..you’re not going that way.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you! I appreciate that, and I'm sorry you also went through something like this. Let’s keep moving forward, victims unite 🫂💜

[@lifewithmargot]

I know exactly what you’re talking about my mom is the same way she’s a covert narcissist… great video!

[@EgoNextDoor]

I’m sorry you also dealt with such a terrible mother. I hope you are away and healing from the years of neglect and emotional damage 💜 also, thank you for watching!

[@lifewithmargot]

@@EgoNextDoor yes I’m finally understanding it all and have stopped trying to have a relationship with her. Thanks for sharing your story and so eloquently!

[@EgoNextDoor]

You are welcome 💜🫂

[@GASP_HQ]

I'm glad you put the 'smile disclaimer'. I do the same thing, and often find myself naturally making friends who also have gallows humor. I need to remember to be aware of that when I share my own story.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you! It's great to see with someone who gets it. Gallows humor can be such a unique way to bond and deflect painful experiences. I'm sorry that you've also had your fair share of those 💜

[@robertataylor5794]

I remember the feeling of not being able to breathe and take a breath. I left two and a half years ago. Shortly after my escape my ex partners daughter went no contact. We support each other. I miss Cow, but I had to leave the cat behind because it was his cat. It is so hard sometimes, but I had to choose me. Thank you for making this documentary. I hope other survivors who have been victimized find peace and comfort and love of self.

[@EgoNextDoor]

I'm glad you chose yourself and decided to find a way out. I also understand how much you miss Cow, unfortunately sometimes decisions like this must be made but I'm sure she knows you didn't mean to leave her. It's nice to hear that you and your ex-partner's daughter support each other 💜 I also hope the documentary reaches and comforts many survivors, offering them the same hope and resilience you've shown. Thank you for your kind and supportive words. I wish you the best ✨🫂

[@johnheart6890]

The frightening thing about this is that we are not hearing the half of it. The abuse is likely so much more than reported here.

[@EgoNextDoor]

It is true. You are correct. I talk about the other stuff (and will continue to) in my podcast (Ego Next Door Podcast - also available here in the channel!)

[@Ruseri-c8l]

Thank you for opening people’s eyes to this… Your story really resonated with me; and I know that you’re making people feel less alone in their situations dealing with individuals like these.. ❤

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank YOU for watching. I'm sorry that you went through sometimes even remotely similar to this. I wish you all the healing ❤️‍🩹🫂

[@Ruseri-c8l]

@@EgoNextDoorThank you kindly..Blessings!

[@Ruseri-c8l]

@@EgoNextDoor I also wanted to post on here for anyone who is not familiar with the Mica Miller case #JusticeforMica. Please check out her story as well. Sadly, she is no longer with us. This story also shines a huge spotlight on narcissistic abuse in the church; and has gained worldwide attention. It is SO important to spread awareness about this now more than ever because we have the ability to do so. Stay strong everyone!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for sharing Mica's story and raising awareness about this important issue. It’s crucial that we continue to shed light on narcissistic abuse, even in cult-like settings. I believe that together we can make a difference ✨

[@AutumnThomson]

I found this so hard to watch at the start, you have been through so much! I feel I understand better what you and other people have been through now and this will help me be a better friend and work colleague. The scripting and editing is amazing, a real professional job, you should be proud of this. Thank you!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Your empathy is deeply felt, and I appreciate your thoughtful reflection. I'm glad this has provided insight into others' experiences, and I'm grateful for your commitment to being a supportive friend and work colleague. Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts ♥️

[@leonasweny1525]

You go girl,be so proud of your strength.❤❤❤❤❤

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you so much 💜

[@leonasweny1525]

@@EgoNextDoor hugs and kisses

[@MemeJustme-t8y]

I’m hopeful for both of us! I hope we all get our happy ending. Just because someone doesn’t want to be healthy doesn’t mean the people who love them have to suffer. Choose you … going through it and my son is too. You are worth it! I am too! Anyone that needs to hear this, you are worth it too! Thank you for sharing your truth. I needed this more than I can put in words. Xo and too your cats too

[@EgoNextDoor]

Your words mean a lot to me. Thank you for sharing, you are worth it too! I’m hopeful for both of us as well. We all deserve a happy ending. Sending love to you and your kid 💜

[@MemeJustme-t8y]

@@EgoNextDoor air hug! Keep posting….

[@adimeter]

I too have felt this "sick love" for my abuser. I love the way you define that feeling. Where in the world did you get that term? It's so to the point that I'm stuck, just ruminating.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Oh, it took a long time for me to realise it was sick love.. also, I do a lot of in-depth research for the educational content that is my channel, so it helps me learn more too :) I’m so sorry that you feel this way too. Please know that you are not alone. Sometimes we get attached to people who hurt us a lot because we are groomed by them to be “obsessed” with them. Maybe listening to the episodes of my podcast here might help you be more aware of the patterns so you can begin cutting those chains. I wish you the best 💜

[@alinedupuis6717]

What a brave and strong women you are good for you for escaping you are quite an inspiration

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you, I appreciate it 💜🫂

[@sarahmax100]

Your strength and honesty will help so many people. So beautifully expressed and inspirational. Thank you 😍 I look foward to following your recovery and send you much love xxx

[@EgoNextDoor]

Aw, thank you so much! This is such a sweet comment. Thank you for watching and for being here ♥️ sending love to you too 💕🫂

[@SigmaFeminine]

So glad you got out 🤍

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you ♥️🫂

[@deadname9140]

I really hope you are able to work through everything and thank you for sharing your story. It has helped me understand some of my trauma.

[@EgoNextDoor]

I appreciate it and I thank you for watching. I’m happy to know it has helped you gain more awareness about your own struggles and I hope you are healing ❤️‍🩹

[@oliverquinn23]

Really good job putting this together. From an emotional and editing point of view

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you. I really appreciate your comment ♥️

[@ashleymarshall5502]

This is really brave of you to share your story.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you 💜 I just want people to know they are not alone in their struggles, and raise awareness for people who never went through any of this to know how they can help.

[@kpf2014]

I was married at a young naive age to someone who slowly became this and sabotaged everything in my life. I escaped finally at 53. 10 years of deep intensive therapy. I wish you had had a counselor and a victims advocate to help you get out. Womens shelters could have helped you. But I know what being under the “spell” and its all you know. School Counselors need to be trained in this to help with planning. The pie- could have been taken to poison control and analyzed and then had them arrested and a file at police department and domestic violence advocate who can help people create files. This is domestic abuse. It is cult control behavior and grooming to tolerate. There are detox plans for people who have been part of these toxic systems. I understand that the nervous system becomes paralyzed in fear from their paranoid and overbearing control tactics. It is straight our of ancient chinese texts on how to control people. I am glad you are out. These people are incapable of changing. It is most definitely Programming. Thank you for sharing.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for sharing your experience and insights. It takes immense courage to escape such a difficult situation, and your journey after so many years is truly inspiring. I admire your strength, especially when being under that narcissistic 'spell' is so challenging. Unfortunately, where I'm based, there are very few resources like victims' advocacy, women's shelters, or free counseling available. Even seeking help from the police for a restraining order has been difficult. I genuinely appreciate your support and the valuable information you’ve shared about available resources; I hope others reading this can find options where they live. It’s vital for us to raise awareness and help those still in these situations ❤️

[@WindowShopwithCandy]

Thank you for sharing, I know it took a lot of energy and work put into this! 💜 you're helping so many by sharing your story.

[@WindowShopwithCandy]

keep going 💜💜💜

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you so much, I really hope it helps many 🥺♥️

[@KrazyKat71]

Thx for info. Really helped me

[@EgoNextDoor]

Glad to be of service 🫂

[@mic396]

💗💗💗 cant wait to leave

[@EgoNextDoor]

I believe in you. Stay safe 🫂🩷

[@Monstersrreel]

I support you

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you, I appreciate it 🩷

[@voidquesterinks]

thank you for sharing your story

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for watching and for being here ♥️

[@Lanooski]

Finally sitting down to take this one in. looking forward to it!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Hope you enjoyed it ❣️

[@Islandswamp]

Hey there I’m here from threads. Thanks for sharing

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you for watching 💕

[@DAWS0NStream]

Thank you.

[@EgoNextDoor]

You’re welcome, thank you for watching 💜

[@lifewithmargot]

So your parents we’re living in your house with you? I didn’t quite understand that part.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Yes. They moved into my place in April 2023 and pretty much took over. I have another video where I go into that part of the story more in-depth. It’s in the “story time” playlist in my channel 😌

[@lifewithmargot]

@@EgoNextDoor ah okay I’ll check it out! That’s awful 😢 so sad that parents behave so terribly to their children! I don’t know how they live with themselves. Sending you hugs!

[@EgoNextDoor]

Thank you. Sending you hugs too 💜

[@MariaTheresaEvangelista]

Thank you for filming this

[@EgoNextDoor]

You're welcome, thank you for watching 🩷

[@kojmar]

great motivational ; ( 10/10

[@EgoNextDoor]

Glad you liked it!

[@stephenrussell6074]

You had Stockholm syndrome along with coercive control

[@EgoNextDoor]

It's important to understand that concepts like stockholm syndrome and coercive control are complex and can be deeply personal experiences. Stockholm syndrome is a psychological response where hostages or abuse victims develop a bond with their captors or abusers. Coercive control involves a pattern of behaviours that seeks to take away the victim's liberty or freedom and strip away their sense of self. I will be discussing these further on the next podcast episodes.

[@stephenrussell6074]

@@EgoNextDoor I understand the complexity, I was just expressing the fact that your situation was elements of both, but wasn’t either.

[@EgoNextDoor]

Yes, it definitely included stockholm syndrome and the manipulation itself was coercively controlling.